I'm so sorry, Bo. This is so hard. Is there a trusted friend nearby that your baby can stay with? You haven't been respected in the housemate relationship, you're in the right and are well within your rights to leave. For school, email your teachers and just tell them you were sick today. See if you can make up the work. You're not a failure. ❤️ Feeling fear and relief is normal for a big change. If you're spiritual, try a cleansing ritual on the room. I understand the fear. Hopefully KC can move in and the baby boy can stay there with them. You're not stupid. You're a traumatized person who once again has to uproot and make a terribly difficult choice. It's HARD. Our generation got completely fucked mental health and finance wise. It's normal to not want to leave. The stability is ultimately worth it. That doesn't make it easy or fun. It'll be okay, sis. Lots of love. Ceti & Ava❤️❤️❤️❤️
You made the right choice Bo. You are more important than material items. You deserve to be treated better and with some damn respect. I know it's hard but it will be worth not being in pain or having to worry about your next meal. I know one of the hardest parts is your kitty but hopefully you can find someone to watch him who will let you visit and send you pictures and promise you that they will love him as much as you do. I love you too Bo, please stay strong, things will get better!
Omg, I relate so much to your comment about college and being a fuckin mess while studying psychology- girl, that’s literally me. I sometimes have doubts about studying it too, bc I’m such a big mess, but I realized that doesn’t mean you’re not qualified to study psychology- or whatever you’re studying? In fact I think it gives you so much knowledge bc you know things from experience- you’re gonna help so many people and do awesome, Bo 💙 you will!
i’m so sorry bo. it is not stupid at all to feel the way you’re feeling. i really hope that things will be on the rise for you from now on and i’m proud of you for taking that step. sending lots of love your way 💗💗💗
I'm so glad you finally took that step and will be going to your grandmother's house. As for your stuff, it's just that; stuff. Take what's most important to you and either store or bung the rest. Stuff can always be replaced. Now, about your cat: I live in Canada so I don't know how things work in England but here we have a system that if people fall on hard times and aren't able to care for their pet, there are shelters that will place that pet in a foster home until you're back on your feet and able to take on that pet's care again. You might want to consider calling the various animal welfare places in your area and ask if any of them offer a similar program. You could also ask your friends or college classmates if anyone would be willing to take your cat in temporarily. I can only imagine how heartbreaking this is for you but I honestly believe you're doing the right thing by moving. You can't go on living like this. It's taking a terrible toll on you both physically and mentally. Please know that my heart is with you and that I wish you all the very best.
Talk to your grandma about the cat. If she knows you can look after them both and your willing to make compromises like putting half your stuff in storage maybe she will allow them both
She can look after them but who I paying for their food and litter? That might be more of an issue to someone who just agreed to financially support an adult for a while (without a clear end date).
i really hope you can get through this bo! it must be so hard knowing you need to leave some of your belongings and the other cat ❤️ i would find it so hard if i was in your situation and would feel similar. i really hope that moving with your grandma will help you feel better, it seems like a big step in the right direction and a good move to make ❤️
Hi Bo, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I really hope only the best for you. You're doing your absolute best and what's best for you. You ARE strong enough. You're doing something so difficult but you've made a very hard choice. That proves your strength. I don't know your relationship with your grandmother, but is there any way to speak to her regarding the kitty? If you explain the importance of having both cats would she reconsider?
I am so proud of you Bo. You did such a big and brave step today, and I can see how difficult it is for you. I can hear how tough it is to leave all your things behind, and of course your pet is absolutely heartbreaking but there are ways to sort this like people mentioned, potentially fostering until you can get him back etc. BUT, It is absolutely the best thing to do, and you’re making the right decision as tough as it is. You WILL get better at your grandmas, and you will be safe and you really deserve to have all your needs met. I know if it was me in your situation, you would be telling me everything will be ok, and that it is the right thing to do, just like i am telling you now. We are all here for you♥️
I would actually give up my bed and take the sofa if it meant you were safer and happier than the situation you're in, ive been there and its the worst especially when people take advantage of sensitive mental states
Thank you for the many updates. Changes have the potential to have positive effects in your life. I am very proud of you that you are trying something new. Remember, now you are an adult, you can change your mind if things go bad. Don't be so afraid, take this chance. I hope everything will get better! I wish you much success. And about the cats: give the second cat to your mother and then simply change them at regular intervals. Not a perfect solution but better than nothing.
I'm so proud of you for making the call to your Mum and finding out you can go to your grandmothers. It's such a relief you can go there. It's so sad you can't take both cats, but that you can take one is really good Bo. It will hurt leaving the other sweet kitty, but you can't stay there the way things are going, so it is the best decision. The sooner you can get out of there the sooner you can settle in and get your stability back. Just hold on to the thought of waking up warm in the morning, having a full tummy every day. I understand you're attached to your stuff, but this could be a good opportunity to sell some things and get some money together to help you become more financially stable. You can do this!
I don't know what's happening because I've just discovered your channel. But clearly, you have a DID. We are an OSDD system and my channel isn't about mental health but whatever, if you need someone to talk to, like a stranger who's almost in your shoes, I would like to be your friend. I hope everything gets better for you 🖤
You are certainly not gross. Also I'm so sorry you have to make such a hard decision :( I hope everything works out. Sending you lots of love and hope 💜💜💜
If I wasn't in the States, I would definitely hang onto your kitty for you, and let you see him whenever you want. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. I know nothing will make it easier to leave, and leave kitty and your things behind. I'm very attached to everything too. Just think of your Mara and how you won't be alone with moving. *Hugs*
I just moved back in with my mum a few days ago, at first it was a few days but actually found im better without him because hes a toxic narcissist, but i hope he works with you and not against you to make this easier
Is it possible for you to do this in stages? slowly spending a little more time at your grans? I so understand parting ways with your other cat, I understand and my heart breaks for you. Perhaps in time your gran will let you have both cats? it's maybe a lot of change for her too, and little by little she might come around? I am sending so much love.
can you have someone foster your cat when you get back on your feet? people do that all of the time until they can take them back. itll be good motivation to get to a better place. and honestly it might be better for them to not be in there - if youre cold, theyre probably cold, and your roommates dont seem to care about that
I'm so sorry, Bo. This is so hard. Is there a trusted friend nearby that your baby can stay with?
You haven't been respected in the housemate relationship, you're in the right and are well within your rights to leave.
For school, email your teachers and just tell them you were sick today. See if you can make up the work. You're not a failure. ❤️
Feeling fear and relief is normal for a big change. If you're spiritual, try a cleansing ritual on the room. I understand the fear.
Hopefully KC can move in and the baby boy can stay there with them.
You're not stupid. You're a traumatized person who once again has to uproot and make a terribly difficult choice. It's HARD. Our generation got completely fucked mental health and finance wise.
It's normal to not want to leave. The stability is ultimately worth it. That doesn't make it easy or fun. It'll be okay, sis. Lots of love.
Ceti & Ava❤️❤️❤️❤️
You made the right choice Bo. You are more important than material items. You deserve to be treated better and with some damn respect. I know it's hard but it will be worth not being in pain or having to worry about your next meal. I know one of the hardest parts is your kitty but hopefully you can find someone to watch him who will let you visit and send you pictures and promise you that they will love him as much as you do. I love you too Bo, please stay strong, things will get better!
Omg, I relate so much to your comment about college and being a fuckin mess while studying psychology- girl, that’s literally me. I sometimes have doubts about studying it too, bc I’m such a big mess, but I realized that doesn’t mean you’re not qualified to study psychology- or whatever you’re studying? In fact I think it gives you so much knowledge bc you know things from experience- you’re gonna help so many people and do awesome, Bo 💙 you will!
Maybe try explaining to your grandma that the cats are bonded and that they are your babies and you'll care for them
i’m so sorry bo. it is not stupid at all to feel the way you’re feeling. i really hope that things will be on the rise for you from now on and i’m proud of you for taking that step. sending lots of love your way 💗💗💗
I would not leave my abusive relationship until I knew me and my girls could be safe together. I understand
I'm so glad you finally took that step and will be going to your grandmother's house. As for your stuff, it's just that; stuff. Take what's most important to you and either store or bung the rest. Stuff can always be replaced. Now, about your cat: I live in Canada so I don't know how things work in England but here we have a system that if people fall on hard times and aren't able to care for their pet, there are shelters that will place that pet in a foster home until you're back on your feet and able to take on that pet's care again. You might want to consider calling the various animal welfare places in your area and ask if any of them offer a similar program. You could also ask your friends or college classmates if anyone would be willing to take your cat in temporarily. I can only imagine how heartbreaking this is for you but I honestly believe you're doing the right thing by moving. You can't go on living like this. It's taking a terrible toll on you both physically and mentally. Please know that my heart is with you and that I wish you all the very best.
US person here. We have that same option, which I only recently found out about. A friend is fostering a cat for someone who can't take care of her.
Talk to your grandma about the cat. If she knows you can look after them both and your willing to make compromises like putting half your stuff in storage maybe she will allow them both
She can look after them but who I paying for their food and litter? That might be more of an issue to someone who just agreed to financially support an adult for a while (without a clear end date).
i really hope you can get through this bo! it must be so hard knowing you need to leave some of your belongings and the other cat ❤️ i would find it so hard if i was in your situation and would feel similar. i really hope that moving with your grandma will help you feel better, it seems like a big step in the right direction and a good move to make ❤️
My old housemates made me rehome my cat and then got a dog... some people
If you talk to your professor about the struggles you’ve been having, they may be able to give you some leeway.
Hi Bo, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I really hope only the best for you. You're doing your absolute best and what's best for you. You ARE strong enough. You're doing something so difficult but you've made a very hard choice. That proves your strength.
I don't know your relationship with your grandmother, but is there any way to speak to her regarding the kitty? If you explain the importance of having both cats would she reconsider?
I am so proud of you Bo. You did such a big and brave step today, and I can see how difficult it is for you. I can hear how tough it is to leave all your things behind, and of course your pet is absolutely heartbreaking but there are ways to sort this like people mentioned, potentially fostering until you can get him back etc. BUT, It is absolutely the best thing to do, and you’re making the right decision as tough as it is. You WILL get better at your grandmas, and you will be safe and you really deserve to have all your needs met. I know if it was me in your situation, you would be telling me everything will be ok, and that it is the right thing to do, just like i am telling you now. We are all here for you♥️
Oh, and you absolutely are strong enough, you’re an absolute superstar and you can get through everything! I believe in you wholeheartedly ♥️
Stick with it and give yourself grace ❤️❤️❤️
I would actually give up my bed and take the sofa if it meant you were safer and happier than the situation you're in, ive been there and its the worst especially when people take advantage of sensitive mental states
Thank you for the many updates. Changes have the potential to have positive effects in your life. I am very proud of you that you are trying something new. Remember, now you are an adult, you can change your mind if things go bad. Don't be so afraid, take this chance. I hope everything will get better! I wish you much success. And about the cats: give the second cat to your mother and then simply change them at regular intervals. Not a perfect solution but better than nothing.
I'm so proud of you for making the call to your Mum and finding out you can go to your grandmothers. It's such a relief you can go there. It's so sad you can't take both cats, but that you can take one is really good Bo. It will hurt leaving the other sweet kitty, but you can't stay there the way things are going, so it is the best decision. The sooner you can get out of there the sooner you can settle in and get your stability back. Just hold on to the thought of waking up warm in the morning, having a full tummy every day. I understand you're attached to your stuff, but this could be a good opportunity to sell some things and get some money together to help you become more financially stable. You can do this!
can't Casey move in and share your room? half the rent and bills that way x
I don't know what's happening because I've just discovered your channel. But clearly, you have a DID. We are an OSDD system and my channel isn't about mental health but whatever, if you need someone to talk to, like a stranger who's almost in your shoes, I would like to be your friend. I hope everything gets better for you 🖤
You are certainly not gross. Also I'm so sorry you have to make such a hard decision :( I hope everything works out. Sending you lots of love and hope 💜💜💜
Do you have a link worker? Anyone who can help you with paperworks to get your finances back so you can remain independent?
If I wasn't in the States, I would definitely hang onto your kitty for you, and let you see him whenever you want. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. I know nothing will make it easier to leave, and leave kitty and your things behind. I'm very attached to everything too. Just think of your Mara and how you won't be alone with moving. *Hugs*
Sweetheart, you'll be ok. I no it's hard darling, but the main thing is you'll be fed n warm. Sending lots of love n hugs.💞🤗XxX
Love you bo.. stay strong. My ex recently took both my dogs and won't let me see them... I know it's painful. I'm sorry.
Im so sorry 😥 i hope you get to see them soon 😥💖
Sweetheart, you are strong enough. As much as it hurts now it will be better being away from this toxic situation. You can do this love!
feeling how you do about your cat is not stupid at all, you're feeling everything true, i just really hope and pray you can find the best resolution.
change of any kind is hard. This is the right choice but yeah, losses are too hard. I'm sorry this is happening. I wish I could help♥
I just moved back in with my mum a few days ago, at first it was a few days but actually found im better without him because hes a toxic narcissist, but i hope he works with you and not against you to make this easier
We're always here 2 listen n we love u 2.💖💖💖
Please continue to keep us updated.
Can you find out whether Casey can take your place before you decide?
Is it possible for you to do this in stages? slowly spending a little more time at your grans? I so understand parting ways with your other cat, I understand and my heart breaks for you. Perhaps in time your gran will let you have both cats? it's maybe a lot of change for her too, and little by little she might come around? I am sending so much love.
can you have someone foster your cat when you get back on your feet? people do that all of the time until they can take them back. itll be good motivation to get to a better place. and honestly it might be better for them to not be in there - if youre cold, theyre probably cold, and your roommates dont seem to care about that
You are a strong woman...
Because the most of women don't show there problem... And You are doing it and un internet...
My heart breaks for you sweetheart. You have to put yourself first, as awful as it may feel right now xxx
Why did You go love?
Hey what happened?
You are studying psicólogy?