I am an ENFP and just took the enneagram test with the result of type two. This was spot on for me ESPECIALLY when you expressed the part of needing affection and giving it out to people exactly how we want it in return. I actually realized this not too long ago. I show my love all the time wanting it to come back to me. I don’t feel lacking or drained by my expression as of late, but my desire is to experience the same intensity and emotion in return. I tend to lean toward obsessiveness toward people and a huge gift giver almost as its own art form, so that the mental dial gets cranked down a few notches. I’ve grown a lot over the years and have matured with insight and self awareness. People are my addiction before anything else that’s for sure.
This was so good. Listen, I don't know which one I am, but I love to watch your videos. Your dad voice comes through, and it just cracks me up. I learn something from each video and all the types. LOL Thank you for sharing you knowledge and discerning qualities with us!
❤🎉 This is beautifully said. Thank you for your understanding and care, the world benefits from people like you and your wife! I know that my husband (8w9, sp) and I (2w3, sp) really appreciate your videos and heavily rely on them for some common ground and a fresh perspective to keep our marriage healthy.😅😂 Lord knows we need it at time!!
Wow-so spot on! As a 2w1 in a relationship with a 8w7… it made no sense that he doesn’t want or need help. I’ve struggled to show I love him and be directly ask for what I need. But when I don’t he will never know!
It's definitely a challenge when communication styles clash in a relationship. Remember, being open and honest about your needs is key to understanding each other better!
Hi Tom, I am in that space where you talked about how 2’s can go full circle to 4 and look like a 4 because they are so hurt and withdrawing from people. Do you have a video on that or related to that? I’d definitely be interested!
Thank you for your comment! I'm so glad you're interested in exploring the dynamics of 2's and 4's. I have a lot of videos about Type 2's... but I am not sure if I have covered that...?
Sounds like the sequence of my life pretty much :') Thanks for the insights Dr. Tom. Always appreciated :) And I wish you and your wife a most pleasant life together :D
I'm a 2w3. Me and my fiance 6w5. We love your videos. I probably watch more that she does. I love learning about myself and her as well. Your videos have really helped me to understand how she thinks and processes her emotions. We really get along great when we are 100% . When we have an issue come up we talk about it. We try to come to an understanding with each other. We definitely know that we want our relationship to be strong and fulfilling for both of us. Any advice on how we can better understand each other when we are not at our best with each other?
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that my videos have been helpful in your relationship. Keep up the great communication! It’s the foundation of a strong partnership.
I am an ENFP and just took the enneagram test with the result of type two. This was spot on for me ESPECIALLY when you expressed the part of needing affection and giving it out to people exactly how we want it in return. I actually realized this not too long ago. I show my love all the time wanting it to come back to me. I don’t feel lacking or drained by my expression as of late, but my desire is to experience the same intensity and emotion in return. I tend to lean toward obsessiveness toward people and a huge gift giver almost as its own art form, so that the mental dial gets cranked down a few notches. I’ve grown a lot over the years and have matured with insight and self awareness. People are my addiction before anything else that’s for sure.
Thanks for sharing your experience! It's fascinating to see how the Enneagram can offer clarity.
This was so good. Listen, I don't know which one I am, but I love to watch your videos. Your dad voice comes through, and it just cracks me up. I learn something from each video and all the types. LOL Thank you for sharing you knowledge and discerning qualities with us!
Thank you so much!
❤🎉 This is beautifully said. Thank you for your understanding and care, the world benefits from people like you and your wife! I know that my husband (8w9, sp) and I (2w3, sp) really appreciate your videos and heavily rely on them for some common ground and a fresh perspective to keep our marriage healthy.😅😂 Lord knows we need it at time!!
Thank you for your kind words! It’s wonderful to hear that our videos are helping you and your husband strengthen your marriage. Keep the love alive!
Wow-so spot on! As a 2w1 in a relationship with a 8w7… it made no sense that he doesn’t want or need help. I’ve struggled to show I love him and be directly ask for what I need. But when I don’t he will never know!
It's definitely a challenge when communication styles clash in a relationship. Remember, being open and honest about your needs is key to understanding each other better!
Love your work...thank you 🥰 when you mentioned we have a " fear of exposure " can you explain a bit more pls
Great suggestion!
Hi Tom, I am in that space where you talked about how 2’s can go full circle to 4 and look like a 4 because they are so hurt and withdrawing from people. Do you have a video on that or related to that? I’d definitely be interested!
Thank you for your comment! I'm so glad you're interested in exploring the dynamics of 2's and 4's. I have a lot of videos about Type 2's... but I am not sure if I have covered that...?
Sounds like the sequence of my life pretty much :') Thanks for the insights Dr. Tom. Always appreciated :) And I wish you and your wife a most pleasant life together :D
You're very welcome
You mentioned getting defensive and my immediate thought was.. “Me? Defensive? I’m not defensive” Yeah… oops
LOVE THAT BOOK! Have you seen the companion one on Enneagram relationships? :)
No, I will check that out.
I'm a 2w3. Me and my fiance 6w5. We love your videos. I probably watch more that she does. I love learning about myself and her as well. Your videos have really helped me to understand how she thinks and processes her emotions. We really get along great when we are 100% . When we have an issue come up we talk about it. We try to come to an understanding with each other. We definitely know that we want our relationship to be strong and fulfilling for both of us.
Any advice on how we can better understand each other when we are not at our best with each other?
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that my videos have been helpful in your relationship. Keep up the great communication! It’s the foundation of a strong partnership.
@@twlahue No, thank you!!! Spoken like a true 2. Haha
Why is it hard for me to set boundaries and keep them?