Alcoholic-Adrian
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- Опубликовано: 24 фев 2020
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Adrian, an alcoholic who just came to Skid Row the day before this interview. Photographed on February 20, 2020.
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This guy has a solid understanding of what he wants versus where he’s at. Adrian, if you’re reading this, I wish you the best of luck. We do recover.
Yep ur right! I had same issue alchahol and crack 20 years. Couldn't deal with success ect...40 years old had enough..AA and steps and desperation changed my life. Almost 5 years sober now. Great to hear ur message. We do recover!
@@brianlavoie1603 Brian, never forget to keep working your program, I'll bet there are lots of people who love you who would be sad if you weren't around like you are now. Good wishes!!
God Love you Beautiful soul!! Its not easy I'm struggling with the booze aswell!!
Alecia B Indeed, 5 years sober today. I was 53 when I stopped. It's never too late. ♥2recover.
@Sara Ford Thankyou kindly for the words of encouragement!! I needed that and I pray you keep kicking butt in life!! God Love and Bless You🙏⚘❤
Hi Adrian, my little sister died from alcoholism. She was in her 40's and left five children. Today is the best day to get clean.
SOOOO TRUE! TODAY IS THE DAY!!!
Amen
@Steve A Thanks Steve, her death helped me get clean myself. I'll see her again ♥️
My sister in law died at age 44. Everything just systematically shut down. 💔💔 I miss her so much she was such a sweet loving person despite the drinking.
Sorry for you loss. I did not know until recently alcohol can kill you. Slowly or abruptly
I worked with Adrian for about a year at a restaurant 10 years ago. He was a beautiful, intelligent man with lots of demons. Very talented. I spent a lot of time with him and he left a lasting impression on me. Crazy that I just saw this. Heartbreaking. Love you, Adrian. You deserve so much better. Hope you can find your own peace someday.
May the Holy Spirit protect him and know that we have to pray for any demons to leave him....i was taught to say that “In the name of Jesus” any demons that are his not come near me and pray that they also go away from his own Spirit so that he may find peace.
Maybe you have a chance to help since you know him? Maybe reach out?
Wow. That's trippy!
@@ar8107 In Yashuas Precious Name, Gods Will be done...
This hit me super hard. I think mainly because I am in the food industry and appreciate how close you can get with people under those circumstances. At times it can be so strange because you never really know when you might work that last shift with that amazing person. Sometimes its announced and planned but at other times its so sudden, and it seems like you’ll just never see that person again. Most of the time you don’t, and at least for me sometimes I think about these amazing people, where they could be, how they are etc.
All the love, peace, and positivity your way.
This dude has a real chance. Self-reflective, thoughtful, gentle. He may find peace by becoming an addictions counselor - offering his experience and compassion to others.
Camaro 1968 oh really how many years exactly? Is this some kind of rule lol.
@Camaro 1968 somebody with one day sober can be an example to someone who can't stay sober for even that long.
A couple years clean and a certificate for chemical dependancy is all one needs to become a councelor.
@@Nursegirlalexandra some people just don't know, or haven't enough experience working with addicts.
@Camaro 1968 A person who is sober one day can explain to a person who hasn't been sober for an hour how they did it - and it is helpful. I'm not advocating for substance abusers that are still using to counsel other substance abusers.
About two years clean and a chemical dependency diploma of some nature is all one needs to become an addictions counselor.
@Camaro 1968 please read and listen more. Volunteer at your local homeless shelter. The information you're using to formulate your arguments is shockingly lacking. You've done nothing but reveal to the public that you're hugely misinformed.
His story bursted out after one question he's in so much pain. His body language, his scrunched up position physically hurts me to watch. It screems please don't hurt me anymore. I feel so much compassion for him.
Yes I sensed that too ...you are very insightful Green San
It's really hard to get over being molested especially if it's by a parent
Broooo, I didn't even know what it was. I started crying immediately. Thought it was just pint up feels, didn't realize it was, body language, his vibe & The pride for his children.
What really made me feel bad was when he said his kids treat him like a stray dog. A pat on the head and send him on his way.
His body language told us what type of abuse he suffered before his words did.
I have a drinking problem too. I've only accepted it myself within the last few months. I struggle with drinking in the mornings and before work. I feel like I need it to get the day started. I am educated with a house and great career. Alcohol is horrible. I wouldn't wish this for anyone. It changes you. I hope I can beat this. I don't have a sad story for why I do it. I am jeopardizing everything and hurting my family and bf who loves me. I am so ashamed. This video helped me. I am strong. I know I can get better. I will get there. My family and friends don't even know what to say to me because I've always been so responsible and I've never been in trouble ..this has shocked them. Thanks for posting these videos. They help me realize that I should be thankful for what I have..and that I have it so much better than some people. I have no excuses to be sabotaging my life like this. Thank you to anyone who took a few minutes out of their life to read this. ❤ we are stronger than we think. Don't give up.
-Megan
megibabi27 we’re on opposite sides of the Atlantic so talking from seeing a neighbour die of alcoholism (leaving a precious little boy behind) you can get through this. You have acknowledged u have an addiction and that’s the first step. You sound educated and have worked hard to amass things which gives u comfortability in life. Do you really want to lose that and your family over liquid poison? U can do this, let today be the start. And when ur clean remember it’s ur determination and courage which got you there. You can do this! 💪🏽
megibabi27 if you find that you are unable to conquer the demon humble yourself, call on god, and and beg for deliverance. Defeating the demon is an everyday thing for Jesus. Everything u can’t do he can . Knock and the door door will be opened. Be patient and trust. Seek and you will find
Watched my step mom die from liver failure.... trust me, you don't want to die that way.
Godbless🙏
Remember addicts sabotage themselves because they are afraid of success or they really don't want it--AA Anonymous
15 years sober for me this year. Good luck, Adrian. If I can stop, anyone can. I had it bad. Peace
David congratulations xx
Seriously congrats. It eats some people up so bad it swallows them whole. It's no small feat to be on the other side of it
3 years for me!
Nancy Gianguzzo congratulations ❤️❤️❤️
Way to go!
When you said I’m almost fifty and haven’t done anything you are wrong. Think of your children. How you loved them and taught them better. Do you know how amazing that it is that YOU BROKE THE GENERATIONAL CYCLE OF ADDICTION AND ABUSE???? I’m proud of you. You should be proud of you for that. No degree or career even comes close to that accomplishment.
💯 true. Breaking the cycle heals humanity
For real...this guy is actual a gem. He was the absolute best dad he could be.
Amen! That is a huge accomplishment!
Amen! Thank you for saying this❤️
Worst thing about alcohol. It's available literally everywhere. What's worse it's socially celebrated... even expected.
sean christian Nobody gets addicted to sugar to the point that it ruins their lives, there’s many different variables that could lead to alcoholism. Have some humanity
@@trvpgame7710 I realized my comment was harsh and judge mental so I've deleted it. You're right, I should be more understanding.
@@trvpgame7710 Ever heard of diabetes you slobbering mongoloid 😂😂
exactly. people thinks its weird that I don't drink.
It's everywhere on purpose because it's the gateway, it's the worst drug without a doubt.
My name is Ed, I'm an Alcoholic. Wife talked to me about my Drinking, we had a great Conversation with no one getting up Set. June 21 we spoke about it. June 23- 2015, I Attended my FIRST TIME A.A. MEETING. 1-16-21 I'm Still Involved in the AA Program, and I'm Proud to be with GOD 🙏 And Able To SHARE, A.A. Work's. Thanks Ed 5-1/2 yr's SOBRIETY 😃
I feel so very sad for this tormented beautiful man.
Dear God, you can hear it in his voice how tormented he is talking about the sexual abuse, he's choked up when talking😭😭 God Bless him
@Too Much-Online chill man the world cant be perfect. If you think that then idk what to tell you. We have to have good and bad. Unfortunately some people get dealt that hand. THEN your supposed to use god for support and courage to grow and be a better person. God doesnt fix problems for you. Its not magic. You have to use faith and hard work and god will reward you in time.
@Too Much-Online fucking internet athiests always talking shit on religion, get a life you bum!
Too Much-Online -God didnt just sit and watch. The last thing He wants is for us to be hurt. We have constant spiritual wars whether universe or religiously related..... I’m the female version of what this man went through and I don’t blame God. This man went through a lot. I always say if a female are hit hard with a past like that it hits males 100% times worse for males. I pray for you and this man to find peace and know that God never wanted us to have any type of suffering but follow sainthood like his only Son. (I hope one day you find the presence of God on Earth; your best ticket is asking His presence through the Holy Spirit) I have atheist friends and will never push my religion because they are better people than others and they respect that I chose to believe in something in this world and that is what God is about; accepting others for who, what, how and where we are from; past, present and our future selves.
Too Much-Online Why are you so angry with someone’s belief lol?
Too Much-Online Well isn’t that hypocritical of you? You didn’t keep your belief to yourself, but you expect others to? Understand that people of all religions share their beliefs for the same reasons you share your belief here on RUclips. Simply because they believe they’re right. Instead of trying to prove them wrong, which is impossible anyways. Why not just leave it alone?
Also to blame everything on religion is pretty dull. Why not blame the individuals who led in the destruction of society and flush them, and them alone down the toilet. Generalizations get society no where. And while you’re going on radically spreading your belief, it seems you’re becoming the very poison you’re so afraid of. Could it be? Oh yeah, God bless you by the way!
i love how he smiles a bit more when he talks about his boys. what a sweet, strong man. we're all rooting for you adrian! ❤️
Childhood sexual abuse really really really derails a person’s life. The one universal theme in most of these people’s lives is the childhood abuse, neglect and sexual exploitation.
Adrian, my husband died in 2008 from alcoholism; he was 41. Towards the end of his life, he just drank vodka and slept. His last words were, " I'm going crazy". Then he fell into a coma and died the next day. Stop today because you may not have a tomorrow. ❤
lovely lipsticklady my dad died from alcoholism when he was 47 I was 27 at the the time. I’m 51 years old now and I think about him a lot. Once I went to his house and found him on the floor in the living room and I picked him up and was hugging him and I told him that he had to stop drinking and he said “I can’t “. I think about that moment a lot and sometimes I wish I would have done more to help him.
@@sanjes24 I am sorry for your loss. I've lost four family members to alcohol and drugs. And like you, I think of them often, especially my dad. I'm sure we will see our loved ones again, and that gets me through. May God bless you and give you peace. 🙂❤
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm going through the same. He told me I need to accept he is an alcoholic and that is who he is. Goes through 1 to 2 bottles of 750ml of rum daily. He looks bloated, tired, his mind goes to crazy places and loves to take ke mentally to those fights inside himself and make me guilty for everything. It is sad.
I guess he keeps on drinking as he is still functional and has not have bad body /organ consequences besides the daily throwing up and loose stools.
I'm very tired. Very very tired. I love him. But out children are fatherless and watching him. What is a partner supposed to do? Stay or walk away? How do we learn to live like this and how do we teach our kids that this is life and that there is ways to live like this? I really dont know anymore.
Thanks for sharing your comment. He is 37yrs old. I'm 39. I feel that this can really go on forever until one of us dies..likely me from stress rather him from the drinking..💔
@@essie7708 I didn't leave my husband because I loved him, thought I could change him. However, I was wrong. My kids are adults now, and they tell me how vividly they remember the past. I had no right to stay with him. I should have put my kids first. They know I meant well, but I was the adult. I don't think any child should have to grow up seeing the stuff my children saw. Remember the three c's: I didn't cause this, I can't control this, and I can't cure it. It's not your responsibility to make him "better". However, as one mom to another, we do have an obligation to give our kids the very best life we can. Please leave him, I wish I had. ❤
@@sanjes24 it isn't your fault. You couldn't have fixed your dad, and it wasn't your responsibility. I know you grieve for him, but please don't blame yourself. Hope you have a beautiful life ahead of you and may God bless you. Stay well. 🙂❤
Such a nice looking gentleman, so sorry your life started out with such abuse. You have so much potential, own it, know your worth and find sobriety, success and happiness.
Adrian has such a sweet spirit.
I was thinking the same thing. ❤️
You can see it in his eyes✨
I’ll bet lots of people would like to be his friend.
He passed away. Sleep in peace.
I found myself completely lost and broken from alcohol at the age of 36/37. It almost killed me. It was a sad, dark existence full of guilt and regret. As the previous person wrote “if you’re reading this, we do recover”....and you can have it too. From one lost soul to another, I love you!!
That is very sweet.
My mom is an alcoholic all I want is for her to be sober nothing else ☹️
I hope she makes it...just remember: ultimately it's on her and not you. Doesn't make it less painful....
He is so calm, but you can seriously hear the hurt and pain in his voice , right at the start of the video. 💔 I pray he gets better.
This gentleman is near rock bottom---that's good, he's ready to rise up again. God bless, you can do this, Adrian!
@M Detlef Yes, that's what I mean. Been there.
Remember, It's a WE Program GOD With Me Is We/ We Together Can Do It 🙏
Not everyone has a rock bottom. Some people (I'm one)bubble and swoop low, and simmer. I believe he may rise up. I know he can. I hope Adrian quits drinking. He has a lot of support out here.
They're good actors
He passed away.
i’m an alcoholic. i’ve been sober for 19 months. i was on a bender for 3 years, following progressively heavier drinking for, what, 20 years. sure, we are masters at manipulation.. but, under all that.. there is a sadness that we cannot escape. a hole that can never be filled. this guy, he exudes sadness. i know that feeling. you’ve got to go deep within yourself and find the sadness. see it. feel it. name it. and, forgive it. let it go.
it’s terrifying, the thought of not having that crutch. but. it’s possible. recovery is possible.
adrian, man, i’m praying for you.
This story guts me. He sounds defeated and ashamed but seems to want to hold onto the feelings of being worthy of something more....and HE IS. I hope he gets the help soon that he deserves. Sounds like he raised two great kids. That’s a proud moment. ✌🏼💛. I’m rooting for you!
As an alcoholic myself, I can understand a lot where he's coming from. I suffer from a lack of self-esteem and one little mean comment from my spouse last week has sent me on a bad relapse. Thank god I live in a place where other drugs are not readily available. I miss 2019 when I was sober for a year and a half. I know I can do it again. You can do it too, Adrian. Don't ever give up.
Really sad what happened to him last time I drank I was getting sick because I wasn't eating
Alcohol... the true gateway drug
Trauma is the gateway drug.
Nevermind the varieties of drinks some are so tasty that you don't have to be an alcoholic to desire a drink 🤦♀️
@@ruthiemonroig1614 yes, like vodka in a fruity drink
I lived a charmed childhood, & started drinking & smoking weed at 12. Injecting Mepergan at 14. It all started with alcohol. It will end with alchohol.
Completely agree, most people around me don’t do drugs unless they are drinking. That’s the culture here in Australia
What a sweet guy. Bless his heart.
Man.... I'm only 2 and a half minutes into this video and my heart is weeping for this man....
What honesty! He is a such a kind human , I wish for him to find a way and free himself and achieve all what he yearns for!
im holding back tears, I use to work with him at the restaurant that he got fired at I need to find him
Did you find him?
Get a hold of the interviewer, though I'm sure you have tried
Btw, so cool of you
@Xenate Devereaux wHy? 🤣
@Xenate Devereaux how do you know he is a liar?
He looks surprisingly healthy considering the amount of substance abuse and stress. It's really never too late to recover and start living a healthier life.
RIP Adrian. So sad to see him on the "In Memory of..." video.
Bro he died??
Adrian seems to have a very deep heart. DEEP. He's got love, and self respect, as well as respect for others. He appears embarrased for his situation, and seems very tired. He's got a wealth of love, empathy, spirituality, and burdens that he bears. I hope he succeeds in his challenges. He seems so genuine and kind.
He seems so humble, gentle and caring. As a musician I can very well imagine him being a great songwriter. He really moved me with what he said and his way to express himself.
When Adrian seid, alcohol doesn't really work anymore, but it's always there for him. Thats how I feel every day. It's always there for me, no matter how hard life may hit me, I never pannic now, as long as I have a few bottles of wine in the house. I know it's got my back.. but as a kid I had to deal with trauma alone. Just me and my mum. I never want to feel that scaird again.. I don't drink for fun. I have it close to me,, just in case life gets hard and no one is there when I ask for help.. I can rely on my wine to help me feel strong enough to cope... I can relate to Adrian alot. Lots of people pcan probably relate to him, feeling full of potential, but the pain and fear he feels has been holding him back.. iv also done nothing I feel really proud of yet either. Your not alone Adria. Thanks Mark for adding at the end, that we are still worth having a good life, even though we feel so brocken. 💔 Please dear God and angels, please help those who feel brocken, find a way to feel hole, new, well, loved,safe and peaceful 😢😟🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️ Amen 💙☮️
Melissa Collins I relate to what you’re saying. Alcohol was always there to calm the panic. I developed PTSD from a sexual assault while I was delivering mail. I was an alcoholic before that. That’s how I dealt with the chaos in my life. By creating more chaos. I finally said enough is enough. I booked a flight 1100 miles away and went to detox and rehab. It’s not easy, but it was totally worth it.
Drugs and alcohol might seem like a good best friend but it’s all a lie.
Thank you for sharing Melissa! May we find the strength to fight this addiction. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Alecia B congratulations on your sobriety xx
When you said you were 50 and have done nothing with your life I couldn't disagree more. Give yourself permission to heal and become that instrument God wants you to be
Rest in piece Adrian. This story was really aspiring and I hope you can find peace up there. Truly heartbreaking💔
Its so hard to say goodbye to your best friend, alcohol was mine for decades. It was always there for me no matter what. I had other friends too, but alcohol was my first love. Havent hung out together in years now...but I would be lying if I said I dont miss it sometimes. So very very blessed though, that I left it behind.
Carla Osborne alcohol truly never was your best friend. I’m glad you dumped it like the enemy it was and I hope you never look back. All the best to you.
@@summerseahorse1363 thank you
@Five hundred 20s sadly alcoholism is the definition of not being able to control usage. One glass becomes three ,then becomes two bottles ..one shot ,becomes 3 shots, becomes a half pint, becomes a half of a fifth...maybe not immediately but eventually and before we even realize it.
Thank you for your honesty in regards of still craving alcohol at times. The difference now is that you have learned coping mechanisms to overcome those cravings. Yes the cravings get better with time but there's always a little nag when times get tough tempting another drink. Addiction comes in many forms and substances. It is so hard to rewire the brain and change.
@@Mark-xh9ne absolutely
Mark posted an RIP video that included Adrian. Adrian hit me the hardest of almost any of the SWU videos.... does anybody know the circumstances under which he passed?
Hit me hard too. He was a great guy that deserved so much more from life. RIP Adrian
Nope, seems like no one knows. Wish they'd tell us
One thing I learned early in life was intelligence wouldn't get me out of my situation. I don't know if it's trauma or genetics or both but I didn't adjust to life and have drank and drugged for the better part of my life. Never had a career, a marriage, or children, the latter two a likely blessing for whoever. Being 55, feeling like the pariah of 120+ grandchildren my parents parents had I've lived in the shadows and avoided everything. Was labeled with major maladjustment; outlook: Grave I just do my best to survive day to day. The most consistent memory through my life has been a deep, free-floating anxiety that's kept me incapacitated most of my life. I hope Adrian finds some serenity and lasting recovery.
I've felt many times like I'm not adjusting to life either so that really struck me. Wishing some peace in your life too man
I truly relate to what you said here, I'm living it too and have been since childhood.
By far, the most compelling person filmed in your series.
I can relate to his story all too well. Being a heavy drinker is a heavy burden that don’t seem to go away until you get real w/ yourself. We tend to convince ourselves we are hiding it but in reality most people that get close to a heavy drinker sees the issue. When the party stops, you start to feel shameful about your drinking because deep down you know it is robbing your full potential. It may helps Adrian’s to know he is not alone. I am a 44 year old bar tender who drinks every day. Recently I scheduled an impatient treatment through a local psychiatrist so I can detox safely. The day comes when what once worked no long fits in your thought process or a projected life you see for yourself. It truly gets old.
Grab this opportunity with both hands. You are braver and stronger than you think. I'll pray for you tonight
Dude, snap out of it, you are 44....hello.... get ur act together Sir, grow up and move on with ur life, whatever it was, its gone in the past, lookup for the future plz!!
Way to go& best of luck with your sobriety.
Prayers for your recovery.
11 years this coming October here, I was 44 as well . It was time, got very very old. Best of luck and let us know witty an update ?
Clicking on this video, I expected to be angry with this man for being an alcoholic. My father was an alcoholic and I was very lucky that my mom left him and kept me safe from his self sabotaging behavior. But I do admit that I am still very angry at my father, even though he passed from alcoholism years ago, because I was robbed of having a father in my life due to his addiction. So I do tend to harbor judgement for addicts but this series has really opened up my eyes. So many of these people suffered severe abuse or neglect in their childhoods and that ultimately shaped who they are as adults. They numb the pain with drugs or alcohol because they were so badly traumatized. This man seems very intelligent and kind. I am so glad that he raised his children to walk the right path in their lives and made them aware of the dangers of substance abuse. I am glad he is close with God and willing and trying to get better. I pray that he is able to get sober and improve his life. You can just hear the pain in his voice but also the glimmer of hope that he will recover.
I’m still angry with my mom because I was completely robbed of a childhood to take care of her, the household chores & my siblings. She’s still alive but is hospitalized constantly for pancreatitis. She went septic once, was in a medicated coma for 27 days, when my middle son was only 2 months old. I spent every single day at the hospital because I’m her next of kin & had to make all the decisions. That was almost 7yrs ago & it took me till 3yrs ago to set boundaries for my own mental health & my 3 boys. I have a lot of anger towards alcoholics. But not all their stories are the same. They’re al numbing some kind of trauma. I’m still not sure what my moms trauma is. As far as I know, she had none in childhood. It wasn’t till she was 18 & pregnant with me that she went through some trauma. She had both her parents & they were both very involved in her life. Something I never got & harbor more resentment towards her because she never gave me the same. She was in abusive relationships until she was 24 & then married an amazing man that became my father. But he worked his ass off to provide for us. A lot of hours & traveling, so the major household/child responsibilities fell on me. I had my own issues with substances but chose my children over anything.
I am the mom of 2 beautiful children and the wife of an alcoholic and daughter of one too. As a child, I remember the feelings, the anger, the frustration. Childhood robbed in certain ways. My father is now sober but is a dry alcoholic. His mindset is horrible. Never got any psychiatric help. My husband is in the military, heavy drinker since the age of 16/17 yrs old. He is 37 now. Been with him for 12years. He refuses to stop drinking and protects his drink at all cost. I'm very sad for him, for myself and mostly our children.
Walking away I guess is the only option. So much praying and hoping can help me right....or him.
It is a very hard one to accept. I love him. He loves his daily 750ml more than life itself...💔
Adrian I relate to you on so many levels, you’re an empath and very self aware of your disease. Sometimes that makes it so much harder for us, we see what we are doing to ourselves and we continue to self destruct. You’re articulate and creative and spiritual and a survivor. I relate to it all. I have nothing to show for my life at almost 40 and crave a purpose but am so stuck in my alcoholism. Find your home in AA, use your spiritual connection and don’t give up, you are an amazing human being with a lot ahead of you clean and sober. You’re in my prayers. 💙
Sara Bear What beautiful words, I’m rooting for you Adrian❤️
Sara Bear AA saved my life - I’m 56 keep trying lovely lady xx
I feel his pain so deeply watching this 🙏💕🍀
I lost my mom to booze. It was strange, while sober she was really intelligent and knew that all her problems stemmed from alcohol . It just overtook her life and in turn, destroyed my childhood . I feel for this man , he is smart and sensitive . I really hope he can turn it around .
Man. Adrian reminds me a lot of my dad. My dad also never hit us, except when he would get violent while really drunk. My dad also was heavily abused as a child by my grandma and great-grandma. He told me that he wanted to break that cycle, because he knew what pain felt like. Adrian, in general, reminds me a lot of my dad, who I really miss a lot. He passed away from liver cirrhosis in December, because of alcoholism. I really hope that Adrian gets some help and gets back on his feet, because I know that he has so much good to give to the world. Thank you so much for making all of these videos, it really helps more than you think.
That is a sad yet lovely comment Gabby. These videos do really help, especially for those of us who face our own demons even if we are otherwise functioning 'normally'. About 10 years ago my friend's mum died because of alcohol. She saw it coming, the doctors had warned her mum, but it hurt like hell none the less. A tiny woman drinking a litre of vodka a day and not eating, her mum had become quite reclusive, possibly to avoid being lectured. It made me think maybe we can help by doing something as simple as gifting a pot of soup (something easy to heat and eat) and just being there for a chat without raising the issue. I'm sorry for the loss of your dad, it must have been heartbreaking to go through that. Hopefully we can learn what we can do better from our experiences.
My condolences
You can feel how happy his boys make him.
His whole face lights up when he talks about them.
They make him proud, not happy. If he were happy he wouldn't be drinking.
Mark, how do you decompress from these communications. I'm thousands of miles away watching and can feel the torment in his voice - FEEL - not just hear.
I know right... seeing so much pain..
Good question! I wonder that too.
Some people are more empathetic than others. And everyone handles things differently. I'm not very sensitive. I feel bad for these people but it doesn't hit me that hard.
@@seanhaney8748 you lack compassion
@@moniquepace8952 judgement is the opposite of compassion
I have a father who’s a functioning alcoholic, literally drinks everyday, and smokes cigarettes. Growing up I vowed not to be like him in terms of the above mentioned habits. But now I find myself as an unemployed qualified nurse with an honors degree, sitting at home and going through about 1 and a half bottles of wine almost everyday, I also started smoking cigarettes. This last month I’ve been having minor bouts of insomnia where all I wanna do is smoke and drink to escape my thoughts of feeling useless from being unemployed. I don’t know if I have a problem, I don’t think I do.
I don’t mean to make this about me but what these videos have done is not only enlighten my view of the deep issues that we have brewing as a society that are being blanketed by social media and the glitz and glamour that the mainstream is selling us when there’s our fellow man out in the streets suffering. These videos have also made me reflect on my own situation and I desire not to find myself in their position. My point? All these people featured on your videos are shining a bright light on those of us who watch, they are educating us, inspiring us, helping us be more sympathy and enlightening us. I wish them all well ❤️
Thank you for the uploads!
Take care and never give up on yourself :)
In Jesus name heal her Lord. Please remember Philippians 4;13
Wow its so crazy how a complete stranger can relate to you over such a personal thing... I have such similar issues with alcohol. I guess its like Im in denial bc I dont need it to function and if I dont drink its not like I have withdrawals or anything. But Im fully aware I abuse alcohol to temporarily numb life. Which puts me in a constant spiral of guilt, wanting to be completely sober and then drinking to excess all over again
Apps_ Gumm ur not useless for being unemployed! Have u given urself a break in ur life? School high school college work ... maybe u just needed a break. So be kind to urself and just regather ur thoughts and plan ahead. Time out is good for ones soul. When u ready again u know what to do. Bless u.
My Dear, You've got a beautiful, fighting, compassionate spirit - it comes through in your words. The world needs more of that - and so do the people you serve. Don't give up. Unemployment has hit most of us at one point or another. It doesn't define you and it certainly doesn't make you useless or take away your gifts. Use this time to care for yourself and seek out the next great opportunity. It's out there - you just have to claim it and know that you deserve it! Sending you virtual hugs! ❤️
I’m 26 and this video changed my life. Thank you Adrian.
He’s choking up the whole time... I feel your pain. It’s all going to be okay.
My heart hurts for him. I really hope he can find healing
Dear Adrian. You're one of the most sympathic persons i've seen on that chair. Wish you good luck! 🍀
At first glance, I thought you were going to interview George Clooney.
George Lopez
Robert Downey Jr. eyes with George Lopez everything else, maybe a dash of Antonio Banderas.
Robin Johnson yes!
SAME!
He looks like Kevin Gastelum to me
You can do it. I did 6yrs ago. I am 61. I have had the best six years of my life so far. I became so physically sick that I could not drink. I tried and I couldn’t. That’s how I quit. Turns out I had hepatitis C. So ironically Hep C saved my life.
Wow!!! What a very intelligent, kind hearted handsome soul! Sending this video to my boyfiend who has also been an alcoholic drug user since he was a kid. I've struggled with his addictions over a year now and helped lead him to sobriety. The same voices in his head that tell him that he is not worth saving or existing. I'm praying for Adrian and all those who have suffered childhood trauma. No mother should have brought so much pain on there own flesh and blood. God help all of these broken and battered souls. 🙏
Marianne you must be from East L.A also?
What a strong man. I pray he allows himself to receive the GOOD in life that he SO deserves. 💙
If this is really his second day there, he should run like hell out of skid row- while he still has a chance and is only an alcoholic.
WATCH THE VIDEO DUMBARSE
Only an alcoholic? The withdrawal off alcohol is literally one of the only withdrawals that can kill you other than benzodiazepine withdrawal. I watched my father die from cirrhosis of the liver and kidney failure. I’ve never seen something so painful.
CJR I think he means “only” as in leave before he gets into other shit as well as alcohol
Only an alcoholic??? Get a clue.
@@cjr9298 cancer
Clicked on this because that’s my name, too. Adrian. Kept listening because this man seems like such a kind soul, and this world has treated such a sweet spirit so badly. I feel he tries to beat himself up by continuing in something so destructive. There is so much hope and purpose for you, Adrian!! I can see you One day telling your story to other people that are struggling. Open yourself up to God and forgive yourself for simply doing what you needed to do to survive.
This really touches my heart. I am praying so hard for you, Adrian. You CAN get better and you are/can be a light to others. Use your story to help and heal.
This is the best interview that you have done. My heart goes out to him. I agree that his kids are something to be EXTREMELY proud of. I pray this man is able to rise above this. I think he can do it with the right help. God bless you Adrian!
Such a beautiful soul. He's so honest and raw. I truly hope that he finds his way 😔... This interview really affected me, more than many of the other interviews.
Amigo, I don't know the circumstances. Run to her, your bestfriend. Confide in her, embrace that through her you are truly loved. And yes you ARE a sweet man. Your children are a reflection. A testimony of love.. amidst the chaos ... your children are what they are because you wanted the best for them. They need you.
Something about you triggered me to comment.. never have. As soon as you mentioned your love for God, I had to extend a message in Hope's you one day see it. You do deserve it all. Manifest... in his love his grace. God bless you Adrian. YOU are in my prayers. Que vayas con Dios. Funny you're a stranger.. I'm a stranger.. but in my heart I feel you will break through from this. You are worth it. 🤍
God damn I want to hug this man. He deserves as many chances as it takes.
These interviews are so beautiful
Hey Adrian, hopefully you see this. You do deserve a loving and peaceful life. You are worth it. I understand I am also an addict. We all relate in all aspects of alcoholism. I hope you find the big book and read it again, again and again. I know it's hard very hard but I pray you find peace.
He seems like such a beautiful human being. Stay strong, Adrian
Wow. I've never commented on a RUclips video before, but Adrian you are a beautiful human. I see and hear your pain. You are so much braver and stronger than you realise. Thank you for this video. You are a wonderful, beautiful person who deserves so much. I hope 3 years after making this video that you're in a good place and life is treating you well
Oh man, Adrian..... You bring tears to my eyes. You're so much more than what you believe. 😞💔❤
This guy is genuine! I love him. I am 66
. was abused as well. I just can't seem to get past it 😕....
Crazy that you posted this today...My little brother (who's also named Adrian and is half Mexican) got arrested this morning, just after getting off house arrest a few weeks ago for a previous crime he committed...He's only 24, heavily addicted to cocaine and alcohol and I just found out yesterday he's moved onto meth now...He's been diagnosed with depression, borderline personality disorder and in the last few months, the drug induced psychosis began...
I am really hoping that he doesn't get granted bail, as I feel like it's his only chance of getting sober...If they end up releasing him, it's only a matter of time before he either kills himself, or someone else....This past year alone, he's been arrested 3 times, had 5 suicide attempts and came very close to dying each time....There must be a reason why he's still alive...a purpose...he just doesn't see it, because he's already given up on himself and even though I want him to change with ever fibre of my being, I can't make him, he has to want it himself...
Adrian in the video still has a chance at sobriety, because he genuinely wants it...There's still hope for him.
good luck to both Adrians
@@nan-sea3814 Thank you. ❤
@@Iriss89 I sincerely hope the Most High guides him. So young, so blinded and so lost in the devil's ways. May Allah (SWT) guide him to the right path, Insh'Allah
@@msgould5731 Thank you.
My son has been going on this path of hell, last fifteen years. I hope he and both Adrian's get out of this nightmare soon. Best of luck.
Something in the photography was reminding me of similar photos I had seen before, I showed my mate these and she knew instantly, it’s a book called created equal and has to be by the same man! Literally shows the souls of people, I truly hope this man finds peace!
Yes, I believe you are right.
So many people come from such broken homes it's so sad. I feel so bad for this guy. Everyone who grew up with a normal life and good parents should be greatful for what they have. God bless you Adrian.
I was a pole vaulter too. Broke records. Couldn't stop showing up to the meets drunk. I've been sober 5 years now. Took many years of pain and struggle to finally get it. Run fast, jump up, fly high
Poor guy… I feel his pain. I went through almost the exact same thing but I was never sexually abused by my mom but by my older cousin.
Shit fucked me up for a bit when I hit my early 20’s.
I’m saddened that Adrian died. But he’s pain free now
So authentic, so beautiful to see someone seeing their shame , noticing it, and beginning to bring themselves out of it, with love for themselves. I really feel this man.
Thank you for this. My father was an alcoholic and my brother is an alcoholic. He's spiraling out of control and I'm not sure when or if he'll hit his rock bottom. My prayer is that he's able to course correct because he can do better -- but the alcohol, fueled by anger, poor life and career choices and spiraling out of control debt, plus being a habitual liar is just too much. My mother and sister have been enabling him for years - to no improvement... And I think this time (he was just arrested this morning) they see that they can't continue to enable his behavior. All we can do is pray he's remorseful for his behavior and seeks help. We're here - but not how we used to be... because as any interventionalist will say, we have to draw the line -- otherwise he'll always have us as a cushion. These stories are deep, and you never know what anyone is going through personally -- whether it's they themselves, or their family. These stories tell me to give folks grace -- because we all need it.
I would like to hear those 20 songs man, hope you get them recorded as they should be.
I'm so sad watching this but has given me so much gratitude sober almost 13yrs day at a time.i will pray for this beautiful man with a beautiful spiritual soul.if u get to read this my love please try get to an AA meeting. Make this the day to turn around I feel ur pain listening to you an find I heartbreaking. This irish alcoholic can stop so can you. Ur a winner already because you are so spiritual. God bless you
Very moving interview. This guy seems so honest and likable. I hope he finds, what he's looking for, inside or outside of himself.
As an alcoholic ive struggled for many years. Alcohol affects people differently, some people can turn it off after 1 drink and god bless them. For others they have to keep going until they can’t anymore. I love god and I love my family I’m hoping I can beat this addiction.
you still drinking?
Poor thing. He's a very good looking man. I hope he gets help and turns his self around.
Just want to wrap my arms around him and remove the pain. I hope to see an update!!!
What a beautiful sweet man. I pray he is able to find peace outside of his addiction.
I am really glad you have always been open and transparent with your kids about it. I think it helped them a lot.
Adrian you are so intelligent, with good therapy and treatment you can get out of this. It sounds like you went through a lot when you were a child. You can work through that you can 💖
Omg thanks for this post and the comments I'm very greatful to have found this I'm a chronic alcoholic and chronic relapser n I'm scared shitless of dying from this disease... 😭
Its hard I can tell you that ...but you can do it. Promise you
You can still achieve Adrian! You can absolutely do this. You are here for a purpose and am so happy you realize that.
This breaks my heart. I feel he has the potential to become healed
This is heartbreaking! Praying for grace for you. The beauty of your soul shines through regardless.
Adrian you're so smart, creative & intuitive! I can hear the pain in your voice. Know that there's no damage that cannot be healed...it's never too late to seek healing. God bless, I'm praying for you ❤
It's been three weeks since I first saw this video and I keep coming back to it, hoping to find some comment saying that Adrian left Skid Row again right after getting there and that he is on a good way... As long as I can't find that comment I'll hope the best for you, Adrian 🍀
The pain in his voice 😔 I can feel it
Thank you for these videos, such an eye opener. Thank you and your guests.
God bless! He seems like he’s a genuinely nice person. Wishing him all the best
A lot of these people on here Being interviewed they will first say their mother or father was a strong person then they will follow it up by saying they beat and raped them .
"People who hurt other people are weak people not strong "
I wish they would know that I think them understanding that would be their first step to recovery .
Hope for it .
A strong person can have very good AND very bad traits from that strength. Definitely.
Some of them are lying
@@linguinepast3743 some? I don't think any are being truthful. They get paid to do the interview, so might as well make a good story and make people feel bad for you
People that hurt others are hurt their selves
Yeh, that struck me too...
You can even tell from right at the very beginning from how he’s sat he’s ashamed of his situation.
Poor bloke....I really hope he gets himself sorted. He’s got a lot going for him.
To have your own mother abuse you and then his friends mother. How low do you need to get!!
Adrian. I’m really routing for you!
Lovely, genuine person with lots of pain!
I too have a problem. I've lost a lot because of it. I'm ready for change Lord. Please save me from this devil
God isn’t gonna help you bud
YOU have to save you. YOU have to want it.
But if the "lord" can help you start the process, why not? You don't want to replace something for another thing and then addicted to that thing.
Oosterhout’s Finest stfu you piece of shyt are you kidding me?!
4spida2fingaz0 toughguy
What an absolutely wonderful comment section this channel has. Its heartwarming and unsual. Adrian, what an incredible story - i believe you can get out of this hell youre living in. Best of wishes!
Such a valuable, beautiful man. You deserve good, healthy and happy life. You really do.
I really hope he's in much better place and condition now.
I'm sorry Adrian. Thank you for doing this video because you have helped me so much. You have wisdom and communicate well. I relate. I wish you less and less pain and peace
He's a handsome guy, and I hope we get a follow up. I'd love to see him overcome this addiction, or be making progress. Prayers dude 🤞
He passed away. 😢