Hmmm. I think that’s a misconceptions because you’re implying being free is “not right”…. I guess your situation is diff from mine but for me fleeing my severely abusive relationship and keep distance was free AND right ❤😊
@@lattethebunbunExactly because you can be right as well as free. I personally think you dont have to do special things for people who aren’t special to you and that’s definitely not being wrong either.
It’s SO hard not to be petty or argumentative. I’ve been working on this as well and I’m proud of my progress. Lol. Peace is so much more important than proving a point now.
It was really one of those moments for me where it clicked. That statement did a lot for me, and I’m really glad that it was helpful to some of you as well!!
She said she does go out with him. Out to eat with him. To church with him. That she has a great time with with. I'm very confused with this message. 🤔
Abbey, I am so proud of you for choosing to take the high road. It isn't always easy but you did it. I am right there with you and the wanting peace. I had to cut a lot of people out of my life and it hurt because they were my own family. I have found that if my presence doesn't make you happy my absence won't bother you either. Trust me when I say this. If someone really wanted things to be better they would make the same efforts as you to make it better. Sometimes some people have toxic traits of their own that don't run through family bloodlines or anything. They are just that way on their own. Please keep going with this project you're working on and please please keep shining. You're gorgeous you've got your 3 baby girls and you have an army in your followers. Much love and respect from me to you ❤
Such a kind and thoughtful thing to do -- and not just for Bobby! This is also inherently an act of kindness towards your daughter, Myla, as well. You are showing her that her feelings of love toesrds her father are not something she has to hide or feel guilty about. I'm glad Mimi is there as a go-between, and I'm glad you're finding ways to make this co-parenting style work for your daughter.
Choosing to let go of anger is hard. Even harder when there are valid reasons for you to be angry. But it’s EXACTLY what you said. For me, I need to live my life in peace and with love. If I don’t, I’m just as bad as the people who have caused me pain and I never want to hurt people the way I’ve been hurt. ❤ I think it’s a nice gesture to the person who is helping shape your daughter with you. Photos are a great idea. It doesn’t have to be over the top or a crazy hard effort, I like that you kept it simple, but meaningful and that your heart is in it. ❤
That's having God in your life baby girl and being able to have that mindset of life I'm so happy and proud of you currently going through my healing process as well and being able to forgive and not be resentful is an amazing gift ❤️❤️❤️
Life has brought me a lot of challenges lately, and so I really have done my best to sandwich myself between God and the program. I’m so thankful for the growth. Both things have brought me. 🙏🏼 thank you for being here.❤❤❤
This is a great example for others who don't want to forgive and overcome the pain that others have caused them because on the other side of forgiveness is love and peace and nobody is perfect it's hard to not want others to be held accountable or to change if they are wrong but she is right being free and being loving and kind to everyone even those who have hurt us is all that matters
Meh. Forgiveness is not a freeing thing for everyone. I’m glad it worked for her. But for others what’s freeing may not be forgiving those who hurt us nor is it being kind to them. At the end of the day what really matters is what feels right for you.
@@terrawilkins1801forgiveness is NOT necessary for everyone. This is such a bs forced idea that’s pushed on to people and actually can create further harm. For some people not forgiving allows healing and allows them the opportunity to know that they didn’t allow those who caused them harm to just get away with it. This bs idea that we should all just forgive and that if you don’t you are some bitter grudge having individual is nasty. I’ve have not forgiven a lot of people in my life and it brings me peace so who are you or anyone else to try and dictate what can and cannot bring peace to other people? not forgiving allows people to understand their boundaries and the consequences of when people over step them. Not forgiving people grants people the opportunity to have a firm resolve and shows a deep amount of self respect. on a broader scale, not forgiving can help remove those who cause harm and make it clear to others what is and isn’t acceptable. Would be forgive people who commit mass murder, commit SA, etc? No, and that’s because there is unforgivable actions that nobody to be guilted into forgiving. not forgiving has these components. 1. acknowledgment* 2. understanding* of how the harmful action affected you. 3. Self respect* demonstrating that boundaries are not to be crossed and that once somebody wrong you that can and will lose access to you and will not be given the privilege of being forgivin. 4. Maturity* growing and better understanding what you deserve and demanding better from others in the future. 5. Removal* removing that harmful and toxic from your life so that you can prosper. Forgiveness is a choice and those who choose not to do it are not lacking anything that those who choose to do it have. Internal peace and well being is not determined on whether you forgave or not. It’s determined based on what felt best for you.
@@terrawilkins1801also to add. Not forgiving doesn’t mean that someone cannot move on. It’s very easy to not forgive and go one to live a peaceful and happy life without even thinking about the person who harmed you. Because that’s the thing about not forgiving, you can not forgive and that person can continue to face the consequences of their actions. At the end of the day forgiveness for those who don’t want to forgive only benefits the wrong doer.
@@KimmyLL1890 like I said in my previous comment others may agree to disagree but forgiveness is a vital practice for everyone in this world whether you agree or not You're demeanor to me screams that you're just not capable of forgiveness to everyone and there's someone you hold resentment towards for what they've done to you and you don't want them to benefit from your forgiveness and I know how that feels but I hope you learn that forgiveness is freeing and vital To me it's just sad how many people don't understand how freeing it really is to just let go of resentment, spite and pain. I know because I know how to forgive that forgiveness doesn't have to benefit the wrong doer.. that's the point of not having to be in contact with the person you've forgiven whether it be for safety or whatever it is.. forgiveness is something that happens in ur spirit where you choose to hope that person changes and becomes better you choose to let go of the pain they've caused you and you choose to move on with life hoping only that they change and letting go of what that version of them did to you and they may never change but at least you don't have to hold the experience they caused you in ur spirit you don't have to forget and we all have every right to defend and protect ourselves from wrongdoers but wrongdoers are capable of change as well and it's honestly not about the person you're forgiving it's about seeing outside of that person and what they've done to you and focusing on how it's made you view them and view people in general I know personally that it's not my place to hold any harsh feelings of anybody or to hold onto my past I don't forget what caused it so I can be safe going forward but I just choose to change my outlook on it. That's just me tho to each their own ig 😕
Thought you guys had co parenting dinners and outings together. Now you don’t talk hardly to each other. Maybe I’m confused.. but great job trying to make him have a good Father’s Day.
You are such a good human. All my mom did was talk badly about my father after they divorced when I was young. I am so glad you are so mature and kind enough to think of him on Father’s Day and to realize that he is the father of your beautiful daughter no matter what.
As a child of divorce my parents always made sure the other had a gift for mothers/fathers day and their birthdays ❤️ even if it was just helping me choose or pay for the gift it always meant a lot that they still care for one another even though there was anlot of hatred and bitterness at first
You are such an amazing role model. In a world where there aren't too many, it's a breath of fresh air. You are a dang rock star. Thank you for sharing your advice and experiences with us.
It’s so refreshing to see that you do this for your daughter! It’s so nice that you don’t let your relationship with Bobby dictate how myla sees him. You lead a great example🫶
@@a_m1m1r no our business when she’s posted about him nonstop and all about their custody agreement? It’s not our business to ask why she’s no longer even speaking to Myla’s dad? She posts all about Myla too. That’s such an ignorant comment when she posts her entire life on this app
As a child of divorced parents, this is amazing! If my parents were big enough to do this instead of all the nasty things, i would have felt so warm even though there isn't one home anymore. Great job mama, very proud of how you put the peace first 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
even if she doesn’t realize how amazing you are for this myla is def gonna appreciate it later and you really just made a big difference for her memories as someone with divorced parents i would love for mine to coparent healthily and i would give anything for my mom to act like you do ty for spreading your light❤️❤️
I love this. My mom’s best friend is going through a divorce right now. On Mother’s Day, the father of her children wouldn’t let them see their mom. He eventually let them spend the night with her but they didn’t give her a gift or even a hug or say happy Mother’s Day. They weren’t taught how to love their mom from their dad. Their dad didn’t set the example for them and you doing this, setting an example, will change your daughter’s life forever.
Hi!! I absolutely respect you and your family’s dynamic and trust that the dynamic you talked about works. I just wanted to share my perspective, being a child of an early divorce. I was similarly the “middle man”, communicating between my parents because they couldn’t communicate effectively themselves. They thought it was harmless and I stepped up to the plate; but ultimately, it collapsed me and put so much pressure on little me that I couldn’t tell them the system wasn’t working after so long. Being a child and having the responsibility of two parents is hard. I wish my parents had checked up on me about that more often, and worked to find ways to communicate slowly. But once again, my goal isn’t to project! Just wish the best for you all:)
You truly have grown over many of the things he or you may have done continuing to grow will show your child that resentment doesn’t have to be a problem I have family members that have tried to divide our family over smaller things than most have gone through stay strong stay grown ❤
you’re doing great. i wish other parents would have the same morals as you. my parents divorced and i always had to fill the hole like mimi does for you guys. thank you and stay gorgeous
The phrase "do you want to be right or do you want to be free?" Has been my moment of pause so many times through my sobriety. Thank you and Bless you and all of the family
As someone who had parents that didn’t coparent well and never spoke to one another, thank you for being a healthy representation and it makes my heart so happy to see your little girl get this treatment 🩷 little things like this make a world of a difference
WOW! “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be free?” That’s now my new motto.. I wanna be free! & w God’s spirits & love, I know I’ll be free here soon! I love the way you continue to show your daughter what an incredible momma you really are! 🩷
I’m so so happy to see you working past your feelings for your child. I wish my parents could’ve been the same 💔 Keep doing what you’re doing cuz it’s amazing!!
Your videos make it seem like you talked more often and got along super well, and i know we only see seconds long shorta but thats why you shouldnt assume you know whats going on in these youtubers lives.
@@napqueen9377 that part. I have tried SO HARD to be the bigger person with my ex husband so that my children don’t suffer. He is soo mean behind closed doors and I can only take so much. Our co-parent relationship is constantly changing. Nobody knows this but me and obviously him. It sucks, but it is what it is. I’m sure it’s the same for her and of course she is not gonna broadcast the nitty gritty!
Love you Abbey. You're doing such great work and you're inspiring so many of us who are just trying to do what's best for our kids. You're teaching not only Myla, but honestly the parenting community. I really hope you know how wonderful you are ❤
They say we have to forgive to forget and it’s honestly deeper than we give it credit for. We forgive so we can live with less of the trauma they gave us in our bodies. We forgive so we heal those wounds that have left scars on our souls in hopes that one day that scar just disappears and we won’t flinch it’s touched. I don’t know why I’m crying over this but I am cause it’s true
You are freaking amazing!!!!!!! ❤🎉 you go girl!!! The devil is under your feet!!!!! Not today satan! Your doing so good, I am so proud of you and just to be in your community watching you grow and also learning from you has been a true blessing!!! God bless your heart my dear girl xoxo God has something very special with you never forget that!!! Jesus love you so much and you're doing an amazing job!!! ❤
I am an adult of divorced parents and this type of peace is nowhere in sight. Yesterday was a nightmare though it’s been 18 years. The boundaries and respect you have for Myla are inspiring - beautiful life. ❤
You and Bobby seemed to be doing so well. I hope he can be open to the peace God has given you as well. I miss seeing videos of you both spending time together with Myla. It set such a beautiful example.
Thank you for this important message. I’m kind but I noticed I’m so bitter at times. I need to learn to forgive so I can feel free. You are also such an amazing mother! I’m learning some tips from you so when the time comes and I become a mother I can do things the healthy way 💗
Oh my goodness I love this I had one of these for my daughter and unfortunately I got into an abusive relationship and he ripped up all the pictures. This was 17 years ago so they were definitely priceless. However though I left him after that.. but I love this and you're such a strong woman
Teaching your daughter insight to truly loving; that she will carry with her into her future and gaze into her memories that you created for her; something that will allow her to feel honorable in her elder years. 👏
To be transparent with you this is how I grew up with my parents being split since birth. And I grew up awesome rad and well adjusted and funny but I do warn you they did come back together somewhat at 60 when the dust of life died down lol you’re a wonderful momma 🫶🏼💘
i love this video so much, my parents were young when they had me. i never saw positivity on holidays. my dad hates every picture that he has of me, him and my mom. they barely communicate. the mutual respect between you and your ex is beautiful and i think that’s amazing for your daughter. i love your channel and i’m so happy you don’t hide this part of your past.
You truly are such a great mother you go out of your way to do everything you can to give that sweet little girl the best life and that is so beautiful. ❤❤❤
Aw thats sweet....wish my dad was that way when I was younger. He would always talk bad about my mom..I told him to stop and he dident listen...he still does it. But some people don't realize the impact on the child. And im sure it makes your daughter happy.
You’re such a good role model to your daughter and everyone around you I’m so glad you’re alive and sharing your beautiful life and story with us. I feel privileged to know of you. 🫶🏻
You’re a queen. I haven’t scrolled enough to see if you get hate, but I hope if you do, you don’t listen to any of it. You’re doing great, and sharing how to navigate this well. You’re an icon.
As a daughter of divorced parents I want to tell that what your are doing is AMAZING. When I was little, even if they were hurt, my parents kept in contact and talked really nicely about each other. I only found out a little bit of what actually happed recently (11 years after it). Divorced families are usually very toxic so I’m extremely greatful that my parents chose to act like adults and provide love and as much stability as they could to me and my brother. Doing this kind of things might be hard for you but you are making the right choice. Sorry if my English is bad, it’s not my first language and I’m crying a bit while writing this. It’s really rare to see parents putting their disagreements aside and actually care for their children.
Practicing & exhibiting grace, I think this is a really thoughtful gift, I hope he loves it ❤ no matter what, you both put Myla first. You are both really amazing parents 😊
My parents are divorced and I remember my mom did something like this for my dad and I was so excited I was so happy handing it to him and was so proud but it was really my mom who helped me do this. You are doing amazing things and make Myla so so happy because she has a supporting family. This video made me my cry and I didn’t really think I was going to do thank you because I needed this cry. ❤
I’ve been co-parenting with my oldest daughter’s dad for 13 years now (she was 2 weeks old when he ended the relationship 😕) and there are highs and lows but we promised to never bad mouth each other in front of her and we have always done “custody” on our own and never through the court. Honestly, as much as I do not like him many times, I’m proud of how well we have co-parented for these 13 years ❤ It’s never easy but if both parties try, it can be done. Having a third party is definitely good for those times that you just don’t want to speak to each other- I never had that but wish in the beginning I had. You are doing a tremendous job 👏🏼
Thank you for making content. You are inspiring and so many ways to other parents who go through divorce and to children as well. I love your content and can’t wait for more. Bless you and your family ❤
I love your videos so much One of the reasons that I love your videos is because me and Myla both are switching houses And my mom and dad have a very good friendship and your videos are just so relatable to me and that’s just one reason why I love your videos. There’s so many more. I wish the best to you Myla and Bobby❤❤❤❤
I’m being totally honest… After being married for 14 years and separated for 2 years now. My daughter’s Father would actually deep down like or love it. But especially if it’s pics he’s already seen it may bring him conflicting emotions since we’ve both moved on. His girlfriend he has now wouldn’t appreciate it I’m sure and if our daughter saw all the weird vibes between everyone when he opened it it would be confusing or maybe overwhelming. She is a teen now and fyi I broke up with my husband, so it would be selfish to jeopardize his new happiness or progress. I mailed him a thank you card this year for Fathers Day that was respectful and loving enough to show my appreciation.
abbey I am so proud of you you are the only person I see on here that really explains and tells us the real life im a kid of a split family as well and I can’t really explain how much your videos almost help me cope with the trauma I had to endure as a kid❤💕
thank you for showing us an example of how coparenting can go. the internet warps the concept of healthy coparenting and just shows all the bad things. thank you for your positive message 🫶🏻
Ive always admired this about you Abby. Youre teach your child how to be mature in certain situations. Shes gonna be an amazing human being when she becomes an adult. She is learning how to do the right thing. That when you have children you have to put some feelings aside. I'm a single mom and I have SO many hard feelings towards my ex. Anyway... 💜💜
When my husband and i split for a year your channel literally kept me acting sane and not doing things i regret later. We have a daughter too and watching videos of you being nice to bobby when i know its hard made me think i can do the same ❤
Gosh you teach me so much I didn't do a gift this year and I do regret it way to go mama be free❤❤❤❤🎉🎉 thank you for helping the journey not feel so alone
amazing mother like i wish my parants where like that growing up like oml and getting gifts to the person that gave you sober 2/4 of your life like wow abut i know it’s for your child and i sooo support that 😊 keep being an awesome mother 😊
"Would you rather be right or would you rather be free", damn girl! This such a good mantra 👏
Hmmm. I think that’s a misconceptions because you’re implying being free is “not right”….
I guess your situation is diff from mine but for me fleeing my severely abusive relationship and keep distance was free AND right ❤😊
@@lattethebunbunExactly because you can be right as well as free. I personally think you dont have to do special things for people who aren’t special to you and that’s definitely not being wrong either.
@@CocoNext26 keeping boundaries is sooo important and labelling something as right or wrong without context is just so ignorant of reality
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I love how you still work well with Bobby
Me too! I’m so happy and proud of her ❤
All those subtle jabs , you must be a child
@@OntarioMualwhere'd you even get that
Go away
@@OntarioMualsays the one who has a childish gaming channel
To be totally transparent, I work well with his mom ❤ But Yes, him and I do our best to work together for the sake of Myla 😊
"Would you rather be right, or would you rather be free?" As someone that was a single mom for almost 10 years...girl....THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS.
keeping boundaries is sooo important and labelling something as right or wrong without context is just so ignorant of reality
It’s SO hard not to be petty or argumentative. I’ve been working on this as well and I’m proud of my progress. Lol. Peace is so much more important than proving a point now.
OMGGG I love that saying, "would you rather be right or would you rather be free!!!!" UGH so good
It was really one of those moments for me where it clicked. That statement did a lot for me, and I’m really glad that it was helpful to some of you as well!!
She said that she does speak with him. Does go out with him. Does go to church with him and out to eat with him. I'm confused.
She said she does go out with him. Out to eat with him. To church with him. That she has a great time with with. I'm very confused with this message. 🤔
@@denisefelker2094 she is pleasant not besties or lovers. They make the best of a tough situation, sometimes space is better for Myla.
Abbey, I am so proud of you for choosing to take the high road. It isn't always easy but you did it. I am right there with you and the wanting peace. I had to cut a lot of people out of my life and it hurt because they were my own family. I have found that if my presence doesn't make you happy my absence won't bother you either. Trust me when I say this. If someone really wanted things to be better they would make the same efforts as you to make it better. Sometimes some people have toxic traits of their own that don't run through family bloodlines or anything. They are just that way on their own. Please keep going with this project you're working on and please please keep shining. You're gorgeous you've got your 3 baby girls and you have an army in your followers. Much love and respect from me to you ❤
I love you abbey you’re such a compassionate and caring mom! You’re so patient with myla!
keeping boundaries is sooo important and labelling something as right or wrong without context is just so ignorant of reality
Did you guys have a recent falling out? Y’all were vibin before. I respect this!
Wondering the same
Right, the opening of this short made me think the same. They went from dates without Myla to.. this
@@Spijenthey go back and forth pretty often between "healthy" coparenting and having to use "MiMi" as an in between.
Such a kind and thoughtful thing to do -- and not just for Bobby! This is also inherently an act of kindness towards your daughter, Myla, as well. You are showing her that her feelings of love toesrds her father are not something she has to hide or feel guilty about.
I'm glad Mimi is there as a go-between, and I'm glad you're finding ways to make this co-parenting style work for your daughter.
Choosing to let go of anger is hard. Even harder when there are valid reasons for you to be angry. But it’s EXACTLY what you said. For me, I need to live my life in peace and with love. If I don’t, I’m just as bad as the people who have caused me pain and I never want to hurt people the way I’ve been hurt. ❤
I think it’s a nice gesture to the person who is helping shape your daughter with you. Photos are a great idea. It doesn’t have to be over the top or a crazy hard effort, I like that you kept it simple, but meaningful and that your heart is in it. ❤
That's having God in your life baby girl and being able to have that mindset of life I'm so happy and proud of you currently going through my healing process as well and being able to forgive and not be resentful is an amazing gift ❤️❤️❤️
Life has brought me a lot of challenges lately, and so I really have done my best to sandwich myself between God and the program. I’m so thankful for the growth. Both things have brought me. 🙏🏼 thank you for being here.❤❤❤
This is a great example for others who don't want to forgive and overcome the pain that others have caused them because on the other side of forgiveness is love and peace and nobody is perfect it's hard to not want others to be held accountable or to change if they are wrong but she is right being free and being loving and kind to everyone even those who have hurt us is all that matters
Agreed but people need to understand boundaries.
Meh. Forgiveness is not a freeing thing for everyone. I’m glad it worked for her. But for others what’s freeing may not be forgiving those who hurt us nor is it being kind to them. At the end of the day what really matters is what feels right for you.
@@terrawilkins1801forgiveness is NOT necessary for everyone. This is such a bs forced idea that’s pushed on to people and actually can create further harm. For some people not forgiving allows healing and allows them the opportunity to know that they didn’t allow those who caused them harm to just get away with it. This bs idea that we should all just forgive and that if you don’t you are some bitter grudge having individual is nasty. I’ve have not forgiven a lot of people in my life and it brings me peace so who are you or anyone else to try and dictate what can and cannot bring peace to other people?
not forgiving allows people to understand their boundaries and the consequences of when people over step them. Not forgiving people grants people the opportunity to have a firm resolve and shows a deep amount of self respect.
on a broader scale, not forgiving can help remove those who cause harm and make it clear to others what is and isn’t acceptable. Would be forgive people who commit mass murder, commit SA, etc? No, and that’s because there is unforgivable actions that nobody to be guilted into forgiving.
not forgiving has these components.
1. acknowledgment*
2. understanding* of how the harmful action affected you.
3. Self respect* demonstrating that boundaries are not to be crossed and that once somebody wrong you that can and will lose access to you and will not be given the privilege of being forgivin.
4. Maturity* growing and better understanding what you deserve and demanding better from others in the future.
5. Removal* removing that harmful and toxic from your life so that you can prosper.
Forgiveness is a choice and those who choose not to do it are not lacking anything that those who choose to do it have. Internal peace and well being is not determined on whether you forgave or not. It’s determined based on what felt best for you.
@@terrawilkins1801also to add. Not forgiving doesn’t mean that someone cannot move on. It’s very easy to not forgive and go one to live a peaceful and happy life without even thinking about the person who harmed you. Because that’s the thing about not forgiving, you can not forgive and that person can continue to face the consequences of their actions. At the end of the day forgiveness for those who don’t want to forgive only benefits the wrong doer.
@@KimmyLL1890 like I said in my previous comment others may agree to disagree but forgiveness is a vital practice for everyone in this world whether you agree or not
You're demeanor to me screams that you're just not capable of forgiveness to everyone and there's someone you hold resentment towards for what they've done to you and you don't want them to benefit from your forgiveness and I know how that feels but I hope you learn that forgiveness is freeing and vital
To me it's just sad how many people don't understand how freeing it really is to just let go of resentment, spite and pain.
I know because I know how to forgive that forgiveness doesn't have to benefit the wrong doer.. that's the point of not having to be in contact with the person you've forgiven whether it be for safety or whatever it is.. forgiveness is something that happens in ur spirit where you choose to hope that person changes and becomes better you choose to let go of the pain they've caused you and you choose to move on with life hoping only that they change and letting go of what that version of them did to you and they may never change but at least you don't have to hold the experience they caused you in ur spirit you don't have to forget and we all have every right to defend and protect ourselves from wrongdoers but wrongdoers are capable of change as well and it's honestly not about the person you're forgiving it's about seeing outside of that person and what they've done to you and focusing on how it's made you view them and view people in general I know personally that it's not my place to hold any harsh feelings of anybody or to hold onto my past I don't forget what caused it so I can be safe going forward but I just choose to change my outlook on it. That's just me tho to each their own ig 😕
This narration spoke volumes ‘I will not stoop low to other people’s levels’ and ‘I would rather be free than right’…I will keep these affirmations
Thought you guys had co parenting dinners and outings together. Now you don’t talk hardly to each other. Maybe I’m confused.. but great job trying to make him have a good Father’s Day.
that’s only when they’re fucking
I know right ? Did I miss something
Girl, yes, that’s lovely and a great example.
Way to actually walk out and LIVE the principles of recovery!!!! So impressed Abbey❤❤❤❤
You are such a good human. All my mom did was talk badly about my father after they divorced when I was young. I am so glad you are so mature and kind enough to think of him on Father’s Day and to realize that he is the father of your beautiful daughter no matter what.
That quote is soooo powerful and exactly what I needed to hear right about now where I’m at in my walk of life!!❤❤❤❤
As a child of divorce my parents always made sure the other had a gift for mothers/fathers day and their birthdays ❤️ even if it was just helping me choose or pay for the gift it always meant a lot that they still care for one another even though there was anlot of hatred and bitterness at first
You are such an amazing role model. In a world where there aren't too many, it's a breath of fresh air. You are a dang rock star. Thank you for sharing your advice and experiences with us.
It’s so refreshing to see that you do this for your daughter! It’s so nice that you don’t let your relationship with Bobby dictate how myla sees him. You lead a great example🫶
Yes girl!! I wish my parents had had the same mindset when they split up.
I think that's been a good mom❤❤❤❤
What happened though? Y’all were going on weekly coparenting dates and doing things together? It was sweet😩
thats her and bobbies buisness, not yours
she gotta stop broadcasting it then @@a_m1m1r
It was all for the app LMAO
@@a_m1m1r no our business when she’s posted about him nonstop and all about their custody agreement? It’s not our business to ask why she’s no longer even speaking to Myla’s dad? She posts all about Myla too. That’s such an ignorant comment when she posts her entire life on this app
Happy Father’s Day Bobby!!❤ I love how y’all still work together it’s amazing!! 🥲
This will definitely send a positive message to myla. I know I feel the same when my divorced parents are kind to each other. Good on you!
You are so strong for this and I aspire to have that power
That is really nice of you just bc you hate someone doesn’t mean you can’t be nice and that’s what you showed people today
As a child of divorced parents, this is amazing! If my parents were big enough to do this instead of all the nasty things, i would have felt so warm even though there isn't one home anymore. Great job mama, very proud of how you put the peace first 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This is so crazy and speaks volumes 😊
even if she doesn’t realize how amazing you are for this myla is def gonna appreciate it later and you really just made a big difference for her memories as someone with divorced parents i would love for mine to coparent healthily and i would give anything for my mom to act like you do ty for spreading your light❤️❤️
I love this. My mom’s best friend is going through a divorce right now. On Mother’s Day, the father of her children wouldn’t let them see their mom. He eventually let them spend the night with her but they didn’t give her a gift or even a hug or say happy Mother’s Day. They weren’t taught how to love their mom from their dad. Their dad didn’t set the example for them and you doing this, setting an example, will change your daughter’s life forever.
You are a beautiful human, on the inside and on the out.
Hi!! I absolutely respect you and your family’s dynamic and trust that the dynamic you talked about works. I just wanted to share my perspective, being a child of an early divorce. I was similarly the “middle man”, communicating between my parents because they couldn’t communicate effectively themselves. They thought it was harmless and I stepped up to the plate; but ultimately, it collapsed me and put so much pressure on little me that I couldn’t tell them the system wasn’t working after so long. Being a child and having the responsibility of two parents is hard. I wish my parents had checked up on me about that more often, and worked to find ways to communicate slowly. But once again, my goal isn’t to project! Just wish the best for you all:)
You truly have grown over many of the things he or you may have done continuing to grow will show your child that resentment doesn’t have to be a problem I have family members that have tried to divide our family over smaller things than most have gone through stay strong stay grown ❤
you’re doing great. i wish other parents would have the same morals as you. my parents divorced and i always had to fill the hole like mimi does for you guys. thank you and stay gorgeous
Crying as someone who is giving the father of my child another chance ...the things you said about being angry had me almost in tears
It's part of the 12 step recovery..And that was awesom of you..
my mom always resented my dad and it made me super uncomfortable. what you did here was so important❤
The phrase "do you want to be right or do you want to be free?" Has been my moment of pause so many times through my sobriety. Thank you and Bless you and all of the family
Why did this make me cry?? I wish my parents were like this. My life would’ve been 10x easier.😢❤
As someone who had parents that didn’t coparent well and never spoke to one another, thank you for being a healthy representation and it makes my heart so happy to see your little girl get this treatment 🩷 little things like this make a world of a difference
God Bless you are amazing! You are taking the road less traveled, the High Road!
WOW! “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be free?” That’s now my new motto.. I wanna be free! & w God’s spirits & love, I know I’ll be free here soon! I love the way you continue to show your daughter what an incredible momma you really are! 🩷
I’m so so happy to see you working past your feelings for your child. I wish my parents could’ve been the same 💔 Keep doing what you’re doing cuz it’s amazing!!
Your videos make it seem like you talked more often and got along super well, and i know we only see seconds long shorta but thats why you shouldnt assume you know whats going on in these youtubers lives.
Right vs Free is a beautiful way to put things in perspective ❤
You just said many times you and Bobby are good friends co-parenting with him over Mila now you dont speak very strange
Even good friends stop talking not just because of something happening
She said they don’t talk often; not not at all
Respectfully, relationships change and she has zero obligation to share when and if those changes are happening. What’s the purpose of this comment?
I’m very confused myself ! She’s always made it seem like they are very close and very cordial. Now they don’t speak??? Lies I tell you LIES !
@@napqueen9377 that part.
I have tried SO HARD to be the bigger person with my ex husband so that my children don’t suffer. He is soo mean behind closed doors and I can only take so much. Our co-parent relationship is constantly changing. Nobody knows this but me and obviously him. It sucks, but it is what it is. I’m sure it’s the same for her and of course she is not gonna broadcast the nitty gritty!
Yup. It’s important . Thank you for trying.
Love you Abbey. You're doing such great work and you're inspiring so many of us who are just trying to do what's best for our kids. You're teaching not only Myla, but honestly the parenting community. I really hope you know how wonderful you are ❤
They say we have to forgive to forget and it’s honestly deeper than we give it credit for. We forgive so we can live with less of the trauma they gave us in our bodies. We forgive so we heal those wounds that have left scars on our souls in hopes that one day that scar just disappears and we won’t flinch it’s touched. I don’t know why I’m crying over this but I am cause it’s true
That's so sweet
This voice over sings to me. Thank you
You are freaking amazing!!!!!!! ❤🎉 you go girl!!! The devil is under your feet!!!!! Not today satan! Your doing so good, I am so proud of you and just to be in your community watching you grow and also learning from you has been a true blessing!!! God bless your heart my dear girl xoxo God has something very special with you never forget that!!! Jesus love you so much and you're doing an amazing job!!! ❤
I am an adult of divorced parents and this type of peace is nowhere in sight. Yesterday was a nightmare though it’s been 18 years. The boundaries and respect you have for Myla are inspiring - beautiful life. ❤
You and Bobby seemed to be doing so well. I hope he can be open to the peace God has given you as well. I miss seeing videos of you both spending time together with Myla. It set such a beautiful example.
Thank you for this important message. I’m kind but I noticed I’m so bitter at times. I need to learn to forgive so I can feel free. You are also such an amazing mother! I’m learning some tips from you so when the time comes and I become a mother I can do things the healthy way 💗
Oh my goodness I love this I had one of these for my daughter and unfortunately I got into an abusive relationship and he ripped up all the pictures. This was 17 years ago so they were definitely priceless. However though I left him after that.. but I love this and you're such a strong woman
Teaching your daughter insight to truly loving; that she will carry with her into her future and gaze into her memories that you created for her; something that will allow her to feel honorable in her elder years. 👏
That’s beautiful. Very proud of you
You are such a good and a supportive mom. I love you so much. I wish the world for you.
To be transparent with you this is how I grew up with my parents being split since birth. And I grew up awesome rad and well adjusted and funny but I do warn you they did come back together somewhat at 60 when the dust of life died down lol you’re a wonderful momma 🫶🏼💘
Ohh you was hanging out with him alot..as long if your good!❤❤❤
Thank you for this. I’ve been struggling to find the best way to communicate with my kids dad and it’s been horrible. I want to be free.
Yass girl ... being the bigger person is love. God bless u and your family ❤
i love this video so much, my parents were young when they had me. i never saw positivity on holidays. my dad hates every picture that he has of me, him and my mom. they barely communicate. the mutual respect between you and your ex is beautiful and i think that’s amazing for your daughter. i love your channel and i’m so happy you don’t hide this part of your past.
You are spreading love to the world. thank you for this post!
Love this! ❤
I love that! Would ya rather be right? Or free! That's a new spin on a Dr. Phil ism. Love love love.
You truly are such a great mother you go out of your way to do everything you can to give that sweet little girl the best life and that is so beautiful. ❤❤❤
Aw thats sweet....wish my dad was that way when I was younger. He would always talk bad about my mom..I told him to stop and he dident listen...he still does it. But some people don't realize the impact on the child. And im sure it makes your daughter happy.
I love this, I sometimes hold resentment towards my husband and it’s not a good feeling, it is truly freeing to let that shit go.
You’re such a good role model to your daughter and everyone around you I’m so glad you’re alive and sharing your beautiful life and story with us. I feel privileged to know of you. 🫶🏻
Thats such a kind and grateful gesture...regardless thanx 2 u both u have a sweet babygirl 2 love on and enjoy life w 4 many beautiful yrs to come
You’re a queen. I haven’t scrolled enough to see if you get hate, but I hope if you do, you don’t listen to any of it. You’re doing great, and sharing how to navigate this well. You’re an icon.
As a daughter of divorced parents I want to tell that what your are doing is AMAZING. When I was little, even if they were hurt, my parents kept in contact and talked really nicely about each other. I only found out a little bit of what actually happed recently (11 years after it). Divorced families are usually very toxic so I’m extremely greatful that my parents chose to act like adults and provide love and as much stability as they could to me and my brother. Doing this kind of things might be hard for you but you are making the right choice.
Sorry if my English is bad, it’s not my first language and I’m crying a bit while writing this. It’s really rare to see parents putting their disagreements aside and actually care for their children.
Practicing & exhibiting grace, I think this is a really thoughtful gift, I hope he loves it ❤ no matter what, you both put Myla first. You are both really amazing parents 😊
Wow. Look at you. Growing and stuff. What a great lesson to us all.
You are such a strong beautiful woman
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Love this!!! I absolutely love the message you’re sending ❤❤❤❤❤
My parents are divorced and I remember my mom did something like this for my dad and I was so excited I was so happy handing it to him and was so proud but it was really my mom who helped me do this. You are doing amazing things and make Myla so so happy because she has a supporting family. This video made me my cry and I didn’t really think I was going to do thank you because I needed this cry. ❤
I’ve been co-parenting with my oldest daughter’s dad for 13 years now (she was 2 weeks old when he ended the relationship 😕) and there are highs and lows but we promised to never bad mouth each other in front of her and we have always done “custody” on our own and never through the court. Honestly, as much as I do not like him many times, I’m proud of how well we have co-parented for these 13 years ❤ It’s never easy but if both parties try, it can be done. Having a third party is definitely good for those times that you just don’t want to speak to each other- I never had that but wish in the beginning I had. You are doing a tremendous job 👏🏼
Thank you for making content. You are inspiring and so many ways to other parents who go through divorce and to children as well. I love your content and can’t wait for more. Bless you and your family ❤
I love your videos so much One of the reasons that I love your videos is because me and Myla both are switching houses And my mom and dad have a very good friendship and your videos are just so relatable to me and that’s just one reason why I love your videos. There’s so many more. I wish the best to you Myla and Bobby❤❤❤❤
How lovely been a single parent and not always easy but like you mila always comes first and as you say not always easy but you are a great mum ❤
THE LONG NAILS ARE BACK 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
You’re a good mom ❤
I love this for you so much trust me you have grown and found a healthy way to live, You are doing great 💕
You do what you gotta do girly!!!❤❤❤❤
You're speaking the truth!
I’m being totally honest… After being married for 14 years and separated for 2 years now. My daughter’s Father would actually deep down like or love it. But especially if it’s pics he’s already seen it may bring him conflicting emotions since we’ve both moved on. His girlfriend he has now wouldn’t appreciate it I’m sure and if our daughter saw all the weird vibes between everyone when he opened it it would be confusing or maybe overwhelming.
She is a teen now and fyi I broke up with my husband, so it would be selfish to jeopardize his new happiness or progress. I mailed him a thank you card this year for Fathers Day that was respectful and loving enough to show my appreciation.
abbey I am so proud of you you are the only person I see on here that really explains and tells us the real life im a kid of a split family as well and I can’t really explain how much your videos almost help me cope with the trauma I had to endure as a kid❤💕
thank you for showing us an example of how coparenting can go. the internet warps the concept of healthy coparenting and just shows all the bad things. thank you for your positive message 🫶🏻
Ive always admired this about you Abby. Youre teach your child how to be mature in certain situations. Shes gonna be an amazing human being when she becomes an adult. She is learning how to do the right thing. That when you have children you have to put some feelings aside. I'm a single mom and I have SO many hard feelings towards my ex. Anyway... 💜💜
So lovley I'm sure he'll treasure it forever
When my husband and i split for a year your channel literally kept me acting sane and not doing things i regret later. We have a daughter too and watching videos of you being nice to bobby when i know its hard made me think i can do the same ❤
Gosh you teach me so much I didn't do a gift this year and I do regret it way to go mama be free❤❤❤❤🎉🎉 thank you for helping the journey not feel so alone
You are so cool with how you handle everthing❤
amazing mother like i wish my parants where like that growing up like oml and getting gifts to the person that gave you sober 2/4 of your life like wow abut i know it’s for your child and i sooo support that 😊 keep being an awesome mother 😊
Cute idea. Only if Myla came up with it on her own & i wouldn't include you in any pictures 🤷 just the two of them
She goes from jumping all over him and saying how close they are to saying they're not very close like a yoyo
Okay that’s her relationship with him not yours
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