Ugh your last caller 😢 I just want to scream it from the rooftops to girls. Your person would never make you feel like you’re a nuisance, or keep you in a talking stage for 2 years for that matter, long distance or not. I wouldn’t base where I live to someone who can’t commit or talk about feelings lol
This oral sex topic has come up before and something doesn’t sit right with me when people think their partner OWES them oral sex. If he despises doing it and it’s the only thing that satisfies her, then they are not sexually compatible. The same would be true if the genders were reversed. Even if he agrees to do it, is she really going to enjoy it knowing he’s disgusted by it?? Stop talking about “stepping out” on him to find someone who will “eat you out.” (That phrase in itself might be grossing him out tbh). Perhaps you just respectfully end the relationship so you both can find someone you’re compatible with.
Eating me out grossed me out tbh. “Going down on” sounds better for some Reason. But I have a few ideas as of why he doesn’t like it and it doesn’t have to do witj hygiene
Caller #1 - honestly I would recommended letting it go. Having someone be into you is intoxicating. I bet you the push and pull of it all is a factor in your attraction to her. Please find someone available and who is not unsure of her sexuality!!
Wish there were timestamps on callers. Some of these just run on and on when the caller doesn't get the point Nick makes and he continues on to be polite or whatever.
I have never been more disturbed by Nick’s advice than when he told that poor girl to follow her situationship to a new city while telling him he’s not the reason she’s coming…. Wtf Nick???
Made this mistake with my ex and it ended horribly. He didn't appreciate any effort I made (changing jobs, positions, etc.) and told me AFTER the relationship ended he wasn't ready for us to live together but didn't want to lose the relationship so he went along with it. His dishonesty caused so many more problems in the year+ we lived together than what was needed had been upfront. If he's already showing her he's not making an effort, he's not suddenly going to change.
Totally agree. I wish women would realize that when a man wants to be with you, there will be no questions about it. They go above and beyond to let you know. Stop making excuses and justifications for red flags.
DON’T move there for him without his consent. I can’t believe my ears with Nick’s advice on this!!! Can you go month to month on your lease or sign 6 more months?
No one's partner should be made to do something they don't want sexually. If he doesn't want to go down on her, it his choice. She has a choice to make too. Also, no one should have a conversation that is an ultimatum for relationship. If she wants more, go find it with someone else, next.
I gotta disagree with Nick on the last caller. Never, ever, ever, move or change your life for a guy. Live your life, and if he fits into it, great, and if not, someone else will. Don't do things for people that would never do the same for you in return. Also, you shouldn't lie about moving, if you arent actually moving. If he finds out somehow that you didnt move and you just lied about it, thats not a good look for you. Just be honest, and if he says no, move on. Don't play games. Its not worth it.
I disagree, it seemed from the call that they have a genuine connection. Nick’s advice was spot on, clear communication of one’s expectations or emotions is never wrong, especially when she knows the consequences of him not reciprocating the emotions. Sometimes it takes one person taking the chance for the other to dive in as well.
Caller who’s BF won’t go there: If her man didn’t wanna go to Broadway shows in Nick’s example, she could at least find a friend to go instead of him. But in this case… Does her man want her to find someone else to go down on her? Editing to add: I am not saying he should do things that he doesn’t feel comfortable with. Rather, I’m surprised he’s also staying with her when he seems to already think that they’re incompatible sexually. Both should find people they match in that way with!
That’s exactly what she should do. She should end the relationship respectfully and find someone she is sexually compatible with. Nobody owes you anything in the bedroom. It’s no different than if you love BDSM and they hate it, then find someone else who enjoys BDSM. I don’t get this mentality of “he OWES me oral sex.” She just needs to find someone else that enjoys this.
31:52 I’m all for people “shooting their shot.” But, a couple of things. If this is just a crush it is incredibly selfish to tell someone who is in a relationship (happy or otherwise) that you have feelings for them. Crushes are nothing. Crushes come and go. I’ve had 24 hour crushes. I’m curious what this woman’s proclivity is to someone who is taken? Is there more of a desire because it’s “forbidden” so to speak? And someone who might be seen as a bit of a conquest to potentially “flip”? There are some questions I have around this caller’s deep rooted emotional intentions. Crushes are not worth messing with someone’s head over. And this would mess with her friend’s head. Because maybe she has had some thoughts of this woman. But thoughts acted upon are the issue. And you could open the door to something that is morally not okay, and could get messy quick. If this was true love, where the person was absolutely so in love that they knew they could not continue to “just be friends” and they believed wholeheartedly this was the one they didn’t want to live without, then I’m more open to the idea of sharing your feelings. But, you have to be prepared once you share those feelings to completely step away. Because the other person needs time and space to consider their own feelings without the confusion of the confessor around. Furthermore, sticking around after confessing feelings is just leaving a door open for an affair.
Caller number 3 sounds like she is probably focusing way more on getting this guy to want to be with her and not enough on asking herself WHY she wants to be with him-his ignoring her texts and not acknowledging her feelings is a big red flag. I’m surprised Nick didn’t focus more on her relationship with him. She should NOT MOVE unless she wants to for that city. The deadline for her lease is going to lead to self-delusion and added pressure to get the “right” response from him. Lots of bad, bad signs here
I want a Christmas album by Nick,,,because my hub can’t sing to save his life , either, that if Nick truly tried to sing our country’s beloved carols, I’d buy it! And it would give men courage to try to learn! He can’t carry a note in a bucket, but if he took lessons , put his heart into it, I think that would be touching but also contagious. My son and kids (all adults now) really enjoy singing, so if my hub tried , we’d be grateful
He probably doesn’t like doing it bc he was told he isn’t good at it. I’d probably act like I really like it to build his confidence then slowly start teaching him how to do it
Video title lady. You sound like me and my ex. Leave due to sexual incompatibility (my ex and i broke up for other reasons) then make your desires a non-negotiable. Im now w my person who is a master at going down and making me satisfied and its 100% reciprocated.
There was the same issue on Dear Shandy where a couple had opposite sex drives, got married and the spouse was writing in wanting out of the marriage after several years of limited sex.
WHY WOULD NICK ADVISE HER TO MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY FOR A SITUATIONSHIP?? I feel like nick only feels that way because of his experience with Natalie but they are not the rule they are the exception, doesn’t he understand that ?
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Omg I have a sense of relief seeing the 3 of you guys together again. It feels like “my parents are not getting a divorce” relief feeling LMAO
Yea
SO HAPPY to have Ali and Amanda back togetherrrrr!!!
Yes! I had to check that this wasn’t an old show 😄
It won’t be for long
Ugh your last caller 😢 I just want to scream it from the rooftops to girls. Your person would never make you feel like you’re a nuisance, or keep you in a talking stage for 2 years for that matter, long distance or not. I wouldn’t base where I live to someone who can’t commit or talk about feelings lol
This oral sex topic has come up before and something doesn’t sit right with me when people think their partner OWES them oral sex. If he despises doing it and it’s the only thing that satisfies her, then they are not sexually compatible. The same would be true if the genders were reversed. Even if he agrees to do it, is she really going to enjoy it knowing he’s disgusted by it?? Stop talking about “stepping out” on him to find someone who will “eat you out.” (That phrase in itself might be grossing him out tbh). Perhaps you just respectfully end the relationship so you both can find someone you’re compatible with.
Eating me out grossed me out tbh. “Going down on” sounds better for some
Reason. But I have a few ideas as of why he doesn’t like it and it doesn’t have to do witj hygiene
@@leahnorartotally agree. It’s a terrible choice of words.
She needs to grow up she can use a vibrator or when he does it and he asks how he did and she says horrible probably wouldn’t try again either!!
Caller #1 - honestly I would recommended letting it go. Having someone be into you is intoxicating. I bet you the push and pull of it all is a factor in your attraction to her. Please find someone available and who is not unsure of her sexuality!!
I 100% agree with this sound advice 👏
Wish there were timestamps on callers. Some of these just run on and on when the caller doesn't get the point Nick makes and he continues on to be polite or whatever.
I have never been more disturbed by Nick’s advice than when he told that poor girl to follow her situationship to a new city while telling him he’s not the reason she’s coming…. Wtf Nick???
I truly hope that caller does not move across the country for a guy that’s made no effort for her 😭
AMEN.
Omg same. Hopefully she see’s the comments section.
Made this mistake with my ex and it ended horribly. He didn't appreciate any effort I made (changing jobs, positions, etc.) and told me AFTER the relationship ended he wasn't ready for us to live together but didn't want to lose the relationship so he went along with it. His dishonesty caused so many more problems in the year+ we lived together than what was needed had been upfront. If he's already showing her he's not making an effort, he's not suddenly going to change.
Totally agree. I wish women would realize that when a man wants to be with you, there will be no questions about it. They go above and beyond to let you know. Stop making excuses and justifications for red flags.
DON’T move there for him without his consent. I can’t believe my ears with Nick’s advice on this!!! Can you go month to month on your lease or sign 6 more months?
New drinking game!...take a shot each time the phrases "shoot your shot" and "so to speak" are uttered 😅
I’m so freaking excited to see Ali and Amanda next to each other again! 🎉
I relate to the second caller because my ex (who I was with for almost 10 years) refused to do that too. (Yet I “served” him)
It made me feel terrible
Yes, Very Viall Christmas with special guest Natalie and baby.
One of my favorite things about Mondays !
Nick singing a Christmas album would be my top playlist
No one's partner should be made to do something they don't want sexually. If he doesn't want to go down on her, it his choice. She has a choice to make too.
Also, no one should have a conversation that is an ultimatum for relationship. If she wants more, go find it with someone else, next.
I gotta disagree with Nick on the last caller. Never, ever, ever, move or change your life for a guy. Live your life, and if he fits into it, great, and if not, someone else will. Don't do things for people that would never do the same for you in return. Also, you shouldn't lie about moving, if you arent actually moving. If he finds out somehow that you didnt move and you just lied about it, thats not a good look for you. Just be honest, and if he says no, move on. Don't play games. Its not worth it.
agreed jesus
I disagree, it seemed from the call that they have a genuine connection. Nick’s advice was spot on, clear communication of one’s expectations or emotions is never wrong, especially when she knows the consequences of him not reciprocating the emotions. Sometimes it takes one person taking the chance for the other to dive in as well.
We need Nick’s Christmas album!! 🎅🏼 🎤 🙌
Caller who’s BF won’t go there: If her man didn’t wanna go to Broadway shows in Nick’s example, she could at least find a friend to go instead of him. But in this case… Does her man want her to find someone else to go down on her?
Editing to add: I am not saying he should do things that he doesn’t feel comfortable with. Rather, I’m surprised he’s also staying with her when he seems to already think that they’re incompatible sexually. Both should find people they match in that way with!
That’s exactly what she should do. She should end the relationship respectfully and find someone she is sexually compatible with. Nobody owes you anything in the bedroom. It’s no different than if you love BDSM and they hate it, then find someone else who enjoys BDSM. I don’t get this mentality of “he OWES me oral sex.” She just needs to find someone else that enjoys this.
31:52 I’m all for people “shooting their shot.” But, a couple of things. If this is just a crush it is incredibly selfish to tell someone who is in a relationship (happy or otherwise) that you have feelings for them. Crushes are nothing. Crushes come and go. I’ve had 24 hour crushes. I’m curious what this woman’s proclivity is to someone who is taken? Is there more of a desire because it’s “forbidden” so to speak? And someone who might be seen as a bit of a conquest to potentially “flip”? There are some questions I have around this caller’s deep rooted emotional intentions. Crushes are not worth messing with someone’s head over. And this would mess with her friend’s head. Because maybe she has had some thoughts of this woman. But thoughts acted upon are the issue. And you could open the door to something that is morally not okay, and could get messy quick. If this was true love, where the person was absolutely so in love that they knew they could not continue to “just be friends” and they believed wholeheartedly this was the one they didn’t want to live without, then I’m more open to the idea of sharing your feelings. But, you have to be prepared once you share those feelings to completely step away. Because the other person needs time and space to consider their own feelings without the confusion of the confessor around. Furthermore, sticking around after confessing feelings is just leaving a door open for an affair.
Okay Ali and Amanda Spin off podcast pretty please? Your dynamic is my favorite part of the show
Ali and Amanda are back!!!
Caller number 3 sounds like she is probably focusing way more on getting this guy to want to be with her and not enough on asking herself WHY she wants to be with him-his ignoring her texts and not acknowledging her feelings is a big red flag. I’m surprised Nick didn’t focus more on her relationship with him. She should NOT MOVE unless she wants to for that city. The deadline for her lease is going to lead to self-delusion and added pressure to get the “right” response from him. Lots of bad, bad signs here
I want a Christmas album by Nick,,,because my hub can’t sing to save his life , either, that if Nick truly tried to sing our country’s beloved carols, I’d buy it! And it would give men courage to try to learn! He can’t carry a note in a bucket, but if he took lessons , put his heart into it, I think that would be touching but also contagious. My son and kids (all adults now) really enjoy singing, so if my hub tried , we’d be grateful
24:56, so many women out there that know they’re not straight and are not in relationships. Find another fish to hook on to.
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I looove the og gang :)
Does he ever post updates?
I want to know this too! We need update episodes !!
He probably doesn’t like doing it bc he was told he isn’t good at it. I’d probably act like I really like it to build his confidence then slowly start teaching him how to do it
Video title lady. You sound like me and my ex. Leave due to sexual incompatibility (my ex and i broke up for other reasons) then make your desires a non-negotiable. Im now w my person who is a master at going down and making me satisfied and its 100% reciprocated.
There was the same issue on Dear Shandy where a couple had opposite sex drives, got married and the spouse was writing in wanting out of the marriage after several years of limited sex.
is Genivive still with you guys?!
I think she left. Sad as I will miss her
no tg
1:21:22 stop picking your nose bro
WHY WOULD NICK ADVISE HER TO MOVE ACROSS THE COUNTRY FOR A SITUATIONSHIP?? I feel like nick only feels that way because of his experience with Natalie but they are not the rule they are the exception, doesn’t he understand that ?
Is this for real? Lol
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