THE TRUTH ABOUT RIHANNA'S VOGUE INTERVIEW: How To Fake Confidence & Beat Anxiety! | Shallon

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  • THE TRUTH ABOUT RIHANNA'S VOGUE INTERVIEW: How To Fake Confidence & Beat Anxiety! | Shallon
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  • @saint.hudson13
    @saint.hudson13 4 года назад +2541

    I never find myself embarrassed because I’ve realized that in this life NOBODY knows what the hell they’re doing! We’re all winging it, throwing spaghetti at the wall & seeing what sticks. 💁🏾‍♀️

    • @teniast506
      @teniast506 4 года назад +30

      That is so accurate :)

    • @ThatDIYlifeAnastasia28
      @ThatDIYlifeAnastasia28 4 года назад +56

      Yes yes to that. That’s also why I’m not worshiping any other person now, cause everyone deals with their kind of problems and no one knows the right way of living and behaving! The thought of it relaxes me

    • @Rosazuly7
      @Rosazuly7 4 года назад +9

      Best comment ever

    • @Robynkay
      @Robynkay 4 года назад +5

      Facts 💯

    • @Juliap28
      @Juliap28 4 года назад +5

      Fake it till you make it!!!

  • @booklover466
    @booklover466 4 года назад +917

    Rihanna’s confidence make her ten times beautiful and fascinating. She looks amazing and natural with everything she does no matter how weird it.

  • @TheOrryginal
    @TheOrryginal 4 года назад +1168

    I would looove to speak to Rihanna's mother on how she raised her. The relationship between her mother and father was difficult and I wonder what her mother taught her about self love, self respect as well as knowing your worth but staying humble at the same time. To me Rihanna is the personification of self love.

    • @ilonildea7930
      @ilonildea7930 4 года назад +54

      Same.I don't really see myself having kids in the future, but if I will have a daughter , Rihanna's mother and her way of rising and educating would be like a formula for me .

    • @griltatatatattata9457
      @griltatatatattata9457 4 года назад +42

      @@ilonildea7930 you could do the same if you had a son too! let's not forget the boys that struggle with confidence every day💜

    • @nobody-n9s
      @nobody-n9s 4 года назад +1

      Cool du bist auch aus Deutschland:D

    • @ilonildea7930
      @ilonildea7930 4 года назад +6

      @@griltatatatattata9457 ohh if I had a boy then I would love to borrow some advices from John Legend/Kim Namjoon' parents . Great men!

    • @fautpaspoussermamie
      @fautpaspoussermamie 4 года назад +44

      Same. I think the way parents treat you and support you is a big part of confidence. How do you feel confident when your parents give you the impression that you disappoint them permanently

  • @imanbell2827
    @imanbell2827 4 года назад +406

    Confidence is “I’m fine if they don’t like me” I like that

  • @TahtahmesDiary
    @TahtahmesDiary 4 года назад +580

    I have been channeling Rihanna's energy in life since I saw her & realized she was gold at 17. Her attitude gets you places, its so true!

  • @islabee94
    @islabee94 4 года назад +556

    Being confident doesn't mean that you never have moments of insecurity. Rihanna is absolutely confident 99.9% of the time. I think it's a testament to her confidence that she can admit to a moment of weakness. That makes her ultimately strong in my eyes. Strength isn't about never being weak, its about being brave enough to own it when we are.
    Love the video tho xxx

    • @eric0556
      @eric0556 4 года назад +4

      This.

    • @AshleyNord
      @AshleyNord 4 года назад

      F Flanman so true! 👏🏼

    • @ygujt
      @ygujt 4 года назад

      finally someone with some common sense

    • @kellysmiles849
      @kellysmiles849 4 года назад

      Like we live in a society that embraces that 😷

    • @jacquelineatim4097
      @jacquelineatim4097 4 года назад +4

      F Flanman she said she doesn’t feel beautiful 80% of the time

  • @kristinekemper2899
    @kristinekemper2899 4 года назад +480

    There's a great, quiet confidence about RiRi that she doesn't have to be the center of attention all the time

    • @marablooms1788
      @marablooms1788 4 года назад +4

      Exactly!

    • @kellysmiles849
      @kellysmiles849 4 года назад +6

      It’s not the something extra that makes a star....it’s the something missing. ☺️

  • @suesheification
    @suesheification 4 года назад +323

    She's not lying. Anxiety is a remnant of the fight or flight response that no longer serves us.

    • @Melcatsite
      @Melcatsite 4 года назад +3

      Wait really? I never thought about that.

    • @MultiCowgirl22
      @MultiCowgirl22 4 года назад

      That's interesting :))) I understand more :) in addition to therapy :)

    • @catshultz9045
      @catshultz9045 4 года назад +3

      That actually just helped me a lot. I can be a total spaz when I have an anxiety attack & right now my body is trying to heal & it's not helping me heal. I know fight or flight from what mg career was I'd just never looked at it like this. Hugs

    • @RomanZolanski123
      @RomanZolanski123 4 года назад +6

      Yes I’m glad somebody said this! It’s simply a survival tactic. Many of the symptoms are your body trying to help you. Fast metabolism - your body is trying to remove as much waste as possible so you’re lighter therefore can move quicker. Sweating - some think this is so prey can’t hold onto you as easily since there’s moisture. And adrenaline doesn’t need to be explained. Of course, if we were fighting tigers and lions this would be great. But board meetings? Placing an order at a restaurant? Going to the Grammys? 😂 Our bodies are designed for dealing with more so physical threats than emotional.

    • @kellysmiles849
      @kellysmiles849 4 года назад

      sue she it serves us when we choose to listen 🧘🏼‍♀️

  • @anifa
    @anifa 4 года назад +226

    My goal for a long time has been to become more confident and recently I've seen a shift in my personality. And the crazy thing is I was always confident, I just had to distance myself from people who questioned that, to see it clearly.

    • @brennamaloney4288
      @brennamaloney4288 4 года назад +21

      That’s it ma’am, give yourself space and you’ll fill it up yourself

    • @amyliataylor
      @amyliataylor 4 года назад +8

      Anifa good for you 👏🏾

    • @malaysiamcbride578
      @malaysiamcbride578 4 года назад +6

      Love this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @chloebernard8358
    @chloebernard8358 4 года назад +245

    As a Caribbean person I appreciate you making a point that “Barbadian” is not what we use 😂

    • @daniellelindo6875
      @daniellelindo6875 4 года назад +3

      I am Jamaican, just asking if it still is valid

    • @eric0556
      @eric0556 4 года назад +7

      I thought Barbadian is the correct term and Bajan is a slang just like Australian calls themselves Aussie.?

    • @chloebernard8358
      @chloebernard8358 4 года назад +19

      Reicuois Siobhan Grainne It isn’t slang. I could see why you would think so, but it actually is the noun used to describe someone from Barbados. In the Caribbean we really never hear the word “Barbadian” unless it comes from an American pretty much.

    • @ConcietedMuchXD
      @ConcietedMuchXD 4 года назад +5

      Chloe Bernard my uncle is bajan/Barbadian (older generation though) and he INSISTS that “bajan” is slang and the proper term is Barbadian

    • @chloebernard8358
      @chloebernard8358 4 года назад

      Well it’s in the dictionary so

  • @verysmarrname
    @verysmarrname 4 года назад +234

    Anxiety is a real thing, Shallon 😕 why would Rihanna be lying about that? Let’s not forget she went through very traumatic stuff and that has consequences specially if it wasn’t dealt with at the right time..
    the fact that she is telling now only means she has done the work

    • @withlovemiki
      @withlovemiki 4 года назад +2

      Correct me if I'm wrong but didn't the assault with Chris brown happen before the Grammy's that year?

    • @blarmy827
      @blarmy827 4 года назад +5

      verysmartname she really shouldn’t talk about mental health because she clearly does not get it. I have heard her basically call so many people liars because they have anxiety and mental health problems and it really pisses me off. It’s not easy for some people to be open about it especially because there are people like shallon that question whenever people say they have any issue with mental health. This type of mentality is detrimental to people struggling with it. She almost speaks about mental health as if it only happens as a direct consequence of something bad happening to them... which is completely inaccurate.

    • @celstboch734
      @celstboch734 4 года назад

      @@withlovemiki It did and when this time of the year comes, it's always very complicated for both Rihanna and Chris.

  • @LipstickandAnissa
    @LipstickandAnissa 4 года назад +250

    There's a whole book about this called the Alter Ego effect! I honestly borrow confidence from Rihanna regular! I haven't read the interview, but this makes sense about anxiety. I also understand why she would be okay as a single mom, i really empathize with this, just because I feel like my mentality has shifted from being dependent into building a legacy of my own.

    • @ms.x1669
      @ms.x1669 4 года назад

      What is the name of the book?

    • @IK-ei3nu
      @IK-ei3nu 4 года назад +3

      ms. X The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman 😇

  • @sarmiento123
    @sarmiento123 4 года назад +53

    I’m now 25 years old and I finally love myself. I finally accepted myself and has now turned into confidence. I wish I could tell my 15 year old self to love myself and treat myself kinder. I got into fitness at 21 and it literally changed my whole life not because how my body looked afterwards but believing in myself that I could transform my body. One thing I tell myself is I could never be anyone else but me so why hate myself so much. I should never compare myself to anyone because I can never be them and they can never be me. It’s about acceptance and stop comparing yourself to others. I tell my little sister this. I hope she one day feels this way and stop competing with herself and learn to love it 🧡

    • @poppyaprill
      @poppyaprill 4 года назад

      itss_ nicole how did you get into fitness? I find it hard to get the motivation xx

  • @ohthatschar
    @ohthatschar 4 года назад +89

    she doesn’t even need the attention, but when she does get the attention she looks so confident & amazing! a true CONFIDENT QUEEN.

  • @yaram1680
    @yaram1680 4 года назад +283

    At 14:55 when she said “you’ll be fine if i didn’t make a video hahaha” NO HONEY WE ACTUALLY WONT thank you

    • @LovinCosmetics
      @LovinCosmetics 4 года назад +8

      right I was like "BULLSHT" lol!

    • @mr4lvlog250
      @mr4lvlog250 4 года назад +3

      Lmao

    • @Missadgreene
      @Missadgreene 4 года назад +7

      I look for a video everyday, now.

    • @shallonlester
      @shallonlester  4 года назад +73

      Don't worry I have NO life so I'm all yours. Like Queen Elizabeth who married England, I am wed to the Shallontourage.

    • @Melcatsite
      @Melcatsite 4 года назад +3

      Ikr, I was like of course we need you.

  • @kjade5123
    @kjade5123 4 года назад +78

    shallon is giving me greece goddess vibes like so thaattttsss what inner glow looks like ohhh

  • @ronnielodge7032
    @ronnielodge7032 4 года назад +112

    “Exhaustion” can also be code for nervous breakdown

    • @kellysmiles849
      @kellysmiles849 4 года назад +12

      Ronnie Lodge or spiritual breakthrough 😉

  • @theiridescentgoddess
    @theiridescentgoddess 4 года назад +59

    I love Riri! And I'm not surprised that she couldn't preform due to anxiety, I remember her saying early in her career that she had to ”fake it till you make it” when it came to confidence and her sex appeal. She said it made her really uncomfortable at first and she had to own it. When we met different goals and points in our lives we often face the same problems when had in the past, laced with familiar insecurities, they just have a more current twist. This is why we date the same people over and over, have the same issues in work environments, if we don’t do the hard work to truly learn a lesson, and not just pushing through it. I feel this makes her just a more complete complex relatable queen because it helps to show the reality of growth and the human experience!

  • @lina-yu4on
    @lina-yu4on 4 года назад +24

    Her showing that she can feel weak is confidence in itself

  • @quarentinedlove2903
    @quarentinedlove2903 4 года назад +151

    Her confidence is Caribbean culture there are strong women over there not something you can teach

    • @jmeezy2362
      @jmeezy2362 4 года назад +1

      🇧🇧☺️

    • @reydjz
      @reydjz 4 года назад

      🇬🇾🇯🇲 i see no lie

    • @spaces3345
      @spaces3345 4 года назад

      Yass🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾

  • @kellysmiles849
    @kellysmiles849 4 года назад +12

    Ri understands the power of being the center of attention! What makes her warm blooded are the messages she is able to convey in the spotlight. She triggers with intention when she feels the need, and balances that by also inspiring “raising up” others.
    Anxiety has a very strong spiritual component. ALL emotions do! The more tuned in a person is the more they feel...in themselves and in others. Ask any artist this. It is when you are able to turn your ‘’curse’’ into a gift. That is confidence.....even on bad hair days ;)

  • @islove7861
    @islove7861 4 года назад +186

    We need inside info of the people controlling Britney

    • @ann-rs8kk
      @ann-rs8kk 4 года назад +1

      islove yes!!

    • @Mara_143
      @Mara_143 4 года назад +2

      Facts!

    • @Alex-rh8mr
      @Alex-rh8mr 4 года назад +13

      Shallon Lester would you consider talking about Amanda Bynes? I used to be obsessed with her :(

    • @KEJE78
      @KEJE78 4 года назад +4

      @@shallonlester this is what I say all the time, people try to bully her father as if he had control over her life, her money and her creativity.. But no one think that her father is the only wall between her breakdown when Federline and his brats eat her up..

    • @islove7861
      @islove7861 4 года назад +4

      @@shallonlester This is not what i believe, there are way too many proofs.
      Also why would she tour the world and work so much if she was so mentally ill..
      There is so much more ! My heart breaks for her and what she is going tru...
      Anyways Love u Shallon ( and sorry for my Englsih ) xx

  • @aaronpatrickmusic
    @aaronpatrickmusic 4 года назад +20

    My confidence idols are Rihanna and Jimi Hendrix. I used to ask myself "What would Rih do?" in situations...now I ask "What the f*ck does Aaron want to do?" I've lost a lot of faux friends in the process, but my confidence and self awareness are higher than they have been in years and I receive a lot more respect from those around me. Everything you said resonated with me!

  • @mr4lvlog250
    @mr4lvlog250 4 года назад +94

    I agree with Rihanna in a home with a family you can have all the riches but once love ain't there well you know that something real important is missing. Btw I'm from Guyana

    • @classassignment3643
      @classassignment3643 4 года назад +3

      Fellow Guyanese here 🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾

    • @mr4lvlog250
      @mr4lvlog250 4 года назад +2

      @@classassignment3643 heyyy fellow guyanese brother or sister

    • @adelaguelfo
      @adelaguelfo 4 года назад +3

      SOUTH AMERICA SQUAD!!! Love from Argentina 🥰

  • @cityandgirl
    @cityandgirl 4 года назад +19

    I’ll always love Rihanna and the energy she gives off. ☀️ Definition of confident and humble, somehow all at the same time.

  • @Digmer
    @Digmer 4 года назад +34

    rihanna was supposed to be part of a girl group with two other girls, but the second she entered the office, the other two girls were no more.

  • @Blonde_bombadil
    @Blonde_bombadil 4 года назад +22

    Yay! So excited for this!
    Maybe a video on dealing with a break up while in quarantine. No salons, gym, massages, work or school to help rebuild ourselves. On top of all that we get to deal with the very real reality of getting sick and dying alone.

  • @tmarie69
    @tmarie69 4 года назад +58

    When we are able to travel again. I would LOVE to see your Paris travel blogs. I love traveling alone. It’s so oddly therapeutic and I always learn something new about myself.

    • @shallonlester
      @shallonlester  4 года назад +7

      It really is. It's so centering and honestly LUXURIOUS to be able to make ALL your own decisions!

    • @Oasis221
      @Oasis221 4 года назад +2

      I love solo travel, been to many great places all over the world meeting wonderful people, having fantastic experiences and memories on my solo travels. Not only is it liberating, empowering but also super addicting. You will learn what you don’t like and what you are willing to compromise for other people

    • @Lulu060986
      @Lulu060986 4 года назад

      How do you ladies do it? Feel anxious about traveling alone as a woman.

  • @blueswan7655
    @blueswan7655 4 года назад +63

    I feel like celebrities know that a lot of people have anxiety or think they do, so they try and act ‘relatable’. I don’t know if this is the case (and I would never insult our queen) but it’s just a thought

    • @eric0556
      @eric0556 4 года назад +9

      It's not like she has crippling anxiety. She just said that she had sudden outburst of anxiety on big events (like the grammys) which is totally normal

    • @sweeetzz
      @sweeetzz 4 года назад +2

      Blue Swan I think it stems from her childhood

    • @blueswan7655
      @blueswan7655 4 года назад +3

      Yeah I know I’m not saying Rihanna specifically, but I do think it’s something celebrities like to share. I could be wrong tho. It just seems that way sometimes but idk

    • @NanaYLeonard
      @NanaYLeonard 3 года назад

      But if you look at the life of a celebrity...how could they NOT have anxiety?

    • @blueswan7655
      @blueswan7655 3 года назад

      @@NanaYLeonard very true

  • @sharda_ann
    @sharda_ann 4 года назад +38

    Love hearing her speak on her mother’s Guyanese background... On a side note stay warm blooded ladies 😉

  • @kickgrunstra5422
    @kickgrunstra5422 4 года назад +23

    i’d love to see your Paris vlogs right now!! this quarantine makes me wanna see other people travel even more! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @nikotopnotch2832
    @nikotopnotch2832 4 года назад +18

    "The father, the sun and the Fenty..." LOL! I can't with you today 😆

  • @soilgrasswaterair
    @soilgrasswaterair 4 года назад +62

    With Rihanna I could always see her being a single mom, or raise her kid with another woman, but with a guy not really tbh. It might be relating to how she was raised by her mom, grandma and “aunties”?!

    • @OzanaDivine
      @OzanaDivine 4 года назад +3

      I feel the same. I also feel like a man that want's to be with riri can't feel threatened by her femme fatale energy.

    • @kjsos99
      @kjsos99 4 года назад +2

      @@OzanaDivine she is a femme fatale not just energy like,
      you can clearly see that she was hight quality even at 18-19 years old,somehow you can sense a true femme fatale and a female who is trying to embody that

    • @OzanaDivine
      @OzanaDivine 4 года назад +1

      gi yup. True

  • @Sophassofa
    @Sophassofa 4 года назад +52

    Girl after changing the way i view things from ur advice i just had the first day in years where i feel good about myself and actually LIKE what i see in the mirror and sis hasn’t seen the sun in 2 weeks, my hair’s a mess and no makeup! Thank you so much!!!!

    • @mbnvnd
      @mbnvnd 4 года назад

      Soph like what advice

    • @Sophassofa
      @Sophassofa 4 года назад +2

      M Bnvnd like the cold warm blooded animal stuff, just in general her approach to life has helped a lot

    • @mbnvnd
      @mbnvnd 4 года назад +1

      Soph glad you're doing well. Excited for your future. Have fun!

    • @Sophassofa
      @Sophassofa 4 года назад +1

      M Bnvnd thanks!

  • @sopigmented9629
    @sopigmented9629 4 года назад +38

    she looks so stunning in this vid i cantttttttttt

  • @Azr721
    @Azr721 4 года назад +13

    What I love about Rihanna is that even though she fake confidence, she doesn't brag about being confident and talks about it all the time and act like she's a Yoga teacher and tell people billion times "love yourself, you're beautiful and all that blah blah blah". Yet, she manages to came across as a very confident person. She does herself silently and let the vibe come to surface as it is.

    • @lousunny5682
      @lousunny5682 4 года назад

      TEA-REX exactly!! I love it too!

  • @mauhuff
    @mauhuff 4 года назад +44

    Rihanna is my favorite celebrity for a myriad of reasons but the main one would be her personality. Literally just watch some of her instagram lives and be inspired by how someone so famous/rich/beautiful/successful chooses to NOT take herself so seriously. ❤️

  • @justjo510
    @justjo510 4 года назад +60

    I shared the warm blood/cold blooded theory with my 13 y/o daughter the other day and she was blown away how accurate it is, i was like yeah i learned that from shallon my friend from the interwebs 😉 hehe you're amazing sis 💯 (when you get a min could you pleeeease do a vid about nicki minaj and her hubs, choices and red queen attitude?) oh! p.s your hair looks cute brushed back, hope you're havin a beautiful day hugs n love from sacramento 💋💃🏾💪🏾😁👑

  • @lenachilari
    @lenachilari 4 года назад +6

    Hey Shallon, i am from Romania, country in Eastern Europe. Thank you for saving my mornings and really, my life would not roll fine without your videos in the morning while drinking my coffee (stuck in the campus dormitory while my family is away in Austria where the borders are closed). I wish to you and to your family a lot of health and keep going on because you're just great and really beautiful in and out!

  • @cityandgirl
    @cityandgirl 4 года назад +16

    Regarding your comments about Rihanna having anxiety (and needing to cancel her Grammys performance), I was thinking about it and I totally buy the anxiety story. Did you watch that video with her and Anna Wintour? She was visibly nervous and even shy talking to Anna, it was pretty interesting.

    • @itsaurora4894
      @itsaurora4894 4 года назад +2

      Yeah, she also admitted that she is actually really really shy but she's pretending it's not happening. Riri just knows how to make it work

  • @mIsErIeSandDrAmA
    @mIsErIeSandDrAmA 4 года назад +39

    I hate when Americans belittle themselves , the rest of the world are not at all necessarily educated about everything at all its normal

    • @faycoleman9023
      @faycoleman9023 4 года назад +1

      Thank you this made me feel better.

    • @vliciouss
      @vliciouss 3 года назад

      @@faycoleman9023 same

  • @stellabella3337
    @stellabella3337 4 года назад +24

    I just wanna say that the highlight of my quarantine is watching your sub count grow. You deserve it girl!

  • @ChichiMarie
    @ChichiMarie 4 года назад +39

    The father the son and the fenty!!! Lmao I just love you. 😭💋❤️

  • @ava2275
    @ava2275 4 года назад +2

    I’ve always practiced “Fake It ‘Til You Make It” until I not so long ago experience my spiritual awakening. I learned that our 3D version of ourselves should practice “Act as if you already have it.” Faking it comes from a place of lack, which resonates at a much lower vibration (David R. Hawkins - Map of Consciousness). As oppose to acting as if you already have it, it means you are grateful and doing it from a place of love which resonates at a higher vibration. It coincides with the law of attraction, it is simply revealing what is already present. 💕 Much love to all of you and Thank you Shallon for all of these awesome videos. 😊

  • @KeishaCharmaine
    @KeishaCharmaine 4 года назад +8

    Yes our Queen!!!! They call themselves both Barbadian and Bajans. I know ppl from Barbados who call themselves each. Btw I’m Guyanese American so I feel a little connected to Rih 😂 Shoutouts to my Caribbean ppl! (Yes, Guyana is in South America but it’s the only country that speaks English primarily, the culture is Caribbean and we hold CARICOM, the Caribbean headquarters in short) Thought I’d add that tidbit before someone tries me lol

    • @Mareissa_K
      @Mareissa_K 4 года назад +1

      Keisha Charmaine yesss!! 🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾

  • @vervebrrbbfb9513
    @vervebrrbbfb9513 4 года назад +76

    Shallon Lester: the only RUclips channel I will stop watching Dexter for

    • @fletcherxdesign
      @fletcherxdesign 4 года назад +3

      Taylor Swift now that’s a compliment

    • @lara6397
      @lara6397 4 года назад +5

      Taylor Swift You love Dexter, Shallon and taylor swift? omg i love you 😂❤️

    • @lilbabyangel125
      @lilbabyangel125 4 года назад +2

      stop after season 4.. anything further is a disappointment in that series

    • @ismahenelarbi7386
      @ismahenelarbi7386 4 года назад +2

      Love Dexter ❤️

    • @hannahc.3100
      @hannahc.3100 4 года назад +1

      Dee_V I liked seasons 1-5, although 5 does have a completely different vibe. All the seasons after 5 are trash though

  • @gigi-2204
    @gigi-2204 4 года назад +42

    19:20 my problem with this is that yeah I can say all I’ve accomplished (which is rather impressive for a 20 yo) but in my head I’m like... but that doesn’t make me a better person? I’d think the same if someone came to me saying “oh I’ve got that Harvard degree”, ok but like you’re still an awful person. Yall feel me? 😕 I’d love it if you made a video about recovering from fuckups...that’d really bring me confidence. 💛

  • @BG-td3ph
    @BG-td3ph 4 года назад +9

    Paris Hilton is confidence goals! Thank you for giving her props!!

  • @ashyh6202
    @ashyh6202 4 года назад +80

    You literally look like Hilary Duff here!

    • @infairvarona
      @infairvarona 4 года назад +5

      If Hilary Duff, Margot Robbie and Hailey Baldwin had a baby, it would be Shallon haha

    • @orangeblossom5362
      @orangeblossom5362 4 года назад

      She reminds me of that one girl from white chicks

    • @astrid3545
      @astrid3545 4 года назад

      lili singh

    • @infairvarona
      @infairvarona 4 года назад

      @@astrid3545 okay maybe not lily Singh, lily Reinhardt?

    • @astrid3545
      @astrid3545 4 года назад

      @@infairvarona OH MY GOD KSKSKSKSJJSK Yes lili reinhardt

  • @katybee3891
    @katybee3891 4 года назад +30

    It’s obvious that Rihanna can’t have such a high self esteem if you look at who she has been dating and what kind of treatment she is willing to accept from men.

    • @Riri-gv3bs
      @Riri-gv3bs 3 года назад

      I mean she said herself she likes being whipped

  • @classassignment3643
    @classassignment3643 4 года назад +18

    Rih is phenomenal. She’s a woman that’s experienced life & she’s come from humble beginnings. She is a great role model. She will make a phenomenal mom. She is half Guyanese!!! She needs to rep for Guyana!!! 🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾🇬🇾

  • @aparnapanchanathan8432
    @aparnapanchanathan8432 4 года назад +14

    It's our life work. Confidence doesn't have a smooth upwards trajectory; it kinda fluctuates its way upwards. Bad moments (days, weeks, whatever), totally normally.

    • @kellysmiles849
      @kellysmiles849 4 года назад

      Aparna Panchanathan women are biologically designed to understand this concept. ☺️

  • @Nora-zo3lh
    @Nora-zo3lh 4 года назад +63

    I love how quickly Shallon’s channel is growing! I bet she’ll easily hit 500K followers well before the quarantine is over!

    • @junemoon8675
      @junemoon8675 4 года назад

      Nina Seiers I don’t even look 👀 at numbers

  • @silentone5531
    @silentone5531 4 года назад +85

    I don’t think there’s such thing as a confident celebrity. A confident person doesn’t need validation and love from strangers like celebrities do. I love gossip and following celebrities but looking up to them for something? Hell no.

    • @nikola3884
      @nikola3884 4 года назад +37

      silent one Everyone likes attention, it boosts your ego. That applies to every person. If you were to tell a confident person that they are pretty, they would say thank you, feel good about it and move on with their day. Rihanna and many others do not need to be validated actually, they do what the fuck they want. Celebrites are much like us "normal people" they might live different lifestyles but i'm sure some have similar mindsets as us. I dont think all celebrities are insecure.

    • @f1content364
      @f1content364 4 года назад +15

      silent one We all seek for validation in some kind of way 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Anna-jf8xn
      @Anna-jf8xn 4 года назад +14

      Some celebrities need strangers to love them because they have issues. But lots of them just need that for their business to be successful.

    • @silentone5531
      @silentone5531 4 года назад +10

      Ofc I knew everyone loves attention. Like guys I’m a human being hello. But with celebrities it’s different where you get love from millions of people and ofc they still need validation to be successful. That’s the whole point. Also I think Riri cares, the whole IDGAF attitude is just not real. Everybody gives a shit. Like every other celeb she is the product of marketing teams and publicists. Also an unbothered person doesn’t go after her ex’s girlfriend with racial slur. Miss me with that BS

    • @nokayamapukata3078
      @nokayamapukata3078 4 года назад +1

      @@silentone5531 everyone cares about something. Some things are good to care about, while caring about other things is bad, and other things are not worth caring for. For example, Rihanna has shown she cares about the world, her fellow humans etc, she cares about her job and puts a high standard on herself in every venture she does and cares about much more I'm sure but she's shown also that people's opinions, her nay-sayers, the attention and validation from others she can do without. It's not what drives her, it's not what she's after and its not what rewards her or makes her feel accomplished. That's why she's an icon of confidence for so many.

  • @anoelsilliw5256
    @anoelsilliw5256 4 года назад +23

    Girl you are STUNNING I love that top🥺🥺

  • @stefibean9990
    @stefibean9990 4 года назад +37

    I have never been this early and I'm living for this topic! also the eyeshadow

    • @shallonlester
      @shallonlester  4 года назад +5

      Stefanie haha thank you! Put “topics and also eyeshadow” on my tombstone hah!

  • @ebonakid
    @ebonakid 4 года назад +14

    I think the issue with rihanna its that for me self steem is a different thing than being secure.
    Secure or insecure is much more malleable than self steem. Self steem is how you percieve your self, and althougj it CAN be changed it is like our internal power source, what generates our feelings of confidence (security) or insecurity (lack of self steem).
    Then security and insecurity itself are maybe more like feelings? Or state of mind? Situations make us insecure, or feel confident, and these feelings are further fueleb by the level of our self esteem.
    I think that for Rihanna, our queen and savior, what happened is that she has a high self esteem (warm blooded) but that particular time in her life she was feeling insecure for a particular reason and maybe was further increased byh the grammy situation.

  • @dracum6677
    @dracum6677 4 года назад +24

    Hey Shallon!
    Please do a Eminem and Mariah Carey video. What really happened and who told the truth.

  • @SuhannaDeSilva
    @SuhannaDeSilva 4 года назад +81

    As someone who’s also half Guyanese on their mother’s side, it’s safe to say basically anyone who isn’t Guyanese or West Indian has never heard of Guyana 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Mareissa_K
      @Mareissa_K 4 года назад +11

      Suhanna De Silva My parents are Guyanese and it’s a struggle explaining where Guyana is 🤦🏾‍♀️🇬🇾

    • @mr4lvlog250
      @mr4lvlog250 4 года назад +6

      Hey fellow guyanese

    • @SuhannaDeSilva
      @SuhannaDeSilva 4 года назад +11

      Mareissa K. Always get the “Ghana? Isn’t that in Africa?” Or “South America? So you speak Spanish”

    • @reydjz
      @reydjz 4 года назад +5

      Facts!! Guyanese and Jamaican

    • @FrolleinJB
      @FrolleinJB 4 года назад +11

      I’m German and I know where Guyana is. I love Caribbean culture 💜

  • @alexandraherrold1819
    @alexandraherrold1819 4 года назад +18

    Hey Shallon! I feel very lonely while quarantine and I have to let you know, I always have lunch with your videos, its like we have a conversation together 😂
    Thank you for this daily content. Greetings from Perú!

    • @Yetti99
      @Yetti99 4 года назад +1

      Omg I eat my lunch while watching her videos too!

    • @ismahenelarbi7386
      @ismahenelarbi7386 4 года назад

      Omg how awesome is it that you live in Perú, I hope I get to see macchu picchu some day! Greetings from Paris

  • @nazarisreyes6037
    @nazarisreyes6037 4 года назад +10

    Those pink shades are really flattering in you 😍❤️

  • @lh_2428
    @lh_2428 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for these videos Shallon, I'm on the verge of tears everyday, it's such a stressful time. I wake up and watch these every morning and it changes my entire mind set for the day. You are truly helping me through one of my hardest times and I can not thank you enough xxx

  • @legitbait86
    @legitbait86 4 года назад +5

    Can I just take this moment to say thank you Shallon! You're really helping to make quarantine a great time for reflection. Your work is greatly appreciated! Love from quarantine in South Africa💛

  • @sophiamd7903
    @sophiamd7903 4 года назад

    I have been battling for over a year whether to be on Lexapro or not. I started yesterday. It’s been very emotional for me so hearing YOU (who I genuinely look up to/want to embody) & your self-acceptance being on medication is so incredibly awe-inspiring and comforting. I truly think ....a strong, dynamic, cunning woman like yourself is on it? I shouldn’t feel such weakness of shame. Thank you for being open with us. I love these videos. Insightful & game changing.

  • @ashleyjones5333
    @ashleyjones5333 4 года назад +7

    Shallon serving content AND looks during this quarantine 😫❤️

  • @YonekuniKyuhyun
    @YonekuniKyuhyun 4 года назад

    I have learned so much from Shallon. I can't thank her enough. When she said "if you don't like me, that's your problem", and I have embodied that. I have trouble connecting with females as friends, just too much drama that I don't care about. I have no problem being friends with most males I know. And it has come to a point that it has tried to affect my work. The women have tried to affect my work with bosses, but I have always been unscathed. I let my work ethic do the talking. And it has hurt me that I want to make female friends, but it just doesn't happen. What I have used as a shield has been "for someone who doesn't like me, they sure think about me a lot. I am busy working, I don't have time to see what they do or don't do. If it doesn't affect my work, I don't care. If I don't like someone, I am not wasting time on them. I ignore them, I don't need negativity in my life." And I always remember Shallon's words. It doesn't matter who likes me, as long as I like myself.

  • @brendaholliday6866
    @brendaholliday6866 4 года назад +3

    Absolutely loved your topic about confidence, Shallon. You were right about having to "fake it before you make it". Inregards to being and feeling secure about yourself if you don't believe that you're confident nobody you encounter will believe it about you. Take care 💫

  • @user77-k6c
    @user77-k6c 4 года назад +3

    I thought the idea of having kids on my own is crazy. But hearing that Rihanna thinks about it the same way kind of empowers me

  • @emilyyang2229
    @emilyyang2229 4 года назад +84

    Commenting after seeing this vid up one min who hoping she’ll reply
    Edit:
    I just think it’s so difficult to be ‘warm blooded’ at a young age cause you haven’t done anything much to be confident about (I hope this counts as something valuable to comment)

    • @athenag2090
      @athenag2090 4 года назад +26

      Probably not if you aren’t commenting anything valuable

    • @jenniferzhou8635
      @jenniferzhou8635 4 года назад +9

      @@athenag2090 Let a girl dream lol

    • @shallonlester
      @shallonlester  4 года назад +15

      emily yang 🥰

    • @thisismycoolusername
      @thisismycoolusername 4 года назад

      And her dream came true :)

    • @emilyyang2229
      @emilyyang2229 4 года назад +1

      Athena Gianopoulos it’s one of those dumb things you do just because, but also HA SHE REPLIED, also commenting helps push her videos cause there’s more activity

  • @SonyaReznitsky
    @SonyaReznitsky 4 года назад

    I have an unsent fan letter handwritten for Rihanna and I have yet to get the balls to send it. I've never written fanmail to any celebrity! She has changed my life for the better in many ways... breaking boundaries, doing what has never been done before and asking permission from no one. I adore her and her ability to be her unique self. I believe her foundation and upbringing keep her grounded. Her music, her videos and her overall style are so well done. She's a perfectionist but she is still experimental and tries new things to stay fresh. She's so gifted.

  • @athenag2090
    @athenag2090 4 года назад +15

    Hey shallon, I think you should post the Paris vlog! Even though no ones traveling, I can fantasize and prepare😚

  • @Azr721
    @Azr721 4 года назад +2

    Shallon please do video about celebrities dating/married with non celebrities or regular people. I want to understand the dynamics of these relationships.

  • @tatianacalle9998
    @tatianacalle9998 4 года назад +3

    The Father , The Son, and the FENTY ♥️ 🔥
    And my girl gave love to México 🇲🇽

  • @99bambieyes
    @99bambieyes 4 года назад +1

    Shittt if Rihanna gets nervous then I'm good. Gorgeous, talented, and charitable... she's the whole package. I think it throws me off when I think there are people who don't get nervous. I feel less than when I think that there are people who aren't susceptible to insecurity because I always am. I start to feel like it's just me. I realize now that it's not about not being vulnerable, more making sure other people can't tell you are.

  • @idkbrosstudios8446
    @idkbrosstudios8446 4 года назад +4

    I knew Guyana was in South America because back when I was in 5th grade, my school hosted a “Cavalcade of Countries”. One of my friends were doing their report on Guyana.

  • @lucasorlando99
    @lucasorlando99 4 года назад +23

    I say post your travel vlogs with a disclaimer at the beginning saying it’s from before CVID-19 and just say safe and self quarantine/social distance

  • @ari1825
    @ari1825 4 года назад +10

    Shallon girl I just wanna tell you I love you and we are so appreciative of the everyday videos
    U keep feeding us well so thank you so so so much
    *virual hug from iraq*

  • @letmebeprivate6890
    @letmebeprivate6890 4 года назад +61

    10:40 LMAOOO WHEN SHE CIUTS AFTER BRINGING UP ZAYN'S GRILLED CHEESE SANDWICHES AHAHAGAHCHV OG Shalloners will know 😂😂😂

    • @zenzen6361
      @zenzen6361 4 года назад +2

      I am sry my english is not really the best so could you explain to me what she meant by that😂

    • @cherrybelle7956
      @cherrybelle7956 4 года назад +1

      Heroin

    • @zenzen6361
      @zenzen6361 4 года назад +3

      @@fatimaelmouden1055 oh i am no doctor but i am easter european and i habe a lot of drug Addicted in my Family and drugs can actually give you anxiety. And some people maybe don't wanna talk about their Addiction. And working for simon was problably not easy but all i know is that he got a lot of islamphobic hate and he still gets it so i would understand. And thank you so much for explaining and i am sry for my grammar mistakes

    • @letmebeprivate6890
      @letmebeprivate6890 4 года назад +5

      @@zenzen6361 we all understand what you are saying. Your English is good 👍

    • @zenzen6361
      @zenzen6361 4 года назад +2

      @@fatimaelmouden1055 oh i know don't problem i just wanted to know what i means so thanks flr explaining

  • @OCR461
    @OCR461 4 года назад +29

    Kourtney Kardashian does not really strike as confident , not caring / being carefree is not same as confident , a lion does not call himself king but feels like so .. dats confidence , where as a tiger behaving and going around behaving like a lion , a king .. dats kinda been carefree because d rest of d pack knows clearly u r not king but u don't care about wat dey think but keep behaving d way u want .

  • @savannahharold3262
    @savannahharold3262 4 года назад +15

    Your makeup looks phenomenal today! What eyeshadow are you wearing?

  • @ninam4650
    @ninam4650 4 года назад +11

    0:09 that is how happy I am that Shallon uploaded

  • @officialafroprince1480
    @officialafroprince1480 4 года назад +1

    Rihanna taught me to love myself because no one is better at doing me than me 🙏

  • @chenellebeautytv
    @chenellebeautytv 4 года назад +6

    I really think you should do a video on Kristen Cavallari. She also had this confidence about her since her Laguna beach days. All the boys wanted her and all the girls wanted to be her. And she could care less lol.

  • @coybackus7665
    @coybackus7665 4 года назад +2

    my mom has actually suffered from exhaustion in a public place. she was completing embroidery orders and had more than she had time to complete without working all the way through the night sometimes. during store hours with a few days of no sleep my mom collapsed in her store, and had to be taken to the hospital. i'm sure you're not saying it's a total cop out excuse for everyone. it def happens.

  • @rachel9201
    @rachel9201 4 года назад +4

    Shallon so brave of you to talk about medication. Same situation where I had relationship betrayal and I had to get on to meds. Is life fair? No! But happy there’s something that helps

  • @TroyPrévostMusic
    @TroyPrévostMusic 4 года назад +2

    What I love is she said something I told my mom months ago: i'll be having kids with or without finding 'the one'.

  • @GRochato
    @GRochato 4 года назад +6

    I have a genuine question: are we not allowed to have 'weak' or vulnerable moments, even as warm-blooded animals? Just because we have a moment of self-doubt or anxiety, do we have to question our core or be told we're faking confidence? I personally feel like even the toughest people will eventually have those moments.

  • @user-kz8bt1os1i
    @user-kz8bt1os1i 4 года назад +1

    SHALLON YOU LOOK STUNNING WITH THIS HAIRSTYLE!!!! Wtf so classy and beautiful

  • @mementomori2042
    @mementomori2042 4 года назад +30

    We need more Harry Styles videos, don't care about what, I just want to look at him

    • @kandikittyy
      @kandikittyy 4 года назад

      memento mori yessss

    • @mementomori2042
      @mementomori2042 4 года назад

      @@kandikittyy I've been binge watching his concerts and i could not imagine spending my time better than that

    • @97indianuk
      @97indianuk 4 года назад +4

      I wish we knew the tea ☕️ about Zayn Malik

  • @nanceyuan3955
    @nanceyuan3955 4 года назад

    Thank you for being so honest and open about anxiety and medications when needed. It's so helpful to talk about health in this way to take away the stigma from mental health. I love the approach of being proactive about your health and not finding shame in taking care of yourself! Hopefully more people can hear this message.

  • @leannewalker5061
    @leannewalker5061 4 года назад +33

    Must remember to watch the ads. Gotta give ShallonXO that YOUTube coin.

    • @strawberrysocks2835
      @strawberrysocks2835 4 года назад +5

      Or at least let the ads play while you read the comments :D

    • @JeanMarie16
      @JeanMarie16 4 года назад +1

      Leanne Walker yes! She deserves it

    • @Alex-rh8mr
      @Alex-rh8mr 4 года назад +2

      Strawberry Socks ok why did I never think of this??? Wow I feel so dumb but thank you for this wonderful tip :)

  • @sushikoto
    @sushikoto 4 года назад +1

    i love your quarantine vids for sure, learning a lot and you're articulate but casual...easy and fun to watch! you make me realize a lot that makes sense. you bring pop culture and psychology together, seamlessly girl! LOVE LOVE LOVE IT.

  • @purplesky99876
    @purplesky99876 4 года назад +13

    I was looking for something to listen to while I clean and I happened to refresh my youtube feed and of course, Shallon comes through everytime. Queen.

  • @lousunny5682
    @lousunny5682 4 года назад +2

    I think it’s ok to be on medication. I’m on antidepressants and it’s helped changed my headspace. Plus, you don’t want your body to be continuously panicky/stressed.

  • @alial2669
    @alial2669 4 года назад +9

    Nooo don't wait to post the paris vlog, let us live vicariously through you😂

  • @sarahdaily23
    @sarahdaily23 4 года назад

    For the longest time I wasn't sure what I was striving for. I've worked on confidence and not valuing myself on what others think, but I wasn't clear on the importance of it all. Then I found Shallon! My work on myself is far from done, but I get it now and know what I'm working for. Warm bloodedness really means something and eventhough I'm a new follower, I've already grown so much and made changes. Thank you.

  • @GodsFaveSim
    @GodsFaveSim 4 года назад +4

    Sending love from Ireland shallon ❤️💜 thank you for getting us all through this quarantine. You look amazing 👸🏼👑

  • @CaathF
    @CaathF 4 года назад +2

    Love everything about Rihanna, she's the realest. Her confidence is a motivation for me.

  • @rudencevu830
    @rudencevu830 4 года назад +67

    Is it weird that I’m a guy and have the same body issues as girls. Is it because I’m gay?

    • @stellabella3337
      @stellabella3337 4 года назад +97

      Body image effects everybody. Sometimes even worse for men because experiencing it is not as normalized as it is for women. Wish you all the best I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful

    • @rudencevu830
      @rudencevu830 4 года назад +14

      StellaBella〈3〈3〈3 Thank you Stella🤎

    • @natesuzuya7709
      @natesuzuya7709 4 года назад +31

      SABRINA SMALLS no, it doesn’t mean you’re gay (unless you are actually gay- in that case welcome to the club ) it just means that you are more attuned to your emotions and feminine energy. When it comes to masculine or feminine, it has nothing to do with sex or gender. A lot of times someone who portrays as feminine as masculine energy ( I.e Rihanna has a lot of masculine energy ) Masculine energy is passionate, fiery, social, open and dynamic energy. Feminine is more nurturing, reserved, emotional, intuitive and compassionate. A lot of men can have feminine energy.( think Kurt Cobain ) So you could just be a man who is more attuned to their feminine energy. ( everyone has both types of energy, just some lean more towards one than the other)

    • @rudencevu830
      @rudencevu830 4 года назад +5

      Nate Suzuya Thank you and yes I’m gay🤎

    • @user-vv7nm4le4l
      @user-vv7nm4le4l 4 года назад +9

      body issues doesn't only affect one specific gender, it's just society who wants to make you believe that

  • @majaraskovic1260
    @majaraskovic1260 4 года назад +1

    You’ve really gotten under my skin Shallon!! I’ve become obsessed with your videos - the daily videos are really getting me through the quarantine!xo