I do it because my mom was one. She influenced me, and I saw how happy my mom and dad were. He took care of her and she took care of him. Now, I do the same for my family. I love it, and I am glad you don't shame other women, but homemakers need to be valued as well.
I chose to be a homemaker 20 years ago, while pregnant with twins. My reason was my own personal experience as a latchkey kid surrounded by friends raised by stay-at-home moms. The key is to choose what's best for you & yours based on your unique family, not based on the pressures of culture. In twenty years, I have always dealt with subtle judgement. It got worse once my youngest entered grade 1 (what do you do all day now that the kids are in school? 😕) But, I have no regrets bc I know it's my life, my husband, my kids, my family, my choices. In hindsight, I also think 2-income families come to accept a high level of constant stress & exhaustion as being their "normal". But, as my paid peers and I are aging, I can tell you, that chronic exhaustion takes its toll. Many may have more money, but there is ALWAYS a trade-off.
You're definitely correct- there is always a trade-off! I think many women are going back to staying home (or at least trying to be part time) due to the latchkey experience. I was fortunate my mom was a teacher who was actually allowed to have us in her class before and after school and I have good memories from that - however, this is not the norm. I also agree that there is a culture of glorifying "stress", always waiting for Friday
Well I was raised with two parents and a housewife that acted like picking up her kids from school and feeding them was so much work that she deserved the world handed to her on a silver platter. When we came home from school we got beaten and told how much work we were to feed, clothe and transport to and from school, and how little appreciation she gets for the work she was doing LMAO! Doing the minimum does not make you a hero, it does not make you noble, it is not a fucking job. Being a housewife is as much as a job as saying taking out the trash once a week at your fast food job makes you a janitor.
@@PD-ss6qbclearly your mom was abusive, which was unfortunate. However, we don’t write of teachers, pharmacists, doctors, or lawyers, just because there are some bad ones out there! The same goes for housewives-there are good ones and bad ones just like any other profession. My experience is that most housewives are hardworking, don’t rub it in their family’s faces, and I don’t know any who are abusive (though I’m sure there are some, as every profession has some abusers). I am sorry that you had a really challenging experience, but we can’t write off everyone who takes a certain path just because some who have gone on that path are abusive.
I choose to be a stay at home parent for several reasons. It makes financial sense for us, it is less stress on the whole family, it gives me time to take my kids to the activities they are interested in pursuing, and I really enjoy it. I find it fulfilling. We've tried both of us working and this definitely suits our family better, and I think it has strengthened our marriage, largely due to daily life being less stressful
I chose to stay home when my oldest was born, and in the last 15 years, I've found so meant more people needed me than I could have predicted. My dad in a rough divorce could phone me anytime, family who were I'll could stay with us, or we could meet them for appointments, friends needing a break from screaming colicky babies, coworkers with sick kids that couldn't find a babysitter.... Being at home means I've supported my whole community. I've learned that availability is a gift in our society not everyone can offer anymore.
Melissa Drury thank you for sharing!! This is something often overlooked. I too have found that I was able to care for my sick mother as a result of being a housewife
@@dummybear6772 sometimes it WAS! But, it would have been worse if I'd been working during those times too. Sometimes I joke I'm everyone's personal assistant, supporting all the things they are doing, I find it very satisfying.
@@dummybear6772 awe shucks, thanks! It took a while, feeling out of step with the world and staying home, but now I'm past that and content knowing my choice is right for me. I hope you find that inside peace too 💙
You are stunning and I'm sure there are many more traditional men who would love to have babies with you and have you be a SAHM and homemaker. I wish you all the best with this goal :)
I'm not married, but I feel it would be a balanced life. Imagine that your husband doesn't have to think about cooking and cleaning after work, or he can grab his clothes and go. Makes both of your lives easier. It saves time, that could be used to spend together.
"It saves time, that could be used to spend together." YES. I can only speak for myself, but this is exactly the reason many choose a traditional arrangement. My family, and my husband's family, have always put a premium on the marriage relationship by dividing all tasks in such a way that free time would be prioritized and cherished. It is all about efficiency whether gathering resources, or preparing the home, or raising children, so that the entire family can thrive! The strongest families are the ones who build "margin" into their lives by choice, so that when any challenge occurs the couple has wiggle room to balance it all. Very hard to do nowadays unless one has a plan, a purpose, and a real commitment from both spouses to follow through and honor each other's role along the way. It can be done and it is worth striving toward for the health of our families.
I want to be a homemaker because I know it's my calling. I'm 19 and I'm currently bettering my self (health, knowledge about the world and many other things) to be prepared for my husband and kids in the future. For example, I'm educating myself about nutrition and have been changing my bad eating habits. I would love to pass this knowledge to my family as well as make sure they are getting what they need each an everyday. Hence why its best for me to stay home.
Ooh, I finally caught up. Staying at home full time isn't possible or logical for my family right now but I love watching your channel for homemaking and feminine tips. Blessings to you and your followers.
Brandi Belicek I’ve loved reading your comments! 😊💕 I think what is most important is making homelife a priority, even if we can’t always stay home full time
There is nothing wrong being a homemaker or a working woman/wife. I like this channel it gives feminity for all women. Some may think, why should women get up and take care of the home and being feminine? Its apart of being a woman. I like how you are feminine as you talk about homemaking.
Elaine Anderson your comment is wonderful! You are right, there is nothing wrong with both! I definitely agree that most women gravitate toward femininity
im 24 and want to be housewife sooooooooooo bad. its makes me peaceful and calm and i feel its my destiny to be one because i feel like i can show my love through this and make home a better place.
Came across your Channel and I love it! I knew since I was young that one day I wanted to marry and have children I also knew that I wanted to be a housewife. I was often criticised by a lot of my friends and even my own family, my cousin used to say that I “suck up to men to much” because I do believe that men are in charge in a marriage. When I was 17 I met my husband, he is 10 years older then me. Because my husband is financially stable my dreams had come true and I was able to become a housewife because money wasn’t a problem, I am provided with money from my husband, and like you said someone needs to take care of the home. My husband has even always known that he wanted a wife who would stay at home, he also wanted a wife who would take care of him and that he could provide for. After I moved in with him, I was 18. I took care of our home I made sure that the home was never a mess, I did go out and I also never get bored (which is also something a lot of people ask) me and my husband often went to events, and operas. When I was 19 we got married and I fell pregnant with my first son when I was 21 we moved to a really lovely Manor House, but it is really challenging because it is very big and a complete task to clean a specially with a child. I am currently pregnant with a baby girl I do believe that homemaking is more eventful when I had children, before I had then it was less challenging I love my lifestyle it’s one of the best xxx
I 100% agree with you!! I chose to be a stay at home wife during this stay at home placement. I worked for a good company but I never had time to enjoy being with my husband. Now that I'm home I can see the difference in how we talk to each other. I'm not annoyed by him asking what's for dinner or coming home to a messing apartment after a long and stressful day at work.I have more time to cook dinner, clean, take the dogs out for a walk, and read. My husband and I don't make a lot of money but we do get by. I love my husband he is a good man I want to take care of him. He loves me being home I can tell he is happier about it. I'm 30th now I had a great job but not a happy life, money isn't everything.
Thank you for this video. I have had many people call me a "Gold Digger" or "Mooch" for wanting to be a at home mother and to homeschool my children. I am beyond happy to know that I am not alone.
You are not alone 💛. Many people don't realize their bias or their slight envy of this lifestyle, but the thing is we should all be respected for our choices
Don’t lose focus and the minute aman you darte says he does not appreciate or agree with traditional roles run far and do not waste time and energy. Just an advice from me who found an amazing loving husband who is not afraid and takes pride in being a provider
I grew up in an abusive household so it was pushed so hard on me to be a working individual and not have to rely on anyone else. Now I have found someone so amazing that I realized its safe to work together and rely on eachother. I worked 45 hour weeks and hated it. My animals had to be rehomed because I didn't have time. Yes, I had more money; but that didn't fulfil me. I'm now working part time and get to try out this lifestyle. And I am in love but am so worried to go fully to this type of life from fear of judgment from his family and mine. Thank you for your videos, they are so helpful and help boost my confidence in what I am doing!
I know many women who keep part-time jobs while embracing the homemaking lifestyle. If this is what makes you feel most comfortable, I don't find that bad at all and some women thrive with this variety💛🌻. I am so happy you found comfort in the channel and I'm sorry I didn't see your comment until now!
Same. But I’m single no kids. I had no choice but to work because my father never provided. He used us and was abusive and I lost my mom. So I always took care of myself. I don’t mind working but I left corporate America and working so much I got sick and was exhausted. This pandemic had been a blessing in disguise for most. Especially to be able to work from home. I love being at home. It’s so peaceful. But I keep meeting men, they approach me and they are looking to domestic me because they don’t want to cook or clean. Nor do they want me to have a fulfilling life.
When someone refers to her dogs/cats as her kids I struggle to take them seriously. However, it is nice and relieving to hear a young, pretty lady to speak so positively on being a homemaker. thumbs up! :)
I remember when I was working as a distribution manager and there was a husband who threw papers and had a full time job, his wife stayed at home with the 7 children. One person really did have to be at home. I really admired this.
I was a homemaker and housewife when my children were very young and it is one of the best decisions I ever made. . When my youngest was 3 I took a job as a preschool teacher (she could go with me) which I did for around 10 years. At that time I felt that my teenagers needed a parent at home and it truly was a great decision at that time. Once they entered college I returned to work, this time in a 9-5 role. Now that my children are out of college and or married/living on their own, I want to come back home as a full time homemaker. This time it will be to have the FREEDOM to do the things I enjoy! I always felt like I was "supposed" to work but now I am realizing that life goes by way too fast to do what society imposes. I'm ready to live my life the way I want to. Thank you for sharing this type of content and encouraging other women to do the same if they so desire!
I do agree that there is so much pressure to feel like we have to always be working. There is so much freedom at home - it is truly a beautiful life. My mother couldn’t afford to stay home when we were little and she did the same thing - she became a preschool teacher to teach my youngest sibling. She said it was the next best option 🥰💛
I am so happy I found people through your chanel who doesnt critisize for not choosing to have a proper job. I got it from my family from my husbands family, that why dont iwork what do i do all day. I do nothing! In reality i do a lot of things with my time. I learn the language of my husband(coz we are from different countries) i paint coz thats my hobby, i cook i clean i go food shopping. I do more than i would do in an office job. Yes i dont get paid, but we are good financially fortunately, why all the pressure!
Thank you for sharing your experience Gigi :)! I often joke with my friends that there is always something to do at home - the work never ends! Wishing you a lovely day 💕
I love your channel!! I am a stay at home wife because my husband works 2 jobs sometimes 3 and when I used too work we never saw each other except when we met in the driveway too kiss while he was coming home for a couple hours too sleep and I was going too work 😔 it was a hard few months. I then quit and I now take care of our home. I am judged because we got married when I was 19 and now I’m 21 and people always throw up “what are you gonna do if he leaves you?”....I don’t understand why that even makes sense for someone too ask. I could take care of myself if needed BUT obviously I do not expect my husband too leave me. I am not going too work only because I live in fear of being left. That is a sad way too live.
I'm 21 and an architecture student. But i wish to be a homemaker but I'm looked down upon and as if I'm worthless to have said so . I'm so happy to have found this community!! Love from India
I'm so happy you are here! People often judge because they do not understand women can be many things if they choose to be. I support you in your decisions and this community welcomes you :) 💞
I am decently young (soon to leave highschool), and have wanted to be a housewife and a homemaker since I was much younger. Even though I know now what I aspire to be everyone always pushes careers and and decisions and for the longest time nothing every called to me. I mean, there was things I knew I would enjoy but for some reason I was never happy when I thought about the career choice I had picked, every time I had picked one. I didn't want it. And I so wish we were taught to do basic things like cooking and cleaning and I've learned everything on my own or from people I can pick things up from. You and your channel are such an inspiration.
Awh thank you! 🥰💛 I’m so happy to hear that. Yes, sometimes we can feel alone in this world since we want things that are different from many people. Just know we support you here 😊
Answering the question by someone who lived in family like this. It's easy, they work less hours , it's more comfortable to stay in house without boss etc . My mom only problem on being housewife was that there were some days when she had to do some work but most of the time chilling at the house not doing really hard work. Her biggest problem was that she was bored by doing nothing. And this is what she really said to me
I am so happy that in our modern society, we are able to find fellow homemakers to connect with. I am a full-time homemaker because it is my duty as a mother to make sure that I am raising my son, not society or technology. I am very grateful that on one income, I have the opportunity to stay home. Budgeting, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my son 24/7 may seem exhausting to some, but for me, once I truly started to embrace the role as a homemaker, I found that it all came naturally (and that I am quite good at it). : ) I'd love to see a day in the life video, and utterly off topic, but a makeup routine or the products you use! Your makeup is always so lovely! Have a great Monday Cynthia! xo
I love you!!!! Lately I have been struggling with that fact that I am stay to home wife, because of the society and people around me, even our relatives! But you gave me the motivation and energy to feel actually blessed!!! 😘 thank You Cynthia! I will be watching your videos. Monica from Eu, but living in Russia
The most important thing to realize is we are all working, wether it's a a housewife or a job person. The only difference is earning and non earning for that work. 😊
Great video! I work part time and am a homemaker part time, it works great for us right now, but once we have kids I'll be a full time homemaker, and I can't wait!
Ladies, I'm glad for all of you who are kind ladies and housewives. A man like me will tell you how happy your men are and how hard they want to work to make you happy too. Younger ladies, in 20 years will look back and see a life full of happiness, their children hugging them in their arms with the "thank you" in their eyes. And how much beautiful life still remains to live with the man you love and he loves you, you will hug your grandchildren in your arms and you will be proud of all the "invaluable" work you have done for you, your husband and your children . Support society - you are its foundation - support your men and do not pay attention to the vices and bitter words of other women (they are out of jealousy).
I been a stay at home wife for 8 months now . It's hard some days with depression but I love it. I get to not be so stressed and my hubby as well. My hubby is a traveling wind tech so decided to just travel with him and not work. He wanted me to be a homemaker so he loves it. It does keep the house cleaner and the dogs well exercised!!
I think there's nothing wrong being a homemaker or a working woman .. and there's nothing to be look down upon that . My mom is a beautiful homemaker ,its because of her me and my siblings have good moral values , respect for others and the life that we enjoy them .♥️
Housewives are not the homemaker, they are value maker. they give more importance to the aesthetics of life once they are able to overcome basic survival needs(in terms of money needs)
And a lot of people think that because you don’t have a traditional job, you can’t provide financially to your household. This is definitely not the case, in fact, there are lots of ventures that can end up being far more lucrative than working as a traditional employee could ever be.
This is especially true in the military world when the active duty spouse is constantly moving and deploying. But, women also need to prrotect themselves in case of divorce. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities that can keep you relevant.
I recently got married and for the first 2 of 3 months I was working part time while also taking care of the home. But sometimes I would get a little overwhelmed doing both. My husband was making enough at work that we were financially stable enough for me to stop working part time. I’ve ended up going back to school to get my associates degree. (Which I had almost given up on with Covid). But occasionally I feel really inadequate because I don’t work. I find if I try to “do it all” I just really crash and my husband ends up with even more emotional work which I’m really annoyed at myself by because I feel like it’s my job to take care of him. I know how hard he works and how much he does for me. Thank you for understanding and defending our way of life. It’s really helpful especially when I get so frustrated with myself for not doing more.
It would be interesting for you to do a house or room tour, and to give us some advices for interior design. How to make a home nice, elegant,but also cosy and warm nest for a family.
You are seriously goals!!!! my husband is so against the idea of me being at home. But trust me, working full time is so draining and unfulfilling, but I make a decent paycheck so it's not really an option for my husband and I :( He thinks it would be useless for me to be at home since we are DINKS
LOL... ur husband must be the only man who doesn't want a stay at home wife. I feel like that's not his true position and he's only saying that because that's what modern society and feminism tells him to say.
I’m not a stay at home mom, I’m single no kids but my father was abusive to the whole family and my mother passed because of it. He didn’t work and didn’t want my mother to work, his job from the moment he woke up was abusing my mother. He used us for government assistance. He told me at 5 I better start practicing. He always hated that I was independent and had a brain. He treated me like I was a slave and the mother in the family and I was just a kid, cooking and cleaning. He treated me like he did my mother. As an adult I’ve met men that tried to domestic me and make me a side piece and they are already involved and I never entertain that mess. Because I know they just want to sleep with me. Men now a days they don’t wanton provide. I enjoy cooking and being domesticated, it comes natural to women. But I don’t want it forced upon me. Men are always looking for me to cook and clean and serve them. They are always mentioning babies when most women take care of their husbands too and they are not contributing. I’ve always worked and took care of myself. My last relationship he quit his job, lost his place on purpose and wanted me to take care of him. I put him out! I wasn’t playing house. I just feel like the black men, t what want me, want me as a slave and o hate to bring race into this. Just my experience.
I just found your video, I agree, I used to work a lot of hours + study , I took care of all my expenses and I never felt sicker and drained than those days, I have a chronic Illness, when I get to much stress I start to get sick, now that Im a housewife my health`s finally stable, treatments and medicines paid thanks my husband insurance, I have time to work on my emotional health, family and friends tho push me to work already (Im in Europe and I just finished to stdy the language of the country I currently live in ), they think Im lazy and getting to comfortable, they dont know that I plan to keep studying so I can have a flexible well paid job as my husband, It will take some extra years but I know it will worth it. People assume that housewifes have a low IQ and gave up on life for some reason.
I have worked all my life, i had been self employed, i own my own bussiness. i am a college graduate. I have reach my goals in life, and now i find my self being single and alone in my house. I clean cook organinize, and work. All to end up in a lonely nights and lonely days. I crave being a house wife. I crave having a man to take care of me, and to take care of him back.
I also am a homemaker and have been for years its alot of work keeping a home with cooked meals clean clothes home in order pets taken care of as well as children.
Am here cause, am dealing with this yes, my husband awesome, but am so 🤷🏾♀️, Ppl talk down on SAHW But They wanna be one, Or they don’t have that option. We work just as hard 7 days a week, 365 we just don’t clock in and we move when we get ready...as long as it get done before he gets home.
I'm not married, but I'd like to be someday if it's God's will. Right now I'm a university student. I've always been very keen to be a stay-at-home mum if I have a family someday, and I'm beginning to be exposed to the concept of modern stay-at-home-wives like yourself (which I'd never heard of until fairly recently!) At first I was very confused by the concept of a stay-at-home-wife. But I have to say, it does make quite a bit of sense when I think about it. I wonder if it actually helps keep a marriage healthy? What I mean is that if you don't have a 9-5 job outside the home, maybe you could spend those hours taking care of the household, leaving more time in the evenings to focus on your husband. Does that make sense? Is this anyone else's experience? Obviously though, staying at home doesn't necessarily mean you'll put the time and effort into loving your husband, whereas someone else with a regular job could still have a healthier marriage if they nurture it well.
To Cook all meals yourself 1) saves money 2) you know what you are eating 3) i am an excellent Cook so why shouldnt i cook! My husband takes care of washing the clothes, washing up, baking. Because he is better on it. But i am the best cook and the mist efficiant too. My cooking beats most restaurant food and then i don’t think of take away food. And i don’t mind Cook for 3-4 hours to get the right taste. We both working and i am first person home. I think We all should make our own food much more. And We eat healthy. Even if my husband snares to vegetables - he eats it if i do it. He even eats liver- But only if i do it. He refuse it otherwise. He gets lunchbox with him with homecocked leftovers. Because even if We are two persons i Cook for more persons so We have lunch also. Or put in freezer. Some dishes gets better if you make a big portion of it
I don’t think “dividing work” is a healthy ethic to live by in a world where things are rapidly changing. If I had a housewife I would be less likely to take career risks and more accepting of toxicity at work just because of that paycheck. My health issues in the future (god forbid) would become an instant shock to the whole family. Child care, cooking, cleaning, and all other kinds of housework are opportunities to bond. They are not “duties” to be determined based on gender roles.
If you do not want to be that famous,glamourous,rich,badass woman, you are so not trendy. This is what society think today. But I think that everyone is different and have another life goals and dreams. And everyone should do what they want so on that way they are going to be happy and better person for society.
Rachel Thompson I’ve stated in my videos I have a modeling and pageant background (I was miss Canada), so my way of speaking etc. comes from training. If you like our content, you might also like one of my best friends, “that feminine housewife”. I have a list of over 10 channels, Instagrams etc. On my blog of women who make similar content. There are so many of us out there 😊💕
@@CynthiaL I'm so happy to see this type videos. I had such a difficult time becoming a homemaker since there is no one around me who believes it is necessary to get dressed every day maintain a routine or make bread. Thank you so much for making such wonderful content.
Rachel Thompson I can definitely relate! 💕I live in an area, where very few live our lifestyle. One of the reasons that pushed me to start the channel. It’s so comforting to know that there still exists housewives 😊
Omg I agree so much. I don’t want to be looked down upon cause I chose to work full time. And I also don’t want to be forced to be a stay-at-home wife. I know in some cultures(mine) young girls are taught that they only have children and cook and clean for some guy they probably had an arranged marriage to. That makes my blood boil
Most married women ik r homemakers. I think most are still homemakers but we have been recognizing career women more. Homemakers seem much more happier too
Yesterday my school mates ol told me, be a housewive not in touch with time n may get further n further. I disagree.deoends on what kind of housewives. Some indulge alot in house no time for herself but all housework n family but I am not the other school mate devoted her time in housework then maybe. She says not to use housewife not nice but use homemaker.ahe also say we also working. U agree the latter..can't compare the former no austistic child..she says live for purself than to family but I more on the traditional don't mind to sacrifice for family.i don't find anything wrong because I don't find this is living for family but is a reaponsibity. I instead find that modern women not responsible just stress too much in loving herself.dedication is a kind of good n true love....
I do it because my mom was one. She influenced me, and I saw how happy my mom and dad were. He took care of her and she took care of him. Now, I do the same for my family. I love it, and I am glad you don't shame other women, but homemakers need to be valued as well.
You are so blessed to have had that example 😊💕
@@CynthiaL Yes. I was lucky and I still want to honor my mother.
I chose to be a homemaker 20 years ago, while pregnant with twins. My reason was my own personal experience as a latchkey kid surrounded by friends raised by stay-at-home moms. The key is to choose what's best for you & yours based on your unique family, not based on the pressures of culture. In twenty years, I have always dealt with subtle judgement. It got worse once my youngest entered grade 1 (what do you do all day now that the kids are in school? 😕) But, I have no regrets bc I know it's my life, my husband, my kids, my family, my choices. In hindsight, I also think 2-income families come to accept a high level of constant stress & exhaustion as being their "normal". But, as my paid peers and I are aging, I can tell you, that chronic exhaustion takes its toll. Many may have more money, but there is ALWAYS a trade-off.
You're definitely correct- there is always a trade-off! I think many women are going back to staying home (or at least trying to be part time) due to the latchkey experience. I was fortunate my mom was a teacher who was actually allowed to have us in her class before and after school and I have good memories from that - however, this is not the norm. I also agree that there is a culture of glorifying "stress", always waiting for Friday
Well I was raised with two parents and a housewife that acted like picking up her kids from school and feeding them was so much work that she deserved the world handed to her on a silver platter. When we came home from school we got beaten and told how much work we were to feed, clothe and transport to and from school, and how little appreciation she gets for the work she was doing LMAO! Doing the minimum does not make you a hero, it does not make you noble, it is not a fucking job. Being a housewife is as much as a job as saying taking out the trash once a week at your fast food job makes you a janitor.
@@PD-ss6qbclearly your mom was abusive, which was unfortunate. However, we don’t write of teachers, pharmacists, doctors, or lawyers, just because there are some bad ones out there! The same goes for housewives-there are good ones and bad ones just like any other profession. My experience is that most housewives are hardworking, don’t rub it in their family’s faces, and I don’t know any who are abusive (though I’m sure there are some, as every profession has some abusers). I am sorry that you had a really challenging experience, but we can’t write off everyone who takes a certain path just because some who have gone on that path are abusive.
I choose to be a stay at home parent for several reasons. It makes financial sense for us, it is less stress on the whole family, it gives me time to take my kids to the activities they are interested in pursuing, and I really enjoy it. I find it fulfilling. We've tried both of us working and this definitely suits our family better, and I think it has strengthened our marriage, largely due to daily life being less stressful
Loved hearing your reasons Kiki 😊💕. I don't have kids yet, but I can definitely relate to the less-stressful part
I chose to stay home when my oldest was born, and in the last 15 years, I've found so meant more people needed me than I could have predicted. My dad in a rough divorce could phone me anytime, family who were I'll could stay with us, or we could meet them for appointments, friends needing a break from screaming colicky babies, coworkers with sick kids that couldn't find a babysitter....
Being at home means I've supported my whole community. I've learned that availability is a gift in our society not everyone can offer anymore.
Melissa Drury thank you for sharing!! This is something often overlooked. I too have found that I was able to care for my sick mother as a result of being a housewife
Wow! When you put it that way...
@@dummybear6772 sometimes it WAS! But, it would have been worse if I'd been working during those times too. Sometimes I joke I'm everyone's personal assistant, supporting all the things they are doing, I find it very satisfying.
@@dummybear6772 awe shucks, thanks!
It took a while, feeling out of step with the world and staying home, but now I'm past that and content knowing my choice is right for me. I hope you find that inside peace too 💙
@@theDuchessQ wow this is what I strive to be. Thanks for supporting the village. I love a good sisterhood❤
I want to be a homemaker because I know it would make me more fulfilled and less exhausted ! (I also want bebes heheh)
You are stunning and I'm sure there are many more traditional men who would love to have babies with you and have you be a SAHM and homemaker. I wish you all the best with this goal :)
Izzy B this is great! I’m sure you will get there 😊! It is also less exhausting, I believe lol. I don’t have children yet, but in the future
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@Abdullah Danny Thank you, I signed up and it seems to work :D I appreciate it!
Amen sister! God bless you for standing up for femininity and being a keeper at home. Much respect.
Thank you Kevin! Your words are very encouraging!
I'm not married, but I feel it would be a balanced life. Imagine that your husband doesn't have to think about cooking and cleaning after work, or he can grab his clothes and go. Makes both of your lives easier. It saves time, that could be used to spend together.
"It saves time, that could be used to spend together." YES. I can only speak for myself, but this is exactly the reason many choose a traditional arrangement. My family, and my husband's family, have always put a premium on the marriage relationship by dividing all tasks in such a way that free time would be prioritized and cherished. It is all about efficiency whether gathering resources, or preparing the home, or raising children, so that the entire family can thrive! The strongest families are the ones who build "margin" into their lives by choice, so that when any challenge occurs the couple has wiggle room to balance it all. Very hard to do nowadays unless one has a plan, a purpose, and a real commitment from both spouses to follow through and honor each other's role along the way. It can be done and it is worth striving toward for the health of our families.
I want to be a homemaker because I know it's my calling. I'm 19 and I'm currently bettering my self (health, knowledge about the world and many other things) to be prepared for my husband and kids in the future. For example, I'm educating myself about nutrition and have been changing my bad eating habits. I would love to pass this knowledge to my family as well as make sure they are getting what they need each an everyday. Hence why its best for me to stay home.
Ooh, I finally caught up. Staying at home full time isn't possible or logical for my family right now but I love watching your channel for homemaking and feminine tips. Blessings to you and your followers.
Me too! My husband and I cannot afford for me to stay at home quite yet, but it is a goal we are working towards in at least 5 years.
@@allieday933 Don't let the government raise your kids for you.
The Hill Absolutely not we are waiting to have kids until I can stay home. We are 21 so we still have time☺️
@@allieday933 that's what they're after.
Brandi Belicek I’ve loved reading your comments! 😊💕 I think what is most important is making homelife a priority, even if we can’t always stay home full time
There is nothing wrong being a homemaker or a working woman/wife. I like this channel it gives feminity for all women. Some may think, why should women get up and take care of the home and being feminine? Its apart of being a woman. I like how you are feminine as you talk about homemaking.
Elaine Anderson your comment is wonderful! You are right, there is nothing wrong with both! I definitely agree that most women gravitate toward femininity
im 24 and want to be housewife sooooooooooo bad. its makes me peaceful and calm and i feel its my destiny to be one because i feel like i can show my love through this and make home a better place.
Came across your Channel and I love it! I knew since I was young that one day I wanted to marry and have children I also knew that I wanted to be a housewife. I was often criticised by a lot of my friends and even my own family, my cousin used to say that I “suck up to men to much” because I do believe that men are in charge in a marriage. When I was 17 I met my husband, he is 10 years older then me. Because my husband is financially stable my dreams had come true and I was able to become a housewife because money wasn’t a problem, I am provided with money from my husband, and like you said someone needs to take care of the home. My husband has even always known that he wanted a wife who would stay at home, he also wanted a wife who would take care of him and that he could provide for. After I moved in with him, I was 18. I took care of our home I made sure that the home was never a mess, I did go out and I also never get bored (which is also something a lot of people ask) me and my husband often went to events, and operas. When I was 19 we got married and I fell pregnant with my first son when I was 21 we moved to a really lovely Manor House, but it is really challenging because it is very big and a complete task to clean a specially with a child. I am currently pregnant with a baby girl
I do believe that homemaking is more eventful when I had children, before I had then it was less challenging
I love my lifestyle it’s one of the best xxx
I 100% agree with you!! I chose to be a stay at home wife during this stay at home placement. I worked for a good company but I never had time to enjoy being with my husband. Now that I'm home I can see the difference in how we talk to each other. I'm not annoyed by him asking what's for dinner or coming home to a messing apartment after a long and stressful day at work.I have more time to cook dinner, clean, take the dogs out for a walk, and read. My husband and I don't make a lot of money but we do get by. I love my husband he is a good man I want to take care of him. He loves me being home I can tell he is happier about it. I'm 30th now I had a great job but not a happy life, money isn't everything.
Thank you for this video. I have had many people call me a "Gold Digger" or "Mooch" for wanting to be a at home mother and to homeschool my children. I am beyond happy to know that I am not alone.
You are not alone 💛. Many people don't realize their bias or their slight envy of this lifestyle, but the thing is we should all be respected for our choices
Don’t lose focus and the minute aman you darte says he does not appreciate or agree with traditional roles run far and do not waste time and energy. Just an advice from me who found an amazing loving husband who is not afraid and takes pride in being a provider
I grew up in an abusive household so it was pushed so hard on me to be a working individual and not have to rely on anyone else. Now I have found someone so amazing that I realized its safe to work together and rely on eachother. I worked 45 hour weeks and hated it. My animals had to be rehomed because I didn't have time. Yes, I had more money; but that didn't fulfil me. I'm now working part time and get to try out this lifestyle. And I am in love but am so worried to go fully to this type of life from fear of judgment from his family and mine. Thank you for your videos, they are so helpful and help boost my confidence in what I am doing!
I know many women who keep part-time jobs while embracing the homemaking lifestyle. If this is what makes you feel most comfortable, I don't find that bad at all and some women thrive with this variety💛🌻. I am so happy you found comfort in the channel and I'm sorry I didn't see your comment until now!
Same. But I’m single no kids. I had no choice but to work because my father never provided. He used us and was abusive and I lost my mom. So I always took care of myself. I don’t mind working but I left corporate America and working so much I got sick and was exhausted. This pandemic had been a blessing in disguise for most. Especially to be able to work from home. I love being at home. It’s so peaceful. But I keep meeting men, they approach me and they are looking to domestic me because they don’t want to cook or clean. Nor do they want me to have a fulfilling life.
When someone refers to her dogs/cats as her kids I struggle to take them seriously. However, it is nice and relieving to hear a young, pretty lady to speak so positively on being a homemaker. thumbs up! :)
I remember when I was working as a distribution manager and there was a husband who threw papers and had a full time job, his wife stayed at home with the 7 children. One person really did have to be at home. I really admired this.
True, it is necessity in some families!
I was a homemaker and housewife when my children were very young and it is one of the best decisions I ever made. . When my youngest was 3 I took a job as a preschool teacher (she could go with me) which I did for around 10 years. At that time I felt that my teenagers needed a parent at home and it truly was a great decision at that time. Once they entered college I returned to work, this time in a 9-5 role. Now that my children are out of college and or married/living on their own, I want to come back home as a full time homemaker. This time it will be to have the FREEDOM to do the things I enjoy! I always felt like I was "supposed" to work but now I am realizing that life goes by way too fast to do what society imposes. I'm ready to live my life the way I want to. Thank you for sharing this type of content and encouraging other women to do the same if they so desire!
I do agree that there is so much pressure to feel like we have to always be working. There is so much freedom at home - it is truly a beautiful life. My mother couldn’t afford to stay home when we were little and she did the same thing - she became a preschool teacher to teach my youngest sibling. She said it was the next best option 🥰💛
I am so happy I found people through your chanel who doesnt critisize for not choosing to have a proper job. I got it from my family from my husbands family, that why dont iwork what do i do all day. I do nothing! In reality i do a lot of things with my time. I learn the language of my husband(coz we are from different countries) i paint coz thats my hobby, i cook i clean i go food shopping. I do more than i would do in an office job. Yes i dont get paid, but we are good financially fortunately, why all the pressure!
Thank you for sharing your experience Gigi :)! I often joke with my friends that there is always something to do at home - the work never ends! Wishing you a lovely day 💕
I love your channel!! I am a stay at home wife because my husband works 2 jobs sometimes 3 and when I used too work we never saw each other except when we met in the driveway too kiss while he was coming home for a couple hours too sleep and I was going too work 😔 it was a hard few months. I then quit and I now take care of our home. I am judged because we got married when I was 19 and now I’m 21 and people always throw up “what are you gonna do if he leaves you?”....I don’t understand why that even makes sense for someone too ask. I could take care of myself if needed BUT obviously I do not expect my husband too leave me. I am not going too work only because I live in fear of being left. That is a sad way too live.
Very profound..i love your courage and not living life based on fear which is what most people do
I'm 21 and an architecture student. But i wish to be a homemaker but I'm looked down upon and as if I'm worthless to have said so . I'm so happy to have found this community!! Love from India
I'm so happy you are here! People often judge because they do not understand women can be many things if they choose to be. I support you in your decisions and this community welcomes you :) 💞
@@CynthiaL good heavens!! She replied!! Cynthia I'm beyond grateful for this warm welcome and for the support i see in this community. 💕💕
I am decently young (soon to leave highschool), and have wanted to be a housewife and a homemaker since I was much younger. Even though I know now what I aspire to be everyone always pushes careers and and decisions and for the longest time nothing every called to me. I mean, there was things I knew I would enjoy but for some reason I was never happy when I thought about the career choice I had picked, every time I had picked one. I didn't want it. And I so wish we were taught to do basic things like cooking and cleaning and I've learned everything on my own or from people I can pick things up from. You and your channel are such an inspiration.
Awh thank you! 🥰💛 I’m so happy to hear that. Yes, sometimes we can feel alone in this world since we want things that are different from many people. Just know we support you here 😊
Answering the question by someone who lived in family like this. It's easy, they work less hours , it's more comfortable to stay in house without boss etc . My mom only problem on being housewife was that there were some days when she had to do some work but most of the time chilling at the house not doing really hard work. Her biggest problem was that she was bored by doing nothing. And this is what she really said to me
I am so happy that in our modern society, we are able to find fellow homemakers to connect with.
I am a full-time homemaker because it is my duty as a mother to make sure that I am raising my son, not society or technology. I am very grateful that on one income, I have the opportunity to stay home. Budgeting, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my son 24/7 may seem exhausting to some, but for me, once I truly started to embrace the role as a homemaker, I found that it all came naturally (and that I am quite good at it). : )
I'd love to see a day in the life video, and utterly off topic, but a makeup routine or the products you use! Your makeup is always so lovely!
Have a great Monday Cynthia!
xo
Also forgot to add in there that it is my duty to take care of the man in my life because he is taking care of my son and I. : )
A good dresser too. Her husband's one lucky guy!
When I grow up, I would love to marry a housewife.
I love you!!!!
Lately I have been struggling with that fact that I am stay to home wife, because of the society and people around me, even our relatives! But you gave me the motivation and energy to feel actually blessed!!! 😘 thank You Cynthia! I will be watching your videos.
Monica from Eu, but living in Russia
The most important thing to realize is we are all working, wether it's a a housewife or a job person. The only difference is earning and non earning for that work. 😊
Great video! I work part time and am a homemaker part time, it works great for us right now, but once we have kids I'll be a full time homemaker, and I can't wait!
I'm so excited for you Skye 😊💕
Ladies, I'm glad for all of you who are kind ladies and housewives. A man like me will tell you how happy your men are and how hard they want to work to make you happy too. Younger ladies, in 20 years will look back and see a life full of happiness, their children hugging them in their arms with the "thank you" in their eyes. And how much beautiful life still remains to live with the man you love and he loves you, you will hug your grandchildren in your arms and you will be proud of all the "invaluable" work you have done for you, your husband and your children . Support society - you are its foundation - support your men and do not pay attention to the vices and bitter words of other women (they are out of jealousy).
Just what I needed to hear! Sigh of relief! I am on the right track for me!
Mara M sending you encouragement! I definitely believe you are on the right track 😊💕🌸
Cynthia L thank you so much. You and Mrs. Midwest are my faves!
I been a stay at home wife for 8 months now . It's hard some days with depression but I love it. I get to not be so stressed and my hubby as well. My hubby is a traveling wind tech so decided to just travel with him and not work. He wanted me to be a homemaker so he loves it. It does keep the house cleaner and the dogs well exercised!!
Gamer wife - love that name! That's pretty cool. Even cooler is u being a stay at home wife.
I would love to see a video about what a normal day looks like for you!
Sage it is noted 😊💕🌸
I think there's nothing wrong being a homemaker or a working woman .. and there's nothing to be look down upon that . My mom is a beautiful homemaker ,its because of her me and my siblings have good moral values , respect for others and the life that we enjoy them .♥️
it's so lovely to see you mention your mother. I'm sure she's wonderful! 💕
@@CynthiaL yes , she is the best thing happened to me 💕
This was really interesting! I'm from Sweden and being a housewife doesn't really feel like an option here ✨
Thank you 😊💕It's really uncommon where I live in Canada as well. I can imagine it is uncommon in Sweden as well, from what I've heard.
I feel the same way (Also live in Sweden) - Though we are considering doing so i also work 50-75% to begin with to see if it is possible
@@CynthiaL I knew it! She’s Canadian!
It's not an option in most places because a lot of people are obsessed with money and believe others need to have that obsession as well.
Notification squad 💓💐 Hi Cynthia! Lots of love from Turkey 🌸
Melike Ersoy I love Turkey 🇹🇷
Mara M hello Mara 😊🌸
Melike Ersoy sending you love back 😊💕🌸
@@marah3298 Hugs from Turkey, then 😄🤗
This is a great vlog!!! Thank you so much for sharing.😎
Housewives are not the homemaker, they are value maker.
they give more importance to the aesthetics of life once they are able to overcome basic survival needs(in terms of money needs)
And a lot of people think that because you don’t have a traditional job, you can’t provide financially to your household. This is definitely not the case, in fact, there are lots of ventures that can end up being far more lucrative than working as a traditional employee could ever be.
It was always my dream to be a homemaker. I've so lucky to live my dream, it's so happy and fulfilling!
This is especially true in the military world when the active duty spouse is constantly moving and deploying. But, women also need to prrotect themselves in case of divorce. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities that can keep you relevant.
Chris Chris this is true! 😊And volunteer work also provides experience
wonderful video. i agree with what you said :)
I recently got married and for the first 2 of 3 months I was working part time while also taking care of the home. But sometimes I would get a little overwhelmed doing both. My husband was making enough at work that we were financially stable enough for me to stop working part time. I’ve ended up going back to school to get my associates degree. (Which I had almost given up on with Covid). But occasionally I feel really inadequate because I don’t work. I find if I try to “do it all” I just really crash and my husband ends up with even more emotional work which I’m really annoyed at myself by because I feel like it’s my job to take care of him. I know how hard he works and how much he does for me.
Thank you for understanding and defending our way of life. It’s really helpful especially when I get so frustrated with myself for not doing more.
Good video Cynthia. Video request please. How to dress feminine at working or looking nice at home. Thank you 🙂
I have had this request a few times! I will write it down. Thank you Doris 😊💕
Big YES to a "day in the life"
soon (next week or the one after)
It would be interesting for you to do a house or room tour, and to give us some advices for interior design. How to make a home nice, elegant,but also cosy and warm nest for a family.
I’m a stay home because I want to be. I enjoy it. Going on 15 years. :)
Yes! Be proud of it 😄 ❤️
Love your videos!
Cupcake 93 thank you 😊💕💕
You are seriously goals!!!! my husband is so against the idea of me being at home. But trust me, working full time is so draining and unfulfilling, but I make a decent paycheck so it's not really an option for my husband and I :( He thinks it would be useless for me to be at home since we are DINKS
LOL... ur husband must be the only man who doesn't want a stay at home wife. I feel like that's not his true position and he's only saying that because that's what modern society and feminism tells him to say.
Great Clip ! Can You make clip office papers, sorting, declutter?
Thank you! Maybe in a vlog 😊
Definitely do a day in your life video!
noted 😊
I’m not a stay at home mom, I’m single no kids but my father was abusive to the whole family and my mother passed because of it. He didn’t work and didn’t want my mother to work, his job from the moment he woke up was abusing my mother. He used us for government assistance. He told me at 5 I better start practicing. He always hated that I was independent and had a brain. He treated me like I was a slave and the mother in the family and I was just a kid, cooking and cleaning. He treated me like he did my mother.
As an adult I’ve met men that tried to domestic me and make me a side piece and they are already involved and I never entertain that mess. Because I know they just want to sleep with me. Men now a days they don’t wanton provide. I enjoy cooking and being domesticated, it comes natural to women. But I don’t want it forced upon me.
Men are always looking for me to cook and clean and serve them. They are always mentioning babies when most women take care of their husbands too and they are not contributing. I’ve always worked and took care of myself. My last relationship he quit his job, lost his place on purpose and wanted me to take care of him. I put him out! I wasn’t playing house. I just feel like the black men, t what want me, want me as a slave and o hate to bring race into this. Just my experience.
So many beautiful ladies in here 🥰
I love your videos! :) x
Thank you Bianca😊💕
I just found your video, I agree, I used to work a lot of hours + study , I took care of all my expenses and I never felt sicker and drained than those days, I have a chronic Illness, when I get to much stress I start to get sick, now that Im a housewife my health`s finally stable, treatments and medicines paid thanks my husband insurance, I have time to work on my emotional health, family and friends tho push me to work already (Im in Europe and I just finished to stdy the language of the country I currently live in ), they think Im lazy and getting to comfortable, they dont know that I plan to keep studying so I can have a flexible well paid job as my husband, It will take some extra years but I know it will worth it. People assume that housewifes have a low IQ and gave up on life for some reason.
Yes we definitely want to see that 😂😂
Lol, maybe next week (or the week after)
@ribanno kitano and why is that babygorl?
I have worked all my life, i had been self employed, i own my own bussiness. i am a college graduate. I have reach my goals in life, and now i find my self being single and alone in my house. I clean cook organinize, and work. All to end up in a lonely nights and lonely days. I crave being a house wife. I crave having a man to take care of me, and to take care of him back.
Love your channel Cynthia☺️
I also am a homemaker and have been for years its alot of work keeping a home with cooked meals clean clothes home in order pets taken care of as well as children.
I'd like to see frantic Cynthia 😁 loved the video
lol it is noted 😊💕
Yayy thank you for reminding me.
Am here cause, am dealing with this yes, my husband awesome, but am so 🤷🏾♀️, Ppl talk down on SAHW But They wanna be one, Or they don’t have that option. We work just as hard 7 days a week, 365 we just don’t clock in and we move when we get ready...as long as it get done before he gets home.
I'm not married, but I'd like to be someday if it's God's will. Right now I'm a university student. I've always been very keen to be a stay-at-home mum if I have a family someday, and I'm beginning to be exposed to the concept of modern stay-at-home-wives like yourself (which I'd never heard of until fairly recently!) At first I was very confused by the concept of a stay-at-home-wife. But I have to say, it does make quite a bit of sense when I think about it. I wonder if it actually helps keep a marriage healthy? What I mean is that if you don't have a 9-5 job outside the home, maybe you could spend those hours taking care of the household, leaving more time in the evenings to focus on your husband. Does that make sense? Is this anyone else's experience? Obviously though, staying at home doesn't necessarily mean you'll put the time and effort into loving your husband, whereas someone else with a regular job could still have a healthier marriage if they nurture it well.
I do enjoy being at home cooking , cleaning , caring and my family
Your husband works 7 days a week?? Sis!!! Have mercy! God be with you!!
To Cook all meals yourself 1) saves money 2) you know what you are eating 3) i am an excellent Cook so why shouldnt i cook! My husband takes care of washing the clothes, washing up, baking. Because he is better on it. But i am the best cook and the mist efficiant too. My cooking beats most restaurant food and then i don’t think of take away food. And i don’t mind Cook for 3-4 hours to get the right taste. We both working and i am first person home. I think We all should make our own food much more. And We eat healthy. Even if my husband snares to vegetables - he eats it if i do it. He even eats liver- But only if i do it. He refuse it otherwise. He gets lunchbox with him with homecocked leftovers. Because even if We are two persons i Cook for more persons so We have lunch also. Or put in freezer. Some dishes gets better if you make a big portion of it
I don’t think “dividing work” is a healthy ethic to live by in a world where things are rapidly changing. If I had a housewife I would be less likely to take career risks and more accepting of toxicity at work just because of that paycheck. My health issues in the future (god forbid) would become an instant shock to the whole family.
Child care, cooking, cleaning, and all other kinds of housework are opportunities to bond. They are not “duties” to be determined based on gender roles.
If you do not want to be that famous,glamourous,rich,badass woman, you are so not trendy. This is what society think today. But I think that everyone is different and have another life goals and dreams. And everyone should do what they want so on that way they are going to be happy and better person for society.
I love u
This is almost identical to Mrs. Midwest. I just love her. Do you have a similar background?
Rachel Thompson which video exactly?
Rachel Thompson I’ve stated in my videos I have a modeling and pageant background (I was miss Canada), so my way of speaking etc. comes from training. If you like our content, you might also like one of my best friends, “that feminine housewife”. I have a list of over 10 channels, Instagrams etc. On my blog of women who make similar content. There are so many of us out there 😊💕
@@CynthiaL I'm so happy to see this type videos. I had such a difficult time becoming a homemaker since there is no one around me who believes it is necessary to get dressed every day maintain a routine or make bread. Thank you so much for making such wonderful content.
Rachel Thompson I can definitely relate! 💕I live in an area, where very few live our lifestyle. One of the reasons that pushed me to start the channel. It’s so comforting to know that there still exists housewives 😊
Great video!
I believe Feminism is not judging other women for their own choices.
Omg I agree so much. I don’t want to be looked down upon cause I chose to work full time. And I also don’t want to be forced to be a stay-at-home wife. I know in some cultures(mine) young girls are taught that they only have children and cook and clean for some guy they probably had an arranged marriage to. That makes my blood boil
I understand everything you are saying though and I agree even though this is not my life or experience.
Most married women ik r homemakers. I think most are still homemakers but we have been recognizing career women more. Homemakers seem much more happier too
Thanks for making this video!
Thank you for watching 😊💕
I am interested because I'm disappointed with my career options and career perspectives where I live
The sacrifices of mom makes a life , life!!!!
Yes I would love a “real” vlog in your life ❤️
Black Cat AG soon 😊
Yesterday my school mates ol told me, be a housewive not in touch with time n may get further n further. I disagree.deoends on what kind of housewives. Some indulge alot in house no time for herself but all housework n family but I am not the other school mate devoted her time in housework then maybe. She says not to use housewife not nice but use homemaker.ahe also say we also working. U agree the latter..can't compare the former no austistic child..she says live for purself than to family but I more on the traditional don't mind to sacrifice for family.i don't find anything wrong because I don't find this is living for family but is a reaponsibity. I instead find that modern women not responsible just stress too much in loving herself.dedication is a kind of good n true love....
Cynthia you are beautiful very elegant and smart
Ayaan Shuuriye this is so kind, thank you 😊😊
I just came from one year maternity leave and work seems so meh...
Is Cynthia Canadian?
I am too, b.t.w.
yes😊! hello fellow Canadian!
❤❤❤
The Hill 💕💕💕
Second watch, b.t.w.
Thank you Gregg, very kind!!
I am from India
You are so cute
Rushikesh Kadam thank you!!
Yes, I would like to see your day-to-day.
will you homeschool ?
This is sad and depressing, I'm sorry.
How so?
You are sad and depressing, Elizabeth!
Come here in 10 years and comment about your situation - if you have the time.