As someone with pretty severe social anxiety and fomo the thing that has actually helped me is planning group events myself. It's incredibly hard and taxing for me to do but I've found that creating a social event that I'd really like to do (like board game night) helps me feel more fulfilled and less anxious when I see other people are doing things without me. I get to say to myself "Yes, I'm not at the bar with my friends but that's not really my style anyway and i just got to have a great time with others playing games." It's not perfect and I still have tons of insecurities to work through but a big part of my insecurities is that people will think I'm a loser if I have nothing going on so at least this way my life feels more fulfilling even if I'm not invited to things. Granted, it majorily sucks having to plan things but I've also found a positive side effect: people have started invited me to more things to return the favor. So it's a win in my opinion.
@@valentinursu1747 I think it's more to do with 'PsyShow' being so cheeky. Cuz...cuz SciShow? And PsyShow? When you say 'em out loud? Gettit? Is funny? .... I lol'd, anyway.
A thing I've found really works for me is to say: New year, same me - only somewhat better. And don't be too harsh on yourself, especially if you're in a bad mental state! Monthly goals are a huge benefactor in actually reaching your long-term ones. And don't be so harsh on yourself if you didn't accomplish something. I didn't get to learn the French that I wanted this year but I know that I've worked really hard for my exams and master's degree. Context is everything and it's good to reflect. I've been doing bullet journaling for 4 years now and it works super for a very disorganised person like myself.
This will be my 3rd year using a bullet journal... As a very dispersed person with a really terrible memory it has helped me to track all kinds of stuff, from general data like house chores, series watched (I keep track of movies on letterboxd), books read, money spent; to specifics like kg of dog food purchased, money used on transportation, etc... It's super interesting analyzing all data at the end of the year.
If Star trek: Voyager is ever remade, I want Hank to be Doctor and Brit to be Captain Janeway. That is my implausible wish for 2020. For my actual goals, thanks for the vid!
Is it odd that my inspiration (or something like it) can be triggered by the idea of inspiration? Like as soon as the video switched to talking about it I started feeling that itch to work on my writing.
This is why I think the most epic of artists remain obscure and unknown for the entirety of their lives. Getting money causes you to taylor your art to the people giving you the money
A good head space is "The Zone," the existence where you are in a desired occupation and everything falls away but that. Another thing that I think helps me (I write, too) is to work on pieces necessary to the story and flesh them out. An architect can zero in on a part they know how it is going to end up. They can work on that. Creating a model doesn't preclude changing things around. In writing that happens all the time. But my motto is to get the ideas out and established so that partners - or you - can see how things fit together. You can't form the product if you don't have the raw materials out: the clay, the knit sample, the written chapter, the model, or whatever the final product is made from. So work on what you know and understand.
You all probably dont care but does anyone know a trick to get back into an instagram account?? I stupidly lost my login password. I would love any tricks you can offer me.
I made a New Years resolution in 2020 to give up smoking and do some more walking. I did one of those to date, it wasn’t walking. I gave up smoking in early January so then COVID-19 happened causing us all to stay home. I have multiple sclerosis and I was using the walk to school as exercise but now couldn’t get out come March 23rd as the schools shut. Now in June 2021 I’m struggling with everything I do around the house and just walking to the toilet can be painful. I can’t wait for the world to sort out the pandemic and do the right thing for those who may not be as lucky as them. Be more considerate of others and get the vaccine please and let’s get back out freedom.
I think I've heard or read once that a better specificity for losing weight is not how much you'll lose, but the diet/food choices. Finding something that makes sense and is appealing enough, and then just gradually let metabolism do its job. Whereas wanting to lose some determinate amount of weight may lead to crazy diets and mixing up losing muscle mass or just dehydration with the adequate kind of weight loss.
Actually have none of those on my list, but only because I'd already started the "No-Diet" diet. Regardless, suspect these hacks are useful for other things as well!
Choose specific, quantifiable goals that challenge you just enough. Making a resolution as a habit increases success. A habit is better kept when accompanied by a cue. Putting a reminder on your phone works against that action becoming automatic habit. “piggybacking” an action onto a pre-existing habit increases the success of the new habit. Habits don’t necessarily form after 3 weeks. They happen when they happen and that varies for people. Occasional lapses of a habit don’t doom a habit. In short, to form a habit, pick a cue you encounter every day and every time you enter that context, do the thing. How to turn anxiety into excitement. Emotional reappraisal. Your emotions are a combo of your physiology & what you’re thinking. Changing what you think can change what you experience. How to overcome FOMO. Stop comparing yourself to others. Turn inward to reflect on your own motivations & happiness. e.g. Journalism, meditation. How to get inspired. Don’t pressure yourself. Get in a good head space. Do something else that’s related to the task at hand. Develop your skills. Work mastery is associated with inspiration.
I have ADHD and honestly if my phone didn't remind me to start leaving the house in the morning and to start winding down at night, those habits wouldn't have any ground whatsoever lmao
Hey! Great video! Just wanted to let you know we are still left to the wild if we don't develop proper connections to people. Houseless people (like myself) get completely separated from normal human interactions or even rejected from a sense of humanity, and can be left to literally starve and die.
none of the above, lol. I'm working on things but these aren't tied to new years. One thing I'm trying to tie to a pre-existing habit is to clean up a bit while I'm waiting for my tea to brew
Reapprasing responses reminds me of how i repress the thought of how time consuming and tooth-pulling and mentally draining a class is by just repressing that with the thought of how the class is supposed to be useful.
I never had any. They seemed like pointless drivel as opposed to true genuine change. But old age has made me think maybe I should claim having something "inspiring" or positive emotional blackmail worth mentioning whenever others asks instead of my usual "nothing". ...Like maybe "spend two minutes every day detrashing" or the like, and hope that makes others more self conscious about how they implement their new changes despite it being just a lie for me (in terms of that example being a resolution, I just "naturally" hate messes and people leaving trash around).
For psychological techniques to work they have to be believed. Telling people "hacks" is nothing but counter productive. we will know it is a trick and that knowledge will prevent it from working..
I checked zero of your 4 boxes. Honestly I just dont wanna go a day without showering or without doing a hundred pushups and situps. Skipping on the cardio isnt an option.
Answer to all: None. Stop making goals brought to you by capitalist society. Come up with a PERSONAL REASON to achieve a goal. And not a break-point, or a fixed method. In other words, pick a direction. Don't promise to add things to your life in order to achieve your goal. If your goal is to feel healthier, note every thing you ALREADY do that can be considered healthy for you. When you find yourself doing a healthy thing, do that healthy thing more often or for longer.
Here's the ultimate hack to new years resolutions: ahem...... Don't do them stupid. Instead try and work on yourself for the better the entirety of the year. It's not resolute if it's not a life choice
You know you just defined a resolution, right? You resolve to start doing the thing for the longterm. Most people just don't succeed at keeping it going.
@@beth8775 let's just say read my lasst sentence. And then read the sentence before that. That should make clear why I said why I said. If not refer to the following: New years resolution, or rather the term, has turned into a fad. That meams everyone does them for image sake. Resolute means it's something you resolve yourself to. And do not underestimate resolve. To quote bleach: _"when you protect, you don't let them die. When you defend, you don't let yourself get hit. When you attack, you *kill*"_ Resolve means to lose urself in your choice and let your change become physical in every way. I do understand, btw, that it is portrayed as a resolution. But giving your resolve a general name, over simplifies the amount of care effort and gravitas your choice should have for you. Whatever choice you make, let it be just that. Your choice. Not a resolution. Because that takes away the personality of it all.
I’m sorry but if it’s not important enough to handle or so now, waiting till January 1st to start it is just stupid. I don’t do resolutions, and for lent, I gave up lent.
The problem is that the word 'depression' is a bit murky. That's why there are more specific clinical terms. For some people, things like FOMO could cause depressive episodes or depressive feelings. Depression (in all its forms) often causes its own form of FOMO by self-isolation. So I agree: the word depression shouldn't be thrown around willy-nilly but I (personally) don't think they misused it. I would point out that my opinion does not invalidate yours.
12:20 - Flaw in study. Need to find an asexual woman to play the part, else you don't know if she (even though part of the experiment) had similar responses/presentation due to the bridge. Possibly leading to signals the men responded to. This is not being sexist for all you haters out there, it's being rational. Find potential flaws in your study before you do the study. So many flawed studies make it to the light of day and are treated as gospel.
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As someone with pretty severe social anxiety and fomo the thing that has actually helped me is planning group events myself. It's incredibly hard and taxing for me to do but I've found that creating a social event that I'd really like to do (like board game night) helps me feel more fulfilled and less anxious when I see other people are doing things without me. I get to say to myself "Yes, I'm not at the bar with my friends but that's not really my style anyway and i just got to have a great time with others playing games."
It's not perfect and I still have tons of insecurities to work through but a big part of my insecurities is that people will think I'm a loser if I have nothing going on so at least this way my life feels more fulfilling even if I'm not invited to things. Granted, it majorily sucks having to plan things but I've also found a positive side effect: people have started invited me to more things to return the favor. So it's a win in my opinion.
New years resolution idea: change your channel name to PsyShow
Because Psychology is not actually a science right? :P
@@valentinursu1747
Yeah, should be Psciencology.
@@valentinursu1747 I think it's more to do with 'PsyShow' being so cheeky. Cuz...cuz SciShow? And PsyShow? When you say 'em out loud? Gettit? Is funny? .... I lol'd, anyway.
HA! Well done! I love it
These are the kind of puns I live for. 👏
My resolution is to get that Chemist Tree sweater.
right? that sweater is awesome. Even though I'd only wear it periodically 😉
@@erinrising2799 Your comment quarks me up... and down.
A thing I've found really works for me is to say: New year, same me - only somewhat better. And don't be too harsh on yourself, especially if you're in a bad mental state! Monthly goals are a huge benefactor in actually reaching your long-term ones. And don't be so harsh on yourself if you didn't accomplish something. I didn't get to learn the French that I wanted this year but I know that I've worked really hard for my exams and master's degree. Context is everything and it's good to reflect.
I've been doing bullet journaling for 4 years now and it works super for a very disorganised person like myself.
This will be my 3rd year using a bullet journal... As a very dispersed person with a really terrible memory it has helped me to track all kinds of stuff, from general data like house chores, series watched (I keep track of movies on letterboxd), books read, money spent; to specifics like kg of dog food purchased, money used on transportation, etc... It's super interesting analyzing all data at the end of the year.
how would i ever live a day without everything scishow teaches me about me
If Star trek: Voyager is ever remade, I want Hank to be Doctor and Brit to be Captain Janeway. That is my implausible wish for 2020. For my actual goals, thanks for the vid!
If they actually did do a special one time thing, which episode or scene would you pick?
I may or may not be watching this while setting up a partial bullet journal...
Is it odd that my inspiration (or something like it) can be triggered by the idea of inspiration? Like as soon as the video switched to talking about it I started feeling that itch to work on my writing.
There's a fine line between inspiration and motivation.
This is why I think the most epic of artists remain obscure and unknown for the entirety of their lives. Getting money causes you to taylor your art to the people giving you the money
A good head space is "The Zone," the existence where you are in a desired occupation and everything falls away but that.
Another thing that I think helps me (I write, too) is to work on pieces necessary to the story and flesh them out.
An architect can zero in on a part they know how it is going to end up. They can work on that. Creating a model doesn't preclude changing things around. In writing that happens all the time.
But my motto is to get the ideas out and established so that partners - or you - can see how things fit together.
You can't form the product if you don't have the raw materials out: the clay, the knit sample, the written chapter, the model, or whatever the final product is made from.
So work on what you know and understand.
Are you saying I shouldn't reward my self for losing 5 lb.s by eating a whole cheesecake ?
Christel Headington That’s probably fine as long as it’s just one cheesecake and you don’t change whatever you’re doing to lose weight
@@OtherTheDave wrong
TheFirstTime Which part? You don’t gain weight (long-term, anyway) from eating one of anything.
OtherTheDave CHALLENGE ACCEPTED
You all probably dont care but does anyone know a trick to get back into an instagram account??
I stupidly lost my login password. I would love any tricks you can offer me.
I'm pretty sure 'Bullet Journaling' is something my gun nut uncle would be up for.
My New Year's Resolution: "Survive the new year"
2020: "Let me stop you right there!"
Happy end of 2019 and HAPPY NEW YEAR foe all of you!!!
Why thanks you
I made a New Years resolution in 2020 to give up smoking and do some more walking. I did one of those to date, it wasn’t walking. I gave up smoking in early January so then COVID-19 happened causing us all to stay home. I have multiple sclerosis and I was using the walk to school as exercise but now couldn’t get out come March 23rd as the schools shut. Now in June 2021 I’m struggling with everything I do around the house and just walking to the toilet can be painful. I can’t wait for the world to sort out the pandemic and do the right thing for those who may not be as lucky as them. Be more considerate of others and get the vaccine please and let’s get back out freedom.
Who's here in 2022, great !
I really like how supportive and encouraging you guys are :)
I think I've heard or read once that a better specificity for losing weight is not how much you'll lose, but the diet/food choices. Finding something that makes sense and is appealing enough, and then just gradually let metabolism do its job. Whereas wanting to lose some determinate amount of weight may lead to crazy diets and mixing up losing muscle mass or just dehydration with the adequate kind of weight loss.
How did Hank know we would need inspiration in the coming weeks? Boy was he right.....
Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic Time-Bound... SMART
Actually have none of those on my list, but only because I'd already started the "No-Diet" diet. Regardless, suspect these hacks are useful for other things as well!
I have to break my RUclips habit before I can work on a new habit.
Turn off RUclips NOW!
ME
Does this comment support your goal to quit or encourage you to comment on future videos?
Choose specific, quantifiable goals that challenge you just enough.
Making a resolution as a habit increases success.
A habit is better kept when accompanied by a cue.
Putting a reminder on your phone works against that action becoming automatic habit.
“piggybacking” an action onto a pre-existing habit increases the success of the new habit.
Habits don’t necessarily form after 3 weeks. They happen when they happen and that varies for people.
Occasional lapses of a habit don’t doom a habit.
In short, to form a habit, pick a cue you encounter every day and every time you enter that context, do the thing.
How to turn anxiety into excitement. Emotional reappraisal.
Your emotions are a combo of your physiology & what you’re thinking. Changing what you think can change what you experience.
How to overcome FOMO.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Turn inward to reflect on your own motivations & happiness. e.g. Journalism, meditation.
How to get inspired.
Don’t pressure yourself.
Get in a good head space.
Do something else that’s related to the task at hand.
Develop your skills. Work mastery is associated with inspiration.
all this talk about "FOMO" is making me hungry !, I SAY GOLDEN CORAL !!!!
I have ADHD and honestly if my phone didn't remind me to start leaving the house in the morning and to start winding down at night, those habits wouldn't have any ground whatsoever lmao
New Year's Resolution is to SURVIVE!!
I love this channel. Very helpful; thanks! :)
Hey! Great video! Just wanted to let you know we are still left to the wild if we don't develop proper connections to people. Houseless people (like myself) get completely separated from normal human interactions or even rejected from a sense of humanity, and can be left to literally starve and die.
I already knew about piggybacking because of How To ADHD!
Yes! Hi!!
This video inspired me to get inspired ❤️ I also finished my crochet side project while listening to it 😁🙌
Never seen this person ever. I'm subscribed to SciShow Psych?
Why does Hank look younger in this vid even tho it’s the latest?
I think it’s the fringe. 🤔
none of the above, lol. I'm working on things but these aren't tied to new years. One thing I'm trying to tie to a pre-existing habit is to clean up a bit while I'm waiting for my tea to brew
thanks for his video, so much helpful info :)
This man dont age either
Fuuuuuuuu, i checked all of those boxes and i dont even do resolutions. I just need to get my goals going
a resolution for me
- go to 7th grade
- break the rubik's cube world record
- watch scishow to pass 6th grade science
So you can turn your anxiety into excitement? No wonder I am hyperactive and over excited all the time
Lol, the new shiny journal is also a writer thing.
I've been looking for a gym lastly, but only because mine roof's collapsed. Does that count ?
That awkward moment when you have no trouble starting hitting the gym twice a week, but you can‘t be bothered to work on projects you actually enjoy.
I've heard fomo so many times in this i got anxious
Reapprasing responses reminds me of how i repress the thought of how time consuming and tooth-pulling and mentally draining a class is by just repressing that with the thought of how the class is supposed to be useful.
What about the Scott Adams idea of systems are better than setting up goals?
Gracias
If I make a resolution to not make resolutions, did I break it or keep it?
my new year's resolution is the same as last year: Not to keep my new year's resolution.
So you will fail either way?
Phoebe The Great yup
Welcome to the World of The Great Paradox!
My goal this year is to win the lottery 🤪
Can you please add the references for the studies quoted in the videos? @SciShow Psych
I've successfully stopped two bad habits.. so far.
the bridge experiment, I'd get attracted to ppl during demos right after a riot police attack... It was disturbing lol
Because they have SciShow n it sounds very similar..plus there are other channels like scishow space it would be the odd ball out..
I really wanted to do some emotional reappraisal about Hanks shirt but I was unsuccessful. I hate it.Sorry, Hank. Happy New Year!
My resolution is to get my depression under control (or to get over it, but we all know that never works)
My New-Years resolution is 1080p
Bujo!
I’m not going to buy a gym membership, I run around my mind all day long.
4k for sure
Wasn't hosted by Hank alone! Says so in the doobledook
1:48 I never expected a channel like sci show psych to say something so triggering and disordered...
I don't experience much FOMO, although that's probably because I'm always focused on how miserable I am.
how about fireworks grade and science behind it
*Am I the only one that doesn't have any resolutions?*
I never had any. They seemed like pointless drivel as opposed to true genuine change. But old age has made me think maybe I should claim having something "inspiring" or positive emotional blackmail worth mentioning whenever others asks instead of my usual "nothing".
...Like maybe "spend two minutes every day detrashing" or the like, and hope that makes others more self conscious about how they implement their new changes despite it being just a lie for me (in terms of that example being a resolution, I just "naturally" hate messes and people leaving trash around).
I started my resolution of eating better and cheaper 3 weeks ago. Currently it's going great.
My doctor made my new years resulitions for me
For psychological techniques to work they have to be believed. Telling people "hacks" is nothing but counter productive. we will know it is a trick and that knowledge will prevent it from working..
I checked zero of your 4 boxes. Honestly I just dont wanna go a day without showering or without doing a hundred pushups and situps. Skipping on the cardio isnt an option.
Or I will lose my job
Also, I wanna try to save the money I earn from my second full time job until i can get my own place
How is hank everywhere at once. And who named him hank?
oop i nearly forgot to do my doulingo lesson
She is beautiful
No, the challenging goals way is really bad, I only do something big I’ve been wanting to do in Terraria after 2 years
2 YEARS
SciShow would do well to stay away from using intentional weight loss topics as examples. Bet you can guess why, too.
Oh chemist tree hahaha
Answer to all: None. Stop making goals brought to you by capitalist society.
Come up with a PERSONAL REASON to achieve a goal. And not a break-point, or a fixed method.
In other words, pick a direction. Don't promise to add things to your life in order to achieve your goal.
If your goal is to feel healthier, note every thing you ALREADY do that can be considered healthy for you.
When you find yourself doing a healthy thing, do that healthy thing more often or for longer.
why would I "want" to pee my pants? :P
(I realise what you were trying to say there, but the sentence sounded silly)
Dont ask questions you dont want to be answered.
0/4 resolutions in the intro, woo.
is it understandable that I just want to make Brit some tea
Here's the ultimate hack to new years resolutions:
ahem...... Don't do them stupid.
Instead try and work on yourself for the better the entirety of the year. It's not resolute if it's not a life choice
No but I pick something I'm going to work on that year, for the whole year
You know you just defined a resolution, right? You resolve to start doing the thing for the longterm. Most people just don't succeed at keeping it going.
@@beth8775 let's just say read my lasst sentence. And then read the sentence before that. That should make clear why I said why I said.
If not refer to the following:
New years resolution, or rather the term, has turned into a fad. That meams everyone does them for image sake. Resolute means it's something you resolve yourself to. And do not underestimate resolve. To quote bleach:
_"when you protect, you don't let them die. When you defend, you don't let yourself get hit. When you attack, you *kill*"_
Resolve means to lose urself in your choice and let your change become physical in every way.
I do understand, btw, that it is portrayed as a resolution. But giving your resolve a general name, over simplifies the amount of care effort and gravitas your choice should have for you.
Whatever choice you make, let it be just that. Your choice. Not a resolution. Because that takes away the personality of it all.
I’m sorry but if it’s not important enough to handle or so now, waiting till January 1st to start it is just stupid. I don’t do resolutions, and for lent, I gave up lent.
Could you maybe avoid calling things depression colloquialy that aren't really depression.
The problem is that the word 'depression' is a bit murky. That's why there are more specific clinical terms. For some people, things like FOMO could cause depressive episodes or depressive feelings. Depression (in all its forms) often causes its own form of FOMO by self-isolation.
So I agree: the word depression shouldn't be thrown around willy-nilly but I (personally) don't think they misused it.
I would point out that my opinion does not invalidate yours.
12:20 -
Flaw in study. Need to find an asexual woman to play the part, else you don't know if she (even though part of the experiment) had similar responses/presentation due to the bridge. Possibly leading to signals the men responded to. This is not being sexist for all you haters out there, it's being rational. Find potential flaws in your study before you do the study. So many flawed studies make it to the light of day and are treated as gospel.
Not going to work but ok
i'm a fomo sexual !
0/4
...You mean people still buy planners and notebooks to track schedules? Why not use their phones?
None
more propaganda !!!!