what to do when you want a relationship but can't find one
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- Finding a meaningful relationship can be challenging, and you might be left feeling lonely when you know what you want or need but can't seem to find it. It can feel hopeless at times, but there are some ways I have been able to keep my emotions afloat and maybe you can too.
you always have a friend in me,
Victoria Ryder
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It's amazing to hear a woman say exactly how i feel. I honestly have felt from recent experiences that no one values romance, love and connection anymore.
The amount of men dying to find someone as freaking adorable as you is insane
This warms my heart so much!! Sending you so much peace and light friend :) thank you for your sweetness
@@zeropodcasts He's absolutely right, you are such a sweet woman, I hope my future wife is just as sweet and romantic as you are; except the tarot stuff though. As a traditional christian man I know for a fact that tarot cards are not good for your relationship with God.
It's a form of divination that many witches use, I never used them but I did other things. It's better to stay away from that and get closer to God by learning about Him and reading the Bible.
If not for that you'd be the woman of my dreams, and I'm not a simp, you're just my type 😊
I remember after the last breakup, my friends were like, 'Cheer up! There are dating apps now with lots of options.' I installed Tinder, and after about 20 minutes of scrolling, I became more depressed thinking, 'Are these my options now? Will this be my life?' I uninstalled it without looking back. For me, these things are not things I need to compromise with. You start to compromise when you don't get along with yourself enough to feel at peace alone. I feel a lot lonelier in a crowd without finding any connections there than actually being alone. As long as I can work on my missions in life, then I'm good :)
what was so bad about the options on tinder?
@@pancakerepairman I didn’t really vibe with any of the options I saw. It feels like the whole environment is just too shallow and synthetic. You end up picking someone based on looks alone, and nobody seemed to show their true, captivating self. I’ve never been into dating by a strict set of 'dos and don'ts'-it just sucks the passion out of everything, and for me, passion is what dating is all about. I’m more into connections that grow naturally, with a bit of mystery and those unexpected, magical moments of faith and synchronicity.
If Tinder’s working for you, that’s totally cool, but it’s just not my thing.
Heyyy can you please say your Instagram id, you are so cute
Hey can i please know your instgram 😢
You seem like a genuinely nice person, can relate to you a lot! Think you're a fellow empath. I believe in the one and have for many years and never met anyone that feels the same and it can make you feel really lonely sometimes to not have anyone that feels the same!
that person is out there. you will know when you have found them. have patience and have faith in yourself. you deserve to love and to be loved.
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works for women only
Amazing energy. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for being. I send love.
I'm 55 years old. I've been alone for 32 years. I've hated every second. I've tried 28 times to ask someone out and have been met with nothing but failure. I can't make myself do it any more. I don't know what I should do. Don't end up like me. x
im sorry😔
Sometimes it's not your fault. Life is unfair and you gotta deal with it.
@@pantherman8719 Yep, that's the unfortunate truth.
unfortunately being a man is completely thankless. It's lonely and you're expendable and most women probably find you hideous.. Girls like this, and I mean this with all the love in my heart, they have alot of things in life handed to them (especially because she's pretty).. This girl wants a relationship, but when she says "I can't find one" it's because she has very strict requirements and demands and not just "anyone" would do.. I'm not saying her feelings aren't valid by the way. She seems smart, emotionally intelligent, funny, and she has a personality AND she's beautiful AND young.. She has the ability to pick and choose.. godspeed to her. She WILL find a sweet (and handsome) guy she can be happy with, despite her worrying she'll never find anyone (she's 20 LOL) I bet most men watching this video would walk across 10 miles of broken glass and lego pieces to have a girlfriend/wife like that
But for most men, and I bet this applies to you aswell, they *just* want average looks, not obese, and preferably kind.. And even with that some men go through most of their lives without that. Most women find you disgustingly
Love has many shapes. Its never too late to find someone, somewhere.
You're really awesome and wise beyond your years, your songs and advice have been really soothing during a turbulent time in my life. I hope you find what you seek and I hope I met someone as great as you one day. :)
What to do when you want a relationship but can't find one. Step one, romance yourself and fall in love with yourself. (Before you ask, no, "romance yourself" does not refer to your hands :D). Step two: Make room for your "soul in another body" aka soulmate. In your heart but also in your life. Is there room in your house for 1 more? Is it clean? Are you? Is there a place for them to put their shoes and toothbrush? Prepare, so that fate knows you mean it. Step 3: Just chill and wait and be happy and in love with life and with yourself while you do so. I send love :D
Someone as pretty as you can just snap your fingers and you can get most guys. We all know it. The challange is if the other person really likes you, cause of who you are and not cause of your looks; and thats fairly hard for the other person too..The challange (of finding a truthful person) is to read the signals well: eyes, gestures, positions (and I dont mean those general body positions/signs while flirting or whatever, its on a personal behavioral deeper level) and especially how they say what words and when and if they keep their words. There is always a nuance to it. I cant go deeper in this comment section...Its so interesting though and there is so much more.
One can have great, wonderful, genuinly good plans and a good will or one can be truly evil with malicious intentions: All of it doesnt matter in the slightest. It only depends on your actions and how you transfer your will into leaving a mark on this world.
I hope that box goes to the exact person you desire.
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Great advice for everyone, thanks! ❤️
That's a REALLY good thing, that you haven't met the right person yet, and I'm also still in the same boat my hole life. But our generation a lot of people rush into relationships, because they see other people in them. they think, they don't have the time to get to know them. but they do.
I'm 54, but I wanted to have a girlfriend / woman ever ever since childhood. No matter what I tried, it never worked out. I hope you'll have more luck, and not end up having to wait until you're 85! 😂 You're a very attractive young woman, if you do get any offers from halfways decent men, give them a try. I never got any offers except once, and it lasted only for a couple of weeks (she wasn't really a good match for me or so I thought at the time). There are many shy men who would enjoy women to take the initiative!
Better to wait long, than marry wrong.
yeah im a 24 male and single and i feel hopeless when it comes to love
I feel the same way, daydreams and all. Life is truly beautiful to those who live it.
But its strange, I feel the want to love. I daydream what me and her would do together, then I would quickly realize that i have spent the past 10 years I have been just surviving.
The videogame binges were escapement.
The walks into the overgrown abandoned apartments and old buildings turned urbans trash forests were dangerous, Chased by homeless tweakers
Gun pointed at me 3 times. 2 by thugs 1 by actual street nazis.
The mall just sells overpriced low quality garbage to take money.
When i was younger my fun was making crossbows and trying to shoot caterpillars off of leaves. I used to have a fantasy where i would teach her how to shoot the crossbow I made.
ahhhh I moved to the city and theres no such freedom here.
Now i work in a factory. My life is bland. People around me only have fun doing drugs and drinking.
I am afraid to talk to women, i know i wont be able to entertain her for long. I live in an RV with my mom too. My bed is a wooden board, it serves as my table and occasionally my workbench.
Tomarrow,saturday after my factory overtime is over im going to climb the construction supplies near krogers and just sit there. On top of the highest concrete cubic storm drain section stack. Above all cars driving by and watch until i feel stupid. I must be the stupid one. Surely people still talk to eachother.... right? Surely this isnt all there is to life... right?
"go to church"
Church just wants money. Only the pastors family goes and there are rarely any people my age. Only children and boomers. This applies to most churches here.
I am the last sane man on earth. Everyone else is just blind and happily poor and lonely. Nothing will change, theres nobody to be mad at.....
I need to sleep soon, the lack of sleep makes me rant when i would otherwise stay silent no matter what.
Im afraid of you, and all especially pretty women in real life. I would turn away and start walking. If i give my heart away while i have nothing of material to offer then i will be empty, inside and out.
You know that if you ever stated the specifics of what you are looking for your entire audience would turn on you that's why you talk in platitudes.
Wednesday Addams ❤❤❤
That Namastey stole my heart ❤️❤️
lots of love from indiaaa❤
awwww thank you sweets! sending love right back to you
@@zeropodcasts hihi💗
Omfg that's so cute, if my wife doesn't give me a box like that I'm going to be depressed 😔
You and I have the same thing happening but similar
I really think that box is really cool and sweet. Any man would literally want to receive one in their lifetime.
Nothing better than taking life advice from a kid who's still in her vampire phase
Would you prefer to take it from a kid who writes salty comments of how mature he is to grab attention online? Life is not made of phases and everyone has something to share. Hope you reach a phase to comprehend that kiddo🤣
@@Tayfungurses777 I love you
nothing better than putting people down and invalidating their opinions and thoughts because you focus on one aspect of them.
GROW UP
me I love her a lot
Leaving your house and trying to walk to up a random women to start something will 99.9% end in failure. I'd rather stay home, play video games and not think about wanting a relationship.
I think you may be too harsh on yourself. The odds would be better than 1000 to 1 if you tried :) However, my question is: why should anyone try if they aren't truly motivated? It doesn't feel fulfilling to act just to meet some external expectations of how you should live. Living to fulfill external expectations can make you confused and depressed, because motivations driven by these expectations rarely involve true passion. The key to happiness is to know how to enjoy what you have. In my personal opinion, playing video games can be quite fun.
Imagine living alone 200 years ago.. now that would have likely been quite depressing. Fast forward 100 years, and you could switch on a light bulb, listen to the radio, and think, 'Yeah, I've got it going on.. I could never get bored!' But now, not only do you have a wide variety of entertainment options, but you can also communicate with people all around the globe instantly. I believe that being alone is a lot different than it used to be and is only depressing if you believe it to be.
Leaving your house, spending time on an activity, gym, martial arts, or anything that has both women and men at same time, and trying to form a connection there has a 26.7% chance of success. What now?
guys who are in relationships almost never found them that way and the ones that did are super extroverted. being an introverted man is just a spiral after high school or college when you no longer have a social environment forced on you. if you don't have friends to give you social proof and meet girls through you're just fucked.
yes, but honestly failure isn't that bad and 99% of the time there's no real consequences besides feeling bad for a couple minutes.
make friends. your problem is you're going out looking for a relationship. go out to make friends and build a circle. friends set their friends up. friends can fall in love. just make friends.
roses are red
violets are blue
i like tarot
but even more i like you
hi I love her a lot
I love you I'm going through the same thing
Story of my lif3
Having a relationship is not the most important thing in life.there are other things that are much more important than this.
Nothing is better than a relationship where you are madly in love with each other
Im just to dry, I do nothing but play video games and suck at texting
Stay strong. Youre very beautiful and inspiring. I have MDD which is a depression disorder and i stumbled on your channel. It is really nice to see other people i can somewhat connect with
What do you when you have no friends or romantic partner?
I try to make friends but literally nobody wants to hang out with me. I genuinely feel like im cursed.
You are really so beautiful 🥺❤
you're but a bug to this lady
@@Saint-hamudi?
A relationship is not a thing...
real bestie
I love Halloween related stuff or paganism wiccan too. And you look beautiful ❤️🔥🤘🎃
thats so awesome! i am super into all the stuff as well :)) thank you for your kindess :) sending you peace and light friend!
@@zeropodcasts same to you ✌, hope you do well in your life and never give in to others will. Just be you and never ever compromise your beliefs, rules and individually✊️❤️🔥🌈🎃
As a male 27. I gave up on relationships after being hurt way too many times by women I was with. It makes me sad because I was a romantic lover boy but I feel like that’s dead now. Being cheated on and treated like shit kinda made me jaded. I would love to have a partner someday but I feel so hopeless dating in today’s world.
men in their 20s feeling disillusioned in relationships from residual trauma: 😖
therapy: 😎
go get therapy, you've been abused and now you have put up walls out of fear of getting hurt again. don't be afraid to seek help, everyone needs it.
I love is girl
Thank you, this kind of video delivers an important message of self love and being true to yourself and your feelings towards yourself and others which I like and I really value what it is you manage to share with all of us.
My name is michael im 39 and I'm handsome even I want a good woman 🦸♀️ in my life zero podcasts never give up on love ❤️ look at jlo I like that little bat it's very cute 😍 my favorite movie 🎬 as a kid was Bram stoker Dracula with Winona rider ♥️ she will premiere soon with the movie 🎬 remake of Beetlejuice but as an adult I'm more lighthearted I'm devout christian ✝️ ♥️ man 👨 of god I just love ❤️ 😍 jesus cuz of is loving ,compassionate energy and he has a great sense of humor ♥️ 💖 ❤️ 💗 💕 💙 ♥️
Cant wait to see u in Beetlejuice 2
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i just checked out ur website its super dope! u should embedd ur youtube videos into it! I respect how much love and care u put into it from the articles to the poems! pls put ur videos on it too if u can!
I am perpetually searching for a relationship, but I have not found the right venue. When I thought I finally did, it was an Ice-Cream Social for old people
Are you single dough 🖤🕸️
I don’t think it’s weird at all. I think it’s pretty cool actually. I too don’t have many friends and am alone a lot. I’m with you though, I long for a happy and healthy relationship too that hopefully leads to marriage and I just want to be with one who truly loves me for who I am and just wants to be with me. I feel like I deserve that. I hope you find the love you are looking for and deserve Victoria.
I was a 10 on hot r not hit me up
ngl if I married a girl and she gave me a santeria soul box I'd ask her to marry me again
BAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAAH stop i know what youre talking abt bc im half cuban so ive seen this in irl not a soul box but mhmmmmm im thinking of new ideas now thanks bahahha :) sending you peace and light friend!
I'm exactly like you.
my twin!! :) sending you peace and light friend!
Real love comes 15 years into a relationship. What you are talking about is a basic romantic comedy movie.
Best speak to some elders and get some perspective because the clock is ticking.
The box thingy is not weird at all. I think it's part of "Living in the end" manifestation method of Neville Goddard if you heard of it
I’ll debate you on your channel ever can set it up record it film it get the clout but I’m right you’re wrong
Talking so much yet saying nothing, a blanket way of not admitting you can't find someone who is both attractive and worships you, geez get to the point.;
Namaste
I’m gay a guy and it’s a struggle to get into relationships honestly I gave up on it a very long time ago and I’m only 22 years old ..
Stop saying hopefully! You will meet them! 😂
I want to be your dracula
you're but a bug to this lady
@@Saint-hamudi Something tells me to not feed the troll, but I felt bad for you, you'll find love someday.
Translation: I'm looking for a top-tier model that commits to me and agrees with everything I say, because I think I deserve the best, even though I haven't done anything to warrant that outcome. 😁
if a beautiful person like u feels like this way what chance does an ugly gargoyle me like have of finding true love?
I met ugly people who got married and got kids. Honestly I think that beauty matters when it comes to have a lot of different options, but when it comes to commitment that doesn't matter anymore
Boston energy
You look good today, except the lipstick color.
C'mon now, lipstick color is the issue? 😒
I think she slayed 😂
nah she's slaying
This is very unrealistic, a waste of time and very immature to do.
maturity is a construct, wisdom is a virtue.