In becoming an adult, I found it crazy that I was able to identify with my mothers actions that drove me crazy as a kid. Its funny to think that there's something behind that whole "becoming your parents" trope.
I just got a scholarship for my PhD so I’m currently in the process of resigning from my full time job to do research full time. It’s a scary journey ahead but these are things that 16 year old me was praying for 10 years ago. I understand you completely about growing pains - sending you love ❤
I'm 2 years away from the Adulting phase of empty nester! Being a mother has been such a huge part of my identity after staying home for 9 years to raise my two kids. I'll still be mom to them, but I wanted to fill my time with things that excite me and not spend time worrying about my kids. So I'm learning about what fills my bucket and having lots of adventures. The thing I've really been leaning into lately is doing my studies with environmental intention. I light candles, drink beautiful coffee, and pick music that inspires me. I watched this video while sitting next to my husband, and when he heard the question about what chapter of adulthood are you in, he said, "you should comment slow decline!" lol
as someone who is moving to Dallas from another country next month to start my own phd in history I find your videos very conforting :) thank you for sharing your journey with us, hope you have the best time in London
Just graduated from undergrad and starting a grad program in a month. Having a job during the summer definitely helped me create a routine and I just recently joined a fitness studio in the hopes it’ll motivate me to move my body on a more regular basis. I’ve had days where I’m very productive and get all the “house chores” done but others where I just relax all day and I try and take it all in stride. I am excited for when classes begin and I can get back to doing what I love, learning!
youre so close to 90k, and then to 100k and only rapidly up from there. its hard to believe youre just a few years younger than me, and have accomplished so much! i myself and struggling with taking the plunge and moving abroad again, after spending extended time at home. ive got a huge support system abroad but its just that change that is so daunting. yet, thats how we grow! embrace discomfort, without it, we stay stagnant)))
I apologize if this is too long to read 😅 but your comment really made me think. I believe many of the reasons I have been so independent and risk tolerant is because I was kicked out of my parents' home when I was 17 and was required to create a career from scratch in an industry my family didn't understand and that most people didn't see as viable. When I struggled through that year of living paycheck to paycheck, working odd jobs, depression, and an ED, and came out the other side, I realized that my worst fears (instability, abandonment, etc) were actually not nearly as scary as my brain made them out to be. If I "fail", if the move doesn't work out, or I make a mistake, nothing will ever be as bad as my mind will make it out to be. So I just opt to take the chance and see what might be on the other side of the discomfort. All this to say is that we are all more or less risk averse due to the circumstances dealt to us by life. I was fortunate enough to have "my worst case scenario happen" and come out of it having learned a lot, while others are continuously shown by the world and their circumstances that a better tomorrow is not always a sure thing. Therefore, I love that you are embracing the discomfort and I hope that life proves to you that the change was worth it 💖
Adulting is no joke! I went from a depressed, broke, and unemployed 23-year-old who moved back across the country to live with their parents to finally moving out of my parent's house last month at 25, going on 26. I'm working a full-time job as an executive assistant for a circuit court judge, but I'm looking to take my passion projects to the next level hopefully in the next 3 years, before I go back abroad to start a master's. I'm happy where I'm at, but my fear is letting my hesitations be the reason why I don't move forward in life and become complacent.
I will be 31 in a couple of months, and I still find the whole concept of being a 'real adult' somewhat unappealing, especially where it relates to getting married and having kids.
Loved this video. Adulting is Hard! I'm still learning how to adult in my best way, and for me that is teaching myself to put up some boundaries and put myself first.
I think I am a super adult lol, 42yo mom of 5, going back to school (wrapping up my Masters this year and pursuing a PHD next fall, while homeschooling 3 kids and leading a Non profit (oh and I'm married) I love the new beginnings I am looking forward to the next phase, but the nest year leading up to it is all about putting everything in place so as a family we can have a successful transition into the academic world.
Gonna start living by myself for the first time (in a different country) soon to start my PhD. Excited and very scared at the same time haha. I'm planning to watch your videos for mental support!
I can totally relate with having parents who took me to SO many historical places growing up and absolutely hating it - especially as a teenager 😂 but now that I’m older, I appreciate it and wish I could travel with them again 🥲 This upcoming year is the last of my PhD (also studying internationally), so it’ll be really nice to get back to see my family more often. Thanks for a great video! I always look forward to your posts ☺️🙌
Great video as usual! I'm happy to see you are pretty much settled in to your new Home! I am currently in the very beginning phases of writing my dissertation since my prospectus was accepted at the end of May. Unfortunately I've been extremely unmotivated but I will get there!
Currently in the life stage of going to open houses many weekends as my spouse and I consider buying a place after renting for our first decade-plus of adulthood. We have realized we are both very picky about our housing, but at least we are compatible in that!
starting applications for MA programs! the whole process feels a bit overwhelming but watching your videos over the past couple of years has been so helpful :)
This topic hit me hard.... Adulting... Over the last year I graduated with my Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, moved across the country from Texas to Virginia with my fiance, started my PhD at Old Dominion University in Counseling Education and Supervision, married my wonderful husband, worked two full time jobs, overstretched myself with working towards my LPC. Throughout all of this I struggled immensely. I felt disconnected from nearly everyone. I would be up for days because my school and work schedules required it. All the while neglecting myself and my relationships with those that matter most to me. All of that to say, this past June I turned 30, and after much reflection I am determined to make a change. I fortunately have July and most of August off and have set goals to establish healthy habits (gym, water intake, healthy food), keeping our space clean and organized. Overall just setting us up for success and valuing time with one another with designated electronic free time. It's been an adjustment but we are slowly making it. Now we just need to continue with it when the fall semester starts and I begin my GAship as a 2nd year. Dun Dun DUUUUUUUUUN lol I love your videos and they have provided me a sense of motivation to keep going throughout this last year, and I can't wait to see all of your adventures! Keep it up :)
I'm going through a lot of change too right now, and this really resonated with me! But now you and Elizabeth will be personally responsible if my next tough day results in me trying to dye my hair red 😜
I love this video so much! I love your idea of creating a relationship with time itself. I have a finite amount of time in this world, and I know I waste most of it on things that don't matter. I have been an adult for multiple decades, and I still struggle with what that means. It's taken many forms, including conformity, which I highly discourage. I think I'm settling into my personal values and living them in an authentic way, and that's pretty awesome.
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In becoming an adult, I found it crazy that I was able to identify with my mothers actions that drove me crazy as a kid. Its funny to think that there's something behind that whole "becoming your parents" trope.
yes!!!!
I just got a scholarship for my PhD so I’m currently in the process of resigning from my full time job to do research full time. It’s a scary journey ahead but these are things that 16 year old me was praying for 10 years ago. I understand you completely about growing pains - sending you love ❤
Wishing you a beautiful transition into this next stage!!!!!
I'm 2 years away from the Adulting phase of empty nester! Being a mother has been such a huge part of my identity after staying home for 9 years to raise my two kids. I'll still be mom to them, but I wanted to fill my time with things that excite me and not spend time worrying about my kids. So I'm learning about what fills my bucket and having lots of adventures. The thing I've really been leaning into lately is doing my studies with environmental intention. I light candles, drink beautiful coffee, and pick music that inspires me. I watched this video while sitting next to my husband, and when he heard the question about what chapter of adulthood are you in, he said, "you should comment slow decline!" lol
as someone who is moving to Dallas from another country next month to start my own phd in history I find your videos very conforting :) thank you for sharing your journey with us, hope you have the best time in London
🥺 I’m so glad! Thank you ♥️
Just graduated from undergrad and starting a grad program in a month. Having a job during the summer definitely helped me create a routine and I just recently joined a fitness studio in the hopes it’ll motivate me to move my body on a more regular basis. I’ve had days where I’m very productive and get all the “house chores” done but others where I just relax all day and I try and take it all in stride. I am excited for when classes begin and I can get back to doing what I love, learning!
youre so close to 90k, and then to 100k and only rapidly up from there. its hard to believe youre just a few years younger than me, and have accomplished so much! i myself and struggling with taking the plunge and moving abroad again, after spending extended time at home. ive got a huge support system abroad but its just that change that is so daunting. yet, thats how we grow! embrace discomfort, without it, we stay stagnant)))
I apologize if this is too long to read 😅 but your comment really made me think. I believe many of the reasons I have been so independent and risk tolerant is because I was kicked out of my parents' home when I was 17 and was required to create a career from scratch in an industry my family didn't understand and that most people didn't see as viable. When I struggled through that year of living paycheck to paycheck, working odd jobs, depression, and an ED, and came out the other side, I realized that my worst fears (instability, abandonment, etc) were actually not nearly as scary as my brain made them out to be. If I "fail", if the move doesn't work out, or I make a mistake, nothing will ever be as bad as my mind will make it out to be. So I just opt to take the chance and see what might be on the other side of the discomfort.
All this to say is that we are all more or less risk averse due to the circumstances dealt to us by life. I was fortunate enough to have "my worst case scenario happen" and come out of it having learned a lot, while others are continuously shown by the world and their circumstances that a better tomorrow is not always a sure thing. Therefore, I love that you are embracing the discomfort and I hope that life proves to you that the change was worth it 💖
Adulting is no joke! I went from a depressed, broke, and unemployed 23-year-old who moved back across the country to live with their parents to finally moving out of my parent's house last month at 25, going on 26. I'm working a full-time job as an executive assistant for a circuit court judge, but I'm looking to take my passion projects to the next level hopefully in the next 3 years, before I go back abroad to start a master's. I'm happy where I'm at, but my fear is letting my hesitations be the reason why I don't move forward in life and become complacent.
The journey you've been on and the steps you've already taken are huge! Let that precedent guide you forward
I will be 31 in a couple of months, and I still find the whole concept of being a 'real adult' somewhat unappealing, especially where it relates to getting married and having kids.
Loved this video. Adulting is Hard! I'm still learning how to adult in my best way, and for me that is teaching myself to put up some boundaries and put myself first.
I read the title as moving to New York City 😮 Oh...when did you move again? I realized that it said New City. 😂
I think I am a super adult lol, 42yo mom of 5, going back to school (wrapping up my Masters this year and pursuing a PHD next fall, while homeschooling 3 kids and leading a Non profit (oh and I'm married) I love the new beginnings I am looking forward to the next phase, but the nest year leading up to it is all about putting everything in place so as a family we can have a successful transition into the academic world.
the building blocks are always the most important
Being an adult is realising time is processed differently. I don’t remember how 2022 just flew by. Then again, time is a social construct.
I experience time so differently now!
Gonna start living by myself for the first time (in a different country) soon to start my PhD. Excited and very scared at the same time haha. I'm planning to watch your videos for mental support!
Good luck with this transition!!!!
I'm in a very new chapter of adulthood - I just graduated with my master's degree!
Congratulations!
I can totally relate with having parents who took me to SO many historical places growing up and absolutely hating it - especially as a teenager 😂 but now that I’m older, I appreciate it and wish I could travel with them again 🥲 This upcoming year is the last of my PhD (also studying internationally), so it’ll be really nice to get back to see my family more often. Thanks for a great video! I always look forward to your posts ☺️🙌
I have such an appreciation for touristy things now lol If only I appreciated it as a kid
Great video as usual! I'm happy to see you are pretty much settled in to your new Home! I am currently in the very beginning phases of writing my dissertation since my prospectus was accepted at the end of May. Unfortunately I've been extremely unmotivated but I will get there!
Currently in the life stage of going to open houses many weekends as my spouse and I consider buying a place after renting for our first decade-plus of adulthood. We have realized we are both very picky about our housing, but at least we are compatible in that!
starting applications for MA programs! the whole process feels a bit overwhelming but watching your videos over the past couple of years has been so helpful :)
❤Nice.........
10:44 Both of you are giving Preppy East Coast Old Money.
absolutely beautiful video! 💜
Thank you!
10:57 OMG I love the inspiration. 👏🏽
P.S. I was just listening to a song from that movie before tuning back to the video lol
When I was in London, I loved hopping on the Tube. Idc what anyone says about. Except maybe it gets disrupted a lot.
I love the tube - just not at rush hour
This topic hit me hard.... Adulting... Over the last year I graduated with my Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, moved across the country from Texas to Virginia with my fiance, started my PhD at Old Dominion University in Counseling Education and Supervision, married my wonderful husband, worked two full time jobs, overstretched myself with working towards my LPC. Throughout all of this I struggled immensely. I felt disconnected from nearly everyone. I would be up for days because my school and work schedules required it. All the while neglecting myself and my relationships with those that matter most to me.
All of that to say, this past June I turned 30, and after much reflection I am determined to make a change. I fortunately have July and most of August off and have set goals to establish healthy habits (gym, water intake, healthy food), keeping our space clean and organized. Overall just setting us up for success and valuing time with one another with designated electronic free time. It's been an adjustment but we are slowly making it. Now we just need to continue with it when the fall semester starts and I begin my GAship as a 2nd year. Dun Dun DUUUUUUUUUN lol
I love your videos and they have provided me a sense of motivation to keep going throughout this last year, and I can't wait to see all of your adventures! Keep it up :)
I love this comment so much and am so glad to see that you and your husband are taking steps as a team to build a happy and healthy routine/lifestyle
Haha not Elysabeth saying “You’re so in character.” 😂
hahaha
I'm going through a lot of change too right now, and this really resonated with me! But now you and Elizabeth will be personally responsible if my next tough day results in me trying to dye my hair red 😜
Haha a team of redheads
Loved this vlog and its theme. I can relate to the living & studying abroad and the many layers of adulting in general.
10:28 Coffee Shot. Matcha found shaking.
Hahaha
I love the desk you have with that extendable desktop. I love that!
I love it so much
I love this video so much! I love your idea of creating a relationship with time itself. I have a finite amount of time in this world, and I know I waste most of it on things that don't matter. I have been an adult for multiple decades, and I still struggle with what that means. It's taken many forms, including conformity, which I highly discourage. I think I'm settling into my personal values and living them in an authentic way, and that's pretty awesome.
I am so glad to hear that you are embracing yourself and your values (because you're an incredible person)!!
@@KaelynGraceApple Thank you so much for saying that, I'm so grateful to you and all you've done to help me get back to my research.
10:22 I love it because it’s Rorycore.
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2:18 Nice to hear you’ve picked up Mandarin Chinese.
My family’s native language
@@KaelynGraceApple I didn’t know that. That’s interesting.
11:38 I ADORE THE COLOURFUL HOUSES AAAAAAAA
me too!
Hello reflection of London boy!
👀
Moving to New Haven in two weeks ❤🎉
I am so thrilled for you!!!!!
It’s so nice to see a new vlog. Adulting is easy but some of us are infantilised often in life to think it’s hard. I could be wrong.
Most of it is easy but the money stress, making friends, and finding community, etc. is quite a challenge
@@KaelynGraceApple For me, it’s only the money issues lol