Thank you, Ali. I struggle too. I survived cancer 3 years ago and I have struggled ever since. Nothing is the same anymore and I yearn for the “old me”. I have good days and bad days. The state of my home reflects that. On the good days, everything is put away and mostly clean. On the bad days, I just don’t care. But, like you said, on the bad days, I find if I make my bed and start some laundry, I can usually come out of it a bit. Your honesty is refreshing, you are loved 💕
I love you, Ali! ❤❤❤ It seems a lot of us RUclipsrs are having a hard time right now. And, man, are we good at giving advice, but rarely take that advice ourselves, especially when it comes to mom guilt. Do your kids feel loved? That's enough. I try to keep reminding myself of that, even when I don't get home in time to make dinner or have to spend the entire day editing, but I'm there for the important stuff (usually) and they know they are loved. I'm taking a couple weeks off cleaning to figure some stuff out. I have also given up on replying to every comment on my channel, which felt so wrong at first, but now I feel at peace about it. Your personality is very much like mine where I have a constant running list in my head of things I need to do, half of which don't actually need to be done. We need to give ourselves a break. It's hard, but possible. I hope you get feeling better soon. 💕
Thanks, Bonnie! I know you get it! I often wonder if my kids will look back on their childhood with fondness or if they will just think their mom was so mean, or lacking in lots of ways. But I have to remind myself that is ridiculous. I am trying and I am sure they know they are loved. ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable. For some reason I caught myself being surprised that you felt that way, although I do try to remind myself that everyone has struggles and nobody has a perfect life. Even you! 😂❤
It’s taken me a long time to find happiness. I always tried to please everyone all the time. This made me unhappy and restless. I realised the people who love me like me the way I am. I don’t need to try and please them. I always tried to do things to fit in. I don’t anymore. I don’t fit in. I’m not like other people. I’m happy with that now. I’m at peace with that. I don’t like to shop. I don’t watch tv. I’m not sociable. I don’t do social media. I’m at a point now where I have a few really good friends. I don’t need to see them all the time. In fact I can’t. It exhausts me. I’m happy in my little home. Just being me. Being alone as much as I can. When the kids had holidays, I’d do as much as I could before they broke up because I was the same. I’d deep clean the house then hardly do it over the summer. I’d pre cook a load of food. I was the same as you. My brain just couldn’t cope with the kids and all the things I had to do. Kids came first. I did get exhausted though because I need a lot of time alone to function. I’m a fighter too 😊. Never give up.😊 drag myself up and at them! I hope you feel brighter soon.❤
I think I’m starting to realize more and more that I need a lot of alone time to function. And I want to be okay with that. I am also a people pleaser for sure!! There are times I am a leader and times when I just want to follow and fit in. I love your story of overcoming the need to please others. It gives me hope. ❤️
Thank you for speaking from the heart ❤we all have things that weigh us down my mom always said even if you don’t want to get up get dressed and be present in the day
Thank you for choosing to share this, depression is such a sneaky thing. It's exhausting to fight it. Just remember "this too shall pass" and the world is a better place because you're in it!
Life is a trudging journey sometimes. We aren't always going to be filled with joy. But, you keep going, keep making meals, keep cleaning, keep doing the next right thing. Your constant presence in your children's lives reaps its own rewards for you and your children 💖💖💖💖💖💖 And let's be real...children are HARD, lol!
Losing my son has changed my whole world. I'm forever changed, and boy, the waves of depression and sadness shock me at times. Wishing you so much joy and good health. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you for sharing. You are helping a lot of people! I have days too that I feel so overwhelmed with work,kids,house chores etc. But I then think how blessed I am to have a job,kids and a house.😊
Everything you said here, I have said too. Life is hard. It isn't always how we want and some days it feels too much. But the other days when we are making great memories with our kids, and we feel so loved and we can take joy in our accomplishments however small, and we can daydream about the future rather than lamenting the past - then we do feel blessed to be here. We see you, we hear you. You are amazing and relatable and making a difference. Thank you for being real. Be proud of your fight. xx
I really appreciate your honesty and being willing to express your feelings. I know that I’ve been in a depression for about two years after the death of my sister, but I have been functioning, so I like to think I’ve been fighting depression! I am in the season of life where my kids are grown, my husband has retired and I’m trying to figure out what’s next for me and what my purpose is. Thank you for your great videos and as you can read from the comments, you are not alone! This too shall pass!💕
I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. I am sure that has been hard. I can imagine what it feels like to move onto the next season of life with adult kids and wonder what your purpose is! But we all have purpose, even if we may not realize it yet.
I feel the same way as a mom of teenagers. Guilt all the time. We are doing our best and it is Satans way of making us feel worthless and like we aren’t good Moms. You are a great Mom! We all are.
I also feel like I am struggling or stuck in a rut right now. I have not been productive or motivated to do anything. You are an inspiration and happy to be on this journey with you. This is probably not my best season. Take care of yourself 😊❤
I feel and have felt every single thing you said in this video. Thank you for sharing the “I don’t want to live changed to I don’t want to live like this.”
Ali. I just want to tell you that you’re not the only one in all you’re feeling and doing. I have the same problem and appreciate you sharing. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing. Dont feel guilt- allow your self. Things that are good for you- never feel guilt for that. That is my new way of see things and feel better. Take care❤
Coming back to tell you that after watching and listening to you, I got up and spent an hour going through paperwork. It had been sitting there bugging me for so long and now it’s gone! It wasn’t even hard because it was just yes keep or no trash. You are not alone in your “funk”. Thank you for motivating me to “just do something “ today.
Thank you for trusting us to open up and share. You are not alone. Everyone feels down occasionally. It’s true, we look around and perceive “perfect” homes, families, careers, people………when in reality nobody is perfect. All people have issues, minor or major. Talking it out with others can help you feel not alone. I personally am going through a rough time with family. I’m made to feel guilty for not living closer so I can help, yet I believe if I lived closer it would just add fuel to the fire. Let’s pray for each other. 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I can relate to getting in a rut- physically, emotionally or spiritually. Sometimes, we feel we are alone in our struggles. Acknowledging our struggles is the only way we can begin to heal. I agree with social media. It can make one feel very inadequate. One tip that has helped me is to schedule my day, like you would do for appointments. I write down 3 things I want to get done, even if it's something simple like making the bed. Aim for good enough. Give ourselves grace.
Ali, I really appreciate your honesty about your struggles with depression. Yes, I think this channel is the right place to talk about that kind of thing. And on a very superficial side note, the pink t-shirt you chose looks gorgeous and vibrant on you.
Thank you so much for being real. You’re brave for sharing and I think we all need to see and hear real life and deep thoughts shared. Being a mom during summer can be so hard! I really hope you can overcome the guilt and be able to thrive not just survive the rest of the summer❤ Thank you again for being real.
Ali, you are so genuine and brave to share your struggles. I admire you & you make this world a better place! It’s what drew me to your channel to begin with and I find you very relatable. I’m also a perfectionist and it causes me a great deal of anxiety, guilt and stress trying to achieve unrealistic standards. Sending you lots of love, prayers & hugs!! - Julie 🙏🏻💙
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I identify with everything you said! I did find your words to be an inspiration and an encouragment for me. My best wishes for you, your channel and your family.❤
Thank you SO much for your real and raw voiceover. I find it easy to look at your beautiful house and self and just.... Have a little envy if I'm being honest. But there's always going to be people in different walks of life and we're literally ALL struggling. ❤️ Kindness and compassion are never a waste of time.
Thank you for sharing Ali. I am sending you so many hugs right now! Depression is a hard thing to battle. I've struggled with it, friends and several family members have too. My nephew just recently tried to take his own life because it got so bad for him. Having someone listen and genuinely care is really important. It doesn't matter if that someone is a family member, spouse, friend or RUclips subscriber - just as long as you don't feel alone. I could hear the pain and sadness in your voice, so I'm glad you felt safe to share and be vulnerable with us. Guilt is a problem for me too - especially mom guilt - because I always feel like I should be and do more. This voice in our minds that is telling us this is a liar. I am enough. You are enough - just the way you are. It's ok to rest - it's actually very important for us to give ourselves permission to have some "me time." It makes us better moms when our emotional needs are met. Love you girl ❤
I watched another video channel for the first time last week and she was very emotional and tearing up…it was very motivating to be able to hear someone else feels the same way and struggles like I do. Thank you for sharing I still have so far to go with all my clutter. Please make sure that you take care of yourself. Also, I will be 59 in September and I encourage you to spend time with your kids when you can…they grown up and we do not get that time back. ❤ I was hit or miss in that area but sometimes nailed it…and am so glad for the times I did. Summers are a struggle because the routine is different. I am a media clerk at a K-8 school and always look forward to the available time in the summer but then end up struggling. Make sure you give time to figure out how to solve this depression…sometimes a supplement or exercise just a routine of walking after dinner etc. I love midwest Magic. Also he’s the one that led me to the video. I watched last week that helped me. Best wishes and prayer for you to feel better and to figure out things. Maybe some short camps would be good for the kids next year to give you a little more structure and less screen time for them. ❤ That thought just came to me as I was leaving this comment. I took my son and 2 of his friends fishing a lot in the summers…that helped but then I would get backed up on my organizing and maintaining things but I will never regret that time spent…❤
Thank you for your words! We have a trip planned during the summer for 2 1/2 weeks, which is good! It gives us a nice break from the summer rut and more time together. I often get passes to the amusement park or water park, but this year we chose not to. Maybe next year I’ll go back to buying them. ❤️
I definitely have had my days, weeks even months of feeling down. A lot of time I don’t get anything done. Hang in there my friend. Keep sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. I’m always here to listen and support you!
Excellent video. You have described me. Thanks for being so motivational and inspiring. You have made me think that I can actually get through this and get my motivation back. I am 78 years old and my husband passed away from cancer in 2019. Thank you for being so encouraging. God bless and take care. Cookie in Mandeville Louisiana
i am so glad I watched your video today. I have been feeling very down, tearful and don't want to do anything. I enjoy your chats and everyone's comments, they give me hope and although I don't want people to feel sad it is a comfort to know there are others out there who feel as I do. I really enjoy your videos and enjoy decluttering with you. I even talk to you as if you are in the room. Love to everyone in USA
I watched the episode on Midwest Magic Cleaning you soak off in this video, and I recognised myself in what he was saying. However, somehow, you managed to really resonate with me towards the end of this video when you reached what he said - that it’s easy to give in to what our brain is telling us to do, but you need to do the opposite. I was sitting here, on my couch, putting off so many things I need to do, eating my chips, and you called me out. You have motivated me to say, no brain, not today. Wasted my morning moping around but it’s time to kick my brain in the butt and get outside. ❤ Thank you. Seriously, thank you so much for this. I did not realise I was on the brink again, but now I can recognise it and tell it off.
Thank you so much for sharing Ali, it's so easy to think that you are alone when you are feeling depressed and lonely. When I am feeling that way I have to force myself to do things. I hope you are feeling better now, I am glad you are telling yourself you will get through this. I found writing down things you are grateful for each day also helped, I am sure other people would love to be where you are today.
Ali, thank you for sharing your whole heart & feelings with us. ❤I’ve had those times too, it’s not easy to be up & positive every single day. ❤Thank you for your openness & sharing your real life & feelings with us.
Ali, you are smart and capable and honest. Well done. Considering your season of life is emotionally intelligent, and something I wished I had experienced. As a young (working) mother, I was constantly pulled in directions that - at the time - seemed to physically grate against my psyche. Looking back on this decades later, I see that it was more a season issue than a Robin issue or a work issue or a kid issue, although I never could have separated any of those back in the day. You are light years ahead!
Beautiful video, Ali. When I wan to get my mind off things, I open a drawer, a cupboard, something for me to organize. My emotional burn outs only make me want to shut down and be away from everyone, so I organize a bit, a watch my fish... and I'm back in the game! 🤭
I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I think you're awesome, and you inspire me with every video. You do so much!! When I get depressed, it helps me to have an eternal perspective, as well as to realize that my problems are usually first world issues. I have the necessities of life, medical care, air conditioning, etc. Somewhere, I heard/read that we shouldn't say we HAVE to do something, but to change it to GET to. I GET to do laundry-- in my house instead of at a laundromat (that helped me yesterday). I GET to clean the kitchen of dishes from family members, ie: I'm not alone. I can walk, not paralyzed, etc. I saw a movie years ago: a young family in a small town, and the husband was being laid off. Since it was company housing, they would lose their house as well. He wanted to start his own business, but she wanted to save their money for expenses. It strained their nerves and marriage; an angel intervened, and there was an accident in which the husband and 2 kids were killed in a car accident. Now she was alone, and her priorities shifted. It gradually turned out that the accident hadn't actually happened. They were alive, and she was overjoyed. My takeaway was that she was still in the EXACT SAME CIRCUMSTANCES as before the accident (husband's job, losing their home), but her point of view had done a 180. They moved to his father's farmhouse in the country, and he started his own business. It's helped me identify actual important things in my life vs perceived important things. Anyway, you accomplish so much: you have a YT channel; your home is attractive, clean, and decluttered; you've lost weight; you do canning; you have your food storage and 72 hr kits; you play the piano, etc. I strive to be more like you, and I'm twice your age. Hang in there -- you're impressive! ❤
Ah Ali, you're not alone. We often get that feeling. Not long ago I felt so down and thought my sweet husband would abandon me, because there're so many things I can't do. Like the time I can work at home is very short and a lot of work in the house falls on him. But when I told him, he said: Darling, what would I do without you? Sometimes we're way harder on ourselves than we need to be, talking about our thoughts is SO important. (Eat your vitamins and get your rest. Great times are ahead. (It's always darkest right before dawn)). Hugs.
I always appreciate how honest you are with us and with yourself. It’s hard to share personal stuff especially over the internet. You are my fave and I’m so glad we are RUclips friends. Take care ❤❤
I always look forward to your channel. I love your content and how you go about presenting it. I am subscribed to many, many channels, but lately I am only watching a few. I like your channel, Midwest Magic Cleaning, This Mainer Mom, and 42 Fox Place.
This is such a relatable and inspiring video! It's amazing how even small steps can make a big difference in our space and mindset. Thank you for reminding us that we’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. I’m ready to tackle some cleaning alongside you! 💪✨
Ali, I am sorry that you feel depressed or just blah. I understand when you were saying that social media can make you feel jealous, insecure or sad. I feel that way I am ashamed to admit. I try to remind myself that people are human and their best is put on social media and RUclips. No one wants to show their vulnerability online. Thank you for opening up this way. I don't feel so alone and I hope you don't, either. ❤
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I agree about social media. Also i think that we go through some strange feelings in midlife and its hard. And lately summers are hard and we get out of our routines. Sending you love ❤
It's 2am when I'm watching this. I've had depression at different times of my life. Having 4 teenagers is very emotionally draining. It's hard being emotionally present 24/7. Sending love and hugs.❤
Thank you! I love having teenagers, but you are right. It is emotionally draining. It’s also really hard to be there for each of them. I have one in particular who craves and needs lots of attention, so sometimes the others suffer. I always feel bad about that! But, I just do the best I can.
Ali, you are wonderful. I struggle with perfectionism & sometimes I don’t even try because I fear failure. I think you’re courageous for being on this sort of platform and sharing your life. I appreciate your honesty and thoughts on hard things we go through. It encourages me to keep going and be ok with my imperfections. Little changes here and there are important for life. I feel like our Heavenly Father loves our effort. “Through small and simple things, great things come to pass.” We can rely on Him to help us when we’re struggling and in the good times.
@@reallifewithali most definitely! We all need reminders. I’m trying to focus on the spiritual right now even though it’s a struggle to remember with all the distractions. When I put Him first, the other things fall into place and He can guide me to what I need to be doing. Thanks for your reply and channel.
Thank you for the video and your thoughts. I feel the way you talked about often especially with guilt about not being with the kids enough even though I'm home all day.
I feel guilt about everything all the time. I’m a single person with no kids, so my guilt is very different from yours, but it’s something my therapist is trying to get me to work on. I’ve been that way for decades at this point so it’s a hard feeling to let go of. You are not alone. ❤
Thank you for sharing your feelings. I have been watching you awhile. I have been feeling like not doing anything . I said to myself just do some decluttering and felt so much better. I am proud of you
You rock Ali! You are the best! Keep going 😊 I can totally understand where you are. I just want you to know you rock! And keep going because what you do is great!🎉
Been battling depression for years. I was on antidepressants for 10 years. After working with functional Dr's for other reasons in my regimen I was put on Benfotiamine. Wow, what a difference. I finally have the desire to do things again. It was like this mental change just happened within hours of getting up to 200mg. I haven't laid in bed looking at the walls in months. For all those who suffer, try it. Start slow and work up till you feel a difference.
Try watching the minimal mom and cas from clutterbug podcasts. I think you would like them. We all get down sometimes. Try to keep in mind that this too will pass. Enjoy watching your projects.
Ever since most of my family had passed away and I found myself alone, I kept thinking that what if I died and someone had to deal with all my clutter, most of it would probably end up in the trash. So I figure I'm going to slowly adopt a minimalist lifestyle and pare it all down to the bare necessities. I've placed all the wall pictures into a digital frame, everything I have that I've either forgotten about or I haven't used in a long time is going out one way or another.
As a mental health therapist I appreciate you sharing honestly about where you are at and I also want to encourage you to seek out therapy. I will not attempt to diagnose what you are experiencing from this video or the others I have seen but as a person with ADHD myself, I’m wondering if you may have ADHD? Undiagnosed ADHD can present as depression when life becomes overwhelming. I also get overwhelmed and overstimulated in the summer when my kids are home so I related to a lot of what you said. Understanding my ADHD and how I work best (especially finding motivation when I have non) has been helpful and made me feel better. Hugs ❤️
@@erinstine Thank you! I have wondered if I have ADHD. In fact, I talked about I with my therapist about 2 years ago. She didn’t think I had it. 🤷🏻♀️ Maybe I need a second opinion.
Thanks for living up to your channel name! I am totally wondering if the depression is a result of burnout from working so hard on your garage. Always remember that rest is a key component of productivity and that's why it's integrated into any regular job. So many influencers omit real rest from their productive routines and it makes us feel like we are not doing enough.
@@jennyjenkins877 I think my depression is mostly caused by my perfectionism. Which I guess is why I work really hard. I want things to be “perfect”. The garage was a big project, but it took a long time to get it done. I took it bit by bit. I didn’t work myself to the ground, but I have definitely done that many time before!
When summer comes all rules go out the window. Especially when you have kids. You aren’t the only one feeling guilty I think we all feel this at some point and it seems like a lot of the RUclipsrs have mentioned they are feeling overwhelmed right now too. It’s the time of year because the kids are home we’re off schedule there’s extra cooking and cleaning and entertaining and less time for ourselves and we strive to always be our best but we are human. And it’s a lot on our shoulders. Shoppings fun and they call it retail therapy for a reason but if you want to curb your spending or bringing things into the house I find looking in the stores is nice and sometimes I walk around with things in my cart for fun but leave it behind and also if I see something I like I take pics so I can look again later at home and by then later on the impulse has worn off. It’s ok to keep the bins but get them out of your closet put them where your other organizing stuff goes but also remember you can store your stuff at the store for when you need it. You aren’t sure you’ll def need those products in those sizes until the time comes so don’t worry about the sale. Return them and buy when you know what you need. Please don’t feel guilt for not feeling 100 percent. I often let some things go when I’m feeling low mood but the thing that makes that low mood go away is usually straightening up and getting your tasks done. Some times you can’t and you can take a break but try not to take too long of a break. Those five min pick ups matter. This is so normal. You are not not not alone. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you for being honest. I'm lying in my bed with a dishwasher that needs to be unloaded. A bedroom closet that I started to decluter. I feel lonely, a failure , and just a plain looser. Thank you. I guess I'm not alone.
@@nancybrower8608 You are not a failure or a looser! I know it feels like that, but we need to send messages to our brains that those are lies! You are amazing just the way you are. ❤️
Really, I just got up and got some things done. And just kept myself busy. I’m still feeling a little down, but I know it will pass. I hope you can remember that it will pass!
I lost my husband and best friend in January of 2024, and then this past Wednesday his nephew that was like a brother to him passed away from cancer, my mom has Alzheimers and has been in a nursing home for the past 3 years, so I totally am feeling overwhelmed, since my husband passed all of the outside work that he took care of has landed on my shoulders, and my house has gotten so cluttered that I feel I will never get it decluttered and organized the way that I would love for it to be. I will be 62 in 3 months and I'd love to have my house in order by then. I like to sew and make quilts and while doing so, I have collected alot of sewing items including 41 sewing machines and I want so badly to sell some of them to thin the herd, but I feel I'll never get it done. I hope you feel better soon, heck I hope we all will. Ali may I ask where did you get your bed quilt and sham, I would love to have a set like yours, thank you for sharing your videos I hope to have my little house as clean has yours one day.
I am so sorry for your losses. Please don’t compare yourself to me (or anyone else)! We are all doing our best. Just take each day and get something done…bit by bit. My bedding is from Target. Here are the links to what I have (or similar). brandcycle.shop/1ji9e. I actually can’t find the quilt set I purchased. I just picked something that had some colors I liked so it wasn’t all plain white. 😊
Thank you for answering quickly, the red white and blue set is the one I was inquiring about, but it's OK. And no I would never compare myself to anyone, we're all different and all just doing our best. But I do hope to one day soon get my house in order. Love your channel and thanks again for answering.
Thank you Ali, much appreciated. I did look and I found a few that I like. But I'm going to take my time and look, because I don't really need one at all. I have a few sets just sometimes you want a new look. I use to have my house so cleaned and organized, but after my father passed I started collecting things, too many things, but I don't want you to think I'm a hoarder, because even though I have way too many things in my house, I'm clean with my stuff, just wanted to clear that up. 😀
You're just being honest! I really didn't like the Summers when my kids were home all the time! I like structured time. They slept late, ate everything in the house and the house was so messy?! Lol
Thank you, Ali. I struggle too. I survived cancer 3 years ago and I have struggled ever since. Nothing is the same anymore and I yearn for the “old me”. I have good days and bad days. The state of my home reflects that. On the good days, everything is put away and mostly clean. On the bad days, I just don’t care. But, like you said, on the bad days, I find if I make my bed and start some laundry, I can usually come out of it a bit. Your honesty is refreshing, you are loved 💕
I’m sorry about your struggle with cancer. I’m sure that was difficult. ❤️
I love you, Ali! ❤❤❤ It seems a lot of us RUclipsrs are having a hard time right now. And, man, are we good at giving advice, but rarely take that advice ourselves, especially when it comes to mom guilt. Do your kids feel loved? That's enough. I try to keep reminding myself of that, even when I don't get home in time to make dinner or have to spend the entire day editing, but I'm there for the important stuff (usually) and they know they are loved.
I'm taking a couple weeks off cleaning to figure some stuff out. I have also given up on replying to every comment on my channel, which felt so wrong at first, but now I feel at peace about it. Your personality is very much like mine where I have a constant running list in my head of things I need to do, half of which don't actually need to be done. We need to give ourselves a break. It's hard, but possible.
I hope you get feeling better soon. 💕
Thanks, Bonnie! I know you get it! I often wonder if my kids will look back on their childhood with fondness or if they will just think their mom was so mean, or lacking in lots of ways. But I have to remind myself that is ridiculous. I am trying and I am sure they know they are loved. ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable. For some reason I caught myself being surprised that you felt that way, although I do try to remind myself that everyone has struggles and nobody has a perfect life. Even you! 😂❤
Haha. Yeah, I am far from perfect! I hope to show that what you see isn’t always what it seems. ❤️
It’s taken me a long time to find happiness. I always tried to please everyone all the time. This made me unhappy and restless. I realised the people who love me like me the way I am. I don’t need to try and please them. I always tried to do things to fit in. I don’t anymore. I don’t fit in. I’m not like other people. I’m happy with that now. I’m at peace with that. I don’t like to shop. I don’t watch tv. I’m not sociable. I don’t do social media. I’m at a point now where I have a few really good friends. I don’t need to see them all the time. In fact I can’t. It exhausts me. I’m happy in my little home. Just being me. Being alone as much as I can. When the kids had holidays, I’d do as much as I could before they broke up because I was the same. I’d deep clean the house then hardly do it over the summer. I’d pre cook a load of food. I was the same as you. My brain just couldn’t cope with the kids and all the things I had to do. Kids came first. I did get exhausted though because I need a lot of time alone to function. I’m a fighter too 😊. Never give up.😊 drag myself up and at them! I hope you feel brighter soon.❤
I think I’m starting to realize more and more that I need a lot of alone time to function. And I want to be okay with that. I am also a people pleaser for sure!! There are times I am a leader and times when I just want to follow and fit in. I love your story of overcoming the need to please others. It gives me hope. ❤️
We are here for you. All of us have those times where we feel like we’re lacking. I always say I function on guilt.
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Wishing you a brighter day ahead! Big hugs! Just know you are loved!❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you. ❤️❤️
Thank you for speaking from the heart ❤we all have things that weigh us down my mom always said even if you don’t want to get up get dressed and be present in the day
It’s hard to push past it, but I’m always glad when I do! ❤️
I'm struggling to express my thoughts into words. So I'll just say, thank you. For your honesty, for sharing (so relatable), for pushing on. 💜💛
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Ali you are so genuine and you brightened our day today as well! 🥰
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for choosing to share this, depression is such a sneaky thing. It's exhausting to fight it. Just remember "this too shall pass" and the world is a better place because you're in it!
Thank you! ❤️
Life is a trudging journey sometimes. We aren't always going to be filled with joy. But, you keep going, keep making meals, keep cleaning, keep doing the next right thing. Your constant presence in your children's lives reaps its own rewards for you and your children 💖💖💖💖💖💖 And let's be real...children are HARD, lol!
@@cantocant2346 Thanks for this. ❤️❤️
I think we all have “that” day thoughts. Doing something anything each day is a help. 😊😊
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Losing my son has changed my whole world. I'm forever changed, and boy, the waves of depression and sadness shock me at times. Wishing you so much joy and good health. Thank you for sharing ❤
@@dgiovanni662 I’m so sorry for the loss of your son. ❤️
Thank you for sharing. You are helping a lot of people! I have days too that I feel so overwhelmed with work,kids,house chores etc. But I then think how blessed I am to have a job,kids and a house.😊
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Thank you for having the courage to share your feelings with us. Depression is hard!
@@maryellensola5379 You’re welcome. ❤️
Everything you said here, I have said too. Life is hard. It isn't always how we want and some days it feels too much. But the other days when we are making great memories with our kids, and we feel so loved and we can take joy in our accomplishments however small, and we can daydream about the future rather than lamenting the past - then we do feel blessed to be here. We see you, we hear you. You are amazing and relatable and making a difference. Thank you for being real. Be proud of your fight. xx
Thank you for your encouragement. ❤
Thanks for being real. I get depressed especially in the winter. Hang in there and know you are a blessing.
Aww, thank you. ❤️
I really appreciate your honesty and being willing to express your feelings. I know that I’ve been in a depression for about two years after the death of my sister, but I have been functioning, so I like to think I’ve been fighting depression! I am in the season of life where my kids are grown, my husband has retired and I’m trying to figure out what’s next for me and what my purpose is. Thank you for your great videos and as you can read from the comments, you are not alone! This too shall pass!💕
I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. I am sure that has been hard. I can imagine what it feels like to move onto the next season of life with adult kids and wonder what your purpose is! But we all have purpose, even if we may not realize it yet.
I feel the same way as a mom of teenagers. Guilt all the time. We are doing our best and it is Satans way of making us feel worthless and like we aren’t good Moms. You are a great Mom! We all are.
Thank you. ❤️❤️
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I also feel like I am struggling or stuck in a rut right now. I have not been productive or motivated to do anything. You are an inspiration and happy to be on this journey with you. This is probably not my best season. Take care of yourself 😊❤
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Thank you for being so open with us! Please know that you are loved and supported and we’re so grateful for you!! We need you in the world! ❤
@@u2abulous Aww, thank you. I appreciate that. ❤️
I'm turning 57 next Wednesday. I understand how you feel. You've got this!
Thank you. ❤️
I feel and have felt every single thing you said in this video. Thank you for sharing the “I don’t want to live changed to I don’t want to live like this.”
You’re welcome! ❤️
Ali. I just want to tell you that you’re not the only one in all you’re feeling and doing. I have the same problem and appreciate you sharing. Thank you!
@@JMV33322 Thanks. ❤️
Thank you for sharing. Dont feel guilt- allow your self. Things that are good for you- never feel guilt for that. That is my new way of see things and feel better.
Take care❤
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Coming back to tell you that after watching and listening to you, I got up and spent an hour going through paperwork. It had been sitting there bugging me for so long and now it’s gone! It wasn’t even hard because it was just yes keep or no trash. You are not alone in your “funk”. Thank you for motivating me to “just do something “ today.
Thank you! ❤️
Thank you for trusting us to open up and share. You are not alone. Everyone feels down occasionally. It’s true, we look around and perceive “perfect” homes, families, careers, people………when in reality nobody is perfect. All people have issues, minor or major. Talking it out with others can help you feel not alone. I personally am going through a rough time with family. I’m made to feel guilty for not living closer so I can help, yet I believe if I lived closer it would just add fuel to the fire. Let’s pray for each other. 🙏🙏🙏
@@beverlysteiger6757 Thank you. 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I can relate to getting in a rut- physically, emotionally or spiritually. Sometimes, we feel we are alone in our struggles. Acknowledging our struggles is the only way we can begin to heal. I agree with social media. It can make one feel very inadequate. One tip that has helped me is to schedule my day, like you would do for appointments. I write down 3 things I want to get done, even if it's something simple like making the bed. Aim for good enough. Give ourselves grace.
Thank you. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your true feelings. You're not alone. I live with depression and I feel alone in this struggle, so you're not alone.
Thank you. ❤️
Ali, I really appreciate your honesty about your struggles with depression. Yes, I think this channel is the right place to talk about that kind of thing. And on a very superficial side note, the pink t-shirt you chose looks gorgeous and vibrant on you.
@@SadieSmith-h2g Thank you! ❤️
Thank you so much for being real. You’re brave for sharing and I think we all need to see and hear real life and deep thoughts shared. Being a mom during summer can be so hard! I really hope you can overcome the guilt and be able to thrive not just survive the rest of the summer❤ Thank you again for being real.
You’re welcome. ❤️
Ali, you are so genuine and brave to share your struggles. I admire you & you make this world a better place! It’s what drew me to your channel to begin with and I find you very relatable. I’m also a perfectionist and it causes me a great deal of anxiety, guilt and stress trying to achieve unrealistic standards. Sending you lots of love, prayers & hugs!! - Julie 🙏🏻💙
@@Julie-n9b Thank you, Julie! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I identify with everything you said! I did find your words to be an inspiration and an encouragment for me. My best wishes for you, your channel and your family.❤
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Thank you so much for being vulnerable and honest❤. And really found your quotes to be comforting. You have helped many with this video!
Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for your video. Hang in there we all have bad days and think they won’t pass but they do .
@@virginiascheidel4362 Thank you. ❤️
Thank you SO much for your real and raw voiceover. I find it easy to look at your beautiful house and self and just.... Have a little envy if I'm being honest. But there's always going to be people in different walks of life and we're literally ALL struggling. ❤️ Kindness and compassion are never a waste of time.
@@sarahharper-fi2mx ❤️❤️ I love your reminder that kindness and compassion are never a waste of time. 💕
Thank you for sharing this, I have been feeling the same way and felt so alone. You sharing did help me in a small way. I really appreciate you
@@sherriegilbert4761 Oh, I’m so glad it helped! ❤️
Thank you for sharing Ali. I am sending you so many hugs right now! Depression is a hard thing to battle. I've struggled with it, friends and several family members have too. My nephew just recently tried to take his own life because it got so bad for him. Having someone listen and genuinely care is really important. It doesn't matter if that someone is a family member, spouse, friend or RUclips subscriber - just as long as you don't feel alone. I could hear the pain and sadness in your voice, so I'm glad you felt safe to share and be vulnerable with us. Guilt is a problem for me too - especially mom guilt - because I always feel like I should be and do more. This voice in our minds that is telling us this is a liar. I am enough. You are enough - just the way you are. It's ok to rest - it's actually very important for us to give ourselves permission to have some "me time." It makes us better moms when our emotional needs are met. Love you girl ❤
Thank you, Gail! It’s good to hear from you! ❤️
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I watched another video channel for the first time last week and she was very emotional and tearing up…it was very motivating to be able to hear someone else feels the same way and struggles like I do. Thank you for sharing I still have so far to go with all my clutter. Please make sure that you take care of yourself. Also, I will be 59 in September and I encourage you to spend time with your kids when you can…they grown up and we do not get that time back. ❤ I was hit or miss in that area but sometimes nailed it…and am so glad for the times I did. Summers are a struggle because the routine is different. I am a media clerk at a K-8 school and always look forward to the available time in the summer but then end up struggling. Make sure you give time to figure out how to solve this depression…sometimes a supplement or exercise just a routine of walking after dinner etc. I love midwest Magic. Also he’s the one that led me to the video. I watched last week that helped me. Best wishes and prayer for you to feel better and to figure out things. Maybe some short camps would be good for the kids next year to give you a little more structure and less screen time for them. ❤ That thought just came to me as I was leaving this comment. I took my son and 2 of his friends fishing a lot in the summers…that helped but then I would get backed up on my organizing and maintaining things but I will never regret that time spent…❤
Thank you for your words! We have a trip planned during the summer for 2 1/2 weeks, which is good! It gives us a nice break from the summer rut and more time together. I often get passes to the amusement park or water park, but this year we chose not to. Maybe next year I’ll go back to buying them. ❤️
I do same thing, gets overwhelming at times and you need breaks too. love your channel!
Thank you. ❤️
Oh i appreciate your genuinely honest sharing. It’s going around and for many it’s a spiritual attack. I’ll pray fir you🙏🏻💕
@@SandiBlack-qd1mv Thank you! ❤️
I definitely have had my days, weeks even months of feeling down. A lot of time I don’t get anything done. Hang in there my friend. Keep sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. I’m always here to listen and support you!
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Hugs to you❤ We all get overwhelmed or feelings of not enough. But we will be here whenever you are. ❤❤
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I’m sorry you’re struggling, you are not alone. Thank you for sharing. Big hugs 🤗
@@carriecobb8 Thank you!
Excellent video. You have described me. Thanks for being so motivational and inspiring. You have made me think that I can actually get through this and get my motivation back. I am 78 years old and my husband passed away from cancer in 2019. Thank you for being so encouraging. God bless and take care.
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@@lindalawrence5975 Hi! I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. ❤️
i am so glad I watched your video today. I have been feeling very down, tearful and don't want to do anything. I enjoy your chats and everyone's comments, they give me hope and although I don't want people to feel sad it is a comfort to know there are others out there who feel as I do. I really enjoy your videos and enjoy decluttering with you. I even talk to you as if you are in the room. Love to everyone in USA
That makes me so happy! ❤️
Thank you so much for being real and admitting your struggle. I actually respect you more for it. A million thank you’s!!
@@vickieschlender2215 You’re welcome! ❤️
I watched the episode on Midwest Magic Cleaning you soak off in this video, and I recognised myself in what he was saying.
However, somehow, you managed to really resonate with me towards the end of this video when you reached what he said - that it’s easy to give in to what our brain is telling us to do, but you need to do the opposite.
I was sitting here, on my couch, putting off so many things I need to do, eating my chips, and you called me out. You have motivated me to say, no brain, not today.
Wasted my morning moping around but it’s time to kick my brain in the butt and get outside.
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Seriously, thank you so much for this. I did not realise I was on the brink again, but now I can recognise it and tell it off.
@@claritywind4041 This brings me so much joy to hear! ❤️
I appreciate you sharing. I feel like you sometimes and it’s nice to know there are others that feel that way too❤❤
@@kathibrown9494 Yes, it is. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing Ali, it's so easy to think that you are alone when you are feeling depressed and lonely. When I am feeling that way I have to force myself to do things. I hope you are feeling better now, I am glad you are telling yourself you will get through this. I found writing down things you are grateful for each day also helped, I am sure other people would love to be where you are today.
Thank you for the suggestion. ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
You’re welcome. ❤️
Thanks for helping us feel not alone. ❤
@@pdmrn Thank you!
I always smile when I see your videos pop up. Bless you for your realness.You're so beautiful🥰
Aww, thank you. ❤️❤️
It’s a dopamine hit, I know the feeling, we all do, hope you feel better.😊
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Ali, thank you for sharing your whole heart & feelings with us. ❤I’ve had those times too, it’s not easy to be up & positive every single day. ❤Thank you for your openness & sharing your real life & feelings with us.
You’re welcome. ❤️
Ali, you are smart and capable and honest. Well done. Considering your season of life is emotionally intelligent, and something I wished I had experienced. As a young (working) mother, I was constantly pulled in directions that - at the time - seemed to physically grate against my psyche. Looking back on this decades later, I see that it was more a season issue than a Robin issue or a work issue or a kid issue, although I never could have separated any of those back in the day. You are light years ahead!
Thanks, Robin. ❤️
You just got me to clean out the fridge Thank You 😘💚💜💙
Yay! ❤️
Beautiful video, Ali. When I wan to get my mind off things, I open a drawer, a cupboard, something for me to organize. My emotional burn outs only make me want to shut down and be away from everyone, so I organize a bit, a watch my fish... and I'm back in the game! 🤭
@@_DROM_ Love it! Thank you. ❤️
I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I think you're awesome, and you inspire me with every video. You do so much!!
When I get depressed, it helps me to have an eternal perspective, as well as to realize that my problems are usually first world issues. I have the necessities of life, medical care, air conditioning, etc. Somewhere, I heard/read that we shouldn't say we HAVE to do something, but to change it to GET to. I GET to do laundry-- in my house instead of at a laundromat (that helped me yesterday). I GET to clean the kitchen of dishes from family members, ie: I'm not alone. I can walk, not paralyzed, etc.
I saw a movie years ago: a young family in a small town, and the husband was being laid off. Since it was company housing, they would lose their house as well. He wanted to start his own business, but she wanted to save their money for expenses. It strained their nerves and marriage; an angel intervened, and there was an accident in which the husband and 2 kids were killed in a car accident. Now she was alone, and her priorities shifted. It gradually turned out that the accident hadn't actually happened. They were alive, and she was overjoyed. My takeaway was that she was still in the EXACT SAME CIRCUMSTANCES as before the accident (husband's job, losing their home), but her point of view had done a 180. They moved to his father's farmhouse in the country, and he started his own business. It's helped me identify actual important things in my life vs perceived important things.
Anyway, you accomplish so much: you have a YT channel; your home is attractive, clean, and decluttered; you've lost weight; you do canning; you have your food storage and 72 hr kits; you play the piano, etc. I strive to be more like you, and I'm twice your age. Hang in there -- you're impressive! ❤
@@annw1395 Wow. Thank you for that! It’s always good to be reminded about perspective. ❤️
@@reallifewithali I found the movie name. "One Magic Christmas ", 1985. Good movie.
@@annw1395 Thanks!
Ah Ali, you're not alone. We often get that feeling. Not long ago I felt so down and thought my sweet husband would abandon me, because there're so many things I can't do. Like the time I can work at home is very short and a lot of work in the house falls on him. But when I told him, he said: Darling, what would I do without you? Sometimes we're way harder on ourselves than we need to be, talking about our thoughts is SO important. (Eat your vitamins and get your rest. Great times are ahead. (It's always darkest right before dawn)). Hugs.
@@4455thor Thanks. How sweet of your husband. ❤️
I always appreciate how honest you are with us and with yourself. It’s hard to share personal stuff especially over the internet. You are my fave and I’m so glad we are RUclips friends. Take care ❤❤
@@kellypruitt2362 Thanks, Kelly. ❤️ I’m glad we are RUclips friends, too. 😊
I always look forward to your channel. I love your content and how you go about presenting it. I am subscribed to many, many channels, but lately I am only watching a few. I like your channel, Midwest Magic Cleaning, This Mainer Mom, and 42 Fox Place.
Thank you! ❤️
This is such a relatable and inspiring video! It's amazing how even small steps can make a big difference in our space and mindset. Thank you for reminding us that we’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. I’m ready to tackle some cleaning alongside you! 💪✨
@@dazzleree Yay! I’m glad. It glad it helped. ❤️😊
Ali, I am sorry that you feel depressed or just blah. I understand when you were saying that social media can make you feel jealous, insecure or sad. I feel that way I am ashamed to admit. I try to remind myself that people are human and their best is put on social media and RUclips. No one wants to show their vulnerability online. Thank you for opening up this way. I don't feel so alone and I hope you don't, either. ❤
Thank you! ❤️
Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I agree about social media. Also i think that we go through some strange feelings in midlife and its hard. And lately summers are hard and we get out of our routines. Sending you love ❤
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It's 2am when I'm watching this. I've had depression at different times of my life. Having 4 teenagers is very emotionally draining. It's hard being emotionally present 24/7.
Sending love and hugs.❤
Thank you! I love having teenagers, but you are right. It is emotionally draining. It’s also really hard to be there for each of them. I have one in particular who craves and needs lots of attention, so sometimes the others suffer. I always feel bad about that! But, I just do the best I can.
Truly appreciate you being real!! 😊😊😊❤❤ love mack!!! Love the quote!!❤❤ tyfs!!
@@lgibson0515 Thank you. ❤️❤️
Ali, you are wonderful. I struggle with perfectionism & sometimes I don’t even try because I fear failure. I think you’re courageous for being on this sort of platform and sharing your life. I appreciate your honesty and thoughts on hard things we go through. It encourages me to keep going and be ok with my imperfections. Little changes here and there are important for life.
I feel like our Heavenly Father loves our effort.
“Through small and simple things, great things come to pass.”
We can rely on Him to help us when we’re struggling and in the good times.
Thank you for the reminder. I also feel I’ve fallen short spiritually as well. It will get better as long as I keep putting in some effort.
@@reallifewithali most definitely! We all need reminders. I’m trying to focus on the spiritual right now even though it’s a struggle to remember with all the distractions. When I put Him first, the other things fall into place and He can guide me to what I need to be doing. Thanks for your reply and channel.
@@kimibrown1578 Thank you!
Thank you for the video and your thoughts. I feel the way you talked about often especially with guilt about not being with the kids enough even though I'm home all day.
It’s definitely a hard balance!
@@reallifewithali yes, I just try better every day 😊
@@kelseybailey4105 That’s all we can do!
I LOVED this video! So real and so encouraging...thank you❣️
@@Marsee800 You’re welcome!
I feel guilt about everything all the time. I’m a single person with no kids, so my guilt is very different from yours, but it’s something my therapist is trying to get me to work on. I’ve been that way for decades at this point so it’s a hard feeling to let go of. You are not alone. ❤
@@nolasavedmysoul Thank you. ❤️
I needed this today!!! Thank you! ❤😘
You’re welcome!
Thank you for sharing your feelings. I have been watching you awhile. I have been feeling like not doing anything . I said to myself just do some decluttering and felt so much better. I am proud of you
@@ElaineBelton Good job!
You rock Ali! You are the best! Keep going 😊 I can totally understand where you are. I just want you to know you rock! And keep going because what you do is great!🎉
@@PilarSantamaría-m5z Aww, thank you! ❤️
Thank you for saying this ❤
@@Cherbear-i7d You’re welcome!
Love Midwest Magic Cleaning
Me too!
Thank you for your honesty. I can relate.
You’re welcome. ❤️
Thanks for being so open 🥲
@@hiamanda You’re welcome.
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You're welcome. ❤️
Been battling depression for years. I was on antidepressants for 10 years. After working with functional Dr's for other reasons in my regimen I was put on Benfotiamine. Wow, what a difference. I finally have the desire to do things again. It was like this mental change just happened within hours of getting up to 200mg. I haven't laid in bed looking at the walls in months. For all those who suffer, try it. Start slow and work up till you feel a difference.
Thanks for the tip! I’m so glad it’s helped you. ❤️
You are not alone❤Love Jannike Sweden 🇸🇪
@@Janeva08 Thank you. ❤️
❤❤❤ sending love your way
Thank you!
Você é uma inspiração!! Obrigada por seus vídeos.❤❤
@@MrsZoomgamer You’re welcome. ❤️
You are not alone 😢it is temporary You can do this 😊
Thank you!
Try watching the minimal mom and cas from clutterbug podcasts. I think you would like them. We all get down sometimes. Try to keep in mind that this too will pass. Enjoy watching your projects.
I love Dawn and Cass! I’ve watched them for years. ❤️❤️
Ever since most of my family had passed away and I found myself alone, I kept thinking that what if I died and someone had to deal with all my clutter, most of it would probably end up in the trash. So I figure I'm going to slowly adopt a minimalist lifestyle and pare it all down to the bare necessities. I've placed all the wall pictures into a digital frame, everything I have that I've either forgotten about or I haven't used in a long time is going out one way or another.
I am sure that is a hard change to make, but I bet it will be worth it. ❤️
As a mental health therapist I appreciate you sharing honestly about where you are at and I also want to encourage you to seek out therapy. I will not attempt to diagnose what you are experiencing from this video or the others I have seen but as a person with ADHD myself, I’m wondering if you may have ADHD? Undiagnosed ADHD can present as depression when life becomes overwhelming. I also get overwhelmed and overstimulated in the summer when my kids are home so I related to a lot of what you said. Understanding my ADHD and how I work best (especially finding motivation when I have non) has been helpful and made me feel better. Hugs ❤️
@@erinstine Thank you! I have wondered if I have ADHD. In fact, I talked about I with my therapist about 2 years ago. She didn’t think I had it. 🤷🏻♀️ Maybe I need a second opinion.
Thanks for living up to your channel name! I am totally wondering if the depression is a result of burnout from working so hard on your garage. Always remember that rest is a key component of productivity and that's why it's integrated into any regular job. So many influencers omit real rest from their productive routines and it makes us feel like we are not doing enough.
@@jennyjenkins877 I think my depression is mostly caused by my perfectionism. Which I guess is why I work really hard. I want things to be “perfect”. The garage was a big project, but it took a long time to get it done. I took it bit by bit. I didn’t work myself to the ground, but I have definitely done that many time before!
When summer comes all rules go out the window. Especially when you have kids. You aren’t the only one feeling guilty I think we all feel this at some point and it seems like a lot of the RUclipsrs have mentioned they are feeling overwhelmed right now too. It’s the time of year because the kids are home we’re off schedule there’s extra cooking and cleaning and entertaining and less time for ourselves and we strive to always be our best but we are human. And it’s a lot on our shoulders. Shoppings fun and they call it retail therapy for a reason but if you want to curb your spending or bringing things into the house I find looking in the stores is nice and sometimes I walk around with things in my cart for fun but leave it behind and also if I see something I like I take pics so I can look again later at home and by then later on the impulse has worn off. It’s ok to keep the bins but get them out of your closet put them where your other organizing stuff goes but also remember you can store your stuff at the store for when you need it. You aren’t sure you’ll def need those products in those sizes until the time comes so don’t worry about the sale. Return them and buy when you know what you need. Please don’t feel guilt for not feeling 100 percent. I often let some things go when I’m feeling low mood but the thing that makes that low mood go away is usually straightening up and getting your tasks done. Some times you can’t and you can take a break but try not to take too long of a break. Those five min pick ups matter. This is so normal. You are not not not alone. Thank you so much for sharing.
@@trishb6895 Thank you. ❤️❤️
Thank you for being honest. I'm lying in my bed with a dishwasher that needs to be unloaded. A bedroom closet that I started to decluter. I feel lonely, a failure , and just a plain looser. Thank you. I guess I'm not alone.
@@nancybrower8608 You are not a failure or a looser! I know it feels like that, but we need to send messages to our brains that those are lies! You are amazing just the way you are. ❤️
Thank you for Sharing 🩷🙏🏽
You’re welcome!
Re watched your chat again. If you have Alexa call out re reminders. That may help to add to your ,to do list. 😊😊
Good idea! Thanks. ❤️
You are so not alone sista!!❤ What are some things you did to pull yourself out? I am right there now.
Really, I just got up and got some things done. And just kept myself busy. I’m still feeling a little down, but I know it will pass. I hope you can remember that it will pass!
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When I feel like you did on this day I always say to myself, "I'll be OK, just not today". Hang in there, Baby Girl.
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I lost my husband and best friend in January of 2024, and then this past Wednesday his nephew that was like a brother to him passed away from cancer, my mom has Alzheimers and has been in a nursing home for the past 3 years, so I totally am feeling overwhelmed, since my husband passed all of the outside work that he took care of has landed on my shoulders, and my house has gotten so cluttered that I feel I will never get it decluttered and organized the way that I would love for it to be. I will be 62 in 3 months and I'd love to have my house in order by then. I like to sew and make quilts and while doing so, I have collected alot of sewing items including 41 sewing machines and I want so badly to sell some of them to thin the herd, but I feel I'll never get it done. I hope you feel better soon, heck I hope we all will. Ali may I ask where did you get your bed quilt and sham, I would love to have a set like yours, thank you for sharing your videos I hope to have my little house as clean has yours one day.
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I am so sorry for your losses. Please don’t compare yourself to me (or anyone else)! We are all doing our best. Just take each day and get something done…bit by bit.
My bedding is from Target. Here are the links to what I have (or similar). brandcycle.shop/1ji9e. I actually can’t find the quilt set I purchased. I just picked something that had some colors I liked so it wasn’t all plain white. 😊
Thank you for answering quickly, the red white and blue set is the one I was inquiring about, but it's OK. And no I would never compare myself to anyone, we're all different and all just doing our best. But I do hope to one day soon get my house in order. Love your channel and thanks again for answering.
@@markayw No problem! The colorful quilt set was from Target, too. I don't know if they make it anymore. I bought it probably about 4 years ago.
Thank you Ali, much appreciated. I did look and I found a few that I like. But I'm going to take my time and look, because I don't really need one at all. I have a few sets just sometimes you want a new look. I use to have my house so cleaned and organized, but after my father passed I started collecting things, too many things, but I don't want you to think I'm a hoarder, because even though I have way too many things in my house, I'm clean with my stuff, just wanted to clear that up. 😀
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You're just being honest! I really didn't like the Summers when my kids were home all the time! I like structured time. They slept late, ate everything in the house and the house was so messy?! Lol
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