10 Ways We Keep Our Marriage FUN! // Pregnant with Baby #5
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- Today we are sharing with you 10 things (plus a couple bonus tips!) that we do to keep our marriage fun! :)
1. Showering every single night
2. Going to bed at the same time
3. Thinking of marriage in terms of themes - Life themes rather than life stages. We like to think of everything as a big long theme.
4. Putting toothpaste on Katie’s toothbrush - It makes me feel so loved because it makes me know that Elisha was thinking of me when he was brushing his teeth.
5. Staying healthy and attractive for your spouse
6. Learning new hobbies and skills - Whether it’s a big or little thing, learning something together is extremely bonding. It’s building your confidence. It’s showing the other person you are willing to get outside your comfort zone with them.
7. Agreeing in public/Disagreeing in private - It is counterproductive for your marriage to tear the person down that God has said you’re one with.
8. Personal hygiene
9. Having a little spontaneity - Little spontaneous moments can really make your marriage fun, sparky, enjoyable and like you’re young again even when you have a lot of demands on your time.
10. Studying the Bible thoroughly
Bonus Tips
11. Appreciation instead of expectation - Having the atmosphere of appreciation for all those things that could be expectations makes marriage so much more fun and rewarding. It is such a gift to be grateful to each other.
12. Self-development - We should be developing ourselves. We should be growing and learning new things. When you do this, it makes you far more interesting to your spouse.
13. Clear roles in your marriage - We base this off of what we see in Scripture. For things that are a little more grey, we consider those responsibilities and see who would like to do them the most and divvy those up. We will help each other in our roles, but the ultimate responsibility falls on the weight of the person who is caring for that role.
14. Do not keep score - We are Katie & Elisha. God has put us together. He’s formed us to be together in union in a marriage. We want to thrive in that context.
Ephesians 5:29 - “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it,”
Keep this in mind - If you have this mindset that it keeps getting better because we get better at being married, it makes the future of being married to someone for 60 years a lot more exciting than if you think the infatuation stage or the stage of when we didn’t have kids is behind us. Instead we are able to think "Wow, we weren’t very good at marriage back then. We didn’t know each other very well." We get to continue growing, learning and building a marriage that is incredible, God glorifying and hopefully edifying to those around us as well!
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Timestamps:
00:00-1:10 - Intro
1:10-1:48 - Nightly showering
1:48-2:56 - Go to bed at the same time
2:56-4:31 - Marriage themes
4:31-5:16 - Putting toothpaste on toothbrush
5:16-6:05 - Staying healthy & attractive
6:05-8:13 - Learning new hobbies & skills
8:13-9:27 - Homeschool course discount code
9:27-11:15 - Agreeing/disagreeing
11:15-12:12 - Personal Hygiene
12:12-14:09 - Spontaneity
14:09-14:49 - Studying the Bible
14:49-17:31 - Appreciation vs. expectation
17:31-19:26 - Self-development
19:26-21:32 - Clear roles
21:32-25:40 - Don’t keep score
Great ideas. We just celebrated 12 years of marriage and I firmly believe that having fun together is the glue!
Mmm…Quoi dire😊 Soo many young couples are struggling and you folks have cleared some stones on their path for them. Even after my 42 years of marriage it is refreshing to see how keeping God the first place keeps things in perspective. Bonjour de Paris. Enjoy your videos and I share them with the listening ears .:). ❤
I love how you guys incorporate scripture and stand up for the Christian Faith.
Your channel is such a blessing and encouragement to my family.
Keep standing steadfast in his word!
Love love love this new posting schedule. :)
These were some beautiful tips and wisdom. Loved when Elijah was talking about how we deserve nothing and being grateful for what the other spouse does. Keep it up guys!
Lots of good stuff! I especially like #7! My husband and I always talk good about each other behind one another’s back. Having a united front is so important and creates integrity for sure. Blessings!
The editing in this video was gold!!! 😂😂😂 loved this video and the suggestions are great!
This video was such a blessing to me...thank you! You guys remind me of a couple very dear to me who are in their late 50s/early 60s. To find a couple my age with the wisdom and advice that you share is rare! Thank you for taking the time to bless others. 💖
Very good advice! Being married is such a great blessing. What you shared will help to make it even more enjoyable ❤❤❤
I love the toothpaste suggestion! Anything that lets the other person know you were thinking of them in a seemingly mundane moment.
Also, I let out a good giggle at, "exactly what a spy would say". 😂
The very last clip in the video 😂😂I really appreciate the humor and fun you add to your videos. This channel is my favorite for all topics on family. I learn SO much from you guys. Thank you!
I needed this video- thank you both i really look forward to your videos! So many good points in this video! Your a beautiful couple god bless❤
I love the appreciation instead of expectation. It truly does come through from the Christian faith. ☺
I came her to say how much I loved this content!!!
I love that you've also changed your editing in the past few months to be more stagnant to ensure ease of viewing.
Thanks for your work guys!
I remember Elisha saying in another podcast it’s about doing something today so it can grow for our future self. Katie also says it’s easier to break it down for everyday so we don’t get overwhelmed I like the idea of learning and growing
*Elisha talking about Katie ironing his shirts*
*Katie glances down at Elisha’s shirt to check for wrinkles* 😂♥️ so relatable
*looks down*
Oh man… I should have ironed his shirt
@@evelynaaspidov123 my thoughts exactly 😂 I dont iron anything so no judgement here 😅
Love the comment on keeping your mind fresh with new ideas! I also married my husband because (1reason) he's a learner and a grower. 💜 the couples I see who don't pursue new ideas and skills are always on their phones or are always talking about other people...that breeds disinterest and sourness for sure! I love (as a mother of 4.8 myself) that at the end of the day it's not mindless talk, but truelly interesting topics. And when I'm in a busy season and not able to pursue this myself, I love learning new things from my spouse. Smart is sexy. Deeply discussing the Bible is sexy. Talking about how Joe next door bought a new car and what his credit score is, NOT sexy. (Real conversations from real married couple...😬)
Always great to learn from you! Thank you!
Love all the fun ideas !!!
The ways you two love each other are adorable, funny, inspiring and God-honoring. The new video style is a bit goofy, but I forgive it, as I have been a big fan since I first was introduced to you a couple months after your wedding day. Carry on - brave, good, faithful ones!!
Thank you for the notes in the description box. Not able to watch the video at the moment but will later. ❤️
I do appreciate y’all❤️
I love y’all so much! Katie when you said “We learned how to be spies so WATCH OUT” I laughed so hard. 😂❤
This was such a blessing!
Great insights! Thank you for sharing ❤
I love these new video styles!
What are some marriage books you’d recommend?
Yes to everything.
P.s I like the new style of video.
Yes to the not demeaning your spouse and choosing to honor them! With that said, we have to consider that Christ didn’t rebuke or correct in private for any sake. He lovingly corrected on the spot as a priority instead of desiring to maintain any particular viewpoint/reputation from others. I consider this often.
I’ll try the toothpaste effort for my husband 😃 thank you for the great idea.
Hi there guys, my husband and I just found you a few weeks ago and have been loving your videos. It is so encouraging and refreshing to see the male and female Godly perspective on a lot of your topics and so we wanted to request a video on how you guys talk to your boys about purity. The fact that your kids being so YOUNG were able to open up to you guys about how they either looked away quickly or looked for a little longer when they saw those girls with little clothes was just so beautiful to us. We would love to hear how you guys plant that seed on them and present those subjects to them in this time where promiscuity is found EVERYWHERE! We would love to hear how your husband specifically is able to relate to them in that sense as well as how you play a role as their mother on relating to them afar from displaying modesty in your own home.
You guys are so encouraging! My husband and I moved away from family less than a year ago and we’ve had to be more intentional about doing fun activities together or going out, there’s no more drop the kids off at grandmas. Our situation made us realize just how much of a team we are. What we need to work on is going to bed together though, I’m the night owl here 😄 mostly because I have a 7 month old who wants to be held all the time & when he’s down for the night is when I focus on chores. It’s a bad habit, I know :/ So many times I go to bed with a messy kitchen just cuz I wanna go to bed with my husband. I know it’ll pass; it’s so hard with littles. My toddlers have been learning chores so it’s actually helpful lol.
If it helps I have 4 under 5 at home while hubby works 11-12 hours. We do our big clean ups after breaky before homeschool and another an hour before hubby gets home so it’s tidy for everyone and dinner.
After dinner it takes me about 30 minutes to clean the kitchen/dining area and do a quick pick up so I can relax with him (and an early consistent bed time with all the kids). We usually get 2-3 hours alone this way before bed at 930-10
Great tips!!
Thank you guys and God Bless.
Can you please share how to find a healthy church that is good for a family?
Loved this content😀
Why didn’t I think of the going to bed together then my husband can leave after I fall asleep lol. Because we are the same way I want to sleep earlier than him and we have never been able to go to bed at the same time so that too is gold simple but gold!
You two are so refreshing to hear!
I love to see other couples loving/studying God's word and living to Glorify our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in everything we do!
Thank you! Today is our 4th wedding anniversary and this was a great reminder and encouragement for us.
Happy anniversary!!
Happy Anniversary! Me and my husband’s 4th anniversary is today too!☺️
Happy anniversary! I wish anniversaries were celebrated so much more!
@@brittanyyoder1319 happy anniversary! Congrats on four years!
Congratulations! What a blessing!
Thank you very much!
You guys are cracking me up 😂
Bhahah, yall are cracking me up!! So appreciate yall
What a way to start a video!! 🤣❤️ 1:37
Such good tips. My marriage needs help.
awesome!
I loooove ur kids ALL having matching clothes ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Get a duel shower head 🚿!!! 😂
Please can you post more recipes
As far as the problem with showering together and it not working because of fighting over the hot water, my husband installed two shower heads 😆
I might have missed it but what do you do with your kids when you have trained or learned new skills together? Did you take them with you when you did those things?
What about when you don’t have any baby sitters?
More videos
Do you guys have family or who watches your kids when you want a date night?
Day in the life
Love your videos.
Please consider keeping your thumbnails free of photos where either of you have no shirt on or are in two piece bathing suits.
Some sisters want to avoid seeing shirtless men to help keep our minds on our own husbands. It is a bit discouraging to think I have to be careful on your channel now.
These videos are a blessing and I hope to be able to continue watching them.
Apparently cold water showers and ice baths are healthy
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I hope you guys don't take it as an offence but the overall videography and editing of podcast videos are distracting.
I absolutely love the way they edit their videos and I always find the way they present them quite entertaining + calming. I think this is most likely just a difference of opinion. 🙂
Totally agree, I find the constant angle switches pretty difficult to focus on
It is hard to watch because it is jumpy. Easier just to listen to.
It’s not just the podcast videos, but it is a style that is showing up on many of the newer videos. The jumpiness is hard for me also. For people who have sensory overwhelm, motion sickness, and even epilepsy related issues, visuals like this can be very triggering. Great info, though, so I will keep listening!
@@socalmoore8463 music video vibes
Pragnant update
Something just isn't adding up for me with this channel... As far as the Learning new hobbies & skills section: you guys find time for all of these wonderful activities together (kudos), yet in other videos you've mentioned that you don't have family that lives close-by, but also that you don't leave your kids at friends' houses.... How, pray tell, do you manage this?
they did some of it early in their marriage obviously
Many other Christian couples also have their own tips they could give.. I know as a young couple you think that you have the edge on how to have a successful marriage, but each marriage is different.
Humbleness goes a long way. Everyone has a different situation - some mothers mother alone - and not every couple is on the same page. I also had my grand ideas as a young wife and I can say in my situation I gave it my all, but as I grew older I learned each family has their own dynamics. Not everything is cut and dry cookie cutter.
They're so excited about life and marriage and God. They want to help others too.
I recommend taking that shower together once a month, while your bodies can still handle it. Also because #5 is not a guarantee. There are many things we can't control and puff, physical beauty is gone. Enjoy it while it lasts.
your life looks too structured,planned,too system like,superficial,unrealistic,but youll found out one day
Sounds like your life is chaotic and boring lol
was thinking the same thing
The more kids we have, the more intentional (structured) we have to be about our intimacy