Dax Shepard: Rock Bottom Isn't Always What Makes You Change Your Life
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- Опубликовано: 28 янв 2019
- Dax Shepard talks about the struggle of recovery, and that there are just some things in life that money can't fix.
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In 20 days I'll be alcohol-free for 17 years. And I'll always be an alcoholic; just a retired one. I admire Dax's honesty and courage.
Congratulations! Your past doesn't define your future. Stay on track.
Joanne Ellis, good for you👏. Don't label yourself an alcoholic. That could drive you back, but I hope not. Keep moving forward 👉.
@@patriciaking7892 agree
Blessed to be a sober alcoholic in recovery 🙏🏽
Listen to yourself..... Still an alcoholic? Time to aim higher. Cure yourself and become something else. That 'I'm an alcoholic' mindset is way outdated and very self destructive. NOBODY is an alcoholic. There are only people who are self abusive and happen to use alcohol, heroin, cut themselves etc. If you truly love yourself, you'll see who you TRULY are.
Few hrs from now will be 5 days off herion.. stumbled on this gem off a podcast.
Jeremy Vanmeter I wish you well on this journey.
@@josephdaly2041 THANKS EVERYONE FOR THE SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT! .. ALSO SOME SAY WEED IS A GATEWAY DRUG, WHICH IS KINDA IRONIC CONSIDERING IT HAS BEEN A HUGE HELP IN DEALING WITH THE HORRIBLE WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS! .. JUST SAYING?..
DAY 10 , BY THE WAY..I FEEL LIKE I WILL BE ABLE TO RETURN TO WORK MONDAY! ..
Is it as awful as they say. Being clean ?
Sending you the best vibes! Wishing you the best!
Finally an interviewer who doesn’t love to hear his own voice.
yeah only realised now you said it but so true
YES! I used to watch Joe Rogan a lot, specifically because due to the JRE's popularity he has on great guests. But some times the direction of the podcasts or his constant interruptions was too much. Plus he recycles all of his MMA & Standup friends.
Seinfeld's 'Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee' is great as well; he doesn't step all over his guests when they're speaking either.
But yeah... It's annoying when the 'host' doesn't shut up, when the reason we're all watching or listening is to hear the guests talk!
Was gonna say. Perfect interviewer. Asks a concise, interesting question and then gets out of the way. This is how it should be done.
But he loves to see himself shocked
it definitely helps that Dax keeps relatively on track. Good interviewers also serve as bumpers on the bowling lane
Today will be my 2nd day sober. There has to be a start for me somewhere. Relapsed a billion times. But I'm still here. God bless everyone here.
Me too buddy. Hope you stay on the right path
How r u doing?
U ok?
Hope youre doing good, bro.😊
Praying for you. Would love an update.
How refreshing to have an interviewer like Sam, actually listen and allow his guest to get it all out without interrupting or trying to take center stage. This is how it should be done.
I can't stand 1 min of Howard stern for this exact reason, not only he interrupts his guests, he put words on their mouth and he finishes their sentences, it's unbelievable.
Exactly what I was thinking. A great interviewer knows when you shut up and stay quiet and let their guest speak.
Letting the guest talk is what it's all about. I wish more interviewers were like this .
He's like the somber Graham Norton.
That's why I struggle to watch Joe Rogan, dude needs to shut up and let his guests talk
This almost feels like something we shouldn’t be allowed to watch - it’s so personal. But it’s a privilege to get to see it and I’m so grateful for his openness, especially about how all the money in the world doesn’t actually mean shit.
Edit: I started listening to his podcast "Armchair Expert" cause of this, I really recommend it!
Yeah, I genuinely thought, "Wow, if I was over at Kristen and Dax's house and he and I got caught in a side conversation, this would remind me that they're not just personas but real people and everyone has hidden secret sewer stuff." Some of my best friends have friends in church groups and when I don't go to church as often as them I feel inferior sometimes even though I share most of their belief system. Then I'll talk to some of them and they have darker stories and thoughts than I have sometimes and it takes them down from that pedestal and humanizes them and I feel less inclined to be self-critical because we're all just making it up as we go along.
I agree but on one point. Because they have more money it takes longer to drain the bank accounts and they have more protection from their agents and who ever is in proximity.
Yeah these kind of conversations are usually only in A.A. meetings. It’s really cool of Dax to open up.👍
Evan Abbott I’ve heard this story or something similar throughout my recovery. Addiction takes you to the brink of insanity.
Thank you for the podcast tip!! Haven't heard much of it yet, but they have so many interesting guests and topics!
To the interviewer: thanks for not talking when he was telling his story. Some inverter’s just need to let the subject talk when the story is flowing.
Blue Skys so true. I do this with my husband, I am silent longer so he can complete his thoughts . It’s hard but on the end it’s worth it
Inverters should be waterboarded!
Most interviewers are given a script on what to ask. It's really not their fault.
Yes yes and yes
He did not talk because it was beyond this poor little girl's scope of reality. Sad...
2 years clean of everything Coke, Pills, Weed, Alcohol and Tobacco. Saw this video last year and had to come back.
Hope ur doing well
Coca Cola and menthol don’t mix man.
So excited for you Wade and so proud.. Just keep on keeping on.
@@ferise1 coke is bad for your body
You still going strong, bud?
This series is nothing short of profound. Thank you Dax for being so incredibly open and honest about your struggles. I know it will help people.
You nailed it.
felt this. it helped me so much
Listen to Dax's podcast "Armchair Expert" too it's the same amount of openness with the numerous guests he has on and with himself. It's incredibly moving, and makes you really evaluate life and all its faults, but also learning from the many mistakes you make in life and growing from them.
HDfromAbove I’m glad Gordan brought it up for them to talk about. Usually these two guys are all about being witty and funny. It was touching to hear both of them be so vulnerable.
To all
If you who are clean and sober!!! Your are freaking awesome!!! You will conquer this!!! To all who want too same to you!!! You can do it! I’ve been there myself and I did it. So can you
"To truly be powerless over something is demoralizing."
After addiction, holding true to my word is of utmost importance.
What do you mean? You mean you struggle to be honest or follow through what you say you will do?
@@colorfullyme I think he means holding true to his word to stay abstinent. If you say you will be abstinent, hold true to that self statement. Do not lie to yourself. You doing ok?
Demoralizing - causing someone to lose confidence or hope; disheartening
@@colorfullyme
“Staying true to my word” to me, is showing up when I say I’m going to show up, at the time I’m supposed to show up.
Simply just doing the things you have told people you would do.
In addiction you break those promises time and time again.
that has been an important rule for me as well.
@@lindauerlauren8041 I hear you. I think an important thing is to learn to set realistic expectations for yourself. I know I have been on both sides of this, and on the receiving end it is confusing because it feels like the other person creates unnecessary expectations, only to let us both down. So something important for me was to learn not to set any expectations I wasnt 100% sure i could meet, and thus avoid guilt and disappointment. I learned for example to say "I really enjoy your company" instead of "Let's hang out soon." Disclosure I never struggled with alcohol addiction, but other forms... Nothing but love to you.
“something much more profound is broken”. hard hitting words.
My heart goes out to anyone struggling with these things right now, stay strong friends
Thank you
Thanks. I have an eating disorder and I'm in Overeaters Anonymous. I got fantastic news about my health this week. Sadly, I'm obsessing over one thing I expected to be better. I need prayers recovery brothers and sisters.🙏
Thanks for this message
Thank you
thank you so much
This made me realize that people who are dysfunctional can still be socially or financially successful and still be unhappy.
More people than people realize
Its usually dysfunctional people, creatives and success driven individuals that dont fully work in general society but attract what they feel will solve their problems, Andre 3000 from outcast speaks about his issues with creativity on a podcast here on RUclips go look it up!
And those of us who are functional yet very poor could also do well with money.
The happiest people I know are those without financial success. Their joy is original from the base of their humanity.
15 years ago I made the decision to stop chasing professional success so I could work on myself, my relationships and deal with my mental illness. It's all still a work in progress, of course. But the pay cut I took was the best money I ever spent.
Jim Carrey says, "I wish everyone could be rich and famous so they can see that's not the answer."
The answer is being rich and not famous
He can speak for himself. If everyone always wanted my attention,
That’d solve a lot of my problems.
There's likely a lot of truth to that, but why don't rich people who say stuff like that ever give most of their money away to prove it?
@@ChristieLynnnn Well they have families to look out for and other financial responsibilities they don't want to shirk just to make a point.
If everyone was rich and famous, nobody would be rich and famous
The part where he was talking about how a lot of people go through life saying “I will be happy if...” resonated with me. It’s hard to tell sometimes if it’s your life or it’s you that’s making you unhappy. I think a lot of times it’s easier to blame the situation around you then to admit that it’s you, that you’d be miserable no matter what you do or where you go because there’s something broken in you. But that should be empowering. If it’s you then it’s in your control. Idk, that part just got to me. This was an awesome interview
It makes it easier when he is good looking and Kristin bell loves him lol. She would never stick by a shirt junky
I loved this. Wish more people could be this honest about it all. It's very helpful to those of us who know and love addicts.
I literally read your comment as that part came on
Dax, relapsed recently a few months ago. I respect his honesty. Get well Dax, life and time waits for no one. Addiction is hell's fury don't get burn brother!
Indeed!
Dax is still the man and his vibration has helped a lot of people including myself. 10 nights sober as of now and huge thanks to him and his stories
I had no idea his addiction hit such a severe point. I'm grateful he's still alive.
Love his theory of "rock bottom" not always the catapult to recovery. I appreciate when celebrities share their stories. Because many of us who are in recovery don't have fame or money like they do. It took me 4 years after my precious daughter was born to surrender...and she was and is the treasure, dream come true for me. June 14th, 1981.
Sweet hard to imagine these famous people in meetings like we "normies"do in the program
Nice God is good
What made you surrender?
❤
He's right on the money when he says rock bottom is really many rock bottoms. Being absolutely powerless to a substance that's literally hurting you, your relationships, and you self esteem is absolutely the worst feeling I can imagine. And I really wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, ever. I'm just sad that I am in this spot, but happy it's not too late. Because I definitely know how EASILY it can take you out. And how easily you can watch your friends walk away. #regrets
No matter what happens, "I called my mom" always happens
EDIT: my mother left me as a baby but when I was 5 my mom came into my life. She isn't of my blood, but she's my mom. Anyone with enough compassion can become your mother figure...just try not to judge yourself or them for not being of your blood.....the pain isn't your fault. The death of a mother and the pain it inflicts I cannot imagine...but I do know they don't want you to carry that pain too long and to be happy with your life and be grateful for all you have/ have had, not focus on what you don't.
exactly
Bruh, not everyone has a mom.
I would never call my mum after a traumatic incident, she's not a mentally stable person and couldn't help me
I hope that's true. My son is 19 and doesn't call me much anymore 😟
Imagine how hard it is for Mom to surrender
I love the way this man walks in his truth and uses his story to help others.
think he's back on the pipe now, ya know. Even so...
My dad warned us to never open his blue book because he was ashamed of the things he had written in there. This truly is rare. Thanks for sharing this.
Addiction is hard. For anyone that would laugh at addiction and think somehow you're stronger, that's because you've never been there.
I think people who've fought addiction and won are far stronger than those who laugh at addicts. People who don't understand addicts don't understand what real struggle is. While I don't wish addiction on anyone per se, some of us are wired in such a way there's an appeal, like Dax says, something is broken, either from our past, or something we feel, and we're trying to avoid that pain. Not knowing pain doesn't make someone better than another person, pain makes you more human. That's why recovering or struggling addicts, at least to me, seem more real, more honest, more human, they have more humanity because they've felt life, they've had struggles, they're the human condition hence are more interesting than those who've smugly gone through life assuming they're better because they don't see the allure.
@@colin-nekritz I agree and that's because if you wanna get better you gotta check that pesky ego at the door. Alcohol and what it did/almost did to me was very humbling.
As somone in recovery, I've watched this clip many times. My love for Dax Shepard is inexplicable. I'm an avid fan of his podcast, Armchair Expert. I've grown as a human being because of this man. I feel like he's a brother yet I don't personally know him. The world's better because this guy's here.....
Wishing you well on your road to recovery! Absolutely love the Armchair Expert podcast, love Dax Shepard!
Holy shit....I never knew Dax was that bad....I can relate to him and his struggle so much.
About 10 days clean of meth/addirol
I hope that you are doing okay V. I believe that you can stay clean. I will say a prayer for you! 😘 Nancy
That's awesome! You can do it!
One day at a time.
How are you doing? Hope it's going well. You can do this.
Valkyrie27 U ok?
95 days sober, And it’s been rough , but When I was at my lowest point I almost embraced it and found comfort in it because The guilt from Doing the drugs was gone, I got sober outta nowhere I just woke up one day, Said enough Is enough and 95 days later I’m still pushing. And I hope We can all find recovery...I post videos trying to Bring awareness to The monster we call addiction if anyone wants to recover and has no one to help, I’d be glad to do my best to provide a little hope...I don’t have all the answers But I’d like to help anyone just get through life 1 day at a time.
Spencer Ford hope the 97th was a bit easier for you bro keep ya head up
I love this comment.
Thats gangsta. How u doing now?
Joe Budden Solid brother , I appreciate you asking Still taking it one day at time
@@spencerford9116 thats all we can do!
This exact scenario has happened to me a few times. Minus the celebrity. Today I'm 3 months sober
Yes! I had the job I’d always wanted, a home where I could walk to the beach, and lots of friends... but keeping up the lie that I wasn’t an alcoholic was becoming impossible. I had an “emotional bottom” when I realized that there was no amount of alcohol that could give me relief. I wanted to die and I had no reason why. I knew I couldn’t go on... that’s when I went to a meeting. Today I have 13 months sober and an inner peace I never thought possible. Thanks Dax for your honesty.
Your comment had such an impact on me.... How are you doing now, 2 years later?
Thank you so much for this.. I am 8 days sober. Last week I woke up, so tired on a Tuesday morning, and something deep within me just told me, Its enough and I am done...For the first time in my life, I feel so strong and peace within me... Our minds are capable to taking us anywhere...8 days and counting and loving it...
@@MAYWAHITO amazing!!! Congrats! You got this!!!
@@Katiekay. alcoholism isn't easy didn't take up drinking till 51years old I don't know what happened
I love Dax's honesty about his addiction and the hurdles. The fact that he was able to get clean and live a good life is really inspirational. Even if he relapsed he has the support system and the tools to get back from it. He's so interesting and smart. Love his podcast
what podcast is that? how do you find it?
This is really powerful and one of the reasons I really appreciate Dax. He is honest and try to always ask himself the right questions. I love this interview and Dax’s podcast. It’s a hard exercice to always do introspection like he does and I find the outcome really interesting.
I was 8 day’s shy from 6 months sober and relapsed... I will never quit
Continuing to try is meaningful.
"I will never quit"
^Challenge those thoughts.
Never say never ;))
Touché to you...Godspeed 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Your perspective will change. Do you mind if I ask your age?
I am an addict too and also thaught I would never quit. But here I am. For a 100th time sober 15days now. Just never give up and one day it will work.
I feel this so hard "something more profound is broken" ugh. Addiction sucks
You have some of the most amazing conversations on here. Thank you
This guy is an AMAZING interviewer
I read your book on anxiety a few months ago, it was the start of a very interesting and healthy journey for me. Just spotted your name and wanted to say thanks!
@@sophieturner463 Aw that's super cool of you to pop in and let me know.
Dax and his wife, Kristen, are among my favorite "Hollywood" couples of all time. Funny and philosophical Michiganders.
~3 months today off alcohol~Not waiting for rock bottom & losing everything makes being off the addiction much more enjoyable~
Addiction is just an expression of your inner anxiety, depression, or different kinds of struggles...money can buy you drugs but not the cure..
Well said. Drugs, booze, whatever you use in excess is a bandaid covering a bigger issue honestly most people don't want to face.
@@Jaypes1 it's both. It's physiological, psychological, and mental. It's not a simple thing.
@@Jaypes1 it can be a symptom of mental health issues.
@@Jaypes1 I think ur just fixated on the use of a word. Its like if someone goes to start smacking a tree with a stick. Id say that's an expression of rage or inner struggle.
@@Jaypes1 you seem like you're just downplaying the issues people have that use drugs. But w.e
What a profound thing to say...his happiness was in nothing he had wished for. I go through life doing the what if thing, too. Time to reprogram.
Yes.
Pray
He hit the nail on the head about how being powerless to something is completely demoralizing. Being clean for years is the greatest feeling of true freedom.
I went to counseling after going through some really dark times in my life and I can relate to what Dax was talking about. To me the $1M question was “how did this happen to me? I can tell you that the answer is really embarrassing, humbling and liberating; I DID IT TO MYSELF.
Great job Dax. Own your shit...it makes it way easier to accept it and live.
way to take accountability! You are brave and strong... I admire you
i love Dax. hes an awesome dude
cocaine and Jack Daniels LOL he went at it hard. OMG percs, vicodin, xanax, diet pills too? jesus
He's such a well-disguised smart, deep guy...on the surface, there doesn't seem to be much going on, but he talks for two minutes and you're, like, whoa.
Love Dax ... I would like to see him in more movies.
Yup. Love the dude, wish he got more work. Love his smokin’ hot wife, too, but she’s . . . kind of flakey. You don’t do drugs of any sort, even weed, in front of your recovering addict spouse, or in front of your kids. Not cool.
just listen to the podcast "Conan O'Brien needs a friend" where Dax is guest, it's episode 04 I think. SO. FUCKING. DEEP.
I’m on day 6 of detoxing from percocets & suboxone, I really REALLY needed to hear this today! I am feeling sweaty, super uncomfortable, and feel like I have the worst flu in the world. This helped.
Thank you Dax ❤️
Chelesays How are you doing? Makes me sad I’m the first person that asked you. I hope you’re doing well and have passed the detox sickness. If you’ve stumbled, it’s not too late to try again. I have a daughter on the streets right now and it’s killing our family. I wish you nothing but the best and hope you’re ok.
I hate all those pills they killed or messed up so many of my friends usually cuz they either drank too or just graduated to H when pills werent available. It's a better life sober for sure, but addictions are hard to break even tho whatever we are addicted to will just make us sick in the end
Look into the Vivitrol shot. I hope you are doing well. Lots of love.❤
Good for you!
Are you still off suboxone?
Been on it for 6 years and I wonder if I’ll ever be able to get off of it. It’s messing with my head now.
Anyway God bless you
hope you are able to stay off those devils.. took my last oxy in 2/2010. Cannabis the most addicting thing in my life now.
I always find myself coming back to this clip. What a powerful story. Much respect to Dax.
Wow! I do too. In fact I just posted the same thing.
Something I once heard an alcoholic that essentially had it all but eventually ruined his life because of the alcohol abuse stuck with me. He said “I had everything going for me, except me.”
'We be happy if' was genuinely profound. I like how he acknowledges that a lot of people don't get to that point' at least not as clearly. The vast majority of people spend their life in a wheel, working, paying bills, taking care of whatever it is that needs taken care of. Presenting yourself as a decent, self sufficient, happy, adult, always striving to towards something better, even if you get there, there's another step to reach. Every life has its ups and downs, but to get beyond the need to work and provide for yourself and your family because you are so financially secure must present its own problems like he said. There is something to be said for having needs, for having routine, for having a cold hard reason to get up and work on things and keep yourself busy. If that wasn't there it doesn't surprise me that a lot of rich and famous people implode and go off the rails. A lot if people struggle finding purpose in life. Many of us have our basic human needs met nowadays and take it for granted. Clothing, shelter, food, running water, electricity. We all live like kings in comparison to how hard life used to be. The main struggle for most now is one of purpose and self worth, finding a reason for being. A meaning to life. If you were blessed to be rich and comfortable and have achieved what you wanted only to discover that it solved none of those deep rooted questions, it must send you into a tailspin.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination. It's undefined. It's elusive. Chasing it and trying to force it are more likely to scare it off. It's a state of mind that can be brought forward from the most surprising places. What I've noticed in my life is that happiness and contentment are often something I look back on after the fact. It's hard to recognise it in the moment, maybe because in reality it's often mixed with other emotions. You never feel 100% bliss. Only in rose tinted glasses do you filter out or forget the other thoughts and emotions and remember the happy part. Maybe happiness is having as many of those happy tinged memories to look back on as you can manage. One day we'll all be older and less able and they will be what we have in our last years. The memories of what we did.
Kevtb87 I cannot tell you how much your words spoke to me. Thank you x
Wise words Kevtb87. Thank you 😘
What an amazing post, 'Happiness is a journey, not a destination'. Need to go away and think about that for a while, thank you.
It's nice to see someone like him talking about the fallacy of "I would be happy, if..." Money, success, love -- none of it guarantees happiness, yet people constantly strive for more money, more stuff, more success at every waking moment. Then all of the sudden, life has passed them by and they're old without ever really being happy.
I relapsed his week, but I only had 3 sober weeks going. And I'm actively going to AA. Going to own up but I watch this interview all the time. When I'm clean, when I'm drunk. I am still standing and tomorrow I can be better. Our rock bottom is never the true bottom. Thank you Dax for being so honest and thank you Sam for letting him speak and asking the right questions. This interview changes my life and eventually I hope to live a sober life.
1:16 when Dax says how demoralizing it is, he pauses and I feel years of difficult times are playing behind his eyes. Thank you, thank you, thank you Dax for your honesty in this video.
I’m finally 6 months almost 7 months sober and my life started to change in 3 months that felt like eternity and now feels like a lifetime ago
I love how you let him talk. Good direction but you let him go.
Mr Shepard is a good apple. Great interviewing/listening also, letting the guest free to speak.
Rock bottom humbles you. Humble yourself before life does. Prayers up for all of you, for myself, and for anyone who reads this. Much love.
💯💯♥️♥️
In 2 days I will have 16 years sober. So grateful. Thank you for your courage to carry the message.
I've never had any opinion on Dax, but these clips have really given me an appreciation for him. Thanks!
Never would've imagined that guy from Punk'd would've become this person.
I remember when I was deep in Percocet addiction. I lost my job so I was selling perk 30mg to support my habit. I had a lot of sales one day and ended up doing 15 throughout the day. That’s 450mg of Percocet I snorted in less than 12hrs time and I still don’t know how the hell I woke up. Even realizing how lucky I was didn’t stop me. It’s a brutal addiction and I’m so happy to be past that shit.
...dude....dont snort percocet.....its mostly acetaminophen...ie tylenol
Ryan Stoyles not the 15s and 30s bro, that’s why they are so small, it’s all oxycodone. I’ve been there too man, when your an addict and have a tolerance that’s not a lot, I’ve done 8 30s and that was to not get sick, not even get high.
Percocet is when they have Tylenol or ibuprofen in them. They are just called oxycodone in what your describing. I have destroyed my whole life with them. I took around 400-500MG EVERY DAY for like 2 years. Didn't feel high at all, just not sick.....
Raymond Newbill I feel ya man. Nothing like blowing hundreds of $$ just to not feel sick.
This is one of the most powerful videos I've ever watched. I HAVE NEVER USED AN ILLEGAL DRUG EVEN ONCE. Even so, Shepherd's observation about not quitting has great value for every person who struggles to overcome ANYTHING. Great interview.
I was thinking the same thing. I'm not an addict but I've been trying to get back into work by going self employed for years and I keep failing at it or falling down before I can even try it again due to various life events such as bereavement, depression resurfacing, physical health problems etc. I've felt so embarrassed by the fact that I've still not managed it yet and hearing someone say that it's OK to keep failing as long as you keep trying really helps. I know I can do it I just haven't managed to do it yet, but I'm going to keep trying.
"Something more profound is broken."
What an incredibly insightful interview.
It's a profound realization, discovering that everything you thought that would make you happy has nothing to do with happiness.
Human beings are generally terrible at predicting what will make us happy. Our hypercapitalistic society does not help matters at all. And with what Big Tech has wrought over the last couple of decades? Oh boy.
I'm crying as I listen because I am going thru the same thing today. I keep praying I can change myself, but no avail yet.
Please find your way to an AA meeting and any other help you can find (I never went to Rehab but if you have the opportunity and think it'll help maybe you can do that). As a person in recovery, Dax Shepard has become a VERY important person in my life and we've never even met. His podcasts can be so profound. Also, keep praying, meditating, whatever it is that will give you hope - keep doing it. I'm not a "religious" person but consider myself a very spiritual person. There's no question in my life that a miracle happened for me (probably more than one). Please reach out to someone.
kristin Kemp you got this!!!
Keep on trying. Some day you will do it for good.
The "I'd be happy IF" got me 😢 im constantly thinking if i just had this i will then be happy and thats not true.
The interviewer’s facial expressions were so genuine, you can tell he was all ears; that’s a tell-tale sign of a great interviewer.
I'm so grateful to Dax for sharing so deeply, and so grateful to Sam for giving him a platform to do it. This video will help people that need to hear this.
I love this. He’s speaking the truth and debunking common addiction myths. He’s right there are many bottoms and many attempts. You just have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired. No one can make you stop but you
My son and buddies are going to visitation in rehab today-to see there friend, who's in his 2nd stint in rehab at 23. Nearly killing himself with alcohol. Less than 7 yrs ago they were all playing lil league baseball together.....Praying he makes it,he's a great kid. 🙏
This gives me hope. Not because I suffer from an addiction, but learning you don’t need to hit rock bottom to make a change, to get rid of that weight you carry, but you just need to become aware. And that is what I am working towards. Thanks Dax
I really could not love and respect Dax more. What an ambassador for hope and forgiveness, curiosity and humanity. Arm Chairy FOREVER!!! 🍒🍒🍒
Not a fan of AA but I can relate to everything he went through and said. I've been sober for 2 years and 4 months with help from my VA psychiatrist and a lot of what he's talking about is what I went through mentally and physically. I'm glad he's sober now and didn't end up like so many other beautiful people. If someone reading this comment is addicted to substances please get help. The world needs you.
My uncle passed away from alcoholism this past may....he was an amazing uncle and got lost in the world of alcohol I wish he could have heard this❤️
It is physically hard to come down.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It’s interesting that he had this final moment of self-awareness right before working on Zathura, if you’ve seen the movie. In the movie he plays someone who is at first uncouth and gross, but then steadily shows himself to be self-aware, emotionally experienced, and genuinely compassionate to the younger protagonists even while they are at each other’s throats. It has every mark of a simple genre kids movie, but between the writing of the two brothers, and the performances of them and Dax, there’s a real heart that’s present there. I can’t help but speculate into how it must have felt for Dax to go into that job after his own personal battles.
Gonna be 1 year sober this June. This helps me put things into perspective once again. I guess I needed that, I've been on that whole "I can do this now phase."
I've been clean off heroin and opiates for almost 5 years and hearing stories like this still make me cry. The torment you experience in addiction simply cannot be properly explained or understood. If you are new, please don't stop, it will get better if you put the same effort into not getting high that you did getting fucked up.
Damn, this hits home and is real as it gets. I'm currently in my 6th rehab in 5 years, and it gets harder every time to realize what a failure you are. But like Dax's friend said, I won't quit quitting. I think and hope I got it this time, but it's really one day at a time, and today I know I will stay sober.
Keep quiting bro.and i will try to do it too.
Dax's interviews in all these are so cathartic and inspirational. So glad he's talking about it and being open. Very helpful.
Rock Bottom isn't when you experience the lowest moment in your life. Rock bottom is when you decide to change
Dax is an amazing human being and I love Sam Jones and his interviewing techniques. Listens more than speaks, allowing his guest to be who they are!
Much gratitude and love to Dax for sharing his journey and highlighting the “if only” thought pattern blocker.
With the exception of my recent wedding anniversary, been sober almost five months now. I decided to cut down-and eventually stop-alcohol for health reasons. My doctors tell me than I can reverse the health problems I currently have if I make the appropriate changes in my lifestyle. This video did shed some light for me. I’m 45, and I’m actually ENJOYING sobriety. It’s an eye-opener for me. Sadly, I also come from an alcoholic family, and the damages I’ve seen and experienced were not fun, to say the very least!
Imagine being named Dax, like you're a hero from a Rated E10+ video game from the 00s.
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I come back to see this every so often. To remind myself of the hard times I went through and to know that nothing else besides myself can help with the feeling inside. Help yourself, go to talk therapy.
I have been on this roller coaster with alcohol for 17 years. Quiting. Rehab. I got sober this year and then my sister died from an overdose and off I go again. It’s such a shameful horrible experience. The shit we put our family through and how embarrassing it is to not be able to get your shit together is a hell that I have been through so many times. I’m just coming off a bender. I lost my job. Fucked my car up. Scared the shit out of my family. It’s good to watch this and remind myself I’m not the only person who has gone through this and continues to go through this. I just want to get better. I can’t afford rehab but my god I want to go so badly.
I don't have any addiction problem but what recovered addicts have to offer / share from such depths of despair teaches us all something about moving forward in life. I really appreciate his honesty!
"Those are illusions that most ppl don't get to find out are illusions."
Wow. I've never heard anyone put that so well before. I was always like "yeah, easy for you to say buster, you're rich. You can afford re-hab. You have friends and a support system." But the way he said it made me realize it's really so much deeper than the "if I could just..." way of thinking.
I was thinking if I could just not be so socially awkward... if I could just have the respect of my mother... if I could just hold down a good job... if I could just get into a good relationship... if I could just pay off a mortgage then I'd be stable. Then I'd be free. Then I'd be happy. Then I'd be healthy. Then I'd be whole.
I'm not sure what to think now. I mean, I do know it's all an illusion. But how do I make health & stability happen for myself? Is that an illusion, too?
Wish I could actually have a vocal conversation about this with ya. Another way of putting it is figuring out how to be content. As someone who has recovered I can safely say an extra million would indeed make me happier as it would enhance what I already have. Like if you can gain the respect of your mother then yes it will make you happier, but if you cannot then you must move on from that and ACCEPT it. Easier said than done.
“Oh, it’s none of those things” ❤️
Great host on this program, he REALLY listens to his guests! And kudos to Dax! Ive always loved his acting gigs and just have so much more respect for him now, and how honest he's being! To quote Dax, it is totally amazing that he is still alive today!
As if I couldn't love Dax Sheppard even more...I love what he says about the illusion of "If I had (this) THEN I'd be happy..." glad to know it's an illusion, I fall into this trap so often
I love Dax so much. So, so, so thankful he made it through that. I hope one day he realizes how many people he has helped.
That was amazing. Very glad you stayed on this podcast for a few more minutes. The theory of "rock bottom" discourages so many addicts into thinking they're so messed up, they don't stop at what is perceived to be "rock bottom." But like Sax just said, addicts have many bottoms.
"We perceive through life thinking, We would be happy if, we would have self-esteem if, we would know contentment if. And those are illusions that most people don’t get to find out are illusions." That is such a powerful statement.
Just a little over 5 years sober and it has been the most taxing yet most rewarding experience of my life. Nothing worthwhile comes easy
Coolman very inspiring hope you are still doing well🙏
2:40 "I get two fifths of Jack and a case of beer. That's Friday night."
Damn, this is the first time I've ever heard anyone talk about drinking harder than I used to. I was born with a wicked tolerance. I'm sober now but I can't help but think it would have been easier for me to stop back then if I knew there were people doing it harder than I was. That probably doesn't make much sense but it struck me so true I've paused the vid just to write this.
You’d think that but it in my case it worked against me. Seeing others who couldn’t handle their liquor or who were hardcore alcoholics needing to drink all day just gave me an excuse not to stop since there were others in way worse shape.
@@plaidchuck Mate I completely understand. There were times when I'd use that excuse too now that you mention it.
When you change the way you look at things,...the things you look at change. Wayne Dyer
One saw a quitter, The other saw someone who would not quit.
Perspective is everything!
This is one of the best, most honest interviews I've ever seen. Self reflective without being naval gazing
So true. My so called rock bottoms didn't stop my addiction whatsoever. The only thing that was happening was the bottoms were just getting much deeper.
We would be happy if...absolutely. Love this interview.
Mm....I don't know. If you yourself have a kind heart, are trustworthy, intelligent, considerate, faithful....I would be happy if we created a life together. :)
I still have trouble being honest with people in my life about the fact I’m an addict, I find it inspirational that he shared about this.
I have never had an addiction problem, and do not smoke, drink, drugs etc. NOT to say that I have not had parties or drank socially 25 years ago..etc. However, I can understand how it can be difficult for someone who grew up in a dysfunctional home and was exposed to intergenerational illicit drug use. Any one who wants to become clean, has to want to do it for themselves ! It is nice to see how honest Dax Shepard is about this ! He is lucky to have Kristen Bell and family ! It can be difficult to deal with when a family member has a severe drug problem and says and does hurtful things ! I understand that ! I believe that in order to become clean, they have to be "reprogrammed" ...that is, get to the core of why they do the drugs, and remove their triggers etc. Then replace with pro social activities and new healthy connections. Good luck to anyone out there who struggles ! My rock bottom was "devised" by others and not of my doing ! If I had a $1,000,000.00 , I would pay off my debt and purchase a home, and retain an attorney to assist me with the rest of the crimes +victimization that has occurred ! You go Dax ! Keeping it honest and real !
Wow. This is achingly raw, articulate, and profound.
Kudos to Dax Shepard for sharing his experiences. I can tell its really hard for him to talk about them.
Probably the first time an actor has actually had something to say that I've found interesting ..... Wow.
My daughter has never had a drug addiction, but she has struggled with self-worth, depression and anxiety her entire life. This interview produced a watershed moment in her life--not only because she has interacted with a number of folks with addiction struggles, but because she identified with the fact that she had to identify what the "thing" was that didn't make her happy. She has largely been homeless her entire life, and again while miraculously drugs/alcohol have never been in the picture, she battled herself. Dax's comment about finding out what the missing piece was (hint: it's NOT money, fame, fortune, houses, cars, etc.) really drove her into some helpful self-reflection.
I realized a long time ago that all we really need to be content are the necessity’s in life, food, shelter and clothes. If we can’t be happy with those few thing, we will never be content. Circumstances aren’t what brings us happiness, we are what makes us happy. Just ourselves. Nobody can make us happy, we are responsible for our own happiness. Choose who you want in your life and choose how you will live your life. How much money we have can make things easier, but it doesn’t change how we feel.
Mind blowing. Something about Dax and this interview has struck a big chord w me. You make your own happiness regardless of the situation. You need YOU. be you , do epic shit whenever possible!