WOMEN DON’T WANT KIDS | Women on TikTok explain why they are childfree |
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
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Im a dude 28, earn $115k, no debt and over $100k saved up, single. I doubt id have kids with the way the world and economy is going. But lets speak closer to home, ive got a very close cousin and shes had 3 kids and shes only 26! First one at 21. They both work and earn probably 85k combined. They are drowning in finaces. His own mom told me she only sees her son happy when the kids arent there.... its not a life. They struggle, kids struggle, and they never found themselves and got to really enjoy each other. We expect a divorce soon enough and 3 heart broken kids. Meanwhile I'm living my life, have 3 vacations planned next year and building a STRONG foundation so if i ever want a kid or adopt itll be in the healthiest way possible.
Right on...I concur
Face it, most kids are the result of unprotected or unplanned s3x. I truly believe that if people felt they had a lot to lose in life by having a kid, they'd be more careful with their bodies.
Be aware of babytrapping.
You warn enough to attract the lazy leeches.
That's right 👍🏻
exactly. children need to be a well thought out choice. i’m not understanding why people are mad someone wanting to be childfree. they’re especially more angry at us women than men though. i guess they never factored in that women can be just as logical.
“Don’t you want a little you to carry on your legacy?”
No. The world doesn’t need another broken person.
While I love kids and find them so cute, there is no way I would have them in this world in this economy, I also have no desire to be pregnant
Pregnancy is line a 10 mo th long disease and it can end deadly.
OMG the black lady in the white shirt literally spoke what I have been feeling. At 42 I have come to realize just how unreliable men are. Why are men not understanding that? I would prefer to be broke all by myself, why would I want to bring a kid into this world to suffer with me? I hate when parents boost about how they struggled with their kid. No fools that's not a flex you traumatized your kids forever.
I've been with my husband 21 years and chose to never have kids because I know he would be no help. I already have a grown child. Him. I'm good on having kids.
I am 21 and finally sterilized after 3 years of searching for a Pro BodyAutonomy doctor.
Even if I liked kids, I wouldn't ruin my body with pregnancy.
For me it isn't about the money, it's keeping myself and the life I love.
I couldn't do the things that bring me joy and happyness as a mother, I am not willing to do most of the thi gs I do for a child.
I love my life and my body. That's why I am a sterilized childfree woman.
@ 21..? Damn😳
Poor thing.
@@minoozolaladon't pity the ones that actively choose not to have children for they had to ponder and sometimes actively fight tooth and nail to be sterilised. Pity those who had children without pondering what would be needed of them, or worse without the resources to give them a life without poverty.
@@minoozolalaMeanwhile a video came out of a woman besting and tgrowing her 3-year-old son because he "wouldn't listen".
Stop focusing on women who don't want kids and instead be productive with your life by helping mentally struggling mothers.
My body changed so much 😢 it’s a literal sacrifice.
1. I have no interest in being pregnant or going through childbirth
2. The sound of a child crying sends me absolutely mental
If I could have a kid from about three and didn’t have to give birth that would be amazing! And yes I know there is such a thing as adoption but that is an absolute trial I do not want to go through.
Have y'all seen what's going on in the world?
Not bringing kids into this mess
I’ve known a lot of parents who can’t stand kids…😒😒😒
I choose to be childfree because of my childhood trauma I was sexually emotionally and verbally abused i don't want to pass that on to another generation I'm 33 years old i made my decision when I was 11 years old
I used to want children from my 20s to my mid 30s. If I had the opportunity, the window for me would have been between 33 and 36 years of age. With everything going on in the world and society in general, I don't wanna bring a child into this world because it is dangerous. I'm about to be 40 years old and with the new research about men's fertility, I worry about the quality of my sperm which could cause a woman to have a risky pregnancy which may result in miscarriage or the child having abnormalities.
Men can healthily produce children until age 100, women can until age 42.
@@ImDougiehigher chance of kid having health problems after age 35 for men.
Absolutely not.@@bdott1538
I'd bet $100 that you're a female.@@bdott1538
You also have to think about what being an older father means. As someone who grew up with an older father, it’s certainly sucked pretty fast.
I wanna be honest. I don't like, enjoy or have kind feelings towards crotch goblins. I said what I said!
That’s valid. We need to destigmatize not liking kids
Sameee. They're so annoying, anytime they act up in public I'm like how can anyone want this
Can you imagine having a child and ending up with a nightmare of a human being!? There is no guarantee.
Or being the human being that raised the nightmare of a human being…
Ive yet to find a man who would be a good father
So you are just looki g for a provider for your personal breeding program?
I hope you are ho est about it while dating.
They are out there but its a rare occurrence same with women
THIS. Males are obsessed with telling women to be mothers meanwhile they have zero fatherly qualities.
@@ShadowNoCap i agree with you entirely. i was depressed when i og wrote that
More people need to exercise more thought when having children. I was once told "babies are small so they don't take up much space or effort. They eat what we eat and sleep where we sleep..." yes, it was my ex who told me initially that he wanted to wait to have children and get some finances moving and then would try to bring up having children periodically to try and convince me... he also did not realise that this dishonesty was a major red flag for me and i dont tokerate lying in any form. He wanted to get me pregnant to have his baby for whatever the f reasons. When i would humour his illogical and dishonest thought process and ask further questions, he would try to give quick, nice sounding answers to placate me instead of exercising that he had made any provisions for a child or a family.
Meanwhile, when i asked him to plan a date, he told me he did not know enough abiut this country to organise something like that.... this man had migrated from another continent, gotten a house to rent, found employment and had a network of friends around him. His dad also lived relatively close too... oh abd baring in mind the numerous times we'd already been on dates and he had meft me to make all the plans, including always asking questions to him thinking we were making them together. Each question he would use as a prompt to do the next thing.
I also didn't "accidentally" get pregnant by this point so he realised he had to try to convince me, lol. It was in that relationship that i acknowledged i didn't want to have children at all. Quite frankly, i also am not persuing a relationship anymore either.
Why did you date such a weirdo?
It's better to be Single than dating men that are a walking red flag!!!
I would never bring kids into the world with an average income. I make just enough for me and bills. I don’t think it’s likely that I’ll marry a high earning man so I don’t even consider that I would have at least 100k for the household…that is if I get married and stay married. I don’t even trust that would happen with divorce rates increasing. And the hostility between men and women right now at an all time high. There is way more uncertainty than I’m comfortable with that kids would bring. My future kids don’t deserve that so it’s not something I’m willing to risk.
Being a parent doesn't mean you like kids either.
Having a child is a mystery box. It might be normal, disabled, or if you're lucky maybe superstar of some way. I couldn't imagine having a kid with a musical hobby and having to listen to regularly when I got home. I remember visiting a cousin and his daughter's violin screeching for a hour while I was there.
As a lil kid growing up i struggled alot with school, making friends n i was bullied. Im 26 im not mentally or emotionally strong, i have low self-esteem, i have anxiety, n depression. I still live at home with my parents and I can hardly take care of myself. I work bcuz i have too not bcuz i want too. If i bring a kid into all tht i will be more unhappy than i already am. Thts not fair to the kid nor anybody else. The world today is falling apart and its getting worse. I cld never give a child the love n care it needs. Im not worthy of kids. dnt get me wrong they cute but they've never been for me, plus i dnt think the world needs another me running around. Trying to picture myself as a mom makes me cringe. Motherhood has never been appealing to me. Its too much time n energy/work, and i dnt wana put myself in tht position. Thts why i got sterilized at 25. There's already 8 billion people in the word thts 8 billion too many. Im childfree by choice bcuz i wanted too be selfish in a choice for me for once. Ive never been confident in any of choices ive made before but the childfree choice i knew for a fact was the right choice for me.
When I asked about kids an marriage, I say Prenup n DNA test. Then goes an explosion… egh
… I am childfree because I don’t like them. I don’t like anything about them. And I don’t have to. :D
do not like kids
Valid
I agree with everything said in this video.
My wife and I Child-Free for the 25 years we have been married.
I am very happy about not having kids. I don't like kids either. I've known since I won't ever marry, or have kids since I was 7. I'm almost 50, and love not dealing with either. I'm already a mom, his name is Taco. My sweet orange kitty that acts like a 2 yr old child. All the games recommend by google play are helping women, because their husband/boyfriend, cheated on them, runs away when they have kids, or throw the wife, and kids out in the streets. Most of them show mom, kids trying to survive outside in winter. A lot of games show the men trying to kill them by throwing them off cliffs, ships, or out a window. If games are that way, it clearly shows men are not to trusted, and horrible. Pretty accurate
The old fashioned view of 'women do domestic work and child raising, men are the breadwinners' actually DOES work.
It works if men earn enough to support the family. (Nowadays, thats A LOT)
It works if the women can have a good female support system.
It works if the women know they're safe and provided for.
It works if the women do the cleaning cooking and childcare.
It works if the children go to school.
It works if the women do not need to prioritise their job.
This is a fantasy. NO ONE has access to this 'list' because it's fiction.
Bro! I dont agree too much with female's but some of this I agree with 💯
are you mentally unwell? please get help.
A lot of guys actually will agree with CF women when they listen to what we say. A lot of the reasons we don’t want kids are the same as men that don’t want kids. And the number one thing cited: life is too expensive to do that
I enjoy babies, a lot of women actually want to have children. I don’t mind giving up my life for my kids.
why are you here?? lmao
@@amphotericWhy are you so angry?
I’m sure you’ll be a great mother.
That’s perfectly fine. 😊
I am a baby boomer. I know a few couples that decided not to have children by choice. They are 5-15 yrs older than me. I am witnessing true regret from them. They went through taking care of their aging parents in their last days. They were grateful to have their siblings to help with their burden of caring for the parents during in home hospice. But now they are worried about their own end of life care and who will be by their side. Just my observations 🤷♀️.
having kids to take care of u when u age is really gross. thats incredibly selfish and your argument is a moot point.
@@cherylbrown-m4i It’s called unconditional love and respect for your parents. It’s not “gross.”
@@Danette2007
It’s bringing another person into this world with a job. Lmao.
Having kids isn’t a retirement plan. Look at all the parents ditched cuz they thought so. I know I’d ditch you!
@@magnarcreed3801 Nowhere did I say you should have kids to help you in your retirement years. I just observed the sudden realization stated by a few that their deathbed will be a lonely end. It’s one of those moments in your life where you are honest with yourself about your successes and regrets. There is a whole ocean of reasons why I would want children for myself. I can’t think of any reasons not to have children 🤷♀️. To me it is someone to love and be loved for the rest of my life. Unconditional love. Memories. Joy. It comes down to what you think the meaning of life is and why the heck are we here?
@@Danette2007
Children are not unconditional love. They grow into their own people and might not like the person their parent is. Also that’s still selfish af.
Oh I don’t know. Finances, how shit the world is, risks with pregnancy and child birth, rate your partner will leave you, kids are loud and messy. You won’t have a moment to yourself. List is nearly endless to not have kids.
Also die alone? Lmao get friends and build community then. Also most people die alone. That’s a you some experience even if others are in the room.
Women who don't want children must be incredibly selfish and self absorbed. It's all part of the decline and fall of the American empire. .I'm 71, and I have an 8 year old child. I can't imagine a world without him. He makes life worth living for me. He's also a huge boost to my income with all the government perks of having children. But money or not, I couldn't live without him. I would fight to the death to protect him.
Live and let live!. It's equally selfish to bring children into bad situations. Love and desire is simply not enough. You have to be willing to see it through and that is for as long as you live. Too many abused children in the system to number.
I'm sorry, did you say you're 71 yrs old and have an 8 yr old child?? So let me get this right, you SELFISHLY chose to raise a child in your geriatric years?? In by which the child will have a poor qualiy of childhood life because they can't be played with and interracted with by a parent who has the energy to do so. And will likely be put into the demanding position to physically care for you at their very young age. And then they will be guaranteed to lose their parent in their youth. That's a devistating life, i feel so sorry for your kid. That is also the epitome of hypocrisy right there....
@@HopelessObserverexactly!
At 71, having an 8 year old is amazing. However, do you d most of the housework, cooking, cleaning, doctor appts, do you bake for and do school evemts, do you do the bulk of driving to docor/ dental appts, sporting events, do you do the bulk of homework duty, supervising play dates? If you don't do the BULK of ALL of thst, maybe you are selfish too. Loving your child and being willing to die for them is the appropriate thing to feel for your son. Loving children is easy. Willingness to die for them will more than likely never be needed. Women who don't want kids are selfish because YOU ENJOY YOUR SON SO MUCH???. Happy for you, overjoyed for you. But until you can force a baby from your body and do 85-95% of the day to day grind, HUSH.
I do most of the things on your list. My wife works, and doesn't spend that much time with him.@@SusanHamer
Well just don't have kids
Thank you for your permission
Looking at all the hatred women get whether they have children or not and the doomsday news about "population collapse":
your words are soooo useless.
@@CordeliaWagner ok Cordelia 🙄
That’s the plan. 2 cats, a job I love, and politically active. Life is good 👍🏻
No problem . No kids = no husband .
exactly, living the dream life