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This is so true for me. Ever since I learned my personality type, I've forgiven myself for not always sticking with things and having a bunch of hobbies. I always admired people that didn't get bored and stuck with one hobby enough to master it. Now I find that I have a great type for teaching middle school. I get to mix it up all the time! And now, much later in life, I find I do have the discipline to stick with learning an instrument. That particular hobby does frustrate me at times, but also is rewarding AND challenging enough to keep me going. I think this is mainly because I get to play music with other people and it really suits an ambivert. Being an ENFP is awesome fun!
wow I'm an ENFP teacher too and after watching the video I was like welllll teaching really does help with keeping things fresh and not getting too bored haha. We get new kids each year and summers off to reconnect with our hobbies or go on fun vacations! :D I also played instruments as a kid, and keep wanting to get back into it.
Does it almost feel like your brain realizes that you're trying to help yourself so it distracts you with senseless tasks and daydreaming until the video is over?
I had to go back 15 times but finished and loved it. Some young ENFPs have to run around the same track a few more times to want to sit down and build something and that’s okay 😃
I am an ENFP-T, even schedules dont work for me, as my mood swings are heavy....so I have like 5 projects running...even my family laughs about it and how stressed I can become when not finishing one of those projects.....
I have a variety of interest, from studying language to dropping it off to try short films to being a SoundCloud artists, to a RUclipsr, to a fanfic writer, to audition in a K-pop company, to become a singer, to become a director, until I get older I tried to go into Social Media Management, and I have a degree in Real Estate. So yeah! This is a problem althroughout my life.
The best thing happened to my life when you told me that I can focus and do my works better than ENTJ's and ESTJ's, because you know everyone says that ENFP don't do their jobs at time and I was like believing these things although I know that I'm not lazy or useless, But I'm starting to suspect that my inner voice is just an illusion, but not now.. I feel better ♡ thank you
I am an ENFP but sadly I just learned this today. I believe I left my wife of 8 years if not solely because she didn't let me do the "fun sporadical things" that would have torn my life apart, than definitely mostly because she wouldn't let me do the "fun sporadical things" that would have torn my life apart when she helped me build myself to where I am in the first place. I need help. Lots of it.
The paradox of being a free spirit 😅. There’s a point where we have to trust ourselves that we know what is best for us. You didn’t leave spontaneously, but because it probably wore on your spirit for a long time. We’ve gotta have faith in ourselves and know they while we are chaotic, we are capable of handling our own lives and getting great results.
I worked at a high security psychiatric hospital running group therapy. Because the majority of patients were in a psychotic episode, and I never knew which patients would show up, I had no idea what the group was going to be “about” (even though I had to have a plan), and I didn’t know if it was going to be beautiful and profound, disturbing, scary or hilarious. Often it was all of those. People would say, “how can you handle working there?” I would say, “because whatever it is, it’s never boring”. A perfect job for an ENFP 😉😊
Wow. I just discovered I’m an ENFP. I’ve been on a 2 year self growth after my life seemed to be directionless, relationship in a rut, burnt out from 15 years of doing anything and everything. I’ve been tackling my unconscious and really understanding myself. I recently started wondering how is it that I could come up with 5 different business plans in a day yet never really excel and perfect my current role. truly I’ve never had a video speak to me like this. Subscribed
I literally just shut down and maybe become depressed when I force myself to isolate and study continuously and it makes feel codependent with other people and I create scenarios in my head about what if there is no one for me to talk to and get even more anxious LOVE TO BE AN ENFP
Like what’s said in the video, we ENFPs need to be proactive at bringing in our excitements into the progress. Forcing ourselves to stay focus will never work. It’s about tricking ourselves into doing it and looking forward to do it. I too struggle with short attention spans… BUT, I found out that if I fuel myself with my “fantasy” of how amazing and important the task means to me, I will have the drive to achieve the goal on a autopilot mode. Also, do the things we hate the most right away when we think of it is also another good strategy. That’s a good short force rather than forcing ourselves to stick our butts on the chair forever and thinking we hate what we do 😂
I think that we got all a bit too focussed on having fun at work, or doing a work that can give meaning to our lives. I believe that work is good to stay connected and to get an income, bit as a true ENFP I came to realize that our lives are about relationships, connections, knowledge and experiences. We are those who on their deathbeds will truly think of their most loved ones, or the most special places we visited, or the most extraordinary human experiences we lived, and our funniest and most dramatic moments. We will not give a damn to how much money we made or the job title we reached. Thankfully, the (friendless) ENTJs are running the world while we are just… living! 😄
Really interesting comment! I have a chapter on this in my book. It is true that on their deathbeds people speak of friends, happiness, and wishing they didn't work so hard. It is also true they say "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." And I might say that for many people and many jobs, it becomes very hard to not work hard, be happy, and be true to yourself, in an environment that sees you as a tool for productivity. Whether your purpose should be actualized in your vocation, well, is up for debate...but for me I do best focused on one thing and putting a lot of my energy into it, and that means my income is best tied to my purpose.
ENFP lie and shiny object syndrome is so true for me. I make good excuses whenever I move to new things without finishing the first one. I am interested in learning languages and l love taking language proficiency tests. At first, I took Korean language proficiency tests just for fun and at one point, I got to the level where I can use that language for academic purposes and studying abroad. But I lied to myself that I studied Korean just for fun and not to study abroad because I wanted to move on to next language(Japanese) and other interests. After 2 years, my certificate expired and the test has not been held because of the pandemic. Fortunately, the Korean test will be held this year and I plan to take it again.
This explains why I've been generally unemployable. But entrepreneurship is perfect for the outgoing intuition. Buuut.....the consistency needed to create a successful business is elusive. Talk about generating ideas, too many. Very accurate.
Thanks. Since I found you, I don't feel like a loser anymore. Finally, someone who is fighting the same battle and who also gives the solutions. Thanks for your advice. I am struggling to convert to the IT field. I changed areas several times, but I stayed in the web development area from last year, with some short changes towards QA, etc. and comebacks. I kept this area. It's hard sometimes, but I like it and I calculated to finish the course in March. I really want to see the winner myself. You said in a video that ENFPs, although it's hard to get ahead, are good at what they do. That's what I dream of too. To master a field at least very well and not be left without jobs and with multiple experience but none complete.
I think my need for excitement is lower and a bit more internalized than most ENFPs, I'm 4w3 which I've heard changes things quite a bit. I have a few regular hobbies / skills in my routine that I can always take on new challenges with. High intensity sports like hockey is one of them, not much is more thrilling than practicing a new skill that I can then take to a highly competitive game in order to be a better player. I play for fun but have so much intensity behind it that I often am keeping up with guys who play at college level. I believe you're describing the type 7 ENFP who needs much more excitement. I need excitement too, but I dont want to do anything too crazy to meet that need.
Shiny object syndrome is me all the way! I moved to LA with zero connections to be a screenwriter after working as an actor for years(at least I stuck to that, but every show was different so there you go!) Anyway, I constantly seek fun and working toward getting my screenplays out there needs consistency. Been a bit rough!!
For me, because I start so much and quit with glitter and butterflies 🦋 I am that person that has made myself finish or given myself a timeframe. For example, I don’t allow myself to stay at a job less than a year. But this has caused me to have decision paralysis. Meaning I’m afraid to choose the wrong thing, to put my energies in the wrong direction. For 4 years now I have delayed going back to school because I am afraid to choose the wrong path. I am an RN. I don’t want to be one any more. I want to run a nonprofit place to help those in domestic violence or those at risk to become in that situation. I need a master’s. But.... you see it’s hard for me to commit due to my previous experiences of my own personality.
I ran into the same problem and was dealing with the same fear to the point where it was almost crippling. Counselling helped me a lot, and something my therapist pointed out really hit me. She reminded me that life is not black and white, it's a whole mess of grey; that the 'good' decisions always still hold some bad and vice versa. At the end of the day, every decision teaches us a lesson, if we are open and willing to learn it. And any lesson learned is ultimately a positive experience regardless. I hope that brings you some peace too as it really helped me, although I still have my ups and downs of course!
Wooow, this video just look so different from previous ones! It was great, Dan! The "Dad would be proud" part was the funniest XD I'm loving this new format, really. Definitely you need to do something different once in a while, or else you will benumb ("embotar" in Spanish). For example, I'm near to publish my first book (wish me luck!), and last friday the publishing house gave me finally the prototipe. I needed to read the book and look for any type of mistakes. I read 420 pages in 7 seven days. The last two days I read probably 150 pages, I was just in the perfect flow to do that. It was fun, it was exciting, but I did this revision taking some pauses to do something different but short, like watching few and short RUclips videos in order to not get benumbed. It worthed. Now I just have to wait probably 2 weeks until the books are finished and printed. After I sent the corrections to the publishing house in thursday, yesterday I did very different things, and all of them unplanned: doing exercise with my prop katana, watching RUclips videos and an episode of a new anime, playing hours with lego and taking a walk at my neighborhood; I did things that didn't involucrate reading (although I had to check some of my students' homeworks). Then today I went to work (teaching Japanese), gladly a fun work, and I've been here relaxing for some hours. And I feel just in the right vibe to do some of my usual work tomorrow. So in short, probably commit some especific time to what is necessary to achieve your goal, and have between that time some spaces to do fun, non-routinal and unplanned SHORT activities, and then giving one or two days of rest if possible could be useful. And that's it! A hug from Costa Rica!
Pura Vida! Thank you... The delay between videos recently is because of the hard work on the upgraded approach. Congrats on the book, that's a big achievement!
This is such a great idea I’m going to start using this for myself because I get distracted and bored with longer tasks. Thanks for the tip!!! Also congrats on your book! Fellow writer here, hope all goes well!!!
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i cant say how much i'm thankful for this video. after wasting so much time ive been needing to get back on the rail of studying so hard and had to know exactly what to do for me not to get bored of it again. you're video is so true! when it came upon that part that states that "we lie to ourselves when it comes to doing something bad so we would feel ok about it" i knew i really am a real enfp. hope u're doing fine and i wish i can hold up on my personal schedule for another 4 5 months to achieve the goal i've always wanted.
@Yoongiprobablyhaskids i was studying for the retook uni enterance exam which i stayed behind one year for it after graduating. Now im waiting for the final results to see which uni i got accepted in.
Amazing Dan! So glad to see this one. I would like to understand better how to achieve goals by using our strengths more. I do find the traditional ways impossible. I resonate with almost all of this, knew some of it, and learned a few things. Thanks for always being awesome! My biggest realization was to pick the thing that I think would make the most impact and do it for the summer and that’s been my daily walk/meditation/audio journal routine. It’s been going great! I’m not seeing the results I want but I’ve convinced myself to keep going and I know I’m benefiting even if it’s not as much as I want. I’m going to try and do this for an extended period of time and rewire my life in a similar fashion. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast! I’ve always loved that. Thanks again Dan.
As a Enfp trying to build personal brand alone, I can never have the same days writing and preparing for the post. I would definitely incorporate some newness in my routine, so that I don't search for it at the moment I'm craving it
So Enfp strength is they can find alot of ways to getting things done but they just doesn't follow through. So if they can have a discipline they can even beat Estj/Entj in anything but they just don't have it. I think that's why it's the same as Entp, that based on studies shows they're really poor in their early life and beat an Entj when they are in 40s because of developed Si. It's kind of like Enfp/Entp are talent without hard work and Estj/Entj are pure hardwork. So to simplify it Enfp can be the most successful people in the world if they just have a discipline, and seems like most of them don't have it.
Its true.. when i was younger i was like fly in the room hiting everything while lookin for some sh.it , but now im like eagle loking from.above focused and saxy !! ( I was mess now i own 3 business) but i think im too attached to my workers.. im way too deep intro their lifes 😅
Of course you got a motorcycle license. I did, too. Now I want to go to the Yamaha champions racing school. ENFP with ADHD here. 57 years old. And I learned that expression years ago in the military, and then subsequently developing my shooting skills. It is amazing how much I relate to you.
Hi Dan, such a good video! I have been following you for a while. I am from the Czech Republic and my husband is from Vancouver, BC area. I love the connection with your story. I am an ENFP and my husband and I own an online coaching business together. … I definitely can resonate with so much what you are talking about here. I think I am like the last part of the video, kind of stuck doing tasks and trying to stay on top everything but feeling like I am loosing part of me in it. I learnt about the shiny object and doing this business is the longest I have ever been able to stay in. Lol :D.. I am learning now I really need to make some changes or I am going to go crazy!! :D
Awesome video Dan!! Very fun and enjoyable to watch!! I love the point you mentioned in another video a loooong time ago, from The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: Basically, just keep showing up. I think this is especially related to lying to ourselves and shiny object syndrome. But good things happen if we temporarily forego those to really see things through to completion. I find that if I keep working at something for long enough, my work process optimizes itself (assuming I'm interested in the thing; otherwise, I just burn out like you said) and the work becomes more and more streamlined, efficient, and enjoyable. And then I get the satisfaction of seeing the hard work pay off in a finished album, website, book, etc. or even just growth and confidence, like in the case of career. Great stuff and looking forward to the next!
I have been guilty of the relationship stuff. Using it as a source of entertainment and experimenting with how far I could push things. Ultimately hurting myself and others. Even finding a perverse entertainment in the pain itself. Enfp dark tropes be real lol.
I've been loyal and consistent in sth I care or target for since my childhood. I just don't commit to anything that I think can never do or fulfill and I hate that. I only have time management issues. Commitment and consistency is the thing I've been appraised for in my organisation. Rather many people in our community are seen nowadays not that committed or burnt out about anything long-term or committing on things. That's why they appreciate that trait of mine. I just wish the time management thing would be fixated.
last week I register to your ENFP course but no one contact me and I could not get in to the course I send many emails snd no response what's going on ?????
I have a question though. I mean, it is true, throughout my whole life I’ve had many hobbies and continue to place great importance on them as they bring me variety and excitement. However, despite having them, I still struggle with work and relationships. In the end, they always get boring. I always get restless and want to leave and do something new. I also have issues focusing at work and consistently working 8 hours 5 days a week. I still don’t understand how to tackle this after watching this video…
So... "no more cocaine and strippers every morning....I guess that's fair" KILLED ME. I am an ENFP and this video was very insightful. The whole video spoke to me.
I think it is madness to spend a lot of time on something for very little return, which naturally happens as you reach a plateau. Considering many other learning curves dying to be climbed by my curious mind it isn't time efficient for my 'goal' which is non linear in the first place.
that explains why I cheated.. stupid me - learned my lessons. (disclaimer: not blaiming it on my personality type, the mistakes I made were still my decision and I just didn't know any better)
We’re soooo distracted and I hate this type because of that. I would like to live with a normal mind. Doing things without looking for any newness or deep meaning. I want to be an ENTJ so bad.
Real Anne. I share similar interests with the varied hobbies you talked about in your previous comment. It feels like we're living the same lives. Now my channel is in coma stage, my interests and talents too. It's so hard to get back on track :(
Enfp. Done through 20000 hours for skill. Horrible. Just Horrible. Burned down. Learning to love life again. Found a solution to success. Forget logic and outside authority. Make out of fun only.
I love to be an ENFP. But while I'm walking and listening to this video I have to reverse the video back again and again because every time I fly away into my thoughts and.... wow wow what the guy has been talking about for the last 30 seconds 🤦♂️😃
@@enfp it is an ENFP character 🙂 Extroverted Intuition often leads to random brainstorming and dreams. I try to control it now and take myself back to reality 😃Have a nice day 🤝
i have ENFP-T I REALY ON ALLAH and Do hard work... i can work in a intense pressure so calmly that's why i merry a dominating girl and she use to dominate me 😂
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This is so true for me. Ever since I learned my personality type, I've forgiven myself for not always sticking with things and having a bunch of hobbies. I always admired people that didn't get bored and stuck with one hobby enough to master it. Now I find that I have a great type for teaching middle school. I get to mix it up all the time! And now, much later in life, I find I do have the discipline to stick with learning an instrument. That particular hobby does frustrate me at times, but also is rewarding AND challenging enough to keep me going. I think this is mainly because I get to play music with other people and it really suits an ambivert. Being an ENFP is awesome fun!
Hey :) I'm also in education. Nice:)))
wow I'm an ENFP teacher too and after watching the video I was like welllll teaching really does help with keeping things fresh and not getting too bored haha. We get new kids each year and summers off to reconnect with our hobbies or go on fun vacations! :D I also played instruments as a kid, and keep wanting to get back into it.
This comment is so positive and was really lovely to read 🥲 thank you so much!!
I don't even have the patience to finish watching any of these videos
Then that's a "you" problem
Does it almost feel like your brain realizes that you're trying to help yourself so it distracts you with senseless tasks and daydreaming until the video is over?
i watch in 2x speed lol
I had to go back 15 times but finished and loved it. Some young ENFPs have to run around the same track a few more times to want to sit down and build something and that’s okay 😃
I am an ENFP-T, even schedules dont work for me, as my mood swings are heavy....so I have like 5 projects running...even my family laughs about it and how stressed I can become when not finishing one of those projects.....
I have a variety of interest, from studying language to dropping it off to try short films to being a SoundCloud artists, to a RUclipsr, to a fanfic writer, to audition in a K-pop company, to become a singer, to become a director, until I get older I tried to go into Social Media Management, and I have a degree in Real Estate. So yeah! This is a problem althroughout my life.
Just out of curiosity what do you do for work now?
SAME
The best thing happened to my life when you told me that I can focus and do my works better than ENTJ's and ESTJ's, because you know everyone says that ENFP don't do their jobs at time and I was like believing these things although I know that I'm not lazy or useless, But I'm starting to suspect that my inner voice is just an illusion, but not now.. I feel better ♡ thank you
Such a nice comment! I'm just going to record a podcast now inspired by it :)
I am an ENFP but sadly I just learned this today. I believe I left my wife of 8 years if not solely because she didn't let me do the "fun sporadical things" that would have torn my life apart, than definitely mostly because she wouldn't let me do the "fun sporadical things" that would have torn my life apart when she helped me build myself to where I am in the first place. I need help. Lots of it.
The paradox of being a free spirit 😅. There’s a point where we have to trust ourselves that we know what is best for us. You didn’t leave spontaneously, but because it probably wore on your spirit for a long time. We’ve gotta have faith in ourselves and know they while we are chaotic, we are capable of handling our own lives and getting great results.
I worked at a high security psychiatric hospital running group therapy. Because the majority of patients were in a psychotic episode, and I never knew which patients would show up, I had no idea what the group was going to be “about” (even though I had to have a plan), and I didn’t know if it was going to be beautiful and profound, disturbing, scary or hilarious. Often it was all of those.
People would say, “how can you handle working there?”
I would say, “because whatever it is, it’s never boring”.
A perfect job for an ENFP 😉😊
Perrrrrrfect indeed. 😉
Wow. I just discovered I’m an ENFP. I’ve been on a 2 year self growth after my life seemed to be directionless, relationship in a rut, burnt out from 15 years of doing anything and everything. I’ve been tackling my unconscious and really understanding myself. I recently started wondering how is it that I could come up with 5 different business plans in a day yet never really excel and perfect my current role. truly I’ve never had a video speak to me like this. Subscribed
I literally just shut down and maybe become depressed when I force myself to isolate and study continuously and it makes feel codependent with other people and I create scenarios in my head about what if there is no one for me to talk to and get even more anxious LOVE TO BE AN ENFP
Like what’s said in the video, we ENFPs need to be proactive at bringing in our excitements into the progress. Forcing ourselves to stay focus will never work. It’s about tricking ourselves into doing it and looking forward to do it. I too struggle with short attention spans… BUT, I found out that if I fuel myself with my “fantasy” of how amazing and important the task means to me, I will have the drive to achieve the goal on a autopilot mode. Also, do the things we hate the most right away when we think of it is also another good strategy. That’s a good short force rather than forcing ourselves to stick our butts on the chair forever and thinking we hate what we do 😂
I think that we got all a bit too focussed on having fun at work, or doing a work that can give meaning to our lives.
I believe that work is good to stay connected and to get an income, bit as a true ENFP I came to realize that our lives are about relationships, connections, knowledge and experiences.
We are those who on their deathbeds will truly think of their most loved ones, or the most special places we visited, or the most extraordinary human experiences we lived, and our funniest and most dramatic moments.
We will not give a damn to how much money we made or the job title we reached.
Thankfully, the (friendless) ENTJs are running the world while we are just… living! 😄
Really interesting comment! I have a chapter on this in my book. It is true that on their deathbeds people speak of friends, happiness, and wishing they didn't work so hard.
It is also true they say "I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
And I might say that for many people and many jobs, it becomes very hard to not work hard, be happy, and be true to yourself, in an environment that sees you as a tool for productivity.
Whether your purpose should be actualized in your vocation, well, is up for debate...but for me I do best focused on one thing and putting a lot of my energy into it, and that means my income is best tied to my purpose.
Well, I'm not we want them running everything...their insecurity fueled need for constant growth might create some problems one day :O
ENFP lie and shiny object syndrome is so true for me. I make good excuses whenever I move to new things without finishing the first one.
I am interested in learning languages and l love taking language proficiency tests. At first, I took Korean language proficiency tests just for fun and at one point, I got to the level where I can use that language for academic purposes and studying abroad. But I lied to myself that I studied Korean just for fun and not to study abroad because I wanted to move on to next language(Japanese) and other interests. After 2 years, my certificate expired and the test has not been held because of the pandemic.
Fortunately, the Korean test will be held this year and I plan to take it again.
This explains why I've been generally unemployable. But entrepreneurship is perfect for the outgoing intuition. Buuut.....the consistency needed to create a successful business is elusive. Talk about generating ideas, too many. Very accurate.
Hearing this sounds similar solutions to ADHD. I’m and enfp with adhd and I swear the description of both are close to identical. Lol
Same!!
Thanks. Since I found you, I don't feel like a loser anymore. Finally, someone who is fighting the same battle and who also gives the solutions. Thanks for your advice. I am struggling to convert to the IT field. I changed areas several times, but I stayed in the web development area from last year, with some short changes towards QA, etc. and comebacks. I kept this area. It's hard sometimes, but I like it and I calculated to finish the course in March. I really want to see the winner myself. You said in a video that ENFPs, although it's hard to get ahead, are good at what they do. That's what I dream of too. To master a field at least very well and not be left without jobs and with multiple experience but none complete.
Slow is smooth & Smooth is fast my new mantra 😂 thanks for the video, really useful!
I think my need for excitement is lower and a bit more internalized than most ENFPs, I'm 4w3 which I've heard changes things quite a bit. I have a few regular hobbies / skills in my routine that I can always take on new challenges with. High intensity sports like hockey is one of them, not much is more thrilling than practicing a new skill that I can then take to a highly competitive game in order to be a better player. I play for fun but have so much intensity behind it that I often am keeping up with guys who play at college level.
I believe you're describing the type 7 ENFP who needs much more excitement. I need excitement too, but I dont want to do anything too crazy to meet that need.
Shiny object syndrome is me all the way! I moved to LA with zero connections to be a screenwriter after working as an actor for years(at least I stuck to that, but every show was different so there you go!) Anyway, I constantly seek fun and working toward getting my screenplays out there needs consistency. Been a bit rough!!
For me, because I start so much and quit with glitter and butterflies 🦋 I am that person that has made myself finish or given myself a timeframe. For example, I don’t allow myself to stay at a job less than a year. But this has caused me to have decision paralysis. Meaning I’m afraid to choose the wrong thing, to put my energies in the wrong direction. For 4 years now I have delayed going back to school because I am afraid to choose the wrong path. I am an RN. I don’t want to be one any more. I want to run a nonprofit place to help those in domestic violence or those at risk to become in that situation. I need a master’s. But.... you see it’s hard for me to commit due to my previous experiences of my own personality.
I ran into the same problem and was dealing with the same fear to the point where it was almost crippling. Counselling helped me a lot, and something my therapist pointed out really hit me. She reminded me that life is not black and white, it's a whole mess of grey; that the 'good' decisions always still hold some bad and vice versa. At the end of the day, every decision teaches us a lesson, if we are open and willing to learn it. And any lesson learned is ultimately a positive experience regardless. I hope that brings you some peace too as it really helped me, although I still have my ups and downs of course!
@@Razsterics thanks for sharing! It’s so validating to hear others experiences!
Same!
If an idea only pops into your head one time, don’t do it. Mindblown.
Wooow, this video just look so different from previous ones! It was great, Dan! The "Dad would be proud" part was the funniest XD I'm loving this new format, really.
Definitely you need to do something different once in a while, or else you will benumb ("embotar" in Spanish). For example, I'm near to publish my first book (wish me luck!), and last friday the publishing house gave me finally the prototipe. I needed to read the book and look for any type of mistakes. I read 420 pages in 7 seven days. The last two days I read probably 150 pages, I was just in the perfect flow to do that. It was fun, it was exciting, but I did this revision taking some pauses to do something different but short, like watching few and short RUclips videos in order to not get benumbed. It worthed. Now I just have to wait probably 2 weeks until the books are finished and printed.
After I sent the corrections to the publishing house in thursday, yesterday I did very different things, and all of them unplanned: doing exercise with my prop katana, watching RUclips videos and an episode of a new anime, playing hours with lego and taking a walk at my neighborhood; I did things that didn't involucrate reading (although I had to check some of my students' homeworks). Then today I went to work (teaching Japanese), gladly a fun work, and I've been here relaxing for some hours. And I feel just in the right vibe to do some of my usual work tomorrow.
So in short, probably commit some especific time to what is necessary to achieve your goal, and have between that time some spaces to do fun, non-routinal and unplanned SHORT activities, and then giving one or two days of rest if possible could be useful.
And that's it!
A hug from Costa Rica!
Pura Vida! Thank you... The delay between videos recently is because of the hard work on the upgraded approach.
Congrats on the book, that's a big achievement!
This is such a great idea I’m going to start using this for myself because I get distracted and bored with longer tasks. Thanks for the tip!!! Also congrats on your book! Fellow writer here, hope all goes well!!!
@@enfp Such delays are comprensible if you want to make something with good quality, don't worry.
And thank you! n_n
@@torid.344 You're welcome! I'm glad my comment was useful n_n And thanks! I also hope so.
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i cant say how much i'm thankful for this video. after wasting so much time ive been needing to get back on the rail of studying so hard and had to know exactly what to do for me not to get bored of it again. you're video is so true! when it came upon that part that states that "we lie to ourselves when it comes to doing something bad so we would feel ok about it" i knew i really am a real enfp. hope u're doing fine and i wish i can hold up on my personal schedule for another 4 5 months to achieve the goal i've always wanted.
That means through your entire graduation right?
@Yoongiprobablyhaskids i was studying for the retook uni enterance exam which i stayed behind one year for it after graduating. Now im waiting for the final results to see which uni i got accepted in.
Dan thank you for this video. you hit all my nails on the head!
It's my pleasure :)
Thank you so much! I can’t stay at a job for a long time and I always quit
So nicely said! I imagine if you have hashtags you will get thousands more views! 🎉
Amazing Dan! So glad to see this one. I would like to understand better how to achieve goals by using our strengths more. I do find the traditional ways impossible.
I resonate with almost all of this, knew some of it, and learned a few things. Thanks for always being awesome!
My biggest realization was to pick the thing that I think would make the most impact and do it for the summer and that’s been my daily walk/meditation/audio journal routine. It’s been going great!
I’m not seeing the results I want but I’ve convinced myself to keep going and I know I’m benefiting even if it’s not as much as I want.
I’m going to try and do this for an extended period of time and rewire my life in a similar fashion.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast! I’ve always loved that. Thanks again Dan.
S hiny Object Syndrome is biiiiiiiiiiiiiiig struggle !! *coool tips !!* ! For sure i am gonna implement aligning strategy with strengths !!
As a Enfp trying to build personal brand alone, I can never have the same days writing and preparing for the post. I would definitely incorporate some newness in my routine, so that I don't search for it at the moment I'm craving it
Really appreciate your insights here!
So Enfp strength is they can find alot of ways to getting things done but they just doesn't follow through. So if they can have a discipline they can even beat Estj/Entj in anything but they just don't have it. I think that's why it's the same as Entp, that based on studies shows they're really poor in their early life and beat an Entj when they are in 40s because of developed Si. It's kind of like Enfp/Entp are talent without hard work and Estj/Entj are pure hardwork. So to simplify it Enfp can be the most successful people in the world if they just have a discipline, and seems like most of them don't have it.
Its true.. when i was younger i was like fly in the room hiting everything while lookin for some sh.it , but now im like eagle loking from.above focused and saxy !! ( I was mess now i own 3 business) but i think im too attached to my workers.. im way too deep intro their lifes 😅
Of course you got a motorcycle license. I did, too. Now I want to go to the Yamaha champions racing school. ENFP with ADHD here. 57 years old.
And I learned that expression years ago in the military, and then subsequently developing my shooting skills. It is amazing how much I relate to you.
So cool to hear!
Really can see the effort that you put in this video! Keep it up🙏
Hi Dan, such a good video! I have been following you for a while. I am from the Czech Republic and my husband is from Vancouver, BC area. I love the connection with your story. I am an ENFP and my husband and I own an online coaching business together. … I definitely can resonate with so much what you are talking about here. I think I am like the last part of the video, kind of stuck doing tasks and trying to stay on top everything but feeling like I am loosing part of me in it. I learnt about the shiny object and doing this business is the longest I have ever been able to stay in. Lol :D.. I am learning now I really need to make some changes or I am going to go crazy!! :D
Awesome video Dan!! Very fun and enjoyable to watch!!
I love the point you mentioned in another video a loooong time ago, from The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: Basically, just keep showing up. I think this is especially related to lying to ourselves and shiny object syndrome. But good things happen if we temporarily forego those to really see things through to completion. I find that if I keep working at something for long enough, my work process optimizes itself (assuming I'm interested in the thing; otherwise, I just burn out like you said) and the work becomes more and more streamlined, efficient, and enjoyable. And then I get the satisfaction of seeing the hard work pay off in a finished album, website, book, etc. or even just growth and confidence, like in the case of career.
Great stuff and looking forward to the next!
Haha! So good Dan! Next level video 👌 and oh dang, this hits. But the write it down and see if it sticks around method is legit!
You rock is all I can say! Such a good video! Hillarious on the puzzle!
Awesome video..Thank you, I wish I saw this many years ago!
I have been guilty of the relationship stuff. Using it as a source of entertainment and experimenting with how far I could push things. Ultimately hurting myself and others. Even finding a perverse entertainment in the pain itself. Enfp dark tropes be real lol.
Why am I seeing this in my late 20s not any time earlier 😭😭😭😭 thanks for the tips
I've been loyal and consistent in sth I care or target for since my childhood. I just don't commit to anything that I think can never do or fulfill and I hate that. I only have time management issues. Commitment and consistency is the thing I've been appraised for in my organisation. Rather many people in our community are seen nowadays not that committed or burnt out about anything long-term or committing on things. That's why they appreciate that trait of mine. I just wish the time management thing would be fixated.
Oh man....THIS! THIS RIGHT HERE! I will need to watch this weekly!
I’d poke my eyes out with a dull pencil 5 hours in to the 10000 hours
😂 5 hours only...that might be a new record!
@@enfp 😅
last week I register to your ENFP course but no one contact me and I could not get in to the course I send many emails snd no response what's going on ?????
wow i truly needed this! Thank you really
You're very welcome!
Of course you got a motorcycle license. I did, too. Now I want to go to the Yamaha champions racing school. ENFP with ADHD here. 57 years old.
Do it!
I am 37 and my CV is full of so much,I loved doing these things when I was doing them and now I don't know what to do next. 😢😢
Haha !
That is so meee! I loved this one !
Dude, you blew my mind!
Broooo literallyyy useddd Bassssiii as stand up comedian so prouuudddd😭🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻💖💖✨✨✨✨
I have a question though. I mean, it is true, throughout my whole life I’ve had many hobbies and continue to place great importance on them as they bring me variety and excitement. However, despite having them, I still struggle with work and relationships. In the end, they always get boring. I always get restless and want to leave and do something new. I also have issues focusing at work and consistently working 8 hours 5 days a week. I still don’t understand how to tackle this after watching this video…
So... "no more cocaine and strippers every morning....I guess that's fair" KILLED ME. I am an ENFP and this video was very insightful. The whole video spoke to me.
🤣🤣🤣 I always love it when the humor is appreciated
The best video for enfp…
Thank you!
I think it is madness to spend a lot of time on something for very little return, which naturally happens as you reach a plateau. Considering many other learning curves dying to be climbed by my curious mind it isn't time efficient for my 'goal' which is non linear in the first place.
that explains why I cheated.. stupid me - learned my lessons. (disclaimer: not blaiming it on my personality type, the mistakes I made were still my decision and I just didn't know any better)
Thanks Dan! 🙏
Hey Corey! Good to hear from you
I love this video so much, now I feel so much empowered muahahahah!!!
That's the goal with it!
Great video! Thanks u :)
Thanks Victor!
We’re soooo distracted and I hate this type because of that. I would like to live with a normal mind. Doing things without looking for any newness or deep meaning. I want to be an ENTJ so bad.
great video
Thanks!
Hello I am an ENFP how can I stay at a job
😂😂 me
Me too… you’re not alone
I will address this in future videos :)
Slow is Smooth! And Smoot is FAST!
Yes!
When you said not finishing things, I already left RUclips. Lmao.
Real Anne. I share similar interests with the varied hobbies you talked about in your previous comment. It feels like we're living the same lives. Now my channel is in coma stage, my interests and talents too. It's so hard to get back on track :(
So true.
Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome 😊
I’m an ENFP and my handwriting looks exactly like that.. coincidence?
So ENFP cannot work as PM? They will struggle and burnt out overtime?
Wait, is that stand up comedian Anubhav Bassi from India? Damn bhaiiiii
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Send me an email and include the email you tried so we can trouble shoot if there is a problem. dan@dreamsaroundtheworld.com
Ty bro
So spot on... this is literally me. It's also bc I'm a gemini lol
Thanks Wiktoria!
Enfp. Done through 20000 hours for skill. Horrible. Just Horrible. Burned down. Learning to love life again. Found a solution to success. Forget logic and outside authority. Make out of fun only.
I'm glad you've come out the other side. Burnout is something I see too often!
First 30 seconds, I will never want to be any of those. I would rather have a 'fulfilling' life than this robotic 'successfull' one
I didn't finish this vid
Aww my crush is an ENFP....wackadoodles...I'm an INFJ😁
What if we don’t have anyone around us who is more direct….? How do we solve that?
You know what I'm going to say :)
Change your peer group!
I love to be an ENFP. But while I'm walking and listening to this video I have to reverse the video back again and again because every time I fly away into my thoughts and.... wow wow what the guy has been talking about for the last 30 seconds 🤦♂️😃
Hehe hate to say, that isn't actually an ENFP thing really...well, at least it is not inevitable :)
@@enfp it is an ENFP character 🙂 Extroverted Intuition often leads to random brainstorming and dreams. I try to control it now and take myself back to reality 😃Have a nice day 🤝
Although i loved this video, title of the video was provocateur for me as an ENFP 😂😂 i realy hate rules and stereo types
What's the stereotypes?
Am I an enfp or do I just have ADHD?
I have another video on this :) you can search the channel.
So where's the difference to ADHD?
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Saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaankss 😭😍😍🥰✨
You're welcome!
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I’m so tired of being an enfp. I think one of the worst personality types
Bullshit! We are the best. You need a heavy dose of my book, The ENFP Calling asap!
i have ENFP-T
I REALY ON ALLAH and Do hard work... i can work in a intense pressure so calmly that's why i merry a dominating girl and she use to dominate me 😂
To each his own!
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Это небыло бы видео от ENFP, если бы в нем небыло клоунады :)
Damn right! Ditto on my book The ENFP Calling. Sometimes I can't believe the jokes I put in it
Thank you!
You're welcome!