Trauma, whether self-inflicted or the other way around, can be extremely harmful. It doesn't just fade away whenever you want it to. It leaves this permanent mark that will leave you thinking about all your past decisions you've made in your life and all the regrets that you still want a little bit of closure on. Somehow everyone deals with their own traumas very differently.
The truly upsetting thing about it is that people just expect you to let go of the trauma, stop thinking negative thoughts and act as if you had never been hurt. I often punished myself for not being able to let go soon enough and be stuck in this cycle of pain, but I have recently learnt that everyone has their times and that everyone processes stuff in a different way, so I just have to be patient with myself, because apparently, no one else will be
I can deal with suicide bombers, rockets, war, none of that really bothers me. But losing the woman I loved, losing a cat, losing my grandma, that hurt
@@briank8697 if you don't mind me asking (and I completely understand if you tell me that you don't want to answer) how do you deal with the things you mentioned? My husband has severe PTSD and survivors guilt from his deployments overseas and any suggestions might be helpful. Thank you!
@@jessieh9127 I mean, it's all subjective too. What I went through wasn't nearly as bad as what others went through. I laugh about it now. Heartache hurts worse than death. I just lift weights, read, converted to islam.
I only found out my dad has narcissistic personality disorder because of his childhood trauma of loosing his dad at a young age and need to care for his family. He probably felt alone and afraid and also being with animals in the mountains. So he needed to control and humiliate/dominate others to bring a sense of peace to his inner chaotic world. It’s very sad but that doesn’t give him the right to hurt others especially not my mom who thinks that with love and care he’ll change but it’s been years and he’s only gotten worse. I had to move out but now my heart breaks for my mother and sister who are still in that environment. I asked her to come with me but she remained. It’s because of the trauma inflected on me by my dad. He break their self esteem and confidence down so much I hope God holds him accountable for his destructive behavior but also pray for a miracle to happen to his life. It’s not right how abusive and controlling he was I only pray the Lord opens my mom’s eyes and frees her from that relationship. That’s not love. My mom believed the lie that marriage is not sunshine and rainbows it hurt to hear her say that so I said no mom it’s not normal that dad is like that. Before I left I was in my room with the door closed and my dad had returned from work and I could just sense the toxicity oozing out of him. It’s tragic but it’s not okay for him to hurt others. Sorry for ranting. Thank you for hearing.
Sounds like you've done a lot of healing and are able to see the reasons why things are the way they are (eg your dad's childhood). It's not easy to get to that place of understanding whilst not excusing behaviour so well done on not letting bitterness take over. I pray for healing for you and your family
I can't remember anything from my childhood. All I know is my siblings and I were heavily abused and my brain just closed off everything from before I was 13 when I was finally taken out of that environment
For the first time, I'm actually happy to see this and I apologize. It's because I've had the same situation and my parents just go down on me even more for forgetting stuff. After locking down my past memories I really can't remember anything and it took effect in my daily life cause I forget things easily too. Though it helped in forgetting negative emotions easily.
Same guys. Mine as well go down on me for "not remembering" and for them wondering "what trauma they caused me to not remember". Screw this, hope you both are doing better.
@@kawiianimekitty7472 I too suffered major abuse,both types..and I have so many black outs ,very blotchy memory as a child.So I can relate t what you insured as well...
Facts can’t be changed and the person giving me the trauma can’t be changed either. Today, instead of remaining silent and frozen, I confronted my mother and spoke how I’ve been feeling by her verbal abuse which she never admitted or rather justified that for some reasons. It’s hard to leave a house with her and other trauma generating members for a financial reasons but at least I tried! It took so long to do that but yes, I got out of the pattern a bit!
I had to deal with all of those trama & even all of these toxic types of behaviors from my mom too indeed. She does tend to blame me & for of my feelings too & as well by twisting stuff like that involves by diverting the conversations Which does mean that she does tend to blame me for my thoughts or feelings & by twisting all those types of stuff that I say & by gaslighting me... For all those things that aren't my fault too indeed. While we are just having a conversation with each other about the whole incident for what happened that day. After when my mom has token upon herself like that involves by taking away my clothes & as well with my other items that I have specifically brought with my very hard working money too by placing them in the trash repeatedly. But the very sad truth is about the whole fact that I don't love my mom as a person all just quite literally because that I cannot see her as my own mother with my very beautiful lovely gorgeous dark brown eyes. Which does mean that I do sometimes wished that I have actually did called my mom by her actual first name just quite literally because she does tend by not doing those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course. After when my mom has thrown away my items I have began like that involves by smoking cigarettes that I have specifically made at home on my spare time just quite literally because I was very sad about the whole fact that this whole incident has happened to me in real life. Like also in fact when I was working, studying, just quite literally because I have felt so tried & very exhausted from having to get up very early & by not getting enough rest with sleeping for over like 7 hours just literally because I have felt pretty stressed & even burnt out too from having to deal with all of those types of negative types of thoughts from my mom inner voice of those demons & those devils 😈👿 were actually speaking to me while I am just relaxing very quietly on my spare time too sweetie. And plus I really do need to get a new job & so I can move out from the toxic environment away from my mom immediately. Just quite literally because no child does not deserve to be treated that way. And plus I am very proud of myself for being a very strong 💪🏽 wise mature & even an up bringing that type of girl. Like also in fact that I am actually the middle born child out of my two siblings during in adulthood & I was also born with mild autism in real life too sweetie. For my well beings is about the whole fact that I do need to start a new chapter in my life. Which does mean that I do need to focus on myself & as well by focusing on those types of positive people that I do have around to always be there by keeping me happy & as well by supporting me in a very gentle well manners & so that is really important method for what I also do have to say about the whole fact that a Black mother's should definitely stop doing those types of things to any their children's who does come many different types of shape & sizes too as well. Like that also involves by taking a scissors or by using a hair shaver too by cutting off their little girl child's hair just quite literally that is also very toxic type of behaviors to such terribly things to a child at any age when especially if they have special needs like that involves of having on the autism spectrum disorder & even with ADHD too indeed. And so thank you very much for sharing all of your thoughts & feelings too my very sweet lovely friend. Sending you a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
@chaleikaesterroseedwards3052 I'm sorry that happened to you!! That's a lot of trauma, that you went through, that no one deserves to go through. But you're hella strong for overcoming it. Right now I struggle to overcome mine, but it's been hard. I just wish I could forget all the trauma I went through, but it never goes away because I go through it everyday. But God has blessed you with the ability to show compassion, and for that, you're awesome.
Trauma can have a profound impact on our lives, and it's true that we can't change the past or the people who have caused the trauma. However, acknowledging the trauma and addressing it in some way, like you did by speaking up, is a crucial step towards healing and making changes in your life.
Thank you so much for this video! It’s a great reminder to not blame myself of be too hard on myself when things seem to take more time for me. Sometimes it really feels like a life full of trauma has made me “dumb”. I was able to function normally til I was 19, but then had a mental breakdown from all the trauma I had endured growing up. Before that I never even had to seriously study for any tests and would pass my exams with high grades. After being diagnosed with cptsd my iq has even dropped, which was very hard for me to accept. My intelligence was the only thing I took pride in and now it was gone. Couldn’t remember anything, anything that had to with using your logic/solving skills (like math, physics but also even my finances) dropped below zero and I was incapable of doing it and my concentration was completely gone. I eventually did manage to achieve some things, but have honestly always been ashamed. I worked in mental health and would tell people to do things that I didn’t even want for myself. Last year I had to take a step back in a big way. Giving myself that time is slowly helping me to cope in a better way. Before last year I hadn’t been able to read books for over 12/13 years, but this last year I am finally reading books again and when I can’t, I listen to them and am still proud when I finish an audiobook. Anyone who survived trauma deserves grace. Grace from people around you, but mostly from yourself. Choosing to go on - even if in a different way - is strong as hell. Sending lots of love to all survivors out there!❤
damn... that's so relatable, when i was like 14 i passed all my tests with high grades as well without even needing to study, but after trauma, everything changed, and i feel like the most idiot, i couldn't even do basic math anymore, with 0 focus and 0 capacity to ratiocinate, things are still hard 'till now, but im glad to know you've surpassed this
I can also relate to this so much. What you said about reading in particular really struck home. I used to be a voracious reader, able to read for hours on end and blaze through books. I've had a lot of trauma in my life, but a few years ago I went through a traumatic situation at home that lasted months. It really messed up my brain. Since then i just can't read books anymore or concentrate either. Getting absorbed in a good book or videogame were my greatest joys in life, and now I can't even do that. I miss it dearly. It also screwed up my ability to sleep properly. What you said gave me a moment of clarity. But I also feel extremely angry towards the people who've done this to me and taken away my favourite part of myself.
Thank you for sharing your story! I can definitely relate, however, my breakdown happened later in life. What did/have/are you doing to heal?! (Beside grace)
I truly believe in your capacity to heal and grow from these challenging experiences. You're so much more than the judgments others may cast upon you. Your openness in sharing this is admirable, and I sincerely hope you find the strength to rise above the negativity.
😂😂😂 man if only, let me dish it out to help u a lil bit I speak English as my second language since swahili is my first I was born and my dad had an affair so we seoerated from him , I have never met the man We moved to my grandma's place where the tribe was Luo and I spoke kikuyu so I had ro realearn talking as a kid In 2007 they killed our dog ( Luos) and we had to flee since the popular luo candidate had lost the election to the popular kikuyu candidate ( my tribe ) We had to live with an extended family that didn't like me and my mom I watched my mom get kicked out of our home for coming late and she showed up a month later to take me away We had one radio , a potty for me and a matress that we shared , there was a toilet outside that we started using after our was old enough, sometimes we didn't have tissue and I'd use wrinkled or wetted newspaper I literally went through free education as a child because of how poor we were , corporal punishment, bad classrooms , weevil in your poridge sometimes My mom re-enterd into a relationship with the man whose currently my step dad in 2011 , I was in 6th grade then , he doesn't like me and goes all out to ignore me and or punish me , I got kicked out of my home after an argument with my mother and was resummoned after his mother died for the funeral recently I've known hungry days , violent days My schooling system is mundane , does nothing for us , soul less teachers just stand infront of us and read notes as we write Corporal punishment was heavy in highschool, if u failed to meet the marks the teachers expected you were beaten severely , also we washed out schools , paid for our breakfasts despite paying school fees , snitches , power hungry prefects , cctv cameras , ugly mandatory uniforms , compulsory church , restrictions restrictions restrictions I became addicted to pornographic material from a young age When I was 16 ( this is the part that is least believable maybe ) I stopped relating with people and would spend hours upon hours meditating in nature , I started to question norms, reality , purpose , cosmology all that BS , my ability to think almost trippled and now I find it hard ro relate with ppl , it's like I deprogramed myself completely I am 20 and am to wear what my mom wants when goung out in public , the alternative is homelessness because my step dad is my step dad , he hasnt talked to me in days because i fell asleep and fogot to wash his car a few days ago Poverty is everywhere in my country , poverty , serious poverty , striking it out as a young man in this corrupt country is sooooi hard And that's just the surface level shit I can think of....oh wait , a last one , this is kinda on me , on my final year of highschool I had moved to a different school , one day I was feeling pretty negative about some shit and I descided to think positively, so I wrote a note of all my jew classmates and all the positive traits I had noticed among them , I went off to the toilet and when I came back , they beat me up and threatened to throw me out of the dormitory ( boarding is compulsory in our highschools , also boys only Schooling and girls only schooling system ) and since that day I was bullied and abused for the rest of the year And oh , our toilets in the schooling system are pits so the feaces eventually build up and there is a feeling like kerosene , you have to remove your shirt not to stink when you get back to class, so yeah dude/dudette , shit can be waaaaaaaay worse 🇰🇪
It will get better with age Talking from experience the things that used to bother me about my body still bother me but now I don't pay attention to them and I am slowly accepting them Additionally I get a lot of compliments about my body when I used to be body shamed in the past it just goes on to show how things change 😊
I always had the assumption that it was easy to gain access to professional help watching these videos, but it is nearly impossible. I live in the Netherlands, and healthcare providers are held in chokehold by insurance companies, so you get as little help as possible with the most amount of effort invested by you to get it. It is a discouraging campaign, and I am tired of not getting the help I need. And since I am from The Netherlands, I belong to the privileged ones of the world. I wonder how bad other people of the world have it, if that is the case. Anyway, thank you for the video, I love any topic related to neuropsychology 🙏🏻🧠
Sadly, it's pretty common around the world too (like the commenter above, I'm also from the US). Along with professional help being unfortunately inaccessible for a lot of people, another problem I also hear of is that most mental health industries still have a long ways to go in general, even for people that can access professional help (like how talk therapies are so often encouraged for people generally, when not all therapies help people and not everyone gets help from talk therapy). :(
@@someonesomewhere9115 Same here, and definitely agree that it sucks! People usually complain the most about how unfortunately inaccessible general medical care is in the US, but sometimes people forget that a lot of mental health care is in the same boat for most people. It also doesn't help that a lot of mental health industries are sometimes 50/50 - some places and therapists help people, and others are still very behind the times and/or make things worse... 0_0
I actually have functional neurological disease, which is my PTSD manifesting in physical involuntary movements. That's how bad my trauma was, I'm taking it one day at a time. I am trying to get myself help there is rehab available for this disease and I'm on a wait list for it.
To be honest with all of ya'll I didn't even know I have trauma, anxieties and Depression until today today. My past is just "suck it and walk it off", "You'll be fine, man up" That's probably why I don't have any idea I'm depressed or not. Or anxious or not
The amygdala causing lesser reactions makes sense. I basically no longer register anxiety and frustration unless it's at *extreme* levels or I can specifically name the problem. My alarm system spent so long ringing in the past that I don't even hear it when it's ringing at low levels anymore. Which leads to me building up a metric ton of stress in my physical body. Specifically my neck and back. My physiotherapist has asked me more than once "what is going on in your life to cause THIS many knots in your back?! Take it EASY!" and I'm like "I'm...Not even that stressed???" Fixing the trauma is HARD though. Since there's nothing I can do about the horrible bullying I dealt with as a teen (and I can't get "justice" or satisfaction for it 20 years later), and similarly my difficulties making it through university are also in the rear view mirror. Best I could manage was getting advice from a therapist on how to spot a trauma spiral in progress and find grounding techniques and mental off-ramps to prevent the spirals from going out of control.
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Thanks for this video, that makes a lot of sense why I react to minor things majorly. Therapy helps, but it’s hard. I do talk therapy and EMDR therapy.
when i try to explain myself how it is or was or i really feels slowly i feel like i'm overdramatic or i'm overthinking. then i deny everything and tell myself i'm fine
I always had trouble telling the difference between trauma and tough life lessons. I'd like to think that they're both one of the same, but if that was the case, then why am I miserable?
They both involve difficult experiences, that's why its kind of hard to distinguish. Trauma typically refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are deeply distressing or disturbing. It often has a lasting impact on one's mental and emotional well-being. On the other hand, tough life lessons are experiences that may be difficult or painful but are seen as opportunities for personal growth and learning. They might involve overcoming challenges, making mistakes, and gaining wisdom from those experiences. The misery you're experiencing could be a sign that there are unresolved issues or emotions associated with these experiences. Wishing you strength and a swift journey to recovery, take care and be kind to yourself.
can you make a video talking about selective mutism? It would mean a lot for me and those who has it since it’s so misunderstood and not many people know about it.
@@veronikakeehl5746 i have been dating my boyfriend for like a year now. He has never heard my voice and we have never met each in real life since he lives in an other country.
Within a week i dreamed 2 times about my ex sport group;in the group there was a girl that i knew that i have fall in love with.I thought about the girl sometime s,even dreamed about,but never all of them,and the thing is,must be 5 years I don't see them(even if i still thought about them sometimes, especially the girl) Bit of context here:my 18th year is for now the worst i have ever felt,my families didnt even greet me back from school because of the bad grades-i had the sensation my friends in school stopped caring about me(looking back maybe they simply didn't know what to do,since one of them invited me to his birthday but i found excuses because I didn't want to see them,or maybe i was scared?)and in sport(With the girl i liked we were about to,idk,"go the next step" and start a relationship,since i believe the feeling was from both, however since she was really good at her discipline she started training elsewhere with another team that let her compete in higher contest,but AFAIK she didn't tell anyone,not even me,from there for me in the team all started going dowhill,they simply took my "distance" as normal and did nothing);I started seeing black in everyone to the point that i didnt want the celebrate my 18th birthday because i thought none deserved to be there.I was sick of them all,before the summer started i literally couldn't find any reason to get out of bed,months passed and i re started my life one step at the time,but in this years, wherever i met one of my ex friends,i was just happy to see them.And then the usual thought of " i should check them out,but during this time no-one of theme, with few exceptions,had never done the same".Im 23 now, thought i had moved on,but i still think about if things could have been different,if i or them acted with more care towards each other... I miss her,and some of them,but how do i know if im delusional,and while they moved on i am here thinking all of that?
I just wanna ask a thing because i experienced a lot of loss im 16 and from 2014 i've lost all of my grandparents of diseases and my uncles in an accident i've noticed that a lot of my friends often tell me that i look like i lost my expressions like when i laugh its not even a laugh anymore and when im happy i don't even smile is it because of trauma?
❤ I suggest that you first go to see a psychologist before a psychiatrist. I psychologist is best equipped to discover the origins of your condition. I speak from experience; a psy hiatrist will imeadiatly medicate you regardless of your actual individual need. They categorize us into groups. A psychologist will look only at you. I'm very sorry for your losses. I don't like seeing other's struggling and I know that you are. Your grief, your losses, your sadness, your loneliness it's all compounded. And you're only 16 ❤. Please ask your parents to take you to see a psychologist. Dont let them tell you "no". I'm praying for you. I'm leaving for temple in a few minutes and I'm going to ask the entire temple to pray for your healing .❤ God bless you!
I love that we get to share and talk about this so that we can help each other together and it’s going great!!😍my family and I have had trauma and we struggle at times, yet with video and other things, we’re doing much better now and thanks so much!! we hope you’re all doing great everyone and if you want, we have something that might help!! thanks so much again everyone and have a magical time!!🤩
thanks so much again everyone!!🥰now we wanted to say that if we’ve or may ever hurt your feelings or anything is that we’re sincerely sorry, yet this is the way to get to peace and happiness, and that although we all may be very different in cultures, religions, beliefs, and more, but we all have so many things in common too, we’re all humans, we all make mistakes, we even make all the funniest jokes and wanting to have the best time, and etc., and we so far we might not be able to change each other but we can encourage and inspire us to offer suggestions and that we all can be flexible and learn to let go of all of our own ways and quirks for a moment and making something new out of it with others and learn their ways to, to become friends and even family together, and that we feel that harmony is easier than we think; all we have to do is take one moment to reflect and know that we’re not losing anything, we’re gaining the very things that make us a happy world, and that we’re already connected, because we’ve always had that feeling of whether others in the same room as us or who we see or hear about, we experience those feelings and we know when they switch in us and them and that even though we might not care at times, believe it or not, that’s empathy, and that we just haven’t fully realized it and that we all actually already love each other, we just got lost in our own survival and ways is that we lost sight of who our survival was for, our parents, kids, lovers, and friends and those who we have yet to meet, and that sometimes we used that survival instinct and we still do to put others down for being afraid of each other, so we defend ourselves from each other, even when they’ve done nothing wrong and are the nicest and caring people that there are and we don’t realize it, and we’re also harming and have killed others who might’ve had ideas that could’ve helped others and harmonize the world too, yet it’s never too late for change!! let me tell you a story about myself, when I was younger, I actually never wanted to change myself because I was scared and that others around me wanted to change me because they were afraid of what my kindness and compassion would do, and so sometimes I would gradually change until the point, where I’d have emotional problems and outbursts, yet I’d continue to be the caring and loving person that everyone loves me for, and I was more inspired by it to help others notice and realize that we all can learn and grow together, so even when things may seem at their worst or that everything’s gone bad, truth is, we can use that negativity as our strength and natural survival instincts because that’s what they truly are, not an enemy or other people as enemies that we’ve so long thought to be, we can break that toxic cycle of feeling bad about everything, ourselves, and others, and we can all become truly selfless in our world where need more people like that!! together we can solve all of the things that we need and have wanted to for so long; we can find a cure for cancer, money doesn’t have to determine how happy or comfy with our lives can be, killing everyone’s not the answer to overpopulation, bringing our environments to the best they can be and protecting our animals too, and helping to make and save enough food and resources for everyone and more!! why and what are we even killing and hurting each other for anyway!? because of some feud that happened years ago!? a sudden in the moment outburst because we misunderstood or didn’t see just what it was!? is that the kind of life we want and I’ll even ask you one better: is this the current life we truly need!! we’re not saving each other by all this war and misery, we’re killing our lives and possibilities together!! so with that I leave one final question: what are we going to do!? ok so now we’re feeling of continuing with our work and we’ll get back to you soon!! thanks so much again everyone, please feel free to continue sharing and pushing yourself and others to get out of your comfort zone for a better future where everyone’s safe and happy and have a fun day!! 🌈
I’m 40 years old and i have just got my diagnos cptsd. My hole life i just thougt i was to stupid to learn or to remember things but i was trapped inside of my brain i backflashes. I think its unfair that it almost cost me my life. But now i’m recovering and i’m so thankful for that and thank you for this movie ❤❤❤
my mom went through a really hard time when i was in her stomach it was hard when i was born and my dad forced me to be perfect from the get go. he was abusive even before i was born and through out my whole childhood and still now, he’s getting better but that trauma doesn’t disappear the wounds may heal but the memory and scars are still there.
I love watching psych2go because the drastic contrast between what they are talking about and what is on screen gives me a lot of enjoyment. You are actively talking about trauma and I cant help but look at the among us on the arrow.
Sometimes when I tell my mum what is worrying me she sometimes says you're being silly or it's not the end of the world or it's just a waste of everybody's time worrying about something small and you'll be fine
@@bellaw-k79 on top of that she had the SAME trauma which i helped her with i had 11 years old and i had to listen her being drunk talking about her trauma.When the same shit hapened to me she just...rejected me !
Trauma is very important to deal with and heal. I’ve always shoved my down and never let it out and now here I am, with psychogenic seizures. When I get too stressed/ anxious/ tired my brain just starts to shut off and I start seizing.
Hey thank you Psych2go for making this stuff accessible for everyone I love watching your video's because they give me a better understanding about what is happening in the world of psychology!
The strongest part of our body is our thoughts we become what we think if we say things that affect us in a positive way we'll excel if we say things that negatively affect us well downgrade.
I swear, every time I start finding interest in a new aspect of mental health studies, this channel uploads a video on it within days. Been looking into the prefrontal cortex for a while now. Always with the wild timing, Psyhc. Good stuff, I guess
I would love to do a study on functional MRI's or CT scans to see how different the brain functions/ looks with people who have trauma. They do this with serial killers and they're physically different than someone who doesn't commit murder.
Remember: You are probably a really kind person, you just do not know it❤❤❤. Speaking as someone who has been heavily mentally abused, by so called friends and family, never being able to share any of my true feelings with anyone, never finding true friends. I have always believed the kindest and most amazing people are those who have gone through the worst stuff in their lives. Take me, like I mentioned above, I have gone through too much, and I have been told so many times that I am the best person someone has ever met. I have extremely strong empathy, I scored a 100 on the EQ test, I love seeing people smile. I love seeing people get so happy when they try my baking, because it makes me happy, knowing that others are happy. Remember: You are probably a really kind person, you just do not know it❤❤❤.
@@amrith__________________ neither am I. At least not only. I mean all people who are in whatever situation they're in that makes them keep the pregnancy and bring up a child, even though it's clearly mostly distressful. Can be due to anything. I don't disagree with you, I bet there are people who just suck at parenting and don't need to heal from anything. But I thought we need to be aware it isn't always only about an innocent child who was hurt by their parents, the parents themselves could have past, be influenced by it. I'm not talking about responsability, since it's too broad at this point. I'm saying all members of the family are people and should be analyzed with equal empathy, not only the children.
3:33 that whole explanation about having a hard time knowing what could be a bad thing or not is very relatable to me. In my friend group I notice myself asking them constantly if I should be concerned or scared.
Hello Psych2Go team I would like to make a request of making a video on 'Nightmare Disorder' ... I will be very grateful if u make this video I want to know in details what this disorder is (as I have this disorder) and how it can be treated and if there is a home remedy for it.... Thank you!
Trauma, a condition where it affects people heavily. It might not show itself everytime but its still there lurking somewhere inside our memories or mind. I hope you guys are all doing well! ❤️🩹 it might be hard to deal with it but a lot of people are here to support you so keep moving on and on!
Thank you Psych2Go for the knowledge. I'm very grateful that I found your channel. I learned a lot about mental health and it's importance. Please continue to provide us with more knowledge regarding mental health..
Ive made my cope running my interpretation of a situation by people i trust, with different personality and positions. I.e. my sister, my boss, my head hk, my friends. If they all agree my viewpoint is inconsistent with what they saw or understand it to be, it helps me realize im having a trauma response. For sure it gives me different ways to calm down and properly figure out if i misread the situation, even if they dont agree. It helps switch off the panic signal, and unlock the what to do about it. Otherwise, I tend to bottle it in because im scared, then fume about it, then blow up or send 16 page texts shorting out. I refer to specific people because their perspectives are all different and I trust them. That's how i know im seeing it wrong for sure, when they are of different types and normally dont agree on anything, and they all give me, independently, the same answer, and they don't interact with each other on any level concerning me... thats a good sign to pump the brakes. Or, that i am correct, and they handle the appropriate response instead of me over reacting
I have been through a lot of trauma and I had gotten to a point I could not feel for others and it almost kind of scared me, like I worried I was becoming a bad person, but I guess it's due to all my trauma
When I was younger I would slam my head against things till I felt so much physical pain that my emotional pain hurt less but I think that mostly hurt my memory because I cannot remember anything that much anymore
❤i was so taught to be so blasted possitive also i dont like confrontation from abusive people,but i have to look at reality and 😅we can feel better you and i ,prayer works too❤
YES ….. I found my mother dead in her home after not hearing from her for over a week. The sight and smell was so traumatizing. I had emdr therapy and it helped me tremendously. I would highly recommend emdr to anyone that has been traumatized.
The problem i can see here is what if you don't know the source of your trauma? What if you have such bad memory you can't work around it to feel it out? What if remembering anything, good or bad, can send the person in a spiral of worse and worse memories and feelings to where (if not distracted from these memories) it's potentially dangerous to go on that journey of "recovery"? What do you do then?
I have a question. Last night i was asleep, but i was conscious like my body is asleep but my mind isn't, my mind was telling me to wake up but i couldn't, like i was trap in my own sleep or something. I couldn't open my eyes even when i tried to, and then about a few minutes later i was able to wake up. What the heck was happening to me?
I actually get this regularly, but don't have a clear answer as to why that is. In my case, I have a multitude of mental health issues that are going on in a bad way at all times. My therapist, boyfriend, and I have theorized that my brain is overactive and in a near-constant state of fight or flight. My brain can't chill out even for sleep, so my brain is always "on" even when my body is "off". So I get micro-sleeps that are not real sleep, and never feel rested. They've got me on some heavy sedatives for that, and with that I can finally sleep... Mostly. But the moment that starts to wear off, brain is back in fight or flight without me being able to move or do anything about it. If you relate to this video and have PTSD, maybe a good working theory? Edit: Forgot to mention that my therapist did mention it could be a form of sleep paralysis. Not her jurisdiction to touch on that one, so can't confirm.
I like to draw. I want to be an animator in the future. But the main problem with me is not getting started, it’s that I have this inner voice that keeps on telling me to stop drawing, even though I know I’m not burned out. What can I do to overcome this?
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I dont remember my traumatic events, but I know there were some. Hard to talk about what you can recollect. Im in therapy, though, so maybe they can figure it out.
I found out that I had serve trauma it’s tough to say I was only 3 my babysitter died from a brain tumor she was only 32 she died in front of me me and her were the only ones there about 30 minutes later her husband came home another 3-4 minutes the ambulance came while they were taking her in the stretcher the police took me away and brought me to another friends house about a couple months later my mother found a new babysitter to take care of me I won’t say her name but she would hit me with a belt i don’t know if it left marks or not but she wasn’t the best she would force me outside against my own will yet again I was only 3 and a half I remember that my mother didn’t even know my sister could tell I was being hit but my mother didn’t believe her thats all I’m going to say that hurt me in a way that I’m scared of death and being alone not being able to tell someone okay that’s all .
I need help idk what to do in my life booth if my parents are fucked up until my childhood I was abused it’s not as bad now but they still don’t do much I feel like I have nowhere to go I’m 13 so I can’t do anything I can’t move out or anything idk what to do
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Trauma, whether self-inflicted or the other way around, can be extremely harmful. It doesn't just fade away whenever you want it to. It leaves this permanent mark that will leave you thinking about all your past decisions you've made in your life and all the regrets that you still want a little bit of closure on. Somehow everyone deals with their own traumas very differently.
The truly upsetting thing about it is that people just expect you to let go of the trauma, stop thinking negative thoughts and act as if you had never been hurt. I often punished myself for not being able to let go soon enough and be stuck in this cycle of pain, but I have recently learnt that everyone has their times and that everyone processes stuff in a different way, so I just have to be patient with myself, because apparently, no one else will be
I can deal with suicide bombers, rockets, war, none of that really bothers me. But losing the woman I loved, losing a cat, losing my grandma, that hurt
@@briank8697 if you don't mind me asking (and I completely understand if you tell me that you don't want to answer) how do you deal with the things you mentioned? My husband has severe PTSD and survivors guilt from his deployments overseas and any suggestions might be helpful. Thank you!
Poignant and potent! Excellently expressed. 🤗
@@jessieh9127 I mean, it's all subjective too. What I went through wasn't nearly as bad as what others went through. I laugh about it now. Heartache hurts worse than death. I just lift weights, read, converted to islam.
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I only found out my dad has narcissistic personality disorder because of his childhood trauma of loosing his dad at a young age and need to care for his family. He probably felt alone and afraid and also being with animals in the mountains. So he needed to control and humiliate/dominate others to bring a sense of peace to his inner chaotic world.
It’s very sad but that doesn’t give him the right to hurt others especially not my mom who thinks that with love and care he’ll change but it’s been years and he’s only gotten worse. I had to move out but now my heart breaks for my mother and sister who are still in that environment. I asked her to come with me but she remained. It’s because of the trauma inflected on me by my dad. He break their self esteem and confidence down so much I hope God holds him accountable for his destructive behavior but also pray for a miracle to happen to his life. It’s not right how abusive and controlling he was I only pray the Lord opens my mom’s eyes and frees her from that relationship. That’s not love. My mom believed the lie that marriage is not sunshine and rainbows it hurt to hear her say that so I said no mom it’s not normal that dad is like that.
Before I left I was in my room with the door closed and my dad had returned from work and I could just sense the toxicity oozing out of him. It’s tragic but it’s not okay for him to hurt others.
Sorry for ranting. Thank you for hearing.
Sounds like you've done a lot of healing and are able to see the reasons why things are the way they are (eg your dad's childhood). It's not easy to get to that place of understanding whilst not excusing behaviour so well done on not letting bitterness take over. I pray for healing for you and your family
I can't remember anything from my childhood. All I know is my siblings and I were heavily abused and my brain just closed off everything from before I was 13 when I was finally taken out of that environment
For the first time, I'm actually happy to see this and I apologize.
It's because I've had the same situation and my parents just go down on me even more for forgetting stuff.
After locking down my past memories I really can't remember anything and it took effect in my daily life cause I forget things easily too.
Though it helped in forgetting negative emotions easily.
Same guys. Mine as well go down on me for "not remembering" and for them wondering "what trauma they caused me to not remember". Screw this, hope you both are doing better.
@@kawiianimekitty7472 I too suffered major abuse,both types..and I have so many black outs ,very blotchy memory as a child.So I can relate t what you insured as well...
Facts can’t be changed and the person giving me the trauma can’t be changed either. Today, instead of remaining silent and frozen, I confronted my mother and spoke how I’ve been feeling by her verbal abuse which she never admitted or rather justified that for some reasons. It’s hard to leave a house with her and other trauma generating members for a financial reasons but at least I tried!
It took so long to do that but yes, I got out of the pattern a bit!
The person giving you trauma can totally be charged with crimes though.
I had to deal with all of those trama & even all of these toxic types of behaviors from my mom too indeed. She does tend to blame me & for of my feelings too & as well by twisting stuff like that involves by diverting the conversations Which does mean that she does tend to blame me for my thoughts or feelings & by twisting all those types of stuff that I say & by gaslighting me... For all those things that aren't my fault too indeed. While we are just having a conversation with each other about the whole incident for what happened that day. After when my mom has token upon herself like that involves by taking away my clothes & as well with my other items that I have specifically brought with my very hard working money too by placing them in the trash repeatedly. But the very sad truth is about the whole fact that I don't love my mom as a person all just quite literally because that I cannot see her as my own mother with my very beautiful lovely gorgeous dark brown eyes. Which does mean that I do sometimes wished that I have actually did called my mom by her actual first name just quite literally because she does tend by not doing those types of wicked stuff like towards my two siblings which are her two other grown-up children's of course. After when my mom has thrown away my items I have began like that involves by smoking cigarettes that I have specifically made at home on my spare time just quite literally because I was very sad about the whole fact that this whole incident has happened to me in real life. Like also in fact when I was working, studying, just quite literally because I have felt so tried & very exhausted from having to get up very early & by not getting enough rest with sleeping for over like 7 hours just literally because I have felt pretty stressed & even burnt out too from having to deal with all of those types of negative types of thoughts from my mom inner voice of those demons & those devils 😈👿 were actually speaking to me while I am just relaxing very quietly on my spare time too sweetie. And plus I really do need to get a new job & so I can move out from the toxic environment away from my mom immediately. Just quite literally because no child does not deserve to be treated that way. And plus I am very proud of myself for being a very strong 💪🏽 wise mature & even an up bringing that type of girl. Like also in fact that I am actually the middle born child out of my two siblings during in adulthood & I was also born with mild autism in real life too sweetie. For my well beings is about the whole fact that I do need to start a new chapter in my life. Which does mean that I do need to focus on myself & as well by focusing on those types of positive people that I do have around to always be there by keeping me happy & as well by supporting me in a very gentle well manners & so that is really important method for what I also do have to say about the whole fact that a Black mother's should definitely stop doing those types of things to any their children's who does come many different types of shape & sizes too as well. Like that also involves by taking a scissors or by using a hair shaver too by cutting off their little girl child's hair just quite literally that is also very toxic type of behaviors to such terribly things to a child at any age when especially if they have special needs like that involves of having on the autism spectrum disorder & even with ADHD too indeed. And so thank you very much for sharing all of your thoughts & feelings too my very sweet lovely friend. Sending you a very big nice warm hug from your very sweet loving kind sister friend Chaleika. 🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸🥀🌸🌸
@chaleikaesterroseedwards3052 I'm sorry that happened to you!! That's a lot of trauma, that you went through, that no one deserves to go through. But you're hella strong for overcoming it. Right now I struggle to overcome mine, but it's been hard. I just wish I could forget all the trauma I went through, but it never goes away because I go through it everyday. But God has blessed you with the ability to show compassion, and for that, you're awesome.
@@AiresLA But what do you do about the scars?
Trauma can have a profound impact on our lives, and it's true that we can't change the past or the people who have caused the trauma. However, acknowledging the trauma and addressing it in some way, like you did by speaking up, is a crucial step towards healing and making changes in your life.
Thank you so much for this video! It’s a great reminder to not blame myself of be too hard on myself when things seem to take more time for me. Sometimes it really feels like a life full of trauma has made me “dumb”. I was able to function normally til I was 19, but then had a mental breakdown from all the trauma I had endured growing up. Before that I never even had to seriously study for any tests and would pass my exams with high grades. After being diagnosed with cptsd my iq has even dropped, which was very hard for me to accept. My intelligence was the only thing I took pride in and now it was gone. Couldn’t remember anything, anything that had to with using your logic/solving skills (like math, physics but also even my finances) dropped below zero and I was incapable of doing it and my concentration was completely gone. I eventually did manage to achieve some things, but have honestly always been ashamed. I worked in mental health and would tell people to do things that I didn’t even want for myself. Last year I had to take a step back in a big way. Giving myself that time is slowly helping me to cope in a better way. Before last year I hadn’t been able to read books for over 12/13 years, but this last year I am finally reading books again and when I can’t, I listen to them and am still proud when I finish an audiobook. Anyone who survived trauma deserves grace. Grace from people around you, but mostly from yourself. Choosing to go on - even if in a different way - is strong as hell. Sending lots of love to all survivors out there!❤
damn... that's so relatable, when i was like 14 i passed all my tests with high grades as well without even needing to study, but after trauma, everything changed, and i feel like the most idiot, i couldn't even do basic math anymore, with 0 focus and 0 capacity to ratiocinate, things are still hard 'till now, but im glad to know you've surpassed this
I can also relate to this so much. What you said about reading in particular really struck home. I used to be a voracious reader, able to read for hours on end and blaze through books. I've had a lot of trauma in my life, but a few years ago I went through a traumatic situation at home that lasted months. It really messed up my brain. Since then i just can't read books anymore or concentrate either. Getting absorbed in a good book or videogame were my greatest joys in life, and now I can't even do that. I miss it dearly. It also screwed up my ability to sleep properly. What you said gave me a moment of clarity. But I also feel extremely angry towards the people who've done this to me and taken away my favourite part of myself.
Thank you for sharing your story! I can definitely relate, however, my breakdown happened later in life. What did/have/are you doing to heal?! (Beside grace)
Thank you 🙏 I’ve been struggling since I was a kid now I’m 48 and still unable live “normally. God bless you ❤
Thank you ❤
I am body shamed from my childhood and yes it already affected me and i being traumatised physically and mentally...
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I truly believe in your capacity to heal and grow from these challenging experiences. You're so much more than the judgments others may cast upon you. Your openness in sharing this is admirable, and I sincerely hope you find the strength to rise above the negativity.
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I speak English as my second language since swahili is my first
I was born and my dad had an affair so we seoerated from him , I have never met the man
We moved to my grandma's place where the tribe was Luo and I spoke kikuyu so I had ro realearn talking as a kid
In 2007 they killed our dog ( Luos) and we had to flee since the popular luo candidate had lost the election to the popular kikuyu candidate ( my tribe )
We had to live with an extended family that didn't like me and my mom
I watched my mom get kicked out of our home for coming late and she showed up a month later to take me away
We had one radio , a potty for me and a matress that we shared , there was a toilet outside that we started using after our was old enough, sometimes we didn't have tissue and I'd use wrinkled or wetted newspaper
I literally went through free education as a child because of how poor we were , corporal punishment, bad classrooms , weevil in your poridge sometimes
My mom re-enterd into a relationship with the man whose currently my step dad in 2011 , I was in 6th grade then , he doesn't like me and goes all out to ignore me and or punish me , I got kicked out of my home after an argument with my mother and was resummoned after his mother died for the funeral recently
I've known hungry days , violent days
My schooling system is mundane , does nothing for us , soul less teachers just stand infront of us and read notes as we write
Corporal punishment was heavy in highschool, if u failed to meet the marks the teachers expected you were beaten severely , also we washed out schools , paid for our breakfasts despite paying school fees , snitches , power hungry prefects , cctv cameras , ugly mandatory uniforms , compulsory church , restrictions restrictions restrictions
I became addicted to pornographic material from a young age
When I was 16 ( this is the part that is least believable maybe ) I stopped relating with people and would spend hours upon hours meditating in nature , I started to question norms, reality , purpose , cosmology all that BS , my ability to think almost trippled and now I find it hard ro relate with ppl , it's like I deprogramed myself completely
I am 20 and am to wear what my mom wants when goung out in public , the alternative is homelessness because my step dad is my step dad , he hasnt talked to me in days because i fell asleep and fogot to wash his car a few days ago
Poverty is everywhere in my country , poverty , serious poverty , striking it out as a young man in this corrupt country is sooooi hard
And that's just the surface level shit I can think of....oh wait , a last one , this is kinda on me , on my final year of highschool I had moved to a different school , one day I was feeling pretty negative about some shit and I descided to think positively, so I wrote a note of all my jew classmates and all the positive traits I had noticed among them , I went off to the toilet and when I came back , they beat me up and threatened to throw me out of the dormitory ( boarding is compulsory in our highschools , also boys only Schooling and girls only schooling system ) and since that day I was bullied and abused for the rest of the year
And oh , our toilets in the schooling system are pits so the feaces eventually build up and there is a feeling like kerosene , you have to remove your shirt not to stink when you get back to class, so yeah dude/dudette , shit can be waaaaaaaay worse 🇰🇪
It will get better with age
Talking from experience the things that used to bother me about my body still bother me but now I don't pay attention to them and I am slowly accepting them
Additionally I get a lot of compliments about my body when I used to be body shamed in the past it just goes on to show how things change 😊
I always had the assumption that it was easy to gain access to professional help watching these videos, but it is nearly impossible. I live in the Netherlands, and healthcare providers are held in chokehold by insurance companies, so you get as little help as possible with the most amount of effort invested by you to get it. It is a discouraging campaign, and I am tired of not getting the help I need. And since I am from The Netherlands, I belong to the privileged ones of the world. I wonder how bad other people of the world have it, if that is the case. Anyway, thank you for the video, I love any topic related to neuropsychology 🙏🏻🧠
I’m in the US so I’m in the same boat. It definitely sucks.
Sadly, it's pretty common around the world too (like the commenter above, I'm also from the US). Along with professional help being unfortunately inaccessible for a lot of people, another problem I also hear of is that most mental health industries still have a long ways to go in general, even for people that can access professional help (like how talk therapies are so often encouraged for people generally, when not all therapies help people and not everyone gets help from talk therapy). :(
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Same here, and definitely agree that it sucks! People usually complain the most about how unfortunately inaccessible general medical care is in the US, but sometimes people forget that a lot of mental health care is in the same boat for most people. It also doesn't help that a lot of mental health industries are sometimes 50/50 - some places and therapists help people, and others are still very behind the times and/or make things worse... 0_0
My pre-frontal cortex is damaged. And I lack certain abilities & suffer for it in a moderate way every so often. But I'm slowly being rehabilitated
I actually have functional neurological disease, which is my PTSD manifesting in physical involuntary movements. That's how bad my trauma was, I'm taking it one day at a time. I am trying to get myself help there is rehab available for this disease and I'm on a wait list for it.
To be honest with all of ya'll I didn't even know I have trauma, anxieties and Depression until today today. My past is just "suck it and walk it off", "You'll be fine, man up"
That's probably why I don't have any idea I'm depressed or not. Or anxious or not
Same here
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I didn't for a long time, either, until the military ordered me to get help.
Same
I had my far share of trauma over the years it's made me who I am i definitely see the world in a different way and how I feel about people
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The amygdala causing lesser reactions makes sense. I basically no longer register anxiety and frustration unless it's at *extreme* levels or I can specifically name the problem. My alarm system spent so long ringing in the past that I don't even hear it when it's ringing at low levels anymore.
Which leads to me building up a metric ton of stress in my physical body. Specifically my neck and back. My physiotherapist has asked me more than once "what is going on in your life to cause THIS many knots in your back?! Take it EASY!" and I'm like "I'm...Not even that stressed???"
Fixing the trauma is HARD though. Since there's nothing I can do about the horrible bullying I dealt with as a teen (and I can't get "justice" or satisfaction for it 20 years later), and similarly my difficulties making it through university are also in the rear view mirror.
Best I could manage was getting advice from a therapist on how to spot a trauma spiral in progress and find grounding techniques and mental off-ramps to prevent the spirals from going out of control.
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Thanks for this video, that makes a lot of sense why I react to minor things majorly. Therapy helps, but it’s hard. I do talk therapy and EMDR therapy.
when i try to explain myself how it is or was or i really feels slowly i feel like i'm overdramatic or i'm overthinking. then i deny everything and tell myself i'm fine
I've had trauma when I was 5 cause of my dog getting ran over by a car and saving my life 😔😢. R.i.p slow ur still my angel
May Slow rest in peace, and I hope you find comfort in the memories of the love and protection your dog provided, this hurts 😢
I always had trouble telling the difference between trauma and tough life lessons.
I'd like to think that they're both one of the same, but if that was the case, then why am I miserable?
They both involve difficult experiences, that's why its kind of hard to distinguish. Trauma typically refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are deeply distressing or disturbing. It often has a lasting impact on one's mental and emotional well-being.
On the other hand, tough life lessons are experiences that may be difficult or painful but are seen as opportunities for personal growth and learning. They might involve overcoming challenges, making mistakes, and gaining wisdom from those experiences.
The misery you're experiencing could be a sign that there are unresolved issues or emotions associated with these experiences. Wishing you strength and a swift journey to recovery, take care and be kind to yourself.
can you make a video talking about selective mutism? It would mean a lot for me and those who has it since it’s so misunderstood and not many people know about it.
Especially for people who have Selective Mutism and are in relationships (ESPECIALLY LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS)
@@veronikakeehl5746 i have been dating my boyfriend for like a year now. He has never heard my voice and we have never met each in real life since he lives in an other country.
He knows about my selective mutism and he understands it’s difficult
Within a week i dreamed 2 times about my ex sport group;in the group there was a girl that i knew that i have fall in love with.I thought about the girl sometime s,even dreamed about,but never all of them,and the thing is,must be 5 years I don't see them(even if i still thought about them sometimes, especially the girl)
Bit of context here:my 18th year is for now the worst i have ever felt,my families didnt even greet me back from school because of the bad grades-i had the sensation my friends in school stopped caring about me(looking back maybe they simply didn't know what to do,since one of them invited me to his birthday but i found excuses because I didn't want to see them,or maybe i was scared?)and in sport(With the girl i liked we were about to,idk,"go the next step" and start a relationship,since i believe the feeling was from both, however since she was really good at her discipline she started training elsewhere with another team that let her compete in higher contest,but AFAIK she didn't tell anyone,not even me,from there for me in the team all started going dowhill,they simply took my "distance" as normal and did nothing);I started seeing black in everyone to the point that i didnt want the celebrate my 18th birthday because i thought none deserved to be there.I was sick of them all,before the summer started i literally couldn't find any reason to get out of bed,months passed and i re started my life one step at the time,but in this years, wherever i met one of my ex friends,i was just happy to see them.And then the usual thought of " i should check them out,but during this time no-one of theme, with few exceptions,had never done the same".Im 23 now, thought i had moved on,but i still think about if things could have been different,if i or them acted with more care towards each other...
I miss her,and some of them,but how do i know if im delusional,and while they moved on i am here thinking all of that?
Got choked until passing out in 6th grade and it really traumatized me. I noticed that im alot more expressive since then
I just wanna ask a thing because i experienced a lot of loss im 16 and from 2014 i've lost all of my grandparents of diseases and my uncles in an accident i've noticed that a lot of my friends often tell me that i look like i lost my expressions like when i laugh its not even a laugh anymore and when im happy i don't even smile is it because of trauma?
❤ I suggest that you first go to see a psychologist before a psychiatrist. I psychologist is best equipped to discover the origins of your condition. I speak from experience; a psy hiatrist will imeadiatly medicate you regardless of your actual individual need. They categorize us into groups. A psychologist will look only at you.
I'm very sorry for your losses. I don't like seeing other's struggling and I know that you are. Your grief, your losses, your sadness, your loneliness it's all compounded. And you're only 16 ❤. Please ask your parents to take you to see a psychologist. Dont let them tell you "no". I'm praying for you. I'm leaving for temple in a few minutes and I'm going to ask the entire temple to pray for your healing .❤ God bless you!
I love that we get to share and talk about this so that we can help each other together and it’s going great!!😍my family and I have had trauma and we struggle at times, yet with video and other things, we’re doing much better now and thanks so much!! we hope you’re all doing great everyone and if you want, we have something that might help!! thanks so much again everyone and have a magical time!!🤩
thanks so much again everyone!!🥰now we wanted to say that if we’ve or may ever hurt your feelings or anything is that we’re sincerely sorry, yet this is the way to get to peace and happiness, and that although we all may be very different in cultures, religions, beliefs, and more, but we all have so many things in common too, we’re all humans, we all make mistakes, we even make all the funniest jokes and wanting to have the best time, and etc., and we so far we might not be able to change each other but we can encourage and inspire us to offer suggestions and that we all can be flexible and learn to let go of all of our own ways and quirks for a moment and making something new out of it with others and learn their ways to, to become friends and even family together, and that we feel that harmony is easier than we think; all we have to do is take one moment to reflect and know that we’re not losing anything, we’re gaining the very things that make us a happy world, and that we’re already connected, because we’ve always had that feeling of whether others in the same room as us or who we see or hear about, we experience those feelings and we know when they switch in us and them and that even though we might not care at times, believe it or not, that’s empathy, and that we just haven’t fully realized it and that we all actually already love each other, we just got lost in our own survival and ways is that we lost sight of who our survival was for, our parents, kids, lovers, and friends and those who we have yet to meet, and that sometimes we used that survival instinct and we still do to put others down for being afraid of each other, so we defend ourselves from each other, even when they’ve done nothing wrong and are the nicest and caring people that there are and we don’t realize it, and we’re also harming and have killed others who might’ve had ideas that could’ve helped others and harmonize the world too, yet it’s never too late for change!! let me tell you a story about myself, when I was younger, I actually never wanted to change myself because I was scared and that others around me wanted to change me because they were afraid of what my kindness and compassion would do, and so sometimes I would gradually change until the point, where I’d have emotional problems and outbursts, yet I’d continue to be the caring and loving person that everyone loves me for, and I was more inspired by it to help others notice and realize that we all can learn and grow together, so even when things may seem at their worst or that everything’s gone bad, truth is, we can use that negativity as our strength and natural survival instincts because that’s what they truly are, not an enemy or other people as enemies that we’ve so long thought to be, we can break that toxic cycle of feeling bad about everything, ourselves, and others, and we can all become truly selfless in our world where need more people like that!! together we can solve all of the things that we need and have wanted to for so long; we can find a cure for cancer, money doesn’t have to determine how happy or comfy with our lives can be, killing everyone’s not the answer to overpopulation, bringing our environments to the best they can be and protecting our animals too, and helping to make and save enough food and resources for everyone and more!! why and what are we even killing and hurting each other for anyway!? because of some feud that happened years ago!? a sudden in the moment outburst because we misunderstood or didn’t see just what it was!? is that the kind of life we want and I’ll even ask you one better: is this the current life we truly need!! we’re not saving each other by all this war and misery, we’re killing our lives and possibilities together!! so with that I leave one final question: what are we going to do!? ok so now we’re feeling of continuing with our work and we’ll get back to you soon!! thanks so much again everyone, please feel free to continue sharing and pushing yourself and others to get out of your comfort zone for a better future where everyone’s safe and happy and have a fun day!! 🌈
I’m 40 years old and i have just got my diagnos cptsd. My hole life i just thougt i was to stupid to learn or to remember things but i was trapped inside of my brain i backflashes. I think its unfair that it almost cost me my life. But now i’m recovering and i’m so thankful for that and thank you for this movie ❤❤❤
my mom went through a really hard time when i was in her stomach it was hard when i was born and my dad forced me to be perfect from the get go. he was abusive even before i was born and through out my whole childhood and still now, he’s getting better but that trauma doesn’t disappear the wounds may heal but the memory and scars are still there.
Thank you for making so many tips! Great art!
I love watching psych2go because the drastic contrast between what they are talking about and what is on screen gives me a lot of enjoyment. You are actively talking about trauma and I cant help but look at the among us on the arrow.
Sometimes when I tell my mum what is worrying me she sometimes says you're being silly or it's not the end of the world or it's just a waste of everybody's time worrying about something small and you'll be fine
hehe don't count on her trust me.
@@Sen7513 oh ok
@@Sen7513 did you have a mum like that
@@bellaw-k79 if i wouldn't would i tell you not to trust your OWN mom ?
@@bellaw-k79 on top of that she had the SAME trauma which i helped her with i had 11 years old and i had to listen her being drunk talking about her trauma.When the same shit hapened to me she just...rejected me !
Trauma is very important to deal with and heal. I’ve always shoved my down and never let it out and now here I am, with psychogenic seizures. When I get too stressed/ anxious/ tired my brain just starts to shut off and I start seizing.
Hello I just wanted to say that you've helped me alot with my mental health i love watching your videos and love your content ❤
Take care!❤
Glad to see that the videos could be supportive!~
Hey thank you Psych2go for making this stuff accessible for everyone I love watching your video's because they give me a better understanding about what is happening in the world of psychology!
Thank you for the endless support!
Seriously, seek help - I'm still here and I didn't even know I was traumatised until I collapsed at work.
I want my poor amygdala to go from scared 1:03 to happy and know that everything is ok right now.
The strongest part of our body is our thoughts we become what we think if we say things that affect us in a positive way we'll excel if we say things that negatively affect us well downgrade.
I have childhood trauma but I have an overactive amygdala 🤔
It is for most cases, not all :)
HPA axis disregulation probably
When i'm ready to tell my stories... I'll be a part of that playlist 😌
I swear, every time I start finding interest in a new aspect of mental health studies, this channel uploads a video on it within days. Been looking into the prefrontal cortex for a while now. Always with the wild timing, Psyhc. Good stuff, I guess
I would love to do a study on functional MRI's or CT scans to see how different the brain functions/ looks with people who have trauma. They do this with serial killers and they're physically different than someone who doesn't commit murder.
Remember: You are probably a really kind person, you just do not know it❤❤❤. Speaking as someone who has been heavily mentally abused, by so called friends and family, never being able to share any of my true feelings with anyone, never finding true friends. I have always believed the kindest and most amazing people are those who have gone through the worst stuff in their lives. Take me, like I mentioned above, I have gone through too much, and I have been told so many times that I am the best person someone has ever met. I have extremely strong empathy, I scored a 100 on the EQ test, I love seeing people smile. I love seeing people get so happy when they try my baking, because it makes me happy, knowing that others are happy. Remember: You are probably a really kind person, you just do not know it❤❤❤.
not all parents deserve kids!
Not all people "deserve" to go through forced parenthood neither
@@Dare1427 no, i aint talkin abt teen preg and shit. when a parent is all in for a kid, it aint a kids mistake, its theirs and they shld own it up
@@amrith__________________ neither am I. At least not only. I mean all people who are in whatever situation they're in that makes them keep the pregnancy and bring up a child, even though it's clearly mostly distressful. Can be due to anything. I don't disagree with you, I bet there are people who just suck at parenting and don't need to heal from anything. But I thought we need to
be aware it isn't always only about an innocent child who was hurt by their parents, the parents themselves could have past, be influenced by it. I'm not talking about responsability, since it's too broad at this point. I'm saying all members of the family are people and should be analyzed with equal empathy, not only the children.
Yes, but it doesn't change the fact that we were pretty much defensless at the time
Great video. Please don't forget EMDR and Narrative Exposure Therapy in your list of evidence based interventions for PTSD.
Its hard to forget those things >
yea.
Not even dementia can save you
@@Herobello7141 yup because somewhere in heart deep down the fear is still alive
Just want to leave a nice comment but idk what to say so have a heart ❤
I love your videos!The best videos ever😊
3:33 that whole explanation about having a hard time knowing what could be a bad thing or not is very relatable to me. In my friend group I notice myself asking them constantly if I should be concerned or scared.
Can you please do a video on EMDR and Accelerated Resolution therapy? ART was essential for me understanding my PTSD and recovery journey.
Can you elaborate more on your personal experiences?
Hello Psych2Go team I would like to make a request of making a video on 'Nightmare Disorder' ... I will be very grateful if u make this video I want to know in details what this disorder is (as I have this disorder) and how it can be treated and if there is a home remedy for it....
Thank you!
I just want to be back to how everything once was already
Trauma, a condition where it affects people heavily. It might not show itself everytime but its still there lurking somewhere inside our memories or mind.
I hope you guys are all doing well! ❤️🩹 it might be hard to deal with it but a lot of people are here to support you so keep moving on and on!
Needed this
Thank you Psych2Go for the knowledge. I'm very grateful that I found your channel. I learned a lot about mental health and it's importance. Please continue to provide us with more knowledge regarding mental health..
Thank you for the kind words! Surely, we will keep evolving and finding ways to support the community!
@@Psych2go ❤❤🙌
My ex husband was a total narcissist and my current beau is a partial narcissist. I am currently being traumatized
Ive made my cope running my interpretation of a situation by people i trust, with different personality and positions. I.e. my sister, my boss, my head hk, my friends. If they all agree my viewpoint is inconsistent with what they saw or understand it to be, it helps me realize im having a trauma response. For sure it gives me different ways to calm down and properly figure out if i misread the situation, even if they dont agree. It helps switch off the panic signal, and unlock the what to do about it. Otherwise, I tend to bottle it in because im scared, then fume about it, then blow up or send 16 page texts shorting out. I refer to specific people because their perspectives are all different and I trust them. That's how i know im seeing it wrong for sure, when they are of different types and normally dont agree on anything, and they all give me, independently, the same answer, and they don't interact with each other on any level concerning me... thats a good sign to pump the brakes. Or, that i am correct, and they handle the appropriate response instead of me over reacting
I'm surprised the video didn't mention the Fight or Flight response.
They know exactly what videos to drop, just for me 🥰
right videos at the right time.Happy watching! 🥰
I have been through a lot of trauma and I had gotten to a point I could not feel for others and it almost kind of scared me, like I worried I was becoming a bad person, but I guess it's due to all my trauma
What an awesome video. Thank you
It just explained to me why I jump like crazy at the slightest thing
When I was younger I would slam my head against things till I felt so much physical pain that my emotional pain hurt less but I think that mostly hurt my memory because I cannot remember anything that much anymore
Does trauma can also affect height hormone by any chance?
Im so sorry but the quote about "its not the size that matters its how you use it" caught me off guard and made me think of something else 😭🙏
Very I opening for me. Thank you 😊
Thank u for the info i do have trama so its nice to know more
Thank you 🌹🌷🌺
When I heard "amygdala", I instantly plays in my mind AGUST D's song. Good song for feelings.😅
i actually have trauma, which is from seeing bad stuff on the internet. (aka fetish art and r34) i really hope it goes away. thanks!
❤i was so taught to be so blasted possitive also i dont like confrontation from abusive people,but i have to look at reality and 😅we can feel better you and i ,prayer works too❤
Psych2Go, could You talk about Asperger sindrom? Pleasee
This video is so cool.
What about EMDR therapy? Does that not help process trauma?
YES ….. I found my mother dead in her home after not hearing from her for over a week.
The sight and smell was so traumatizing.
I had emdr therapy and it helped me tremendously.
I would highly recommend emdr to anyone that has been traumatized.
The problem i can see here is what if you don't know the source of your trauma? What if you have such bad memory you can't work around it to feel it out? What if remembering anything, good or bad, can send the person in a spiral of worse and worse memories and feelings to where (if not distracted from these memories) it's potentially dangerous to go on that journey of "recovery"? What do you do then?
If you mentally block and blank out every bad memory you’ve ever had, eventually, your trauma is gone.
Thanks mom and dad
Altough i have trauma cute animals can help me because it makes me feel happy distracting me from my trauma
Is it possible to have your amgyola removed
To those who have suffered from any kind of trauma, I just want to let you know that things will get better, and you all deserve every bit of it 💙😁🩶.
Cut to the chase, how do I fix it?
I have a question. Last night i was asleep, but i was conscious like my body is asleep but my mind isn't, my mind was telling me to wake up but i couldn't, like i was trap in my own sleep or something. I couldn't open my eyes even when i tried to, and then about a few minutes later i was able to wake up. What the heck was happening to me?
I actually get this regularly, but don't have a clear answer as to why that is. In my case, I have a multitude of mental health issues that are going on in a bad way at all times. My therapist, boyfriend, and I have theorized that my brain is overactive and in a near-constant state of fight or flight. My brain can't chill out even for sleep, so my brain is always "on" even when my body is "off". So I get micro-sleeps that are not real sleep, and never feel rested. They've got me on some heavy sedatives for that, and with that I can finally sleep... Mostly. But the moment that starts to wear off, brain is back in fight or flight without me being able to move or do anything about it. If you relate to this video and have PTSD, maybe a good working theory?
Edit: Forgot to mention that my therapist did mention it could be a form of sleep paralysis. Not her jurisdiction to touch on that one, so can't confirm.
@@evelynknight5627 wow thanks for the info. Now I know why that was happening to me
Can you make a video about it and help me solve my love struggle 💓
I am fist ❤ ❤ thank you so much for your all videos😢
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How would Having Aphantasia affect how you perceive trauma. Anyone know?
I can’t tell whether there is something wrong with me or not 😢
I love your videos
I like to draw. I want to be an animator in the future. But the main problem with me is not getting started, it’s that I have this inner voice that keeps on telling me to stop drawing, even though I know I’m not burned out. What can I do to overcome this?
Appreciate the video but... I needed this video yesterday, unfortunately
Do you mind doing one "signs of your not getting enough sleep
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...for GETTING RID of those GIANT SUBTITLES!!! ❤🎉❤🎉❤
Thank you
I dont remember my traumatic events, but I know there were some. Hard to talk about what you can recollect. Im in therapy, though, so maybe they can figure it out.
I found out that I had serve trauma it’s tough to say I was only 3 my babysitter died from a brain tumor she was only 32 she died in front of me me and her were the only ones there about 30 minutes later her husband came home another 3-4 minutes the ambulance came while they were taking her in the stretcher the police took me away and brought me to another friends house about a couple months later my mother found a new babysitter to take care of me I won’t say her name but she would hit me with a belt i don’t know if it left marks or not but she wasn’t the best she would force me outside against my own will yet again I was only 3 and a half I remember that my mother didn’t even know my sister could tell I was being hit but my mother didn’t believe her thats all I’m going to say that hurt me in a way that I’m scared of death and being alone not being able to tell someone okay that’s all .
I will always clap for others until it's my turn 🎉🎉😊😊
I need help idk what to do in my life booth if my parents are fucked up until my childhood I was abused it’s not as bad now but they still don’t do much I feel like I have nowhere to go I’m 13 so I can’t do anything I can’t move out or anything idk what to do
i love this video
I damaged my amygdala now I don't have my ptsd 💔
Unfortunately it's hard to get therapy
I’m NC with my family. They’re the worst of the worst
OMG IS THE COVER A TWDAK REFERENCE?? THE PERSON LOOKS LIKE TAYLOR LEE AND THE ART STYLE IS THE SAME
My prefrontal cortex activated when I talk to women