❤️👏🏾❤️👏🏾 FINALLY the beginnings of a man embracing being wanted instead of being needed in a woman’s life. The former is so much stronger. Being needed is stressful. For Mr. LetGo to say “She fuc… somebody else” was immature! Same for the girl in green that rolled her eyes. Grow up!
Yes those two on the panel need to grow up!! What the guy was saying is facts. I want to be wanted and not needed. I’ve been the backbone of my whole family since I was young. I don’t need anyone else who needs me.
Being wanted & not needed isn't a good thing. You want a new purse but don't need it. So when the new one comes out, you'll throw the old one away guaranteed
@@504gucci4 Not necessarily. Wanting companionship can’t be compared to the novelty of having a new tangible item. What it means is the person is happy, healthy, whole, but still desires you in their life. Why must I lack (need) something for your position in my life to be secure?
This specifically is super important I always knew when a relationship was running its course when I asked a man to show up for me emotionally and he could not do it but could buy me things and get offended and call me ungrateful because that’s not what I valued. It hits different as a woman who is self sufficient but has never really had anyone be there for me other than sexually or monetarily cause what I need can’t be bought profound patience understanding and unconditional love is priceless
But also need these men to not make their woman’s life hell. Be consistent, considerate, and loyal. And I’ll need that. But I’d be damned if I need a disloyal, selfish, inconsistent ass man.
@@beingbrittanyy You sound so shallow women are the ones moving in with men most of the time. You've clearly just been let down by guys that didn't have money. Still makes you seem shallow though. Could never be my girl lmao
Mike gets it 🙌🏾🙌🏾 When somebody needs you to survive they basically become a dependent.... And that's not what I desire in a relationship. I don't want that pressure put on me and I wouldn't do that to the man I'm with.
The real issue at play here is that most times when you hear a woman say they don't "need a man" it's in the the tone or context that he's useless to her. Very rarely is it expressed as "i don't NEED you, i can take care of myself if need be, but i DESIRE you, WANT you,LOVE you, and given the choice would absolutely CHOOSE you." Now that there, hits DIFFERENT different.
@@PreciousRaee I’m saying though , if she didn’t like the opinion she could’ve kept that to herself or came with a rebuttal , but chooses to roll her eyes instead smh 🤦🏾♂️.
I am wanted and needed in my home. There is no greater feeling than when you know you are needed but also knowing you are wanted. Your family will always need you. So feeling needed isnt bad. We need to separate from being needed and being taken advantage of. Men need women and women need men.
I've been that for all of my exes, and they all cheated. For women who they felt had more than me, just to miss me in the end. Because truth be told, even as a woman struggling, I always came through for them together or not. Monetarily wise, etc. Always...So I eventually got tired of being the go to girl. Someone they always looking for peace from, while they come destroy mines when their actual women have their hands out or they momma's still needing them for whatever. I choose me. If you can't come with reciprocating energy, I don't care to endure. I'm not going to continue to give my all, while you only give me 25%, but feel everyone outside of me deserves 100%, because they need you more! I only ask for loyalty, and time. But got neither. Only time I was offered time was when they got tired of whoever kitty, and wanted new kitty.
Sir thank you for your candor it is awesome to hear a man that actually gets it and does not feel emasculated and intimidated and scared by a woman who knows what she wants it is about quality time not what someone or another one can get out of the relationship the relationship itself should be the prize and the peace
BIGFACTS!!! 💯👏🏾 Truth is, we live in a time where more women are able to take care of their basic needs and to desire a man to just "show up" as such a foreign concept, is honestly sad. I can find things for you to do, lol... but rest assured, if I w/ you it's cuz I WANT, YOU! 💫💕🙏🏾
I appreciate Mike's perspective. It's tough because depending how you view needs vs wants can really shift the dynamic of this conversation. For me, I see a need as necessity that can lead to codependency. Want is choosing to do life with that person which is huge because I am with you because I want to be there and not of necessity or benefits (food, shelter, transportation, etc). Of course there will be needs in that relationship but I think that is a mindset shift once you have moved past surface level stuff and made a deeper emotional and intellectual connection. IMO
COMPANIONSHIP IS A NEED IF YOUR GOAL IN LIFE IS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP! Being needed to do every day responsibilities vs recognizing that i have to claim and value an individual in order to accomplish my relationship goals are two separate conversations. U can’t be in a relationship with yourself. You NEED a plus one to add to your life in order to achieve that goal. That foundational understanding of NEEDING someone is the backbone of what ppl mean when they say they want to feel needed. No one wants to be in a relationship where they feel expendable enough to where they can be dropped at any time bc they don’t “need” us. And we have to recognize that we need EACH OTHER. We keep using the word need in conversations without defining what the word need means universally for everyone. And we need to stop doing that.
My mom always used to say want a man but never need a man because there is a difference when you want a man you desire your him But when you need a man you start to treat him like a chore or a job and that's not what you want in a relationship
When will we learn that we don’t NEED anyone but we should want people of substance(uniqueness) because those ppl are there because they want to be not because they need anything People are wolves in sheep clothing so you never know someone’s true intentions, and needs are tied to expectations and that is a one way street. Fill up your cup and everything else is icing on the cake!
Ima remix what Jill Scott said “If I need you, then I need you. If I don’t need you, then I 👏🏽 DON’T 👏🏽 NEED 👏🏽 YOU. But ultimately… no one “needs” anyone. But…. it can be beautiful/ dangerous to “feel “ like you do
I love that he said this because I feel the exact freaking same way. I don’t want to be needed. I want to be wanted. It hits different when someone says I want you. I could’ve had anybody else but I want you because of who you are not what you can give to me not what I need from you, but what I want from you, I want your companionship, I want your smile, I want your friendship, I want your body, I want. Your laugh. I want all these unique things that makes you you. Because I he said you can get anybody to fulfill your needs as far as money cooking hell even sex. But I want I want that is much different than I needed.
This is the perfect answer to the question thats being asked what do you bring to the table cuz it's not just for a woman to answer but for a male as well. the truth is I bring a unique character to the companionship that is desired for this relationship because rather not I have an income or whether or not I have a sufficient income may not and usually is not representative of my character and what I have to offer in love me being sufficient as well as the other person being sufficient and responsible adults such as cooking and cleaning for ourselves and for the other person can be replaceable so that person's unique character that can't be replaced is what is the best thing brought to the table. So those looking for somebody who can financially match them financially take care of them or to be domesticated and serve them as they themselves financially support the person must understand those are shallow and cruel reasons to force on another person just so they can meet a your preference of romantic love with longevity.
A woman's "desire" is perishable. She "desired" that pair shoes last month, but she didn't _need_ them.. This month she desires another pair of shoes that she also doesn't _need._
I usually don’t agree with him at alll - But here 🎯🎯🎯 - cause that’s Exactly how to build the strongest bond - not by an act that anyone can do - but by uniqueness that only a person can bring from their own soul and character. Women do not need a man, but when we want you it hits soooo different ! We can be the calm in the storm of life.
This sounds good and I truly wish this were a thing honestly. But the nature of human beings isn't set up that way. Almost Everything in life is transactional and thats not necessarily a bad thing. Its just having that balance of knowing we need each other but also not having unrealistic expectations and feeling entitled.
@@babystagg5847 well personally I believe love has more to with functionality than emotion. As I stated in my original statement relationships are innately transactional. Some may view that as a bad thing, I personally don't. It only becomes an issue when entitlement leads how we view the one we're in relationship with. No one owes anything to anyone but a relationship void of some level of reciprocity will eventually fail. This is why I believe what was said in the video sounds good but its not realistic
@@rodneyjayy3093 I RESPECT Your View BECAUSE You Have The #Right2It Yet, I'll NEVA A.G.R.E.E. allow me to explain ~ if ANYTHING is transactional it can be measured an duplicated by one who has MORE - THIS ISN'T LOVE!!! Love is given FREELY, It DOESN'T COST AH THING! YOU #CANNOT #PURCHASE IT - IT #EITHER IS ARE IS #NOT. YOU WILL FEEL #PURELOVE AN YOU WILL #KNOW IT WHEN IT'S THERE AN #REAL BECAUSE IT DOESN'T REQUIRE ANYTHING FROM YOU. EVEN IF YOU SO CHOSE TO WALK AWAY IT WOULD STILL B THERE....THE PERSON MAY BE GONE BUT THE LOVE SHOWS BECAUSE WHEN IT'S REAL THAT OTHER PERSON WOULDNT HARM YOU NOR DEVALUE YOU. JUST RELEASE YOU AN MOVE ON. 😏😁🥰
@@babystagg5847 I agree with your last statement to a degree. Feelings are not quantifiable though. So the only way that love can be measured is through actions. Actions between two parties is a transaction. Now this is where I can agree with you that selfish people only look and measure what they can get out of the relationship and compare it others. That I would agree is not love.
@@rodneyjayy3093 Love isn't measurable baby. It is or it's not. I can Love you an NEVER know you or do ANYTHING physical for you just as I do now toward you an the rest of this 🌎. When someone is measuring their 'so called' (love) that is #MANIPULATION, P.E.R.I.O.D. 'TRUE LOVE' #CANNOT B MEASURED.....IT #JUST IS. 😉.
Brothers, this man has dropped some true gems. If you've got your lives together (i.e. emotionally, financially, etc.) and a Sister approaches you in any other way other than the way that this man speaks of, RUN the other way! Eventually, she will wear your ass out and leave you feeling unfulfilled... and the same goes for Sisters who've got their lives together and are looking for a good man.
Would you get mad if you invested into a man married him and he said I don’t need you, you’re technical lot just a vessel for sex and carrying a baby, however I do want you, I want to love you and spoil you but I don’t need to I can adopt or go get some P elsewhere but I want you sooo? That’s how y’all sound to us, What’s understood don’t need to be said so if you need to vocalize it to our face. We know you’re probably not a good fit to wife up.
I think that modern western concepts of relationships, particularly marriage have the wrong idea as to what makes relationships work. People have the wrong idea of being dependant on another because they don't understand that there are different varieties of dependency: Co-dependency and Inter-dependency. Human beings don't operate well on their own and biological family cannot fulfill you in certain areas. You should NEED your partner, otherwise it defeats the purpose of being with them, but there are healthy levels of dependency and unhealthy levels. Most people will live together and raise children together but can't combine finances, simply because they operate in the space of SELF rather than US. It's why we have prenuptial agreements, because we ultimately don't trust each other.
"I just want to enjoy your company" -❤❤ I, too, just want beautiful companionship that grows into an irreplaceable love. Tangible things equate to love with some but it's confusing as to how. If they disappeared....
I totally get being wanted not needed. But i dont understand the have no expectations in a relationship. Like what?!? Maybe im hearing it wrong, but sorry.....I expect a committed partner to be faithful, honest, loving. To be responsible with my life when i put it in his hands. To grow with me. Yes i expect alot but i give more than whats required as well. Somethings ill ask to be sure but most I'll just infer is whats expected.
Why (do) most women WANT ...a man to WANT ..."them" ? It comes down to being essential in your life or....just a desire. That can be easily replaced by the next random dude she meets at the job or the club.
The feeling of needing to be love. Men and women are more alike than we are different. Especially when it boils down to emotions. Men ultimately just want to be loved from what I have observed. Women ultimately want to be loved as well. The wording they may use may be completely different route boils down to the exact same thing which is love.
I believe it’s conditioned thinking more than anything. Which is why only being wanted visibly feels so uncomfortable to men. It goes against what they’ve been taught. You see how Mr. Let Go immediately spewed “She’s fuc… somebody else”. SMH 🤦🏾♀️
His message is how every good man feels. I think its hard to teach a man to think like this, they mostly just are or they're not. This was directed to women for insight into how to approach a relationship if you ask me.
To be fair women have been saying they don’t need men in the context of him being expendable and unnecessary for decades. There was never any sense of it being desired as opposed to the latter
I fully understand and respect his opinion on this matter. Though… I must say that this can be explained in multiple manners and can be understood and dissected in various methods… However, we have literally seen the effects of our community not needing it’s force nullification when our force multiplier loses it. Hence “Ying losing its Yang.” Which has led us to where we are today. Women are the least protected and most disrespected. Children are not seeing life in its totality… and we economically are in the nose bleeds in another country that keep missing the facts of the range we have continued in our community with this ideology. At the end of the day… if Women need Men to replace ourselves in this world… the. The need for each other is never not valid… it’s just flat out ignored under the falsehood of faux societal standard that we did not start but we continue to perpetuate.
It comes down to men not LISTENING to what women are saying. If they are telling you, i dont need you, but i want you, i desire you, you gotta hear that for what it is. Notbthat shebis going to get the stuff that she already told you she doesn't need from you from another person. That part is insecurity and projection.
Fuck that. I need a woman to need me cus wtf am I here for? I have a job as a man. To protect & provide, that’s my purpose w/ my woman. If you don’t need protection or someone to provide for you, then idk Wht to tell u.
He is saying that protection and provision can be given by any man. But to choose a particular man to meet those needs is valuable, because she wants him and not out of necessity of something in return.
I wonder if all the women in these comments cheering and agreeing with his message actually caught on to evrrythkng he said or just the parts that align with their train of tought?
As A Individual You Have To Figure Out What You NEED In A Partner And Relationship And Be Okay With What Your Needs Are. A Household That Has 'Help' They Wouldn't Rely On A Partner For Dinners, Laundry, Etc... Because They Have Decided Together They Would Pay Someone To Do Those Things. They Then Would Rely One A Partner For Conversation Or Traveling Companion, Intimate Time, Etc.. Might Sound Shallow But Those Are THEIR Needs NOT Yours. Figure Out Your NEEDS And Find A COMPATIBLE Partner. $tay Blessed 🙏
@@cephas5053 Then Those People Should Remain SINGLE, Because It's NOT A Partners Job To Try And Satisfy. Selfish People Should Be With SELF Only. If You Want It Done Your Way, Then Do It YOURSELF Problem Solved. U R Welcome 🤗
Sounds good but not entirely practical. Yes, we don't want to be *chosen* based on necessity but the fact is that there are certain things and behaviors that you will inevitably *need* from your long-term partner. You can't be married on an island all by your lonesome...
Why is it so controversial for women to say I don't need a man, but I want 'this' man when that's almost exactly what men mean when they say they want to provide and all that jazz?? You don't need her to survive on a daily baisis cause you can find a woman to stay at home and have your kids and cook and clean and sleep with. But you love her so you choose to do all that stuff with her. That's literally what women mean when they say that. I can function without you but I'd rather not
You have to get out of your own shoes to understand others the same way you would want them to understand you. That’s the basis of the answer to all questions like this.
Once I hear "I don't need a man" 🚶🏿♂️ there's no but anything I've heard enough. Because that's program talk, would taught you that? And if it was your parents you NEED to stay with them forever 😂 because I need a woman.
Very contradicting. If men don’t want “independent women “ then why are they bothered by women who need them as a person to add up as a man in their lives. Lately men on podcasts have been saying that independent women are turn off with their manly characteristics yet now he’s saying he would have peace to have a woman basically independent who will not need him to do shit lol. Go figure. As a man you should feel a level of accomplishment and pride and useful that you can help your lady. Whether it’s with little cash, your physical strength, your masculinity and skills etc...
There’s different groups of men, and also it isn’t about being needed that’s the problem. A man would love to be needed by a virtuous woman who adds value that increases what you have so by default she benefits when you come up. Most women today claim to be queens goddesses and have all this worth for being independent which isn’t special it really means being an adult, yet when you look at how unpleasant they are to be with all they do is bring you more bills. Their not an asset
He is so correct I want to be desired for my uniqueness also and at the same time have a King in my life that is capable of leading being an independent strong woman is sometimes so exhausting
He know he Lying! SOONas a women just try to kick it and chill he or she tryn to smash. That's when the shenanigans start.. Other than that just being in each other company u both going to b looking for the each to perform so called man or women duties...
Date a woman who likes u and a man with class and that’s literally your best equation to win . Non of this extra pandering and social media dating rules ?
Being with someone who doesn't need you... but wants you definitely hits different
Real
It sure does
Yazzzzzzzz!!!❤🤗🫠🥰😍🤩😘
Women want different things all the time
Goals!
❤️👏🏾❤️👏🏾 FINALLY the beginnings of a man embracing being wanted instead of being needed in a woman’s life. The former is so much stronger. Being needed is stressful. For Mr. LetGo to say “She fuc… somebody else” was immature! Same for the girl in green that rolled her eyes. Grow up!
@@rajivranjan6047 Huh?
Exactly
Yes those two on the panel need to grow up!! What the guy was saying is facts. I want to be wanted and not needed. I’ve been the backbone of my whole family since I was young. I don’t need anyone else who needs me.
Being wanted & not needed isn't a good thing. You want a new purse but don't need it. So when the new one comes out, you'll throw the old one away guaranteed
@@504gucci4 Not necessarily. Wanting companionship can’t be compared to the novelty of having a new tangible item. What it means is the person is happy, healthy, whole, but still desires you in their life. Why must I lack (need) something for your position in my life to be secure?
Damn I love listening to Mike talk and explain. His intelligence is sexy and attractive
His mind is definitely attractive 🔥😩❤️
I say the same thing. Every time he speaks
"If I get desired for my providing, than anybody can do that .." 🔥🔥👏💯 hardest fact that !!
Same goes for providing sex...
That went so damn hard! ❤️🔥🤧
@@tinyking11 right !!! 🤌🔥🔥
...as well as cooking & cleaning.
@@dawnssunrises6050 you understand 🔥🤌
This specifically is super important I always knew when a relationship was running its course when I asked a man to show up for me emotionally and he could not do it but could buy me things and get offended and call me ungrateful because that’s not what I valued. It hits different as a woman who is self sufficient but has never really had anyone be there for me other than sexually or monetarily cause what I need can’t be bought profound patience understanding and unconditional love is priceless
Big facts 🎯
Damn. You hit the nail right in the coffin. Same here. I can surely relate.
Boom! That about sums it up!
This was so positive to watch. I like hearing men express their needs tbh. It’s a very handy perspective
But also need these men to not make their woman’s life hell. Be consistent, considerate, and loyal. And I’ll need that. But I’d be damned if I need a disloyal, selfish, inconsistent ass man.
I wanna be desired for my uniqueness… that. That’s what makes a relationship special. Or r we really just out here matching up purely for survival ?
The men are. Why do you think they never have their own apartments but always moving in ?
@@beingbrittanyy lol on point. It’s ok for them to say that but feel like they have a right “ to need “ a woman that can do stuff for him
@@beingbrittanyyThat's the boys you choose lol. Real men handle their own. Blame yourself for your bad life choices, not men as a whole.
@@beingbrittanyy You messing with boys. Real men have their own shit and are not always moving in.
@@beingbrittanyy You sound so shallow women are the ones moving in with men most of the time. You've clearly just been let down by guys that didn't have money. Still makes you seem shallow though. Could never be my girl lmao
Mike gets it 🙌🏾🙌🏾
When somebody needs you to survive they basically become a dependent.... And that's not what I desire in a relationship. I don't want that pressure put on me and I wouldn't do that to the man I'm with.
The real issue at play here is that most times when you hear a woman say they don't "need a man" it's in the the tone or context that he's useless to her. Very rarely is it expressed as "i don't NEED you, i can take care of myself if need be, but i DESIRE you, WANT you,LOVE you, and given the choice would absolutely CHOOSE you." Now that there, hits DIFFERENT different.
Everything he said was on point. The girl in the green shows her immaturity threw that childish eye roll .
I was looking to see if anyone else noticed that! 😂 That eye roll really threw me off, he was just stating his opinion 😅
@@PreciousRaee I’m saying though , if she didn’t like the opinion she could’ve kept that to herself or came with a rebuttal , but chooses to roll her eyes instead smh 🤦🏾♂️.
She showing him , women gonna want all the other stuff to. Haha good fantasy tho
He spoke the truth.
It hits different to be wanted, needed and loved for your personality.
Only when your not being drained by that same person.
I am wanted and needed in my home. There is no greater feeling than when you know you are needed but also knowing you are wanted. Your family will always need you. So feeling needed isnt bad. We need to separate from being needed and being taken advantage of. Men need women and women need men.
I've been that for all of my exes, and they all cheated. For women who they felt had more than me, just to miss me in the end. Because truth be told, even as a woman struggling, I always came through for them together or not. Monetarily wise, etc. Always...So I eventually got tired of being the go to girl. Someone they always looking for peace from, while they come destroy mines when their actual women have their hands out or they momma's still needing them for whatever. I choose me. If you can't come with reciprocating energy, I don't care to endure. I'm not going to continue to give my all, while you only give me 25%, but feel everyone outside of me deserves 100%, because they need you more! I only ask for loyalty, and time. But got neither. Only time I was offered time was when they got tired of whoever kitty, and wanted new kitty.
he explained himself very well and I agree with everything he said. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This man has it figured out.
Sir thank you for your candor it is awesome to hear a man that actually gets it and does not feel emasculated and intimidated and scared by a woman who knows what she wants it is about quality time not what someone or another one can get out of the relationship the relationship itself should be the prize and the peace
Everyone wants to feel needed/wanted.
He separated from the other dudes quickly! ❤
BIGFACTS!!! 💯👏🏾 Truth is, we live in a time where more women are able to take care of their basic needs and to desire a man to just "show up" as such a foreign concept, is honestly sad. I can find things for you to do, lol... but rest assured, if I w/ you it's cuz I WANT, YOU! 💫💕🙏🏾
I appreciate Mike's perspective. It's tough because depending how you view needs vs wants can really shift the dynamic of this conversation. For me, I see a need as necessity that can lead to codependency. Want is choosing to do life with that person which is huge because I am with you because I want to be there and not of necessity or benefits (food, shelter, transportation, etc). Of course there will be needs in that relationship but I think that is a mindset shift once you have moved past surface level stuff and made a deeper emotional and intellectual connection. IMO
COMPANIONSHIP IS A NEED IF YOUR GOAL IN LIFE IS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP! Being needed to do every day responsibilities vs recognizing that i have to claim and value an individual in order to accomplish my relationship goals are two separate conversations. U can’t be in a relationship with yourself. You NEED a plus one to add to your life in order to achieve that goal. That foundational understanding of NEEDING someone is the backbone of what ppl mean when they say they want to feel needed. No one wants to be in a relationship where they feel expendable enough to where they can be dropped at any time bc they don’t “need” us. And we have to recognize that we need EACH OTHER. We keep using the word need in conversations without defining what the word need means universally for everyone. And we need to stop doing that.
I’ve experienced a man who needed to be needed and it’s draining.
My mom always used to say want a man but never need a man because there is a difference when you want a man you desire your him But when you need a man you start to treat him like a chore or a job and that's not what you want in a relationship
This man dropped jewels! I’ve been saying this for years.
Sad to say. I been feeling the same thats why this such a good topic. Its a difference between she being wit u cause she want to vs need to
Yep and from experience yes he indeed does want me to need him, to ask of him for this that and everything under the sun so that he’ll feel needed.
I agree with Mike, i dont need any man but i do desire the time, love, and affection from one
When will we learn that we don’t NEED anyone but we should want people of substance(uniqueness) because those ppl are there because they want to be not because they need anything
People are wolves in sheep clothing so you never know someone’s true intentions, and needs are tied to expectations and that is a one way street. Fill up your cup and everything else is icing on the cake!
That bald man is single for sure.
I was looking for this kind of comment lol that guy is residually hurt
It's not about "needing" him, it's security.
Ima remix what Jill Scott said “If I need you, then I need you. If I don’t need you, then I 👏🏽 DON’T 👏🏽 NEED 👏🏽 YOU.
But ultimately… no one “needs” anyone. But…. it can be beautiful/ dangerous to “feel “ like you do
I love that he said this because I feel the exact freaking same way. I don’t want to be needed. I want to be wanted. It hits different when someone says I want you. I could’ve had anybody else but I want you because of who you are not what you can give to me not what I need from you, but what I want from you, I want your companionship, I want your smile, I want your friendship, I want your body, I want. Your laugh. I want all these unique things that makes you you. Because I he said you can get anybody to fulfill your needs as far as money cooking hell even sex. But I want I want that is much different than I needed.
This is the perfect answer to the question thats being asked what do you bring to the table cuz it's not just for a woman to answer but for a male as well. the truth is I bring a unique character to the companionship that is desired for this relationship because rather not I have an income or whether or not I have a sufficient income may not and usually is not representative of my character and what I have to offer in love me being sufficient as well as the other person being sufficient and responsible adults such as cooking and cleaning for ourselves and for the other person can be replaceable so that person's unique character that can't be replaced is what is the best thing brought to the table. So those looking for somebody who can financially match them financially take care of them or to be domesticated and serve them as they themselves financially support the person must understand those are shallow and cruel reasons to force on another person just so they can meet a your preference of romantic love with longevity.
👏🏽 👏🏽
Never thought I'd see the day they finally start to GET IT. Anybody can pay bills. Exactly!!!
You are right 💯💯💯 and keep it real and keep it moving forward 💯💯💯
I like his different perspective
A woman's "desire" is perishable. She "desired" that pair shoes last month, but she didn't _need_ them.. This month she desires another pair of shoes that she also doesn't _need._
Who is this SECURE Masculine Force? 👀👀👀😍
Fr 😂
Look, I have no interest in being listed as my husband's dependent on his taxes. And vice versa.
I usually don’t agree with him at alll - But here 🎯🎯🎯 - cause that’s Exactly how to build the strongest bond - not by an act that anyone can do - but by uniqueness that only a person can bring from their own soul and character. Women do not need a man, but when we want you it hits soooo different ! We can be the calm in the storm of life.
This sounds good and I truly wish this were a thing honestly. But the nature of human beings isn't set up that way. Almost Everything in life is transactional and thats not necessarily a bad thing. Its just having that balance of knowing we need each other but also not having unrealistic expectations and feeling entitled.
Then It 'Ain't' #LOVE 🧁🖤.!!!. Just Cause You Haven't Found It DOESN'T #Mean It DOESN'T Exist....!!!
@@babystagg5847 well personally I believe love has more to with functionality than emotion. As I stated in my original statement relationships are innately transactional. Some may view that as a bad thing, I personally don't. It only becomes an issue when entitlement leads how we view the one we're in relationship with. No one owes anything to anyone but a relationship void of some level of reciprocity will eventually fail. This is why I believe what was said in the video sounds good but its not realistic
@@rodneyjayy3093 I RESPECT Your View BECAUSE You Have The #Right2It Yet, I'll NEVA A.G.R.E.E.
allow me to explain ~ if ANYTHING is transactional it can be measured an duplicated by one who has MORE - THIS ISN'T LOVE!!!
Love is given FREELY, It DOESN'T COST AH THING!
YOU #CANNOT #PURCHASE IT - IT #EITHER IS ARE IS #NOT.
YOU WILL FEEL #PURELOVE AN YOU WILL #KNOW IT WHEN IT'S THERE AN #REAL BECAUSE IT DOESN'T REQUIRE ANYTHING FROM YOU. EVEN IF YOU SO CHOSE TO WALK AWAY IT WOULD STILL B THERE....THE PERSON MAY BE GONE BUT THE LOVE SHOWS BECAUSE WHEN IT'S REAL THAT OTHER PERSON WOULDNT HARM YOU NOR DEVALUE YOU. JUST RELEASE YOU AN MOVE ON. 😏😁🥰
@@babystagg5847 I agree with your last statement to a degree. Feelings are not quantifiable though. So the only way that love can be measured is through actions. Actions between two parties is a transaction. Now this is where I can agree with you that selfish people only look and measure what they can get out of the relationship and compare it others. That I would agree is not love.
@@rodneyjayy3093 Love isn't measurable baby. It is or it's not. I can Love you an NEVER know you or do ANYTHING physical for you just as I do now toward you an the rest of this 🌎.
When someone is measuring their 'so called' (love) that is #MANIPULATION, P.E.R.I.O.D.
'TRUE LOVE' #CANNOT B MEASURED.....IT #JUST IS. 😉.
U betta say that shit Mike ❤❤❤
Brothers, this man has dropped some true gems. If you've got your lives together (i.e. emotionally, financially, etc.) and a Sister approaches you in any other way other than the way that this man speaks of, RUN the other way! Eventually, she will wear your ass out and leave you feeling unfulfilled... and the same goes for Sisters who've got their lives together and are looking for a good man.
This shit hear needs a part 2. Best topic yet
A man got mad at me for saying I don't need him I want him.
Would you get mad if you invested into a man married him and he said I don’t need you, you’re technical lot just a vessel for sex and carrying a baby, however I do want you, I want to love you and spoil you but I don’t need to I can adopt or go get some P elsewhere but I want you sooo?
That’s how y’all sound to us,
What’s understood don’t need to be said so if you need to vocalize it to our face. We know you’re probably not a good fit to wife up.
Yes Mike I agree
As a man I'd rather be wanted, not needed.
I think that modern western concepts of relationships, particularly marriage have the wrong idea as to what makes relationships work.
People have the wrong idea of being dependant on another because they don't understand that there are different varieties of dependency: Co-dependency and Inter-dependency. Human beings don't operate well on their own and biological family cannot fulfill you in certain areas. You should NEED your partner, otherwise it defeats the purpose of being with them, but there are healthy levels of dependency and unhealthy levels. Most people will live together and raise children together but can't combine finances, simply because they operate in the space of SELF rather than US. It's why we have prenuptial agreements, because we ultimately don't trust each other.
Even your son wants you to see he’s strong n can help u. Men like to be care takers it’s built in most.
Well said.
Yasss honey! Well said
"I just want to enjoy your company" -❤❤
I, too, just want beautiful companionship that grows into an irreplaceable love.
Tangible things equate to love with some but it's confusing as to how. If they disappeared....
He gets it 🔥🔥
I totally get being wanted not needed. But i dont understand the have no expectations in a relationship. Like what?!? Maybe im hearing it wrong, but sorry.....I expect a committed partner to be faithful, honest, loving. To be responsible with my life when i put it in his hands. To grow with me. Yes i expect alot but i give more than whats required as well. Somethings ill ask to be sure but most I'll just infer is whats expected.
Why does most men wants women to want to need them...
Why (do) most women WANT ...a man to WANT ..."them" ? It comes down to being essential in your life or....just a desire. That can be easily replaced by the next random dude she meets at the job or the club.
@@mrdzzamn interesting thought...
The feeling of needing to be love. Men and women are more alike than we are different. Especially when it boils down to emotions. Men ultimately just want to be loved from what I have observed. Women ultimately want to be loved as well. The wording they may use may be completely different route boils down to the exact same thing which is love.
So that they get you where they want.... your WEAKEST SPOT, then they can start fooling and hitting you.
I believe it’s conditioned thinking more than anything. Which is why only being wanted visibly feels so uncomfortable to men. It goes against what they’ve been taught. You see how Mr. Let Go immediately spewed “She’s fuc… somebody else”. SMH 🤦🏾♀️
Well said, I wish more men could understand that ❤🙏🙏
His message is how every good man feels. I think its hard to teach a man to think like this, they mostly just are or they're not. This was directed to women for insight into how to approach a relationship if you ask me.
To be fair women have been saying they don’t need men in the context of him being expendable and unnecessary for decades. There was never any sense of it being desired as opposed to the latter
He does have a point
That’s right.
Can we say a GROWN MAN is in the room.
I fully understand and respect his opinion on this matter. Though… I must say that this can be explained in multiple manners and can be understood and dissected in various methods…
However, we have literally seen the effects of our community not needing it’s force nullification when our force multiplier loses it. Hence “Ying losing its Yang.”
Which has led us to where we are today. Women are the least protected and most disrespected. Children are not seeing life in its totality… and we economically are in the nose bleeds in another country that keep missing the facts of the range we have continued in our community with this ideology.
At the end of the day… if Women need Men to replace ourselves in this world… the. The need for each other is never not valid… it’s just flat out ignored under the falsehood of faux societal standard that we did not start but we continue to perpetuate.
Pls why does this lady in brown have her thighs out in the air? It doesn't look nice at all.
He speaks facts though needs shifts to expectations real quick
I would love to meet Mike; he sounds like a good man
Them girls whole shit adjusted and that’s game my dude the ism is real
It comes down to men not LISTENING to what women are saying. If they are telling you, i dont need you, but i want you, i desire you, you gotta hear that for what it is. Notbthat shebis going to get the stuff that she already told you she doesn't need from you from another person. That part is insecurity and projection.
No, if a woman _tells_ a man that, it means she'll drop him like last month's shoes...which she "wanted" last month, but didn't really "need."
True but don’t be too needy
false first because he will begin resent you if him falls short
Fuck that. I need a woman to need me cus wtf am I here for? I have a job as a man. To protect & provide, that’s my purpose w/ my woman. If you don’t need protection or someone to provide for you, then idk Wht to tell u.
He is saying that protection and provision can be given by any man.
But to choose a particular man to meet those needs is valuable, because she wants him and not out of necessity of something in return.
I could not tell if dude in video was running game..
Cuz he gon want sex but not provide or protect..
I'm. Confused😊
I don’t know I got mixed feelings about this one it’s going to have to sit with me for some time and dwell on it.
This Kevin hart voice!!!! 🤣😂 you sound just like kev dude!
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The chick in green rolling her eyes
I wonder if all the women in these comments cheering and agreeing with his message actually caught on to evrrythkng he said or just the parts that align with their train of tought?
Thank u
I agree
As A Individual You Have To Figure Out What You NEED In A Partner And Relationship And Be Okay With What Your Needs Are. A Household That Has 'Help' They Wouldn't Rely On A Partner For Dinners, Laundry, Etc... Because They Have Decided Together They Would Pay Someone To Do Those Things. They Then Would Rely One A Partner For Conversation Or Traveling Companion, Intimate Time, Etc.. Might Sound Shallow But Those Are THEIR Needs NOT Yours. Figure Out Your NEEDS And Find A COMPATIBLE Partner. $tay Blessed 🙏
Absolutely no one will be satisfied lol
@@cephas5053 Then Those People Should Remain SINGLE, Because It's NOT A Partners Job To Try And Satisfy. Selfish People Should Be With SELF Only. If You Want It Done Your Way, Then Do It YOURSELF Problem Solved. U R Welcome 🤗
Sounds good but not entirely practical. Yes, we don't want to be *chosen* based on necessity but the fact is that there are certain things and behaviors that you will inevitably *need* from your long-term partner.
You can't be married on an island all by your lonesome...
Then how about men put in the work to meet our needs mentally spiritually emotionally physically s3xually?
im tryna see what that be like !!!!
Say it again bro 💯👍
Why is it so controversial for women to say I don't need a man, but I want 'this' man when that's almost exactly what men mean when they say they want to provide and all that jazz??
You don't need her to survive on a daily baisis cause you can find a woman to stay at home and have your kids and cook and clean and sleep with. But you love her so you choose to do all that stuff with her.
That's literally what women mean when they say that.
I can function without you but I'd rather not
You have to get out of your own shoes to understand others the same way you would want them to understand you. That’s the basis of the answer to all questions like this.
That what most women want. To be wanted, not as a nanny, prostitute, and/or maid, just companionship.
So where is the full videos of these conversations?
Once I hear "I don't need a man" 🚶🏿♂️ there's no but anything I've heard enough. Because that's program talk, would taught you that? And if it was your parents you NEED to stay with them forever 😂 because I need a woman.
Yes, that's "program talk," and she's probably on the rest of that program as well.
Very contradicting. If men don’t want “independent women “ then why are they bothered by women who need them as a person to add up as a man in their lives. Lately men on podcasts have been saying that independent women are turn off with their manly characteristics yet now he’s saying he would have peace to have a woman basically independent who will not need him to do shit lol. Go figure. As a man you should feel a level of accomplishment and pride and useful that you can help your lady. Whether it’s with little cash, your physical strength, your masculinity and skills etc...
There’s different groups of men, and also it isn’t about being needed that’s the problem. A man would love to be needed by a virtuous woman who adds value that increases what you have so by default she benefits when you come up. Most women today claim to be queens goddesses and have all this worth for being independent which isn’t special it really means being an adult, yet when you look at how unpleasant they are to be with all they do is bring you more bills. Their not an asset
Loved that
He is so correct I want to be desired for my uniqueness also and at the same time have a King in my life that is capable of leading being an independent strong woman is sometimes so exhausting
Girrrrrrl this is how I truly feel && believe. ✨
Where are the full conversations?
On our app. Link in description box!
Dude sounds crazy. U see girl in the green rolling her eyes right, cause ain't hardly any women coming with that game plan man. Try again homie
Men it’s wild how much men and women don’t understand our roles.
What are they 🤔
Where do u get full episodes?? Wanna be part of this conversation
There’s an app called tonights conversation on the app store
Not saying be controlling but maybe that's why we are territorial and shit
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Dope as thoughts right there! Young lady wit her eyes goin up in here head, she petty 😂 (jk), she know she like it 🫡
Our generation is damned lol these convos are getting worse and worse.
Yall act like you cant want AND need somebody at the same time -_-. No real man wants their girl to just "want them" we need to be needed too
Where do I find the whole video?
On our app Tonight’s Conversation. Link in description box 😊
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He know he Lying! SOONas a women just try to kick it and chill he or she tryn to smash. That's when the shenanigans start.. Other than that just being in each other company u both going to b looking for the each to perform so called man or women duties...
Date a woman who likes u and a man with class and that’s literally your best equation to win . Non of this extra pandering and social media dating rules ?