UPDATE Parents Got Married In Hawaii & I'm The Only Child Who Was Excluded, Then Lied About Why AITA
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Story 1:
UPDATE: AITAH for exposing my parents when they forgot about me on their wedding?
Story 2:
AITA for refusing to pay for my sisters wedding after i found out she lied about her finances?
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Story 1: UPDATE 9:00
Story 2: 14:49
Op can say, "show the receipts for my dress, my plane tickets, and my accomodations to prove you didn't forget me." They obviously just don't care about her and they're bad people.
Story 1: I found the next update:
OP is out of there, grandma is pulling her support from the family and told the parents to shut up when they kept trying to spout BS that they had surprises planned to make up for the wedding. Turns out there is no good reason for their behavior expect that OP just happened to be a "crybaby" compared to the older children. They weren't happy to find out that OP though she was an affair baby, but grandma once again clapped back that they had done everything to make her feel she didn't belong in the family, so why shouldn't she think she was an unwanted pregnancy with a different father?
When Grandma saw the friend's studio, she said "absolutely not" because the apartment was water damaged and in a bad part of town, so she got them *both* out of there (apparently there were bullet holes in the apartment too). They're now safely back at the friend's parents' home and are working out with grandma a way to pay for a safer (and bigger) apartment. OP is starting therapy in the meantime.
Grandma Bear to the rescue!
Thank you for sharing this.
there's a video of that update out on this channel came out right now...
Glad to see the Grandma didn’t look the other way and called them out. Grandma is the GOAT!
@@pickle_pup8187 and can't forget uncle he was behind grandma and op like a bodyguard. And i love how she had laid the groundwork even before speaking to op about her plans.
I'm so sorry you're going through this Your pain and sadness are deeply felt Stay strong and know that you're not alone in this You deserve better and brighter days are ahead
Ah, the Coof! The old reliable omni-excuse for _EVERYTHING_ (from box office failures to ludicrous inflation) that was meant to have a way longer shelf-life as a viable omni-excuse than it ended up having.
Story 1 this story makes me so angry for OP. This is one of the worst cases of emotional neglect I seen. The parents blaming OP for their behavior is the icing on the cake. Her family is horrible. Imagine getting friends 1st class plane tickets but not your own daughter. Excluding her from everything. Those parents are not worth the air they breath. I hope she finds a way out of there.
Leaving the OP out of the planning and wedding was deliberate. These parents / family are the worst.
They didn't *FORGET* about OP.
OP parents will end up in nursing care facility. From my past experience as caregiver, golden child always abandoned their parents after the parent becomes a burden to them.
I had a friend like the first OP. She wondered for years if she was secretly adopted or an affair baby. Turns out she was just an accident and her parents resented her because they didn't want an extra kid, were too religious to abort, and didn't want to look bad by placing her up for adoption. I've also seen a disturbing rising trend as children out of wedlock become more common people consider having a baby a signifier of a relationship. Some of these are baby traps but a lot more are idiots just choosing to have a kid way too soon together. Well when that relationship ends the parents see the kid as a burden and tether they don't want. Some parents are just awful to their own children.
I laugh at all of this myself. I think you are right that women think having a baby will make their relationship work out. My niece has 3 kids by three different fiancés. I laugh at how dumb she is. Now she is raising 3 kids with the help of her mother (another idiot in my opinion). Well, this is one uncle that won't give one penny of my Social Security to help out.
So..... Op is a minor, was left home alone, and was nearly completely forgotten about where have I seen this movie before?
Once bad parents, always bad parents.
They totally glossed over that they ignored and left out OP who is a minor! While I get she is 17 and many that age stay by themselves, it just makes me wish the parents could have gotten into legal trouble.
Story 1: NTA, and OP, I would not worry about calling your grandma for support, cause this is the kind of situation where you need backup for. I have a hunch that OP may be the result of an unwanted pregnancy, cause the way the parents and older siblings behaved is coherent with a scapegoated child whose only "sin" was to choose to be born in that family. The fact the immediate family all chose to brigade on OP for messing up their "perfect wedding" rather than make amends, that already tells you OP's standing in that particular family. While I am not expecting an old woman in her late 70s (who had a stroke, no less) to physically tear that awful family a new one, I certainly hope she can do it verbally. As for OP, you are smart to make preparations to leave, and you know what, may as well make the NC permanent once you turn 18. If they want that "perfect family" image without you in it, I say give them a dose of malicious compliance, cause while they act this way, I am very sure that without a scapegoat to pin all the blame on, the seams will unravel very quickly.
Everything they did was intentional against the first op. I wish they had sent a final update on that one, cause if her grandma is coming to town, I'm betting she's gonna disinherit someone. Probably all the somebody's who went to the wedding. The parents don't deserve the title of parent. I was kinda hoping that she would go be with Grandma and watch her uncle knock her dad out, but I'm on a cliff hanger here, and hoping for a second update soon.
another comment found a second update
@@A-Microwave what channel or video? I'm curious to see what Grandma said and did
Story 1 nta serves the right for excluding you, abandoning you, and finally lying about it.
Story Two. OP, your lying sister owes you $5000.00, and do not ever dip into your savings for someone else's luxury. An6one who says you should just go along with this should pay the 10,000 themselves. She has violated your trust, and she needs to pay you back every dime she stole from you, at the very least she needs to pay you back the 5,000. Do not pay for anything else for this leech ever again, even if she pays back what she stole. She has shown a lack of character and the reward for that is the loss of the trust of her family and friends.
I find so absurd that a couple who are (supposedly) struggling for money decided to go with a very expensive wedding, and people are thinking that’s OK. Like, if they are not in a financially good position, how can they think in paying a huge amount for a wedding?
And on top of that, basically scam their sibling and parents 🤦🏻♀️.
Neglect is child abuse, in fact it's only lose to damage and pain inflicted on the child to sexual abuse. For a child a parent that beat and berates and scream them with insult is better, because physically and emotionally abusive parents at least are noticing the existence of the child and are invested in the survival of the child even if it's to maintain it as a physical or emotional punch bang for themselves to alleviate stress. Evolutionary children like OP that are invisible to their parents simply died to the forces of nature. So neglect caused much more emotional pain and cognitive trauma that physical and verbal abuse.
It's not the job of the child to make a effort to connect with their parents by investing on their lives and interests, it's the job of the parents to connect with the child, by investing time on them on their interest (or trying to share your interest on the child). But those narcissistic AH already had their respective mascots, so they did bother to connect with the odd one out.
My mom has been married 3 times and I wasn’t invited to any of them tho she already know how much I dislike weddings I only go for the food and drinks so she just always got me some food and drinks from them so I’m good
She’s now married to my stepdad and he’s an amazing person ^^
I hope there’s a second update
There is! It's pretty long but the gist is OP is living with her friend and her parents, Grandma and uncle ripped OPs parents a new one, turns out OP was just a "cry baby" as a kid and that's why they don't like her, and grandma is fully supporting OP financially. If you wanna read the whole thing just type the title into Google
#1: "You forgot about me. You didn't buy me a ticket or a dress. Then you uninvited me when I complained. You lied to everyone about the reason I was absent. I spoke the truth."
This story is the embodiment of the african proberb: "The child who is not embraced by the village will b-rn it down to feel its warmth."
NTA
She should sue her parents for emotional abuse and neglect. Get a restraining order against your family. They would be dead to me.
Yeahhhhhh, tell me again how 'blood is thicker than water' cowpie. I feel OP's pain. I had a sheeit family also. In 18 years 'family' finally relented 1 time and 'allowed' me a b-day celebration. The problem........inna word, Jesus. No really. I was born 'too close to the day Jesus was born'. Yep, all my fault being 'born too close' (5 days before) to that date so I had to be punished. And 'family' wonders why I don't like them.
Jeez that stinks. I am so sorry. I have a niece that is close to a big holiday and you know what gets done for her and always has? The whole shenanigans! She is celebrated. Our mom didn’t have a bunch of money but always made a big deal about celebrating us on our birthdays. We would sit at the “special” spot at the dinner table, pick what’s for dinner and of course the cake. She would tell us about the day we were born and how much she loved us. My sister made sure to do this with her kids especially the one born close to the holiday and making sure she felt just as celebrated!
@@pickle_pup8187..........Yeah it kinda did for me, but I survived it. Thanks, but no worries, I've made my peace with it long ago. Alotta kids had it worse than I did, so there is that.
Imma glad you, and so many others, got what I never had. I pretended other kids had better celebrations because I had a crappy one. The silly things kids think......no???
C'est la vie!!!
Oh wow this is the fastest I've ever seen an upload
OP should feel bad.
It's too bad parents can't love & treat All of the children that they create equally!
Op's parents said, If you wanted this to go away, you should have kept your mouth shut & it would have all blown over!
OP should have said, Like all of the rest of my life, where you all pretended that I didn't exist? Just shut up OP, so that We can all pretend that you don't exist and be the happy family of Four that we always wish that we were? Is that what you mean? Don't worry, I'm 17 & going to college next year! Just give me my money & I'll get out & never come back! My final gift to you all is giving you your family of four that you've always wanted! Loose my numbers & emails and don't lose any sleep, I'll be fine, not that you care😊!
Story 2: She would be paying for her own wedding! Why do people waste so much money on a wedding? Just stupid. But after being lied to I wouldn't offer one cent. Assuming I would have helped her pay for it in the first place. NO! You want a wedding, then you pay for it. I will come and enjoy the dinner but not pay one red cent to help out.
Wonder if Op is an affair child
You don't even need to be an affair child. Just the unfavoured one.
1: It’s pretty obvious that OP’s family does not care about them at all. If they gave the slightest damn they would have included her in wedding events in *some* way and made sure that she had a dress and ticket. Hopefully Grandma can help her with money so she can move out and get on her feet.
2: Nope OP should not give her liar sister a dime.
How can parents do stuff like this to thier kids knowing their kids love them n it messes them up.
you should have gotten prepared to go the the airport when she asked, then have them discover that you had no ticket there.
1: Affair Child!? What a doormat!!
What makes it worse is that in the new update, it was discovered they weren't an affair child
12:20 I don’t understand how some people think others play such a “long game” just to ruin someone’s wedding. Sure, there are super vindictive people out there, but that takes SOOOOO much effort, energy, and time to what?
You should reply to EVERY SINGLE PERSON who attacked you…
“Oh, so you haven’t forgotten me too. Thank you!