Committed Suicide in Front of Family

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  • Опубликовано: 31 дек 2023
  • Gillian delves into the complex emotions surrounding the loss of her brother to suicide. She bravely shares her personal journey, shedding light on the unique challenges and struggles that accompany this type of loss. By sharing these stories, we hope to break the silence surrounding suicide and encourage open dialogue about mental health. Together, we can work towards destigmatizing the conversation and fostering a more understanding and empathetic society.
    If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a mental health professional or a helpline in your country. Remember, you are not alone, and there is help available.
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Комментарии • 317

  • @ThatRedhedd
    @ThatRedhedd 6 месяцев назад +738

    I'm appalled that the person Justin was divorcing kept his ashes instead of giving them to his family.

    • @JjMmGg35
      @JjMmGg35 6 месяцев назад +80

      Seriously thank you for saying that. I feel like there should be more protection for people who are going through a divorce especially when tragedy happens. Divorces can take so long and life can change in an instant. Hearing that was so upsetting. Side note not sure if you’re into true crime, but the Robin Pope case is a prime example. To show why couples in the process of a divorce should be treated as individuals rather than together.

    • @wendyWERKKZ
      @wendyWERKKZ 6 месяцев назад +34

      I’m concerned for his son! I’m still only half way through the video but I hope the family doesn’t just let him fall behind to be raised by him .

    • @punxie89
      @punxie89 6 месяцев назад +2

      I was horrifed by that as well...

    • @ThatRedhedd
      @ThatRedhedd 5 месяцев назад +3

      @@JjMmGg35 I'm obsessed w/ true crime, but haven't heard of Robin Pope. I'm looking that up now! I definitely agree with you that a pending divorce should be treated as legally final in the event of the death of one party - NO question! That seems obvious, and I can't think of a reason anyone would object to that change in the law.

    • @shaelybentley860
      @shaelybentley860 3 месяца назад +1

      My only argument for it would be if they only kept them for their son to have.

  • @kayla216kz
    @kayla216kz 6 месяцев назад +648

    Imagine being her dad trying to hold on to Justin’s ankle and not being able to save him…. Heart shattering.

    • @chrissyosozzy6465
      @chrissyosozzy6465 6 месяцев назад +44

      Or the son and parents having to go down the escalator and exit the building he ended his life on

    • @laila-yd9hi
      @laila-yd9hi 6 месяцев назад +16

      My thoughts exactly. Probably made his mindset 1000x worse. I hope he was able to heal as Gillian was

  • @keannas.6257
    @keannas.6257 6 месяцев назад +1149

    Gillian. Wow. Just wow. My brother took his life in front of my family on one of our family vacations in Mexico 7 years ago 12/30/16. I can’t believe this podcast just came out when I needed it the most. Thank you for sharing your story thank you thank you. ❤

    • @maggiemenking5709
      @maggiemenking5709 6 месяцев назад +38

      Sending you so so much love. I lost my brother to overdose a month later after your brother. 7 years and it’s still so hard. ❤️

    • @keannas.6257
      @keannas.6257 6 месяцев назад

      @@maggiemenking5709 I could not agree more. Yeats and years of therapy and that time of year still has anxieties creep up on us. Thinking of you ❤️🫶🏼

    • @bryann3389
      @bryann3389 6 месяцев назад +34

      My condolences to both of you. I found my brother deceased from alcohol abuse 8/30/21 it’s rough. We lost my dad 6 months earlier due to the same cause. My brother found him 😢

    • @gone.golfing
      @gone.golfing 6 месяцев назад +3

      Do you think it was selfish for your brother to do that?

    • @annt7384
      @annt7384 6 месяцев назад +72

      @@gone.golfingPlease don’t ask that question again to anyone; it’s so disrespectful, especially when that person has already shared it’s been hard. This is the kind of question you can think about, but not ask out loud because the subject is so intimate and painful.

  • @ThatRedhedd
    @ThatRedhedd 6 месяцев назад +359

    With a 5 year age difference, the fact that she was so close with her brother, and she was the first person he came out to, is really touching.

  • @keishasharp868
    @keishasharp868 5 месяцев назад +158

    That poor father. I know a man whose son was a meth addicted that was physically abusive to him and his wife. One night the son was attacking the mother trying to get her purse and the dad pulled a gun telling the boy to leave that he called cops. The boy attacked the dad and the gun went off shooting the boy in main artery in leg. He bleed out within 2 minutes. His last words were Dad you killed me. It has completely destroyed the family.

    • @ABC-gh2sv
      @ABC-gh2sv 4 месяца назад +22

      Ooof. My family lives across the street from a retired police officer who ended up shooting his son in front of the house. They had an argument and the son went aggressively towards the dad and he shot him. His last words were “please don’t hurt my dad” and his dad while being tackled and held down by officers just kept saying to please save his son. SO sad.

    • @Lua658
      @Lua658 13 дней назад +1

      These two stories are so sad 😢

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад +1

      @@Lua658 I had to stop reading because my heart hurt so bad

  • @erinrene7067
    @erinrene7067 6 месяцев назад +186

    My uncle committed suicide before I was born. I’m 22 now. I can see the void it has left in my family even to this day. My mom will never be the same after she lost him.

    • @giovanniaofficial6148
      @giovanniaofficial6148 6 месяцев назад +6

      I know this is slightly different than your story, but my aunt passed a year before I was worn and it also left a huge void in my family. Unfortunately, they filled the void with me and I was always compared to her. But later, I grew up and learned that she wasn’t as good of a person overall and I was told

    • @danichesney1876
      @danichesney1876 2 месяца назад

      Same here
      He was only 16 when he died. 😢

  • @brooklyn-fn7rx
    @brooklyn-fn7rx 6 месяцев назад +235

    the way she speaks about her brother is so beautiful. she really is telling his story and “spreading” his legacy. also, coming from somebody who has dealt with suicidal thoughts for the last while, hearing her talk about him and her experience make me realize how i would never want to make my siblings or family or loved ones have to talk about me this way. even though shes honouring him it’s (obviously) still sad because of the reason shes doing this

    • @muneebiqbal5584
      @muneebiqbal5584 5 месяцев назад

      Its so nice though how rough things like this can help you find your passions in life. Its reassuring that no matter what i go through that somehow i will make it through (Even though i probably will end up just crying all the time and stuffing all my emotions down trying to deal with it silently within myself lol)

    • @LivBlanks
      @LivBlanks 3 месяца назад

      Is it really though? Her on her high horse was SO relieved he was gone... the bad egg problem child always ruining her perfect family image. She's GROSS.

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      I understand your pain

  • @maebychassit4973
    @maebychassit4973 6 месяцев назад +230

    As Gillian’s once a week coffee friend, I have watched her grow by leaps and bounds throughout the years I’ve known her.
    Justin’s death could have broken her, Allen’s almost death could have put her over the edge, other life stressors could have crushed her. But she has used these experiences as a catapult to grow as a person. She really does live for him now too. So her life is fuller, richer, MORE important I guess because she sees the world for Justin now too.
    Gilly, he’s so proud of you and this was a beautiful way to memorialize how you LIVED when he could not. I’m so proud of you.
    I really like that you both talked about how the loss of a person is just one small part of their whole life. I remember when my aunt and uncle committed suicide it was the main thing I remembered. For so long. This has reminded me to remember the other times, dinners with them and my cousins, my aunt creating beautiful beaded jewelry and my uncle and his long hair and mustache and van blasting Grateful Dead. They were loved and they are gone but not forgotten. Same with Justin.

  • @giga3132
    @giga3132 6 месяцев назад +126

    Her little tidbit about her girlfriends helping her through is major imo. My girls and I GOT each other. We’ve all been through so much, but having close friends by our side is that glimmer of hope.

  • @jamieStanfield-cw1fz
    @jamieStanfield-cw1fz 3 месяца назад +38

    My mom committed suicide in front of us 3 years ago, as my Dad was reaching to stop her... Doing CPR "for show" bc you know it won't help... It's horrible. And no, you don't sleep after. It changes the way you see everything... I wish it on no one.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Месяц назад +5

      May God bless you with healing.

    • @user-rh5cj3yt1i
      @user-rh5cj3yt1i День назад

      I'm so sorry

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      I completely understand. Trauma never really goes away. Being traumatized by the hands of other people have changed me and the way I view the world. My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

  • @xxxxxxxxx1652
    @xxxxxxxxx1652 6 месяцев назад +84

    i am only 5 min in but wow this woman is such a strong soul, i can just tell from the way she spoke about losing her baby... i wish her nothing but the best

  • @laila-yd9hi
    @laila-yd9hi 6 месяцев назад +60

    I loved her enthusiasm when you’d analyze her words and feelings. She really felt heard and connected and it seems like she’s taken a lot of time on this subject. So beautiful that you guys can bring Justin to life through this podcast. This is genuinely the most uplifting episode so far, Gillian is such a great soul and a wonderful speaker.

  • @ashley25987
    @ashley25987 6 месяцев назад +189

    This is such a heartbreaking story, I wish I could just hug her. I couldn’t imagine being her father having to live with that feeling of not being able to hang onto his son’s ankles to save his life. 💔💔

    • @jray5907
      @jray5907 6 месяцев назад +4

      That must have been the worst way to remember your son.

  • @juliagulia6809
    @juliagulia6809 6 месяцев назад +152

    My husband took his life 3 years ago. It really helps to hear other people’s stories, struggles and perseverance through it. Thank you for sharing and thank you for platforming topics that don’t get enough coverage. I’m grateful to have come across this podcast. Wishing everyone healing and peace in the new year ❤️

    • @Nightwing-xs2xl
      @Nightwing-xs2xl 2 месяца назад +1

      I’m 18 gonna turn 19 on June 28th. For me my life has been miserable from the start.My situation is hectic, my life is a mess. Things are bad at home. I have no future. So it’s better to end it.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Месяц назад

      God bless you ❤️

  • @north9958
    @north9958 6 месяцев назад +159

    This episode seems very real so far, especially in the way she describes her reaction to his suicide, pretty refreshing. Hope everyone is having a safe holiday

    • @PhillipTopical
      @PhillipTopical 6 месяцев назад +17

      Have to agree. We're so quick to judge people's first reactions as all they are rather than an accumulation of the person they are. I haven't experienced this - I haven't lived her life. She deserves her own life and life is hard, even if it's not as hard as the person you're mourning for.

    • @bapbirb
      @bapbirb 6 месяцев назад +7

      Yeah the way she described her first thought and reaction was kind of shocking to me as I would be the type to totally break down and be in disbelief... but I think she's just a very logical and stern person by nature. Common trait among academically intelligent people quite honestly.

    • @itsjess1046
      @itsjess1046 6 месяцев назад +8

      When you’re dealing with a really stressful relationship, this is a typical response… I had a similar response to my dad passing away… relief (that the stress would stop) , anger, sadness, pain… then the realization that they’re never coming back :/

    • @PhillipTopical
      @PhillipTopical 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@bapbirb This is really true, plus there are things like delayed grief. Or, in situations with dealing with those with mental health issues you can suedo grieve before the person you're mourning for is 'lost'. This isn't just applicable to SS either. It can be all types of ailments with any type of advanced warning. Grief is a very complex thing. Shock, also. It's a lot.

  • @xlessthanxx3
    @xlessthanxx3 6 месяцев назад +52

    Just started this episode, but I just wanted to say thank you. As a fellow suicide loss survivor (my younger brother in 2020), this means so much in terms of feeling connected.

  • @maddietaylor3390
    @maddietaylor3390 5 месяцев назад +28

    Gillian, thank you for sharing your story. I lost my step father who helped raise me for about 15 years took his life on my birthday in August 2023. My ex fiancé also took his life in January 2023. Dealing and Grieving and trying to not feel like either were my fault has been very difficult. Hearing stories like yours makes me feel like I’m not alone. Thank you

    • @julija2671
      @julija2671 3 месяца назад +2

      Wow I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. This video made me tear up and your comment broke my heart. I wish you all the healing and luck in the world❤️

    • @user-rh5cj3yt1i
      @user-rh5cj3yt1i День назад +1

      I'm so sorry

  • @suomynonaanonymous
    @suomynonaanonymous 6 месяцев назад +61

    thank you for sharing, as a severely depressed doctor myself I fully understand what he was going through. It is very common especially in residency.

    • @AStarozzy89
      @AStarozzy89 3 месяца назад

      Is depression a mental illness?

    • @michellea8123
      @michellea8123 3 месяца назад +1

      I hope you never forget there's always a tomorrow to look forward to ❤

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Месяц назад +2

      ​@@AStarozzy89Yes.

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      @@AStarozzy89 Clinical depression is actually a chemical imbalance. But other things can bring it on. It runs in my family. And I have struggled with it all my life.

  • @barbaranaiman9783
    @barbaranaiman9783 6 месяцев назад +44

    Gillian you did an amazing job talking about this very sensitive subject. I’m sure so many viewers could relate. When you said your brother called you didn’t talk that brought such a memory to me. I had a friend call me and I didn’t get it saying I’ll calm her later and she got killed that night it took me quite awhile to get over that . Devorah you are doing such a wonderful podcast letting all these people share their stories. Keep up the great work you’re doing .❤️👌👍

  • @Rosie19999_
    @Rosie19999_ 3 месяца назад +4

    “Everyone is always going to have problems, there will always be something” 🙏🏼

  • @Grace-gp6eq
    @Grace-gp6eq 6 месяцев назад +19

    Just the thought of losing my twin brother is heartbreaking. This woman is so strong and very inspirational

  • @ayo3181
    @ayo3181 6 месяцев назад +79

    My heart goes out to you and your brother. Bigotry like homophobia reflects the hypocrisy of society. How straight people can support love and celebrate their relationships through holidays, ceremonies, music, movies and literature, just for some to demonize another groups love for trivialities.

  • @jray5907
    @jray5907 6 месяцев назад +17

    I've also had thoughts of ending it all but what keeps me going is my mom and sisters, I would never put them through that pain. I can't imagine losing a sibling this way, it must be so painful for everyone who loved him.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Месяц назад +3

      I did for most of life up until I was about 40. I'm 44 now, and I cannot imagine doing that. There is relief in therapy, Jesus, fitness, and helping others. He doesn't always have to be this way. I'm glad you hung in there. The world doesn't need any more heartbreak❤

  • @Cat-bm4hv
    @Cat-bm4hv 5 месяцев назад +12

    I’m in disbelief by how much Gillian’s story aligned with mine and I mean nearly to a tea. Her story is so raw and I didn’t know I needed this as much as I did. Thank you for sharing and giving me an opportunity to cope. I wish the very best for you Gillian, never stop inspiring others and fulfilling Justin’s legacy!!

  • @googleuser4034
    @googleuser4034 6 месяцев назад +40

    She’s so positive and wonderful. What a strong woman 💕 thank you for allowing her to share her story.

  • @christinavillatoro7164
    @christinavillatoro7164 6 месяцев назад +24

    Dealing with grief. Life after death is strange. In the past few years I’ve had loved ones pass from cancer, health issues,an accident, two suicides. I don’t feel like life is real sometimes.

    • @wiv1473
      @wiv1473 4 месяца назад +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope youre doing well ❤️

    • @timmywitty1432
      @timmywitty1432 Месяц назад

      Did they take the c jabs?

    • @lynnieb
      @lynnieb 21 день назад

      I’m so sorry. Grief is so hard! My 26 year old daughter passed in 2016. We don’t know how, why, or exactly when she died and it eats me alive. I have to let it go!

    • @aeconiglio
      @aeconiglio 10 дней назад

      Dude, read the room ​@@timmywitty1432

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      @@timmywitty1432 You have GOT to be kidding me. What a horrible and insensitive thing to inject. What is WRONG with you? You are defininely not 'witty' Timmy. . Why not just keep your mouth shut and go away.

  • @taramc9504
    @taramc9504 6 месяцев назад +9

    I lost my dad in 2021 in a similar way. Thank you for this video, and thank you to Gillian for sharing her story and feelings that I can relate to so well. Sending light and peace.

  • @clorby22
    @clorby22 6 месяцев назад +24

    A close relative of mine committed suicide yesterday in the early hours of the morning. I wish my parents had never told me how he died. I can’t get the image out of my head

    • @mayanovak2497
      @mayanovak2497 3 месяца назад +2

      I'm so sorry :(

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      I'm so sorry you're going through this. I am shocked at the sheer number of suicides. There's something seriously wrong with our society.

  • @ah-sh9dw
    @ah-sh9dw 6 месяцев назад +37

    I had no idea other people have PTSD around phone calls

    • @Talk2MeNice
      @Talk2MeNice 6 месяцев назад

      Yup. Kevin Von Erich refuses to take calls after the sun sets. He’s traumatized from the phone call he got one night from Kerry, his brother and how he wanted to kill himself.

    • @qwertyhimym
      @qwertyhimym 6 месяцев назад +12

      It’s probably not as uncommon as you would think

    • @ericab1302
      @ericab1302 6 месяцев назад +7

      Yessss, and also my partner has a flair for the dramatic so sometimes he'll call and begin with 'I've got bad news' (it's usually something that's a minor inconvenience but he thinks I'll be disappointed) - like you don't understand, in my experience that sentence means the absolute worst has happened!

    • @ah-sh9dw
      @ah-sh9dw 6 месяцев назад +8

      @@ericab1302 all calls that aren't about something horrific should start with "it's nothing serious". The worst is when people need a few seconds to figure out their words and the whole time you're just trying to resist the urge to shout out "just tell me who died already"

    • @ah-sh9dw
      @ah-sh9dw 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@qwertyhimym I know that now. Always thought it was a weird, me thing

  • @roxyroloff2155
    @roxyroloff2155 6 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you for sharing this extremely personal and painful part of your life. Prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. 🙏

  • @joelbowyer
    @joelbowyer 6 месяцев назад +8

    *Gillian,* WOW you are a powerhouse girlie. 🖤
    Justin's story felt very reminiscent of my own in many ways, so this hit me quite a bit extra. Just know that the love for your brother really shined through in this episode, thank you so so SO much for the raw emotion and transparency.. Speaking out like this is so important for so many reasons, he would've been proud to know that you are doing this for him, yourself and many others.
    And CONGRATS ON THE SHOW! So glad you are able to express yourself across many mediums, let your voice be heard!

  • @Viviann258
    @Viviann258 5 месяцев назад +5

    i cried a lot during this. she is so well spoken, resilient & strong. my heart goes out to her and her family ❤

  • @sunny.sun00
    @sunny.sun00 5 месяцев назад +4

    10 minutes in as you’re describing your brother i began tearing up. such a beautiful soul gone too soon he will never be forgotten 🕊️

  • @meganambrose8947
    @meganambrose8947 6 месяцев назад +6

    I love this podcast so much. There are so many times listening to people share their stories that I can relate but this one by far has brought on so many emotions that I really understood every part. She is so brave for publicly sharing her and her family’s story in such a poetic way that really brought on a sense of closure in my own healing journey. Thank you!!! 💜💜

  • @kyleemcdonald8249
    @kyleemcdonald8249 6 месяцев назад +41

    This podcast is amazing! Thanks for providing this for the guests and viewers 🥹🫶🏼 happy new year!

    • @Nightwing-xs2xl
      @Nightwing-xs2xl 2 месяца назад

      I’m 18 gonna turn 19 on June 28th. For me my life has been miserable from the start.My situation is hectic, my life is a mess. Things are bad at home. I have no future. So it’s better to end it.

  • @brittanyzahn7939
    @brittanyzahn7939 6 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you so much Gillian for sharing your story. You are a strong, amazing woman. Although I haven't lost anyone to suicide, I can relate strongly to the feeling of being scared of early morning/late night phone calls. I recently lost my grandparents who I was extremely close to within 2 months of each other, and getting those phone calls were insanely hard. My stomach drops every time someone calls early/late now. I hope you and your family have found peace and continue to heal.

  • @brittanymccoy2785
    @brittanymccoy2785 6 месяцев назад +10

    Feel so bad for her brother who lost his life due to mental health problems.. 💔

  • @foodfornot
    @foodfornot 6 месяцев назад +11

    I'm not even 10 minutes in but I'm gutted for her... I'm extremely close with my own brother - it's like I understand what they had and I would be shattered to lose it. My heart goes out.

  • @juliaeich4804
    @juliaeich4804 6 месяцев назад +14

    I never knew you lost your father at 12. I was 15 when my father passed away from cancer and I never really coped - it has such an impact on me to this day but it’s almost like a second layer that I have become used to

  • @typh5567
    @typh5567 6 месяцев назад +2

    Gillian has such a genuine soul, her view on things is refreshing to me, I'm very happy for her that she knew how to get her life going despite a terrible event.

  • @fuzzyguyenjoyer
    @fuzzyguyenjoyer 6 месяцев назад +2

    she is such a strong and positive woman. these stories are so important. you are always enough

  • @alannawarren6357
    @alannawarren6357 6 месяцев назад +20

    It took me days to get through this podcast because it broke my heart.. I’ve never been through something like this but this story truly got to me. I hope she and her family are healing and doing better. I hope the parents are doing better as well, I could not imagine my child committing suicide in front of me.. god bless this whole family, and his precious son who watches as well.

  • @brianne317
    @brianne317 6 месяцев назад +2

    What a strong family. I wish them the best and hope they heal and have a great life after the terrible traumas that they have been through.

  • @kat8436
    @kat8436 6 месяцев назад +14

    You seem like such a sweet, open and evolved person, Gillian! I see you going far and you deserve all the love and support

  • @billybobjimmyjohn
    @billybobjimmyjohn 6 месяцев назад +4

    this woman is sooooo strong, honestly this makes me realize that speaking to someone could be my last time speaking to them, and on the flip side it makes me notice the big impact suicide can have on the person who died

  • @jazzminewith2zs649
    @jazzminewith2zs649 6 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for sharing. Every word is choking me up. Such an impactful story.

  • @daisyhagerman2293
    @daisyhagerman2293 4 месяца назад +1

    I can’t really watch this due to my own trauma, however I know it will be great for people to hear. Thank you Gillian for sharing your story

  • @taystowe9498
    @taystowe9498 6 месяцев назад +32

    Best video you’ve put out lately, I think being more selective with your guests will help this pod thrive. :)

  • @kattzisavirus8364
    @kattzisavirus8364 6 месяцев назад +23

    Wishing her and her family peace ♥️

  • @miagarza04
    @miagarza04 6 месяцев назад +2

    I lost my sister in 2021 and shortly after lost my grandpa and almost my dad twice. it’s unfortunate that people can relate but it helps. ❤ thank you

  • @zacherz2001
    @zacherz2001 6 месяцев назад +8

    what an obviously beautiful soul she is

  • @jgfffffffhjiufdddj
    @jgfffffffhjiufdddj 6 месяцев назад +10

    i had a suicide attempt in front of me twice but never successful. that man. fucked me up. i saved him both times.

    • @Veracityseeker7
      @Veracityseeker7 Месяц назад +1

      God bless you

    • @jgfffffffhjiufdddj
      @jgfffffffhjiufdddj Месяц назад +1

      oh, thank you so much. May He bless you as well :)♥️

    • @dox.K
      @dox.K Месяц назад

      @@jgfffffffhjiufdddjI hate myself

  • @roo4282
    @roo4282 6 месяцев назад +18

    i also experienced something similar but it was with my aunts gf at our house, the lack of sleep is so real everytime i closed my eyes it was just flashbacks it was so scary and i was so mad why she'd do that our house bc we had to stay at hotels after that bc of the aftermath and move houses. Homophobia really is horrible, words are strong be careful what you say to people you never know what else they're going through :(

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      So very true. We try to keep up a persona when inside might be a different story altogether. I am so sorry you and your family have had to go through this.

  • @suzie830
    @suzie830 6 месяцев назад +5

    Gillian, you are not alone in thinking the way you did after your brother's death. My cousin's husband ended his life after a battle of heroin addiction and a long-time mental illness. She said it was a relief in a way that the prolonged days of his suffering and her worrying about him were over.

  • @MsShyla222
    @MsShyla222 Месяц назад

    Gillian, your heart and your message came through so purely, thank you for sharing your heart ❤️

  • @k0re4nr1ceb411
    @k0re4nr1ceb411 4 месяца назад +2

    The part where she talks about not getting back to people who reached out despite feeling super grateful for their words resonated with me so much. When the grief is fresh, you just don't have bandwidth to do anything but just exist. I think anyone who's lost someone understands this, and would never feel bad for not getting a response (or getting a very belated response). Everything she describes is extremely normal for grief IMHO. It's totally okay to prioritize yourself in this situation. It's okay to take things at your own pace.

  • @divergentfangirl7184
    @divergentfangirl7184 6 месяцев назад +8

    i really love the episodes when we can feel the guest and devorah connecting, it always makes my heart warm :)

  • @shore871
    @shore871 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing your story, Gillian. I also lost my older brother to suicide over a year ago. You are definitely not alone

  • @jessica1234661
    @jessica1234661 6 месяцев назад +3

    It’s nice to see so,done just sit and tell her story without a bunch of notes

  • @saraebdale9616
    @saraebdale9616 6 месяцев назад +3

    Gillian you are a beautiful Soul.
    Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @RyRy-td9ft
    @RyRy-td9ft 6 месяцев назад +13

    The aneurysm hit deep. He’s extremely lucky. My grandma passed from a brain aneurysm. I try to recount how she could have possibly called 911 and an ambulance for herself mid thunderclap headache. Unfortunately she had another massive stroke and we lost her. That’s for letting me trauma dump RUclips

  • @Mooodyintrovert
    @Mooodyintrovert 4 месяца назад +1

    Gillian is so strong. I am six minutes in and already crying, their relationship describes the exact relationship between me and my sister. Knowing that I almost left her alone, this video helps a lot

  • @maddymay454
    @maddymay454 6 месяцев назад +11

    When my boyfriend took his life last year, I was like your dad. I took “notes” but it was cause I didn’t know what to do with my self. I felt
    So unworthy of doing anything and it felt wrong. But also felt wrong if I didn’t help. So I just wrote things his mom said needed to be done and I would try to help. He was 16 turning 17 a month after he died I was 15 turning 16 in December.

  • @KikiCelaya
    @KikiCelaya 6 месяцев назад +14

    I really enjoy seeing her happy truly happy speaking about her brother that’s awesome she has a good vibe and intent very good spirited human you can tell by the way she talks about her brother 🩵 love that! 😊

  • @cheyunderwood7941
    @cheyunderwood7941 6 месяцев назад +2

    Wow, so glad to see she is doing so well for herself, she should be proud!

  • @fifilafleur5555
    @fifilafleur5555 10 дней назад +1

    Anytime someone commits suicide in front of family it’s an act of anger and selfishness. Revenge. They want to get back at everyone they feel has hurt them. What better way than ending one’s life in front of those they’re angry at?!! Then those who witnessed the suicide must live with that image the rest of their life. Suicide in and of itself is an incredibly selfish act towards those who are left behind. My sister attempted suicide on the day of my wedding vow renewals. She and I had fallen out and hadn’t talked in close to a year. It was payback. She picked the date of our wedding vow renewal just to get back at me. I had never had a wedding and she knew how special the occasion was for me. Sometimes our loved ones have a score to settle by committing suicide. It makes it that much more devastating. Heartbreakingly enough, she survived but lived as an invalid for 16 years after in a wheelchair, paralyzed and unable to speak. Sepsis took her life in the end. She was furious at an ex boyfriend (who really wasn’t a boyfriend at all but a man who had used her 😢), her mother (who had abused her emotionally & physically throughout her life), our dad (for having little to no interest in her all her life) and probably many others who she felt had let her down. She had struggled with mental health most of her life and was in a lot of pain. She often didn’t take her medication which made her mood swings worse causing her to be extremely volatile. I pray she now has peace and is in a much better place than this cruel old world. I love and miss her very much. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @pinkfeet518
    @pinkfeet518 6 месяцев назад +12

    always look forward to your uploads Dev. have a happy new year ♡

  • @vanvandersyde4705
    @vanvandersyde4705 6 месяцев назад +1

    I feel very connected to your story through things I'm not comfortable sharing (they're a little too specific)

  • @user-me8zx9rm3k
    @user-me8zx9rm3k 6 месяцев назад +15

    Am I the only one who thinks it’s strange to have a huge sexy headshot in a space where people are sharing really traumatic experiences….

    • @barbaranaiman9783
      @barbaranaiman9783 6 месяцев назад +7

      Not at all it’s her podcast logo. It looks terrific

    • @TheReMorseCode
      @TheReMorseCode 6 месяцев назад +6

      it's not that lewd, it has some cleavage but it's not crazy lol. nothing else sexual about it so i assume that's what you're taking about

    • @ykook7000
      @ykook7000 4 месяца назад +4

      You are the only one

  • @Naomi-rf1bl
    @Naomi-rf1bl 5 месяцев назад +3

    This episode really deeply affected me and helped me through a hard time.... Thank you for sharing.

  • @availanila
    @availanila 6 месяцев назад +10

    Oh my god, I love _The Good Place!_ I never thought anyone would watch it to prepare for death. 😢

  • @majorkade
    @majorkade 9 дней назад

    Sorry for your loss and the pain it caused.

  • @blueishxx
    @blueishxx 6 месяцев назад +11

    parents need to be very careful not to put the children in pressure cookers , although each suicide is unique and an incomprehensible tragedy and sorrow , it can be useful for parents to teach children that life is about winning and losing , and to normalize that truth

  • @6.poorvisarnaik63
    @6.poorvisarnaik63 2 месяца назад +1

    This is such a good reminder of what I cannot put my family through :),

  • @karicooper9464
    @karicooper9464 Месяц назад

    it's so incredibly heartbreaking that her nephew's living parent is harming him further by cutting off contact with one side of his family. He deserves all of the love and support he can get. How shameful. I hope the grandparents at least, if not the siblings too, will appeal to the courts for visitation. it's been known to happen in the best interest of the children.

  • @alison3834
    @alison3834 6 месяцев назад +3

    yayyyy my favorite channel posted

  • @summerdazeahead
    @summerdazeahead 6 месяцев назад +3

    My heart goes out to her and her family 💝

  • @exhaustedeloise
    @exhaustedeloise 5 месяцев назад +1

    the christmas part of this really got me because my mum died 2 days before christmas in 2013, it’s the weirdest thing to have a normal christmas all set up ready to go and then it’s just me and my dad - it’s so hard x

  • @annastanwood9110
    @annastanwood9110 6 месяцев назад +3

    This is such a great podcast, thank you so much for this episode 💕

  • @Cameroon110
    @Cameroon110 6 месяцев назад +11

    Keep up with the videos and please stay safe out there ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @asitwas1
    @asitwas1 6 месяцев назад +2

    Gillian wising you the best in your future adventures ❤ such a beautiful spirit, everything will work out for you I know it!

  • @mercedezz
    @mercedezz 13 дней назад +2

    So that’s good, when I’m gone my loved ones will feel freedom. That’s what I was hoping for so I’m glad to know they will feel a sense of relief.

    • @user-lf2lf6wy4z
      @user-lf2lf6wy4z День назад

      What, exactly, are you saying? Are you ok? This board is open and honest - let your feelings out and vent, if you have to. We all understand emotional pain. There's a lot of compassion and understanding to be had here.

  • @maylissbjerke9204
    @maylissbjerke9204 15 дней назад

    A childhood friend of my brother just comitted suicide last week by cutting his own throat.i never heard anyone done it this way,its absolutely horrific. His mom found him in the forest at my brother and their friend groops old hangout spot from when they were teenagers. Just had to get it of my chest❤ love to all

  • @deerojas54
    @deerojas54 6 месяцев назад +11

    Omg so sad for the family of course but the father not being able to hold on 😢. Thank you so much much for sharing your story

  • @AKAE47
    @AKAE47 Месяц назад +3

    The ex keeping the ashes is SICK AF!!!!

  • @eddiesland93
    @eddiesland93 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thankyou for speaking up

  • @TrueCrimeJunkie496
    @TrueCrimeJunkie496 6 месяцев назад +3

    I just want to hug both of you 🫂🫂🫂

  • @jokisenevaat6053
    @jokisenevaat6053 6 месяцев назад +5

    i once was at a point where i was so close to killing myself and it was scary. I never want to experience that again, i was just so exhausted and i remember how the idea of dying got less scary all the time. luckily i was able to see that and not do anything. now i like to hear these kinds of stories to remind myself to fight for my own wellbeing

    • @Jonglohn
      @Jonglohn 6 месяцев назад +3

      I’ve been there once. Sobbing and had the thought, holding the gun, and in the middle of those thoughts and the contemplation, I have literally never been more scared in my life. Life is beautiful, and I feel lucky to experience it, all the good and all the bad. But unfortunately some can’t and that kills me to think about, that it was too much for them and they felt that was the way. Heartbreaking.

    • @barbrothers2
      @barbrothers2 6 месяцев назад

      i DID go through with killing myself. i had a fight with my boyfriend after five or six months of dating. he broke up with me, it was just another disappointment in a decade full of disappointments involving romantic relationships. where id fall out of love with the people who loved me, and with the ones I really liked, the relationships never went anywhere. this was just the last straw for me... I loved this man and he hurt me. not to mention so many awful childhood experiences leading up to it. i didn't want to try again, i was so tired of putting energy into finding the perfect loving relationship when that was all that I wanted. I injected an intentionally lethal dose of fentanyl, i had never injected drugs, and had tried to do it two days prior and missed my vein. thankfully i missed that day bc I was alone in my room. on this day, I hit. I saw the blood so I knew it worked. I capped the rig, put it on my nightstand and laid down in the bed next to where my boyfriend was sleeping. well it just so happened when I slumped over, I slumped over on top of him waking him up. If I slumped over in any other direction, I wouldn't be here. But he was able to start administering CPR and called 911, i woke up to ems and police in my room. it took multiple doses of narcan to bring me back. i had completely stopped breathing and had turned blue before that. its been almost 3 years, we are still together and have a daughter and I have the life I always wanted. I'm so grateful to have lived.

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 6 месяцев назад +1

    What! All of the titles are making me a subscribe

  • @candyking380
    @candyking380 3 месяца назад +2

    My daughter committed suicide on the anniversary of my partners death. It's been 4 yrs. And the first yr that I can hold my head up for most days

    • @Nightwing-xs2xl
      @Nightwing-xs2xl 2 месяца назад

      I’m 18 gonna turn 19 on June 28th. For me my life has been miserable from the start.My situation is hectic, my life is a mess. Things are bad at home. I have no future. So it’s better to end it.

    • @dox.K
      @dox.K Месяц назад +1

      @@Nightwing-xs2xlI feel you

  • @courtneygregory
    @courtneygregory 3 дня назад

    Girl, i worked the next day after my papa passed. Its just a distraction you need at the moment.

  • @redbaboonass4416
    @redbaboonass4416 5 месяцев назад +1

    It's so crazy how she can remember every detail big and small from the day she found out her brother died. Im guessing it has to do with the brain going thru a tramatic experience. I also can remember every detail from the day my older brother passed away also because it was the day before my birthday and 1 week before my older sisters quinceniera.

  • @cindyaguilar6412
    @cindyaguilar6412 6 месяцев назад +4

    That dream was a visitation ❤✨😊

  • @animalseatmeat
    @animalseatmeat 6 месяцев назад +3

    One of my fav episodes

  • @samanthahennagir2671
    @samanthahennagir2671 3 месяца назад +2

    11… imagine being a orphan.. finding a family, and your new dad offs himself infront of you. Ugh

  • @talishaa333
    @talishaa333 2 месяца назад

    amazing podcast

  • @erikaleon7891
    @erikaleon7891 6 месяцев назад +3

    Love you Gilly ❤️

  • @brittany7252
    @brittany7252 7 дней назад

    I know that people say suicide is a selfless act. But I struggle to understand how it is completely selfless when it is detriment to the people that love the victim. Especially if they do it in front of the loved ones or in a place where loved ones have to find them. They know it will hurt them and traumatize them. So I think there is a small amount of selfishness in that aspect. I understand they feel as though others may be better off with out them and that life isn’t worth the pain.

  • @Luckyydee
    @Luckyydee 5 месяцев назад +5

    I know this is completely irrelevant, but it’s interesting to me that her Obgyn wife had advanced ovarian cancer. You would think they would have been able to catch it sooner but I guess not.

  • @giuseppemariocescutti-fitz5835
    @giuseppemariocescutti-fitz5835 Месяц назад +6

    A minor correction. As suicide is no longer illegal, you dont commit suicide. Commit referred to it being illegal. You die by suicide. No longer commit.

    • @dox.K
      @dox.K Месяц назад +2

      Erm 🤓

    • @bees.857
      @bees.857 27 дней назад

      Delete this lol