Author, Tina Alexis Allen, Learned Her Strict Catholic Father Hid Many Secrets | Megyn Kelly TODAY
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- Опубликовано: 4 мар 2018
- Tina Alexis Allen grew up the youngest of 13 children in a strict Catholic family that harbored many secrets. She visits Megyn Kelly to talk about her memoir, “Hiding Out” in which she details concealing that she was a lesbian, learning that her father was also secretly gay, and much more.
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Author, Tina Alexis Allen, Learned Her Strict Catholic Father Hid Many Secrets | Megyn Kelly TODAY
I was so oblivious to any type of sexual abuse against children. Now I see why my parents never let me out of their sight.
My heart hurts for all the little kids that are not protected as they should be.
Me too.
In kindergarten, i went to my new friends house. My parents came to pick me up. On the way home, my father said to my mother, "From now on, Jenny can come to our house to play".
Some how he knew her home was not a nice one. Her father was a deputy sheriff.
Jenny moved and i saw her once in Jr. High, and she was going down a bad path. Yes, we are lucky we had good parents!
Yes I was one of those unprotected children as well my siblings. Very hard to continue as I never got to b a child
@@patriciagriffin1505 😔
Me too. I was never allowed to sleep over anyone's house and would be mad as a kid but now I totally understand and am so grateful!!!
Sometimes your own father causes the pain to their own children. I was never allowed to play with my male cousins or stay over at friends house. Yet I was molested at home
I personally detected no deception in her body language or facial expressions. I think she's telling the truth. Her siblings know it, but they don't want to admit it. Too bad the 2 brothers and the teacher can't be criminally prosecuted.
Why am I not surprised by the siblings comments. But saddened too, bc on top of all there was to go through, the worst part is having your siblings slam the door in your face. So sorry, Tina. Glad you pushed through it!
Hmm...not the first such situation where the most judgmental, the most strict, the most "holier-than-thou" turns out to be a sleaze in secret.
The most religious people from any religion usually do hold secrets.
Maria Maciel correction. Most people hold secrets. Most people who brush their teeth 🦷 hold secrets. Most people ...well, you catch my drift 😉
Even the bible says
" beware of saints" .
Religion is a very, very serious mental illness...
The statement you have made is SO true. The "husband" I'm married to ACTS so religious but is a huge hypocrite. He curses, connives, schemes, pretends to be nice on the outside but ugly on the inside. He's a wolf in sheep's clothing. A bully. Greedy, heartless, has no empathy, deceitful. The ones in the congregation and on the outside thinks he's such a nice person and so spiritual. If they were a fly on the wall over the years, they would be shocked and some still wouldn't believe it. He's quick to point out faults but he has excuses for his. The over righteous person is always the hypocrite.
@hi there - There is no gahwud, but thanks for playing :)
I miss some of Megan’s interviews. She did select very interesting stories
Sounds like her siblings are in denial
That's very common in dysfunctional families..
Ya’ think? 🙄
I was raised Catholic. It didn't take long into my adulthood to realize that it was not for me. Nothing about the effects of Catholicism (good or bad) surprises me.
Two brothers taking turns sexually abusing their sister. There needs to be an investigation to see if they sexually abused the other sisters as well. And there needs to be punishment.
C.E. Stanton true
Since the victims are now adults, they get to choose how to deal with what happened. There wont be prosecution if they dont report to LE.
I married into a Catholic family. It never stops amazing me how they all look over brothers molesting their sisters. Deny! Deny! Deny!
First Choice Wtf??!
Lisa Cook-Stankard 👍🏻
Abuse happens everywhere, in all families, across economic and educational lines. Tina was abused by her father when he made her is confident. He used Catholicism to mask his guilt. Her father was a hypocrite. who used his religion and his family to cover his lifestyle. Sad and self-serving.
Good on her for her strength to speak out. In spite of the reaction from her siblings which could have added to her pain.
I find it very cruel when people are not believed. I would rather be deceived than risk hurting someone who had been through abuse and by not believing them.
The other 12 siblings did not live the same life. Therefore, their reality was not the same as Tina's.
There's so many secrets who knows what the others went thru
I feel for Tina. I believe her story. Who wishes to disclose secrets if these werent true? I think this is part of moving forward that she needs to embrace that part of her life for her to welcome the future. I am sad her siblings did not support her.
Every child is born into a different family.
That is so true!
Wow what an incredible story. Thank you for sharing
A lot of generational curses.
I just finished the book and then give it 10 stars.
I just think that, overall, family is the most treacherous thing on earth. At least, mine is. A lot of people make themselves look good by keeping secrets, or downright making up lies.
Tina doesn't need validation from her family to know her truth. What is her relationship with her mother now?
There is a basic need for human beings to love and be loved. There is also basic need, for most people, to be safe and secure in love and relationships as well as financially. How we meet these needs in Avery uncertain world is what is at stake. So when people are handing secrets, it is because they found a way to have their needs met in a way that is either not condoned by society, their religions and/or their families.. how we are going to fix this is probably one of the great challenges of the world considering that most women look for a loving, financially stable and economically comfortable nest to bring children to the world and raise while most men, I think, may be looking for experiences that may be at odd with women's and even jeopardise them ... or course that is a general assessment but, from what I have experienced, witnessed and feel, may be true in many cases.
Gosh I’m going to miss this show!!
The “father wound”......very 😞 sad.
My late husband told me about the abuse in his family, one of his brothers says there was no abuse.
anne welch siblings can have very different experiences with parents also people look at the past through rose tinted glasses
There's always one or more that will deny it
Common
I dont know who did megans makeup on this day, but Holy cow it's amazing.
not the makeup but the canvas (Megan) herself is pretty.
It's that boysenberry, it mirrors her top - it's a gorgeous hue on her.
she is still ugly inside though... bloody racist
My God, who cares about make UP?
First Choice yeah everyone’s a racist, I’m so sick of hearing that!
What a story!
Beautiful brave woman
❤️ Thank You ❤️
It’s not uncommon for young girls who’d been so profoundly betrayed/sexually abused by older male figures to later seek safety in solely female relationships. Her father had probably also been molested very young by an older male. I feel so sorry for her devoted mother who’d been so massively abused and betrayed, by not only her husband, but also by religious male authority figures. She must have felt unbearably betrayed, questioning the very religion that her entire life had been based upon. How devastating for her; plus learning that her own sons had molested her youngest daughter. The father’s secret relationship with his daughter is reprehensible, pitting her as a Judas who was also furtively betraying her own mother. I agree that there may have been other daughters molested. I think the author is very brave to relay what happened to her because keeping such dark secrets is what causes horrific abuse to continue unabated. It wasn’t her fault that she’d been horrifically harmed. It’s unforgivable for the Church to protect and foster this kind of heinous abuse; all the while unconscionably raking in billions of dollars (even tax-free) so deceitfully and furtively from the public.
Therese Ember , I don't think it was her brothers that made her lean more toward a relationship with women. I think it was the 27 yr old female teacher. She" turned her out" , for lack of a better phrase. Once she felt what it was like to be with both sexes, she realized it was women that she like the most. In case you didn't noticed she refered to the relationship/ molestation as consensual( at the time), because she enjoyed it, but years later, realized it was wrong.
I don't feel sorry for her mother. Her mother stood by and did nothing when her husband was a mean drunk and was very unkind to his children. She just gave him more babies to abuse in his drunken rages. She cares more for the church than her own kids.
Agreed
@@anthonycoleman9593 A person is born being a lesbian or homosexual it has nothing to do with being molested etc... If the molestation and relationship with her female teacher NEVER happened she would still be a lesbian. I am assuming you are a heterosexual male correct? You couldn't make yourself sexual attracted to males because this is not in your genetic makeup. Honestly all that matters is that she is in a relationship that is healthy and makes her happy.
@@karabadasski2521 Every individual I have known with homosexual identity has sexual abuse in their history.
Y buy the book when I heard everything here
Usually happens in strict religious homes
God loves the righteous people, not the religious.
A sad story to me.
I notice the most strict Christian men have the most secrets. What hypocrites.
The dad labeled himself as Catholic but he wasn’t in any way! It should not be used in a description of him.
It’s outragious what a Father and ger vrothers got away with;they should have been prosecuted and sent to jail- for all of the abuse.
I remember Patrick Stewart [TNG] revealed that HIS father was alcohol-dependent and domestically violent because of PTSD after the war- maybe her father too had this response to trauma[ not an excuse, of course].
That generation either died early or were angry abusers.
she's so attractive!!!! 😍
That was a lot . . . A lot. 😕
I'm so traumatized I feel like no one is wholesome. Or hopefully they're turning normal
Family each member has a different experience within it
Not everyone will know the dark things that goes on.
The other siblings still want to continue living in denial.
Did the mother know of,the incest? I cannot imagine it
They usely do but over look it
Nice.
I think the title of the show was wrong .
Interesting that siblings would take time to imply they had a hunkie dorie life and not have the tiniest emotion or compassion for their sister here (or the courage shown). That’s not a reaction of “good catholic family values”. Actions speak louder than words...love is compassion..❤️
Q
That's a big secret, omg 😂😍.
Wow
Great book!
Really, hearing that story and having experienced or witnessed closely how men treat women most of the time, I steer clear of men and certainly from religions who encourage, condone and justify such behaviours in whatever's or whoever's name.
BlueEyes Brittany the Catholic Church never condones abuse.
Deciding to hate men due to anecdotes is not a "good choice." And no, most men do not abuse or mistreat women, but ok.
Which religions condone this???
Laura Cummings The current pope used to hide it as much as all the others. He’s a hypocrite.
My church is against child abuse, in fact a Christian Science practitioner is supposed to report abuse if it's happening.
Chubbychase, MD? Lol.
Chevy Chase, MD 😉
My friend is in her 40s, but she is the oldest and grew up in a 2 bedroom home and she, her 2 brothers and baby sister shared a queen sized bed. She once woke up to her brother touching her one night. Then a few years ago she found out that same brother sexually abused their youngest sister for about 4 to 5 years =(
sounds like it could be a Tarantino film
Right?
🤯
If her dad liked alcohol the Vatican is one of those places where you can find really good bottles.
Really upset that her show was taken off the air in many ways I feel this was Megyns redemption the show was very good and I feel she was in her zone
I believe Tina!!!
Hope they make a movie from the book.
I read her book. Quite shocking and graphic.
Your beautiful megyn
Ikid2groove !!! You're
Demons tend to jump around amongst family members. Even witches carry their sins through from generation after generation.
absolutely not the doctrine of the catholic church. how saddening to see the level of misunderstanding here.
Yes girl, they painted a bad picture of Catholicism.
Shows what the Catholic church is really like behind the senes. Doctrines mean nothing in any church when it comes to evil doing. It is everywhere.
Imagine that
Wow…. I quarantee you….. there are even more secrets. Knowing he was close to the Vatican….. enough said!
Im a proud catholic. What can we do when perverts try but can't
I understand. My mother was psychotic and killed people.
WHY aren't the abusers in jail????????? those abusers are reproducing and prob. abusing and abused others as well... wtf!!
Uh. What’s new?
SECRETS...
The catholic religion does not teach that people should misbehave, quite the opposite. On the opposite, some other religions encourage misbehaviour whether this be mistreatment of women, dishonesty, harming others from other communities... so it may have its fault but the teachings do not encourage doing harm .... I personally would not trust anyone knowing how things and how dangerous things can be, especially organised crimes by some in organised network, and certainly men when it comes to how they treat women and their wives.... but I get tired of the christians being targeted when some other religious do far more terrible things justified and condoned by their religions or communities...
Hiding Out
This is a news-worthy story? Catholic family with secrets? Join the club lady
Isn't this what we find with all devote "Christian men?"
Most overtly religious people are hypocrites in my experience. To be fair it's difficult not to be especially if you shove it in peoples faces at every chance.
Very meaty subject! My Dad as hypocritical but add Harvey Weinstein and a song stealer from me near one hundred hits sold to labels cheaply. For a former music producer its epic how little respect for the Congressional Records of Copyright Law ! Loaned mom out too bad she kept that secret. I'd never had bothered with this crazy duo.
Dorathi Catalano I hope you will find forgiveness in your heart one day.
Dorathi Catalano What are you talking about?
Dorathi Catalano a1
Y’all look alike
Jesus. Let the guest speak!
To call that a "very Catholic" family is a lie.
This reminds me of Bruce Jenner's Story a bit.
caitlyn*
Wonder what her relationship is with her brothers now :::
Is she not worried for any of there children if they have any 🤔
She probably turn't to lesbian because her past :::
she's just a little fish in a big pond
Keep hearing so many story's like this it's not even shocking no more .
Catholic! I bet he has secrets!
OMG! Really!?? NOT the Catholic Church! Next, someone will be calling priests pedophiles!
The Catholic Church is a Hypocritical Institution.
What's wrong with these Catholics in the west ? I was educated at a school run by French Jesuit brothers in India. I got the best education possible in that part of the world. I had zero clue about these scandals.
I'm a Catholic from the west, my family is fine as are my friends families. This is a family who disobeyed the faith while pretending to follow it.
Oops I didn't mean to generalize. The tone of my comment was meant to reflect how upset/irritated I was after watching this and other news that came out recently. Thanks for pointing out.
I do not agree with her lifestyle but I believe she is very courageous for coming forward. And more honest than many self professed heterosexual Catholics.
Why are you all out on the siblings? They had different experiences period. They are not obliged to be with her when they had a different reality
A lot of people who choose to become lesbians were victims of abusive households. I suppose it would make sense, considering they never felt safe with their fathers, as a source of refuge and protection. Parents can mess up their kids... though parents really do not want to acknowledge their role in the raising of their own children, and their growth.
Ok, spoil the entire book.
#
So sad
To many kids
Can’t wait to see Joe Biden on morning Joe tomorrow morning. What a treat to see decency and respect again in political life again. OMG!
Sniff???
Joe Biden is a satanist. Hillary is a witch.
😊😎🤩😻👍
hey megyn, can you shut up for 5 minutes and let your guests speak ? sheesh🤨
Another lesbian who was sexually abused. I hear that’s very common
Another straight woman, who was sexually abused. I hear that's very common..
Another straight man who was sexually abused, I hear that's very common.
Either she is an attention seeker or her siblings are in denial.
Why this inside family miserable thing is big media news time worth thing?!?! The big media is rotting at light speed to say least!!!
I don't see it as any kind of "big media" conspiracy. It's a subject that most people want to sweep under the rug, but nevertheless exists in many families. I think it's important to discuss the contents in the book as it may provide direction and healing for those who've survived similar circumstances.
Stone W EXACTLY
So this woman was betraying her mother...why isn't this mentioned. The mother needed to know he was whoring around with other men. The mother could of contradicted diseases or even AIDS, that could of completely ruined her life...this woman is a monster.
They mother did nothing to protect her children from their angry, drunken abusive father. Instead she had more babies for him to abuse. Screw the mother.
Good point Sherry.
Could HAVE. Never, ever, EVER "could of."
They were all deeply flawed, the father, mother, and daughter. This issue isn’t black and white. The mother turned a blind eye, willingly or unwillingly.
Okay, so it is strange how the family is not in agreement with her account, and essentially shut down her book.
You know, Latoya Jackson did the same thing, made the talk show circuits, only to be revealed as a "fraud"! She was never sexually abused by her Father, she knew nothing about her brother Micheal and showed herself to truly be some kind of "kook".
I wonder what this family will reveal about this actress, and why they do not support her book.
Deidre Muhammad Of course they don't support her book! You are clueless....
They are in denial
She doesn't seem crazy like Latoya. She is much more believable
Why would anyone air their dirty laundry so publicly. Such sordid details, if true need to be confined and dealt with within the immediate family. The only outsiders being the psychotherapist who is bound to secrecy by the rules and ethics of his profession
Shaheeda William book sales
Shaheeda William To help/motivate others who have experienced a similar childhood. "Like, this is what happened to me, this is how I overcame it, and you can, too." Also, some famous people write to tell their stories if they feel it has been misrepresented or had untruths told about them. I am sure you have heard, "The truth will set you free."
You dont have to watch this.
Shaheeda William Based on your ancient way of thinking, I gather you must be a dinosaur?
Money
Weird woman.
Yes this woman is obviously creating a juicy spin. Her family thinks so too. Anything to make money.
Holly von Dross -Her experience was different. I’m willing to bet that there are some who can verify her story but choose not to and there are some who genuinely believe she’s lying.
You got it!
Sounds like the book is very accurate. Her brother's and sister's sound like brain damaged addicts in denial. I'm Jewish and I've had a lot of bad experiences with Irish people. When I was younger and gambled a little I noticed that virtually all the people who stiffed me were Irish. A lot of it has to do with antisemitism. A lot of the Irish immigrants resented that they had to work for Jewish bosses. A lot has to do with that they drink a lot.