I used to immediately stop listening to people who'd advise me to treat myself with compassion and love. I always thought that it was some sort of spiritual mumbo jumbo that would not ever help me achieve my goals. I've finally come to the conclusion that the mumbo jumbo people have been right all along. Who else should be on your side if not you? If you get rejected, if you fail, then you are responsible for yourself. Realize why you failed, remember it's okay and look for another approach to the problem. There is no point in beating oneself up. When something stops working, find something else. It's that logical. Computers don't beat themselves up. They intelligently find solutions to problems. I am tired of being the nice shy guy who'd cringe at himself on daily basis. Your videos have motivated me a lot. I used to be able to ruin my entire day because of one single thought. Now I am finally mindful and free and can discern bad thoughts from productive thoughts. Thank you for your videos.
The expression "Looking out for number one" usually has negative connotations but if you aren't taking care of you how can you take care of others. You could beat yourself up but never in the history of the world has that improved an outcome. Learn from your mistakes and live your life without the burdens of those repetitive thoughts. You are awesome my friend.
Thank you Dr. Aziz. I have been struggling with flashbacks from a horrible event in my life 12 years ago. I realized the major problem Was I was no longer on my own side during these flashbacks. I literally googled how to be on my own side again. You popped right up. I thought “someone out there understands this.” I purchased your book through audible. I am on chapter 7. I would give anything to speak to you someday to thank you but Lao to explore this problem, I assume is PTSD. Anyway, your book and videos are having a tremendously positive impact on my life. Blessings Abby
Thanks doctor. I am from Bangladesh and here such nice counselling is not that available . I am a student of medicine and still i dont feel comfortble to go to our mental health department and seek help.They are qualified enough but i don't go there. It's so nice that i get to learn a lot from you though we are far apart. You are like a teacher to me. Thank u sir. I appreciate ur concern for people like us. You are helping me grow.
Reports like this truly keep me going. A person really has to want to change to make it happen and you are flourishing. I am happy the things I am teaching are really helping you. Thank you for watching and stay tuned for more.
The extra pillar... LOL! Like your ten-year analogy! Thanks for taking your time to help us and certainly looking forward to the rest of this self-esteem course!
Thank you for this video, I felt a bit weary and emotionally exhausted and I feel better for having listened. It makes me more compassionate to me and to others which rocks! I love that your stuff is a twofer. Kind to everyone.
I have decided to be on my own side and accept myself for who I am. After much self reflection and also watching some of these videos, I have realized that I have an emotional compulsion to seek the approval and affirmation of others, irrespective of the psychological cost to myself. This I need to work on, the fear of other people!!!
Thank you so much for this comment and for such a wonderful compliment but I must remind you that you did all the changing! I just gave you the tools and ideas. Don't ever forget you are awesome!
I took accountability, I've felt shame, I'm ready to forgive myself and move on Trying to be better 😌 learning from those mistakes I can only beat myself up so much I'm ready to walk in my power and really really try to change all the negative and false narratives I feed myself. I'm freeing myself from this burden My focus is on being a better person to others and owning up to my mistakes and having a confident mentality not a loser mentality
Congratulations on changing the things you wanted to change. There is nothing wrong with little by little as long as you are going in the right direction. You are awesome my friend.
You are awesome! Just finished reading your Social Anxiety book - it was so about me. Moving on to further exploring and becoming better. Thank you, Dr. Aziz!
I love your channel Dr.Aziz u've helped me a lot confidence wise.I used to be super confident then life happened and it brought me down with my confidence also, but watching your videos i am getting my confidence back one video after another.
Hey Dr. Aziz! Today was my first day at a new job. It involved being around a lot of new people. Along with learning new things and helping customers. I kept repeating this to myself today and it was calming. Also I was playing your videos in my headphones while cleaning. Thanks again Dr Aziz. I've been sending some of your videos to my friends on Snapchat. Happy Holidays 🌟 -Xavier
Thanks aziz you helped me a lot. I think i became nice guy since always beat myself up. Every day i punch my face in bathroom because I feel overwhelming guilt because my mom is on depression, she is single mom, then she always said that im a selfish. Now im realize everything, i should take care me and my sister
@@GetMoreConfidence yeah thank you very much aziz. I'm glad you replied all my comments suddenly. Of course I will. I just wrote all those comment for expressing myself. Because in reality I think I can't
Colin Jackson That's ok man! I don't know who I am either but I thinks that's ok because I am working on it. Give yourself more compassion. Meditate. Keep watching Dr. Aziz's videos and I'll see you someday on the other side of the bridge.
Colin, being kind to yourself and showing yourself love will help guide you to learn who you are. Just make sure you ask yourself why you are doing something you may not like but do on a regular basis. Perhaps you don't care for that activity but just got in the habit. It took me years to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be but I got there and so will you. Keep following the guidelines I lay out and things will come together.
Hi Aziz! I held sort of a public speak yesterday and I think it went pretty well. But afterwards I still get those doubtful thoughts of ”was it good enough” and all that. I treat them with love and I sooth myself until I’m feeling better. But then they pop up again. When can I confirm that I’m done thinking of this event and move one to the next? And how should I treat those again upcoming thoughts that I just proved wrong?
It kind of sounds to me like I should make peace with every single thought that pops up in my head. You have to be crazy in order to keep up with that. What’s the right way to treat negative thoughts?
I believe this may be a case of overthinking a situation. If you're getting hatred from others walk away and don't associate with them again. If someone is staring simply ignore them. It's not a contest. :)
It's certainly better than attack and defence and consistently plotting to sell yourself to others but is it doable? In both personal and business level everyone is interested in themselves so it's gets to how to do the advertising for goods.
I used to immediately stop listening to people who'd advise me to treat myself with compassion and love. I always thought that it was some sort of spiritual mumbo jumbo that would not ever help me achieve my goals. I've finally come to the conclusion that the mumbo jumbo people have been right all along. Who else should be on your side if not you? If you get rejected, if you fail, then you are responsible for yourself. Realize why you failed, remember it's okay and look for another approach to the problem. There is no point in beating oneself up. When something stops working, find something else. It's that logical. Computers don't beat themselves up. They intelligently find solutions to problems.
I am tired of being the nice shy guy who'd cringe at himself on daily basis. Your videos have motivated me a lot. I used to be able to ruin my entire day because of one single thought. Now I am finally mindful and free and can discern bad thoughts from productive thoughts. Thank you for your videos.
The expression "Looking out for number one" usually has negative connotations but if you aren't taking care of you how can you take care of others. You could beat yourself up but never in the history of the world has that improved an outcome. Learn from your mistakes and live your life without the burdens of those repetitive thoughts. You are awesome my friend.
Tucker Coffin ㅈ
Thank you Dr. Aziz. I have been struggling with flashbacks from a horrible event in my life 12 years ago. I realized the major problem
Was I was no longer on my own side during these flashbacks. I literally googled how to be on my own side again. You popped right up. I thought “someone out there understands this.” I purchased your book through audible. I am on chapter 7. I would give anything to speak to you someday to thank you but Lao to explore this problem, I assume is PTSD. Anyway, your book and videos are having a tremendously positive impact on my life. Blessings
Abby
I'm so glad to hear this Abby. Whenever you want you can reach out to me here www.socialconfidencecenter.com/about/contact/
From this moment on I decide to be on My Side. Thanks a million dr. Aziz.
Never give that up!
Thanks doctor.
I am from Bangladesh and here such nice counselling is not that available .
I am a student of medicine and still i dont feel comfortble to go to our mental health department and seek help.They are qualified enough but i don't go there. It's so nice that i get to learn a lot from you though we are far apart.
You are like a teacher to me.
Thank u sir. I appreciate ur concern for people like us. You are helping me grow.
Reports like this truly keep me going. A person really has to want to change to make it happen and you are flourishing. I am happy the things I am teaching are really helping you. Thank you for watching and stay tuned for more.
You make me feel much better and encourage me to do better and believe in myself for a better tomorrow. Thank you so much. Very grateful!!!
That's awesome to hear!
Coach please continue these series. We want part 4 and part 5!
More to come!
I have decided to stant on my own side no matter what..... Thank you so much such valuable video
The extra pillar... LOL! Like your ten-year analogy! Thanks for taking your time to help us and certainly looking forward to the rest of this self-esteem course!
You are absolutely welcome. I appreciate you letting me know. Stay tuned my friend.
Thank you for this video, I felt a bit weary and emotionally exhausted and I feel better for having listened. It makes me more compassionate to me and to others which rocks! I love that your stuff is a twofer. Kind to everyone.
Glad it was helpful! I wrote an entire book on this topic. Check it out: wwwOMOSBook.com
I have decided to be on my own side and accept myself for who I am. After much self reflection and also watching some of these videos, I have realized that I have an emotional compulsion to seek the approval and affirmation of others, irrespective of the psychological cost to myself. This I need to work on, the fear of other people!!!
Thank you dr. Aziz you are awesome 🌹
Shamel bashar And so are you!
Love you Aziz. i have increased a hell lot of confidence in myself after watching your videos.
thank you for changing my life completely.
Thank you so much for this comment and for such a wonderful compliment but I must remind you that you did all the changing! I just gave you the tools and ideas. Don't ever forget you are awesome!
I took accountability,
I've felt shame,
I'm ready to forgive myself and move on
Trying to be better 😌 learning from those mistakes
I can only beat myself up so much
I'm ready to walk in my power and really really try to change all the negative and false narratives I feed myself.
I'm freeing myself from this burden
My focus is on being a better person to others and owning up to my mistakes and having a confident mentality not a loser mentality
#PREACH
Thanks ,FOR this motivated VIDEO, I'M LEARNING LITTLE BY LITTLE GREAT STUFF CONTUNE WITH THE confidence climb !!!!!IT'S WORKING!!!
Congratulations on changing the things you wanted to change. There is nothing wrong with little by little as long as you are going in the right direction. You are awesome my friend.
You are awesome! Just finished reading your Social Anxiety book - it was so about me. Moving on to further exploring and becoming better. Thank you, Dr. Aziz!
You're very welcome! Check out my other books when you get a chance: www.DrAzizBooks.com
@@GetMoreConfidence yep;-)
Mind Blown. Thanks.
You're very welcome!
I love your channel Dr.Aziz u've helped me a lot confidence wise.I used to be super confident then life happened and it brought me down with my confidence also, but watching your videos i am getting my confidence back one video after another.
Hey Dr. Aziz! Today was my first day at a new job. It involved being around a lot of new people. Along with learning new things and helping customers. I kept repeating this to myself today and it was calming. Also I was playing your videos in my headphones while cleaning. Thanks again Dr Aziz. I've been sending some of your videos to my friends on Snapchat.
Happy Holidays 🌟
-Xavier
That's so awesome Xavier, keep up the great work!
Woah... WELCOME BACK !
Thank you I think. lol
Simply Fantastic !
Cool! I've just decided to be on my own side. ALWAYS!
Loving the stuff your putting out man keep it up
lr2119 Thank you so much. Stay tuned for more.
Thank you so much for these valuable information in this video and the others. Sooo helpful, to the point , clear and even (off the topic) cute :)
So glad!
thank You
Sylvia you are so very welcome.
Very inspiring video!!
i love you aziz
Right back at ya'!
Thanks aziz you helped me a lot. I think i became nice guy since always beat myself up. Every day i punch my face in bathroom because I feel overwhelming guilt because my mom is on depression, she is single mom, then she always said that im a selfish. Now im realize everything, i should take care me and my sister
Sounds like you've been dealing with some pretty tough conditions. Hang in there.
@@GetMoreConfidence yeah thank you very much aziz. I'm glad you replied all my comments suddenly. Of course I will. I just wrote all those comment for expressing myself. Because in reality I think I can't
I have decided to be happy and be my own best friend.
Awesome!
Your videos are helping me quite abit, but recently I have just come across the idea that I dont even know how i am, any ideas how to fix this ?
Colin Jackson That's ok man! I don't know who I am either but I thinks that's ok because I am working on it. Give yourself more compassion. Meditate. Keep watching Dr. Aziz's videos and I'll see you someday on the other side of the bridge.
Colin, being kind to yourself and showing yourself love will help guide you to learn who you are. Just make sure you ask yourself why you are doing something you may not like but do on a regular basis. Perhaps you don't care for that activity but just got in the habit. It took me years to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be but I got there and so will you. Keep following the guidelines I lay out and things will come together.
I have decided do be on my on side
I love you
Inspiration Aziz.. How about you decide to create your own TV show 😃
That would be a wonderful thing! :o)
I decide to finish my phd Thesis no matter what.
Hi Aziz! I held sort of a public speak yesterday and I think it went pretty well. But afterwards I still get those doubtful thoughts of ”was it good enough” and all that. I treat them with love and I sooth myself until I’m feeling better. But then they pop up again. When can I confirm that I’m done thinking of this event and move one to the next? And how should I treat those again upcoming thoughts that I just proved wrong?
It kind of sounds to me like I should make peace with every single thought that pops up in my head. You have to be crazy in order to keep up with that. What’s the right way to treat negative thoughts?
Acknowledge them and let them pass on by. The more you practice this the easier it gets.
How do you deal with hatred from others?
In a healthy way?
Especially when they stare? How can you react to starring?
Thanks Dr. 😊
I believe this may be a case of overthinking a situation. If you're getting hatred from others walk away and don't associate with them again. If someone is staring simply ignore them. It's not a contest. :)
@@GetMoreConfidence ugh, you're right. Thx
It's certainly better than attack and defence and consistently plotting to sell yourself to others but is it doable? In both personal and business level everyone is interested in themselves so it's gets to how to do the advertising for goods.
THIS IS OVERPOWERED LOL
As of now im on my own side
YES!
if only i watched this yesterday when i got so frustrated for losing elections by 1 vote. it really ruined my day
Miguel Maquiran today is a new day. Shake the dust off your feet and move forward. Thank you for commenting and watching.
Is that a marijuana plant behind you?
LOL No, that's a Japanese Maple.