‘He won’t be here for my 21st, my graduation, my wedding, my kids’. Based on his prior behavior, what reason did OP have to think that he would’ve been at those things if the cancer HADN’T happened?
I kinda understand how he feels though. When you've been that starved for a parent's love like that for so long, it can be hard to throw it away when it's offered to you... Especially when that love has a literal expiration date attached to it.
i half get it, but "dying" doesn't change the past. Dad was neglectful in the past and only is now trying to reconnect literally to avoid judgement in the afterlife. I wish OP luck but i dont see a reason to clear dad's dying conscience when OP will be stuck with whatever aftermath that will occur
My father done this to me. Because I was a girl and he wanted a son. He moved to Savannah and got a woman pregnant and she gave him a son. He never tried to see me
I agree. My mom had 2 husbands, stepdads, after my her divorce from me and my brothers father. Both of them were toxic and verbally and emotionally abusive. We were only with them every other weekend, but not once did our mother ever stand up for us when they got belligerent. It's one of many things I find myself being angry with my mom about.
Agreed. There is nothing in this world more contemptable than a coward. She knew what was happening and did nothing to stop it. Perhaps out of fear of him getting violent with her (but she was OK with that happening to her kids). Maybe because she was afraid of being alone (as if there weren't 4 billion other men on the planet). She might have been afraid of losing some financial stability (they were already poor, and her father paid for the house and supported them). Maybe she was afraid of a social stigma associated with being in a domestic abuse situation (like being someone who turns a blind eye to it is somehow better). Any way you dice it, she did nothing out of fear, and that places her well beyond any hope of redemption. There's no logic to it, just weak rationalizations that don't hold up to even a moment's scrutiny. The only alternative to fear is that she approved of his actions. She just used him as her hatchet-man, but she was sadistic and wanted her children abused. Now she's old, alone and using feigned contrition to play the victim. Never forgive such people.
Knew a guy who had an abusive stepdad who beat him all the time. One night he waited until his stepdad fell asleep and beat him with a baseball bat. Stepdad wound up in the ER with a severe concussion, broken ribs and internal bleeding. His mom tried to defend her husband but his grandparents found out about the abuse and chastised her into submission. The police showed up but his mom and him told them the whole story about the abuse. They had to arrest him but the DA declined to file charges. His mom divorced the stepdad. Last I heard the stepdad mostly recovered but has permanent brain damage to some extent. He "found God" and became super religious. Moral of the story: if you are an abuser, remember that you have to sleep sometimes.
Third story sounds like a chapter of my past. Lied to, manipulated with sweetness, then completely discarded, degraded and alone. I’m glad OP isn’t hateful or angry at that random girl. That man sucks :/
Story 2 - That Mom was horrible for allowing the abuse. The Dad didn't even work or provided money. Mom's grandpa bought the house and gave them money so why did she stay with him?
Guy in story 2 is an absolute mat. Like the guy took mistreatment his whole and did nothing about it, the dad was never even really confronted he just died and his mom is still getting a pass.
Sadly, that's how people who've suffered abuse often are. It's frustrating as fuck, but can often be really difficult for people to cut off their abuser.
1st story hits harder to me as someone who suddenly lost a dad of heart attack. he wasnt the best father, he has some flaws in his parenting skill and also as a Husband as well, but he still tries his best I really appreciate it growing up. But id trade my soul to the devil to have the chance to get a heads up about his departure. Its Honestly a relief to hear OP give him a chance, Id regret it for the rest of my life if i didnt even give him a chance
Story 1 I would have said if you dropped dead today how would that be different from 95 percent of my life. You being there for my graduation or kids being born wasn't something that would happen if you lived to be a 100
it really took the dad dying for him to recognize he was being neglectful.
Story 1 op is a lot nicer than me because I'm very vindictive
But good for him
The phrase ‘too little, too late’ springs to mind.
‘He won’t be here for my 21st, my graduation, my wedding, my kids’.
Based on his prior behavior, what reason did OP have to think that he would’ve been at those things if the cancer HADN’T happened?
@@caffeinedelusions yeah exactly this. Such a cop out
I kinda understand how he feels though. When you've been that starved for a parent's love like that for so long, it can be hard to throw it away when it's offered to you... Especially when that love has a literal expiration date attached to it.
Llaaaaaa a😊zz@@InTheDemonsWake
i half get it, but "dying" doesn't change the past. Dad was neglectful in the past and only is now trying to reconnect literally to avoid judgement in the afterlife. I wish OP luck but i dont see a reason to clear dad's dying conscience when OP will be stuck with whatever aftermath that will occur
My father done this to me. Because I was a girl and he wanted a son. He moved to Savannah and got a woman pregnant and she gave him a son. He never tried to see me
Sorry to see you write this. But bet my last dollar, you will or are doing great and one day he will regret his decision.
My sympathies!
@@deingirl1183 He doesn't care so neither do I. I'm living my best life ❣️
@@princessmarlena1359 It's all good.
that transition from story 1 to story 2 caught me off guard, good god lmao
story 2: dude stop giving your mom such a free ride, she was as complicit in the abuse as your father was when he beat you.
I agree. My mom had 2 husbands, stepdads, after my her divorce from me and my brothers father. Both of them were toxic and verbally and emotionally abusive. We were only with them every other weekend, but not once did our mother ever stand up for us when they got belligerent. It's one of many things I find myself being angry with my mom about.
Agreed. There is nothing in this world more contemptable than a coward. She knew what was happening and did nothing to stop it.
Perhaps out of fear of him getting violent with her (but she was OK with that happening to her kids).
Maybe because she was afraid of being alone (as if there weren't 4 billion other men on the planet).
She might have been afraid of losing some financial stability (they were already poor, and her father paid for the house and supported them).
Maybe she was afraid of a social stigma associated with being in a domestic abuse situation (like being someone who turns a blind eye to it is somehow better).
Any way you dice it, she did nothing out of fear, and that places her well beyond any hope of redemption. There's no logic to it, just weak rationalizations that don't hold up to even a moment's scrutiny.
The only alternative to fear is that she approved of his actions. She just used him as her hatchet-man, but she was sadistic and wanted her children abused. Now she's old, alone and using feigned contrition to play the victim. Never forgive such people.
@@Arkryalexactly
Knew a guy who had an abusive stepdad who beat him all the time. One night he waited until his stepdad fell asleep and beat him with a baseball bat. Stepdad wound up in the ER with a severe concussion, broken ribs and internal bleeding. His mom tried to defend her husband but his grandparents found out about the abuse and chastised her into submission. The police showed up but his mom and him told them the whole story about the abuse. They had to arrest him but the DA declined to file charges. His mom divorced the stepdad. Last I heard the stepdad mostly recovered but has permanent brain damage to some extent. He "found God" and became super religious.
Moral of the story: if you are an abuser, remember that you have to sleep sometimes.
I almost peed myself going from story 1 to story 2 omg
Yeah that was hilarious
Third story sounds like a chapter of my past. Lied to, manipulated with sweetness, then completely discarded, degraded and alone. I’m glad OP isn’t hateful or angry at that random girl. That man sucks :/
Poor kid in the first one. Honestly should have just ignored the dad but I get it was a tough time.
Cancer does not erase neglect. Stay strong and go no contact. Giving that piece of 💩 a chance is crazy. That man is toxic, and he doesnt love you
Story 2 - That Mom was horrible for allowing the abuse. The Dad didn't even work or provided money. Mom's grandpa bought the house and gave them money so why did she stay with him?
Why did she stay.
Because she's no different than Dad.
Right? Weeeeaak!
It should not have taken a cancer diagnosis for him to try to reconcile.
Op swallowed his pride and is a better man than me. If my dad was this bad he wouldn't get this from me.
He didn't swallow his pride. He was hyper pressured by his Mom and some people on Reddit.
Guy in story 2 is an absolute mat. Like the guy took mistreatment his whole and did nothing about it, the dad was never even really confronted he just died and his mom is still getting a pass.
Sadly, that's how people who've suffered abuse often are. It's frustrating as fuck, but can often be really difficult for people to cut off their abuser.
1st story hits harder to me as someone who suddenly lost a dad of heart attack. he wasnt the best father, he has some flaws in his parenting skill and also as a Husband as well, but he still tries his best I really appreciate it growing up.
But id trade my soul to the devil to have the chance to get a heads up about his departure.
Its Honestly a relief to hear OP give him a chance, Id regret it for the rest of my life if i didnt even give him a chance
S2 - Op needs to cut out that "mother". Seriously, horrible father aside, the wife is equally horrible for allowing it all to go on. Wha a b
Agreed. And where was CPS when all this went down?
7:50 i feel like the dad is lying about being sick, manly because he should have told OP soon as he found out
This whole video is full of doormats telling their stories about how they are just losers with no backbone and that infuriates me so much
Dont like hearing your own life story?
@@LaughingJokerProd not my life story but can’t stand when people want help but won’t accept it then get mad because they’re “all alone” fuck that
Story 1 I would have said if you dropped dead today how would that be different from 95 percent of my life. You being there for my graduation or kids being born wasn't something that would happen if you lived to be a 100
You were too busy when I needed you …. Why would I make time for you now your time is up
cats in the Cradle with a silver spoon little boy blue
What's DCK?
Typically can’t say “Dick” in the pejorative sense in videos on TotalitarianTube, so it has to be edited and censored.
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