That's a profound realization! Developing the courage to make decisions, regardless of the outcome, is a cornerstone of personal growth. It reflects a mindset of learning and evolving through experiences.
How wonderful! I didn't learn it until my late 30s. I was always a victim until I got tired of suffering and began to explore "why"? What a life changing revelation ❤. It's been a beautifully painful journey full of rewards and healing.
That sentence has no meaning, because "best" can be whatever. If you make a choice, realize it's a bad choice and correct your path because of it, then you haven't made the "best" out of it in the contextual meaning of the word.
Unbelievably I am pretty much faced with all 3 dilemmas right now... and I even was contemplating a house that was right next to a train tracks recently (thankfully choice was made for me and it went off the market, i didnt want to live near a train track)... It is spookily on point! Always at the right time these videos, thanks!
This came at exactly the right time; I was just constatering whether to stay or go with regard to my job. I work now almost 25:years in an university environment. This week something happened with regard to integrity which made me realise: i do not think I should go on. The social atmosphere is really not healthy. Finally it seems I am ready to make the step elsewhere. At the same time, it is very scary because this job is familiar. It also has prestige and possivilities to do meaningful, deep, research. So it will be a jump in deep waters. I consider finally to go on seriously with my own business. Thank you for this video. It makes me realise that both professional directions offer opportunities.
Good luck to you! 👍🍀 Maybe the new thing will have its flipsides too, but I feel that taking our values seriously and following them is good and makes us more alive and content. I sometimes ask myself whether I would regret it in the future if I haven’t tried something. If the answer is yes, then I know my decision.
This is mind-blowing just finished my therapy session an hour ago and we were actually discussing this topic. The timing of this.Love you, The School of Life. Thanks for feeding us food for thoughts.
Thank you, School of Life! After torturing myself for several months for not being able to make a decision that appears to be the hardest of my life so far - this video actually seems to make the drop hight felt a bit smaller. Your videos really are a gift.
We rarely, if ever, have all the information we need to make "the best decision"; fact is to do so we would need a crystal ball. So, assess what information you have, cross your fingers, pray, knock wood, whatever is your inclination and then decide..
my mentor once told me there must be a practical choices for risks, life is not what we intended to or perhaps majority does. we will never really knew what future holds until it becomes the present. whether that risk is worth it or not, impractical or not, beautiful or not.
I am amazed how seldom the subject of decision making is discussed. To me it is deeply interesting on many levels. For me so many choices seem 50/50. When I'm really sure I want something or to do something I'm overjoyed to be free of painful ambiguity.
I am truly sorry for people who are overwhelmed by choices and get stuck trying to make decisions. I had a close friend who I eventually moved away from because she was perennially stuck and unable to make hard choices and change her life (immediately or eventually for the better). She said herself that she's a dreamer. I'm not like that. I am very confident about decision-making, research and analyze a lot, and decide fairly quickly. I almost never regret choices once I've made them, recognizing they may not be perfect but they're good enough and I can live with the results. Perfectionist tendencies are the death of effective decision-making and ability to move forward. A lot of people are in the perfectionist camp.
It has nothing to do with her dreaming though. It has been built around the dismissive reaction she got from those closest to her when she did anything. Tone is seriously important.
we hyperfocus on our choices because they are the only realms in which we feel control. it’s really nice to feel in control and really disheartening to not. and it can be really hard to accept how little agency we have i hope to imbibe the final point here that in the end it’s all gonna end up ambivalent anyway
I took the job offer. Things might not go well at the new place but I will never know if my job could be any better if I don’t take opportunities when I’m confronted by them. It won’t be life changing in the sense people usually mean, but it literally will be life changing and sometimes that’s all we need: fresh scenery
Happiness doesn’t come from perfect choices, as every decision has its pros and cons. Choose decisively and live fully, rather than obsessing over right or wrong.
I have just tasted massive failure in my 5 year qualification program and now they kicked me out. This video is almost feel like it was made for me. Thanks.
i have a long time had a break from school of life, but found that I can watch these movies again if a double the speed of the videos and greatful for the content
Decision making has always been hard for me, even if it's just deciding what to order at a restaurant. Recently I was reading a book (Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin) and there was a quote along the lines of "Is there any decision you feel you wouldn't be punished for?" and I was just like....oh.... yeah that.
Time is the only resource. Do SOMETHING. Anything. Even if you're mostly uncertain, it's better to accomplish a task so that something gets done rather than wait until some unknown moment that will probably never arrive. "Tomorrow" is a dangerous word. Especially when it is preceded by "I'll do it". 😉 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Time is the only resource for which no creature may bargain..." --DD1 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
Tough decisions only appear tough when all options seem equally good, so they´re all good. There is a Ted Talk and tough decisions by some asian women named Wong I think.
But does it mean we should take the easy pathways as they are easy and not challenging. Is taking higher roads, working hard not going to help me have a better life ? Well then we will stop pushing or aiming for smthg bigger.
I’d say having goals or directions is good and healthy, but yes, sometimes decisions come with challenges. Especially if we try to live up to our values, the path isn’t always easy, but worthwhile nevertheless. Working too hard and chasing our goals is counterproductive though (and exhausting). Trusting and allowing might be a better choice. Good luck to you.🍀
I was just thinking about a very serious life decision and am very happy to discover that the perspective provided here lives up to its title! Fascinating video too! Reminds me a bit of the classic *I SPY* picture books!
Decision fatigue is real! This film offers valuable insights into making calm and rational decisions. Embracing uncertainty and accepting imperfection can be incredibly liberating!
What's the name of the boardgame used in this video? Thank you! And also very true that everyone's life will have bad days, weather in relationships, at home or at work, we can't avoid them but we can make the best out of them. It all comes down to thoughts -> decissions -> actions -> habbits.
This is such a refreshing perspective on decision-making. It’s easy to get caught up in the belief that there’s one ‘perfect’ choice, but your explanation reminds me of something that often guides me: the importance of embracing the flow of life and accepting imperfection. Every path has its joys and challenges, and true freedom lies in understanding that perfection isn’t the goal-balance is. What’s a choice you’ve made recently where this perspective brought you clarity and peace?
Why did you open with buying a property. I can guarantee you most of the people the algorithm showed this to will never be able to afford to. The rest is great....just....why
But you can not know, if these bad decisions were bad or good for your life. One bad thing could have prevented ten other bad things from happening. Or different decision might be even worse, you just can't know. Maybe it isn't about good or bad, maybe we need to find peace?
False problem... You have to take a decision even to not take a decision 😂 Every single concient moment of your life you take decisions 🤷 Also the ideea that we don't have agency because we don't know the outcome is deeply flawed... There are a huge number of ways to predict the outcome of decisions sometime with swiss wach accuracy😂, but knowledge is essential 🤷 Don't tel me aircraft pilots just do guess work 😂😂😂😂😂 Ps There is no such thing as decision fatigue. It's just overwhelming responsabylity. 🤷 Let the roll of a dice decide if chose to marry or not a serial killer? 🤪
Wow! What a load of feel good bullshit. It is very naive and ignorant to think "one option is just as good and awful as the other". What if you are in a violent relationship, but you are dealing with anxiety, and you don't have anybody else to depend on, so you are affraid to leave? And so you are caught in a negative loop if you stay, but might be homeless if you leave. Sometimes, there really is a better choice, but you might not have the time or the right mental or economic resources to make that decision. What if your mother is dying from an illness, and you know you should spend time with her, but you are stressed from work and heartbroken about her, so it's easier to drink and party with your friends? What if the house you ended up buying turned out to have lots of mold and rot, but you didn't know beforehand, because you didn't have enough money to pay a surveyor? Yes, this explanation might be comforting you have analysis paralysis and all the options for your "hard decisions" are "pretty decent". But for a lot of people, the options they have in front of them are much less than decent. And this video's point of view comes from a very ignorant and privileged position.
I learned at a young age that getting into the habit of making decisions-whether good or bad-is essential to living a life filled with growth.
That's a profound realization! Developing the courage to make decisions, regardless of the outcome, is a cornerstone of personal growth. It reflects a mindset of learning and evolving through experiences.
How wonderful! I didn't learn it until my late 30s. I was always a victim until I got tired of suffering and began to explore "why"? What a life changing revelation ❤. It's been a beautifully painful journey full of rewards and healing.
@ hope you’re having a wonderful life! I’m just 27 and wish to make the most of my time here on this planet.
I’m happy you did. I didn’t, which has led me to a life filled with doubt, fear and stagnation.
The key to life is not always making the best choice...but making the best of the choices you make.
That sentence has no meaning, because "best" can be whatever. If you make a choice, realize it's a bad choice and correct your path because of it, then you haven't made the "best" out of it in the contextual meaning of the word.
Love the name!😂
Make the choice you can live with, and live with it
Oh damn I had to screenshot this. God like knowledge right here.
Thats a great one thx
Not only is this exactly what I needed right now, but one of the examples is precisely what I’m going through.
It's the house next to the railroad right? Right?
Unbelievably I am pretty much faced with all 3 dilemmas right now... and I even was contemplating a house that was right next to a train tracks recently (thankfully choice was made for me and it went off the market, i didnt want to live near a train track)... It is spookily on point! Always at the right time these videos, thanks!
me too
There's relief in knowing there is no perfect
In short: choose your joy, choose your pain, for you are never far from either.
On any one day you can massively change the direction of your life.
- Jim Rohn
This is my favourite quote.
I’m not sure if you’ll read this School of Life - … but thank you for these short films. ADHD doesn’t apply to me when you’re teaching 🤘
This came at exactly the right time; I was just constatering whether to stay or go with regard to my job. I work now almost 25:years in an university environment. This week something happened with regard to integrity which made me realise: i do not think I should go on. The social atmosphere is really not healthy. Finally it seems I am ready to make the step elsewhere. At the same time, it is very scary because this job is familiar. It also has prestige and possivilities to do meaningful, deep, research. So it will be a jump in deep waters. I consider finally to go on seriously with my own business. Thank you for this video. It makes me realise that both professional directions offer opportunities.
Good luck to you! 👍🍀 Maybe the new thing will have its flipsides too, but I feel that taking our values seriously and following them is good and makes us more alive and content. I sometimes ask myself whether I would regret it in the future if I haven’t tried something. If the answer is yes, then I know my decision.
@ thank you for this kind and helpful answer!
Comforting reminder for those predisposed to analysis paralysis.
The privilege of having choices!
This is mind-blowing just finished my therapy session an hour ago and we were actually discussing this topic. The timing of this.Love you, The School of Life. Thanks for feeding us food for thoughts.
“Anyone we end up with is going to have their dispiriting sides” Tell me about it, Mr. de Botton
Thank you, School of Life! After torturing myself for several months for not being able to make a decision that appears to be the hardest of my life so far - this video actually seems to make the drop hight felt a bit smaller. Your videos really are a gift.
We rarely, if ever, have all the information we need to make "the best decision"; fact is to do so we would need a crystal ball. So, assess what information you have, cross your fingers, pray, knock wood, whatever is your inclination and then decide..
my mentor once told me there must be a practical choices for risks, life is not what we intended to or perhaps majority does. we will never really knew what future holds until it becomes the present. whether that risk is worth it or not, impractical or not, beautiful or not.
I am amazed how seldom the subject of decision making is discussed. To me it is deeply interesting on many levels. For me so many choices seem 50/50. When I'm really sure I want something or to do something I'm overjoyed to be free of painful ambiguity.
We should appreciate the days of our youth when we have plenty of free time and make use of this little time for learning as well
I am truly sorry for people who are overwhelmed by choices and get stuck trying to make decisions. I had a close friend who I eventually moved away from because she was perennially stuck and unable to make hard choices and change her life (immediately or eventually for the better). She said herself that she's a dreamer.
I'm not like that. I am very confident about decision-making, research and analyze a lot, and decide fairly quickly. I almost never regret choices once I've made them, recognizing they may not be perfect but they're good enough and I can live with the results.
Perfectionist tendencies are the death of effective decision-making and ability to move forward. A lot of people are in the perfectionist camp.
It has nothing to do with her dreaming though. It has been built around the dismissive reaction she got from those closest to her when she did anything. Tone is seriously important.
we hyperfocus on our choices because they are the only realms in which we feel control. it’s really nice to feel in control and really disheartening to not. and it can be really hard to accept how little agency we have
i hope to imbibe the final point here that in the end it’s all gonna end up ambivalent anyway
The bad thing is we have not much control. The good thing is we have not much control. 😅
I took the job offer. Things might not go well at the new place but I will never know if my job could be any better if I don’t take opportunities when I’m confronted by them. It won’t be life changing in the sense people usually mean, but it literally will be life changing and sometimes that’s all we need: fresh scenery
Happiness doesn’t come from perfect choices, as every decision has its pros and cons. Choose decisively and live fully, rather than obsessing over right or wrong.
I have just tasted massive failure in my 5 year qualification program and now they kicked me out.
This video is almost feel like it was made for me. Thanks.
Buy the stock, take the ride. Don’t chase a salary when young, take risks. Don’t be normal
This video is the most reasonable way to say, "Do anything in your choices, it will have goods' AND bads' both. Cant have just one"
Its about choosing to live happy everyday despite the circumstances
Visuals are REALLY well done! Congrats!
There is no "perfect" choice. But if you look carefully and see one which has more good than bad, perhaps that's the one worth following.
Great video. Wonderfully written & the "board game" style of presentation works great for the topic. :)
For someone who has no gray area, this is really helpful. Thank you!
I literally just made one decision out of the three discussed in the video and pondering on the other two!!!
Do it or don't do it, you're going to regret both
The key to life is not always making the best choice
i have a long time had a break from school of life, but found that I can watch these movies again if a double the speed of the videos and greatful for the content
Thank you for stating Israel's crimes so clearly and calmly
Very well timed, as always ! The school of life, you have done it again 👏 ❤
You are my hero! ❤
Buzzword this week
Or rather
I've learnt and then heard this term one more time in 24 hours.
There are no perfect solutions. Everything is a Trade-Off - Thomas Sowell
"The choice may have been mistaken, the choosing was not"
Decision making has always been hard for me, even if it's just deciding what to order at a restaurant. Recently I was reading a book (Real Self Care by Pooja Lakshmin) and there was a quote along the lines of "Is there any decision you feel you wouldn't be punished for?" and I was just like....oh.... yeah that.
🪄✨ Blessing here is, No Matter What Choices You Make, You Always have The Option to make That Choice Right.
wait... so how was it to conquer again? 😢
Kierkegaard and existentialism. Recommended for everyone
0:33 We had that Apple II growing up, as a handy down. Double 5.25" floppy drives and a whole lot of floppy diskettes. Pre-modem.
Time is the only resource. Do SOMETHING. Anything. Even if you're mostly uncertain, it's better to accomplish a task so that something gets done rather than wait until some unknown moment that will probably never arrive.
"Tomorrow" is a dangerous word. Especially when it is preceded by "I'll do it". 😉
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Time is the only resource for which no creature may bargain..." --DD1
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
U explain correctly what's going on with my life rn
Dont make choices when you are upset
Getting into MMA has helped me with decision making.
However, I am open to other avenues for improvement
This should've been released before the US election. Because it applies to presidential candidates
Tough decisions only appear tough when all options seem equally good, so they´re all good. There is a Ted Talk and tough decisions by some asian women named Wong I think.
But does it mean we should take the easy pathways as they are easy and not challenging. Is taking higher roads, working hard not going to help me have a better life ? Well then we will stop pushing or aiming for smthg bigger.
I’d say having goals or directions is good and healthy, but yes, sometimes decisions come with challenges. Especially if we try to live up to our values, the path isn’t always easy, but worthwhile nevertheless. Working too hard and chasing our goals is counterproductive though (and exhausting). Trusting and allowing might be a better choice. Good luck to you.🍀
This didn’t help me decide at all, if anything it made trying to decide between A and B harder 😩
I was just thinking about a very serious life decision and am very happy to discover that the perspective provided here lives up to its title!
Fascinating video too! Reminds me a bit of the classic *I SPY* picture books!
I'd like to to have the trouble of not being able to choose between two houses.
The joys of having free will 🤔
try to make do with what you have in whatever situation you find yourself in.
Decision fatigue is real! This film offers valuable insights into making calm and rational decisions. Embracing uncertainty and accepting imperfection can be incredibly liberating!
This is basically the premise of the poem "A road less traveled" from Robert Frost
Dont follow the crowds best decision ever
Thank youuuu I needed this video
Love the animation❤
Thank you.
I'm burnt out on making choices.
Read Annie Duke - How to decide
What's the name of the boardgame used in this video? Thank you! And also very true that everyone's life will have bad days, weather in relationships, at home or at work, we can't avoid them but we can make the best out of them. It all comes down to thoughts -> decissions -> actions -> habbits.
This is such a refreshing perspective on decision-making. It’s easy to get caught up in the belief that there’s one ‘perfect’ choice, but your explanation reminds me of something that often guides me: the importance of embracing the flow of life and accepting imperfection. Every path has its joys and challenges, and true freedom lies in understanding that perfection isn’t the goal-balance is.
What’s a choice you’ve made recently where this perspective brought you clarity and peace?
Get well soon, voice guy
Despite who or whatever just annoyed you earlier , you’re still on a spinning rock flying thru space smaller than a barnacle unable to see particles
Video diving into the deep stuff. Meanwhile, I can't choose a simple color palette for a design. 😔
Misleading title af. It didn't answer the title question.
Why did you open with buying a property. I can guarantee you most of the people the algorithm showed this to will never be able to afford to. The rest is great....just....why
Kirkegaard!
what purpose ego serves, whats good ego look like
You are best
every decision is 50% wrong:)
Yay a new video
lovely
I regret many decisions I made in my life
But you can not know, if these bad decisions were bad or good for your life. One bad thing could have prevented ten other bad things from happening. Or different decision might be even worse, you just can't know. Maybe it isn't about good or bad, maybe we need to find peace?
...as the Germans say: "Woanders is' auch scheiße."
This explains a loy
The timing of this video in my life. Hmm.
I love the content but perhaps not speaking directly at the microphone could avoid the spitting sound in the recording.
Wow...
❤❤❤
Just right 🎉❤😅
False problem... You have to take a decision even to not take a decision 😂
Every single concient moment of your life you take decisions 🤷
Also the ideea that we don't have agency because we don't know the outcome is deeply flawed... There are a huge number of ways to predict the outcome of decisions sometime with swiss wach accuracy😂, but knowledge is essential 🤷
Don't tel me aircraft pilots just do guess work 😂😂😂😂😂
Ps
There is no such thing as decision fatigue. It's just overwhelming responsabylity. 🤷
Let the roll of a dice decide if chose to marry or not a serial killer? 🤪
shut up about fatalism and calculate expected utility
Meow
Wow! What a load of feel good bullshit. It is very naive and ignorant to think "one option is just as good and awful as the other".
What if you are in a violent relationship, but you are dealing with anxiety, and you don't have anybody else to depend on, so you are affraid to leave? And so you are caught in a negative loop if you stay, but might be homeless if you leave. Sometimes, there really is a better choice, but you might not have the time or the right mental or economic resources to make that decision. What if your mother is dying from an illness, and you know you should spend time with her, but you are stressed from work and heartbroken about her, so it's easier to drink and party with your friends? What if the house you ended up buying turned out to have lots of mold and rot, but you didn't know beforehand, because you didn't have enough money to pay a surveyor?
Yes, this explanation might be comforting you have analysis paralysis and all the options for your "hard decisions" are "pretty decent". But for a lot of people, the options they have in front of them are much less than decent. And this video's point of view comes from a very ignorant and privileged position.
great animation
My choice was easy; Trump 🇺🇲🫡