PhD is so much harder than a full time job because you completely own every project and you have no other team member to rely on as everyone is struggling under the weight of their own project. There is just so much uncertainty and work. You are allowed to feel this overwhelmed. Order some nice food. Get through tomorrow's class then take the afternoon off and get back to it in the evening. You've got this!
You are probably burned out. You start to lose interest in what you love. At this point, you need a break, and that is okay. Use your break time to fully connect with your support system (family, friends, and God). Make sure you believe and trust that everything will be alright. I have been there before, so do not feel you are the problem. The process is very difficult. You got this girl. You are truly inspiring many. And I appreciate the fact that you shared the challenging part. So people do not think it is all roses.
Vee this is a common way to feel when doing a PhD! It is a marathon, not a sprint. It's also fine not to be 100% sure about your dissertation topic. I will be graduating in May after doing a PhD for 6 years and I still have no idea if my dissertation topic makes sense or is important to anyone else. My favorite piece of PhD advice is "the BEST dissertation is a COMPLETED dissertation". Your main job at this stage is to get broad knowledge of the different research areas in your field and get training in research methodology. Please don't feel like your dissertation topic will define your entire future. You need to finish A dissertation, to get your PhD. Other things, like publishing articles and the network you make during your PhD, have a much bigger impact on what your post-PhD future will be. I think your resume as it stands has already set you up for mega success, but if you haven't yet, join the Comparative and International Education Society and attend their annual conference and network with their special interest groups. Be gentle with yourself. It will take longer than you think, but you can do it if this is what you decide you want to do.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere. There are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research, which is stressful and tricky, but not impossible. Your methodology and data collection will also determine how long your PhD will take. If you are spending a year in the field doing an ethnography (which is common in my program) then it will take 5-6+ years. If you are working with data that someone else collected and just doing a new kind of analysis, then this would be a much shorter project and the PhD can be done in 3-4 years. I transferred as many credits as I could from my UK Masters to cover the class requirements in my PhD, but with the pandemic and schools being closed it still took 6 years. Without the pandemic I might have been able to complete my degree in 5 years.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere, there are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research which is stressful and tricky but not impossible.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere, there are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research which is stressful and tricky but not impossible.
As a 2nd year Ph.D. student, I firmly believe that the first year of any Ph.D. program is just universally awful. Regardless of discipline, professional experience, or even coming in with a master's degree. The first year just sucks and involves a lot of crying. I almost quit multiple times my first year lol. But you are worthy and capable, and you WILL make it through this year. We all believe in you
I hate that it’s just the norm of the first year. But I also totally understand why! This is the world of PhD ! But awww thank you for the sweeeeeeetttest words ever!
Hello! Same experience here. First year was AWFUL! So depressing, so lonely, so overwhelming. It took me a year to understand how my brain works, what I found stimulating, create tangible small goals and have a life outside of my PhD. The second year was sooo much better. Hang in there, you got this! Personally, as someone who enjoys team work and practical stuff, I found freelance work really helped me during the first year: social connection, easily achievable goals (hence a sense of accomplishment). Best of luck!
The year before your submission year is the worst. The first is pretty bad in terms of feeling lost or overwhelmed because you worrry you might not be good enough. But everyone keeps reminding you that this is normal and everyone feels this. In the penultimate year you start feeling it all over again but this time others start agreeing with you. Your university doesn't want you to submit and fail, if you're having serious doubts they will encourage you to drop out or prove you're up to it. The reality is that if you've made it to the penultimate year you can do it. It's the same as 1st year anxiety but people are less nice about it.
You’re amazing and you can do anything even if it’s hard. If you don’t want to do something, it’s fine, but if you want to, you’re more than good enough.
Hello Vee! What you're feeling truly resonated with me! I got my PhD in 2022 and, in retrospective, feeling lost/inadequate is 100% part of the process, especially during your first year! You're only 6 months in, the best advice I would give is to EMBRACE these feelings, the uncertainty. The vast majority of 1st year PhD students are lost (in my experience, from asking around 😊). Take it one step at a time!
Watching this while panic doing my dishes and cleaning my house at midnight on a Sunday… I’m in my third year of my PhD and these overwhelmed moments happen, and sometimes they happen a lot! But you need to allow yourself to feel it and just pick yourself up the next day and keep going - it’s a marathon NOT a sprint. Sending love and support
I’m in the second year of my PhD, and everything you said in this video resonates with me. I’m also going through an ebb with my program. There’s a great deal of uncertainty and unknowingness in researching a PhD dissertation. It’s a lot of responsibility and pressure to push the boundaries of human knowledge. That easily leads to feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome. All this being said, remember that you’re capable of this work, and that’s why you’re here. This is the toughest rodeo I’ve ever been in too. You’re absolutely not alone - you have an academic family in the comments who understand, relate to, and empathize with you. :)
I am glad to know that I am not alone in how I am feeling!! and thank you for the reminders!! Same to you too, keep going!! You are in your second year already!! You will be done before you know it. Rooting for you :) xx
Similar to you, I am a undergrad student at Cambridge uni and the up-down feeling resonates with me so much. Feeling like drowning, and a paper that didnt so well, and ending up feeling lost. Questioning oneself. Doubt. Hopelessness. Tiredness. I am approaching my first year finals and I just feel that theres just so much unknown. I just want to let you know that your video spoke to me so much.
Awww bestie, I am sorry to hear that you are feeling the same too because it is not a nice feeling!! The comments section are an indication that we are not alone. Having good support systems in place is key during this journey, so I hope you have that. Thank you for the love 💛
You can do it, sis. Just keep moving forward. At one point in my doctoral journey I asked myself if it was okay to quit. I was a full time executive opening a brand new hospital, I was going through a divorce and I was a full time student. 40% of my hair fell out. I had an ulcer. My hand would tremor randomly throughout the day. I legitimately thought about quitting because it was too much. And I nearly did, until I asked myself if I thought I would regret it a year later. I knew I would, so I just kept going one day at a time. Over a decade later, I’m so grateful that I did. Be gentle with yourself. You’re stronger than you feel. ❤
I am so so glad you are doing this video. I am also seven months into my PhD program and I have been feeling overwhelmed the past two and a half months. Doing a PhD is just A LOT! The stress, the feedback, the million things to do, the readings, presentations, it's crazy. However, I am grateful that I have received so much support from my advisors and other students in my department who not only validate me but also motivate me to keep going. Keep going ! You are one of the people who motivated me to go to grad school when I was doing my applications in Kenya and now I am here ! It is difficult. One of the hardest things to do but I truly believe that YOU CAN DO IT VEE ! Prioritize your wellbeing and then keep going!
It is such a shame that majority of us PhD students are going through this awful feeling!! I am happy that you have good support systems in place. Amen to that, we will keep going!! There is no giving up around here. And wow I am glad to hear that I contributed to your journey 💛
Thank you for being vulnerable and showing this side of your lifestyle/education. Girl, you've already done enough. As a student nurse who works full-time hours, I know a thing or two about burnout. Take a break, you deserve it mentally and physically - sending love and light x
Oh Vee, I'm sorry to hear this. I just wanted to say how fascinated I am by what you do. You just never fail to impress anyone! I'm so proud of you and remember life is full of highs but also lows. Sometimes it's easy to forget that (trust me it takes a half marathon to remind myself that). It's all worth it in the end. You're such an inspiration. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade (no matter how low life may feel at the moment). You can do this, Vee! ❤
I also started a PhD in another country exactly 6 months ago, and man has it been hard! I also felt super overwhelmed and inadequate the last week. I guess it’s a part of the process but very difficult to handle. So you’re not alone! I don’t have any tips or anything as I’m still going through it, but my plan is to work much harder on being kinder to myself, but that’s gonna be a whole process onto its own. I do have to say, it’s reassuring to see you feel this way too, as you normally seem to have it under control!
I did my PhD in another country. Got it in 2019. Here to tell you you're doing great. Always remember that you are worth it it may not feel like it now but you've got this. You're entitled to feel this way at the start of your journey, just know it doesn't last. Please find a supportive group of friends and preferably people that are a bit ahead of you in the journey it helps to hear from others that have been through it so you don't feel as alone, especially when you're away from home, family and friends. You've got this ❤
We are totally in the same boat and you made some really good points here!! It is a journey and you have to take each day as it comes. The comments section is great! it has shown me that we are not alone, a lot of us feel like this. Good luck with your studies!! I hope it goes well xx
Definitely feeling it, and thank you so much for sharing this literally. I am in my last semester of my Master’s Degree and I felt so deeply in part you say ‘I can’t even go to bed cause I have things to do ‘ . I am so sorry you feel like this really, but I know that we will finish these degrees!! 🌸🌸 and if you would like to take a break it’s okay too!! It does not define you , will never define you , I am glad you exist as a human being, and that simply enough. Just existing , take care Vee ❤
I’m 6 years into a PhD and still don’t know how I even got here. I completely shutdown during the pandemic years, and I’m only now pulling myself out of that state. That mini-ramble to say, the emotional roller coaster is real. My initial department director always said to the grads, “you’ve never written a dissertation/thesis, why would I expect you to know how to do it perfectly your first time?” Her reminders really helped me when the imposter syndrome would hit. One step at a time and one day at a time!
Thank you for your vulnerability! You are totally capable of all that you wish to have. Also, the fact that you mentioned your period is coming soon, girl the hormones are real!! And that made me feel more valid too when mine is coming up so thank you for sharing. Wishing you well! And you got this 🫶🏼
I'm in the middle of my second PhD year and what you're describing is pretty normal for pretty much everyone doing a PhD. A PhD is not a bachelor's degree, not even a master's degree, it's something very very different and very different type of work. Take time off, your brain NEEDS breaks to function and don't beat yourself up too much. Cry, eat some comfort food, sleep a full night and then everything will look so much brighter. But also, because I feel it is important to say especially to high achieving people: it's also okay if you truly truly truly don't want to finish the PhD, then it's totally okay. You don't have to do it just to prove you can do it. If it doesn't bring you joy, don't force it. All the best ❤
Thank you for the reassurance, in my heart I know that deep down I really want to do this and I know I can but I do have days when I am just overwhelmed. It has made me feel better reading through all of the comments and finding that it is normal to feel how I feel right now. I will be having a much needed reset for sure 💛💛💛
I get burned out at times but i try to remember…yesterday is gone, tomorrow doesn’t even exist and all we really have to focus on is today. Just try to stay focused on today whenever you feel overwhelmed. ❤❤
This sounds like me the past few months, just about to finish my BA (HONS) degree which I know is a few levels below PHD but the burn out is the same. It's really important to take care of your self and rest and do things that bring you joy. I've found it very difficult to push on due to burn out. A 7 hour class when you're feeling like that must have just been so, so hard. I probably would have walked out. Take care of yourself please, so many of my class are in the midst of burn out because of so many things that have happened. It's vital and important to ensure your physiological needs are met to continue with studies. Sending love and hugs your way!!
Hey bestie!! You are right, I need to prioritise self care more. I guess this is a journey and I am learning as I go along. Thank you for the support 💛💛💛
Vee, I’ll tell you this as we all care for you so much - you are 100% in burnout. Please for the sake of your health, rest WITHOUT the guilt ❤ your body is trying desperately to tell you this (as someone with a chronic health condition and regular burnouts, this is exactly what they look like, to the letter - we can be doing amazing, but everything feels too much and everything becomes so much harder and our body is just run down) - please take a few days to rest, don’t do what I used to do and push through, it’ll only hit you worse in a few days if you try ❤ you got this!! P.s. yes the guilt is hard to ignore but put you first ❤
Thank you for the reminder, sometimes I think it is important to be reminded that its okay to take some time out without feeling guilty because burn out really is real!! Thank you for sharing 💛💛💛
Getting my period too and I just feel like crying, clothes all over, everything just feels like it's crumbling. If you have PMS I suggest planning things around it😅 make sure i have saved money for a nice meal, rent a favourite movie etc. PhD wise it's okay to not know what direction you want to go in, passion can be heartbreaking like that. What has worked for me is picking one thing and involving myself somehow in the other thing. I wanted to be a teacher but i also wanted to work work. Now i work work and teach on the side. Your PhD is super important but it will not define what you can or cannot do in future!
You’re so real for posting this Vee❤ I had a mental breakdown moment 2 months ago cause of my masters and everything feeling like too much. But IT GETS BETTER ! You’re amazing, keep pushing and taking care of yourself ✨
definitely sending you love and lots of restful energy!! phd is no joke -- the tough times are certainly tough, and you can do this! thanks for feeling safe enough to talk about this bc it's so real
Hey beautiful ! I haven’t completely watched your video yet but hang in there. I’m a physicist (medical physicist to be exact) and I’ll be starting the last year of my PhD soon. In the beginning, I struggled to find a research lab, it was in the midst of the pandemic, I was on therapy and for the first time ever I lost my passion for physics. It sucked and all of the big things I had to accomplish to get this degree seemed wild and too much . Fast forward to now, I’ve gotten my masters, I found the best mentor in God’s timing and I’ve accomplished some AMAZING things! Met goals that felt unbelievable 🥰 My passion for the field was also restored. Very soon I’ll be a doctor, physicists and research physician working at one of the top #2 hospitals in the nation. I’m rooting for you♥️ Make sure to always make time for YOU. It completely eliminates burnout for me. I picked up so many hobbies along this journey. I don’t work a ton and still get my research done. Mind you I’m doing research in both neurology/radiation oncology and STILL make time to golf, garden etc. Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go by “the plan”. Just pivot and adjust. It’ll get done. What you are experiencing is just part of the growing pains of getting a PhD. I can truly say that for me, my experience has been a 10/10 still
it feels like our academic journeys are connected, it's so cool. i used to watch your essay crisis videos going into highschool and now im starting uni, and you're doing your phd. its genuinely so inspiring !!!
You're allowed to say and feel whatever you feel! Some days you'll be on top of the world, and some days you won't be and that is okay! Please remember to give yourself grace and kindness, and remember to look after yourself throughout this process. Sending all the love and positive vibes, Vee ❤
Hi Vee, thank-you for being so vulnerable it means so much to see that we are all human and don't always have it together. Definitely feeling a similar way to you right now. You've got this girl!
Sending you so so much love Vee!❤ God cannot give you something you cannot handle. You are qualified, you are meant to be where you are supposed to be, and you got this!! You are such an inspiration for many but remember you cannot give from an empty cup. Take some time to rest if you need it and remember that God is always guiding you through it all! He has amazing plans of prosperity for you!!❤️we believe in you so much!!
I love you so much Vee ❤️ I believe in you that you will overcome all this! You're strong! Everything will be fine! We're with you! You got this, Vee! Fighting✊🏼❤
@@drveekativhu I will always root for you, do one thing for us Vee, never ever give up on your PhD! You've come halfway strong and you will get through it all strong, I believe in you! BUT DON'T YOU DARE GIVE UP! It's easy to say, I know~~ but I want you to NEVER GIVE UP! YOU GOT THIS BESTIE! YOU CAN AND YOU WILL! ✊🏼💛
If you find yourself in the position of having to do reading or going to bed then always go to bed. Unless you have a fixed deadline that you must meet or you'll fail the whole PhD then choose rest and sleep over study/preparation. The university will put pressure on you because they're more worried about students doing nothing for long periods of time. They mean well but sometimes they pile on too much stress. No-one wants to see students in tears because they need sleep but have to study. PhDs are a marathon not a sprint.
It's honestly okay Vee, you're human, I've had those days too. The best advice I could give you is to just take things one step at a time, don't think about things too much. It's great that you have your to-do lists, just try to do the next thing that's before you and before you know it, things will be clearer. Sending you lots of love, hugs, and blessings🥰😇
You're doing such an amazing job Vee! It's so easy to feel down sometimes... remember how you felt during your 1st degree and your Masters degree too? (I know they're all completely different) but you came out ON TOP! We're all rooting and praying for you! 🙏🏾
I feel the same right now as a senior Vee, I just don't know how I am going to wrap up everything. But everything will be in its right place, hope everything gets better on your end
Watching this video and completely relating to it so you're definitely not alone. A PhD is no joke but having a good support system is a life saver. I honestly don't know where I would be without God and my family. So, definitely speak to someone because it really helps.
As a PhD candidate at the tail end of my program, you can do it!! It can be challenging at times, but keep your ultimate goal and your “why” in the forefront. You can do it! ❤️ good luck with the rest of the school year / your program. Remember to take care of yourself!
You have every right to tell us you are not doing great and in fact, it's healthy that you are doing so. Please don't feel bad, like many of us, you are experiencing a normal reaction to doing a lot at the same time and that is burn out. Take it easy and take good care of yourself. But please don't give up and also consider therapy to help you navigate through the emotions and shortcomings that you are experiencing. We are always here and rooting for your success.
Awww thank you for the support!! Honestly so overwhelmed by all of the love and comments!! I promise to look after myself. Thank you for rooting for me!!! That means the world to me xxx
Vee, you’re doing something hard and also incredibly special! I have my oral defense coming up and I spent the first two years without a clue what I was doing. I spent some extra time reading dissertations/studies similar to mine (or even just topic searches that peaked my interests.) It helped me hone in on the topics and/or themes that I wanted to build upon. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and take breaks. Give your mind time to “play” in the library. See where it takes you! Best wishes and congratulations on your journey! Proud of you Vee!
Hi Vee. I've followed your videos for a long time. Just want to say what an inspiration you are and you will complete this, blip will soon be in the rear view mirror. I'm a mature, neurodiverent student and a lone parent to two children (one who is also neurodiverse) and at the end of my undergraduate degree. Your motivation has helped me to get through my degree. Thank you so much.
Listen ... I know that feeling... and if you are still pushing girl you are strong 😢... all the best babes and yes you can finish and you will in Jesus name
Vee, you are our source of inspiration. Thanks to you I developed a levelled-up version of myself that I didn't know. Every single day I'm trying to do my best at everything, because I know that Vee Kativhu has made the impossible possible and, in addition to that, she has the guts to be unapologetically herself! Love from Italy Vee. Shine bright and remember what you've done to be there
Sis I believe in you. You can finish the phd dont doubt that!!❤ as for having a breakdown that's completely normal...you're not alone. I broke down like 2 days ago.
I am about to start and I’ve already decided I’m just going to focus on the PhD and not doing another job because the juggling is what’s making it worse
You have inspired me more than you could ever know. I failed at university the first time and felt like giving up entirely, your videos inspired me to persevere. I started again on a different course and I have been getting firsts consistently. I am finally en route to achieving my goals all thanks to your videos inspiring me. I can't begin to imagine how difficult a PhD is, you have absolutely every right to be stressed, YOUR FEELINGS ARE 100% VALID!!! If anyone tries to imply you have no right to feel stressed because you chose to do the PhD please ignore them. Take a little break and focus on your mental health first, that is the most important thing. Wishing you the very best always Vee, I am so proud of you and everything you have achieved. You are an incredible woman 💗💗💗
Awww that is super kind of you!! Thank you, thank youuuu!! I appreciate the love and support. I am close to tears!! I still cannot believe that my videos are helping so many people out there!! So thank you because comments like this motivate me to keep going!! I am proud of you for not giving up. You are incredible too!! 💛💛💛
I always tell my friend who is doing phd that if it does not make you sit down and cry then its not a phd you got this! God will never give you a task without the equipment and tools you need to complete it, it was already in His plans you got this.
Give yourself grace. You can do this. One thing at a time. It always helps me to put on a sad movie scene that always makes me cry so I get the catharsis of a good cry. Then I can take a moment to feel okay about not feeling okay, and it lets me be able to focus on the next task at hand. It also helps me to imagine that I am making the decision to drop out of the class/degree. Sure I would feel relieved right now, but what about later? Whatever you do, we believe in you. You’ve got this.
I love this!! Thank you for sharing, you definitely had me thinking that sometimes feelings can be temporary so it is important take some time out before making decisions that we may potentially regret. I guess it is all about having coping mechanisms in place to help when the off days do happen xx
Let it out baby girl, every thing is gonna be alright. Your tears have just watered all your future plans and they will flourish. You are great and you will do no less 🎉🎉 Give yourself grace❤❤
Hi sweet Vee! You are doing amazingly well!! And all of your feelings are 100% valid! I’m not sure about the timeline of your program, but I’m in year 3 of my doctoral program (in higher education) and I am only just now narrowing down my dissertation topic. I was stressed too but my advisor assured me that I was not behind! The doc program has been really good for me too in that it has helped free me from the perfectionism that has had such a tight grip on me for so long. Sometimes all you can do is your best. Write. Write. Write. Submit and move on. But I know that’s easier said than done. 💗 You are just starting your journey! Hang in there beautiful! Make sure to take it day by day and take plenty of time to rest if you need to.
Thank you for the reminder that it is important for me not to be so hard on myself because I do sometimes fall into that trap! Thank you for sharing your own experience, really helpful! And makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone in how I feel sometimes 💛💛
Matthew 11:28-30 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”❤❤❤
I appreciate your honesty. So many people focus on success and productivity without sharing the reality of stressors, feeling overwhelmed and inadequate which are all real factors when working on our goals. I’m sorry you’re feeling low but as others have commented doing a PhD is not an easy process. Please be gentle be so with yourself. You’re doing your best, just remember to take one day at a time and to be kind to yourself. As someone else commented it’s a marathon not a sprint and we are here to encourage you to keep going. That said please don’t put additional pressure on yourself thinking your audience expects you to be perfect. Far from it I believe we simply want the best for you whatever that is! Hopefully by the time you’re reading this you’re feeling better. Also consider working with a licensed therapist or an academic coach to support you emotionally. Wishing you all the best. x
Honestly the comments section is making me feel so much better and I am glad I shared this video. And I am super lucky to have a great support system around me for when I m feel like this. They also remind me that it is important for me to take some time out whenever I feel stressed and overwhelmed. If I didn't have a support system I would definitely reach out to services around my university because they also offer great support. Thank you for the love 💛💛💛
This seems like such a cathartic vent and it seems you have a lot on your plate. It’s perfectly normal to feel this way on a phd and you of all people really strike me as someone who can push push push. U got this! We’re all here for u!
Vee, your feelings resonate with me when I was in my masters program and now as a third year teacher. I’m sure a PhD is 10x the work load. Breathe, you’re doing incredible. I look up to you and I appreciate sharing your vulnerability with us.
Take it bit by bit, Vee. When it all feels overwhelming, tackle one small task at a time. Don't pressure yourself to be superwoman as these feelings are completely normal during a PhD. Keep it simple. Make sure you sleep, eat, and rest. Keep in contact with people in real life. Stay well and good luck.
I feel you.💕 I am working on my masters in law while working a FT & PT job. When you mentioned all the reading you still had to do, I couldn't keep the tears back. Sending you the bigest hug. We will do it one day at a time. Literally!📚💐
Thank you so much for always being transparent and showing us the hard parts of the journey as well. It's so easy to overglorify certain career paths and you really are doing something so great here! Stay strong❤
You are welcome bestie!! and it is important for me to share my journey with you all although it is not always easy to do so because of how vulnerable I may be feeling in the moment 💛💛💛
Hi Vee, I believe in you, it's ok too feel like this and normal. I'm soon halfway in my phd journey and I understand how you feel. ❤️ You're amazing, and will push through 😊❤
Hello Vee, just start following your amazing journey. Congratulations for someone who just completed their doctoral degree. My heart goes out to you because it is hard at times. Words of affirmation you are courageous, strong and a beautiful soul
Hi Vee, it is typically to go through emotional ups and downs every now and then. Living lonely outside the UK, coupled with the stressful nature of PhD. programs can burn you out. Seek counseling at your university, and all will be well. Stay strong, and best wishes! 💪
Currently doing my Bar course and I can so much relate to all the feelings here. But Nonetheless I cannot wait to go as far as PHD. You inspire me alot and we aren't giving up dear! Hang in there
I felt like this. Hang in there. it's burnout. I felt like i lost all steam. And as if I was missing deadlines that no one set but myself. I retreated for 4 months, did not touch a thing and realised no one checked, no one followed up on me and the pressure was all from myself. and then in the new year I made a new plan and got back on track. My supervisor does two weekly check ins and it could be a walk or coffee or online or in office. That's helped a lot.
Ngl I feel like this for undergraduate studies but that’s because one year of family problems pushed me back two years. I fell into a state where I couldn’t be bothered to be productive at all!
Honestly it sucks when your environment starts to have impact on your studies!! I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope that you are doing better now? Sending you love 💛
Hey girl, I honestly love that you show the rough side of being a student - it's so important! I've been having a busy week and totally get where you're coming from! I know it's hard, but you'll make it through this! 💞💞💞
God placed you there for a reason and He will hold your hand through it - it’s okay to be stressed you’re only human love ❤❤❤❤keep going - take some time also to feel every emotion it helps you deal with things better - I am rooting for you Dr Vee❤❤❤
Hi Vee, you've got this! The journey is difficult because it is where you are meant to be. One day, you will look back at the challenges and be grateful you didn't give up. I don't know what it feels like to be in your shoes, but you've got this! You are human so tiredness is often a part of the journey so don't be too hard on yourself. Lots of love from South Africa.🥰💫🙏
We love YOUUU VEE you have the right to feeling the way you do , you are human and you worked sooooooooooooo hard your all life and we are aware of it , honestly your reaction in this video is more how a human being react then what you usualy do, which reassure me 😂cause YOU ARE ALWAYS PERFECT even to perfect , it just put a tool on your mental health you want to make us proud and your family and yourself ❤❤❤ but remember we love you for who you are if tomorow you wake up and want to quit we will follow you ❤❤❤❤ YOU ACCOMPLISHED SOOO MUCH AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE DON'T WORRY
Thank you so much for the encouragement!! And to be honest, I am not perfect and I guess you all don't always see the reality of what goes on in my everyday life as I do not always capture it to post online. I promise you I am just like any other student, I have my good days and bad days too. I usually lean on my friends and family for support so they are always aware of the full picture. I will try my best to capture more moments like this video. Sending you love 💛💛💛💛
As someone who graduated with a PhD the overwhelm is normal. In the UK we call it the second year blues but in reality it happens from 0.5-2 years. Have some you time, you got this.
PhD is so much harder than a full time job because you completely own every project and you have no other team member to rely on as everyone is struggling under the weight of their own project. There is just so much uncertainty and work. You are allowed to feel this overwhelmed. Order some nice food. Get through tomorrow's class then take the afternoon off and get back to it in the evening. You've got this!
Awwww thank you!!! That’s really really kind of you to say!
@@drveekativhu Seriously a PhD is on another level of being lonely. You are in the USA I take it, so you have that taught element?
Nah. Nope
You are probably burned out. You start to lose interest in what you love. At this point, you need a break, and that is okay. Use your break time to fully connect with your support system (family, friends, and God). Make sure you believe and trust that everything will be alright. I have been there before, so do not feel you are the problem. The process is very difficult. You got this girl. You are truly inspiring many. And I appreciate the fact that you shared the challenging part. So people do not think it is all roses.
This is really great advice !!! I appreciate it! And I see what you’re saying. Slowly but surely we will get there! 💛
Vee this is a common way to feel when doing a PhD! It is a marathon, not a sprint. It's also fine not to be 100% sure about your dissertation topic. I will be graduating in May after doing a PhD for 6 years and I still have no idea if my dissertation topic makes sense or is important to anyone else. My favorite piece of PhD advice is "the BEST dissertation is a COMPLETED dissertation". Your main job at this stage is to get broad knowledge of the different research areas in your field and get training in research methodology. Please don't feel like your dissertation topic will define your entire future. You need to finish A dissertation, to get your PhD. Other things, like publishing articles and the network you make during your PhD, have a much bigger impact on what your post-PhD future will be. I think your resume as it stands has already set you up for mega success, but if you haven't yet, join the Comparative and International Education Society and attend their annual conference and network with their special interest groups. Be gentle with yourself. It will take longer than you think, but you can do it if this is what you decide you want to do.
Well said. Figuring out a dissertation topic is not a swing to hit Goliath. It takes time and patience till everything unravels.
do you have classes lectures while doing a phd like with a degree? i thought it was all just independent work
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere. There are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research, which is stressful and tricky, but not impossible. Your methodology and data collection will also determine how long your PhD will take. If you are spending a year in the field doing an ethnography (which is common in my program) then it will take 5-6+ years. If you are working with data that someone else collected and just doing a new kind of analysis, then this would be a much shorter project and the PhD can be done in 3-4 years. I transferred as many credits as I could from my UK Masters to cover the class requirements in my PhD, but with the pandemic and schools being closed it still took 6 years. Without the pandemic I might have been able to complete my degree in 5 years.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere, there are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research which is stressful and tricky but not impossible.
@@maneskinnnnn7190 Every program or university is different. There are also differences by country. My PhD is in linguistics and I did it in the US, but my masters degree was done in one year in the UK. The first two years of my US PhD were for classes. After this you take a comprehensive exam, then you have an oral proposal hearing for your independent research project. Once your proposal is approved, then you start fieldwork for your independent research project. PhD programs in the US tend to be longer than elsewhere, there are pros and cons to this I think. Pros: More time to work on getting papers published. Cons: If you have no funding or your funding ends after 4 years, you will have to work and do research/write up the research which is stressful and tricky but not impossible.
VEE, you SLAYED oxford and harvard!!! Girl, C'MON!!!!
Awww, thank you!!! 💛💛💛
As a 2nd year Ph.D. student, I firmly believe that the first year of any Ph.D. program is just universally awful. Regardless of discipline, professional experience, or even coming in with a master's degree. The first year just sucks and involves a lot of crying. I almost quit multiple times my first year lol. But you are worthy and capable, and you WILL make it through this year. We all believe in you
I hate that it’s just the norm of the first year. But I also totally understand why! This is the world of PhD ! But awww thank you for the sweeeeeeetttest words ever!
Hello! Same experience here. First year was AWFUL! So depressing, so lonely, so overwhelming. It took me a year to understand how my brain works, what I found stimulating, create tangible small goals and have a life outside of my PhD. The second year was sooo much better. Hang in there, you got this! Personally, as someone who enjoys team work and practical stuff, I found freelance work really helped me during the first year: social connection, easily achievable goals (hence a sense of accomplishment). Best of luck!
The year before your submission year is the worst. The first is pretty bad in terms of feeling lost or overwhelmed because you worrry you might not be good enough. But everyone keeps reminding you that this is normal and everyone feels this. In the penultimate year you start feeling it all over again but this time others start agreeing with you. Your university doesn't want you to submit and fail, if you're having serious doubts they will encourage you to drop out or prove you're up to it. The reality is that if you've made it to the penultimate year you can do it. It's the same as 1st year anxiety but people are less nice about it.
How much do you make with your field from a PH.D I am interested
This makes me feel a lot better, I’m a first year and I hate it here
If you don’t see it, we will make you see it. Don’t let that one paper destroy all the things you have done so far.
Hmm, I am about to resubmit a rejected paper😢
@@salomeyaddo6427good luck I’m sure it’ll go great 😊
Awwwwww this is KIND!!!!!!! Thank youuuuu
You’re amazing and you can do anything even if it’s hard. If you don’t want to do something, it’s fine, but if you want to, you’re more than good enough.
Thank you so much 💛💛💛
Hello Vee! What you're feeling truly resonated with me! I got my PhD in 2022 and, in retrospective, feeling lost/inadequate is 100% part of the process, especially during your first year! You're only 6 months in, the best advice I would give is to EMBRACE these feelings, the uncertainty. The vast majority of 1st year PhD students are lost (in my experience, from asking around 😊). Take it one step at a time!
Came here to say just this. Got my PhD in 2019. Imposter syndrome is 100% a real thing.
Thank you for sharing such good advice! I truly appreciate it 💛💛💛
@@blessedforfavour It really is!!!
Watching this while panic doing my dishes and cleaning my house at midnight on a Sunday… I’m in my third year of my PhD and these overwhelmed moments happen, and sometimes they happen a lot! But you need to allow yourself to feel it and just pick yourself up the next day and keep going - it’s a marathon NOT a sprint. Sending love and support
"it’s a marathon NOT a sprint" .. YOU DID NOT TELL A LIE!! Thank you for the support bestie!!💛💛💛
Props for showing your vulnerability. Its ok to vent.
Perhaps this is the cartharsis you need. Hopefully things will get better.🙏
Thank you bestie!! And I am feeling a better now 💛💛💛
@veekativhu_ No worries, sis👍
I'm glad you're better! 🫶💛
Thank you for showing this side of you. Praying you receive the grace to finish your PHD. You will be fine.
Your videos always motivate me when I am burnt out from my college! You can do this! Sending lovee❤
Awww I am glad to hear that!! Keep going and thank you!! 💛💛💛
Lol i just love how the tidy up method is exactly what i do to regain my circle of control when the academics are not doing the things!!
I’m in the second year of my PhD, and everything you said in this video resonates with me. I’m also going through an ebb with my program. There’s a great deal of uncertainty and unknowingness in researching a PhD dissertation. It’s a lot of responsibility and pressure to push the boundaries of human knowledge. That easily leads to feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome. All this being said, remember that you’re capable of this work, and that’s why you’re here. This is the toughest rodeo I’ve ever been in too. You’re absolutely not alone - you have an academic family in the comments who understand, relate to, and empathize with you. :)
I am glad to know that I am not alone in how I am feeling!! and thank you for the reminders!! Same to you too, keep going!! You are in your second year already!! You will be done before you know it. Rooting for you :) xx
Similar to you, I am a undergrad student at Cambridge uni and the up-down feeling resonates with me so much. Feeling like drowning, and a paper that didnt so well, and ending up feeling lost. Questioning oneself. Doubt. Hopelessness. Tiredness. I am approaching my first year finals and I just feel that theres just so much unknown. I just want to let you know that your video spoke to me so much.
Awww bestie, I am sorry to hear that you are feeling the same too because it is not a nice feeling!! The comments section are an indication that we are not alone. Having good support systems in place is key during this journey, so I hope you have that. Thank you for the love 💛
You can do it, sis. Just keep moving forward. At one point in my doctoral journey I asked myself if it was okay to quit. I was a full time executive opening a brand new hospital, I was going through a divorce and I was a full time student. 40% of my hair fell out. I had an ulcer. My hand would tremor randomly throughout the day. I legitimately thought about quitting because it was too much. And I nearly did, until I asked myself if I thought I would regret it a year later. I knew I would, so I just kept going one day at a time. Over a decade later, I’m so grateful that I did. Be gentle with yourself. You’re stronger than you feel. ❤
You are going to be able to finish it babe. God is with you. Honestly I pray you receive strength to carry on. You are amazing and more than capable.
Amen to this, I receive this prayer!!! 💛💛💛💛
I am so so glad you are doing this video. I am also seven months into my PhD program and I have been feeling overwhelmed the past two and a half months. Doing a PhD is just A LOT! The stress, the feedback, the million things to do, the readings, presentations, it's crazy. However, I am grateful that I have received so much support from my advisors and other students in my department who not only validate me but also motivate me to keep going. Keep going ! You are one of the people who motivated me to go to grad school when I was doing my applications in Kenya and now I am here ! It is difficult. One of the hardest things to do but I truly believe that YOU CAN DO IT VEE ! Prioritize your wellbeing and then keep going!
It is such a shame that majority of us PhD students are going through this awful feeling!! I am happy that you have good support systems in place. Amen to that, we will keep going!! There is no giving up around here. And wow I am glad to hear that I contributed to your journey 💛
Thank you for being vulnerable and showing this side of your lifestyle/education. Girl, you've already done enough. As a student nurse who works full-time hours, I know a thing or two about burnout. Take a break, you deserve it mentally and physically - sending love and light x
Thank you bestie!! and sending you love too!! I hope your studies are going well 💛
Oh Vee, I'm sorry to hear this. I just wanted to say how fascinated I am by what you do. You just never fail to impress anyone! I'm so proud of you and remember life is full of highs but also lows. Sometimes it's easy to forget that (trust me it takes a half marathon to remind myself that). It's all worth it in the end. You're such an inspiration. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade (no matter how low life may feel at the moment). You can do this, Vee! ❤
Awwww thank you so much for the support!! and it looks like I am making lemonade because I will not be giving up!! Thank you for the love!! 💛💛
I also started a PhD in another country exactly 6 months ago, and man has it been hard! I also felt super overwhelmed and inadequate the last week. I guess it’s a part of the process but very difficult to handle. So you’re not alone! I don’t have any tips or anything as I’m still going through it, but my plan is to work much harder on being kinder to myself, but that’s gonna be a whole process onto its own. I do have to say, it’s reassuring to see you feel this way too, as you normally seem to have it under control!
I did my PhD in another country. Got it in 2019. Here to tell you you're doing great. Always remember that you are worth it it may not feel like it now but you've got this. You're entitled to feel this way at the start of your journey, just know it doesn't last. Please find a supportive group of friends and preferably people that are a bit ahead of you in the journey it helps to hear from others that have been through it so you don't feel as alone, especially when you're away from home, family and friends. You've got this ❤
We are totally in the same boat and you made some really good points here!! It is a journey and you have to take each day as it comes. The comments section is great! it has shown me that we are not alone, a lot of us feel like this. Good luck with your studies!! I hope it goes well xx
Definitely feeling it, and thank you so much for sharing this literally. I am in my last semester of my Master’s Degree and I felt so deeply in part you say ‘I can’t even go to bed cause I have things to do ‘ . I am so sorry you feel like this really, but I know that we will finish these degrees!! 🌸🌸 and if you would like to take a break it’s okay too!! It does not define you , will never define you , I am glad you exist as a human being, and that simply enough. Just existing , take care Vee ❤
Thank you!! and I promise to prioritise taking some time out when needed. Thank you for the words of encouragement, I appreciate it 💛💛💛
I’m 6 years into a PhD and still don’t know how I even got here. I completely shutdown during the pandemic years, and I’m only now pulling myself out of that state.
That mini-ramble to say, the emotional roller coaster is real. My initial department director always said to the grads, “you’ve never written a dissertation/thesis, why would I expect you to know how to do it perfectly your first time?” Her reminders really helped me when the imposter syndrome would hit.
One step at a time and one day at a time!
Thank you for your vulnerability! You are totally capable of all that you wish to have. Also, the fact that you mentioned your period is coming soon, girl the hormones are real!! And that made me feel more valid too when mine is coming up so thank you for sharing. Wishing you well! And you got this 🫶🏼
Honestly the period coming just makes me extra sensitive haha. Thank you for the support
You are so incredibly brave to put this out here and make others feel validated. You got this! ❤
Thank you!!
Update: She is receiving an HONORARY DOCTORATE ❤🎉
I'm in the middle of my second PhD year and what you're describing is pretty normal for pretty much everyone doing a PhD. A PhD is not a bachelor's degree, not even a master's degree, it's something very very different and very different type of work. Take time off, your brain NEEDS breaks to function and don't beat yourself up too much. Cry, eat some comfort food, sleep a full night and then everything will look so much brighter. But also, because I feel it is important to say especially to high achieving people: it's also okay if you truly truly truly don't want to finish the PhD, then it's totally okay. You don't have to do it just to prove you can do it. If it doesn't bring you joy, don't force it. All the best ❤
Thank you for the reassurance, in my heart I know that deep down I really want to do this and I know I can but I do have days when I am just overwhelmed. It has made me feel better reading through all of the comments and finding that it is normal to feel how I feel right now. I will be having a much needed reset for sure 💛💛💛
Vee this is how I feel too .. stay strong girl, you’re loved ❣️
Thank you bestie!! 💛
You are so valid for this and we're all glad you have a place to talk about these things
Thank you!! 💛💛💛
I get burned out at times but i try to remember…yesterday is gone, tomorrow doesn’t even exist and all we really have to focus on is today. Just try to stay focused on today whenever you feel overwhelmed. ❤❤
You did not tell a lie!!! Love this, thank you xxx
This sounds like me the past few months, just about to finish my BA (HONS) degree which I know is a few levels below PHD but the burn out is the same. It's really important to take care of your self and rest and do things that bring you joy. I've found it very difficult to push on due to burn out. A 7 hour class when you're feeling like that must have just been so, so hard. I probably would have walked out. Take care of yourself please, so many of my class are in the midst of burn out because of so many things that have happened. It's vital and important to ensure your physiological needs are met to continue with studies. Sending love and hugs your way!!
Hey bestie!! You are right, I need to prioritise self care more. I guess this is a journey and I am learning as I go along. Thank you for the support 💛💛💛
Vee, I’ll tell you this as we all care for you so much - you are 100% in burnout. Please for the sake of your health, rest WITHOUT the guilt ❤ your body is trying desperately to tell you this (as someone with a chronic health condition and regular burnouts, this is exactly what they look like, to the letter - we can be doing amazing, but everything feels too much and everything becomes so much harder and our body is just run down) - please take a few days to rest, don’t do what I used to do and push through, it’ll only hit you worse in a few days if you try ❤ you got this!! P.s. yes the guilt is hard to ignore but put you first ❤
Thank you for the reminder, sometimes I think it is important to be reminded that its okay to take some time out without feeling guilty because burn out really is real!! Thank you for sharing 💛💛💛
Getting my period too and I just feel like crying, clothes all over, everything just feels like it's crumbling. If you have PMS I suggest planning things around it😅 make sure i have saved money for a nice meal, rent a favourite movie etc. PhD wise it's okay to not know what direction you want to go in, passion can be heartbreaking like that. What has worked for me is picking one thing and involving myself somehow in the other thing. I wanted to be a teacher but i also wanted to work work. Now i work work and teach on the side. Your PhD is super important but it will not define what you can or cannot do in future!
i’m at 2nd yr PhD student so i knowww this is about to hit home 😭😩
You’re so real for posting this Vee❤ I had a mental breakdown moment 2 months ago cause of my masters and everything feeling like too much. But IT GETS BETTER ! You’re amazing, keep pushing and taking care of yourself ✨
Oh no!! I hope that you are doing better now? And thank youuu!!!! 💛💛💛💛
definitely sending you love and lots of restful energy!! phd is no joke -- the tough times are certainly tough, and you can do this! thanks for feeling safe enough to talk about this bc it's so real
Hey beautiful ! I haven’t completely watched your video yet but hang in there. I’m a physicist (medical physicist to be exact) and I’ll be starting the last year of my PhD soon. In the beginning, I struggled to find a research lab, it was in the midst of the pandemic, I was on therapy and for the first time ever I lost my passion for physics. It sucked and all of the big things I had to accomplish to get this degree seemed wild and too much . Fast forward to now, I’ve gotten my masters, I found the best mentor in God’s timing and I’ve accomplished some AMAZING things! Met goals that felt unbelievable 🥰 My passion for the field was also restored. Very soon I’ll be a doctor, physicists and research physician working at one of the top #2 hospitals in the nation. I’m rooting for you♥️
Make sure to always make time for YOU. It completely eliminates burnout for me. I picked up so many hobbies along this journey. I don’t work a ton and still get my research done. Mind you I’m doing research in both neurology/radiation oncology and STILL make time to golf, garden etc. Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go by “the plan”. Just pivot and adjust. It’ll get done. What you are experiencing is just part of the growing pains of getting a PhD. I can truly say that for me, my experience has been a 10/10 still
it feels like our academic journeys are connected, it's so cool. i used to watch your essay crisis videos going into highschool and now im starting uni, and you're doing your phd. its genuinely so inspiring !!!
You're allowed to say and feel whatever you feel! Some days you'll be on top of the world, and some days you won't be and that is okay! Please remember to give yourself grace and kindness, and remember to look after yourself throughout this process. Sending all the love and positive vibes, Vee ❤
Amen to this!! Thank you for leaving a comment 💛💛💛
It's going to be okay honey❤God is with you all the time. Love and light.
Thank you!! 💛
Hi Vee, thank-you for being so vulnerable it means so much to see that we are all human and don't always have it together.
Definitely feeling a similar way to you right now.
You've got this girl!
Yes 100% I have my off days too!! and it we should all normalise that being a student is journey that is full of ups and downs 💛
You are welcome bestie!! I love being transparent with you all and I am glad that it helps xx
Sending you so so much love Vee!❤ God cannot give you something you cannot handle. You are qualified, you are meant to be where you are supposed to be, and you got this!! You are such an inspiration for many but remember you cannot give from an empty cup. Take some time to rest if you need it and remember that God is always guiding you through it all! He has amazing plans of prosperity for you!!❤️we believe in you so much!!
Thank you so much!! And I totally agree with you, I need a reset because I cannot pour from an empty cup 💛💛💛
I love you so much Vee ❤️ I believe in you that you will overcome all this! You're strong! Everything will be fine! We're with you! You got this, Vee! Fighting✊🏼❤
Awww love you too bestie and thank you for rooting for me!! 💛💛💛💛
@@drveekativhu I will always root for you, do one thing for us Vee, never ever give up on your PhD! You've come halfway strong and you will get through it all strong, I believe in you! BUT DON'T YOU DARE GIVE UP! It's easy to say, I know~~ but I want you to NEVER GIVE UP! YOU GOT THIS BESTIE! YOU CAN AND YOU WILL! ✊🏼💛
@@kgdskb awwww thats so sweet of you!!! Thank you for sticking around bestie 💛💛💛💛
@@drveekativhu Always, Vee! You're very welcome! 💛💛💛
If you find yourself in the position of having to do reading or going to bed then always go to bed. Unless you have a fixed deadline that you must meet or you'll fail the whole PhD then choose rest and sleep over study/preparation. The university will put pressure on you because they're more worried about students doing nothing for long periods of time. They mean well but sometimes they pile on too much stress. No-one wants to see students in tears because they need sleep but have to study. PhDs are a marathon not a sprint.
It's honestly okay Vee, you're human, I've had those days too. The best advice I could give you is to just take things one step at a time, don't think about things too much. It's great that you have your to-do lists, just try to do the next thing that's before you and before you know it, things will be clearer. Sending you lots of love, hugs, and blessings🥰😇
Thank you so much!!! xxx
You're doing such an amazing job Vee! It's so easy to feel down sometimes... remember how you felt during your 1st degree and your Masters degree too? (I know they're all completely different) but you came out ON TOP! We're all rooting and praying for you! 🙏🏾
Awww thank you for the reminder and you are absolutely right!!!
I feel the same right now as a senior Vee, I just don't know how I am going to wrap up everything. But everything will be in its right place, hope everything gets better on your end
Watching this video and completely relating to it so you're definitely not alone. A PhD is no joke but having a good support system is a life saver. I honestly don't know where I would be without God and my family. So, definitely speak to someone because it really helps.
As a 3rd year PhD student, know that you’re not alone! Your feelings are valid. It is the hardest thing but you will make it through! ❤
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As a PhD candidate at the tail end of my program, you can do it!! It can be challenging at times, but keep your ultimate goal and your “why” in the forefront. You can do it! ❤️ good luck with the rest of the school year / your program. Remember to take care of yourself!
Thank you!! And yes yes, I will remind myself to prioritise self care always!! 💛💛💛
Not me started crying because I said the same to myself like it so hard 😭 like I can’t do it but I’m so grateful for all the opportunities.🤦🏾♀️
Glad someone can relate!! I say this for the both of us when I say although it isn't easy, we've got this!! 💛💛💛
You have every right to tell us you are not doing great and in fact, it's healthy that you are doing so. Please don't feel bad, like many of us, you are experiencing a normal reaction to doing a lot at the same time and that is burn out. Take it easy and take good care of yourself. But please don't give up and also consider therapy to help you navigate through the emotions and shortcomings that you are experiencing. We are always here and rooting for your success.
Awww thank you for the support!! Honestly so overwhelmed by all of the love and comments!! I promise to look after myself. Thank you for rooting for me!!! That means the world to me xxx
It's a human thing, we get overwhelmed
NEVER GIVE UP VEE!!!!!!!
I won't I promise 💛💛
@@drveekativhu YESSS!!!! ✊🏼💛
Vee, you’re doing something hard and also incredibly special! I have my oral defense coming up and I spent the first two years without a clue what I was doing. I spent some extra time reading dissertations/studies similar to mine (or even just topic searches that peaked my interests.) It helped me hone in on the topics and/or themes that I wanted to build upon. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and take breaks. Give your mind time to “play” in the library. See where it takes you! Best wishes and congratulations on your journey! Proud of you Vee!
Thank you for the reminder!! I appreciate it. And hahha I like that!! play time in the library that is defo a bit of me!! 💛💛💛
Hi Vee. I've followed your videos for a long time. Just want to say what an inspiration you are and you will complete this, blip will soon be in the rear view mirror. I'm a mature, neurodiverent student and a lone parent to two children (one who is also neurodiverse) and at the end of my undergraduate degree. Your motivation has helped me to get through my degree. Thank you so much.
Awww this made my day!! I am happy to hear that I have contributed to your journey!! I am rooting for you and thank you for supporting me 💛💛💛
Listen ... I know that feeling... and if you are still pushing girl you are strong 😢... all the best babes and yes you can finish and you will in Jesus name
Thank you so much!! 💛💛💛
Stay strong Vee. You can succeed in this
Vee, you are our source of inspiration. Thanks to you I developed a levelled-up version of myself that I didn't know. Every single day I'm trying to do my best at everything, because I know that Vee Kativhu has made the impossible possible and, in addition to that, she has the guts to be unapologetically herself! Love from Italy Vee. Shine bright and remember what you've done to be there
Awwwww!!! This is super sweet!! Thank you for your kind words and encouragement!! Sending you love!!! 💛
Sis I believe in you. You can finish the phd dont doubt that!!❤ as for having a breakdown that's completely normal...you're not alone. I broke down like 2 days ago.
Thank you!!! 💛💛💛💛💛
you can definitely do this, we all believe in you!!!
Awwww that's so sweet!! thank you 💛💛💛
I often feel like this but about every day regular things and I admire you for all you have achieved in your young life and I am rooting for you! 🎉❤
Awwww thank you so much for the love and support!! 💛💛💛
I am about to start and I’ve already decided I’m just going to focus on the PhD and not doing another job because the juggling is what’s making it worse
You might be onto something here!! I totally agree, the less distractions the better. And good luck with your PhD x
You have inspired me more than you could ever know. I failed at university the first time and felt like giving up entirely, your videos inspired me to persevere. I started again on a different course and I have been getting firsts consistently. I am finally en route to achieving my goals all thanks to your videos inspiring me. I can't begin to imagine how difficult a PhD is, you have absolutely every right to be stressed, YOUR FEELINGS ARE 100% VALID!!! If anyone tries to imply you have no right to feel stressed because you chose to do the PhD please ignore them. Take a little break and focus on your mental health first, that is the most important thing. Wishing you the very best always Vee, I am so proud of you and everything you have achieved. You are an incredible woman 💗💗💗
Awww that is super kind of you!! Thank you, thank youuuu!! I appreciate the love and support. I am close to tears!! I still cannot believe that my videos are helping so many people out there!! So thank you because comments like this motivate me to keep going!! I am proud of you for not giving up. You are incredible too!! 💛💛💛
Girl. You gonna be okay! You gonna be Great!!
Thank you girl!! 💛💛💛
You've got this!!
I hope you can get some time off!
We rooting for you girl 💪
Thank you!! and yess I am definitely going to take some time out xx
I always tell my friend who is doing phd that if it does not make you sit down and cry then its not a phd you got this! God will never give you a task without the equipment and tools you need to complete it, it was already in His plans you got this.
Give yourself grace. You can do this. One thing at a time. It always helps me to put on a sad movie scene that always makes me cry so I get the catharsis of a good cry. Then I can take a moment to feel okay about not feeling okay, and it lets me be able to focus on the next task at hand.
It also helps me to imagine that I am making the decision to drop out of the class/degree. Sure I would feel relieved right now, but what about later?
Whatever you do, we believe in you. You’ve got this.
I love this!! Thank you for sharing, you definitely had me thinking that sometimes feelings can be temporary so it is important take some time out before making decisions that we may potentially regret. I guess it is all about having coping mechanisms in place to help when the off days do happen xx
girl you can do it! we believe in you no matter what
Thank you girl!! 💛💛💛
Let it out baby girl, every thing is gonna be alright. Your tears have just watered all your future plans and they will flourish. You are great and you will do no less 🎉🎉 Give yourself grace❤❤
Thank you so much!! 💛💛💛
Hi sweet Vee! You are doing amazingly well!! And all of your feelings are 100% valid! I’m not sure about the timeline of your program, but I’m in year 3 of my doctoral program (in higher education) and I am only just now narrowing down my dissertation topic. I was stressed too but my advisor assured me that I was not behind!
The doc program has been really good for me too in that it has helped free me from the perfectionism that has had such a tight grip on me for so long. Sometimes all you can do is your best. Write. Write. Write. Submit and move on. But I know that’s easier said than done. 💗
You are just starting your journey! Hang in there beautiful! Make sure to take it day by day and take plenty of time to rest if you need to.
Thank you for the reminder that it is important for me not to be so hard on myself because I do sometimes fall into that trap! Thank you for sharing your own experience, really helpful! And makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone in how I feel sometimes 💛💛
Matthew 11:28-30
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”❤❤❤
Love this!! Thank you!! 💛💛💛
God will see you through Vee. You are not alone. God is your every present help in time of need. He is El Roi, the God who sees you 🫂
Im sorry baby. Will keep you in prayers.
i feel you.
Thank youuu!! 💛💛💛💛
I appreciate your honesty. So many people focus on success and productivity without sharing the reality of stressors, feeling overwhelmed and inadequate which are all real factors when working on our goals.
I’m sorry you’re feeling low but as others have commented doing a PhD is not an easy process. Please be gentle be so with yourself. You’re doing your best, just remember to take one day at a time and to be kind to yourself. As someone else commented it’s a marathon not a sprint and we are here to encourage you to keep going. That said please don’t put additional pressure on yourself thinking your audience expects you to be perfect. Far from it I believe we simply want the best for you whatever that is! Hopefully by the time you’re reading this you’re feeling better. Also consider working with a licensed therapist or an academic coach to support you emotionally. Wishing you all the best. x
Honestly the comments section is making me feel so much better and I am glad I shared this video. And I am super lucky to have a great support system around me for when I m feel like this. They also remind me that it is important for me to take some time out whenever I feel stressed and overwhelmed. If I didn't have a support system I would definitely reach out to services around my university because they also offer great support. Thank you for the love 💛💛💛
10:11 You are not alone Vee! ❤
thank youuu!!! 💛💛💛
This seems like such a cathartic vent and it seems you have a lot on your plate. It’s perfectly normal to feel this way on a phd and you of all people really strike me as someone who can push push push. U got this! We’re all here for u!
Vee, your feelings resonate with me when I was in my masters program and now as a third year teacher. I’m sure a PhD is 10x the work load. Breathe, you’re doing incredible. I look up to you and I appreciate sharing your vulnerability with us.
Take it bit by bit, Vee. When it all feels overwhelming, tackle one small task at a time. Don't pressure yourself to be superwoman as these feelings are completely normal during a PhD. Keep it simple. Make sure you sleep, eat, and rest. Keep in contact with people in real life. Stay well and good luck.
I feel you.💕 I am working on my masters in law while working a FT & PT job. When you mentioned all the reading you still had to do, I couldn't keep the tears back. Sending you the bigest hug. We will do it one day at a time. Literally!📚💐
Vee, He (God) has not brought you this far to leave you! Be strong!
Amen!! I truly believe this and I know that God won't fail me xx
Thank you so much for always being transparent and showing us the hard parts of the journey as well. It's so easy to overglorify certain career paths and you really are doing something so great here! Stay strong❤
You are welcome bestie!! and it is important for me to share my journey with you all although it is not always easy to do so because of how vulnerable I may be feeling in the moment 💛💛💛
don't let your emotions overtake you. A break is ideally the medicine to everything. You are more than capable!!!!
Self-care first!! You are totally right, thank you 💛💛💛
Hi Vee, I believe in you, it's ok too feel like this and normal. I'm soon halfway in my phd journey and I understand how you feel. ❤️ You're amazing, and will push through 😊❤
I am not alone .. thank you for the encouragement!! I am rooting for us 💛💛💛
Hello Vee, just start following your amazing journey. Congratulations for someone who just completed their doctoral degree. My heart goes out to you because it is hard at times. Words of affirmation you are courageous, strong and a beautiful soul
Hi Vee, it is typically to go through emotional ups and downs every now and then. Living lonely outside the UK, coupled with the stressful nature of PhD. programs can burn you out. Seek counseling at your university, and all will be well. Stay strong, and best wishes! 💪
Awww vee sending you lots of hugs 🫂 . This video will prepare all of us desiring to pursue a PhD 😩
Thank you!! and I hope so!! 💛💛💛💛
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Your honesty and processing of what you need to do. Take care. God bless.
You are welcome, happy that I am sharing my journey 💛💛💛💛💛
Keep pushing .❤🇿🇼
You got this girl!
Thank you so much 💛💛💛
Currently doing my Bar course and I can so much relate to all the feelings here. But Nonetheless I cannot wait to go as far as PHD. You inspire me alot and we aren't giving up dear! Hang in there
Awww this is so cute!! thank you!! I am rooting for us, we can't give up 💛💛💛
I felt like this. Hang in there. it's burnout. I felt like i lost all steam. And as if I was missing deadlines that no one set but myself. I retreated for 4 months, did not touch a thing and realised no one checked, no one followed up on me and the pressure was all from myself. and then in the new year I made a new plan and got back on track. My supervisor does two weekly check ins and it could be a walk or coffee or online or in office. That's helped a lot.
Ngl I feel like this for undergraduate studies but that’s because one year of family problems pushed me back two years.
I fell into a state where I couldn’t be bothered to be productive at all!
Honestly it sucks when your environment starts to have impact on your studies!! I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope that you are doing better now? Sending you love 💛
Hey girl, I honestly love that you show the rough side of being a student - it's so important! I've been having a busy week and totally get where you're coming from! I know it's hard, but you'll make it through this! 💞💞💞
Thank you!!! xxx
You got this agemate🕯️🕯️
Just keep pushing..Incase you didn't know, you keep me going❤️
Awwww thank you!! I am rooting for you too bestie 💛
God placed you there for a reason and He will hold your hand through it - it’s okay to be stressed you’re only human love ❤❤❤❤keep going - take some time also to feel every emotion it helps you deal with things better - I am rooting for you Dr Vee❤❤❤
Awwww thank you so much!!! Thank you for the love and support 💛💛💛
Sending you love vee. God's gat you!
Hi Vee, you've got this! The journey is difficult because it is where you are meant to be. One day, you will look back at the challenges and be grateful you didn't give up. I don't know what it feels like to be in your shoes, but you've got this! You are human so tiredness is often a part of the journey so don't be too hard on yourself. Lots of love from South Africa.🥰💫🙏
Awww thank you so much!! I appreciate you!!! 💛💛💛💛💛
You got this Vee ❤. You are doing great, we all have down days, it’s okay.
Thank you so much!! 💛💛💛
Everything will be ok, Vee. You got this. ❤
Thank you so much 💛💛💛
We love YOUUU VEE you have the right to feeling the way you do , you are human and you worked sooooooooooooo hard your all life and we are aware of it , honestly your reaction in this video is more how a human being react then what you usualy do, which reassure me 😂cause YOU ARE ALWAYS PERFECT even to perfect , it just put a tool on your mental health you want to make us proud and your family and yourself ❤❤❤ but remember we love you for who you are if tomorow you wake up and want to quit we will follow you ❤❤❤❤ YOU ACCOMPLISHED SOOO MUCH AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE DON'T WORRY
Thank you so much for the encouragement!! And to be honest, I am not perfect and I guess you all don't always see the reality of what goes on in my everyday life as I do not always capture it to post online. I promise you I am just like any other student, I have my good days and bad days too. I usually lean on my friends and family for support so they are always aware of the full picture. I will try my best to capture more moments like this video. Sending you love 💛💛💛💛
As someone who graduated with a PhD the overwhelm is normal. In the UK we call it the second year blues but in reality it happens from 0.5-2 years. Have some you time, you got this.
Thank you for the reassurance, it makes me feel like how I was feeling is completely normal 💛💛