The Style Trap You're Falling For

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  • Опубликовано: 29 окт 2024

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  • @RootinHarmony-yj4kp
    @RootinHarmony-yj4kp Месяц назад +1

    Our confidence shines with the clothes we pick and wear. A good style doesn't needs to be the most trendy of the year, but how comfortable we are wearing it. Thanks for sharing :)

  • @dagnolia6004
    @dagnolia6004 2 месяца назад +20

    i love that personal style is NOT clothes. clothes are ONE of the tools we use to express OUR style.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +2

      Personal style is indeed about so much more than just clothes. It's about expressing who you are through various means. How do you express your personal style beyond your clothing?

    • @nubiacabrera919
      @nubiacabrera919 2 месяца назад +1

      @@wonderwardrobehi how do you determine your style though? I think most woman buy clothes without a plan.

  • @user-dj2zr9rl2o
    @user-dj2zr9rl2o 2 месяца назад +3

    There is just something so gracious about your enthusiasm and positivity!

  • @sophiaconsta3307
    @sophiaconsta3307 2 месяца назад +25

    The fact that you consider these internal factors is exactly why your content is so precious and goes far beyond normal fashion videos ❤...I myself struggle the most with not being able to let go of old clothes that are still good but no longer fit my style: Mainly for environmental reasons as I like to wear everything until it falls apart but there is probably also this internal belief that I don't deserve to shine.... Interesting!. And then, when I buy clothes from time to time, I still wear the old clothes first, to “wear them out”. So my style is sometimes 10 years behind. 😅 But I'm getting much better, also thanks to your videos.

    • @mizmelbourne
      @mizmelbourne 2 месяца назад +5

      I got into selling pieces I’m not wearing…and to do this as soon as I realise im not gravitating toward a piece. I feel like the piece is going to a better home where it’ll get some wear, and I’m getting a little money for my piece ( which is worth nothing to me as it’s just hanging in my closet taking up space)

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +6

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment! Your struggle with balancing sustainability and personal style is something many can relate to, myself included. It's wonderful that you're becoming more aware of the internal beliefs influencing your choices. And yes, you absolutely deserve to shine! Perhaps you could consider upcycling or restyling some of your older pieces to align with your current style?

    • @cm-nj
      @cm-nj 2 месяца назад

      I just put a perfectly good summer blouse in the donation box because I'm tired of it. It is extremely well made - still looks brand new even after 8-9 years of wearing it every summer. I am just tired of it. Donating it will give someone else the opportunity to love their "new" summer blouse for years to come.

    • @sophiaconsta3307
      @sophiaconsta3307 2 месяца назад +1

      ​ @wonderwardrobe @hw7029 @cm-nj - Wow, thank you so much to all of you for your support and your precious tips! Yes, after Darias Videos, I discovered my color type and my best lines (external factors) and after that I had a reason to sell or donate all the clothes that didn't fit into these external factors without feeling guilty. And yes, my mother showed me how to sew so that I changed/upcycled some pieces. Thank you for your answers, tips and motivation!!

  • @efiesd8214
    @efiesd8214 2 месяца назад +9

    Your content seems truly original and authentic, really appreciate the effort put in making these informative videos

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words! I put a lot of thought into each video, so it means a lot to hear it resonates with you. Is there any particular aspect of personal style you'd like to see covered in future videos?

  • @robbyrobyn1963
    @robbyrobyn1963 Месяц назад

    This is a fantastic video. It covers so many issues that relate to fashion, self-image and social pressure. For example, so many advisors say older women should stop wearing patterns including florals, especially if the florals are large patterns. I have recently realised that the clothes I like the most are those that make me happy. I have given up on my serious career clothes and now wear those colours and patterns that make me feel good. Thank you xx

  • @celia5815
    @celia5815 2 месяца назад +14

    Daria I really like when you dive into these topics! This video is powerfull, you express your ideas very well. My biggest style obstacle (I'm sure I am not alone) is myself, and negative beliefs I've internalized. I've made progress in that regard with your course, but I still catch myself talking in a restrictive way about my body and my style. I have wanted to express more of my creativity through my wardrobe for a long time. I'm not afraid of others' opinion, but rather of what I think looks good on me.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +2

      I'm so glad you enjoy these deeper dives into style psychology! It's incredibly common to struggle with internalized negative beliefs, and I'm proud of you for recognizing and working on this. I can see the progress you've made since starting the course, so don't be too hard on yourself. You're doing great! Personal style is a journey, not a destination 😉

    • @celia5815
      @celia5815 2 месяца назад +1

      @@wonderwardrobe thank you!

  • @mirandabrouws1158
    @mirandabrouws1158 2 месяца назад +8

    Thank you Daria, for this truly inspiring video❤️ I recognize myself in the part where you talk about comparing yourself to others…I wrote down on paper what you said, to remind myself that ‘There’s so much more to me than how I look’ and that ‘The goal isn’t to allways be the best dressed person in the room, but to be the most authentic version of yourself ‘…that really spoke to me. It made me a bit emotional too…in a good way☺️ So thank you again. Your work and your words matter and help so many of us, even beyond the ‘clothing aspect’ 🙏🏼❣️

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +4

      Your comment truly touched my heart. I'm so moved to hear that the video had such a profound impact on you. You are so much more than your appearance, and your authenticity is your true beauty. Thank you for sharing - it's comments like yours that remind me why I do this work ❤️🙌

  • @veesnoyer7507
    @veesnoyer7507 2 месяца назад +2

    Merci beaucoup Daria pour ce vidéo ! Thank you so much. It was positive, inspiring and caring.

  • @verity4013
    @verity4013 2 месяца назад +5

    Love this video Daria! Absolutely being comfortable in our own skin is definitely the highest fashion priority. For me one of my biggest fashion struggles is finding a style that takes me from my small bush town to a much larger tourist town an hour away. I live in a tropical climate and as a girl who has grown up in a far colder climate, I struggle to make outfits interesting especially in the wet season when it is too hot to even wear a necklace.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +3

      Thank you for your kind words! You can add interest to outfits with prints, interesting color matching, diverse silhouettes, or subtle texture variations. Statement earrings can add flair without causing discomfort in the heat. Perhaps experiment with different necklines or sleeve lengths to create variety without adding layers. Even small style choices can make a big impact. Hope this helps!

    • @evitbolt
      @evitbolt 2 месяца назад +1

      @@wonderwardrobe to follow-up on this comment; I am an executive in tech, working from home and in a tropical climate of Florida; I struggle with tops that allow me to out of the house to run an errand, but still look put together for zoom calls. Pants can't be long as there is so much rain the bottoms get wet, and that happens to be a sillhouette I feel most flattering in, a long trouser. I'm an extreme hourglass and 5'4' so not quite petite, but not fitting into standard sizes; everything is 1.5' too long in the arms, legs and waist. I also have unusual coloring...soft/muted/medium saturation and clarity and typical work tops of white/black/beige/navy simply wash me out; when you said style paralysis, I thought that describes exactly how I feel right now; over the course of last two years I have bought and returned items as I cant' seem to fit them into a cohesive. whole; I don't know if I ever get out of this rut.

  • @sheilakosoff5806
    @sheilakosoff5806 2 месяца назад +4

    Great video! My primary issues are with influencers who tell you that you need 10 core pieces in your wardrobe to be successful. I stopped watching them and stopped watching hauls. I focus on channels like yours that do not provide a list of things to wear but more on the psychology of style. I have found that the wrong fabric, color, and line will make me uncomfortable. All three elements must be considered for me to be comfortable in my own skin. I have just discovered this after 30 years of struggle. Although I spend so much money on the wrong “must have” items,I see it as an education I paid for. Now I know what I want to feel and exude, and do I feel empowered. Thanks for your content! ❤

    • @comealongcomealong4480
      @comealongcomealong4480 2 месяца назад

      @sheilakosoff5806 Your thumbnail says it all! Rocking that jacket (or coat). I agree - such influencers and haul queens appeared to offer the answers to all our fashion dilemmas. I used to look at their meagre racks of white, grey and black capsules. Realising this was not my answer! The haul queens were generally more entertaining. But I take them in smaller doses these days. Happy styling creativity💄

  • @ingwerkeks98
    @ingwerkeks98 2 месяца назад +6

    Great video, thank you Daria! I will think about the personality traits I want to express through my style more in the future 🙂

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      That's wonderful to hear! I'd love to hear which personality traits you're most excited to showcase through your style!

    • @comealongcomealong4480
      @comealongcomealong4480 2 месяца назад

      @@wonderwardrobe Quite an unexpected video Daria 😊 You were exactly right at 2:39 mins when you said "This is where most of us stop." With the external factors. I suggest that many of us, at times, have let the fashion and styling industries TELL US what are attractive or appropriate outfits for specific settings. That may be why I had to really pause to think of a whole five! internal personality traits I like to express. I know I would rather be 'under dressed' than 'over dressed'. So, nothing too flashy or drawing of attention. I like to be able to move comfortably - so clothes with some ease of fit. Over the years, I've often returned to slightly more masculine outfits. Wearing ties, waistcoats, watches, chunky shoes and the like. Perhaps I was subconsciously aiming to be taken more seriously when working. /Up until covid, I would guess that half of my (over large) closet was black. That made building work outfits simpler for me. But, little by little, I have said goodbye to some of those longtime black pieces. With less clothes now, I can see more color and pattern options. Your styling videos are very encouraging to experiment, be creative and try new combinations. I still have about one quarter black pieces for favorite go-to outfits. This is probably the more authentic me. My colour palette has mainly dark saturation. Very little is light, pastel or metallic. /Lastly, my perennial favorite outfit (if you can call it so 😄) is a baggy pair of shorts with an easy, old top. I've remembered a photo of self at fourteen happily in bermuda shorts and a man's shirt. Thank you Daria. I will keep this video to share and rewatch. (Kathryn)

  • @TheRozylass
    @TheRozylass 2 месяца назад +4

    Great explanation of integrating the external and internal factors! That's been my biggest roadblock. Your positivity is so helpful and encouraging. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks! Balancing external and internal factors is indeed crucial for developing a truly personal style. It's wonderful to hear that you found the content encouraging.

  • @Onmytree
    @Onmytree 2 месяца назад +8

    I found this video very helpful, thank you for this Daria !

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      I'm so glad you found the video helpful! Was there any particular point that resonated with you or that you're planning to apply to your own style journey?

    • @Onmytree
      @Onmytree 2 месяца назад +1

      @@wonderwardrobe the internal aspects of my personnality i want to put in my style. I never though about it, i realised i did it a bit unconsciously but being aware of this now will definitely help me makeing better choices

  • @annettetigoulet3230
    @annettetigoulet3230 2 месяца назад +4

    Hello Daria. First of all thank you for this interesting video.
    I agree with your arguments especially as I have been in the process of slimming for about five months and have been restraining myself from buying
    certain pieces of clothes.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Your style can evolve with you. Instead of restraining yourself, perhaps view this as an opportunity to explore new aspects of your style.
      It doesn't have to be a whole new wardrobe - perhaps start with one or two cute dresses that make you feel fantastic. Even when you reach your desired weight, you can always alter these pieces to fit your figure. This way, you're investing in items that can grow with you on your journey. Is there a particular style you're looking forward to trying?

    • @annettetigoulet3230
      @annettetigoulet3230 2 месяца назад

      Thank you for your answer. I had not thought of altering pieces. Actually I'm not quite sure about my style which is mainly classical I find. But I'm quite attracted by romantic shirts with lavallières at the moment and I love pieces from the summer Fragonard collection. I wish you an excellent week-end.

  • @Ina-MISCL
    @Ina-MISCL 2 месяца назад +2

    My biggest challenge is to balance the external and internal factors with the way I would like to be perceived. I have a romantic body type and a winter colour season. I like both the romantic style and the cool intense colours, despite being an introvert. But sometimes I feel like I might not be taken seriously when wearing frilly, flowery or colourful outfits. Other times people expect me to be an extrovert and think I am stuck-up because I don't speak as much as others. How can I be taken seriously, when boxy blazers don't look good on me? And how can I let my introverted nature shine through style? Thank you so much, Daria, for your inspiring videos!😊

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +4

      Your question touches on a common challenge many face - balancing personal style with professional perception. Remember, confidence is key in any outfit. For a more "serious" look with romantic elements, consider mixing in some more "grown-up colors" like navy, grey, burgundy, or pair romantic blouses with tailored bottoms.

    • @Ina-MISCL
      @Ina-MISCL 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you, Daria!

  • @KMouseff
    @KMouseff 2 месяца назад +1

    This is the video I needed many years ago! Thank you for this.

  • @katerinakmentova6176
    @katerinakmentova6176 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for great video, Daria. I especially enjoyed the part dedicated to expressing who I really am by my clothing. My current issue are pregnancies, long breastfeeding, living outside with kids on playgrounds and in forests and still feel like me. I tend to wear mostly black and white (I love punk and rock), I love edgy quality pieces, wool, cashmere, leather and perfectly fitting high waisted jeans. Yet it is very challenging to wear those pieces while I need to be comfortable in all types of weather, in clothes I can breastfeed anywhere and when my body is changing every month back and forth.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +4

      Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I completely understand the challenge of maintaining your personal style while adapting to the practical needs of pregnancy, breastfeeding, and active parenting. It's a juggling act many face. At this stage, you can try incorporating small elements of your punk/rock style, like a graphic tee, to maintain your sense of self. Consider also accessories like edgy earrings or a leather bracelet or a cool statement belt that won't interfere with your daily activities. Remember, your style is still there, even if it's expressed in subtler ways right now.

  • @silviahernandez4827
    @silviahernandez4827 2 месяца назад +1

    Daria, what a great video ! I hope lots of young ladies can hear this, is so powerful. Thank you. 🎉🥰

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад

      Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad you found the video powerful. While the content is relevant for all ages, I'm curious - what aspect do you think is particularly important for younger viewers to understand?

  • @pompom8030
    @pompom8030 2 месяца назад +1

    Great in deptht video! :-) Love the input

  • @cm-nj
    @cm-nj 2 месяца назад +1

    Great video, as always! Love your blouse, Daria!!

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад

      Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed the video.

  • @olagerta8199
    @olagerta8199 2 месяца назад

    The game changer video. Thank you! ❤

  • @mizmelbourne
    @mizmelbourne 2 месяца назад +1

    Great advice!

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you! I'm glad you found the advice helpful. Was there any particular tip that stood out to you or that you're excited to try?

  • @Teverell
    @Teverell 2 месяца назад +1

    The issue for me is that I need to lose weight - NOT because I think everyone needs to conform to some ideal beauty standard but because I physically can't fit into a lot of my favourite clothing right now, and also I want to be healthier; going down by the two dress sizes I've gone up over the past year or so would mean I'm healthier and don't have to spend money on replacing perfectly good clothing that suits me, fits my lifestyle and is my style and colour palette. I just wish it was as easy to lose weight as to gain it.
    I am a lot more sedentary than I used to be, and with that middle-aged spread (or approaching middle age spread) it's definitely hard to shed the excess I'm carrying now. For me, I think it's rediscovering a more active lifestyle and how to do that.
    My style is, and has always been, casual and comfortable. I'm a lot happier adding more feminine things into my very tomboy look - a pair of comfortable corduroy trousers with a feminine blouse. It's interesting to see what's remained the same since my teen years - comfortable trousers, jumpers... I'm more comfortable wearing slimmer fit jumpers with my trousers, or slimmer fit trousers with a chunky knit, where I used to go for baggy or slouchy everything.

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for sharing your journey. It's admirable that you're focusing on health and comfort rather than conforming to beauty standards. Your body changes throughout life, and it's okay for your style to evolve too.

  • @joesdi
    @joesdi 2 месяца назад

    For me, i have great quality clothes and shoes and accessories. I've always been confident, with a good fashion sense, power mindset, I know my colors and my personal style, etc . But really, I NEED TO LOSE 15 kilos. That is the TRUTH. 😂❤

  • @szfrj
    @szfrj 2 месяца назад +2

  • @RitaCism
    @RitaCism 2 месяца назад +2

    Hi! Is it to weird to have different a diferent style each season?

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      No not too weird. But is it a dramatic change or just a bit?

    • @RitaCism
      @RitaCism 2 месяца назад +1

      @@wonderwardrobe a little dramatic 😆. But this video may help me to undersant my style better. Thank you, Daria!

  • @user-zj6np3we4j
    @user-zj6np3we4j 2 месяца назад +1

    My biggest challenge is to dress stylish,but not to look too old to be wearing certain styles.I want to dress up to date and not look silly.I find myself asking am I too old to be wearing this?

    • @wonderwardrobe
      @wonderwardrobe  2 месяца назад +1

      That's a great question and a common concern! Style has no age limit - it's all about feeling confident and authentic. Instead of asking "Am I too old?", try asking "Does this make me feel great?" Focus on fit, quality, and how the outfit makes you feel. Style is about expressing yourself, not following arbitrary rules.

    • @barbarahaynes-bi4hk
      @barbarahaynes-bi4hk 2 месяца назад +1

      Well I'm 82 and just treated myself to high-end white sneakers, gulp!! 😅

    • @user-zj6np3we4j
      @user-zj6np3we4j 2 месяца назад

      @@barbarahaynes-bi4hk You will love them.I have a couple pair and they are so comfortable and stylish.

  • @cristinapiano6190
    @cristinapiano6190 2 месяца назад +1

    🙌👌👌🙌👌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @SkyeAten
    @SkyeAten 2 месяца назад

    I want to express "leadership" at work... But I have an hour glass figure, people say I look younger than I am (yes, it's nice but also frustrating), as a result, I don't feel men take me seriously at all. I have the kind of bust that I can't hide with my clothes, even if I try. How can I dress for my personality when my body very much stereotypes me in an unwanted way...

    • @MariekevanBuytene
      @MariekevanBuytene 2 месяца назад

      My advice would be to not try to hide but lean into it. Lead with the ladies, be powerfully yourself. Cheers!

  • @lourdesgarcia2969
    @lourdesgarcia2969 2 месяца назад

    $$$ can sometimes make me feel "iffy"

  • @FashionFun-n3f
    @FashionFun-n3f 2 месяца назад

    Comparing your body size to others is indeed useless when it comes to your style or looking great. Many people have complimented me on being thin and think therefore I can wear all the things catwalk models can... but actually that's very harmful to them and useless for me... because i'm actually underweight (so not healthy at all) and on top of that I'm a Gamine + pear-shaped body type which means almost no commercial clothing fits or suit me :S I'm actually struggling a lot in finding clothes that fit or suit me, which people don't see. They only see that one pair of jeans that I managed to find that does check all the boxes and think my thin-ness makes the clothes look great. More often than not I'm altering thrifted clothes on my sewing machine. So being thin has nothing to do with looking great.