The Truth Behind Soft Living | The Art Of Slow Living In Autumn | What Is Soft Living About
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- The truth behind living a soft life
Life is not about living without hardships. Having it easy. Never struggling for a day. But living despite hardships. Despite the struggles. Together with them - that's the true beauty behind soft, slow living.
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I went out to my secret garden last week to film this video. It's my safe space, a space where I barely ever meet any people as many don't seem to know about this park. There is a university nearby, but no students or teachers ever visit this place which is right at their doorstep.
It's wild and beautiful. Water lilies bloomed in the middle of September. Droplets of rain shone bright on the petals, yellow birch leaves dotted around on the surface pond.
Red kite's serene mewing in the sky, a light flutter of dragonfly wings at my feet. It was magical, beautiful, and it seemed that only I will ever get to see this beauty. I wanted to share it with you. If I can't take you to my secret garden physically, maybe I can share the atmosphere of it through the screen.
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Filmed on: Fujifilm XH2S with 33mm f1/4 lens
Edited with: Premiere Pro CC
Music: Epidemic Sound
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Hi friends,
This is a slightly different type of video the text for which I wrote in a spur of a moment after many comments about how unrealistic the life I show looks.
I wanted to address it.
The fact is, all of us experience our own hardships, all in our own way. Someone showing a beautiful life on a surface doesn’t mean they don’t experience moments of darkness.
But it’s the light that I personally want to share. The beauty I seek and find all around. Not an ultimatum, saying that this is the only life anyone should lead. But a source of escapism, the escapism that exists in every mundane detail of our lives. I don’t go to magical places. I don’t live in the most beautiful area. I seek and search beauty everywhere I can because it makes me feel better amongst my depressive thoughts. And do it for those, who might be in the same place as I.
I want to start sharing more realistic aspects of life. Share even more of the mundane, less staged. I’m not sure if you’d be interested in that. If you have anything that you’d like to see and know - please comment below!
I found your channel just last week. I like your aesthetic taste and the production quality is good. I like that it is dreamy and full of poetry, I don't want to see too much mundane stuff, but a little would be interesting. What do you do for work?
I live off grid in a remote high desert environment (over 2 years now). very slow, soft, and quiet living. not without difficulties! I can identify some shared values between us.
😊 Dear Daria, we wouldn't be here if we didn't love the thoughts you so beautifully put into images, music and words! Personally, I can tell you that your videos are being essential to find my own moments of softness. Actually, they're part of them! 😉 And of course, the mundane is also charming and interesting, and will be welcome if you feel so inclined! (Now I'm intrigued 😉) Thank you again! 🙏🤗
Your videos are sooo special because they are our daily scape and daily reminder to find beauty in the mundane... things that should be as thuth as the daily grind.. we just have it all worng so absorbed with caos that things as beauty in daily life is something to call unrealistic.. may god help us all!
Hi Daria, I only recently disco discovered your channel, and I immediately subscribed. Your videos are soothing and bring calmness to my hectic days, and I love watching them. Keep going my friend, you are truly an inspiration. ❤
I would definitely be interested in the more mundane aspects! Or a mix, or whatever you feel inclined to make. Such a beautiful video and so soothing to another melancholic mind...❤
I agree with you 100%, Daria. You are wise beyond your years. I'm 78 and still learning, still struggling to find balance. But I am happy and contented in my slow, peaceful, quiet life. I can't tell you how many of your videos speak to my heart, and how many of them are so relatable to me. Thank you.
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Life truly is a dance of shadows and light. While we can't always control the music, we can choose our steps. There's no need to focus on hardships, I think because where focus goes, energy flows. I'm also always drawn to the radiant moments and the beauty in the everyday. It's what makes life so special. 🍂✨
You said it so well! 🥰
thank you ❤
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You expressed my thoughts so eloquently. These videos inspire me to find the beauty in my own life. Life is hard; life is beautiful; life is good
life is about surviving, resilience, nurturing and most of all noticing. paying attention... if we pay attention to reality of the moment it is magical
So, so true!
I find I am most happy and living in softness when I'm creating something. It can be as simple as sitting on my couch, crocheting with my cat next to me, or sewing a new dress in my sewing room. Writing in my journal or just sitting in the back yard reading a cozy book. We are the only ones responsible for our happiness, that is so very true. I find it so profound that there are so many people in this world, but the only one we are truly aware of is ourselves.
Hello Daria ☺. I don't often comment but just wanted to say that you should indeed keep sharing 'the light'. I have just turned 71 and I have been through so much these passed 2/3 years, which included the pandemic! You're right of course, we all have our struggles, dark moments! SO! Lets just share the lighter moments here, art, poetry, literature, nature, all the things that help us to mend. I don't do any other social media (because a lot that is what I find
unrealistic and depressing). However, I do watch the odd 'lighter' vlogs like yours, so thank you. With bright Autumnal blessings 🍂🍁🍂🍁 love & peace xx
This is such a great video and a powerful message to all. I think we all want and crave a slow and soft living, I know I do. Unfortunately we also have to deal with reality, bills, buying food, cleaning, yard work, laundry, etc but I remind myself that if I can find some peace and tranquility each day, try to increase when I can then it’s better than none. I think we all need a soft space to land each day, peace in our hearts and time to reflect. One of your best videos yet and I love them all. You remind us that we are just human❤
It’s good to be reminded to take time off for ourselves. We all go through tough challenging times where problems seem to be endless. Fortunately for me I’ve always been very curious so when I take a walk in nature I’m so absorbed with my surroundings that I lose myself and find inspiration to paint or create. If I’m not doing that I’m gardening or if the weather doesn’t permit I’ll bake or read. Having a project, however small, is therapy and allows you to refocus. It’s not so easy if you have a young family and requires great effort and discipline but as you say so eloquently it’s so important.
It kind of baffles me when people hear a fact about a person and just assume that their whole personality is wrapped around this one particular thing. Most of the time it's connected to profession and it's a ridiculous notion to think that nothing else, different or even contradicting might be of interest to that person. Just because you're a doctor or a teacher doesn't mean that you live a saint like pure life devoid of any vice. Just because you're a personal trainer that doesn't mean you live inside of the gym and don't have other interests. Just because you're an artist it doesn't mean that you have no struggles or any concern about the material world.
One particular label (profession) does not describe your whole existence, there's more to each and every one of us.
Beautiful video and thank you for sharing this. Love what you did with the visuals, music and your voice, somehow it sounds extra nice in this video :) well done!
Thank you!
I agree a lot with this. The question about profession is almost centred in our lives - understandably so, as work is so vital to our existence. But so is everything else. A lot of people base their opinions about what you “do” or how you present yourself without much exploration or peeling off the layers
Thank you for your deep honest and beautiful video❤️. Yes, Life is the balance between dark and light moments and I always have to fight for my soft, light moments but if I have them after a dark periode, I can see and feel them soo much brighter and lighter and appreciate them so much. It's a deep gratefulness in me, that comes from knowing very hard times and feelings. I love to read under a tree, walk with my dog in the morning or evening sun, breathing slowly and watching every tree, every flower I can. I also enjoy watching a Netflix serie or a good movie under my blanket. It's always the balance like you say❤️
It’s a work in progress all the time, isn’t it! Finding what makes you happy and adding it into your every day is definitely a path to that softness 🥰
"Your Videos Are Beautiful! Thankyou For Sharing From Your Heart!"
Hi Daria, I hope you are well. I'm so glad you talked about this topic today. Its very interesting how people see other peoples lives. I'm in two minds regarding RUclips influencers. Being an "Influencer" can be a dangerous situation to be in. I find most influencers portray a very misleading way of life. They only ever show the perfect life which is so unattainable for most of us. It can be very triggering for some. I have deleted so many RUclips subscriptions for this reason. On the other side of the coin i do still watch certain influencers for a total escapism from the "real word". Sometimes we just need to take ourselves to a different place and live our lives vicariously through others. I come to your channel for the aesthetics and the sheer peace i feel after watching one of your videos. As in life everything is about moderation and what is realistic in order to live a content life without the smoke and mirrors. I could talk about this for ages but i'll leave it there and just say that i thoroughly enjoy your channel for the right reasons for me. Have a great rest of the week.
I wish I could write this comment as beautiful, articulate and meaningful as the person who made this video. But unfortunately I’ll never have the words that would describe how it made me feel. So much of these thoughts are my own, and now I understand why a slow life or slow living just didn’t seem like I could have it. Each time I tried it was harder than just living hustle culture. This insight has inspired me to try again, this time looking at the in between moments. 😊
I have nine children and live in the countryside. It is a challenge to live slowly in a large family. I love your honesty in this video. We can find moments to live slowly. ❤️
I find the beautiful videos you create help me to escape to a very quiet and relaxing place in my imagination. It is of great value and when I go to sleep I then am able to picture in my mind a peaceful walk by the river, the wildlife I saw, the birds in flight and most of all how the sunlight brightens the paths that have been in shadow. Thank you so much Daria for making a big difference to how we see the world, there is indeed so much tranquility and hope, we need to stop and notice it all. It takes some effort from our self to be happy, it like many things in life, takes time to nurture and grow.
This feels like what I aim for, life isn’t always perfect but we can be grateful for the perfect moments and we can create magic in even the darkest times
I love the haunting beauty of your videos and narrative voice.
I believe that people who were in the darkest places in their life, are also able to show the light much better.
Living a slow, simple life doesn't mean that there will never be boring bits. The chores still need doing, the bills still need paying, but what does change is your mindset. Emptying the dishwasher or doing laundry isn't the highlight of my day, but being intentional with the task, noticing, and being present helps to lift the mundane into something more. Actively seeking the magical, the extraordinary in the ordinary world around us is what elevates life. It takes effort every day, but it is so worth it. Seeing someone else working through it too helps so much. Your calm wisdom serves to reinforce my choice to live this slow, simple life, and I find contentment and enjoyment watching your beautifully crafted videos. You are not alone in these choices. Many of us are also on the same journey, my friend.
Beautiful content! I enjoyed iz very much!
😊 To me, life is what happens while we wonder how to live. Unfurls itself around us, full of many forms of beauty we are often too busy to appreciate. The soft life means to be able to stop and pay attention to those precious moments, as you said, the moments in between. But life is, indeed, very much about balance, because even the most beautiful things cannot be seen or appreciated without contrast. Like the beautiful golden oak tree leaf over green branches, and the delicate pale yellow water lilies floating on dark water. They wouldn't stand out to catch our eye if everything around them was the same colour! 😉 By the way, I loved how you took us visually from the Water Lilies and Japanese Bridge of Monet's garden in Giverny (on that print in your home), to an actual pond full of real water lilies.😍 And I'll write down that wonderful quote from Mary Oliver, right now! 👍 Very beautiful and meaningful video, Daria! Thank you so much!! 🙏👏👏👏😘
Thank you for the video ❤ It helped me so much. This is exactly what i needed
Me too❤
Thank you for watching! 🥰
Thank you for making this. I often watch cottagecore-style, slow living videos to relax with a cup of tea, but I sometimes wonder how these people can bake cakes and pick flowers all day! It's nice to see there is the other side of work and chores also. I find balance by prioritizing daily walks outside (weather permitting) and doing art (when I find time). I wish life could just be that, but that's not reality. I love your videos, thank you for making them for my little moments of relaxation.
A very truthful video. Realistic and not trying to make life look perfect and super calm. Its not the real world. Making the best of what you have with those you love, enjoying perfect moments , calm moments and not so calm.
Counting our blessing and being grateful🙏
Amazing video! Blown away by the quality of your videography and the message in this one was much appreciated! Well done and keep going. I love how you manage to capture the beauty of England and make rain look cosy :) Looking forward to your next ones
Hi Daria, your videos are a beautiful reflection of your heart. They may require a lot of work but in the end, you create beauty in this world and we're all very fortunate to be allowed to witness it! So, thank you!! ☺ I often say that despite the setbacks or the hardships, life will always show you what you're willing to look at.
This video is fantastic, and it's genuine. Having lived a rural life alone for more decades than i will admit, there are some tough challenges, very tough challenges, and they are anything but pretty. You often find the slow and soft times but just as often you have to carve them out by turning your back on the long list of things that need to be done to maintain that life. ❤
EFFLORESCENCE
There are no guarantees
along the way
a windstorm
heavy rain
scorching heat
and the grand finale is cut -
but not every time
with cool watering
golden light
and tender care
a green bud
takes shape
to become
a glorious
efflorescence
more perfect
than a dream.
You are right to live in the in-between.❤
I loved this video thank YOU
Hey 👋 I'm your biggest fan From India 🇮🇳 . I love all your contents ❤❤ It's a positive experience.. I love England 🇬🇧. Sorry! My English is so bad 🥺 please don't mind.. but trust me I'm your Biggest fan forever.. 😌😌💞💞🕊🕊
Don’t worry about your English 😊 Thank you so much for watching!
I got goosebumps, very beautiful thanks
You are very wise! You are living the dream!! Thank for your wisdom & sharing all this beauty, you are a true inspiration!! Your videos have helped restore my soul. God bless you! 🧡🍂🍄🍁
(1:43 - 2:05) This is what many of us experience. Hence the value of stopping by this audio-visual poetry that you offer us. 🕸🍁🌹🍒
Cuanta belleza hay en la naturaleza la pena es que por el ritmo de vida que llevamos no nos paremos a verla.
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Thank you for providing these regular, beautifully edited videos so that others can escape with you. I know that you put a lot of work into these videos (it often takes hours to edit them), so I just wanted to say thank you for showing us so much beauty while still being honest with us about your life + struggles.
Thank you so much for such kind words! 🥰
Oh my goodness! You are speaking my language! And your assessment of what a slow life is was so helpful! I have been struggling to articulate what a slow life is and can be and why it is important. Thank you for your perspective! I just found your videos and will subscribe! Cheers❤ from California!
I too have left the busy life of city behind and joined the slow life of country living. My beauty in life is observing the wonderful surprises that nature provides. So many things to enjoy.
I hope that you will continue to make lyrically poetic videos, like Inspiration For Autumn, that give fortifying solace, peace, and beauty to those who watch them. And yet, it is also of value to explore the mundane, and how it informs the need for something better. The interplay between light and shadow is conceptually fascinating.
I’m trying to find that balance in my videos too! Thank you so much for your support! 🥰
Everyone has hardships. It’s how we focus sleep make the right decisions be wise eat the right food go down the right paths.
That will lead us to our victory or failure the power is within us all and if we have the intelligence to make the right choices that will define our outcome how and when our time ends.we also can’t control everything but it is wise to have some kind of plan but sometimes life throws the unexpected at us from all different areas it’s how we move around the obstacles.
@@IamDariabalance is the right scales of the earth the universe and life itself.Balance is everything it all winds down to just getting it perfect.
thank you for inspiring people
Yes, share more like this! It was just what I needed to hear today, as I was struggling between my longing for softness and slowness versus the pressing realities that demand plain unromantic effort.
Thank you for the video is amazing 🍂🍁
Thank you for that way of seeing life, its real poetry in every day life. Go on this way !
Oh wow#!! First off I think this is the best cinematography on RUclips!!!
Absolutely stunning!!!
And second off yes you just explained why people don't understand me. Life takes a lot of work.... It might look pretty after I curate it but it wasn't pretty getting here!
Hello Daria, I also have that melancholy overthinking mindset and I try to recognize how important (perhaps ultimately important) those little moments of calm and simple things can be. I often wish life was a RUclips video but of course it is not. It's difficult for me to distill down how I feel about life during this difficult season and put it into words. I do believe it is healthy as you say to realize that no one is living a perfect life and there are certainly struggles. I hope to see you again soon. Martin.
Thank you for sharing, Martin! Everyone struggles in their own way, and everyone experiences their own beauty too. Perhaps recently people started comparing their hardships too much, especially when we are exposed to so many people and so many lives all of a sudden on the internet. Hardships are nothing to be compared - as whatever they are (how little or how big they may seem to others), you feel them through the prism of your own life experiences.
How true.
@@IamDaria
Life is magic ❤
Love the honesty and transparency and how you still portray it in a poetic and cinematic fashion. What struck me was one of your first questions about slow life vs. hustle/ fast life, if one can exist without the other. I live a sort of medium-paced life, trying to find balance, but mostly appreciate the moments when I can slow down and feel life. At other times the rush and exhilaration of activity can make me feel alive. I also wonder if it would be possible to enjoy those slow moments if not for others living the "hustle" life and how it makes possible all the technology/food/products/travel that I am able to use with convenience. I try to let it teach me not to judge others and appreciate that everyone finds the pace that's right for them, and how it can help others who live a different way. You express your questions and thoughts beautifully. New subscriber for the reflection as well as the cinematography!
True 👍
You explained this so well. good job.
Thank you for making these special videos and moments. The life you show is realistic indeed because it can perfectly exist . As a matter of fact, people need this kind of life nowadays. This is a real lesson of how to live our lives healthier and much more peaceful. Softness is all the globe needs certainly. God bless you abundantly.🙏🙏🙏
Beautiful, thought provoking video! 🍁
Well said, I agree and can relate… Always striving for my own balance and appreciating the ‘softness’ along the way ☯️ 🙂 - INFJ/HSP/👽
You managed to put the right words to this truth ❤️
This is truly beautiful!❤
I'm waiting your winter poetry as well😍
You live in such a beautiful place. Thank you for sharing. 🥰
Congrats for sharing this approach💐 ,it makes me feel like someone is expressing my feelings in a very beautiful way......❤❤❤
I have so much respect on how you do your videos. It's lovely.
È la natura che si mostra all'uomo nonostante la sua arroganza a destare meraviglia e stupore,basta avere occhi e cuore per accoglierla.Roberta
❤ merci pour cette belle vidéo ❤
That was a great video to watch. Was well articulated. Life for me is all about gathering experiences and evolving constantly while I have my basic survival kit (money,abode & food) ready! Life also happens beautifully when we live to our highest potential effortlessly (even if that means sitting in stillness doing nothing, moon gazing or running a million dollar biz.) Out of which we end up with nothing but complete contentment and pure bliss🤍🙏 I wish bliss for everyone around✨
شكرا على مشاركة هاذه الافكار المفيدة ، اعتقد ان التوازن بين النور والظلام هو القانون الثابت في الحياة ، حتى وانا اعيش سرعة و صخبا في الافكار كأم ل4 اطفال ، احاول ان اخذ قسطا من الراحة واحاول ان ادخل الحياة الهادئة في روتيني اليومي ، وقد ألهمتني مقاطع الفيديو الخاصة بك ، شكرا ، شكرا واصلي مشاركة هاذا القطعة من الكعك .
you look like a fairy to me! ❤️🙂
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You have so amazing video, thank you for having opportunity to see such wonderful part of lifestyle and life
Thank you💕
Life is to take a breath of freedom..
A beautiful explanation. I, however, would follow you even if you showed the other side of life😍
La gente solo ve lo que se muestra en las cámaras pero no ve o imagina lo duro que hay que trabajar para obtener la vida que se desea. Cuando el lujo es ver un simple rayo de sol por la cocina o el ruido de la lluvia.
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I love when Daria wearing dress
Very realistic take ❤
I was thinking about this just today. Is my life existence, both physically and mentally, mostly filled with conflict, pain, fear and paranoia; with moments of joy, contentment and peace of mind in between? Or vice versa? It is all so relative and can only be answered by yourself.
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La vida es sueño (Calderón de la Barca).
Привет из России!
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If you are working at a job with a bully boss or a toxic work environment, living soft is impossible.
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Dahlia is a philosopher.
Hi lass.
Hello! 😊
Dahlia should be a freelancer, working remotely by computer, and real life can't be separated from money for a day.
Even in the Bible it is written about slow life. To be unhurried. It is truly the best way to live. It is still my dream to construct my home surrounded by nature and, if possible, close by to a lake 🤍🤍
I would like to see some savoury ideas thank yi
I remember speaking to my Father when he was dying. I thanked him for being a wonderful father and giving me the best childhood. He squeezed my hand and told me to live my life like each day could be my last. I have tried to do this, it’s made me appreciate what I have, to look at the world around me and to see what is really important. It’s not always easy to focus on the positive but if you try you can achieve a meaningful life❤
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Spot on, my dear! To me, soft living is making the decision to give up the neverending hustle and climb for a lifestyle that the media/society tells us we must have in order to be happy. Life becomes less about grasping and clawing for evermore materialistic achievements and more about being content with where you are at now. Appreciating the true beauty that lies in nature, our homes and most importantly -ourselves.
❤ You said it perfectly. Those small moments when I water my plants or my dog comes to sit against me.. that’s what life is about. These moments of joy in amongst the chaos. Thank you for such a lovely video (once again) xx
To me life Is just about living. Enjoying the simple mundane routines of everyday life, but also experiencing the great adventures. I love what you said about never speaking in absolutes and always being in between because that’s exactly what life is, balance.
Love it! Balance is the key ❤
A lot of work and responsibility often disrupt our inner balance, which ultimately can affect not only our mental health, but also our physical health. There is a very fine line between the desire to achieve inner harmony and the desire not to lose the achieved state of harmony in the process of earning a living, paying bills. Thank you for bringing me confidence every week that I chose this path for a reason and I am not alone.
You described it perfectly! It’s difficult to keep that balance, but it’s wonderful when it’s achieved even occasionally, for a little while.
Thank you so much. As always a lovely video. Life is a dance.❤
Hi dear friend
Thank you for your efforts, thank you for your interesting and relaxing videos
The atmosphere of your videos are very natural and calm, and You are calm, orderly and kindI🙂
I try to give positive energy to everyone like you on RUclips
Good luck dear friend💐♥️
I enjoy your videos very much, especially during a stressful work week. You always inspire me to slow down and focus on something beautiful and take in and appreciate the little magical things that we are fortunate to catch a glimpse of when we are paying attention. Have a beautiful weekend.
We live many lives, and one of them is what we show to the public, the world, the face we put on for the general masses of humanity, this is often far removed from the life we show to our closest friends which is different still to the life our family sees every day. Social media has made it easier to show the life we want the world to know us by, but people have always 'put on a show' for others, from the beginning of time, and there has always been 'Keeping up with the Joneses' or the grass being greener on the neighbor's lawn. I hope we can learn to seek joy in the things we love , seek out the people whose 'public life' aligns with our aesthetic and values, and still know that we are not alone in our pain, our tragedies, our heartbreaks, and our daily struggles, but that by sharing the beauty and happiness we find with each other, we can all become a little lighter for it. Thank you for sharing, as always, your beautiful world with us.
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Stunning ❤
Thank you!
Loved this!
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Your channel is an absolute treasure. All of your videos calm me down...and give me such serenity. Thank you for sharing your talent creativity with us. We're blessed. ❤
But what a beautiful, magical place you live in to go for amazing autumn walks! I too love this season, the moodiness of a foggy, chilly day. To go for a walk, sit and knit for a bit with my precious furry feline and a hot cup of tea ......bliss
It is living with human beings that makes life rough and cruel. With Nature there is a fairness and depth of understanding. 😍😍😍😍
Thank you for,yes we must see soft and light in or lifes!because if we don't life is to hard !!it is the litte lthings what makes us happy!!😊
So very true. I never thought a slow, simple, soft lifestyle is not simple but very hard in fact. There is beauty in the drudgery and mundane. You showcase these moments beautifully. I strive to appreciate these moments in my life.. one ofy favorites is dappled sunshine and the beauty and fragility in decaying flowers, leaves, foliage.. thank you.