I’m the kind of person that understands couples go through things and it’s not always going to be a Disney movie but dear God, how delusional do you have to be to miss so many signs and just go through with it anyway?
I was at one where everyone aside from the close friends and the parents were convinced it would go wrong. They married at a castle and did a bunch of roleplay stuff since they were a larper couple. All the colleagues from work and relatives from both sides were convinced the other half pulled the one they knew/were related to into the whole larping stuff. Everyone was convinced he/she would grow out of the infatuation and realise how embarrassing the other one was. That was when I was 20 and worked for a few hours as a helper at that wedding. I recently met the lady again in a long distance train and asked if she was the bride from that wedding (I have this really cool photo on my phone of them in front of the castle). She was surprised, but yeah it was her. She showed me pics of her kids, they're still happily married more than 10 years later and while they outgrew larping they still love going to renaissance fairs in costume with their kids and such.
Wow. Kinda terrible for them to assume that and also think it was cringe enough to be the sole ender of the marriage. Took my boyfriend to furrycon and he was so salty and thought it was embarrassing til he realized they had cool stuff and had fun.
@@teddy-beargamer6385 people will make up that it hurts people. People hate things they don't understand or care to. They rather hate than mind their business
I wish my brother would divorce his wife. The woman is crazy. She gaslights him constantly, talks bad about his brothers (Big bro is a triplet) and refuses to let him have contact with his side of the family and monitors his every move even getting him a job where her mom works so she can spy on him.
I had a controlling wife once, like your brother's. She did it at the urging of her mother, who wanted me at her beck & call so her golden child sons wouldn't have to. Took a long time but I finally saw the 2 of them for what they are and left the marriage. Ultimately, it's your brother's choice, but stick by him and be there for him and he will one day come to that realization, I'm sure.
My husband’s friend had an outdoor wedding. The sky was blue!! When the bride came out, it started raining. When she entered the gazebo, it stopped. They got married. When they exited the gazebo, it started pouring rain, with lightning and thunder. When the entered the reception building/hall, it stopped. They’ve been married over 20 years, but EVERYBODY was worried!!
2) second wedding was a teenage couple girl barely 16 guy just short ,20. Everyone started counting months as they had to be pregnant. Girl was still in school had uni plan for two years later guy was in second year of uni. Well a year later no baby two years later both at uni 6 years later both have PhDs working in good careers 50years later both retired after successful careers today still together e every single day and still head over heels.
...So did they end up having kids? I know it's not relevant to the story, I just wanted to see when they had them to see if it was a "well, you were *kinda* right (in the wrongest of ways)" moment.
Here's a classic: Went to my cousin's wedding - bit of a rush job as his fiance is pregnant, but the whole family (from great-grandparents right on down to my generation on both sides) drag ass down to Portsmouth for the wedding. Ceremony, reception, then back up to London. The newlyweds get into a huge fight, she blurts out the kid is not his. Aaand that was that - separated the same day they got married.
Holy shits that's gold. What did everyone do the moment she admitted it wasn't his? I can only imagine the shock and silence of those first few seconds
I had a piece of paper that said I was married to a jerk. The first thing he said to me on our wedding day was "I have seen you look better. " It didn't get better. I never missed him.
This is why I want to get married at a courthouse and not deal with the drama. Too much money to throw away when you have to go to the courthouse to get the paper anyway. Make it a one stop shop lol!
These types of videos give me the feeling of being around the break room table in an office or retail store and listening to drama going on in people’s lives 😂
My high school friend and I have both been married twice. He was my best man at my second (and still on-going) wedding; I was never even invited to either of his. HIs current (second) wife is a real piece of work. She's absolutely convinced she's the smartest person in any room, talks down to everyone, including my friend, and is generally just unpleasant and annoying to be around. She also hates my guts because I refuse to be intimidated by her, and call her out on her bullshit when she gets out of hand. The last time we were together as a group, which was coincidentally the last time I ever spoke to either of them, the subject of wedding vows came up. Even though it had been more than ten years since my wife and I were married, and even though my friend was the best man and his wife attended it, I was still able to remember the wedding vows I had written. Maybe not word-for-word, but close enough. I then asked my friend's wife if they had written their wedding vows, to which she said yes. I asked if she still remembered them, which apparently pissed her off because she couldn't and thought I was trying to make her look bad. So she unloaded on me, and her husband didn't say or do anything to rein her in or cut her off. When she was done being a bitch, I then said, "It's amazing to me that you not only wrote your own vows, but somehow managed to say them without being condescending." I then looked at my friend of over thirty years, and the last words I ever said to him were, "Call me when you grow a spine." My wife and I got up and left, and I've been a lot happier without that wimp and his shrew in my life.
@@AverageAngel I was angry at myself for not seeing sooner what was most likely there all along, namely that when it came down to it, he wouldn't be man enough to stand up to her for himself, for a friend, or for anything. Now I'm disappointed, but I've come to accept that we aren't the same people we were when we were younger, and that our fundamental values and behaviors have changed radically enough to make us incompatible as friends.
@@drakemarshall2155 it sounds like you made the right decision then. A coward is not virtuous, a weak man is not a friend. Sounds like he was both a coward and weak. I suspect when you were younger you didn't really assess the friendship and went along with the good times, something I realized I did too when I was younger. Hey we like skiing let's go do that, only to realize that the only thing we had in common was skiing, and not much else. Not much common in terms of character, true values, how we treat people, work ethic, etc
"Sometimes having a kid really brings out the good in a couple" excuse, but was this ever really the case? I'm quiet certain bring a kid in a bad relationship is one of the worst things someone can do.
@@arianebolt1575 My sis and her ex were this way. She definitely wanted kids but he was on the fence, so they had a kid after a bit. After having their first kid, he went from on the fence to very against it and no longer wanted kids (let alone a 2nd kid). At least they got divorced instead of having a 2nd kid - sis acknowledged that bringing a 2nd kid into a relationship where the dad was not mentally there for his children was not a great thing.
Getting pregnant because "having a baby will make him committed to the marriage" is the worst thing you can do. It just raises children in a bad home situation.
My husband and I attended a wedding of my female co worker. One week BEFORE the wedding, she dragged me into the ladies room, crying. She stated that the fiance told her he just wasn't sure. I told her to go to her priest and pray...let him be. A week later, she said all was ok and my spouse and I attended the wedding. He knew NOTHING of this, but after the wedding ceremony was over, he turned to me and said...." I give this marriage a year". I was shocked. Sure enuf, one year later they separated and divorced. I still don't know how he knew it wouldnt6 work out?
There was a couple we went to a wedding for insisted everyone being their favorite pet with them (had to be leashed, in a stroller, in a backpack carrier or something) we brought our ferrets in their stroller with leashes too. the insane mother of the groom officiated the ceremony and stopped 3 times to yell at the ring bearer and flower girl (2 of the bride's 6 children who each have different fathers but never been married to a single one) the grooms dog killed the bride's bird and someone else's dog tried to eat my ferret through the stroller so we IMMEDIATELY left.... 5 months later we see in the paper he was arrested for stabbing her after coming home early from work and finding every single one of his groomsmen filming a g@ngb@ng on the bride who was WEARING HER WEDDING GOWN. So... Yeah.
@@josepherhardt164 Sadly, not a troll. Some people are just insane. I'm not sure how things turned out but I'll ask if anyone knows or Google them or something, maybe I can find out. We had our own issues to deal with at the time so didn't follow the story. We'll see...
Two different weddings 1) two 30+ years olds got married after being together over 20 years. Before the wedding every single person who knew them called them a destined couple I went shopping with bride 3 days before ceremony where we met up with a workmate of both of us.spent few minutes talking and as we walked away my head buzzed. 6 weeks after the huge extremely expensive wedding she walked out of office got I to workmates car and we never saw either of them again. Turned out that they had been having an affair for 9 years.
Stepsister - the pastor spent the entire ceremony telling them not to get married, I don't mean subtle comments I mean "you don't have to get married today, there is plenty of time to wait, marriage is serious and you should take your time"... During the service they lit the pastor's sleeve on fire with the unity candle, then knocked over a candelabra and lit the church carpet on fire. So many other things went wrong too but those were the worst.
A platonic friend of mine married his high school sweetheart after being together for 7 years, it lasted less than one year and they separated. Prior to the marriage I posted memes about the inevitability of divorce, you know the ones with wolf of wall street smile and cocktail. The bride didn’t take it too kindly but oh boy was it fitting looking back.
After having seen how my cousin acted before/during her engagement, I'm shocked her marriage hasn't fallen apart yet. When they announced their engagement they set up a small website that only family could access, stuff like venue information and RSVPs and the such. In a section for recounting the day of the engagement my cousin goes off on how he was late picking her up that day and how saintly she was for not dumping him. (He had car troubles on the way to get the ring and called her to tell her he would be late.) At a family get together a few months later, she randomly goes off on a yelling rant, unprovoked, about how horrible all Christians are, in front of my strongly Christian grandparents (real Christians, not the gay hating conservative Christian type). The guy was Buddhist, but outbursts like this were daily for her, and I feel that outburst speaks to her character the best. Anyways, my family didn't make it to the wedding, but we promised my aunt, the bride's mother, we would be at the next one.
My friend was in a relationship where the girlfriend was very needy. We all referred to her as his mother (she had to always know where he was, and didn't like him going anywhere without her). She even complained that he wasn't putting effort into their relationship: he was in college whilst she had finished college and university. We all made bets she would poke holes in the condoms or one of them will cheat because we all felt the relationship was toxic and he was a moron for marrying her. - They are divorced, have a kid and both are in relationships. He did cheat. No one was surprised. Didn't feel that great to be right how things would end.
This is in the late 70s. Moved to Texas, met my older brothers fiancé, he was so infatuated with her . I listened to her keep telling him to shut up. Told him he was making a big mistake, gave the marriage 2 months, missed it by 3 days.
I have just one word for anyone getting married no matter what income bracket you’re in or how little you have right now because that can change…prenup. Get a prenuptial agreement that is air tight before you marry. If someone doesn’t want to sign one for you-ask yourself why even if you know you don’t any to face the answer to that because you are in love. Someone who won’t sign is thinking already of what they want to take from you in the event that you divorce. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t have a problem signing it, now would they???
Okay but on the flip side, if someone asks for a prenup, they are already thinking about potential divorce before the marriage even starts. Kinda shows how much confidence you have in the person and the relationship.
@@TheJevardo It's not a sign of waning confidence in the person; it's a sign that, despite your love for the person in question, your things are your things, their things are their things, and nothing will change that. If anything, it's more of a test to see if you were just marrying somebody to steal all of their assets through divorce courts.
Its one thing to marry out of convinience if both sides agrees, but to marry or be in a relationship with someone allowing an animal/child to suffer even slightly,should be the ultimate red flag of all...Forget if cheating or lying, that can be taken care of by simply leaving, but having a partner not caring for a defenceless creature and staying with them or maybe leaving without the animal,.Oh hell no. I'd keep that cat in a heartbeat.
Last wedding I was at I was the one telling my mother to keep her comments down. Best moment was during the toast the bride, my cousin, gave where she mentioned it's surprising she hasn't chased him away yet, my mom said fairly loudly, "So are we". It should be noted my mom does not drink, she was in fact completely sober. Interestingly the only other completely sober one I could tell was the bride, I've got my theories.
I'm straight edge af. Never smoked, don't drink alcohol partly due to family issues and not liking the taste in general, and I've never wanted to take anything recreationally. Only things I'm addicted to is sugar and caffeine. I've lived with an addict my entire life, I wouldn't want to marry one. I'm cool if you want to smoke a bit of weed now and then but fsr the smell always makes me feel queasy. So I couldn't imagine being uncomfortable with stuff and marrying that person??
My parents marriage, I was 2 but next 3 years was not good, my mom died of a pulmonary edema because of drugs and because she kept in contact with her drug dealer, which was my dad. Don't do drugs or get married to someone you don't love or its not healthy. And don't marry your drug dealer.
My parents went to a wedding of some neighbors. The girl got a job in another town right after the wedding, the guy bought her a house with the money from the wedding then she cheated on him with a coworker, so the marriage lasted less than 6 months....
to be honest im not sure if this counts, but a few months ago I was invited to my boyfriends mothers wedding, she had been engaged to the groom for 7 years, in those 7 years...he'd beat her, chase her through the house, have her locked in her room crying hysterically, he'd hit and still does hit the pets, especially the dogs... being at that wedding was weird seeing them say their vows knowing all this, but im pretty sure its doomed despite the fact he hasnt outright "abused" her in a few years because she's been effectively "beaten into submission" and now he just plays mind games on her and has complete control of everything in the household
One of my wife's good friends got drunk on her wedding day so that she could barely make it through the ceremony and was totally blitzed at the reception. I think he had probably done a lot of drinking as well. She was so drunk that later she couldn't remember if she had the father/daughter dance. The marriage was a shambles which ended up in divorce, but she got married later to a better guy and at that wedding reception my wife remarked to me that she finally got her father/daughter dance.
Relationship didn't make it to the wedding luckily but a former crush recently got out of a relationship where she almost got married. The guy was clearly abusive towards her. Right at the beginning she changed her Facebook cover photo to a picture of the two of them together and he almost immediately tells her in the public comment section to take it down. At this point she hadn't talked to me for about two months which is why I had lost interest in a relationship with her. About 6-7 months after this she texts me out of nowhere asking how I'm doing. I called her and asked her why she hadn't talked to me in so long. She tells me she thought I didn't want to be with her anymore and also later tells me he had hit her and knocked her down leaving a bruise, during an argument that morning. Did I mention that at this point they were engaged at that point after only about 6 months of dating.
2:20 I'm figuring that they stayed together for the sake of the children. Isn't it better to divorce than have the children hear you screaming at each other all the time?
My sister and her husband. At the wedding, she was calling the father of her two oldest sons trying to hook up, on the day she was supposed to be marrying the father of her youngest kid. Lasted 6 months tops. Nothing was his fault, and he is still involved in the youngest's life, but my sister keeps moving every few years so the poor kid can't put down any roots and is 2 hours away from his dad now. I'm also miffed she chose to get married on my birthday weekend, so all the attention could be on her.
I would usually agree that like 90% of the time your education level it isn’t the end all be all, but the medical field is a major exception to That!!! I do NOT want someone cutting me open who has only ever played ‘Operation’...Just saying. Besides medicine, I think Law would be the other big one since you can go to prison for lying about that and practicing also. Also, “twice divorced, once to death” sounds like the worst possible way to die lol
My sister's. I was 12 and knew it wouldn't last. My BIL had weeks to hem his pants and instead my mom ended up doing it on the fly. He flew into a first rate b!tchfit because all she had on hand was dark blue thread and not black and 'people would knowwww'. Tracked down my sister while she was putting her dress on and yelled at her to the point that she started bawling. My mom told her at one point that she would set the venue (her garden) on fire if she wanted time to back out. She was already 2 months pregnant at that point so I guess she felt like she had to see it through. By the time my nephew was 5 months old, BIL was in jail for a DUI and the marriage wasn't going to survive to the end of his sentence.
1) a cousin on my mom’s side got married back in 2010. Everyone in our family kept complaining about how the groom was a man child. Our cousin (bride) left his deadbeat self a year later while pregnant with his kid. 2) I didn’t witness this one. My fiancé’s older brother married his now stb ex wife back when my fiancé was in high school. It was a shotgun military wedding that I think took place that quick bc he wanted to escape his mother. They had no common moral values and their marriage fell apart as a result. 3) A cousin of my dad’s got married right after my mom’s cousin did. She got married to this guy bc she was pregnant with his kid, my younger cousin who’s like my younger twin. I adore her. He was a raging drug addict and he died after several overdoses. 4) I also didn’t witness this one. My dad’s other cousin (the cousin from 3’s sister) married this guy whom my dad hates. My dad kept telling her she was making a mistake. He thinks of his two cousins as younger sisters and is protective of them. She blew him off, married her husband, had kids with her husband, and they got divorced bc he isolated her from our family and treated her sister like crap.
They danced to their failed musician friend singing for them. Some guest clearly cringed about the union while their friends did their best to be supportive. The song was called “Refill”… They divorced 2 years later…
My best friend was hesitated to marry her 16 yo younger, handsome boyfriend. He had a history of unfaithfulness and lying. She asked me for my opinion. "Don't do it if you're not very sure about it," I said firmly. "But my sister-in law says that Satan hates lawful relationships (aka marriages) ," she whined. We are Muslims. I rolled my eyes and told her to do whatever she wanted. On the wedding day, her husband hugged a girlfriend of his tighter than the rest of the guests, to my best friend's distaste. Turned out her husband cheated on her with multiple girls and even molested her own niece in her own home. After the divorce, two years later, she seeks for me to whine about her "misfortunes", which I kind of angrily refused to listen to. We grew apart after those unfortunate incidents.
5:14 "My sister-in-law's first wedding. Never really liked the groom from time I met him." Took me a moment to realize the 'sister-in-law' was the redditor's spouse's sister. I am used to having brother-in-laws through my sisters' marriages, my mind automatically assumed the sister-in-law was the brother's bride. I was like, "Damn, what does the redditor have against their own brother?"
Going to one this weekend. There are bets about how long it will last and what will end it. Current top 3; he starts beating her after she legally tied to him, she leaves him for child support money while pregnant(highly doubt because worst choice for that), break up after cps takes potential children for being neglected and/or abuse within a year of birth.
My sister's. The guy she was with. Treated me like carp because I like anime. You think the lame way he didn't like should have Ben a red flag. On the wedding when the mediated ask if anyone likes to speak up I was hoping someone would say something. 3 year she finally saw him as a jerk and divorce him. Never visitor her on her death bed.
My older cousin's wedding seemed well on the surface. Everyone was enjoying it (seemingly) and the bride and groom got along well. I was about, I don't know, 13 when this happened? But anyway, I took one look at the groom (who I didn't see until then) and didn't like him. He was a bald but young man who wore visor sunglasses and had a straight beard so maybe that's why he had "asshole" written all over him. Some years later I heard through the grapevine that they divorced and he had given my little cousin (their kid) PTSD when he beat his wife in front of him. Fucking knew it.
So, I've been on a dating site for two years. I've never dated anyone offline and never been in a relationship and at this point I consider myself biromantic aroace. I'm a straight edge dorky nerd. Lately the guys I've been suggested to have kids, want kids, want more kids, are open to kids and who smoke/do stuff. Like wtf, is it opposite month? Also even when I was 5 I didn't understand marriage. Spinster it is!
I haven't seen many bad marriages where BOTH parties weren't to blame.Married a psycho , or a narcissist? Well, - that should tell you something about your own priorities and maturity level.
Oh narcissists marry all the time. Look in the raised by narcissists sub. They might be on the same page with their bull. Unfortunately normal people don't operate on the same level as narcissists and psychopaths which is why its easier for them to manipulate and they can seem normal for years.
For that first story, I really don't understand people who think they can get into a relationships and try to change the person that they are with. If anybody wants to make a change, there are only going to do it for themselves and/or God. Quit trying to change people.
Lmao about the bride and groom who never fought and her parents were horrible....I bet they thought that they wished she hadn’t married him! Be careful what u wish for bc at least he was a man ....lol they were ultra conservative so they should’ve counted their blessings
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I’m the kind of person that understands couples go through things and it’s not always going to be a Disney movie but dear God, how delusional do you have to be to miss so many signs and just go through with it anyway?
Bad childhood is actually a good answer to that!
Sadly, some people genuinely think that they don't deserve better
Some people are too desperate.
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The family potentially pressuring you into getting married might not help, either. :S
I don't like drama in my life but I really enjoy these vids.
Lol. This is so me.
I suppose its cause you're at a safe distance
You can laugh at the absurdity without it directly affecting you
Lol, I guess plenty of people feel the same. xD
It’s why zoos and circuses exist: other people’s monkeys are fun to watch
I hate drama in my life. I enjoy watching others drama *because* it is not my drama. Just like watching tv
I was at one where everyone aside from the close friends and the parents were convinced it would go wrong. They married at a castle and did a bunch of roleplay stuff since they were a larper couple. All the colleagues from work and relatives from both sides were convinced the other half pulled the one they knew/were related to into the whole larping stuff. Everyone was convinced he/she would grow out of the infatuation and realise how embarrassing the other one was. That was when I was 20 and worked for a few hours as a helper at that wedding. I recently met the lady again in a long distance train and asked if she was the bride from that wedding (I have this really cool photo on my phone of them in front of the castle). She was surprised, but yeah it was her. She showed me pics of her kids, they're still happily married more than 10 years later and while they outgrew larping they still love going to renaissance fairs in costume with their kids and such.
Wow. Kinda terrible for them to assume that and also think it was cringe enough to be the sole ender of the marriage. Took my boyfriend to furrycon and he was so salty and thought it was embarrassing til he realized they had cool stuff and had fun.
gross@@squirrel670
@@squirrel670It’s almost as if people should stop being as judgmental and just let nerds have fun (as long as they’re not hurting anyone)
@@teddy-beargamer6385 people will make up that it hurts people. People hate things they don't understand or care to. They rather hate than mind their business
I wish my brother would divorce his wife. The woman is crazy. She gaslights him constantly, talks bad about his brothers (Big bro is a triplet) and refuses to let him have contact with his side of the family and monitors his every move even getting him a job where her mom works so she can spy on him.
bruh
That's what my mom was forced to do(her first husband is not my dad)
My Aunt however knew from the start that something was wrong with him.
you should probloably do something about it.
I had a controlling wife once, like your brother's. She did it at the urging of her mother, who wanted me at her beck & call so her golden child sons wouldn't have to. Took a long time but I finally saw the 2 of them for what they are and left the marriage. Ultimately, it's your brother's choice, but stick by him and be there for him and he will one day come to that realization, I'm sure.
*_JFC_*
My husband’s friend had an outdoor wedding. The sky was blue!! When the bride came out, it started raining. When she entered the gazebo, it stopped. They got married. When they exited the gazebo, it started pouring rain, with lightning and thunder. When the entered the reception building/hall, it stopped. They’ve been married over 20 years, but EVERYBODY was worried!!
Apparently rain is a sign of a marriage destined to last, since rain makes rope stronger (tie the knot)
"It's like rai-eee-ain on your weddiiing day!"
@@MickeyMallone.either that, or she upset some higher power
@@AhDollar Or that
2) second wedding was a teenage couple girl barely 16 guy just short ,20.
Everyone started counting months as they had to be pregnant. Girl was still in school had uni plan for two years later guy was in second year of uni.
Well a year later no baby two years later both at uni 6 years later both have PhDs working in good careers 50years later both retired after successful careers today still together e every single day and still head over heels.
Best story EVER!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
...So did they end up having kids? I know it's not relevant to the story, I just wanted to see when they had them to see if it was a "well, you were *kinda* right (in the wrongest of ways)" moment.
well this kind of stories make me think that there's still hope for humanity 😂
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Here's a classic: Went to my cousin's wedding - bit of a rush job as his fiance is pregnant, but the whole family (from great-grandparents right on down to my generation on both sides) drag ass down to Portsmouth for the wedding. Ceremony, reception, then back up to London. The newlyweds get into a huge fight, she blurts out the kid is not his. Aaand that was that - separated the same day they got married.
Holy shits that's gold. What did everyone do the moment she admitted it wasn't his? I can only imagine the shock and silence of those first few seconds
The biggest warning sign is getting married in Portsmouth 😂
You know that there's a problem when your marriage lasts shorter than Hitler's
I had a piece of paper that said I was married to a jerk. The first thing he said to me on our wedding day was "I have seen you look better. " It didn't get better. I never missed him.
Did you know he was a jerk before you got married?
That sucks. When I first saw my wife in her wedding dress, my heart skipped a beat.
@@Kat-gp6gj clearly not.
This is why I want to get married at a courthouse and not deal with the drama. Too much money to throw away when you have to go to the courthouse to get the paper anyway. Make it a one stop shop lol!
That’s what we did, & several co-workers have done that.
Yeah!
Yours!
Fully agree, money wasted on weddings that can be used on better things such as a house or a trip for just the couple.
These types of videos give me the feeling of being around the break room table in an office or retail store and listening to drama going on in people’s lives 😂
My high school friend and I have both been married twice. He was my best man at my second (and still on-going) wedding; I was never even invited to either of his. HIs current (second) wife is a real piece of work. She's absolutely convinced she's the smartest person in any room, talks down to everyone, including my friend, and is generally just unpleasant and annoying to be around. She also hates my guts because I refuse to be intimidated by her, and call her out on her bullshit when she gets out of hand. The last time we were together as a group, which was coincidentally the last time I ever spoke to either of them, the subject of wedding vows came up. Even though it had been more than ten years since my wife and I were married, and even though my friend was the best man and his wife attended it, I was still able to remember the wedding vows I had written. Maybe not word-for-word, but close enough. I then asked my friend's wife if they had written their wedding vows, to which she said yes. I asked if she still remembered them, which apparently pissed her off because she couldn't and thought I was trying to make her look bad. So she unloaded on me, and her husband didn't say or do anything to rein her in or cut her off. When she was done being a bitch, I then said, "It's amazing to me that you not only wrote your own vows, but somehow managed to say them without being condescending." I then looked at my friend of over thirty years, and the last words I ever said to him were, "Call me when you grow a spine." My wife and I got up and left, and I've been a lot happier without that wimp and his shrew in my life.
That was an interesting read
Abusive relationship. Hate it so much. Hope he gets out.
that's sad that the friend turned out to be essentially a simp. Did you feel sad when you left your best man? Or disappoint? Or something else?
@@AverageAngel I was angry at myself for not seeing sooner what was most likely there all along, namely that when it came down to it, he wouldn't be man enough to stand up to her for himself, for a friend, or for anything. Now I'm disappointed, but I've come to accept that we aren't the same people we were when we were younger, and that our fundamental values and behaviors have changed radically enough to make us incompatible as friends.
@@drakemarshall2155 it sounds like you made the right decision then. A coward is not virtuous, a weak man is not a friend. Sounds like he was both a coward and weak. I suspect when you were younger you didn't really assess the friendship and went along with the good times, something I realized I did too when I was younger. Hey we like skiing let's go do that, only to realize that the only thing we had in common was skiing, and not much else. Not much common in terms of character, true values, how we treat people, work ethic, etc
"Sometimes having a kid really brings out the good in a couple"
excuse, but was this ever really the case? I'm quiet certain bring a kid in a bad relationship is one of the worst things someone can do.
Its mentally tiring for the children. 🤦♀️
Parenthood can be a wake-up call for irresponsibility. Or not. It's a bad idea to assume one way or another.
@@arianebolt1575 My sis and her ex were this way. She definitely wanted kids but he was on the fence, so they had a kid after a bit. After having their first kid, he went from on the fence to very against it and no longer wanted kids (let alone a 2nd kid). At least they got divorced instead of having a 2nd kid - sis acknowledged that bringing a 2nd kid into a relationship where the dad was not mentally there for his children was not a great thing.
Getting pregnant because "having a baby will make him committed to the marriage" is the worst thing you can do. It just raises children in a bad home situation.
Can confirm. I’m a mistake
My husband and I attended a wedding of my female co worker. One week BEFORE the wedding, she dragged me into the ladies room, crying. She stated that the fiance told her he just wasn't sure. I told her to go to her priest and pray...let him be. A week later, she said all was ok and my spouse and I attended the wedding. He knew NOTHING of this, but after the wedding ceremony was over, he turned to me and said...." I give this marriage a year". I was shocked. Sure enuf, one year later they separated and divorced. I still don't know how he knew it wouldnt6 work out?
Maybe hes just good at reading certain situations.
For some reason the robot really gets excited when he says _STARBUCKS!_
There was a couple we went to a wedding for insisted everyone being their favorite pet with them (had to be leashed, in a stroller, in a backpack carrier or something) we brought our ferrets in their stroller with leashes too. the insane mother of the groom officiated the ceremony and stopped 3 times to yell at the ring bearer and flower girl (2 of the bride's 6 children who each have different fathers but never been married to a single one) the grooms dog killed the bride's bird and someone else's dog tried to eat my ferret through the stroller so we IMMEDIATELY left.... 5 months later we see in the paper he was arrested for stabbing her after coming home early from work and finding every single one of his groomsmen filming a g@ngb@ng on the bride who was WEARING HER WEDDING GOWN.
So... Yeah.
Understandable reaction.
I don't believe you take your meds
@@jmorel42 Look who's talking
If I'd been on the jury, I'd've voted not guilty. Assuming this all isn't a bit of fun trolling.
@@josepherhardt164 Sadly, not a troll. Some people are just insane.
I'm not sure how things turned out but I'll ask if anyone knows or Google them or something, maybe I can find out. We had our own issues to deal with at the time so didn't follow the story. We'll see...
Two different weddings
1) two 30+ years olds got married after being together over 20 years. Before the wedding every single person who knew them called them a destined couple I went shopping with bride 3 days before ceremony where we met up with a workmate of both of us.spent few minutes talking and as we walked away my head buzzed.
6 weeks after the huge extremely expensive wedding she walked out of office got I to workmates car and we never saw either of them again.
Turned out that they had been having an affair for 9 years.
"He claimed he had a degree, which would put him at a much better-paying position..." Yeaaaaah, that's not how it works these days.
Stepsister - the pastor spent the entire ceremony telling them not to get married, I don't mean subtle comments I mean "you don't have to get married today, there is plenty of time to wait, marriage is serious and you should take your time"...
During the service they lit the pastor's sleeve on fire with the unity candle, then knocked over a candelabra and lit the church carpet on fire. So many other things went wrong too but those were the worst.
That last bit sounds like the perfect series of events for a comedy movie!
My god. Who were their writers?
A platonic friend of mine married his high school sweetheart after being together for 7 years, it lasted less than one year and they separated.
Prior to the marriage I posted memes about the inevitability of divorce, you know the ones with wolf of wall street smile and cocktail. The bride didn’t take it too kindly but oh boy was it fitting looking back.
I wanna say she deserves it, but I dunno why.
Oh, what the heck. I'll laugh anyways,
*HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!*
It's as if people didn't know marriage is optional...
Not for everyone
It's still regarded as a normal procedure in life. It shouldn't be. I had relatives who were not married and no children. They weren't spinsters.
After having seen how my cousin acted before/during her engagement, I'm shocked her marriage hasn't fallen apart yet. When they announced their engagement they set up a small website that only family could access, stuff like venue information and RSVPs and the such. In a section for recounting the day of the engagement my cousin goes off on how he was late picking her up that day and how saintly she was for not dumping him. (He had car troubles on the way to get the ring and called her to tell her he would be late.) At a family get together a few months later, she randomly goes off on a yelling rant, unprovoked, about how horrible all Christians are, in front of my strongly Christian grandparents (real Christians, not the gay hating conservative Christian type). The guy was Buddhist, but outbursts like this were daily for her, and I feel that outburst speaks to her character the best.
Anyways, my family didn't make it to the wedding, but we promised my aunt, the bride's mother, we would be at the next one.
My friend was in a relationship where the girlfriend was very needy. We all referred to her as his mother (she had to always know where he was, and didn't like him going anywhere without her). She even complained that he wasn't putting effort into their relationship: he was in college whilst she had finished college and university.
We all made bets she would poke holes in the condoms or one of them will cheat because we all felt the relationship was toxic and he was a moron for marrying her.
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They are divorced, have a kid and both are in relationships. He did cheat. No one was surprised. Didn't feel that great to be right how things would end.
21:07 did not see that plot twist coming but it made me really happy
4:46 What the best man really needs to realize is, if she'll cheat _with_ you, she'll cheat *_on_* you!
I once went to a wedding where I just knew the marriage was a mistake the moment I said I do.
This is in the late 70s. Moved to Texas, met my older brothers fiancé, he was so infatuated with her . I listened to her keep telling him to shut up. Told him he was making a big mistake, gave the marriage 2 months, missed it by 3 days.
Late or early?
@@josepherhardt164 early.
@@davidmcdonald4771 Well, you have to give them credit for effort, then. Right? ;)
I gave them credit for trying.. howsomever he was a control freak and she was banging his supposedly best friend the whole time.
I have just one word for anyone getting married no matter what income bracket you’re in or how little you have right now because that can change…prenup. Get a prenuptial agreement that is air tight before you marry. If someone doesn’t want to sign one for you-ask yourself why even if you know you don’t any to face the answer to that because you are in love. Someone who won’t sign is thinking already of what they want to take from you in the event that you divorce. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t have a problem signing it, now would they???
Okay but on the flip side, if someone asks for a prenup, they are already thinking about potential divorce before the marriage even starts. Kinda shows how much confidence you have in the person and the relationship.
@@TheJevardo It's not a sign of waning confidence in the person; it's a sign that, despite your love for the person in question, your things are your things, their things are their things, and nothing will change that. If anything, it's more of a test to see if you were just marrying somebody to steal all of their assets through divorce courts.
Its one thing to marry out of convinience if both sides agrees, but to marry or be in a relationship with someone allowing an animal/child to suffer even slightly,should be the ultimate red flag of all...Forget if cheating or lying, that can be taken care of by simply leaving, but having a partner not caring for a defenceless creature and staying with them or maybe leaving without the animal,.Oh hell no. I'd keep that cat in a heartbeat.
Last wedding I was at I was the one telling my mother to keep her comments down. Best moment was during the toast the bride, my cousin, gave where she mentioned it's surprising she hasn't chased him away yet, my mom said fairly loudly, "So are we". It should be noted my mom does not drink, she was in fact completely sober.
Interestingly the only other completely sober one I could tell was the bride, I've got my theories.
Does this theory come with a 9 month timeline?
@@ajdominguez1002 no up dates yet but im still betting
Why get in a relationship with someone who smokes when you're strongly anti weed. I'm not going to stop smoking to marry some chick.
And I would likewise never even consider dating a smoker, no matter how much he promised to stop for me.
I'm straight edge af. Never smoked, don't drink alcohol partly due to family issues and not liking the taste in general, and I've never wanted to take anything recreationally. Only things I'm addicted to is sugar and caffeine. I've lived with an addict my entire life, I wouldn't want to marry one. I'm cool if you want to smoke a bit of weed now and then but fsr the smell always makes me feel queasy. So I couldn't imagine being uncomfortable with stuff and marrying that person??
Cause huge social pressure
My parents marriage, I was 2 but next 3 years was not good, my mom died of a pulmonary edema because of drugs and because she kept in contact with her drug dealer, which was my dad. Don't do drugs or get married to someone you don't love or its not healthy. And don't marry your drug dealer.
Glad kitteh has a better human. To have money and not take it to the vet? 😭
28:03 "The bride actually showed up late with Starbucks!"
THE MEME IS REAL!
My parents went to a wedding of some neighbors. The girl got a job in another town right after the wedding, the guy bought her a house with the money from the wedding then she cheated on him with a coworker, so the marriage lasted less than 6 months....
Oh wow. That's so many degrees of awful I just don't have the words.
to be honest im not sure if this counts, but a few months ago I was invited to my boyfriends mothers wedding, she had been engaged to the groom for 7 years, in those 7 years...he'd beat her, chase her through the house, have her locked in her room crying hysterically, he'd hit and still does hit the pets, especially the dogs... being at that wedding was weird seeing them say their vows knowing all this, but im pretty sure its doomed despite the fact he hasnt outright "abused" her in a few years because she's been effectively "beaten into submission" and now he just plays mind games on her and has complete control of everything in the household
I played piano at my brother's (his 3rd, her 2nd). They seemed more nervous around then enraptured by each other. Soon divorced but still friends.
One of my wife's good friends got drunk on her wedding day so that she could barely make it through the ceremony and was totally blitzed at the reception. I think he had probably done a lot of drinking as well. She was so drunk that later she couldn't remember if she had the father/daughter dance. The marriage was a shambles which ended up in divorce, but she got married later to a better guy and at that wedding reception my wife remarked to me that she finally got her father/daughter dance.
Relationship didn't make it to the wedding luckily but a former crush recently got out of a relationship where she almost got married. The guy was clearly abusive towards her. Right at the beginning she changed her Facebook cover photo to a picture of the two of them together and he almost immediately tells her in the public comment section to take it down. At this point she hadn't talked to me for about two months which is why I had lost interest in a relationship with her. About 6-7 months after this she texts me out of nowhere asking how I'm doing. I called her and asked her why she hadn't talked to me in so long. She tells me she thought I didn't want to be with her anymore and also later tells me he had hit her and knocked her down leaving a bruise, during an argument that morning. Did I mention that at this point they were engaged at that point after only about 6 months of dating.
I broke down laughing at the first one, I just couldn't...💀
For that last one, I'd sue. Excuse me, not only did you badly delayed my payment, but you also decided to not pay me at all? Get screwed over.
2:20 I'm figuring that they stayed together for the sake of the children. Isn't it better to divorce than have the children hear you screaming at each other all the time?
Lol my wedding. Everybody at the wedding knew it wasn't gonna last.
6:43 “its just a cat” have 0 respect for these people
People > animals
That last post was absolutely unhinged.
19:00 Somebody got pregnant to avoid jail time...
2:46 so was the divorced announced 2 years later or one month later??? what do they mean? WHO WON THE BET?!
My sister and her husband. At the wedding, she was calling the father of her two oldest sons trying to hook up, on the day she was supposed to be marrying the father of her youngest kid. Lasted 6 months tops. Nothing was his fault, and he is still involved in the youngest's life, but my sister keeps moving every few years so the poor kid can't put down any roots and is 2 hours away from his dad now. I'm also miffed she chose to get married on my birthday weekend, so all the attention could be on her.
I don't even blame the guy at 5:50. He just wanted to Not Die. The real villain is the American healthcare system.
I would usually agree that like 90% of the time your education level it isn’t the end all be all, but the medical field is a major exception to That!!! I do NOT want someone cutting me open who has only ever played ‘Operation’...Just saying.
Besides medicine, I think Law would be the other big one since you can go to prison for lying about that and practicing also.
Also, “twice divorced, once to death” sounds like the worst possible way to die lol
My sister's. I was 12 and knew it wouldn't last. My BIL had weeks to hem his pants and instead my mom ended up doing it on the fly. He flew into a first rate b!tchfit because all she had on hand was dark blue thread and not black and 'people would knowwww'. Tracked down my sister while she was putting her dress on and yelled at her to the point that she started bawling. My mom told her at one point that she would set the venue (her garden) on fire if she wanted time to back out. She was already 2 months pregnant at that point so I guess she felt like she had to see it through. By the time my nephew was 5 months old, BIL was in jail for a DUI and the marriage wasn't going to survive to the end of his sentence.
1) a cousin on my mom’s side got married back in 2010. Everyone in our family kept complaining about how the groom was a man child. Our cousin (bride) left his deadbeat self a year later while pregnant with his kid.
2) I didn’t witness this one. My fiancé’s older brother married his now stb ex wife back when my fiancé was in high school. It was a shotgun military wedding that I think took place that quick bc he wanted to escape his mother. They had no common moral values and their marriage fell apart as a result.
3) A cousin of my dad’s got married right after my mom’s cousin did. She got married to this guy bc she was pregnant with his kid, my younger cousin who’s like my younger twin. I adore her. He was a raging drug addict and he died after several overdoses.
4) I also didn’t witness this one. My dad’s other cousin (the cousin from 3’s sister) married this guy whom my dad hates. My dad kept telling her she was making a mistake. He thinks of his two cousins as younger sisters and is protective of them. She blew him off, married her husband, had kids with her husband, and they got divorced bc he isolated her from our family and treated her sister like crap.
They danced to their failed musician friend singing for them. Some guest clearly cringed about the union while their friends did their best to be supportive. The song was called “Refill”…
They divorced 2 years later…
16:49 I could immediately tell because of the VB reference that this story takes place in Australia.
Why would you go for a stoner if you are anti drug?
My best friend was hesitated to marry her 16 yo younger, handsome boyfriend. He had a history of unfaithfulness and lying. She asked me for my opinion. "Don't do it if you're not very sure about it," I said firmly. "But my sister-in law says that Satan hates lawful relationships (aka marriages) ," she whined. We are Muslims. I rolled my eyes and told her to do whatever she wanted. On the wedding day, her husband hugged a girlfriend of his tighter than the rest of the guests, to my best friend's distaste. Turned out her husband cheated on her with multiple girls and even molested her own niece in her own home. After the divorce, two years later, she seeks for me to whine about her "misfortunes", which I kind of angrily refused to listen to. We grew apart after those unfortunate incidents.
5:14 "My sister-in-law's first wedding. Never really liked the groom from time I met him."
Took me a moment to realize the 'sister-in-law' was the redditor's spouse's sister. I am used to having brother-in-laws through my sisters' marriages, my mind automatically assumed the sister-in-law was the brother's bride. I was like, "Damn, what does the redditor have against their own brother?"
Going to one this weekend. There are bets about how long it will last and what will end it. Current top 3; he starts beating her after she legally tied to him, she leaves him for child support money while pregnant(highly doubt because worst choice for that), break up after cps takes potential children for being neglected and/or abuse within a year of birth.
My sister's. The guy she was with. Treated me like carp because I like anime. You think the lame way he didn't like should have Ben a red flag. On the wedding when the mediated ask if anyone likes to speak up I was hoping someone would say something. 3 year she finally saw him as a jerk and divorce him. Never visitor her on her death bed.
Sorry to hear about her death though my guy that's rough
It would be a shame to ruin two families.
The heart surgery one was the most petty thing I have ever heard #scumbaggery
First guy should find someone who likes weed as well, there's nothing wrong with it. It was better off.
My older cousin's wedding seemed well on the surface. Everyone was enjoying it (seemingly) and the bride and groom got along well.
I was about, I don't know, 13 when this happened? But anyway, I took one look at the groom (who I didn't see until then) and didn't like him. He was a bald but young man who wore visor sunglasses and had a straight beard so maybe that's why he had "asshole" written all over him.
Some years later I heard through the grapevine that they divorced and he had given my little cousin (their kid) PTSD when he beat his wife in front of him. Fucking knew it.
So, I've been on a dating site for two years. I've never dated anyone offline and never been in a relationship and at this point I consider myself biromantic aroace. I'm a straight edge dorky nerd. Lately the guys I've been suggested to have kids, want kids, want more kids, are open to kids and who smoke/do stuff. Like wtf, is it opposite month? Also even when I was 5 I didn't understand marriage. Spinster it is!
One of the best channels
13:39 I did exactly the same while reading this myself
Ya, my own.
1st story..REALLY WEED LOL.
This was THE fucking rollercoaster....damn man .
Great stories.
I haven't seen many bad marriages where BOTH parties weren't to blame.Married a psycho , or a narcissist? Well, - that should tell you something about your own priorities and maturity level.
Oh narcissists marry all the time. Look in the raised by narcissists sub. They might be on the same page with their bull. Unfortunately normal people don't operate on the same level as narcissists and psychopaths which is why its easier for them to manipulate and they can seem normal for years.
For that first story, I really don't understand people who think they can get into a relationships and try to change the person that they are with. If anybody wants to make a change, there are only going to do it for themselves and/or God. Quit trying to change people.
I'm mixed up the mother as well
Lmao about the bride and groom who never fought and her parents were horrible....I bet they thought that they wished she hadn’t married him! Be careful what u wish for bc at least he was a man ....lol they were ultra conservative so they should’ve counted their blessings
My own wedding lol
Well...
1:21 The guy literally specified he’s a videographer… Not a photographer.
Marriage .
I am happy alone don't have to deal with someone's bs
19:45 As usual same crime but different time
So Maddie and Nate lol
What is VB?
26:14 ...did she pay him to be her beard?
No...but i saw a picture...
Liked at 16:28
the music distracts me so much
All I want to know is that if the thumbnail is real or not?
Yeah, almost all of 'em
I’ll never understand people that say people are “happily divorced”. No divorce is happy.
I’ll never understand why guys tip cam girls
She kind of slow
Hahaha finally one in here that I know is Aussie lol..
Almost every one I have been to.
Is there a better way to do this better than the weird robotic voice?
Don’t get married, peeps! Marriage is overrated and useless.
I'm sorry you feel that way.
I'm not planning on doing it anytime soon, but that's just incorrect
Sounds like that first wife need to smoke some bud herself!!!
Ok junkie
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First
yuuuhrs
Second
Banana pee