SISTER -2- SISTER | Mothers STOP Stressing Your Daughters About Getting MARRIED & Having CHILDREN!🚫
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100% RIGHT. I've been through DV and it was hard. With two little kids and all for what? Because I was too naive to realize that wasn't the right man. Now I'm nearly 50 and all I've achieved in my life I did it with my strength, but it was hard. Fumi, you talk like the sister I wanted to have by my side to guide me instead of judging me. That was what ny actual sister did. And my mum? She understood but she wasn't able to break trough my wall of illusion.
Girls, listen to lady Fumi.❤
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And unfortunately, those SAME mothers have raised boys into men who are not husband material. So the disconnected cycle continues.
Exactly. It's so sad
So very true, but yet these severely incomplete men still manage to find a wife who drains herself to maintain a marriage.
TRUE!!!!
Absolutely women must raise successful loving sons who marry and have children with love and stability being the primary goal...❤️
True, my own mum to date asks me as a 33 year old to give to my brothers who are in their late 20s and 30s. She was raised to believe a woman must take care of everyone and expects the same of me . African mothers raise weak men and masculine girls (unless the girls refuse to be masculinised )
Fumi you touch my heart. I am 53, never married. I am a happy teacher, auntie, daughter, friend, neighbour and foster mum by distance. Once I got to my early 30s I was challenged by self worth issues since I was single, and I felt I had no real status in my family, I didn't count. It took me until I was 48 to remember that I have a value. Still single. And I am trusting my Creator, walking in total trust now for what He has planned for me. Now I am focused on my own health. Thank you for inspiring me! And thank you for your beautiful mother's heart.
Trust me it’s better to be single than in a marriage from hell. Single thriving in peace is the best .if God blesses you with a spouse it should not cause drama in your life you should still have peace
Peace Of Mind is the absolute gift Sis. You are not alone ❤❤❤
Bless you. I will be 45 this year and you just told my story except I chose to be a writer over educating. We are gonna make it; we got this!
A Fumi Nation Dating Site. Yes, outstanding idea Fumi..What a gift that would be for your Fumi family both women and men.💯👍🏾❤️😁
It must have been so hard for you back then , being single in your 30s 20 years ago was like a death sentence to society
I wished girls were raised to just focus on exploring life and having lived experiences. Not rushing to get married and to have kids
PREEEEEEEACH!!! You are 1000% right!
At 55, I am single and have no children, and I have enjoyed every moment of this life (yup, the good, the bad, and the ugly). I have gone through two career changes and had opportunities that took me across North America and Europe. Not sure if it was a self-fulfilling prophecy, but when I was in my early 20s, I always said if I got married or not and had children or not, I would be okay with it. I was engaged once 13 years ago and broke off that engagement a year later. My mother cannot understand why I have not gotten married and constantly worries about me being alone. I always felt I was destined to do something great, and I felt that if God had someone for me when the time was right, HE would present him, and if not, I would keep moving forward.
What I've noticed is that most people in healthy relationships/marriages won't put pressure on anyone to get married. They'll be advocates for love definitely, but they won't pressure anyone. It's the ones in toxic, unhealthy, unloving situations that will pressure you to get married, when they themselves aren't even a good example of what a marriage should be 😒
Spot on!
Culture also plays a role. Regardless, no one should pressure their children. This doesn’t only happen to the girls.
Because they hate to see you single and happy .
I have experienced the same scenario
@@temitopeej8407 I agree
I thank God for my mother. I'm 38 and single. All my mother has constantly reminded me to do is freeze my eggs. She says, darling do it for you and no one else. This is a woman that had me at 25. This is for the 1% mums that don't nag their daughters. 💕
Wonderful mom and good for you sis❤
My mum was also like that. Rest her soul❤
Go Mom!!
❤ kindly do it dear
OMG! Thank you for Fumi for talking about this. I went through this in my late 20’s. I got married to get away from my mother. It was very bad verbal abuse and shaming.
I made the wrong decision and ended up with a physically and emotionally abusive man. He used my family connections to enrich himself all the while abusing me. I left him with my 2 children and have never looked back. This was 30 years ago.
I was fortunate to have support from my father and uncles, the women were judgmental and horrible. My professional life is great, I’m doing well and so are my sons who are now in their 30s.
I’m going to celebrate my 60th in the fall, God willing. Young ladies, take your time. Don’t let your mothers push you into marriage to satisfy their own egos. If you decide that you do desire marriage, ask yourself why and take your time. Listen to the wise women in your life like Fumi.
Fumi, your traditional wedding was beautiful. I love our traditions.
Thank you for sharing this ma'am 🙏
I understand why mothers would want their daughters to get married, but for the life of me, I do not understand the cruelty they speak with, the insensitiveness, the blind authority! Wake up moms, we have achieved 10x of things you couldn't dream of. Humble yourself and be grateful that you have successful kids.
I just came from a cousin's introduction ceremony 1 hour ago. This is the first step among three steps to marriage in my culture. My cousin is male and 3 years younger than me. In the speeches, they told him he did well by marrying "early". Remember, he is 3 years older than me. After the event and speeches when guests are talking, the same elders told me I'm getting late, etc. I always tell them, that's a God thing. It has nothing to do with my power as a human. It silences them completely.
As a true Christian, not once have I seen God fail me. Even when i thought he did, it made sense years later why things happened how they did. I have strong faith that, what I cannot control and PUSH for with my own power, will come at the right time. I end all my prayers with asking God for His will to be done. Not for my fellow humans will to be done. I rest knowing that something as serious as my marriage is in the hands of the one who created that institution. And I know, as long as its my hearts desire, and he KNOWS my hearts desire, he will not fail me.
Amen sister! 💯
Amen!!
Usually the mothers are asking not because they care but many times it’s because their own friends or family are asking them and they feel they need to live up to some old expectation. It comes from a more se|fish place than anything. If they really cared about you, they wouldn’t tell you that.
Lol its a chain, friends and family pressure the mother, who then pressures the daughter, who then pressures the boyfriend 😂
Thank you for this encouragement Auntie. I can relate to this video. I am 35 years old, and I have been pressured to get married, I have been told to marry even if I don't love the man. When I refused, I was called a lesbian, witch and I was told that as an unmarried woman I have no worth in this society. I was told that I will turn into an angry and bitter woman. Even when I decided to freeze my eggs I received a lot backlash and no support from my family ( I come from an educated family). This has created a lot pain, resentment, and affected my confidence (which in turn affected my dating life). I have done a lot therapy, prayers in order to build myself up, forgive and not resent my parent. I'm still working hard to fully heal. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
If you marry the wrong person nobody will show up to help you. Take your time and marry whenever YOU are ready ❤
Well done for standing in your truth!! You are missing out on nothing if you are working on your own life!
I’m 34 and know a lot of women who are struggling because they married the wrong men,they were in a hurry,they wanted to impress and sometimes appease their families.
Continue to see your life as an adventure and to trust in the fact that your life is always orchestrated by God! ✨✨
I am also 35 years old. I am with you Sis. On all you have just said.
@@tinkerbell3162 thank you. 😊
🩷🩵🩷🩵 may God bless you, darling 🙏🫶🙏
The parents of Fumi are so young 😮. They look like they are siblings.
That was 15 years ago....
During my last relationship, I took my mother on the journey cause I wanted her to see I made efforts. She has never stressed me about marriage but I knew deep down she worried, so I wanted to show her that I really made effort. When it ended, she told me “my dear, it’s ok. Go and rest, you have tried. Don’t worry about this marriage thing”. 😂
Good idea to include your mom so she will know that you tried.
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Fumi is right. They want it for their own reasons. Nothing to really do with you. It’s more to show off. I’m glad your mother was understanding. The generations are different and they need to understand that.
Let’s also be honest , many African mothers are jealous of the free independent drama free lives many of their single daughters live and want them to experience what they did . You have to know your mother to know where her pressure to you comes from . Not all women are good mothers . Most of the older generation became mothers because they had to , not because they wanted to so of course they cannot come from a place of love. A happy person minds their business , anyone out here pressuring people is 90% most likely miserable themselves .
I think that some moms are scared by their daughters joy and happiness. Especially is she is happy without being married or having kids. It's almost as if they want to humble their daughters for having the nerve to enjoy life outside of conventional expectations.
Which is sad cause thats your daughter, your baby girl. She's not one of your girlfriends or peers that you compete with
Hello everyone. I am in my late 60,s, never married and have no children. It was dreadful in my 30,s and 40,s due to people pressure, traditions, customs and culture... not forgetting to mention cruel comments from so called friends. Then one morning I woke up and I was totally transformed. I don't know what surgery ALMIGHTY GOD performed in my sleep BUT I felt joyful, free, content. All the sadness vanished. Some women STILL make cruel comments but I laugh because they can't hurt me anymore GOD saw to that. A lot of those who laughed at and mocked my singleness are in dreadful marriages, they are lost, lonely and miserable. Some of their children are abusive to them or they are carrying grown up adults financially!!! . I actually WILL NOT trade places with them and guess what!. If the right person comes along I will embrace it.... If not.... I will embrace it also. I give GOD the glory and the praises. He knows best. Stop stressing and start living. You are beautiful. STOP feeling lesser than. Live, love, laugh enjoy your precious life. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️
Why is being married or having a child a validation of a woman? I've had the family, husband, and I absolutely love my single life now. My kids are grown, I have a grand baby but i love my new life despite everything. I have rediscovered me and what I like and love.
This is mostly for women who have old school mothers that actually believe that’s a woman’s value 😂😂
Aunty Funmi, I felt your arms around me when you roared 'step aside, I'll do it myself!'. I wish you know how powerfully that statement got me. I listened yesterday night. I realized that I'm so happy at work today and it's because of this video. God bless you Big Sis. I really appreciate this gesture 🙏
This is a great topic. I am a mother already but I am not married. I am so glad I did not marry the father to my son. I was down earlier this week about marriage but i'm focusing my energy of being fabulous and using this time to get close to God.
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I don't have this issue anymore with my Mother, because one day I told her why would I want to continue the legacy of marriage slavery...I am free! and she got the hint and hasn't asked me if I will possibly get married again. I believe marriage is a beautiful union but, I refuse to be below anyone, if I cannot partner with you, have fun with you, and grow with you and it's not equal why would a person want that? and why get married just to show off? As Fumi said I know people personally whose marriages suck.
The wedding was such emotional I don't know why I'm also shedding tears.
Same, I think it's because its so heartfelt🥰
Me too. Made me remember my dad. Miss him a lot
We are crying with her! We felt the emotion through the screen. The love, the excitement, and the joy.
Fumi, I have a daughter who is 37. I totally understand what you are saying! I encourage my daughter to be the person she wants to be, I refuse to hold her to the standard of having a husband and children. She has a child my beautiful grandson. She wants to pursue her goals, and I support her. If she wants to get married, it will be in God's time and her choice. This is a discussion that is needed because there are so many hurting mothers projecting their fear and the issues they have had to their daughters. I feel for them, and I pray for their healing so they can enjoy their lives and watch their daughters live life and be happy for them. I live and love you, Fumi!
You are so right Fumi. Some mothers like us know how to support our daughters to the point where we will fight and defend them....that's what I do. My daughter is 25 and I support her..ready to crush the frogs that show up at my door. She will get married when she finds the right her partner sent from God. Mothers we need to step up and respect our kids.
I am always called the "cool mom" because I understand my children. Love you Fumi. ❤❤❤❤
I'm from the old school and my mom raised 11 children. She taught us to cook, clean, have some class and respect. That went for all 5 girls and 6 boys. We did whatever we wanted and all Mom said was: you know right from wrong and never make that one phone call to her. They all got married except for me. I saw what some of them went through in marriage. I never liked a cheater nor a liar! Thank you Fumi for schooling these (some) Moms.
You are the most important woman of our times...RUclips is a whole university of knowledge wisdom and skill. But you'll forever be my favourite lecturer of all time.
Mrs Fold ....you teach, you preach, you nurture and you heal. Thank you tenfold ❤
I love you ❤❤❤
My sister came today and i showed her your video, this video you just uploaded and it felt like you were speaking to her soul. Thank you ma
Fumi, Fumi, Fumi!!! You said a mouthful when you said, "...these mothers just want to show off..." 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. So very true! My mother acts the same way. My sister is married with one child. I am not. My mother competes with her sister and other women in the church/community with image and optics of "success". So very true. I am a successful physician who has traveled all over the world, and I work throughout the US, making a positive impact on students and communities...and it doesn't seem to be "sufficient" or "complete" in my mother's limited perspective. She may think that it is a reflection on her and my father (her husband). The community in which she was brought up (and still lives) harbors that same mindset. It's non-progressive and sad.
God bless you my dear. God knows what he wanted for us from creation, so we should not be defined by a ring.
I’m glad you understand that you have to make your own choices. You are not here to help your mother look good to her “constituents”. Enjoy your life. Love the people you have chosen. At the end of the day, community is what matters.
It’s your life. Not hers.
My dad died in Feb 2024… I am unmarried and my biggest pain is that my biggest cheerleader won’t get to attend my wedding 😭😭😭😭 He wanted me happy in a marriage not just married. #mayhissoulrest #thanksmamafums
Same here.. Lost my loving dad in 2020.. He was my biggest cheerleader.. I just wish he lived longer till I get married. Rest his soul❤
You are 💯 correct, your traditional marriage was superb 😢 you are daddy's girl for life. Thanks for all you do for us, you words are powerful. GOD bless you 🙏❤️
That’s right! Am in my waiting season as I live and pursue my purpose. When it happens I will be grateful and receive it. If it doesn’t? So be it.🤷🏾♀️ Am single. No kids and living my life . Am 56. A year older than you Fumi . I have been mistreated and segregated from Family members and many friends . Trust me. I have cut a lot of them off! 🗣️ That’s it! I will never settle!
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I'm right there with you sis... and living my life for me in the here and now.
Bad marriage BTDT😢oooh thank you Jesus I am alive and happy now 2024 😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉thank you Fabu Fumsky
Thanks for this topic Fumi. I so dislike when persons ask me "when are your daughters getting married?" My response, "Since that is not my businesss I don't see why it's yours".
This message was absolutely beautiful and almost made me cry. As a mid 50's woman, well educated, great career, God fearing, responsible daughter, sister, friend and kind...I absolutely will not settle just to say that I have a man. Like you said, you can end up with someone toxic and abusive if given the wrong advice by parents. You know they love you, but they came up in a different time and women now have the confidence to live their lives to the fullest. Not saying a relationship wouldn't be wonderful, but only God knows who is best to become your partner. And that's what I want, a partner to share life and experiences with. When you know, you know. He should match your energy and make you smile while you do the same for him. Fumi, you inspire me to be patient, live life and enjoy the journey. He's worth waiting for ❤
Man you had me crying on this one. What a message. You need to talk about women that went through divorce. Love ❤
on the opposite end i've aways wanted marriage but my longest relationship has been 6 months at 31. when my last relationship ended my mom suggested i give up on getting married.
Keep waiting on God…. 31 is not old I’m 47 and still waiting
Never give up my love! 😍 I was 39 before I found true love! Keep going my darling. Practises perfect! Try and try and keep trying until you get what you truly deserve! Love you! 🩷
Hello get coaching you will find your husband
So right! The dress looks Fabulous! My beloved's mother finally stopped pressuring me about grandchildren when I had an emergency hysterectomy. I had already raised 2 beautiful girls (my nieces) and he does not desire children. We are so much more than just brood mares! I have a wonderful partner that I enjoy spending time with. My mother was very supportive of my waiting for the right person. We must love ourselves for all that we do not just who we wed and how many children we produce. Mother's should say my daughter is a ____ and she is happy. That should be what matters.
My sister used to get upset that my first question to my nieces is always "Does it make you happy?" If they are happy then they are on the right path.
Pass this one to the mothers you know who have daughters that are unmarried!
Women absolutely must begin to raise men that have the ability to love successfully and have the ability to marry and have a family with love .❤️
This is one of the reasons I thank God sooooooo veeeerrrrrryyy much for my beautiful mother. She has never put me on pressure for anything despite some of her friends and relatives saying alot of trashy things about me being unmarried, and with no children yet. They call her up and ask about me only to make uncalled for comments but she always puts them off because we're in a different generation and marriage is not an achievement. It is a blessing from God. There's a third of women that are married and very unhappy and uncomfortable with the choices they made. If its not from God, it is bound to bring you pain all the way. Let us concentrate on beautifying our hearts and minds, trusting God and seeking Him, living a life thats worthy and that gives Glory to our LORD and He'll lead us to our future. Be blessed my dears. Thank you Auntie Fumi. May God richly bless you for doing things for women that their mothers and fathers aren't doing. You're the real mother here. We adore you. 😘😘😘😘
I'm 38 years old not married no kids, it is my wish to have a family. The society and close relatives sometimes looks down on you as if there is something very wrong with you and it is sadning someday. Thank you for the advice always
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you because you’re not married nor have kids. You are priceless & are valuable!! I see you. You are so loved ❤
I’m sorry for the hurt you experience due to all these societal pressures. I empathize with you.
Ma,My mother wouldn't dare bring up that topic because I will shut her down real fast. At the moment I need to be stable and after all those miscarriages I quite friendly not ready to have more babies. My mother is more ashamed for having a 30 year old daughter with degrees but no job. But ngizothini mina except all in God's time .
Aunty Fumiiiiii! I was in tears watching your wedding. You could feel all the love and prayers surrounding and pouring out of the atmosphere! I loved seeing you blotting your teary eyes, and your dad was like okay, pass the kleenex, I need it too. ❤
Sis Fumi...that was the strongest handkerchief I have ever seen... there at your wedding everyone was taking a swipe on that handkerchief...bless you parents...your traditional wedding was beautiful and emotional. ❤ it. 😂😊
This was a beautiful video, Fumi! You poured so much not only into the young lady who reached out but to all the Fumi Nation who needed to hear this message at this time.
For the question about your single season: Will you also talk about how you met Ole? Did one of your girlfriends say, “Fumi! I know this guy you should meet!” or did you meet him at an event/function?
I've really missed these Sister 2 Sister and Story Time episodes.❤😊
I was tired of the celebrity challenges to be honest.
I was taking my grandma shopping. Right after a spa day. She stopped at the kids section and said; “ I have soo many clothes, I’m even running out of people to gift my old clothes to. Do you want me to leave this earth without me seeing my grand children?”
My entire existence just got ruined right there and then.
There is nothing i would like more than to have a HAPPY MARRIAGE FIRST. I’m single, don’t even have a mere bf. Worked my butt off to give my parents and grand parents the best LIFE. Yet everyday I feel less of a woman simply because I don’t have kids.
Every family gathering, it’s kids. I don’t even get excited about going on dates anymore, because
I’m sorry to hear that. You are enough!
Hello aunty Fumz, unfortunately freezing one's eggs is still is not for being a parent. My cousin, who froze a sizable amount of her eggs in her twenties and was paying more than 250 million every three months to keep them in their Cryogenic state(frozen), thawed them last year because she was ready to be a parent. Unfortunately not one of the eggs survived the thawing. She was devastated. Freezing eggs is still not a guarantee unfortunately aunty Funmi.
Scary 😢
Adoption is always an option ❤
It’s still better than having babies with just ANY man and being desperate. For everyone one that doesn’t succeed. Some still do and you pay for the peace of mind.
I know this age of Social media and global connectivity can be overwhelming but I'm so pleased for the younger ones now they have resources like this channel that can reach so many for guidance and community. Bless you Fums❤
@FumiDesaluVold Thank you for discussing this with empathy. How many women walked into marriages that left them broken? How many women made choices to please mothers who groomed them to be indentured servants? How many women lost the girl and woman they were meant to be because their mothers told them they had no worth outside of being someone's wife and/or mother? Every girl and woman is valuable. When you think about it, some mothers are concerned with their own self-image, their own fragile egos and their inflated sense of entitlement. Often at the expense of their daughter's wellbeing. Not every woman who bears children is a mother. It is one of the most sacred titles and even the ignorant claim it. This is a global phenomenon (women being single for longer and having children later or not at all) and a reflection of the time.
Very timely and raw conversations.
I feel the discrimination of friends who got married and have children. Some to men that are bad husbands but my friends keep smiling and faking as they enjoy their wives and mothers groups. Now, its my turn marrying my best friend and a man that ticked every box on my list. Do I want to be added in the group? NOPE!! My future hubby is my best friend now.
Aunt Fumi the colour of that traditional attire you wore at your traditional wedding ceremony is like it was made for you, you look absolutely gorgeous. I always look forward to seeing your beautiful face and I love how much love you pour into us all. Thank you 💜💜💜💜
Idk why this vlog has me in tears 😭 soo much, this has touched a part of me that needed to hear this, especially the part where your dad said”if anytime you don’t want her, give her back to me 😭, I thank God for you and for this, I am posting this in my status bcos other people need to hear this. Thank you Fumi, you did it right and you are so beloved. Thank you 😢❤
OMG Fumi. Your wedding with your parents is so touching...it moved me. I love love love. That's it.
FUMI, you are so fantastic.....you understand! There is always a lifetime friction between a mother and a daughter.
Thanks Lady Fumi....❤❤❤Amazing dress.. this message touched my heart. We love you ❤
Yup. My married/coupled "friends" leave me out of gatherings now that I'm single. It's fine.
Thank you Auntie Fumi I'm 28 years old and my mom wants to push me to a man who lives with a woman he claims he doesn't want to marry but I've refused it severally but she keeps poking me and I'm on the verge of losing it with her but this same woman has my elderly brother who's 40 years in the house whom she feed 24/7.... sometimes my sister and I feel like we are not her kids. And my sister and have been taking care of ourselves since we were in our teens. I want to get married someday and have my kids but not with a man who isn't worth it.
Thats cruel honestly
Fumi how come you make me cry every time I watch ur show?? I feel like you are very prominent and strong not everyone affects me like this...I don't understand this but you must be a chosen one.. God bless you..the next Oprah ❤
Hubby and I are going through fertility issues and on the Road to IVF. And while my Mother has been Hit or Miss (mostly Miss) with Support through my whole Life, in this, she Has been my absolute Rock. She Supports me, helps me and Rocks me to sleep everytime I get my Period. This has been heartbreaking, but also the best time I have Had with my Mother. Yall don't Understand HOW MUCH it means when you are there For your daughters during the difficult Times and Just let Them exist as your child. You have No idea
I have 2 daughters and 3 sons. I never push or talk about them getting married. Love is love with or without marriage. I’vee been with my husband since I was 14 years old. I’m now 53. We got married after having 2 of our 5 children and I was a disappointment to my mum as a child, as an adult, as a mum and as a wife. She often told me she hated me, wish she never had me so meeting my husband she was never be happy. We married because it was for us and us only. My goal as a mum is to tell my children everyday they are loved and that’s all that matters to me ❤
Anytime I watch your wedding and hear to talk about it tears come to eyes 👀 because u give hope each day I live and thank the lord the day he gives u fumi to listen to u are a role model to me someone I will take advice from any day.may the lord continue to bless and protect u and your families.the blessing of the lord is upon u prosperously
All i can say is Thank The Lord for you Aunty Fumi. Im a beautiful, caring, well educated 44 yr old who lost herself to shame, guilt & condemnation trying to please her mother by staying in an abusive relationship. Im learning to live and love again and every 7.30 pm i watch you to laugh, cry and just glean from your wisdom. I feel free and these weights have fallen OFF of me. Praise God.! I will live long and love my life 💞👏👍🙏💐🎉
You’re mother prayer brought tears to my eyes… WOW this is so beautiful 🥹❤️
LEAVE US ALONE!! We are Single and happy. If we marry its okay,if not we are still okay. Thank you Fumi ❤❤
I love your Sister-2-Sister dialogues. 😍 They are truly gems to be cherished. 🙏
This Sista 2 Sista talk was so on the money. Respect to you.
Thank you, Auntie Fumi! This message hit me in a good way. I am 37 years old, but I don't think I will marry or have kids, which I have made peace with. I have my cats, a wonderful career doing something I love, and I am blessed to have an understanding mother. Not every woman will have children or be a wife; there should not be any shame in that.
Hey Sister 👋 I absolutely love the message. I'm 53 single and loving it. It hasn't always been that way. Until The Flip! This is when I embraced it and Really got to know ME. Dating with intention of a fun time getting to know someone new. LEARNING! I said my sista tellem about that FLIP! I LIVE AND I LOVE❤
So many gems were shared with us. Yes, we are living in these social media streets. It's not like it was back in the day. People (men and women) are running so many games. My vote is for the fumination dating app. - let everyone pass your screening process.
I have shed tears over this sister to sister episodes, Aunty Fumi. It's like you're talking about my life. My mom had me when she was older. She focused on my 5 elder sisters and 2 brothers. I never started dating until I was 27. Had very little confidence. I'm a lawyer, great in court but low self esteem for years. Neglected growing up. I was never visited by my parents throughout 5 years in university and 1 year in law school. Haaa. It made me stronger, more independent. I just started a few years ago to understand my worth and appreciate myself. I'm soooooo grateful for my life. I tell mom now not to worry because I know I'll get married but i will not make a double mistake of rushing at 33 into a wrong relationship, God forbid. Thank you so much for these episodes, you're a godsend.❤🇳🇬
Fumi this is most important topic ❤ most of us we even afraid to go back home our village because we are afraid to mocked that we haven’t get married neither go have kids relatives should understand that everyone has their own time
Fumi you become this responsible person because gods is watching over you and family’s you are blessed 🙏
It's like fumi had to go through all of the turmoil to be able to lead us the right path! She's really seen it all.... God bless you Fums! We live and love mama 🎉🎉❤❤
The love connection at the Meet & Greet.
I love it !!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 The way it should be........
Fumi to have a dad as yours is a dream for me. My mom is always my biggest cheerlead.
The best father!! And mommy
Because I am the single and childless one in my family, I feel like they don’t understand that I have a life and I have goals, my siblings go and make plans and leave me to be with our mom on holidays and Mother’s Day while they do what they feel. I’m to the point where I am over feeling taken advantage of by my family because I’m single and childless. I talk to my mother and she doesn’t understand how I feel. I feel stuck and tired from the whole situation. I just want to break free.
Tell them you have your plans and mute your phone. 😂
As am I, so I found my circle of like minded girlfriends to travel and commiserate with and I suggest you do the same. Make your own plans and be unavailable to be taken advantage of (or, left out); because you have plans. 🙌 Do so, quietly and smile when they look around for you and ask “Where did she go?” lol
Start making plans and just do it. If they love you, they will understand. Play dumb and they’ll get the message. I learn that once I started driving late in life.
I’m so sorry hun. Your feelings/emotions are valid. You are worth it & enough.❤
Disappear to your plans quietly sis!
It is so sad that most people have made decisions out of the society expectations and pressure from their loved ones especially mothers & aunties &sisters !!!!Sending y’all love.FREE YOURSELF FROM MENTAL SLAVERY….your life is yours not anyone else.God bless.❤
"Is not the message; is the delivery" you hit the nail on the head here for me aunty Fumi!
Thank you for discussing this topic! We as mothers can and should do better!!!!!!
Oooh Fumi now i understand you even more. You have a good basic with such lovely kind parents. I cryed watching you with you parents. I hope i will be a good support to my 3 boys like your parents did with you. Love yeah❤
This is a very interesting conversation and I appreciate Fumi’s perspective! The times have changed but in some cultures being a wife and mother is the end all and be all in regard to womanhood. Women are doing so much more in this world today than prior generations. Live and let live! Love yourself no matter what is how I feel. Women do what is best for you! Live your life as you see fit and take things as they come day by day❤
Fumi Fumi Fumi 🤗💕🙏🏽 if i never met you in this lifetime on earth just know how much i really truly LOVE YOU....please thank your parents for giving U to the world.💐😁🗺️
You look absolutely fabulous in this black dress Fumi❤
Fumi your wisdom is profound. I love you. I’m 50 years old and still learning from you.
Thank you so much Mama Fumi😍😍😍🎉🎉🎉 I am really feeling this great Message and was very inspiring from you. I really appreciate it.🥰🥰❤️❤️
Sending this to my mom immediately! Thank for putting this so eloquently, you are a treasure
Thanks Mama Fumi for the love and the support☺☺☺❤❤❤
Yes, a Fumination dating app is a great idea.
Hi sister fumu
Thank you so much for this I'm in a wrong marriage all together emotionally abused I can't even get out
Fumi, you are the most lucky woman I have seen to have both your parents and to have such a wonderful, wonderful ❤️ 💖 ♥️❤❤❤. You Dad didn't want to let you go ooooh. It beautiful to watch this video of your marriage. I do not have such a chance but I enjoy it so much!! C'est beau et magnifique... Be bless Aunt!! Much love ❤❤❤
The love connection at the Meet & Greet.
I love it !!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 The way it should be........yes please Aunty Fums!.
Sista to Sista!......bring it back
Check your emails big Sis!
Big sis Fumi, you just preached! If you knew my story...wow. So so glad you spoke out loud on this. Thank you so much! Cheers to you!!!💜
5:33 This is exactly it. Thank you 👏👏👏
Facts, Facts and more Facts!!!.... marriage is a smoke screen these days and only adds stressors to one's lifestyle.
Fumi! You are so correct! Thank you for being so inspirational to the young women! I grew up in a small village in my country Guyana and at that time culturally you were supposed to aspire to get married. Thank God my parents were different - they preached independence.
Im in my early 30ties i discovered aunties Fumi 3 years Ago honey we are blessed and may God bless you ❤ i pray for you and your family . I love it here 😍 .im so lucky that i have mommy like Mine who never bothers to pressure us me about marriage. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦
You are a blessed woman to have unconditional love and support from your family, friends, and community.