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My brother said the other day that 'no flag contains pink' and my mind immediately went to the trans flag and my mom backed my brother up and it was hilarious to listen to
if they want one in the political sense: Espirito Santo - Brazil (state flag)
the pink lion on the Spanish flag would like a word with your brother
Even if he's talking about national flags only the flag of Mexico also has pink flowers on the cactus so he's wrong anyway
Don’t forget Demigirl
Many nation flags have hints of pink, like the Spanish lion, or the Mexican flag sometimes having cactus flowers depicted as a redish-pink.
It's the 'assigned female at birth' requirement I'm uncomfortable with. "Non-binary people who feel like they belong in a community of women" doesn't do the "Non-binary is just women-light" stuff that women's groups accepting non-binary people often makes me feel - I might not be but some non-binary folk are fem-aligned - but also requiring AFAB makes it icky, and seems to default to an attitude that our genders are our gender assigned at birth.
THIS
i’m nonbinary and AFAB and currently feel more comfortable in women’s spaces (because i’ve not been able to medically transition yet, and i present pretty fem a lot), but the exclusion of amab nonbinary people is so gross and icky. like…i’m not closer to a woman than they are, they’re as nonbinary as i am. either include all of us, or don’t bring nonbinary people into this. all they had to do, as you said, is just to just say “nonbinary people who feel like they belong in this community” and it’d be all good. but ONLY afab nonbinary people who fit that? gross. nonbinary people aren’t a “lite” or “diet” version of their assigned gender. sure, some might enjoy labelling themselves as that (some days i do feel like diet woman, and find it entertaining to talk about it in those terms), but we as a community shouldn’t be treated like that
@@poisonedkilljoy9304 Exactly! I'm also AFAB and nonbinary, so I love when women's or men's only spaces include nonbinary people because there aren't really any nonbinary people only spaces, but saying only AFAB nonbinary is gross. At least they're trying....?
I think that the problem with that story was that they were circumnavigating a pretty weird blob, it being a women's only college. Seems that they either settled on: either your gender or your sex has to be female (cis women, trans women, AFABs of any kind) which is very weird but at least has some basis in structure, or they appeased grandfather issues (as in: what if someone comes out/turns out as non-binary after performing female beforehand? You would neither want to kick them out nor stuff them in the closet, so this phrasing would cover the edge case.
And yeah, it looks crappy. But the overall change is far better than what you'd expect from "all women's college".
The thing that is being missed is that the "assigned female at birth" part is in the current policy. The student vote mentioned was to expand that to include all trans and non-binary people, including trans men. The vote was non-binding on the college though and I haven't seen anything to indicate what the school plans to do.
Speaking as a nonbinary person myself, Wellesley College discriminating betweeen AFAB NB's and AMAB NB's definitely does feel pretty off, as in this context it very much seems to be implying AFAB NB's are just women and AMAB NB's are just men. It feels like they very much missed the idea of what a nonbinary person is.
OMG what - really? That's kinda stupid lmao
Omg no way! Maybe because AFAB NB are female? And maybe even AMAB NB are male? NO WAY. Man you acting like men don’t have penises. Really? When someone identifies as NB their dick just shrinks and their just flat down there? Stop acting like men dont have biological differences to women.
yeah it's as if they think that nonbinary people lean more in the direction of whatever gender they were assigned at birth, like AFAB nonbinary people are "more female" than AMAB nonbinary people, when in reality someone's sex doesn't make their gender any less relevant. if they're including trans women and AFAB nonbinary people, AMAB nonbinary ppl should be included as well
I agree, although just to play devil's advocate, maybe their thought is that AFABs have some things in common with cis women on the physical side (e. g. reproductive rights issues) that AMAB enbies wouldn't have. Basically trans women have gender in common with cis women, and AFAB enbies have sex in common with cis women, so therefore everyone at Wellesley has something in common with cis women? I'm not saying that's the right way to do it, just that it's possible to find some sort of logic in it if you try.
@@electronics-girl - It's super hard to know where to draw the line in these situations - they have actively tried to be inclusive by expanding their definition of Women in the ways you mention and I think you are spot on with your analysis of their reasoning. If there were only Womens and Mens Colleges then that would still be problematic for Non Binary people but most are Co-Ed so there are plenty of options. I honestly dont think they would have had any real problems had they expanded the definition to include all Non-Binary (except with Right Wing Pundits) but I do understand why they drew the line where they did given they are a Womens College.
Today I had the most gender affirming experience!
I'm enby and in my native language there isn't any gender neutral pronouns, and also literally anything (including nouns, and the word "you") has a gender (only masc and femm...), so I just use all pronouns. I'm not out to my parents, and today we were visiting some old friends, and also some friends of them that we never met were there (including their children), and I was presented to everyone as a girl (because as I said, I'm not out to my parents yet), and I was playing cards with this little boy and one of the adults, and the boy kept addressing me as a boy, so at some point his father tried to correct him and I was like "no, it's alright", and it was very nice😊
((Also my pronouns in English are it/they))
Kids can be so amazing! I'm so glad that little human saw you for the amazing being that you are. ❤ I hope the dad just dropped it after you pointed out it was ok! 😊 You are loved! ❤
on a random note, enby to enby,
using NB as a shortcut actually isn’t the correct shortcut, the correct one is enby, the reason is because NB originally was from that black community and ment non-black, so using it as a shortcut for non-binary takes away it’s original meaning.
:)
-you’re friendly neighborhood gay
as an enby with a native language that has the same rules (czech) i feel u so much, i use basically any pronouns and it's ok when someone keeps calling me by only one variation, but i feel so much joy when someone uses he/him or others i don't hear that often. Thanks for sharing:)
I work in customs brokerage and my brain dead brain can only translate NB to northern border right now.
@@Sh1garak1s_alt I didn't know that, but from now on I will use enby and not NB!
Fun fact: If I'd known what transgender meant and that I was trans as a small child, I would've been Luke or Lucas.
How do I know this? Video games. I remember repeatedly restarting games to change my character's gender, and I would always choose either Luke or Lucas as the name for a male character.
Did you play Pokemon Diamond and Pearl?
I'm not trans but constantly play as male characters, my Simself (Sims 3) is switched to male and named Bo. I play as male in Animal Crossing, Minecraft and all the Choices books I read/play (that I can play as a male, a gay male) but I'm strait.
@@ninjoshday I went by "Nick" (male version of my middle name), but when I got older and finally found out what transitioning was, I did a little research and chose the name Luke. And everyone that either knew me from before transition, or if I'm telling someone I'm trans, they always tell me that it fits me! So I guess I picked a good one. Still not sure if I will even take a middle name though.
@@charlottesmom I have very bad news
@@HelloSpaceDuck , tell me...☺️😊
But seriously, I've been married for 35 years, have three grown sons, dress "female-ish" (I do love oversized comfy clothes and have bought myself exlarge men's hoodies but most of my clothes are ladies stuff). I have no gender dysmorphia I love my female parts, so no trans feelings...I think I just relate more to males, always have, but have no desire to be one. I just think playing games as a male character is fun, males to me are more interesting than females. 👍🏻😊
Shoutout to people who are comfortable with their gender without anyone telling you otherwise. Shoutout to people who are closeted.
Shoutout to people who are mid-transition.
Shoutout to people who questioned their gender, and realized they were still actually cis.
Shoutout to people who never needed to question their gender, because it was so obvious who you wanted to be.
Shoutout to people who get clocked for a gender they're not, but don't feel like they need to change themselves.
Shoutout to people who are nervous of getting clocked for a gender they aren't.
Shoutout to valid, amazing queer people, and valid, amazing allies.
Shoutout to my parents for getting my name and pronouns right even when I was very obviously baked and probably thought I couldn't hear them and wouldn't remember it.
Shout out to the messes, like me I'm genetically intersex and an nb and idefk what that makes me, am I cis nb? Is that allowed? I am confusion
Shoutout to YOU as well for your kind-hearted shoutouts!!
Shoutout to my parents who don't speak english well and sometimes use my preferred pronouns without knowing by accident
@@ConstantChaos1 - Labels don't matter. Sure, they can help to describe yourself. But at the end of the day, you're just you, and you don't need a fancy label to put you into a box of who you are. Identify however the hell you want. That's the beauty of this diverse world. ❤️
Omg, earlier today I had a french exam and my teacher noticed I had a pronoun badge on and asked if I wanted to be referred to as Madame or Monsieur and she was just so nice about it like saying “I hope it’s not too invasive of a question” and stuff like that and honestly it just made my day, like it’s just the little things like that that really make a difference
You're making me wonder now. I know in English I've seen Mx when someone doesn't want to be Mr. or Miss/Mrs, is there a French equivalent? Or do you still have to choose between Mme/Mlle and M if neither really fits?
I actually don’t know, I tend to go by more masculine terms so I picked monsieur, but like I said I have no idea if there’s a word for that
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549French here, sadly there isn't anything. Everything is gendered and there is no nb pronoun.
A part of the community is advocating for "iel", but it's not well received and has little to no hope of ever making it official, imo. Even most french nbs I know don't like iel...
@@GreyPunkWolf Yeah I kinda get why, sounds to my mostly anglophone ear like if you smash "her" and "him" together and get "herm" which soulds kinda offputting, I'm glad in English we at least have a gender-neutral plural, even if I lost marks in high school in the 90s for using it for an unknown singular rather than defaulting to "he" cause I always thought that was an unfair assumption so now I'm happy it's become common. In the same vein, one thing that always irriated me about French plural was how if there was a million women and one man in a group, the group gets male plural. Or at least that's what I was taught thirty-mumble years ago by French-speaking people in Ontario, though the curruculum was Parisian French rather than Quebecker French, I didn't learn that till university :)
I just found out that a brand of packing underwear ships to my country i could not be happier
Amazing! Hope they help!
I'm so glad!! That's awesome:)
Congrats! I hope you'll have a good experience
Congrats I’m so happy for you!
Thank you all i plan on ordering a pair or two after i get my next check
I'm trans masc and I used to hate dresses because they were pushed on me, but I realized they weren't so bad once stopped considering what other people thought looked good on me. I really like sundresses in the summer because they are built for keeping you cool. I did have to put them away when I started transitioning because my mom was having a slow time wrapping her head around this and I didn't want to throw a wrench in it. I do look forward to putting them back on once i have a full beard just to watch people go "but boobs, but beard, but dress, ?????"
😂 It's the best part isn't it?
My housemate and I had a talk about how I wore dresses but I am non-binary. She said I was female due to my clothes I wore. I then pointed out several men, fashion designers, who wore dresses.
She sort of gets it now. I feel like the majority of people my age or older don't get that not everyone who is under the Trans umbrella is wanting surgery or hormones. All I want is peace inside myself. I want to not want to feel like waking up is a curse.
A while back (before my egg cracked), I encountered a "beard and dress" person in the men's room. It took me one or two seconds to process, and then I was like, "Okay, doesn't affect me", and proceeded to go find a urinal.
Becoming a trans masc femboy so you can be a man in dress but not how transphobes think just to extra fuck with their heads
"The pure POWER!"
I celebrate the day I started HRT because fully accepting I was trans and figuring out how that affected me was a very gradual process.
Happy second birthday/rebirthday!
So happy for you😊. Mine is the same day as my birthday 😊
@@juliamrn5812 Happy belated birthday and biHRTday!
I like my birthday date, so intend to count starting HRT as a rebirth, and start exactly on my first birth date.
I will cue up the song Celebration. Let’s get this party started. 🥳
I finally got my bottom surgery a week ago. I feel so amazing in my new body. Thank you for being a bright shining star in my life these last years!!!
Congrats! Hope it heals well!
You feel amazing?? I mean I'm so glad but doesn't it hurt rn? 😭 Regardless I wish you a quick and painless recovery 💙
@@LoveWolf2101 It definitely hurts, but I have good meds. The mental and emotional satisfaction are amazing. So much euphoria!
Hey, good on you, love 🙂
Hope you’re doing alright ❤️
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I remember when I told my friend that my chosen name was Nathaniel and he was like "You have an infinite number of choices and you chose fucking Nathaniel? 😭"
It was so funny, especially when I told him why and he was like "THAT'S EVEN WORSE"
I personally really like the name Nathaniel
I also like the name Nathaniel, but I have my own list of names I hate for no reason
Nathaniel is a perfectly decent name.
For me. I heard my new name from a voice I heard that was calming me down when i was having a panic attack.
I like Nathaniel, tell him your other option was richard so that he thinks you made a very good choice
That taking pronouns one resonates with me bc I lost my pronouns afew weeks ago (figuratively and litterally, I lost my badge and idea of gender😂) so I have started stealing everyone else's, turns out it's acctualy really fun 🤣🤣
😂😂😂 love this!
I finally got to meet my niece recently (via videocall, but we live several time zones apart so it is what it is.) Estrogen is a hell of a drug I tell you because I think I would unironically break into Fort Knox for this most precious of beans. Every little noise she made made me make a corresponding noise that had the neighborhood dogs howling. She's going to have some of the best parents on Earth, and I can't wait to be the crazy aunt from Heck!
Also after over a decade of delays, unforeseeable circumstances, and sudden medical emergencies, my BIL is finally getting top surgery lined up. He's never questioned needing it, bit his life hasn't been the smoothest so he just hadn't been able to get it until recently.
I've seen you comment on other videos but this is the first time I have seen your comment before transphobes flood the replies and your comment made me feel a little bit less hopeless, which doesn't sound like an achievement but it absolutely is.
Omg that's amazing to hear!
Congrats on his surgery! I've been on HRT for almost 17 years. I'm glad he's getting his surgery done! 💚
Thats great news! Hopefully the transphobes will mind their own business for once and not flood this reply section with their bs.
As a trans woman who is almost always wearing shorts or trousers and a T-shirt I take extra offense to the “man in a dress” trope
I’m on the waiting list for the gender clinic in Nottingham!! It’s two years long but it still feels like such a big step and I’m really happy that I’m on my way there :D
Congrats! I hope that things go smoothly for you when that 2 year marker comes around.
Out of all my friends I had before coming out, only one was transphobic. Before he refused to use my pronouns (she/her) until I changed my legal gender (I actually got my new id today), I was already distancing myself because of his sexism and self-righteousness
Edit: everyother friend has been super supportive :3
congrats on the changed ID and supportive friends!
@@TransmascWantsChickenStrips Thank you :)
That one friend is a walking W
@@josephhorn7229 The one who expects his parents to do everything for him and shows off how little he does? The one who thinks there's no thing as sexism? I guess you could be a fan of him. Not doing anything, living off anyone who somehow still cares about him. It isn't a bad live lol, not the one I'd like to live tho (I kinda want to have friends)
@@bioinvasion_ what's machism?
Came out not as trans but as non-binary to everyone I know, and only my mum and dad refused to call me my chosen name and pronouns.
But I love walking in a room and hearing "mornin' Janus" from everyone. such joy
I support you. Janus is a great name
@@GhostW1thTheMost that’s a good one
Janus like the romans god? It is simply perfect... i love it
@Luca Baroni yeah! The roman god Janus, besides my friends love calling me J-anus as a funny joke, and I'm cool with it
@@jamconjax3452 wait, I just looked it up and Janus is the God of transitions. Epic gamer move, sorry about the previous comment.
Funniest shit ever, I actually started T last week and that meme about waiting for the effects just speaks to me lmao. Time just feels too slow when starting out 😂
My dad asked me if my chosen name, Nox (latin for night) was actually a name, having serious doubt about it, which caused me to question it. A few baby websites said it was a female name, but a couple also said it was ambiguous, not that that entirely matters. So fast-forward to me hip-hopping between names and circling back to Nox as my name, the more I get referred to as it at work. The more I'm sitting with it, the more I'm feeling ready to apply for a legal name change.
that is such a sick name!
@@MarimbaBurd thank you!! 🥰
If you want it as a name, then it's actually a name. My roommate changed hers to Kitnoki and is happy. Everyone calls me Typhin, but I plan on using Stephanie as a legal name when I change mine, for a couple reasons. "Typhin" is both an online name and a "for friends" name for me. Stephanie would fulfill the same role Steven does now, it's just a "public" name, and I like the idea of it highlighting how little changed about the person that is "me". I didn't become a totally new person when I came out as trans, I just was willing to show more about what has always been inside.
...That, and because I came up with Typhin back around 1996 before voice chat was popular, I didn't realize that the way it's spelled leads people to pronounce it differently than I did. So people would constantly be calling me "Tie-fin" instead of "Tiff-in". >.
I mean if it makes you happy that seems the most important part to me. Because of the concept of wish names, most common names are nouns anyway
I liked Marimba's comment, but I wanted to say as well: That is such a cool name! 🌟
Sometimes, I feel like Memes can be so educational in understanding certain concepts and nuances.
I mean, when you're having fun while learning you do remember stuff easier. Its why some people remember lyrics of songs they heard years ago but not the name of someone who introduced themselves 30 min ago. At least in my case :P
I think I learn something new each time I watch one of Jamie's videos
With how they've been used to also harass and propagandize, it's a mixed bag.
I made the mistake of looking into a really transphobic comment threat so thanks for cheering me up after that experience
Ugh i can relate to that and that sucks, sending lots of love
Sincerest condoleances for your mood. Glad to hear you're feeling better now!
I like doing RUclips polls, and found one asking what you identify as. The comments were horrible, only 5% put trans or other to :(. Hope you're feeling better.
@@skygazer6082 yeah, this was something similar. I think the question was "should teachers be fired for misgendering their students" (obviously meant as repeatedly and on purpose) and only 5% said yes :/
Got recommended a TERF vid not so long ago so I feel your pain :(
Thank you! I am so incredibly thankful rn. I’m having a breakdown and I just really need smh to distract me and some positivity and your videos are such a safe space for me!
Edit: i finished the video and now there’s a little smile in my face again and I managed to calm down
Sending you warm bear hugs❤
The HRT thing is like a tumblr post I saw a while ago. It was about shapeshifting, and having an intricate tattoo covering your back, but it moved so slowly that it would look practically the same a day later... But weeks in, it looks a little different. Months in, it looks similar the the original, but is overall pretty different. After a year or two, it might as well be a new tattoo.
Buying 365 t-shirts in slightly diff shades so that they go through the whole rainbow in a year, but day to day look identical to most people
Thank you for making videos, as a young trans male who will hopefully some day receive treatment these videos keep me smiling
Okay I'm admit something. I look very young, like I constantly get told I look 12 despite being a full grown adult. So sometimes I use my childlike looks to tell people who look very uncomfortable in where they are that they are really pretty/handsome and ask them if they are a prince/princess. It never fails to make people smile.
Hahaha, I had to wait until after I was a legal adult :D Now, parentless, I'm happy as a clam.
Also, be careful with counselors, they are trained to be against self-checkout and most of them are mandatory reporters! Stay safe, beans.
Self-checkout? 🤔
@@MossyBear yeah.
@@MossyBear As in "unaliving" onesself.
As an afab nonbinary, I wouldn't want to attend a college that would just view me as a woman.
I basically only feel a part of community with women because society has forced me into such a position.
I think if a nonbinary, with any assigned sex at birth, felt like they were part of the womens community, then they should be considered. Not just afabs. Some of us have been trying to escape being viewed as women for years lol
We needed this I’ve dealt with so many dummies in the comment section try to tell me how to be trans even though they don’t know what a trans person truly is .😂
@@dustygania2425 a women pretending to be a woman
@@tiffprendergast nah that's not what it means. maybe get good
@@dustygania2425 "What do you mean "what a trans person is"?"
Again? You alreasy know very well what transgenders are. let us see it once and again, shall we?
Transgender individuals (TIs) show brain-structural alterations that differ from their biological sex as well as their perceived gender. To substantiate evidence that the brain structure of TIs differs from male and female, we use a combined multivariate and univariate approach. Gray matter segments resulting from voxel-based morphometry preprocessing of N = 1753 cisgender (CG) healthy participants were used to train (N = 1402) and validate (20% holdout N = 351) a support-vector machine classifying the biological sex. As a second validation, we classified N = 1104 patients with depression. A third validation was performed using the matched CG sample of the transgender women (TW) application sample. Subsequently, the classifier was applied to N = 26 TW. Finally, we compared brain volumes of CG-men, women, and TW-pre/post treatment cross-sex hormone treatment (CHT) in a univariate analysis controlling for sexual orientation, age, and total brain volume. The application of our biological sex classifier to the transgender sample resulted in a significantly lower true positive rate (TPR-male = 56.0%). The TPR did not differ between CG-individuals with (TPR-male = 86.9%) and without depression (TPR-male = 88.5%). The univariate analysis of the transgender application-sample revealed that TW-pre/post treatment show brain-structural differences from CG-women and CG-men in the putamen and insula, as well as the whole-brain analysis. Our results support the hypothesis that brain structure in TW differs from brain structure of their biological sex (male) as well as their perceived gender (female). This finding substantiates evidence that TIs show specific brain-structural alterations leading to a different pattern of brain structure than CG-individuals.
Source: neuropsychopharmacology -> Biological sex classification with structural MRI data shows increased misclassification in transgender women
@@dustygania2425 And:
However, Riley’s brain didn’t develop as male during gestation and was mapped as female. We know from advances in neuroscience the past few decades that the differences between male and female brains are not insignificant - it influences everything from color perception to taste, scent, emotional reaction, empathy levels, rationality levels, pain tolerance, vocal inflection, and a host of many other factors. This is easy to see on an MRI - male and female brains respond differently to different stimuli. The largest study documenting the extent of the differences between male and female brains was done by Dr. Daniel Amen, who analyzed 26,000 people and found that the male brain has heightened activity in regions “associated with visual perception, tracking objects through space, and form recognition” and are 8% to 10% larger in mass size, while the female brain shows more overall activity, as well as increased blood flow in 112 out of 128 brain regions.
Riley’s parents realized this when they discovered her at 2 years old in the shower holding clippers against her penis saying, “It doesn’t go there.” She kept insisting she was a girl. Sure enough, a lot of medical tests later, that turned out to be the case. That means that, in this case, the physiological sex mapping of the brain is different from the biological sex of the body. Riley’s brain is wired as female despite having XY chromosomes. There is no question about it. It’s a fundamental, scientific, indisputable fact. It is not a mental disorder. She is not confused. Her brain is of the same structure as the typical woman. A century ago, she would have been written off as crazy or disturbed but our understanding of the interesting outcomes of biology now let us know that it’s a very real condition based upon demonstrable facts.
Source: joshuakennon -> The 6 Most Common Biological Sexes in Humans
@@dustygania2425 And:
Thanks to the participation of trans people in research, we have expanded our understanding of how brain structure, sex and gender interact. For some properties like brain volume and connectivity, trans people possessed values in between those typical of cisgender males and females, both before and after transitioning. Another study found that for certain brain regions, trans individuals appeared similar to cis-individuals with the same gender identity. In that same study, researchers found specific areas of the brain where trans people seemed closer to those with the same assigned sex at birth. Other researchers discovered that trans people have unique structural differences from cis-individuals.
Source: Scientific America -> Stop Using Phony Science to Justify Transphobia
I was agonising between 2 names for about a year, worried that I'd pick wrong. Then I spend 2 months in the hospital, and after hearing my deadname nonstop (my friends use a nickname) I just picked one so that I didn't have to hear it anymore. Then I realised how easy it is for an adult to change their name in the UK 😂
Yup it's completely free, you just need the right words, 2 long term friends, and some signatures
@@WolfgangDoW exactly! Admittedly I spent about £4 on some nice fancy looking thick paper, but I now have 10 "original" documents with paper left over (it's fun to print "certificates" on it for kids when they do something especially good haha)
I am super closeted due to community/circumstance. Yesterday I met someone who asked what pronouns they should use for me, an absolute first, and they used they/them in our conversation and I have been crying ever since.
Thank you Jamie for always posting great stuff. It's super appreciated to have a space to feel like myself 💜
hope you find yourself in a better situation someday love. you’ve got a community you can fall back on if you ever need ❤
Fun fact: Vampires didn't have a reflection because the mirrors used to be made of silver. As far as I know, nowadays, mirrors are silver-free so tecnically vampires could have a reflection. So be warned!
But perhaps....... mirrors are portals to other worlds and vampires weren't invited over the threshold???
I thought, it had to do with them not possessing souls (as opposed to living people).
13:27 I'm a cis person, and I still feel that way when choosing usernames and whatnot. I can only imagine how it feels when it comes to your actual name
Unfortunately, I used to choose a username that was based on my real name. Now that my real name is changing, I need to change all of those usernames, but some sites don't let you change your username.
(My username only had my first initial, so if I'd picked a name that started with the same letter, I would have been okay. But I had to go and pick a completely different name, and make things more difficult for myself.)
My username in teens was Elex, long before I knew I was trans
And now my legal name is Alexander lmao
My Unser name for everything is Annabeth because of Percy Jackson, now I’m questioning my gender and idk what to change it to and I can’t change it with my PARENTS and BROTHERs or NEICES(10, live in Texas, homophobic) be like why did you change your username to this😢 so I’m stuck
i mean my user was always based on my name but buuut its a gender neutral name :3
As a cis ally, I watch you and other trans and gender diverse RUclipsrs so I can learn about the stuff I’m curious about without burdening my trans friends with unending questions. That way they can just relax and be friends rather than having to be an ambassador for the trans community.
Thank you for being such a transparent supportive sweetheart.
Supportive of delusion 😂 all you need God, such dark times we’re living in
@@liqourspapi talks about delusion.
Believes in God.
Hahahahahahahaha
I see pun. :3
@@liqourspapi Thank you for making me laugh so hard i spat out my tea.
My friend after I told them I was trans but didn't have a name just said "you look like an Alex." And they were correct but I made it a bit more fancy "Alexander" for the fun but also Alex too
I tried so hard to get my friends and family to help me choose a name, mostly because it sounded like a fun thing to do. None of them would jump in and help T_T
@@NoxBVansyn ah I didn't ask my friends all just got excited and pinned names to me lmao.
@@ShaSha-lex nice lol
I love this comment. I didn't discover that being trans was "a thing" until I was in my late 20's, but when I was in my mid-teens, I had a group of online friends (AOL chat rooms - yes, I'm old) who all decided to play a game where we guessed each other's real names. Most of them said that they thought my name was probably some variation of "Alex" (I was 16 at the time, and am a month from 39 now) and when I came across information about being trans in my early 30's, that is the name I chose. It felt so right for me. Officially, I go by Alexander, but everyone close to me calls me Alex. It always takes me back to my teens ("the good 'ol days") when someone says "Alex!" to get my attention. Names we choose, ourselves, hold so much more power than the ones we're assigned, even (or maybe *especially*) when we had/have friends who guided us toward the name we chose.
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@@AlexanderStark This comment thread is driving me nuts because I have a favorite character in a video game that is named Alexander. Every repetition of the name makes me smile harder.
The trans wallpaper one was too true LOL I have both an ace one (home screen )and a trans one (lock screen) on my phone. So far, I've had the wallpapers for at least a year and not one person has commented on them. Not sure if I'm sad about that or not. Would be an interesting conversation starter.
I was walking towards a crossing and the person in front of me had one of those city name souvenir bags, except in trans colours. I kind of wanted to make a comment, but it felt like I could have easily made them feel unsafe and the green man showed up before I could come up with anything. So maybe you were spotted, but the chance to comment didn't arrive.
I got my T prescription yesterday only for that time of the month to come the next day...
I feel like I've been hate crimed by my own body...lol
I just got my first binder and when I put it on I was crying happy tears. I thought, “I look like me!” It took so long to get to this point and I’m glad to have had Jamie help crack my egg 😊
Cis/het grandmother of five standing with you. I will stand with you with my vote, my voice and hugs.
thank you bildgesmythe
As a trans woman the one about laser hair removal is very familiar, as I have just come back from my third bout of treatment on face and neck.
Not super painful, definitely known worse, but as it is constant for the best part of a hour, it was bad enough.
If currently feels as if I have been out in the sun for a little too long, not quiet sunburn, but nearly there.
Just the thought at I will be beard free at the end makes it worth it and keeps me going back for more.
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Trans people are valid, non-binary people are valid, gender fluid people are valid. Everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community are valid.
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Idk i feel like Jeffrey Dahmer wasn't super valid with the whole eating people part but otherwise I get what you mean
Thank you :D
With the last one, my girlfriend (MTF) has one legal name and two additional names that she also goes by. So, yes, she found two other names that fit her.
personally i (nonbinary transmasc) went for the “i’ll change my middle name too! and sometimes go by that because i CAN!” this has also led to some hilarious moments in starbucks where it has been misheard. My middle name is Quinn, i use it pretty frequently, and i have been referred to as “Quinnie” (this is new. I am also autistic, so…i guess they clocked that?), “Will” (no idea how that happened), and also, somehow…”Twink”. This one confuses me the most
I changed my name and midle name. I would like to use my midle name as a nickname, it might however be too dificult to say
Hearing you talk about the difference between gender identity and gender expression made me feel so validated as a nonbinary person who likes pink and skirts and jewelry and dresses and just cute things in general
As a trans woman who has not changed her name, nor made any plans to do so beyond idle musing, that bit at the end spoke to me. My name is me, because I've grown into it. Sure, I've never met, or even heard of, another woman who has my name. Sure, it's a 'male name'. But it's also a female name, because it's my name, and that makes it a female name.
If you’re a trans person in the US (especially Missouri and Florida) having your rights to gender affirming healthcare taken away and need assistance, here are a couple of places to look up:
-Trans Resistance Network (help getting HRT after the ban, relocation assistance within another state.)
-Rainbow Railroad (relocation assistance for trans/ lgbtqia+ people worldwide being targeted by their government)
(Unfortunately I can’t include links, but know there are people out there who very much want to help you!)
I dont remember the UN saying that gender affirming care is a human right. Wanna know why? Cuz it isnt! Water and food is a human right. Affirming to delusions isnt.
There's for sure going to be a ban? Or just something being voted on? Because if it's gonna be a ban, I need to get refills for my T. And then I guess I'll figure out how to get it shipped here.
I started transitioning in 2006. Up until I got on disability, my dad was paying for my hormones. I got them from a pharmacy in Oregon, and they shipped to me in Texas. Needles, syringes, T, and they even include alcohol wipes! I think it's called something else now, but it used to be called Strohecker's.
Also, I've been going to the same Drs office long before and after transition, they prescribe my hormones. Funny enough, in 2005 my therapist gave me a list of maybe 10 doctors that would be trans friendly and not question it with the letter from the therapist. I look on the sheet, and my doctor was already listed on there! I said hey, that's the Dr I already see. Sweet. And unless it's some kind of law he'd be breaking, he'll always write for my T shots. And if for some reason I have to go to the Dr to get it, it's like a $1 copay for me to get a shot. I've been doing it myself though for almost 17 years, so if I had them do it, that would just be me being lazy lol.
@@nincure Hey there- there is to be a ban, for sure, in Missouri specifically, starting tomorrow. It’s actually something that shouldn’t be able to happen, but it is. It’s being called an “emergency order” done over the heads of the legislature in Missouri by the Attorney General, and doctors providing the trans healthcare are complying for fear of losing their licenses.
It’s written in such a way that it affects *all* people (adults and kids) in Missouri receiving gender affirming healthcare because there are a number of catch-22 type clauses stating that you must have been diagnosed with “extreme persistent gender dysphoria” for three years to get any HRT/ surgeries…but…you also can’t have any other mental health diagnoses-especially not ones that people with gender dysphoria experience as a result of having gender dysphoria-like depression or anxiety that is unresolved.
So if you’re depressed because you can’t get HRT or need affirmation surgery, you can’t get that affirmation healthcare. You also can’t have any neurodiverse diagnoses like autism, and you need to be tested for autism and be deemed not to have it also to receive gender affirmation care. (Btw people with gender dysphoria are 6 times more likely to be neurodiverse than the general population) It’s a really basically shutting down anyone seeking GAHC from getting that care. Some are saying there may be a “grandfather clause” stating if you are already receiving HRT, you may continue taking it, but from what I have heard this may or may not be the case, or may depend on how concerned your doctor is about treating you. (Additional place where you can learn more details below.)
As far as I’m aware this is currently only happening in Missouri, but I know some other states are also trying to pass similar laws through legislation- some affecting only people under 18, and I think some are also trying to restrict adults.
Florida and Montana I know are currently trying to pass GAHC restrictions. Florida specifically is also trying to take trans kids away from parents and guardians who are supportive of their trans/ enby kid’s gender-which is is honestly horrific. I very much hope you are in a state that isn’t currently trying to cut us off from our healthcare, but you should probably check. I can’t post links, but if you go to the “Them News” website, and scroll through their “news” section, there should be an article listing the current anti- trans legislation that is in various state legislatures at the moment. “Everything That Happened in Anti-Trans Legislation This Week: April 15-21” is the headline.
Also the ACLU should also have more information by searching “ACLU anti-trans legislation”. If you are in one of those states, beginning a plan to first be able to access treatment/ prescriptions is a good idea (check out the Trans Resistance Network website) as well as making plans to relocate to another state is also a good idea.
There’s a trans guy RUclipsr from Missouri who has a couple of videos detailing what’s going on there and how to get help as well. His channel is: trans_catdad . His videos on this subject also provide a link to details on the specifics of the Missouri order. Very much wishing you the best and hope you continue to be able to access your HRT/ other healthcare!
@@Justarandomguy654 I see no "delusions" here. Trans people have a pretty solid body of research behind them.
Human rights include that to healthcare, you know?
@@Justarandomguy654 how about you educate yourself before talking about shit you clearly dont understand.
I've been on HRT for 13 years and for 13 years I've celebrated my birthday on the day I started HRT.
I once explained for like 15 min to my coworkers what a deadname is and especially not to ask someone for their deadname and they were like yeah ok. Turn around literally 1 second later "but what's your deadname?" And were offended when I said first name nunya last name business. Like did you not absorb anything I just said? It's one thing to use me instead of Google it's another to completely ignore what I said...
That first meme reminds me of buying my late trans son his first binders online. He approached me very hesitantly about it & was so relieved when I just grabbed my debit card & said "Okay, you fill out the order & let me know when I need to put the card numbers in..." He'd only told me about the existence of binders a few days before, but I listened between the lines. I'd been buying him boys & men's shirts, trous, & pants for a couple years at that point. I know I made many, many mistakes trying to trans parent, but at least I was able to be somewhat okay about gender affirming clothes.
IMO, if they're accepting non-binary people who feel they belong in a community of women, Wellesley (or any other community of women) shouldn't care how those enbies were assigned at birth. That's the WHOLE POINT.
I'm in favour of men (trans & cis) wearing dresses or skirts if they want to, or not. Same with enbies & women (trans & cis). Same with trousers. People should deck themselves in the garb that makes them happy &/or works with whatever goals they're trying to accomplish. So, maybe not a great idea to wear a ballgown & run a marathon if you're trying to cut down your time, but hey, you do you!
Love love LOVE "Trans rights or I bites" with a kitty -- now I want to see it with a Tyrannosaur!
I was SO HAPPY when I finally figured out I had the right name. Yes, it's actually Starry. That *IS* my name. It's just not my legal alias or any of my long string of dead names. I gave my child FIVE names, hoping that ONE of them would be right. Since he wasn't assigned his real gender at birth, none of them were. So he found his own name, which happened to be on my short list of names for a boy...
Much love to you & Shaaba!
I've recently read a good reasoning why transphobes hate being called cis.
Since they use trans as an insult, cis feels like and insult to them too
Damn.... Never thought of it that way
Cissies...
I have been watching this channel for at least a year now and somehow still had a moment at the beginning when he said, "I'm trans" where I was like, "What--you are???" I don't know where my brain went, someone help me.
Also, I was admiring the beard. It looks especially good in this video. c:
There are days when I'll have some nasty dysphoria going on and then I've got to avoid mirrors, but it brings me the slightest amount of joy (although not enough to outweigh the dysphoria sadly) because I feel like a vampire trying to avoid detection
these positive meme videos are always so fun and healing. I've just had to move back in with my family after 4 years living independently so I'm dealing with getting deadnamed a lot again. but I've noticed whilst my mum will consistently deadname me, my dad will only use the nickname he's had for me since I was a kid when my mum is present. but when my mum isn't around my dad has been trying his best to get used to using my chosen name. he's even apologised to me about the fact I'm having to deal with more dysphoria being home again around my mum. she is learning. slowly but surely and is getting more understanding about me wanting to go on HRT but she still refuses to use my chosen name despite getting better with other things. thank you for always being so bubbly and entertaining as it always makes me feel better being able to relax and watch your videos.
I definitely need a "trans for dummies" book 😂 ive been trying to figure out how to get my name and gender marker changed for ages, but its so confusing.
i don’t know about books but there are good websites out there that have state by state info (if you’re from the US)
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Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are!
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@@dustygania2425 egg! Same old reply to my same old comment! We are so predictable! See you again on Sunday!
thank you. i needed this today.
Im do my best, also i just sleep 6hrs the past week :^
@Jammidodger Bless you for what you do! I genuinely fear for the safety of trans youth in this country, especially Florida... I hope we can overturn these bigoted laws ASAP!!!
Since I asked my parents to pick out a new name for me (to involve them in a positive way in the process), I can tell people, "I'm so good, they named me twice." 🤣
7:00 As The Click could tell you, "blåhaj" is pronounced /blow'high/. In Swedish, like in German, "j" represents the /y/-consonant. So "haj" is /ha/+/y/, which sounds something like /hai/. The Swedish letter "å" _does not represent_ any of the vowels we spell with an "a" in English! It's actually an "o" … specifically, it's the English vowel, "oa" [as in "boat"]. so "blå" would be spelled "bloah" in English and pronounced /blo/. Lastly, "blå" is Swedish for "blue", and "haj" is Swedish for "shark".
[BTW: The German word for "shark" is, „Haifisch“, pronounced /hi fish/ in English. So yeah, its cognate across the continental Germanic languages.]
i got a lot of love for jamie and this whole community. i got top surgery yesterday and it went super well. y’all have been such a gem ❤
Congratulations 👏
1:13 I had a friend who’s phone background was an uno reverse card trans flag. I inquired about it, and they had no idea. “It just fit my phone aesthetic.”
My appointment to start HRT process is on May 11th! So excited. ❤ Love you and Shaaba!!
Let’s celebrate. 🥳
And I know it doesn’t have as much as an impact as it would from parents. But I’m really proud of you for following your heart. Just remember. We are all here and we’re all supportive of you.
Right before this video I got an add for some junk removal business and it said “we make junk disappear, all you have to do is point”. I am currently dying of laughter lol
That moment where you get the problematic question "You're such a pretty woman why would you want to be a man?" But you're a transwoman so it means you're passing but also you acknowledge that passing isn't required.
That last one! I have a friend that it’s so hard to tell stories about because I have to pause and be like “what’re they going as now”
When you have trans friends that you’ve known for 5-10 years
7:44 To quote Lucille Bluth: “If that's a veiled criticism about me, I won't hear it, and I won't respond to it.”
When Jammie said 'Jammie has been my name for 12 years' I legit thought for a second that he's 12 before my brain reminded me that's not the case xD
Dang, Jamie's younger than I thought he was 🤣
5:08 Only accepting “afab nonbinary ppl” is 🤢🤢🤢 it’s like, “only accepting a binary nonbinary person” like it’s stupid. It’s best to accept ANY nonbinary ppl and let the individual decide if they want to be in a woman centered space. For some ppl it can be really validating or comforting. But for some nb ppl it’s like… really dysphoria inducing or just feeling erased. The only time it’s appropriate to bring up my agab is in my biography or if I’m talking abt my transition details etc. NOT a deciding factor of what spaces I can enter. Thats the POINT of nonbinary. NON binary.
7:38 replace the last panel with agony for me because the stupid biology teacher wouldn't let me go to the restroom to take it off lmao. I can't tuck anymore ):
My school is making steps forward and backward in trans acceptance that they cancel each other out. 🏳️⚧️
This is a neutral statement, just like the progress were getting
I have a friend at Wellesley College. There was a whole big to-do about trying to hash out the best language regarding trans folks in its admission policy. I wouldn't say that they nailed it, but there was a genuine effort to be inclusive. Plus the entire campus was overrun with trans pride posters and such during these talks. They even had a sit-in in the science center in support of trans and enbie students.
Glad to hear it was out of genuine effort though😌
I love the wholesome video. I am not feeling exactly great at the moment, so this really made my evening. Thank you for that :)
the name one is so relatable lolololol, I had an intermediate name for like ten years before I became Noel
I don’t know why but I love the way Jammi says Squidward lol
Jamie's publisher suddenly calls "Dr Raines, do not change your name again or we'll have to reprint all your books and that will be a HUGE pain!"
Also the invasive question thing reminds me of one of my favourite moments in Supergirl where she completely screws up babysitting Kat Grant's son because she's having trouble juggling too much shit and she asks Kat how she does it, and her incredibly pissed off response is the perfect summary of the problem even if it's a different context: "Congratulations Danvers, you have just hit on the most BORING question I have ever been asked in my entire career. 'How do you have it all?' It's like learning to juggle. You start with 2 balls, and add them as you grow comfortable."
That mirror thing tho, oof.
I worked, briefly, at a call center with a very gendered businessy dress code, before transitioning.
One of the tips they gave us was to put a mirror on our desk to make ourselves smile while talking, and the thought of doing that just made me cringe so hard inside. Like... it's not bad enough dressed like someone I'm not, working a job that I hate, now I have to look at myself the whole day while doing it? No thank you.
I got a giant plush Togepi instead, that worked much better than a mirror at making me smile.
Togepi's a great pokemon
there are 4 Ikea's in the entire state of Texas (you can fit 2.8 UKs in that space). "going to another one" can be a 6 hour drive
9:48 "It's like three hours later, why is my voice not dropped yet?" 🤣
My friend uses mirror pronouns (they use the same pronouns as the person they are talking to) and he jokes about stealing peoples pronouns and becoming their gender doppelganger 😭 Love him but I also want my pronouns back
Endured a lot of transphobia today, had a panic attack and an autistic meltdown. I'm gonna have a self care day tomorrow, I need it.
Fellow autie here. That sounds rough. Take your time and do whatever you need to take care of yourself :D
My first experience choosing my own character, like customization in a game was when my cousin allowed me to start my own sims game in his computer, 12ish yr old me was just like IM CHOOSING THE GUY and I made him ripped and I was happy, looking back I definitely should've realized I was trans way earlier based on other trans experiences I had growing up
Hey Jamie, just wanted to let you know that BetterHelp and Pride Counseling have been leaking patient information. I very much appreciate you bringing opportunities such as those, but they may not be safe.
When Cis people ask me intrusive questions, I gently ask them intrusive questions. It leads to some interesting conversations.
ooh got any examples? id try that strat
@@babs_babs you are awesome, mate. Keep up the good work.
@@pathevermore3683 hi again admitted transphobe. Remember when you openly said you were transphobic? Oh how about the time you supported conversion theraoy? Oh what about that line about how you admitted you were a troll.
I've been Diana since 1997, a 1/4 of a century ago. almost 2 decades before I actually came out and transitioned. Every so often there's still that little voice that questions it.
I'm surprised how many people have problems with name changes when so many people do it when they get married and people don't have a problem with it, but if we're trans, they almost don't believe a person can change their name for any reason?? I didn't like mine, I changed it, 'nuff said! if I got married (like those annoying magazine subscriptions that put me on a mailing list forever) I apparently got married and became Mrs. Moon instead of them listening to me and put Mr. Moon! I still, to this day, haven't gotten the mess figured out no matter how many times I call them. I gave them 2 years to update my name and gender in their database.
1:03 jokes on you, they're the same day for me
Before I was out at work, a coworker asked me for my pronouns, so I felt safe telling them. They immediately said "ok, so you want to be a girl." They are amazing but I did feel that squidward meme.
One of my approaches to asking someone more about their lifestyle/condition/etc., especially on the internet, while being respectful has always been “are there any resources that provide good and accurate information about xyz?” I like to think that this provides someone an opportunity to help educate the question asker as well as generally provide resources that could answer other questions that may follow. Also, I feel that it shows genuine interest in knowing more about that topic as a whole and not just that individual’s experiences.
*On Wellesley:* They're like "Yay! We support the transes now
When the blahaj one came up I held up mine cause I happened to be cuddling it as I was watching this
3:12 Everything Everywhere All At Once. Also, if this was a real book, I’d send it to people.
"Do the thing" got me to laugh.
Coming back to this video every time I get a like. Because it makes me happy and I'm slowly dying knowing my state is making my existence illegal and I could be k*lled any day.
I love all my lgbt+ community and my allies who are outraged about this. Hope to make it out of this state before it's too late. ❤️
That sounds so scary. Sending you all the best!
@@ninjoshday Thank you!
My egg hatching day was actually on my best friends birthday coincidentally. He was so supportive and happy for me. We have a running joke that (deadname) got him the gifts and I just showed up with nothing. Gotta do my best next year to show her up. 😂
7:07 bro I'd deck a kid for a blahaj.
When I was asked about "the surgery" I just info dumped every surgery I can think of then find vids of said surgery
Your channel is what helped me understand that gender identity and gender expression are separate things. I'd previously thought I couldn't identify as agender, regardless of how I felt, because I wasn't willing to cut off my long hair to look more androgynous. In hindsight, I realize that is very silly.
I’ve been having a dysphoric day today, along with my local pride being cancelled so I can’t witness the beautiful queer joy I love so much and not being able to buy anything Pride related or anything to ease my dysphoria (as my parents don’t accept :(( ), but I’ve been binge watching your videos and you always make me feel like I’m able to survive this and manly enough and it brightens my day SO MUCH!! Thanks so much Jamie, I love you so much!! -Lucian (He/They/Xe)
Love the video and just wanted to say that your hard fought battle for the beard is being won. It's just getting better and better with each video uploaded.
Love you Jamie!!💛💛🥔🥔
11:04 Oof, called out 🤣. I chose my current phone wallpaper because it has nearly all of the non-binary colours, in the correct order, without straight up being the non-binary flag 🤣 also it's ~glittery~