This is the most pragmatic, insightful examination of a celebrity I’ve seen. To explain how her reactions to rejection seem exaggerated to everyone because of her disorder is so spot on. Nice.
Maybe this could be a good time to address what could happen when extreme rejection sensitivity is triggered without psychologically informed care. I lost my twin during an episode. This is super important to talk about. Thank you very much for your compassion.
She doesn’t have a disorder. Attachment styles aren’t disorders, nor are they even scientifically validated or peer-reviewed. The most data we have for attachment involves babies and very young children. This was a lot of baloney wrapped up in the guise of buzzwords.
@@MsKenijo attachment styles are described here, but a deep fear of abandonment that interferes with her life sounds more like a disorder to me. And because it’s serious , it might be better to err on the side of caution and try to understand Why some people do what they do, rather than snap judgements that factor so heavily into someone else’s life. You being a hater doesn’t change her experience.
@@janarama8136 I’m actually a fan of J. Lo, I personally think she is a better than average actor. However, this doesn’t negate the fact that this video was full of psychobabble and misinformation, not to mention making a “diagnosis” with no factual basis for either Ben’s or Jennifer’s “attachment styles”. It’s full of assumptions and projections. And what disorder has only a “deep fear of abandonment” as its sole diagnostic criterion? I’m not a hater, I’m a logician.
Agreed! This is well done and interesting. People here just want to hate on her bc it’s become the thing to do. I like digging into a persons psychology.
'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
That poker table waitress who's tip she "corrected" got $25000 and a dozen roses 🌹 as an apology for their mutual humiliation. Take that, control freak!
Here's the thing, J.Lo thinks too highly of herself. The 99% of society, the ones who make the 1%ers stay there, are sick and tired of being treated less than. This isnt about her career in movies and music. It's about how she treats people around and below her. How does she expect us to pay $500 for concert tickets when thats a quater of my monthly rent and groceries??? And shes out here giving $5 tips and getting people to lose their jobs if they accidently look at her. I have loved her most famous movies but as a person, shes needs to be humbled.
That, and let’s be honest: it’s not 2004 anymore. No one talks about JLo anymore. Most people under 25 probably don’t know who she is. I’m almost 30 and I only know her as the woman that (I thought) sings “Jenny From the Block”. She’s simply irrelevant. No one is willing to pay hundreds of dollars for a show from a woman that most people barely remember. I think she should just take her money and start some new endeavors and make herself relevant to a newer audience but instead she’s stuck in the past. It’s almost comforting to know some famous (or formally famous) people are also nostalgic for the past in a way.
I'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
Not to mention, I feel like this piece DID excuse her behavior using mental issues, which is ridiculous because MANY people have the same disorders but don't go around treating people like dirt! And that's how mental illnesses get stigmatized. I feel so gaslit after watching this video.
I think you ignored the actual real reason why she's not liked. People don't like her because she's anxious type or because of her roles or movie. Have you actually heard how she treats people? Stories from her assistants? I thought you'll discuss these points and I kept waiting for it but I feel you miss the point on why she's not liked and made it seems we hate her for the wrong reasons. Being anxious attached does NOT justify for her rudeness, entitled behavior. The movie infuriates not because wether or not she lied about being from the Bronx but because despite of living humble beginnings she looks down to people who are not rich or famous.
You should also focus on the fact that most people (who arent bashing her just for fun) dont claim shes a wannabe actress, but rather a wannabe singer. I never ‘liked’ her in the first place (like many) so I dont think saying we have that relationship cycle with her makes sense. When she does something worth applauding (hustlers) we do, but we also criticize her for many things, including; - What happened with Mariah - Her using other women’s voices and not crediting them - Her disrespectful attitude towards people for YEARS - She says her bronx is disowning her, yet she doesn’t do anything to actually help “her people”. She only uses her origin story to push a narrative she can convert to money. And the “financial advisor” excuse is just nonsense, performative activism at its finest. - Toxic treatment of employees / team members And much more. I appreciate all the research you guys did, but you seem to have got lost among the trolls and not understood what the actual issues are. Regarding her relationship with Affleck, your analysis seems spot on.
Facts! You took the words out of my mouth. I felt like the creator wasn’t on target with this video. Edit: thank you for bringing up Mariah Carey. That drama which made me not like JLo.
@@Colourmechoco The video is full of lies, there are literally many, too many videos of people telling their bad experiences with J LO, if were only like 20 people, I will doubt, but there are so many, I do believe them. About childhood, there are videos of people were together with her in a classroom!!
Not a fan, but imagine how many people a celebrity meet in their daily lives. Not everyone is going to have a good experience also some people are entitled. I think the hate she is getting is disproportional.
@@s.r189 Exactly! And the fact she said she was not the richest in her childhood is also believable, since people do not semm to comprehend that neighborhoods can get gentrified and be more expensive over time.
…..Amongst other things she has done!!! She acts like that bc she has been getting away with it for so long so she thinks she can treat people like peasants! Everyone is on to you JLO! 😮
@@MashaRistovawhy because she is calling out Jlos problematic behaviors? She claims her Bronx and Latina roots all the time, yet has done nothing positive for either community.
@@karlaf.64why does she need to do anything transformative there? It's not required to pay it forward. Not all celebrities are like this. I'm honestly confused. Does she have a legit unpaid tab or something?
People are not hating on her because of her relationships. It’s the way she treats people like they are beneath her. I believe Jennifer Lopez is a hard worker . These are not the reasons people dislike her. It is the way she treats people. Too many people have come out talking about the way they were treated by her. I was never a big Jlo fan. Selena was the best movie she played in for me. I’ve never bought a Jennifer Lopez album or played any of her music. I never watched her on American Idol. And I have never bought any of her products.
Exactly!!! If she has treated people like garbage and like they are below her, her karma is coming for her, no matter how many in depth documentaries she makes, America loved her because she claimed she was genuinely a kind caring person... She was good at tricking people if that's true, and I think that's why people are frustrated, because she was so good at playing nice and it's one of the worst traits a person can have... Being a good fake..
I'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
Soooo it looks like you missed all the real reasons people don't like her. The main reason is that she's rude to everyone she perceives as beneath her. And she IS a musical fraud. It's well known and should have been covered here.
@@onlyrealtalentedartists plus - she covered up the truth. Hellllo! The lady who got shot was looking directly into P. Diddy's face when he shot her. Oh. My. God.
Yes! Did you conveniently forget about the music P.Diddy & Tommy Motola gave/stole for JLO? She’s not a singer, she is a Karaoke singer at best! Did you really think she didn’t know who was singing her songs on her albums?? How naive of the public…..to fall for her criminal antics! She laughed at all of us & all the way to the bank! Take away her star & awards!!!!! What a fake & fraud x 1000!
@@onlyrealtalentedartistsAllegedly???? She knows what part she played……that is why she still supports Diddy today…….for continued protection from all the bad things she has done & had others sweep under the rug for her so she could reach for stardom! She is ugly inside and doesn’t care who gets hurt in the process! Shameful!
@@silvialake5829 is horrible, I am sure J Lo wants to live the past behind, she may be arrogant and entitled but I dont think she is a bad person, she just was in love with a monster who had a bad influence on her,sadly in life sometimes you have to take responsibility for your bad actions even if they happened 20 tears ago...I believe that girl that said from the beginning that Diddy shoot her in the face was telling the truth.
33:17 completely forgot/glossed over her using other people's demos as her main vocals lol. And being a mediocre singer but a good performer at everything else. Edit: oh and her saying the n-word in a song once because she got a little too comfortable in the "urban" space
I thought her using the n word went hand in hand with her using other peoples vocals - I think Ashanti sang it initially(correct me if I’m wrong) so it would make more sense if it was Ashanti but then her track was used for Jennifer to lip sync to. She just doubles up on bad choices there I think.
I thought she was hated on because she took songs from other Black artists and was a diva to servers Gen zers and a millennial myself couldn't care less about Bennifer or any of her relationships
Why are you bringing generations into this? I never liked her overplayed singles on MTV or the radio or at school dances - and I'm Gen Y (aka "Millennial"), but my Gen has nothing to do with my opinions or perspective on this non-political matter. It's just pop culture. It ain't that deep. I, unlike Gen Z, was old enough to witness all this ish in real time, including the weirdness media obsession that was Bennifer (starting the trend of naming of all celebrity couples like this... Ugh) - while Gen Z doesn't recall anything about this period when she peaked, and seems riled up literally over a TikTok campaign. Who cares? Really annoying to be lumped in with Zoomers who otherwise split their time between making fun of our skinny jeans, and our counterculture parents they call "Boomers" (just like their entitled Gen Xer "greed is good" neglectful parents that raised them started doing on 4Chan in 2013... That same year Gen Y got rebranded "Millennials" 🤔). Zoomers & Gen X didn't get pummeled by the Great Recession into permanent poverty, as jobs and companies literally left the country in droves after getting massive government bail outs - but nobody, absolutely nobody helped us not lose everything. For all we've done to give Zoomers social media (we invented it, they made it toxic - going in the comments while they're literal children and being mean... Because kids are mean, and now everyone's horrible to each other - they literally have no idea how wonderful, social, fun, and free social media _used_ to be), and for them to aspire to "careers" of being "Influencers" - a creative hustle we created from nothing just to survive the economic depression when we literally could not get a JOB. Now, social media's nothing but ads, inauthenticity, vanity, arguing, posts forcibly made "kid friendly," and censorship all because these child "edgelords" killed it. They don't understand corporations are evil - they still use a Wendy's Twitter ad post as a "meme." This comment, and literally all comments on this video just regurgitating the same TikTok points are so obnoxious!! Does anyone think for themselves anymore??? Do Zoomers really think they can influence us, Gen Y, by sometimes pretending we have anything in common after years of trashing us?! We're the children of the counterculture, we don't fall for ish. Y'all got a lot to learn. Get off TikTok, care about your fellow human beings losing their housing right now. Stanning absolutely anyone, and fake "cancelling" some of the least problematic celebrities, are such a waste of energy and the bandwidth it took to upload. All celebrities are out of touch with economic struggles, and the wealthiest people are cheap!! Targeting JLo ain't gonna change that. Poor people do handle money differently no matter how much of it you get. She didn't lie about where she's from, yes her music career (which is over) WAS manufactured - nothing new here. On to the next!!
Surprised you missed the obvious. She treats people like dirt who are not on her "level." Theres a reason South Park did a whole episode about her being a huge jerk.
Fun fact: one of the creators of South Park wore her iconic green dress to an awards show the following year, & she pushed past him so their portrayal of her being a bitch was from personal experience but she also fires anybody who mentions that episode they made about her even if simply they’re saying they like tacos.
@@onlyrealtalentedartists You need to have a love of security on yourself in order to do that and in this society we have created is more and more hard to learn to do that.
I’ve loved all your videos so far, but this misses the mark for me. I totally agree that she is rife with issues surrounding self esteem, and co-dependency- but no…WE did not make her a self aggrandizing ass hat who mistreats people scraping by on minimum wage. Is that not enough reason to dislike a celebrity that we don’t know, and will never know us? Came off as a poor taste lecture to the public. Most of whom, are STRUGGLING HARD rn just to get by. I agree that empathy is everything, and I’m far from sending hate mail or picketing outside her house- but I do maintain the right to dislike her. Maybe if she practiced more empathy of her own along the way, (for someone other than herself.) people would still ride with her. You didn’t even mention half of the common qualms with her, and dismissed the ones you did as the public’s lack of understanding. How about that old interview, where she bashes ALL the other A list women in her industry (which are not all tiny blonds) How about her never actually returning to, or helping the Bronx she claims to remember so fondly? She was in a car commercial themed around going ‘back to the block,’ and insisted on a body double for the parts that were filmed IN the Bronx. I guess she has anxious attachment though, so how dare we be so callous. This is either poorly researched (which I don’t believe, considering the quality of your other videos.) Or you deliberately left out anything that wouldn’t fit your preferred narrative. Considering it’s titled “the REAL reason…” as if you’re speaking on behalf of everyone, that’s confirmation bias of your own. I guess WE peasants should just get back to our labor, and stop being so mean to JLO.
I don't really know much about Ben Affleck, but does it really make him an avoidant attached person if she is constantly violating his boundaries and he leaves? I think it's her attitude towards others that make people dislike her, not her anxious attachment tendencies. She's constantly rude to people she views as "beneath" her.
Right?! I was in an abusive relationship with someone who used anxious avoidance as an excuse for being violent & using coercive control on me & that part made me feel sick (not quite as sick as J-Lo's choice to imply she experienced DA because her getting binned apparantly may have 'felt like' being abused. I don't really have words for that) eta sorry for trauma-dumping, that was a bit rude of me, I got caught up in my feels! (at least its just a comment rather than a movie+a documentary about the movie about mY fEeLs ig!!)
After reading a couple of online reports on some psychological pathologies. It seems to me that she craves Love, Attention, Validation, and more, and then more love, validation and attention while treating people like dirt. Meanwhile we have Ben, who is trying his absolute best to clear himself and heal from his own past traumas. He craves love, care, comfort and pretty much a woman who will want to setlte down by the time both are in their prime senior years. A woman who will step down from the spotlight, and spend time with him, the kids, grandkids, friends and others. Even share private moments with her without the need of having cameras up in their faces. Just look at her, she is not stopping to enjoy her own money and step off the stage. She has more than enough to live off on it. I dont know either of them. But I hope Ben stays single, happy and healthy. Or he might find someone who will appreciate him. I also hope that Jennifer can get off her high horses, find a nice recluse area and find fullfilemnt, humbleness, and happiness. And if she chooses to step down. Good for her!
I like your breakdown and think the things you mentioned you definitely have a point on, the problem for me is the things you didn’t mention are what people actually have a problem with, like her lip singing to other female voices and not crediting them, and being infamously rude and self obsessed
Bottom line. She’s the most mediocre performer of modern times. The okayest singer. The okayest actor. She was nothing special in any art she tried, but truly was a master at publicity and convincing everyone she was. That and attaching herself to people like diddy (awkward) kept her in the limelight.
JLo is one of the most mid celebrities ever just because she had a few hit singles and movies doesn't mean we owe her anything. She is like the reverse tom cruise you want to avoid most the stuff she does.
So Scandy is a J.Lo Stan. Got it. Totally glossed over the ACTUAL reason people are not a fan of her, the way she treats people who are not celebrities. Really disappointed with this piece. Like you said, she's almost 55. Need to dig back to the 90s when she started treated people in the service industry like garbage.
People hate her because she has a documented history of treating people badly. I made it a half hour into this video and honestly, I'd like my time back. Lol
JLo is disliked because she thinks she's better than people, because she treats marriage like an inconvenience, because she's rude and pretentious. That has nothing to do with anyone but her. She may be anxious whatever, but i imagine the waitstaff she stiffs has some anxiety too.
This is insane, Jlo has no trauma, she causes trauma in other people. She's managed to generate millions despite lack of talent and being rude and tyranical towards people who she feels are beneath her. I have zero sympathy for her.
She is actually a narcissist, not anxiously attached. Everything she has done and do now is proof of it, the egocentric films and how she treats others for instance. Narcissists need contstant validation (narcissistic supply) because they want to be the center of attention and usually cannot be alone but gets a new partner/new supply after they have been dumped or they themselves discards the former partner. In a way it's an anxious behaviour but it's not anxious attachment.
As a Latina who grew up in NYC and went to HS in the Bronx during the same timeframe as J.Lo, I can 100% CONFIRM that the orange drink is REAL. Back in the day, all the bodegas sold these cheap drinks in different flavors/colors (orange, red, purple, etc). During my time, they were only 25 cents. AND YES, we would just get plain ol' ham n cheese on a roll with a small bag of chips (sadly they don't make bags that small anymore). The "small" ones sold nowadays are way larger than the small ones we used to buy. And usually when we would say "small bag of chips" it simply referred to potato chips! Otherwise, we would say Doritos or Dipsey Doodles or whatever other type of chip it was. Also back then, most bodegas did not have massive selections of chips (it was usually Wise and maybe Deli if you were lucky lol). I don't know or understand why people claimed she was lying without knowing the facts of that time, especially those who did not grow up in that era in NYC. I get that J.Lo can be annoying at times but people are/were going overboard on her. They all need to get their facts straight about Latin life in the BX and throughout other predominantly Latin NYC neighborhoods during the 80s and 90s!!!! She's right when she says "when you know, you know". Well, I know.
I usually like your videos, but you didn’t discuss why most don’t like her, and you blame the audience for her behavior. If you grew up like a normal person without much money, you should know how to treat people right. Especially if they are just doing their jobs. Common courtesy to look people in the eye, & if you can’t tip correctly & well then don’t go out! It’s how they survive! Servers make $3 an hour, which all goes to taxes! A lot of her exs said she just used them & was super controlling. Her & Ben will never work until she stops craving all this attention-he’s private & likes his relationships private, that’s why it didn’t work the first time. And if she’s worried about money so much why dump 20 million on a movie no one wanted? Why keep doing construction on your houses with people you won’t talk to etc.? She should think about normal people in this economy & you’re gonna charge exorbitant prices for a concert?! I only heard of a few of her songs get popular radio play, but if true about her singing that’s just wrong. Her acting is fine, she had some good movies & some bombs, like most actors. But she’s tearing down other actresses saying they don’t measure up! It’s how Hollywood goes… I think people are mad about the Bronx stuff bc she’s only using it to seem relatable & normal, but you can’t after acting the way she does & the way she treats people! And with that woman’s you tube channel, she didn’t just get her stuff taken off, she took her entire show! Her whole income! She sued everyone for anything negative said about her! Is narcissistic! Brought this on herself.
This is one of the things that does bug me a bit about JLo. You'd think given her non-wealthy background having to work incredibly hard with no guarantees of success and little support from her family, and dealing with racism, to finally break through and find success, she'd remember what it was like and be a bit nicer to those that aren't in the 1% Hollywood elite. It's like that kid that was bullied or someone otherwise pushed around as a junior in the workplace, who when they finally get the power by rising in the ranks they use it take it out on everyone else because they can be the one dishing it out now, rather than remembering how much it sucked and not letting it go to their head. (I've come across the odd one the years and they get zero respect from the staff that have had to deal with them. Some of them then even complain about how the staff keeps leaving and making their life hard having to replace them. If one person has a problem, that might be a personality clash. If you get a rep for being difficult to deal with, that's no longer your staff's problem.)
Idon’t think this video was about the same fraud. It was mostly about why there’s been this uproar of hate against her because we’ve all known about the singing fraud for years.😅
@@destinyfritz9452 if that was the case why did we discuss her relationship with Affleck? No one hates them for dating lol. This was about the general downfall of Lopez, and the singing fraud is literally at the centre of it. Yes, we have been saying it for years, and its become mainstream knowledge now, thanks to TikTok.
Also wanna add that not just the fraud, but her refusal to support both Puerto Ricans and her “block”, her disgusting behavior towards people (i cant get over what she did to the dancers who auditioned lol), the whole Mariah thing, and so much more contributed to the hate. The things covered in this video just address the silly accusations, not the actual issues
I have never liked Jlow. She has always been giving the eek for years. I grew up in Puerto Rico, Puerto Ricans did not like her at all. If you asked them why, they will say because she uses her heritage for clout but has never once helped Puerto Rico in a real significant way. She is also extremely rude. Everybody was dome with her years ago. Now the states is catching on. I'm not surprised
I usually agree with your content but this didn’t really sit well with me for some reason. People dislike her because she’s treats others like crap. She’s come up using several other artists’ vocals. Why are you conveniently leaving that out? You’re pretty off on this.
We all should check this sites receipts I feel JLOs ppl paid her to say everything that she has said on here and left out wat the world realy feels about JLO!!!! this lady is a FRAUD!!!!!
I don't agree with the point of this video. I mean, sure, it gives a potential new perspective for some people. But the reason people don't like her (what multiple other people have said) is because of the way she treats people who she deems "below" her, which in her perspective is everyone. She carries herself like she is the best thing to grace this earth and the poorly peasants should kiss the ground she walks on. She thinks everything she touches should turn to gold and she's shocked and offended when it doesn't happen. She has a superiority complex to the max, she's insanely egotistical and is so incredibly fake, even people with weak discernment can clock her. THAT'S why people hate on her. I would say most of the time, it's warranted.
What in the orange drink is happening here????? Imagine she had to make a music album all about Ben and how perfect their love was, she had to do a documentary AND a movie to convince everyone she is a great actress and that her love Story is the greatest ever told.... she had to show the private letters Ben sent to her for everyone to see…and now? Imagine she will have to go on tour singing every night those love songs, knowing all fans already know he left her ..the unimaginable humiliation !!!! and she did it all to herself...not the "haters" The cherry on the cake is the horrible flop of her movie Atlas ....
Why? Because she's just neutrally pointing out some things? Stop with the "you have to agree with me or you're wrong" ridiculousness. Oh wait, you need to double down on your hate so you can feel better about yourself. 🙄Stop it.
@@AnnAndNala Because this video is full of lies; It is a lie that "experts" claim she did great in Hustlers and that her acting was Oscar worthy..many minor awards, that you can buy with money...She was not snubbed, she did ok but her acting was far from Great, it was better than her previous movies? yes, but by far not enough to be nominated for an Oscar. And like this so many other lies .. so we who know J Lo for 20 years dont like someone trying to convince us that she is great at acting when she is not. How can someone watch Atlas and tell me in the face she did great?? it was overacted and cringe !!! WHY you dont mention in this video that she was nominated TEN TIMES for the razzie awards to the worse actress? She won the prestigious award TWICE.... AND to be clear, people dont dislike J Lo because of her good or bad acting, but because her fans and herself act like she is the best actress ever lived and is aggravating ... Also because "the greatest love story never told" movie is full of arrogance, entitlement and clearly based in lies, the proof is that this greatest story was all a lie.. What now??she go on tour singing how great is their love while every one knows is finish? and she did it all to herself..dont blame the haters or the people like me who do not appreciate being manipulated by an entertainment industry where someone can make a 400millions dlls career with some limited talent just because she is very pretty and have a great body?? is talent optional nowadays? hundreds of other girls with far better voices being turn down because they are ugly or fat.
no, but this fluff piece fan-girling jLo is with it’s “fact checking”, calling her ‘iconic’ and the part in the doc where people are making fun of her wild hair running the block not because her hair wasn’t like that, but that it took 16 takes. That’s how hard it is for that actress to play relatable. Her mother was a narc she says, and a lot of children of them become narcs themselves. I don’t believe in the anxious attachment style. I think she is a love addict and really controlling and needs constant adoration while trying to live up to an idea of what a loving couple looks like to her which doesn’t exist. I don’t think that she is anxious. I think she is smothering and lives in a fantasy world. I don’t know this channel well, but the host is talking about her attachment style like she has seen enough of her to diagnose her. The entire piece was to debunk everything people picked up from her doc and music video- movie/musical thingy. jLo struck people’s TikTok’s and people were banned. I wouldn’t be surprised then that she sponsored videos like this. When everyone is seeing how out of touch she is, it is probably true. She was good in Selena. She was ok in all of the movies she was in where she played the same romcom character. I haven’t seen much depth in the roles that she picks. She is an ok dancer, she did Mariah dirty, she is a mediocre entertainer, and most importantly is that she doesn’t treat people who work in service very well. That is the litmus test for good people. @onlyrealtalentedartists is right in everything that she wrote her.
It's her not singing her own songs for me. I can't like her as a human being after learning that all her albums are notrecorded using less known singers and even completely unknown.
Girl, this video is NOT it. People don't like her because she's a terrible person, to others. And no accountability whatsoever. This woman gave a gun to puff daddy , that he shot a woman with. This woman LIED under oath. The case will be reopened, hopefully, and she will be in a lot of trouble, rightfully so. People are fed up with her because all of her is fake. Nothing is genuine. She lies, she steals others peoples songs and voices, saying that it's hers, she mistreats EVERYONE that she believes are beneath her. She is NOT a good person.
Bad @ctress, bad singer that doesn’t sing. Got involved with Marc @ntony regardless of his marriage and two little kids, the lies, the personality. You can not justify this and much more. Sorry, I had to stop watching this inaccurate video before it was over Scandy!
I think Monster In Law success was due to Jane Fonda, she was fabulous in it and the star of the show. LoJ just seemed like background and wasn’t interesting and yet played another one of her boring brides.
20years ago I read an interview she did in which she said that, as a child, she shared her bedroom and bed with her sisters as her family was poor and humble. However the house she pointed out in that "I used to live here' infamous video of hers is not poor and humble..the rag to riches story really sells
JLo only challenge is that she is unapproachable and equally not likable. Hence, it doesn't really matter how well she dances, how great her body is, how much money she has, how much stuff she has, how well she can act...nor how pretty she is. If you're not approachable, relatable, or liked, you have therefore created the narrative that everyone is voicing now. All the other stuff, entitlement-bad tipping-meaness to other people, are simply...symptoms of her own insecurities and the fight she has in her own mind about her worthiness & greatness. 😢Sad.
I'm only a couple years younger than Jennifer and I lived in Castle Hill in the 80's. It was not a violent crime ridden area even back then. (edit) She is full of it with everything she is about.
I really appreciate this. The internet mob is insane. People don’t even check facts anymore, they just get out the pitchforks and go after whoever it’s currently trendy to hate. People seriously are NPC’s and can’t think for themselves anymore
I think being workaholic and having Sony and Tommy Mottola by her side is what made her. Right time in the usa for her. But she has no real musical talent. Just like most mainstream artists since the late 90s… in the usa
are you a fan? it looks like you are a big jlo fan and you brushed over all the real reasons why people are hating her right now. than you said the most illogical thing that jlo is being rude about her tips because of audience. wtf are you talking about? and about her movie and documentary people are hating it because its BAD and CRINGE. why are you justifying that she forced someone to delete their video just cos they were critisizing her movie.
Nah I get the ick from her because of her whole personality that treats us like lowly peasants. She spent all that money on a vanity project to regain love and fame when she could have taken that same money and done something meaningful like donate to a legitimate charity, or reinvest in the community she claims to love and represent so much. Instead, she is clawing to remain relevant without doing anything to really change to be relevant. Not to mention, her history with Diddy, her blatant act of ignoring the feelings of the man she claims to adore so much just by continuing the vanity project. Idk man, there's a lot of reasons to not like her past her flops and her semi fraudulent music career. Blaming it on mental health and the audience is kind of whack. I get what you're saying and to a varying degree, I can agree but it's just her inability to see past her own ego.
@@MsTriangle Wow, I must’ve missed it! It was tough getting through it. I don’t even know if she understands what being authentic is. I watched the documentary, but couldn’t sit through the “non-movie, non-music video. Everything was so scripted.
Finally someone who includes the scene of the gun in the discussion. I always thought this was so telling. For someone who removed the shooting event like it never happened, I thought it was weird to include that detail into the movie.🤔
I am happy for her success however I do not like the attitude she’s had… regardless of knowing she’s not even singing her own songs… she should be a bit more humble.
Yes! It is shameful! She should go hide under a rock! But since she is a narcissist, she plans to continue the rouse! It is a mask she wears but fortunately we can see through all the Maybeline & wig she wears now! Move back to Puerto Rico! 🇵🇷 They will be the only ones attending your concerts anyway!
She was not nominated for an Oscar because her Ramona in Hustlers was not Oscar worthy ..... better that Gigli? yes I give you that...but is a lie that " experts" and critics said she was snubbed and she did great in Hustlers" by the way the haters are not members of the academy...... The other "expert" say she was great in Gigli ??? also lies ..she was nominated for a razzie award for almost every movie she did .....but you dont even mention that....she WON for Gigli as the worse actress in 2003, again not the haters but critics who voted her down. Is a lie fans have an ever-changing opinion, people are consistent: she is a hard worker, yes, she keeps doing movies to prove she can act, yes ... but the reality is that SHE IS NOT GREAT at acting despite your claims "experts" liked some of her films!! do you have eyes? watch Atlas and tell me in my face she is a great actress....is so cringe!!! is bad!!!!! You can pay "experts" to get minor awards, with hard work you can go from bad actress to kind of ok actress, but to be a great actress you need talent and sadly talent dont come with hard work, you have or you dont have it. That someone who have limited talent can have a 400 millions career is a slap in the face to so many talented people who dont have a career because they dont have her face or her ass. Is aggravating!!! and the reason I am writing this comment
The fact is that she lied about how poor she was and struggling for money always bla bla bla but her dad had a really good job and they lived in a nice house 😂 I was living in a 2 bedroom flat as a kid with 5 people and always struggling for money. She's just so annoying
I enjoyed J-Lo in Selena and Anaconda, but other than that, she just…exists to me. I don’t hate her or anything and if she puts out a movie that I think looks like it could be good, I’ll give it a watch but other than that, I’m kind of indifferent.
Can't believe all those hateful comments, people really WANT to hate her, right? They do it with passion! I found this the very best documentation about her, thank you so much
Thank you for fact checking her bronx time. While I agree on JLo having problems I don't agree on people making fun of things they can't or don't know about. You can have a problem with someone and NOT drag EVERYTHING they do and say. That's just bullying. As she said "IF you know you know". So yeah, thanks again for going a little deeper than the most creators who did a video on JLo.
So to summarize this: what you're trying to say is that WE ARE THE PROBLEM? Not her???? Poor her she has anxious attachment style or what ever and we are avoidants that's why she's behaving like this?????? WHAT? I think you guys missed up on what people don't like her. Her movies hits and flops are the same cycle every actor might live, you simply can't give hit movies and songs back to back, it happens every now and then actors do make bad choices and flop projects, meaning her movies didn't fail because of us avoiding her and her trying so hard to win us or anything of what you said that's BS! It's just her bad choices of projects it happens! And about her relationship with Ben i doubt it ended because of this relationship styles you mentioned but because of her relationship to Diddy that Affleck discovered she might have participated in the freak offs. and you didn't mention the gun was actually in HER PURSE, her relationship to Diddy was not of anxious avoidant style and he used the gun and ran away with her!!!! That's really BS and funny how you typed Diddy as avoidant because he ran away with her given that she is an anxious type!!! SHE HAD THE GUN WITH HER AND GAVE IT TO DIDDY AND BLAMED THE OTHER GUY IN INTERROGATION PUTTING ALL THE BLAME ON HIM! She is just BAD! That's why people hate her, because of how she treats people.
JLO is hard worker however her ego is what will break her . I never thought she was a great singer bur she was always been beautiful. I think the pretty privilege card is what opened doors for her . I was listening to another person that used to work for her and she stated she knew how to use her sexuality and she was only nice to men with power everyone else was beneath her . She is an okay actress not a great actress more like a lifetime movie actress . If she would’ve of been nicer to people she could’ve of avoided the backlash . No one likes people who mistreat other people because they feel superior.
While I do appreciate a ton of effort that was put into research and editing, as well as the ability to express and back up your point of view... This all feels like a first-year psychology student discovering types of attachments and trying to apply them in some armchair evaluation of a person they don't know. Just saying.. The hate that JLo is receiving is getting out of hand, but it has nothing to do with her attachment type to her men or to us as a public. The video does not cover the real issues that are expressed all over the comment section now. Still, I enjoyed it. It's great to have someone make an input that's different from everyone elses. It's getting echo-chambery here tbh
People don’t like her because she’s extremely unkind to ppl “beneath” her… it’s well documented. Were you… were you paid to make her look like a victim?
I think it would be great for Ben and Jen to step out of the spotlight and see if they can make it work in private. There seems to be strong Hollywood couples that are both big stars that aren't constantly shouting from the rooftops how much they love each other...they should take a page from those star's books
I love how this video is neutral, coming from the audience and the jlo side as well as we can see the truth but also still theres a lot missing out like how she is with other people, her staff, or even rude behaviors to fans. The allegations of her actually stealing tip money that ben give to staff workers... 😅
Didn't it get reveed that she didnt even really sing in Jenny From the Block??? Like i saw a video of the back up singer talking about how her vocals were used for like the whole song and even her laugh instead of Jennifers. Not only that but ive never heard of another celebrity having THAT many people come out saying she was an a-hole to them. Sure. Shes a celeb and not everyone will have a good experience with a celebrity but that many..? I dont think anyone really gives a crap about her attatchment style nor do they truly care if she grew up how she says she did. People care thatshes fake and a total mean girl. Also girl... It sounds a little too much like youre sympathetic to kid diddler diddy towards the end there. This whole video is a JLo empathy piece
I really appreciate you not just labeling her a narcissist and moving on, people don't realize how wildly unhelpful of a term that actually is if you want to make progress in life. We need to stop discarding people by labeling them this way
Although I do think that this was a well-made video. You are leaving out a massive part of why people dislike her. The fact that she has continuously stolen music from other artists and use their vocals, giving them absolutely no credit. That is reprehensible.
This entire video was one massive bad take ugh, people hate jlo because she's downright rude to most people and has a huge superiority complex. Not to mention that fact that she steals music, songs, vocals and video ideas from more talented artists.
Scandy, you're killin' it! Finally, an objective look at JL or anyone for that matter. Not a video with an obviously predetermined agenda that is calculated and based on what majority of the public is regurgitating. I didn't think that Bennifer would last this time around but I hoped for two of them. I kinda thought that "I Ain't Your Momma" was foreshadowing. If Ben couldn't handle her in his prime and make it work with his ex which I'm sure isn't perfect either but seems really nice and easy going how would he be able to handle the relationship this time around? I just subscribed to your channel.
its not from now im 54 years old, and I never liked miss jennifer lopez i loved her when she was an actress i think shes an amazing actor like really good, and im talking about her dramas not those stupid comedies or love.comedies but when she had the unfortunate idea of "singing" i said "oh my God" "please no" and I was right 100% thats why i dont like talking or writing about it because ive always been right cant sing to save her life cant dance and i know on this one NO ONE AGREES WITH ME but nope cant dance i still have no idea how in the world people played her music and still play her music... and im already writing too much about the subject, she aint worth it but as an actress I really like her
Most iconic performer of our generation? She’s bland and uninteresting, average at best and her romantic entanglements are the only things that keep her in the media. OMG a video blaming everyone but Lopez for her narcissism. Everything she does is for self promotion. She’s inauthentic which is why people don’t like her.
While I can appreciate some of the insights of this video, I don't agree with blaming her being a rude narcissist on the fact that the public is hot and cold with her. In most cases, the public reacts to her bad behavior and, to her benefit, the public is fickle so when she does something good, the swell rises in her favor again. But she is responsible for her behavior and with all of the horrible things that have leaked out about her when she's had opportunities to be a decent human being, I refuse to believe it was because she was subconsciously reacting to the public. Much of this video makes excuses for her instead of holding her accountable.
It was a lovely video. But…no…we’re not beholden to any individual of Hollywood, nor Hollywood as any part or whole. For anything. I think being a generally, genuinely empathic person towards others is key to a lot…with self respecting boundaries, prioritized. But someone reaching out to a globe of ppl for love and validity sounds like a her issue & nothing anyone should be pursuing. And certainly not because she’s famous. Sure, actors, singers want to be liked for what they do but…no. It’s not a requirement of anyone to like her, in order for her to feel whatever thing that’s healthy, mentally and emotionally. Furthermore it’s so tone deaf…$20 million dollars in an attempt to gain our affections? IN THESE TIMES? It’s extremely insensitive to the millions of people she’s asking for attention from. She is fine. She has access to every privilege, she can get therapy, form her much smaller community for support, work on loving herself & never make another movie or album or video ever again. Has nothing to do with us & we’re never going to have responsibility for anyone we do not know & does nothing for us other than potentially entertaining us. I mean…she made her hundreds of millions…it’s a job. The end.
I don’t like her because she was okay with women and girls being SA and didn’t do anything to help them. She either participated or turned A blind eye. Both is just as bad.
Great, informative vid. The way people judge celebs now is scary because the way social media is … back in the day celebs woyld have to repeat the same thing because a minimal amount of ppl would see it but today everyone sees it and she can see everyones EVERY ONES comments.
Castle hill is divided in the bronx. One Castle hill that's where Remy Ma is from Which is where the projects located at and other part where Jenifer grew up which is the suburbs. Stop the cap.
Fun fact Prince had the number 1 movie and album (both named Purple Rain of Course) and no.1 song/single When the Doves Cry at the same time! You may wonder why Purple Rain wasn’t the no1 single at the time and I would say it’s probably because it’s nearly 10 minutes long.
Who see it, after true colors of her started being revealed can only laugh at this fan made laurel. Woman was abusing her employees phisically and mentally, was one most likely carring gun in Diddy incident, KNEW about what is on his parties, poisoned one person pet and threat her with death... Yeah. True angel...not. 😂
This is the most pragmatic, insightful examination of a celebrity I’ve seen.
To explain how her reactions to rejection seem exaggerated to everyone because of her disorder is so spot on. Nice.
Maybe this could be a good time to address what could happen when extreme rejection sensitivity is triggered without psychologically informed care. I lost my twin during an episode.
This is super important to talk about. Thank you very much for your compassion.
She doesn’t have a disorder. Attachment styles aren’t disorders, nor are they even scientifically validated or peer-reviewed. The most data we have for attachment involves babies and very young children. This was a lot of baloney wrapped up in the guise of buzzwords.
@@MsKenijo attachment styles are described here, but a deep fear of abandonment that interferes with her life sounds more like a disorder to me.
And because it’s serious , it might be better to err on the side of caution and try to understand Why some people do what they do, rather than snap judgements that factor so heavily into someone else’s life.
You being a hater doesn’t change her experience.
@@janarama8136 I’m actually a fan of J. Lo, I personally think she is a better than average actor. However, this doesn’t negate the fact that this video was full of psychobabble and misinformation, not to mention making a “diagnosis” with no factual basis for either Ben’s or Jennifer’s “attachment styles”. It’s full of assumptions and projections. And what disorder has only a “deep fear of abandonment” as its sole diagnostic criterion? I’m not a hater, I’m a logician.
Agreed! This is well done and interesting. People here just want to hate on her bc it’s become the thing to do. I like digging into a persons psychology.
I think people don’t like her because of how she treats people “below” her
'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
That poker table waitress who's tip she "corrected" got $25000 and a dozen roses 🌹 as an apology for their mutual humiliation. Take that, control freak!
@@4bibimimiwhat about the movie theater worker who said they weren’t allowed to look at her in the eye 😑
Here's the thing, J.Lo thinks too highly of herself. The 99% of society, the ones who make the 1%ers stay there, are sick and tired of being treated less than. This isnt about her career in movies and music. It's about how she treats people around and below her. How does she expect us to pay $500 for concert tickets when thats a quater of my monthly rent and groceries??? And shes out here giving $5 tips and getting people to lose their jobs if they accidently look at her. I have loved her most famous movies but as a person, shes needs to be humbled.
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That, and let’s be honest: it’s not 2004 anymore. No one talks about JLo anymore. Most people under 25 probably don’t know who she is. I’m almost 30 and I only know her as the woman that (I thought) sings “Jenny From the Block”. She’s simply irrelevant. No one is willing to pay hundreds of dollars for a show from a woman that most people barely remember. I think she should just take her money and start some new endeavors and make herself relevant to a newer audience but instead she’s stuck in the past. It’s almost comforting to know some famous (or formally famous) people are also nostalgic for the past in a way.
I'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
Not to mention, I feel like this piece DID excuse her behavior using mental issues, which is ridiculous because MANY people have the same disorders but don't go around treating people like dirt! And that's how mental illnesses get stigmatized. I feel so gaslit after watching this video.
@@susanmenn5016 again, I have to completely agree with you. Excusing her behaviour was getting on my nerves. I swear.
I think you ignored the actual real reason why she's not liked. People don't like her because she's anxious type or because of her roles or movie. Have you actually heard how she treats people? Stories from her assistants? I thought you'll discuss these points and I kept waiting for it but I feel you miss the point on why she's not liked and made it seems we hate her for the wrong reasons.
Being anxious attached does NOT justify for her rudeness, entitled behavior. The movie infuriates not because wether or not she lied about being from the Bronx but because despite of living humble beginnings she looks down to people who are not rich or famous.
Right! Well written- that’s my take and my “issues” with JLo too!
Agreed just because you got some mental health issues doesn’t mean you make everyone else feel like sh!t by doing sh!t.
Exactly! I honestly never heard any of those problems, I just heard about how awfully she treated everyone.
Nicely put, I also think she made it seem like she is a little bias towards JLO as she sounded like she was defending her.
Scandy explains a possible insight into Jen's behaviour beginning at 33:15.
You should also focus on the fact that most people (who arent bashing her just for fun) dont claim shes a wannabe actress, but rather a wannabe singer. I never ‘liked’ her in the first place (like many) so I dont think saying we have that relationship cycle with her makes sense. When she does something worth applauding (hustlers) we do, but we also criticize her for many things, including;
- What happened with Mariah
- Her using other women’s voices and not crediting them
- Her disrespectful attitude towards people for YEARS
- She says her bronx is disowning her, yet she doesn’t do anything to actually help “her people”. She only uses her origin story to push a narrative she can convert to money. And the “financial advisor” excuse is just nonsense, performative activism at its finest.
- Toxic treatment of employees / team members
And much more. I appreciate all the research you guys did, but you seem to have got lost among the trolls and not understood what the actual issues are.
Regarding her relationship with Affleck, your analysis seems spot on.
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Facts! You took the words out of my mouth. I felt like the creator wasn’t on target with this video.
Edit: thank you for bringing up Mariah Carey. That drama which made me not like JLo.
Thank you for this comment
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Wannabe both.
I thought she was hated because she's mean to people, and she lied about her childhood.
the video says she didnt lie about that
@@Colourmechoco The video is full of lies, there are literally many, too many videos of people telling their bad experiences with J LO, if were only like 20 people, I will doubt, but there are so many, I do believe them. About childhood, there are videos of people were together with her in a classroom!!
Not a fan, but imagine how many people a celebrity meet in their daily lives. Not everyone is going to have a good experience also some people are entitled. I think the hate she is getting is disproportional.
That describes MANY people in everyday life. I guess that explains why the world is so hateful then. Wow. It all makes sense now.🤔
@@s.r189 Exactly! And the fact she said she was not the richest in her childhood is also believable, since people do not semm to comprehend that neighborhoods can get gentrified and be more expensive over time.
I thought ppl didn’t like her bc she acts like a diva & is rude. Or so I’ve heard.
…..Amongst other things she has done!!! She acts like that bc she has been getting away with it for so long so she thinks she can treat people like peasants! Everyone is on to you JLO! 😮
People don’t like her because the internet told them not to.
@@sweetd20111you’re an npc
@@MashaRistovawhy because she is calling out Jlos problematic behaviors?
She claims her Bronx and Latina roots all the time, yet has done nothing positive for either community.
@@karlaf.64why does she need to do anything transformative there? It's not required to pay it forward. Not all celebrities are like this. I'm honestly confused. Does she have a legit unpaid tab or something?
To add on to our frustration with her fakeness she had a song called “I’m real” with SOMEONE ELSE singing it too 🤯
So true 🤣
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Most of her popular songs has other singers doing the chorus
Everything this woman has said & done has been a lie to fool the public! Be mad! 😡 Not another penny to JLO! Fake, fake, fake!
@@toveh so?
People are not hating on her because of her relationships. It’s the way she treats people like they are beneath her.
I believe Jennifer Lopez is a hard worker . These are not the reasons people dislike her. It is the way she treats people. Too many people have come out talking about the way they were treated by her.
I was never a big Jlo fan. Selena was the best movie she played in for me. I’ve never bought a Jennifer Lopez album or played any of her music. I never watched her on American Idol. And I have never bought any of her products.
Exactly!!! If she has treated people like garbage and like they are below her, her karma is coming for her, no matter how many in depth documentaries she makes, America loved her because she claimed she was genuinely a kind caring person... She was good at tricking people if that's true, and I think that's why people are frustrated, because she was so good at playing nice and it's one of the worst traits a person can have... Being a good fake..
I'm sure she is being disproportionally attacked by americans, because she is a latina and a woman. If it's the treatment of workers, I'm sure your boss must be very nice and all, but that's not the case for most workers. Work culture in America is pretty toxic and no labor laws seem to be welcomed, even by the dumb workers with no class conscience. Hollywood has a lot of rude people, rude directors, rude actors, etc... why is everybody going after specially her? it does not make sense, sweetheart
Anyone else feel gaslit after watching this video?
@@susanmenn5016 absolutely.
they were hating on her before the rumours about her supposed behaviour came out. They always saw her codependency as weakness.
To call JLo "one of the most iconic performers of our generation" is laughable.
Soooo it looks like you missed all the real reasons people don't like her. The main reason is that she's rude to everyone she perceives as beneath her.
And she IS a musical fraud. It's well known and should have been covered here.
Boo. Why didn't you cover the part where P. Diddy LITERALLY took other singers' work and made it JLo's. She's a fraud.
Allegedly, she was the one who introduced the gun in the disco in her purse and gave it to Diddy just before he shoot a girl in the face
@@onlyrealtalentedartists plus - she covered up the truth. Hellllo! The lady who got shot was looking directly into P. Diddy's face when he shot her. Oh. My. God.
Yes! Did you conveniently forget about the music P.Diddy & Tommy Motola gave/stole for JLO? She’s not a singer, she is a Karaoke singer at best! Did you really think she didn’t know who was singing her songs on her albums?? How naive of the public…..to fall for her criminal antics! She laughed at all of us & all the way to the bank! Take away her star & awards!!!!! What a fake & fraud x 1000!
@@onlyrealtalentedartistsAllegedly???? She knows what part she played……that is why she still supports Diddy today…….for continued protection from all the bad things she has done & had others sweep under the rug for her so she could reach for stardom! She is ugly inside and doesn’t care who gets hurt in the process! Shameful!
@@silvialake5829 is horrible, I am sure J Lo wants to live the past behind, she may be arrogant and entitled but I dont think she is a bad person, she just was in love with a monster who had a bad influence on her,sadly in life sometimes you have to take responsibility for your bad actions even if they happened 20 tears ago...I believe that girl that said from the beginning that Diddy shoot her in the face was telling the truth.
33:17 completely forgot/glossed over her using other people's demos as her main vocals lol. And being a mediocre singer but a good performer at everything else.
Edit: oh and her saying the n-word in a song once because she got a little too comfortable in the "urban" space
Right!. & being rude to her fans and people in general
I thought her using the n word went hand in hand with her using other peoples vocals - I think Ashanti sang it initially(correct me if I’m wrong) so it would make more sense if it was Ashanti but then her track was used for Jennifer to lip sync to. She just doubles up on bad choices there I think.
I thought she was hated on because she took songs from other Black artists and was a diva to servers
Gen zers and a millennial myself couldn't care less about Bennifer or any of her relationships
That is exactly why people don't like her.
Why are you bringing generations into this? I never liked her overplayed singles on MTV or the radio or at school dances - and I'm Gen Y (aka "Millennial"), but my Gen has nothing to do with my opinions or perspective on this non-political matter. It's just pop culture. It ain't that deep.
I, unlike Gen Z, was old enough to witness all this ish in real time, including the weirdness media obsession that was Bennifer (starting the trend of naming of all celebrity couples like this... Ugh) - while Gen Z doesn't recall anything about this period when she peaked, and seems riled up literally over a TikTok campaign. Who cares?
Really annoying to be lumped in with Zoomers who otherwise split their time between making fun of our skinny jeans, and our counterculture parents they call "Boomers" (just like their entitled Gen Xer "greed is good" neglectful parents that raised them started doing on 4Chan in 2013... That same year Gen Y got rebranded "Millennials" 🤔). Zoomers & Gen X didn't get pummeled by the Great Recession into permanent poverty, as jobs and companies literally left the country in droves after getting massive government bail outs - but nobody, absolutely nobody helped us not lose everything. For all we've done to give Zoomers social media (we invented it, they made it toxic - going in the comments while they're literal children and being mean... Because kids are mean, and now everyone's horrible to each other - they literally have no idea how wonderful, social, fun, and free social media _used_ to be), and for them to aspire to "careers" of being "Influencers" - a creative hustle we created from nothing just to survive the economic depression when we literally could not get a JOB.
Now, social media's nothing but ads, inauthenticity, vanity, arguing, posts forcibly made "kid friendly," and censorship all because these child "edgelords" killed it. They don't understand corporations are evil - they still use a Wendy's Twitter ad post as a "meme." This comment, and literally all comments on this video just regurgitating the same TikTok points are so obnoxious!! Does anyone think for themselves anymore??? Do Zoomers really think they can influence us, Gen Y, by sometimes pretending we have anything in common after years of trashing us?! We're the children of the counterculture, we don't fall for ish. Y'all got a lot to learn.
Get off TikTok, care about your fellow human beings losing their housing right now. Stanning absolutely anyone, and fake "cancelling" some of the least problematic celebrities, are such a waste of energy and the bandwidth it took to upload.
All celebrities are out of touch with economic struggles, and the wealthiest people are cheap!! Targeting JLo ain't gonna change that. Poor people do handle money differently no matter how much of it you get. She didn't lie about where she's from, yes her music career (which is over) WAS manufactured - nothing new here. On to the next!!
@@Living_Dead_Girrl cuz we really don't care about her relationships, period. Submit your tantrum elsewhere, geez.
@@ellenjdavis No, you.
Surprised you missed the obvious. She treats people like dirt who are not on her "level." Theres a reason South Park did a whole episode about her being a huge jerk.
Fun fact: one of the creators of South Park wore her iconic green dress to an awards show the following year, & she pushed past him so their portrayal of her being a bitch was from personal experience but she also fires anybody who mentions that episode they made about her even if simply they’re saying they like tacos.
Honestly, I’d respect JLo a little more if she released a lip gloss called Taco Flavored Kisses
Featuring in a South Park episode is a badge of honor🏅She couldn't realize that
@@thesamiminnellihour9685 thats a gold idea! but she is incapable of laugh at herself, thats her problem...
A lot of people were upset and didn't get the same backlash as she did...
@@onlyrealtalentedartists You need to have a love of security on yourself in order to do that and in this society we have created is more and more hard to learn to do that.
I’ve loved all your videos so far, but this misses the mark for me. I totally agree that she is rife with issues surrounding self esteem, and co-dependency- but no…WE did not make her a self aggrandizing ass hat who mistreats people scraping by on minimum wage. Is that not enough reason to dislike a celebrity that we don’t know, and will never know us? Came off as a poor taste lecture to the public. Most of whom, are STRUGGLING HARD rn just to get by. I agree that empathy is everything, and I’m far from sending hate mail or picketing outside her house- but I do maintain the right to dislike her. Maybe if she practiced more empathy of her own along the way, (for someone other than herself.) people would still ride with her. You didn’t even mention half of the common qualms with her, and dismissed the ones you did as the public’s lack of understanding. How about that old interview, where she bashes ALL the other A list women in her industry (which are not all tiny blonds) How about her never actually returning to, or helping the Bronx she claims to remember so fondly? She was in a car commercial themed around going ‘back to the block,’ and insisted on a body double for the parts that were filmed IN the Bronx. I guess she has anxious attachment though, so how dare we be so callous. This is either poorly researched (which I don’t believe, considering the quality of your other videos.) Or you deliberately left out anything that wouldn’t fit your preferred narrative. Considering it’s titled “the REAL reason…” as if you’re speaking on behalf of everyone, that’s confirmation bias of your own. I guess WE peasants should just get back to our labor, and stop being so mean to JLO.
I FORGOT ABOUT THAT INTERVIEW
Preach
I don't really know much about Ben Affleck, but does it really make him an avoidant attached person if she is constantly violating his boundaries and he leaves?
I think it's her attitude towards others that make people dislike her, not her anxious attachment tendencies. She's constantly rude to people she views as "beneath" her.
Right?! I was in an abusive relationship with someone who used anxious avoidance as an excuse for being violent & using coercive control on me & that part made me feel sick (not quite as sick as J-Lo's choice to imply she experienced DA because her getting binned apparantly may have 'felt like' being abused. I don't really have words for that)
eta sorry for trauma-dumping, that was a bit rude of me, I got caught up in my feels! (at least its just a comment rather than a movie+a documentary about the movie about mY fEeLs ig!!)
After reading a couple of online reports on some psychological pathologies. It seems to me that she craves Love, Attention, Validation, and more, and then more love, validation and attention while treating people like dirt. Meanwhile we have Ben, who is trying his absolute best to clear himself and heal from his own past traumas. He craves love, care, comfort and pretty much a woman who will want to setlte down by the time both are in their prime senior years. A woman who will step down from the spotlight, and spend time with him, the kids, grandkids, friends and others. Even share private moments with her without the need of having cameras up in their faces. Just look at her, she is not stopping to enjoy her own money and step off the stage. She has more than enough to live off on it.
I dont know either of them. But I hope Ben stays single, happy and healthy. Or he might find someone who will appreciate him. I also hope that Jennifer can get off her high horses, find a nice recluse area and find fullfilemnt, humbleness, and happiness. And if she chooses to step down. Good for her!
I like your breakdown and think the things you mentioned you definitely have a point on, the problem for me is the things you didn’t mention are what people actually have a problem with, like her lip singing to other female voices and not crediting them, and being infamously rude and self obsessed
This actually seems like a fair comment
If she's an icon, I'm a supermodel.
Bottom line. She’s the most mediocre performer of modern times. The okayest singer. The okayest actor. She was nothing special in any art she tried, but truly was a master at publicity and convincing everyone she was. That and attaching herself to people like diddy (awkward) kept her in the limelight.
JLo is one of the most mid celebrities ever just because she had a few hit singles and movies doesn't mean we owe her anything. She is like the reverse tom cruise you want to avoid most the stuff she does.
that's regular tom Cruise if you know to avoid Scientology
So Scandy is a J.Lo Stan. Got it. Totally glossed over the ACTUAL reason people are not a fan of her, the way she treats people who are not celebrities.
Really disappointed with this piece.
Like you said, she's almost 55. Need to dig back to the 90s when she started treated people in the service industry like garbage.
People hate her because she has a documented history of treating people badly. I made it a half hour into this video and honestly, I'd like my time back. Lol
Yet here you are wasting more of your time writing out a whole ass comment. No one is making you watch. Or comment.
Why was this focused on her PR relationships? That's not why people are hating on her. Seems more like a fan video.
JLo is disliked because she thinks she's better than people, because she treats marriage like an inconvenience, because she's rude and pretentious. That has nothing to do with anyone but her.
She may be anxious whatever, but i imagine the waitstaff she stiffs has some anxiety too.
This is insane, Jlo has no trauma, she causes trauma in other people. She's managed to generate millions despite lack of talent and being rude and tyranical towards people who she feels are beneath her. I have zero sympathy for her.
She is actually a narcissist, not anxiously attached. Everything she has done and do now is proof of it, the egocentric films and how she treats others for instance. Narcissists need contstant validation (narcissistic supply) because they want to be the center of attention and usually cannot be alone but gets a new partner/new supply after they have been dumped or they themselves discards the former partner. In a way it's an anxious behaviour but it's not anxious attachment.
As a Latina who grew up in NYC and went to HS in the Bronx during the same timeframe as J.Lo, I can 100% CONFIRM that the orange drink is REAL. Back in the day, all the bodegas sold these cheap drinks in different flavors/colors (orange, red, purple, etc). During my time, they were only 25 cents. AND YES, we would just get plain ol' ham n cheese on a roll with a small bag of chips (sadly they don't make bags that small anymore). The "small" ones sold nowadays are way larger than the small ones we used to buy. And usually when we would say "small bag of chips" it simply referred to potato chips! Otherwise, we would say Doritos or Dipsey Doodles or whatever other type of chip it was. Also back then, most bodegas did not have massive selections of chips (it was usually Wise and maybe Deli if you were lucky lol). I don't know or understand why people claimed she was lying without knowing the facts of that time, especially those who did not grow up in that era in NYC. I get that J.Lo can be annoying at times but people are/were going overboard on her. They all need to get their facts straight about Latin life in the BX and throughout other predominantly Latin NYC neighborhoods during the 80s and 90s!!!! She's right when she says "when you know, you know". Well, I know.
Yeah that response was idiotic. In harlem we used to call them quarter waters. We had the same ones down south too. Its def an 80s/90s thing.
I’m not even from the US and I remember those drinks, people be tripin’
I remember getting those drinks in the school cafeteria when I was a kid.
I think you missed the part were Jlo put someone else's vocals into her songs and stealing music from not know artists
I usually like your videos, but you didn’t discuss why most don’t like her, and you blame the audience for her behavior.
If you grew up like a normal person without much money, you should know how to treat people right. Especially if they are just doing their jobs. Common courtesy to look people in the eye, & if you can’t tip correctly & well then don’t go out! It’s how they survive! Servers make $3 an hour, which all goes to taxes!
A lot of her exs said she just used them & was super controlling. Her & Ben will never work until she stops craving all this attention-he’s private & likes his relationships private, that’s why it didn’t work the first time.
And if she’s worried about money so much why dump 20 million on a movie no one wanted? Why keep doing construction on your houses with people you won’t talk to etc.? She should think about normal people in this economy & you’re gonna charge exorbitant prices for a concert?!
I only heard of a few of her songs get popular radio play, but if true about her singing that’s just wrong. Her acting is fine, she had some good movies & some bombs, like most actors. But she’s tearing down other actresses saying they don’t measure up! It’s how Hollywood goes…
I think people are mad about the Bronx stuff bc she’s only using it to seem relatable & normal, but you can’t after acting the way she does & the way she treats people!
And with that woman’s you tube channel, she didn’t just get her stuff taken off, she took her entire show! Her whole income! She sued everyone for anything negative said about her! Is narcissistic!
Brought this on herself.
This is one of the things that does bug me a bit about JLo. You'd think given her non-wealthy background having to work incredibly hard with no guarantees of success and little support from her family, and dealing with racism, to finally break through and find success, she'd remember what it was like and be a bit nicer to those that aren't in the 1% Hollywood elite. It's like that kid that was bullied or someone otherwise pushed around as a junior in the workplace, who when they finally get the power by rising in the ranks they use it take it out on everyone else because they can be the one dishing it out now, rather than remembering how much it sucked and not letting it go to their head. (I've come across the odd one the years and they get zero respect from the staff that have had to deal with them. Some of them then even complain about how the staff keeps leaving and making their life hard having to replace them. If one person has a problem, that might be a personality clash. If you get a rep for being difficult to deal with, that's no longer your staff's problem.)
Her apology after canceling her tour says a lot. It's all "me me me" and we all know sales were bad. So, she canceled to avoid humiliation.
...or perhaps you don't know everything and she TRULY wanted to focus on her marriage and children.
What about the singing fraud?
Thank you. We missed the entire point here Im afraid.
Idon’t think this video was about the same fraud. It was mostly about why there’s been this uproar of hate against her because we’ve all known about the singing fraud for years.😅
Is this about a specific incident or the entire singing career?
@@destinyfritz9452 if that was the case why did we discuss her relationship with Affleck? No one hates them for dating lol. This was about the general downfall of Lopez, and the singing fraud is literally at the centre of it. Yes, we have been saying it for years, and its become mainstream knowledge now, thanks to TikTok.
Also wanna add that not just the fraud, but her refusal to support both Puerto Ricans and her “block”, her disgusting behavior towards people (i cant get over what she did to the dancers who auditioned lol), the whole Mariah thing, and so much more contributed to the hate. The things covered in this video just address the silly accusations, not the actual issues
I have never liked Jlow. She has always been giving the eek for years. I grew up in Puerto Rico, Puerto Ricans did not like her at all. If you asked them why, they will say because she uses her heritage for clout but has never once helped Puerto Rico in a real significant way. She is also extremely rude. Everybody was dome with her years ago. Now the states is catching on. I'm not surprised
27:24 I mean finding out she didn’t sing her hits and knowing the girls who sang those songs suffered for it is beyond icky
I usually agree with your content but this didn’t really sit well with me for some reason. People dislike her because she’s treats others like crap. She’s come up using several other artists’ vocals. Why are you conveniently leaving that out? You’re pretty off on this.
We all should check this sites receipts I feel JLOs ppl paid her to say everything that she has said on here and left out wat the world realy feels about JLO!!!! this lady is a FRAUD!!!!!
You missed the mark with this video.
Most people dont like her cause she lied about her music. She didnt sing them
Shes also a diva
I don't agree with the point of this video. I mean, sure, it gives a potential new perspective for some people. But the reason people don't like her (what multiple other people have said) is because of the way she treats people who she deems "below" her, which in her perspective is everyone. She carries herself like she is the best thing to grace this earth and the poorly peasants should kiss the ground she walks on. She thinks everything she touches should turn to gold and she's shocked and offended when it doesn't happen.
She has a superiority complex to the max, she's insanely egotistical and is so incredibly fake, even people with weak discernment can clock her. THAT'S why people hate on her. I would say most of the time, it's warranted.
What in the orange drink is happening here?????
Imagine she had to make a music album all about Ben and how perfect their love was, she had to do a documentary AND a movie to convince everyone she is a great actress and that her love Story is the greatest ever told.... she had to show the private letters Ben sent to her for everyone to see…and now?
Imagine she will have to go on tour singing every night those love songs, knowing all fans already know he left her ..the unimaginable humiliation !!!! and she did it all to herself...not the "haters"
The cherry on the cake is the horrible flop of her movie Atlas ....
This episode is sponsored by jLo
Why? Because she's just neutrally pointing out some things? Stop with the "you have to agree with me or you're wrong" ridiculousness. Oh wait, you need to double down on your hate so you can feel better about yourself. 🙄Stop it.
@@AnnAndNala you take this stuff way too seriously. It was a joke.
@@AnnAndNala Because this video is full of lies; It is a lie that "experts" claim she did great in Hustlers and that her acting was Oscar worthy..many minor awards, that you can buy with money...She was not snubbed, she did ok but her acting was far from Great, it was better than her previous movies? yes, but by far not enough to be nominated for an Oscar. And like this so many other lies .. so we who know J Lo for 20 years dont like someone trying to convince us that she is great at acting when she is not. How can someone watch Atlas and tell me in the face she did great?? it was overacted and cringe !!!
WHY you dont mention in this video that she was nominated TEN TIMES for the razzie awards to the worse actress? She won the prestigious award TWICE....
AND to be clear, people dont dislike J Lo because of her good or bad acting, but because her fans and herself act like she is the best actress ever lived and is aggravating ... Also because "the greatest love story never told" movie is full of arrogance, entitlement and clearly based in lies, the proof is that this greatest story was all a lie..
What now??she go on tour singing how great is their love while every one knows is finish? and she did it all to herself..dont blame the haters or the people like me who do not appreciate being manipulated by an entertainment industry where someone can make a 400millions dlls career with some limited talent just because she is very pretty and have a great body?? is talent optional nowadays? hundreds of other girls with far better voices being turn down because they are ugly or fat.
Is everything a joke?
no, but this fluff piece fan-girling jLo is with it’s “fact checking”, calling her ‘iconic’ and the part in the doc where people are making fun of her wild hair running the block not because her hair wasn’t like that, but that it took 16 takes. That’s how hard it is for that actress to play relatable.
Her mother was a narc she says, and a lot of children of them become narcs themselves. I don’t believe in the anxious attachment style. I think she is a love addict and really controlling and needs constant adoration while trying to live up to an idea of what a loving couple looks like to her which doesn’t exist. I don’t think that she is anxious. I think she is smothering and lives in a fantasy world.
I don’t know this channel well, but the host is talking about her attachment style like she has seen enough of her to diagnose her. The entire piece was to debunk everything people picked up from her doc and music video- movie/musical thingy.
jLo struck people’s TikTok’s and people were banned. I wouldn’t be surprised then that she sponsored videos like this. When everyone is seeing how out of touch she is, it is probably true.
She was good in Selena. She was ok in all of the movies she was in where she played the same romcom character. I haven’t seen much depth in the roles that she picks. She is an ok dancer, she did Mariah dirty, she is a mediocre entertainer, and most importantly is that she doesn’t treat people who work in service very well. That is the litmus test for good people.
@onlyrealtalentedartists is right in everything that she wrote her.
I thought she was hated cause of how poorly she treats people and how she didn’t actually sing in a lot of her songs
It's her not singing her own songs for me. I can't like her as a human being after learning that all her albums are notrecorded using less known singers and even completely unknown.
Scandy, you’ve done amazing work but this JLo video is a miss.
You must be Jlo, or you need to do a little psych research to help yourself understand these things.
Girl, this video is NOT it. People don't like her because she's a terrible person, to others. And no accountability whatsoever. This woman gave a gun to puff daddy , that he shot a woman with. This woman LIED under oath. The case will be reopened, hopefully, and she will be in a lot of trouble, rightfully so. People are fed up with her because all of her is fake. Nothing is genuine. She lies, she steals others peoples songs and voices, saying that it's hers, she mistreats EVERYONE that she believes are beneath her. She is NOT a good person.
Bad @ctress, bad singer that doesn’t sing. Got involved with Marc @ntony regardless of his marriage and two little kids, the lies, the personality.
You can not justify this and much more.
Sorry, I had to stop watching this inaccurate video before it was over Scandy!
This video Is AWFULLY biased, I’m afraid!! She’s not responding because she knows she’s wrong! 👏🏽💯😮💨
I thought she was disliked because of her character.
I'm starting to see a pattern of seeing celebrities be their own worst enemy here...
Is this supposed to make me feel bad for her? Not a fan, never was. This video doesn’t change that. Disappointed
I think Monster In Law success was due to Jane Fonda, she was fabulous in it and the star of the show. LoJ just seemed like background and wasn’t interesting and yet played another one of her boring brides.
That is so NOT TRUE!!!! Jlo was also the star of that movie!!!
@@octavia9464 Yes another movie she star in that she SUCKED IN if it wasn't for JANE FONDA!!!!!!!
20years ago I read an interview she did in which she said that, as a child, she shared her bedroom and bed with her sisters as her family was poor and humble. However the house she pointed out in that "I used to live here' infamous video of hers is not poor and humble..the rag to riches story really sells
If she were genuine and humble to her fans and those working for her I think her projects would be much better received.
I think you missed a few things :/
It's back! It went suddenly private while watching it for the 1st time 😳
Same, I wonder what happened
Same in here, glad is back
JLo tried to have it removed and anyone who watched it fired!
Same! I was worried
Her best tip for dancers is to not be a virgo girl 😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
JLo only challenge is that she is unapproachable and equally not likable. Hence, it doesn't really matter how well she dances, how great her body is, how much money she has, how much stuff she has, how well she can act...nor how pretty she is. If you're not approachable, relatable, or liked, you have therefore created the narrative that everyone is voicing now. All the other stuff, entitlement-bad tipping-meaness to other people, are simply...symptoms of her own insecurities and the fight she has in her own mind about her worthiness & greatness. 😢Sad.
I noticed that you didn’t include “how well she sings” cuz…😂
I'm only a couple years younger than Jennifer and I lived in Castle Hill in the 80's. It was not a violent crime ridden area even back then. (edit) She is full of it with everything she is about.
I really appreciate this. The internet mob is insane. People don’t even check facts anymore, they just get out the pitchforks and go after whoever it’s currently trendy to hate. People seriously are NPC’s and can’t think for themselves anymore
Mm. Looks like you didn’t pay attention closely to the comments *or* research *why* people are like that towards her…..🧐😮💨
@@khakachu7778what research tho? Where is the proof of her treating ppl badly? It’s all hear-say.
I think being workaholic and having Sony and Tommy Mottola by her side is what made her. Right time in the usa for her. But she has no real musical talent. Just like most mainstream artists since the late 90s… in the usa
It’s not JLO being a workaholic!!! It is JLO “working hard” to cover up her bad actions before the public realizes what she is…….A Fake & Fraud!
are you a fan? it looks like you are a big jlo fan and you brushed over all the real reasons why people are hating her right now. than you said the most illogical thing that jlo is being rude about her tips because of audience. wtf are you talking about? and about her movie and documentary people are hating it because its BAD and CRINGE. why are you justifying that she forced someone to delete their video just cos they were critisizing her movie.
Nah I get the ick from her because of her whole personality that treats us like lowly peasants. She spent all that money on a vanity project to regain love and fame when she could have taken that same money and done something meaningful like donate to a legitimate charity, or reinvest in the community she claims to love and represent so much. Instead, she is clawing to remain relevant without doing anything to really change to be relevant. Not to mention, her history with Diddy, her blatant act of ignoring the feelings of the man she claims to adore so much just by continuing the vanity project. Idk man, there's a lot of reasons to not like her past her flops and her semi fraudulent music career. Blaming it on mental health and the audience is kind of whack. I get what you're saying and to a varying degree, I can agree but it's just her inability to see past her own ego.
jlo they'll never make me like you... now its ouuurrr fault shes this way ... ok lol its ashanti and christina milian for me. I almost subbed. smh
Wanna hear the funniest part of her “hair” scene in her gym? It took 6 takes! There’s nothing raw or credible about the documentary.
she literally said that in the video. And it was SUPPOSEDLY more.
@@MsTriangle Wow, I must’ve missed it! It was tough getting through it. I don’t even know if she understands what being authentic is. I watched the documentary, but couldn’t sit through the “non-movie, non-music video. Everything was so scripted.
12 takes 💀
@@crosscounter I knew it was a lot, but not that many! 😯
Finally someone who includes the scene of the gun in the discussion. I always thought this was so telling. For someone who removed the shooting event like it never happened, I thought it was weird to include that detail into the movie.🤔
I am happy for her success however I do not like the attitude she’s had… regardless of knowing she’s not even singing her own songs… she should be a bit more humble.
Yes! It is shameful! She should go hide under a rock! But since she is a narcissist, she plans to continue the rouse! It is a mask she wears but fortunately we can see through all the Maybeline & wig she wears now! Move back to Puerto Rico! 🇵🇷 They will be the only ones attending your concerts anyway!
She was not nominated for an Oscar because her Ramona in Hustlers was not Oscar worthy ..... better that Gigli? yes I give you that...but is a lie that " experts" and critics said she was snubbed and she did great in Hustlers"
by the way the haters are not members of the academy......
The other "expert" say she was great in Gigli ??? also lies ..she was nominated for a razzie award for almost every movie she did .....but you dont even mention that....she WON for Gigli as the worse actress in 2003, again not the haters but critics who voted her down.
Is a lie fans have an ever-changing opinion, people are consistent: she is a hard worker, yes, she keeps doing movies to prove she can act, yes ... but the reality is that
SHE IS NOT GREAT at acting despite your claims "experts" liked some of her films!! do you have eyes? watch Atlas and tell me in my face she is a great actress....is so cringe!!! is bad!!!!!
You can pay "experts" to get minor awards, with hard work you can go from bad actress to kind of ok actress, but to be a great actress you need talent and sadly talent dont come with hard work, you have or you dont have it.
That someone who have limited talent can have a 400 millions career is a slap in the face to so many talented people who dont have a career because they dont have her face or her ass.
Is aggravating!!! and the reason I am writing this comment
The fact is that she lied about how poor she was and struggling for money always bla bla bla but her dad had a really good job and they lived in a nice house 😂 I was living in a 2 bedroom flat as a kid with 5 people and always struggling for money. She's just so annoying
I enjoyed J-Lo in Selena and Anaconda, but other than that, she just…exists to me. I don’t hate her or anything and if she puts out a movie that I think looks like it could be good, I’ll give it a watch but other than that, I’m kind of indifferent.
I never had love for her. She always made me feel ick.
Can't believe all those hateful comments, people really WANT to hate her, right? They do it with passion! I found this the very best documentation about her, thank you so much
Thank you for fact checking her bronx time.
While I agree on JLo having problems I don't agree on people making fun of things they can't or don't know about. You can have a problem with someone and NOT drag EVERYTHING they do and say. That's just bullying.
As she said "IF you know you know".
So yeah, thanks again for going a little deeper than the most creators who did a video on JLo.
JLO is the bully in this whole story……you still haven’t figured that out?…. 😮
So to summarize this: what you're trying to say is that WE ARE THE PROBLEM? Not her???? Poor her she has anxious attachment style or what ever and we are avoidants that's why she's behaving like this?????? WHAT? I think you guys missed up on what people don't like her. Her movies hits and flops are the same cycle every actor might live, you simply can't give hit movies and songs back to back, it happens every now and then actors do make bad choices and flop projects, meaning her movies didn't fail because of us avoiding her and her trying so hard to win us or anything of what you said that's BS! It's just her bad choices of projects it happens! And about her relationship with Ben i doubt it ended because of this relationship styles you mentioned but because of her relationship to Diddy that Affleck discovered she might have participated in the freak offs. and you didn't mention the gun was actually in HER PURSE, her relationship to Diddy was not of anxious avoidant style and he used the gun and ran away with her!!!! That's really BS and funny how you typed Diddy as avoidant because he ran away with her given that she is an anxious type!!! SHE HAD THE GUN WITH HER AND GAVE IT TO DIDDY AND BLAMED THE OTHER GUY IN INTERROGATION PUTTING ALL THE BLAME ON HIM! She is just BAD! That's why people hate her, because of how she treats people.
JLO is hard worker however her ego is what will break her . I never thought she was a great singer bur she was always been beautiful. I think the pretty privilege card is what opened doors for her . I was listening to another person that used to work for her and she stated she knew how to use her sexuality and she was only nice to men with power everyone else was beneath her . She is an okay actress not a great actress more like a lifetime movie actress . If she would’ve of been nicer to people she could’ve of avoided the backlash . No one likes people who mistreat other people because they feel superior.
This video doesn’t cover how she steals vocals, is mean to people, and how she’s complicit Diddy’s mess.
While I do appreciate a ton of effort that was put into research and editing, as well as the ability to express and back up your point of view... This all feels like a first-year psychology student discovering types of attachments and trying to apply them in some armchair evaluation of a person they don't know. Just saying.. The hate that JLo is receiving is getting out of hand, but it has nothing to do with her attachment type to her men or to us as a public. The video does not cover the real issues that are expressed all over the comment section now. Still, I enjoyed it. It's great to have someone make an input that's different from everyone elses. It's getting echo-chambery here tbh
People don’t like her because she’s extremely unkind to ppl “beneath” her… it’s well documented. Were you… were you paid to make her look like a victim?
I think it would be great for Ben and Jen to step out of the spotlight and see if they can make it work in private. There seems to be strong Hollywood couples that are both big stars that aren't constantly shouting from the rooftops how much they love each other...they should take a page from those star's books
I love how this video is neutral, coming from the audience and the jlo side as well as we can see the truth but also still theres a lot missing out like how she is with other people, her staff, or even rude behaviors to fans. The allegations of her actually stealing tip money that ben give to staff workers... 😅
Didn't it get reveed that she didnt even really sing in Jenny From the Block??? Like i saw a video of the back up singer talking about how her vocals were used for like the whole song and even her laugh instead of Jennifers. Not only that but ive never heard of another celebrity having THAT many people come out saying she was an a-hole to them. Sure. Shes a celeb and not everyone will have a good experience with a celebrity but that many..? I dont think anyone really gives a crap about her attatchment style nor do they truly care if she grew up how she says she did. People care thatshes fake and a total mean girl.
Also girl... It sounds a little too much like youre sympathetic to kid diddler diddy towards the end there.
This whole video is a JLo empathy piece
I really appreciate you not just labeling her a narcissist and moving on, people don't realize how wildly unhelpful of a term that actually is if you want to make progress in life. We need to stop discarding people by labeling them this way
I mean, can we honestly say this label is wrong in most cases? Society and certain industries do encourage that exact mindset.
Although I do think that this was a well-made video. You are leaving out a massive part of why people dislike her. The fact that she has continuously stolen music from other artists and use their vocals, giving them absolutely no credit. That is reprehensible.
How can you trust someone like her. she needs to stop lying,get a personality change and stop thinking she is better than everyone.
The fact she exaggerating is probably more on how she felt not to be exact depiction of what happened - let the lady feel her feels 😅😂😂😂
This entire video was one massive bad take ugh, people hate jlo because she's downright rude to most people and has a huge superiority complex. Not to mention that fact that she steals music, songs, vocals and video ideas from more talented artists.
She dated Diddy…that’s all you have to know
Scandy, you're killin' it! Finally, an objective look at JL or anyone for that matter. Not a video with an obviously predetermined agenda that is calculated and based on what majority of the public is regurgitating. I didn't think that Bennifer would last this time around but I hoped for two of them. I kinda thought that "I Ain't Your Momma" was foreshadowing. If Ben couldn't handle her in his prime and make it work with his ex which I'm sure isn't perfect either but seems really nice and easy going how would he be able to handle the relationship this time around? I just subscribed to your channel.
I feel like the things I knew about JLO is all lies
its not from now im 54 years old, and I never liked miss jennifer lopez i loved her when she was an actress i think shes an amazing actor like really good, and im talking about her dramas not those stupid comedies or love.comedies
but when she had the unfortunate idea of "singing" i said "oh my God" "please no" and I was right
100% thats why i dont like talking or writing about it
because ive always been right
cant sing to save her life cant dance and i know on this one NO ONE AGREES WITH ME
but nope cant dance
i still have no idea how in the world people played her music and still play her music...
and im already writing too much about the subject, she aint worth it
but as an actress I really like her
Jane Fonda is awesome for being so honest yet kind.
Most iconic performer of our generation? She’s bland and uninteresting, average at best and her romantic entanglements are the only things that keep her in the media.
OMG a video blaming everyone but Lopez for her narcissism. Everything she does is for self promotion. She’s inauthentic which is why people don’t like her.
While I can appreciate some of the insights of this video, I don't agree with blaming her being a rude narcissist on the fact that the public is hot and cold with her. In most cases, the public reacts to her bad behavior and, to her benefit, the public is fickle so when she does something good, the swell rises in her favor again. But she is responsible for her behavior and with all of the horrible things that have leaked out about her when she's had opportunities to be a decent human being, I refuse to believe it was because she was subconsciously reacting to the public. Much of this video makes excuses for her instead of holding her accountable.
It was a lovely video. But…no…we’re not beholden to any individual of Hollywood, nor Hollywood as any part or whole. For anything. I think being a generally, genuinely empathic person towards others is key to a lot…with self respecting boundaries, prioritized. But someone reaching out to a globe of ppl for love and validity sounds like a her issue & nothing anyone should be pursuing. And certainly not because she’s famous. Sure, actors, singers want to be liked for what they do but…no. It’s not a requirement of anyone to like her, in order for her to feel whatever thing that’s healthy, mentally and emotionally. Furthermore it’s so tone deaf…$20 million dollars in an attempt to gain our affections? IN THESE TIMES? It’s extremely insensitive to the millions of people she’s asking for attention from. She is fine. She has access to every privilege, she can get therapy, form her much smaller community for support, work on loving herself & never make another movie or album or video ever again. Has nothing to do with us & we’re never going to have responsibility for anyone we do not know & does nothing for us other than potentially entertaining us. I mean…she made her hundreds of millions…it’s a job. The end.
I don’t like her because she was okay with women and girls being SA and didn’t do anything to help them. She either participated or turned A blind eye. Both is just as bad.
Great, informative vid. The way people judge celebs now is scary because the way social media is … back in the day celebs woyld have to repeat the same thing because a minimal amount of ppl would see it but today everyone sees it and she can see everyones EVERY ONES comments.
Castle hill is divided in the bronx. One Castle hill that's where Remy Ma is from Which is where the projects located at and other part where Jenifer grew up which is the suburbs. Stop the cap.
I have never been a Jlo fan ever !!!! And the way she treats ppl makes me sick !!!!
Fun fact Prince had the number 1 movie and album (both named Purple Rain of Course) and no.1 song/single When the Doves Cry at the same time! You may wonder why Purple Rain wasn’t the no1 single at the time and I would say it’s probably because it’s nearly 10 minutes long.
Her massive ego makes everyone hate her
Those attachment styles were very interesting and eye opening
Who see it, after true colors of her started being revealed can only laugh at this fan made laurel.
Woman was abusing her employees phisically and mentally, was one most likely carring gun in Diddy incident, KNEW about what is on his parties, poisoned one person pet and threat her with death... Yeah. True angel...not. 😂
People dont like her cause she stole songs from other female artists, and abused her power aince she was with Diddy