😒The bar for moms is so high it's unattainable. Dads? Different story.

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  • @Jen-Chapin
    @Jen-Chapin  Месяц назад +65

    DO NOT send hate to either of these creators! They are both great - this is an exercise in pointing out inequity. ❤

  • @sharoneastwood3377
    @sharoneastwood3377 Месяц назад +53

    So right!! Like when a dad says he has to babysit as his wife is working…. It’s called parenting!

  • @christenford3864
    @christenford3864 Месяц назад +36

    Please say this louder for the people in the VERY back 😂 Jen you are a truth teller and I am thankful for you. I hope you're doing well❤

  • @deborahyoung7761
    @deborahyoung7761 Месяц назад +12

    Preach girl! Whenever the dad does anything, he's "helping" her, like it's her sole responsibility.

  • @robinswan5831
    @robinswan5831 Месяц назад

    AMEN - the bars so high I can't even see it anymore.

  • @wannabeorganized4925
    @wannabeorganized4925 Месяц назад +10

    “…the bar for dads is so low it’s literally in hell”
    🤣🤣🤣☠️
    Glad to see you’re back❤️

  • @rachaelbeck9850
    @rachaelbeck9850 Месяц назад +32

    My husband cooks and cleans a lot. A lot of my friends/family always remark about how "lucky" I am. I want to scream when people say it to me. I KNOW none of my husband's friends/family tell him how lucky he is to have a wife that cooks/cleans.

  • @rowenajones2713
    @rowenajones2713 Месяц назад

    So true!!! We need more people saying this!! Xx

  • @CocoKmimi
    @CocoKmimi Месяц назад

    I like this version of Jen! PREACH!

  • @jillautismhomeschoolmama6994
    @jillautismhomeschoolmama6994 Месяц назад +10

    Meanwhile… mom was inside dealing with chaos and trying to keep everything chill, wishing she could go fart around on the grill in peace and quiet for an hour. 😂

  • @csdesjarlais9779
    @csdesjarlais9779 Месяц назад +11

    Exactly. Your anger is warranted big time. Thank you for calling this out and I agree 100% Let’s ask who made the kids lunches, who lined up daycare, who makes doctors appointments and finds the doctors. Who is in charge of paying the bills and on and on. Moms! I hear you.❤❤❤

  • @nettec40
    @nettec40 Месяц назад +1

    Right on Jen!! It's incomparable the things moms do for their kids and families, compared to dads. And I don't mean that is all households, but lets face it, it is most households. It is disgusting the things moms have to do and think about CONSTANTLY day in and day out for their families. That is called mental load and it is a real thing. Thanks for bringing attention to this. So many people just assume it is the wives role to fulfil ALL the needs of their families and it is not, it is a partnership.

  • @runtheshow101
    @runtheshow101 Месяц назад +10

    Exactly! I also choose not to affected by "Mum guilt" and all those other sh*tty terms - my kids are fed, clothed and housed - end of story! Great see you pop up again Jen, hope you're well. Whenever my oldest has to pick a YT vid, it's yours 💖

  • @daniellejohnson9977
    @daniellejohnson9977 Месяц назад +5

    I wish I could like this more than once. You are 1000% correct!! Thank you ❤❤

  • @sonjagynn7936
    @sonjagynn7936 Месяц назад +4

    Bang on. Some people don’t know how to cook or don’t have time to cook. Getting food on the table is healthier than getting fast food every day. Kindness people.

  • @jazzminbarbosa3077
    @jazzminbarbosa3077 Месяц назад

    Oh how I have missed you! Hope you're doing well and glad to see you back! Love that you're calling out this load of garbage we have to deal with 🔥🔥🔥

  • @meridithlevinson5814
    @meridithlevinson5814 Месяц назад +15

    This is a really powerful short. You totally made your point: well done. Interesting that no one is pointing out how unhealthy pancakes are, especially with all the presumably artificial food dyes.

    • @jeanne9375
      @jeanne9375 Месяц назад +2

      I watch one channel where the mom makes food from scratch and still gets told her food is garbage and isn’t good enough for her kids. So at the end of the day can’t please everybody.

  • @risasklutteredkitchen1293
    @risasklutteredkitchen1293 Месяц назад +3

    Amen, Jen!!! Kudos to you for calling it out. You do your best to feed your children healthy things - occasionally some chips or juice boxes or sugary treats but you put multiple veggies and fruits every night with dinner, you make veggie trays and leave them in the refrigerator while you are traveling for work. I’ve seen all the prep you do before you leave town. So much more than I get done. Tonight I couldn’t think of a veg to put with air fryer chicken wings so I cut up a cucumber for me and hubby and gave my son some microwave cooked broccoli (raw and made into florets.) At least i put out a veggie for us. There are nights where I have no energy to deal with veggies (if I forgot to prep before I left for work.) Some nights I make pasta in the instant pot and serve it with garlic bread and call it a night. We eat, I have to clean it all up, make dog food and get them to eat it and clean that up. By the time I get to bed I am totally pooped and I am 63! So, good for you all that you do for your family. 👏👏👏

  • @InAgatasCottage
    @InAgatasCottage Месяц назад +1

    Jen, you have no idea how much this resonates with me today. Not exactly about parenting but about what expected of people based on their gender.
    My husband is a great father, and he does a fair bit of things at home. I have been a stay at home mum for the last 5 years. It was our mutual decision that one of us would stay home with our daughter, who is suffering from asthma. She was 6 when we decided it's the right move for our family. We split duties accordingly. I deal with day to day stuff, and he is responsible for stuff I don't like or can't due to health reasons (I suffer with few chronic conditions). It works for us. I like taking care of the service or talking to various tradesmen and sorting things out for the house. He doesn't. He doesn't like fixing stuff or building things. I do. He takes bins out because I dislike it, and he is responsible for dealing with spiders, washing car, and windows in the house. I deal with solar panels, bank and arranging for things to be fixed. We both do things we are good at. The amount of abuse we get from his family over the fact that I know when our car is due service and he does not, is unbelievable. A few days ago, our front doors needed to be fixed, and I called a repairman. His family lost it why we dared to spend our money on a specialist when he could spend hours and fix it himself. I was told directly that he should deal with stuff like that because he is a man, and he is more capable of making decisions relating to "men stuff." I don't understand why people have problems accepting that we live the way we want. We are adults on our own for 20 years, and we are more than capable of handling our lives the way we see fit.

  • @melindadiaz3865
    @melindadiaz3865 Месяц назад +6

    Truth!!!! So glad to see you. Hope you are doing well❤️❤️❤️

  • @erinhawkins4731
    @erinhawkins4731 Месяц назад +3

    Spot on as usual! Thanks for calling it out!

  • @LindaLou-oh6qz
    @LindaLou-oh6qz Месяц назад +6

    Perfectly said. Amen!!!

  • @TeresaNC1
    @TeresaNC1 Месяц назад +1

    Amen Sister!! Ridiculousness! And I will say that it never ends, as grandparents even. The Nana is the one in charge of all the planning, healthy meals, gettwbaths, etc, whereas, Papa gets "come play with me" AUGHH! Enough Already!

  • @DianaTx361
    @DianaTx361 Месяц назад +6

    Very true Jen. To be honest I stopped reading comments on most videos. It’s either someone bashing or someone saying love you.
    No one knows enough about someone to bash them and certainly not enough to say love you.

  • @allthemays4237
    @allthemays4237 Месяц назад +1

    Omg thank you thank you thank you for always speaking up!!! I agree with all of your comments for moms and dads. I’ve always worked full time and cleaned and cooked and ran my kids around without thinking twice and the criticism of , as a mom, not being available for my kids was amazing. As long as kids are fed and have happy parents , it’s that simple.

  • @leighdegenhardt485
    @leighdegenhardt485 Месяц назад +1

    Amen sister!!! Sorry to say its been front and center for so long we are blind to it! Almost! Thank you for the reminder!

  • @vbroadwater3745
    @vbroadwater3745 Месяц назад +4

    I've been thinking about you a lot in the last few days! And I seen this pop-up. I was so happy! Really miss you! You're looking great!

  • @dianecaruso1758
    @dianecaruso1758 Месяц назад +2

    So good to see you and HELL YES to the video. Miss you and hope you’re doing well💕

  • @user-sn7lm2qg8o
    @user-sn7lm2qg8o Месяц назад +1

    So love your honesty. Welcome back, Jen! This gal from Fort Dodge, Iowa has missed you❤

  • @lisabryant3707
    @lisabryant3707 Месяц назад +2

    Preach it, my friend. Well said.

  • @myebonytower
    @myebonytower Месяц назад +2

    Gworl!! No words. I feel ya 💯👌🏾

  • @Iluvchknz
    @Iluvchknz Месяц назад +1

    Truer words have never been spoken

  • @kirstend1981
    @kirstend1981 Месяц назад

    Very well said 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @Suzl4
    @Suzl4 Месяц назад +4

    Jen you have out done yourself here. YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @ReadAndThrift
    @ReadAndThrift Месяц назад +3

    I hope you’re doing well Jen ❤ and hell yes to this video

  • @debbielopez6593
    @debbielopez6593 Месяц назад +4

    Amen sister! Miss you hope all is well.❤

  • @spiritualmelody.111
    @spiritualmelody.111 Месяц назад

    This 💯%!!! Yes, Jen, yes!!! 💜✨

  • @Raganmarie
    @Raganmarie Месяц назад +3

    Great to see you Jen!

  • @katieh1752
    @katieh1752 Месяц назад

    I love this series!

  • @sarahass4762
    @sarahass4762 Месяц назад

    This 💯! You tell em Jen 💛

  • @CarolineCalcote
    @CarolineCalcote Месяц назад +1

    Thank you Jen! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Melissa-he5ys
    @Melissa-he5ys Месяц назад +1

    Most of all, great to see a post from you! Hope you’re doing as well as possible!

  • @chrisferguson7321
    @chrisferguson7321 Месяц назад +4

    I was so happy to see a post from you ❤ I miss you

  • @tanyabell6074
    @tanyabell6074 Месяц назад

    Amen! Truth.

  • @houseofjohnsons6171
    @houseofjohnsons6171 Месяц назад

    I deal with this ALL THE TIME on my channel. Mom shaming. Mom guilt. I do grocery Hauls and cleaning videos. And I get murdered in the comments haha. It's crazy!

  • @angelamarcinkevich9202
    @angelamarcinkevich9202 Месяц назад +6

    Miss you , great to see you quickly .Hopefully more soon .Have a great holiday ❤

  • @susantaulli6580
    @susantaulli6580 Месяц назад +5

    It’s women who are doing this to each other unfortunately. And WELCOME BACK!!!! HAPPY EASTER!!!! ❤

    • @Jen-Chapin
      @Jen-Chapin  Месяц назад +3

      You’re exactly right.

    • @jeanne9375
      @jeanne9375 Месяц назад

      Yes!! But sadly it’s been that way since the beginning of RUclips..they use to have forums to bash them now they just make channels to make money or mean comments..

  • @Lin-id9qc
    @Lin-id9qc Месяц назад

    Glad to see you!

  • @justjamie1715
    @justjamie1715 Месяц назад +3

    yes, gorl. thank you for pointing out this BS.

  • @CocoKmimi
    @CocoKmimi Месяц назад

    Yes, Jen!!

  • @tammymyer5347
    @tammymyer5347 Месяц назад +4

    I don’t think we will ever be able to change the way that people react to things and the comments that are made on social media. People are going to form their opinions right or wrong. They are going to voice their opinions right or wrong. The only thing that we can control is the way that we allow them to affect us. We just can’t let them take up space in our head as frustrating as that is it’s important to our mental health to recognize that we have no control over other people’s opinions. We can’t change the world and the way it thinks. What we can do is have a greater influence and positive effect on our children and the people around us. Those are the people that matter the most and bring us the most joy in life.

    • @src7210
      @src7210 Месяц назад

      I don’t know. I think Jen pointing out this inequality can actually have affect on some who may not see it otherwise. The moment we stop doing something because we think we can’t change it is the moment we stop changing things. I say, we keep making these things seen and heard until we change them!

  • @treenaakers9429
    @treenaakers9429 Месяц назад +8

    Miss you!

  • @melbogard8702
    @melbogard8702 Месяц назад

    Thank you for this

  • @melissachochard4242
    @melissachochard4242 Месяц назад +1

    Well said! Period...

  • @penelopepitstop4440
    @penelopepitstop4440 Месяц назад

    I feel the same and yet I have found myself praising a dad who does these type of things because I'm so use to them not doing it, on RUclips that is. My x use to cook dinner for us if he got home first. He's really a great dad in many ways not only because he cooks lol! I do praise anyone who cooks, cleans well I'm really just a positive reinforcement kinda person.Tell the kids hi for me. Love and hugs from Texas 💕

  • @thefrugallife
    @thefrugallife Месяц назад

    YES. Holy cow people online are nuts.

  • @nancyadams146
    @nancyadams146 Месяц назад +1

    Couldn’t have said it better!!!

  • @brandikay033
    @brandikay033 Месяц назад

    Agreed! We also should stop this "get it all done" mentality that we perpetuate, setting unrealistic expectations for each other.

  • @danaslay6482
    @danaslay6482 Месяц назад

    Preach!

  • @rg-mi5hh
    @rg-mi5hh Месяц назад

    Nice glasses! They fit your face shape really well.

  • @danamama6766
    @danamama6766 Месяц назад +1

    I dont know where to start jeepers. Narccisits always have to be the best at everything and do not appreciatte anything. It goes both ways. And yes we, which ever side is on the side that is being made to feel like we are not good enough...well yes we are. Life is not a competition of who can do it better in a partnership. It should be team work. One does certain things the other does the other things that keeps the family together. It should never be about who can do it better and that is what is happening to much right now in so many family relationships. Trying if it is trying is good. Advocating their way is just better is not. I hear you loud and clear. hugs and luv

  • @awatsonkid
    @awatsonkid Месяц назад +3

    There was a meme going around about a father that went to his kid's game after work and you would think he came up with the cure for cancer for the way he was being praised. I called it out for what it is; bullshit. I got roasted in the comments. It's insane that the bar for men is non-existent that the smallest thing they do is celebrated while we as moms do it on a daily basis and get lambasted. Makes my blood boil

    • @CHSwildcats19
      @CHSwildcats19 Месяц назад +1

      Amen, sister ❤ Being celebrated for showing up to a game? As a mom of 3 who all played sports, I know all of the backstory already. Who do they think did all the transportation to and from practices, shopped for and bought all the equipment, ordered the uniforms, CONSTANTLY WASH the uniforms, fill out all the forms and pay fees, communicate with coaches, purchase and haul snacks & drinks for the team, and also attend every game???

  • @AmySimmonds-luv4Jesus
    @AmySimmonds-luv4Jesus Месяц назад +1

    Great points Jen. ❤

  • @EvaOstrava
    @EvaOstrava Месяц назад +3

    If the woman made the pancakes, people would criticize her for using food dyes 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @kaceyferguson3579
    @kaceyferguson3579 Месяц назад +1

    🎉🎉 when my daughter was 5 I was a nurse and decided to go back to school to become a funeral director/embalmer. I was gone most of the week so my husband took over as he should and did all the things and I will never forget when a bunch of moms saw me one day and said we can’t believe your husband does all that he does to help while you are gone. How do you get him to do that and I looked at them in awe and said what do you mean, how do I get him to do it, he’s her father and it’s his job just as much as it is mine .

  • @Melissa-he5ys
    @Melissa-he5ys Месяц назад +1

    Agreed about the double standards and low bar for men. But … that dad made character pancakes that were so artistic! Maybe compare the same meals. lol

  • @jodibrown3601
    @jodibrown3601 Месяц назад

    you Go Girl!! I love you !!

  • @jenrothke3368
    @jenrothke3368 Месяц назад

    The bar is so low that it’s in hell 😂! So glad you are back!!!

  • @erincounts8209
    @erincounts8209 Месяц назад

    I grew up in the 80s eating Spaghetti Os and Doritos. I dare anyone critique my single mom about the food she provided. Great to see you Jen!

  • @adrienneroberts153
    @adrienneroberts153 Месяц назад

    YES YES YES YES!!! PREACH QUEEN!!! ❤❤❤

  • @deedeemc587
    @deedeemc587 Месяц назад

    Nice to see your face! You've been in my thoughts! ❤

  • @ileneglenn845
    @ileneglenn845 Месяц назад

    Miss seeing you ❣️ Preach 🙌

  • @MrsAlmaTrumble
    @MrsAlmaTrumble Месяц назад +16

    Thanks for sharing this information, Jen. You are greatly missed on RUclips.

  • @ilarsen715
    @ilarsen715 Месяц назад

    Amen!

  • @karenohlson5509
    @karenohlson5509 Месяц назад +1

    Way to go Jen!

  • @BarefootFarm
    @BarefootFarm Месяц назад

    Preach it sister! 👏 💯

  • @jillmarie4155
    @jillmarie4155 Месяц назад +2

    I've seen the comments you mention the worse part is that when I have seen it.... it has been women bashing other women and telling men what a great job they are doing every single time..... women need to be more supportive of each other

  • @toriebrooks
    @toriebrooks Месяц назад

    Yes spicy!🌶️ I am just learning more about feminism and supporting women. Even as I woman, I was taught that I’ll never achieve as much as a man could, so why bother? Women are weak and I’ll always be weak. Nope. No. I am unlearning these messages myself. And I am looking forward to learning more from you! ❤

  • @elizabethkelly9790
    @elizabethkelly9790 Месяц назад +1

    I watched a video recently and the comment was made that fed is fed. I absolutely love that statement. You never know someone’s backstory behind these videos. Maybe the parent has made so many decisions the entire day that they could not make one more decision. Maybe they are struggling to make it to payday and literally using as much as possible in their Pantry and freezer. Maybe their kid has food aversions and will only eat those items and you just want them to eat. Either way, it seems like so many people are quick to judge anymore and feel safe to comment and critic others behind the safety of their devices. It’s so sad. Just remember to be kind, because you never see the whole story, but only a few seconds of a bigger picture.

  • @queenmarynovelwriter5397
    @queenmarynovelwriter5397 Месяц назад

    PREACH, baby Girl!

  • @corianne2099
    @corianne2099 Месяц назад +1

    Or you can not worry about what other people think. It's too exhausting. People are going to do what they are going to do but I can control my reaction

  • @iLoveSkinsUK1
    @iLoveSkinsUK1 Месяц назад

    LOUDER!!!!

  • @thewitchofbelaire
    @thewitchofbelaire Месяц назад

    Welcome back! 🔥

  • @user-jd1ff6go8w
    @user-jd1ff6go8w Месяц назад

    Been thing about you. Glad to see you.

  • @agirly1503
    @agirly1503 Месяц назад

    Yep

  • @cherylsuds7882
    @cherylsuds7882 Месяц назад

    Well said Jen!!!🇨🇦💕👏

  • @christinedisneyqueen5746
    @christinedisneyqueen5746 Месяц назад

    Right on! 😁

  • @karencroft1322
    @karencroft1322 Месяц назад

    You go girl miss you on utube 😭🇨🇦

  • @evem4876
    @evem4876 Месяц назад

    Ty Jen ty, ty....❤

  • @jenniferdarrell7224
    @jenniferdarrell7224 Месяц назад

    Amen amen

  • @alaskaporkchop
    @alaskaporkchop 18 дней назад

    All true….unfortunately it’s so difficult to rid ourselves of our cultural expectations after generations before us have pounded them into our heads. But we are making progress!!❤

  • @Lizlizthemommy
    @Lizlizthemommy Месяц назад

    Yessss!❤❤

  • @carole0302
    @carole0302 Месяц назад

    Hell to the yeah!!

  • @KCGrl84
    @KCGrl84 Месяц назад

    I've never clicked on anything as quick as I clicked on this when I saw your name pop up. I feel like I've been missing a friend... partially because we share a lot of the same viewpoints, including on topics such as this 🎉

  • @evem4876
    @evem4876 Месяц назад +1

    ❤ Ive missed u ....😂

  • @DvLnDsGyZ
    @DvLnDsGyZ Месяц назад

    None of them are you. You're unique, wonderful, funny and beautiful. Fudge them all!

  • @jamieharkar915
    @jamieharkar915 Месяц назад

    OMG YES!
    The bar is so know for dads it’s in hell!!! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @pattiupton1499
    @pattiupton1499 Месяц назад +1

    Good to see your face :)

  • @CarFreeKC
    @CarFreeKC Месяц назад

    You're the girl across the room to me!

  • @normabrown5057
    @normabrown5057 Месяц назад

    Amen