I'm not afraid of getting old. It's just my body is not keeping up with the things I normally do. Weird that but I am recognizing certain limitations now and not pushing the envelope. Thank-you for your talk. It's good to know these things and accept them as natural as the sun sets and rises. ✌
Elder gent here.As I get older I could care less about looks or romance .I accept being alone but alone in a diaper being abused by nursing home staff,that is the nightmare scenario.
What a privilege to grow old. My son passed at 24. My husband passed at 73. I am 72 now. I am healthy, fit, spend my time with good friends and travel a lot and have hobbies. Writing a book, a travel book as I travel. Loving my life after raising a large family. I take my nutrition as sacracent
I am so stinking happy that I am 70 years old. As for my looks, I stay clean and my clothes are in good repair, I don't wear makeup anymore and I love my crown of gray hair. I love life and thank God for it everyday.
Today is my birthday. I can remember when we were young my friend and I saying to each other I'm bored what do you want to do? I don't know what do you want to do?..... Around this time last year he suddenly passed away. Since then I've been more aware of my own mortality. Watching this video was a birthday gift to me. "you gotta laugh about it or else you're going to cry".
Tengo 60 y uso rímel y pintalabios, sin embargo no me tiño, me gusta el pelo blanco. No pretendo parecer más joven pero no quiero perder mi gusto por arreglarme.
I too am am an introvert and love living alone, what worries me though is who will look after any pets who might outlive me, and because I don't see friends for months at a time, would people even notice if I dropped dead in my home? I've decided that as I get older I will foster for an animal charity or do volunteer catsitting/dogwalking instead of having my own. This will have the advantage of letting others pay for pet food/bills, not tying me down and at the same time it will keep me in touch with like-minded people/charities who would notice if anything happened to me. This way I would still give time and love to animals but also have time and a little bit more money to do what I want, e.g. travelling, going out.
In some states they have senior call check where you get an automated call each day. If you don't answer after a certain number of calls they notify your designated contact person. I also love the idea of fostering.
good ideas, I'm in your same boat. Currently I have a 10 year Chi mix who I adore. He had a companion my Springer Spaniel but she passed 8 months ago. I had seriously considered getting a 10 month old adorable chihuahua pup someone had to be his new companion. But I am 65 and that pup could live 20 and out live me,or have to be put boarding should I have to have surgery or stay in a rehab center for weeks if I broke a hip etc. I've considered an older dog but then there is a likelihood of expensive Vet bills. So maybe I will foster....
Been there, done that. Mom was 93 when she passed and the last few years had been pretty rough for me also. I struggled with some guilt after she passed as I was pretty accepting of it coming by then. I was an only child of a divorced mom and she really taught me independence and street smarts. For that I will always be grateful. When the time comes for you, embrace it and give back to you.
These cosmetic things are not here to "make you feel young", they are here to make you presentable and aestethic. If you still work in public (teaching etc.) you have to look good. NOT "young".
Whenever I'm having a day with aches and pains, I try to remind myself that it is a privilege to grow old --- not everyone gets that chance. Over the last few years there have been people in my community that passed suddenly and were only in their 30's and 40's.
I always assumed I would kill myself before I got old. Nope! Still here at 67, retired 4 1/2 years ago, divorced 42 years ago. Never bored, never lonely, love my life now. When co-workers asked me what I was going to do in retirement I told them "not a damn thing" and I have held true to that. 2020 lost 75 pounds, walk 5 miles a day, and strength training last 10 months. I may be getting older but it feels pretty good.
In this last year I have lost 64 lbs. And walk several times a day at work and home. I have 3 artificial joints that enabled me to do that at 64. Will work another year or so I think. Congratulations on your transformation!
That's such a pretty picture with all the lupins. It is not the fear is not of growing old and dying, but rather the fear of failing to live fully, that we need to think about daily!
Hi, Allison. I normally might have a comment or opinion on aging, but in your traditional fashion, you have covered the topic so eloquently and completely and humbly that I simply cannot add one jot or tittle to what you have said. It would only diminish your excellent advice. You are possibly the most down-to-earth personality on RUclips. Your admirers are many. Take care, Allison. Live long and prosper.
I walk every day, tango dance, hike, camp. I worry about who will care for me if I'm feeble, as I have no kids. I'm looking into finding a trusted guardian to handle my affairs if I cannot.
I’m vain and so were my parents. I don’t really like that about myself but I kind of can’t help it. My dad had a facelift at 67. He still wears a toupee. He is 89. I wish I could let go of the look good thing. I do dysport for my wrinkles. I still get fillers and I’m depressed. I’m doomed. I still work So I try to look good. My arms are all wrinkly though. you can’t hide your arms in the summer. You look beautiful Allison. So admire you. I’m getting tired now also I’m 63. Not good at relaxing. Love ur channel ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have friends that look really great even in their 90s they put just a little makeup and ware clean clothes that they like and it must make them feel good, they also go to the senior center quite often
Only thing that worries me now is 1) how to navigate retirement. (hubs is already retired, not sure if I can stay working for another 7yrs, who should take soc sec first etc) and then 2) we are 100% alone, how to make plans for moving into lower maintenance housing when the time comes - dont want to get stuck not being able to downsize because we waited too long... I wouldnt mind downsizing soon (5yrs?) but we have 2 hunting dogs that would not appreciate apartment/condo living.. so we have to wait for them. Dont care too much about vanity, have plenty of hobbies so I wont be bored.
Do plenty of research about transitioning into retirement, so you get all benefit you can! Wish you well on that journey. Thanks for sharing ZillasCoop!
I really enjoyed listening to you Allison. I think you will do a great podcast because you’re a great teacher. I think that if you do t reach contentment in life you will not reach happiness. Again thank you and keep enjoying life .🙏💕
I am a little worried about getting old because I see my parents, they can’t do many things they used to be able to do, but they have many children to pick up the slack, but I don’t have all that,I guess I will eventually make a list of services I am going to need some day, I know the county takes people to the doctors and shopping I am 67 so hopefully I still have time
Great advice. Get rid of the UPF food in your house and enjoy large quantities of the good stuff. You will feel amazing and motivated. The mind clarity is also amazing 🎉
I don't mind getting old. As my dad would say it beats the alternative. But I don't like what it means. We thought about getting a dog even an older dog now I don't think I could take care of it. I am having a hard time taking care of myself. Worried I could get really sick and not do what I do
one thing that makes me feel better is the amazing progress being made each year in medicine so in 20 years time when I'm 86 treatments will be totally different for so many ailments already knee replacements have improved massively - my cousin had an operation on both of her feet to completely remove arthritis and is now walking miles daily pain free Stem cell research and the DNA genome research are making incredible discoveries on a molecular level illness and being old go hand in hand for most people in their 80s today but in 20 years time I don't think it will be the case that **everyone** will be unavoidably ill throughout their last years that's my belief and it may be wishful thinking! 🤞🤞But there IS a lot of science to back it up!
You are beautiful compared young Make up give you some love I’m using too but not too much I’m 61 I have to use make up other wise I look tired We love you the way you are
I don't ming growing old...it the dying I'm worried about. especially the costly medical interventions, the going into a nursing home having someone wipe my a**, all the suffering and indignity that goes with it (growing old) if you don't go fast...people looking at you as a burden to society...
With regard to weight and food addiction (and it's always to processed foods full of sugar/fat/salt), what really helped me lose weight for good was to follow the sensible advice of the Physicians Committee (pcrm YT channel, they're a non-profit organisation). It is great for volume eaters because you can still eat very large amounts and still lose weight, you just eat more whole natural foods, like our grandmas used to eat (and people generally up to the 60s/70s). It means eating more fruit, veggies, wholegrains, legumes, mushrooms, squashes (e.g. Kabocha, butternut), tofu, small amounts of avocado, seeds and nuts. Be careful with oils, they are a processed food and very nutrient-poor, it's become fashionable to consume for example a lot of olive oil, you don't need it and you don't need any oils to cook/saute/roast/bake, just google how to do it, it's very easy and you wont miss the oil after a couple of days. Oils and other fats are the most fattening food on the planet, just skip those and you will lose weight and be able to maintain your healthy weight. You may not know that our taste buds renew every few 2-6 weeks, so you will quickly get used to new/healthier foods. Keep things simple and delicious, for example who doesn't like (sweet) potatoes, beans and veggies - just buy some frozen vegies, microwave the lot and you will have a healthy meal full of vitamins & minerals and very slimming (you can eat a big portion) and it's also cheaper than buying a processed ready meal. Re: vanity, I agree you should probably not go over the top (I would never have any cosmetic procedures/surgery) but being well-groomed/dressed and generally looking after your appearance is very important for self-respect and self-confidence. People treat your better too if you look good, it shows you love and care for yourself. Good posture is important, being a healthy weight and dressing well are extremely important imo. You need to look in the mirror and be happy about your body or at least accept it (it took me ages to get to this point!) You may need a little make-up to avoid looking drained and grey. These things don't have to take more than a few minutes/half an hour a day, but feeling great about yourself is priceless and keeps you young, productive, and content imo. I never looked good for most of my life as I had terrible skin and weight problems (probably connected) and I only started becoming healthy in my mid-50s, four years ago. It's like getting a second chance at life and I've never looked or felt better. My mental health has greatly improved to, I now have a positive, grateful attitude and can cope better with stress. I consider losing weight and maintaining my slim weight a great achievement in my life, not to be underestimated. Channels I recommend for sensible, healthy weight loss: pcrm, Dr John McDougall's starch solution (google the free version), Chef AJ, Nutmeg Notebook, Healthy Emmie, Slim Vegan. Check out Dr Doug Lisle's The Pleasure Trap (about food addiction) and How to lose weight without losing your mind.
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Fear of being dependant on stupid and abusing people.
The thing I try to remember is how many people don't have the luxury of growing older.
How true Barbara! Thanks for your comment!!😊💜💫
My ex husband just died at age 60, too young 😢
Aging is not necessarly a "luxury.
I'm not afraid of getting old. It's just my body is not keeping up with the things I normally do. Weird that but I am recognizing certain limitations now and not pushing the envelope. Thank-you for your talk. It's good to know these things and accept them as natural as the sun sets and rises. ✌
You sound very wise be yourself! It is all a natural process. Thanks for your comment!!😊💜💫
As usual, very encouraging. Thank you. I'm 61 and learning to embrace "all of me, just as I am. Yep! 😊
Have an awesome rest of the week.
Thanks so much Duena! Have a great week as well!!😊💜💫
Elder gent here.As I get older I could care less about looks or romance .I accept being alone but alone in a diaper being abused by nursing home staff,that is the nightmare scenario.
What a privilege to grow old. My son passed at 24. My husband passed at 73. I am 72 now. I am healthy, fit, spend my time with good friends and travel a lot and have hobbies. Writing a book, a travel book as I travel. Loving my life after raising a large family. I take my nutrition as sacracent
Thanks so much for sharing this Liz! It sounds like you have a healthy perspective!!😊💜💫
Liz, glad to hear you are doing well and I'm so sorry about your dear son passing at such a young age.
I am so stinking happy that I am 70 years old. As for my looks, I stay clean and my clothes are in good repair, I don't wear makeup anymore and I love my crown of gray hair. I love life and thank God for it everyday.
Love that Ruby!
At 75 I am suprised by life every day. Some new wonder is discovered or I find a new book. You talk was right on target!
Thanks for your comment home in pisgah! There are always thing to be discovered!!😊💜💫
Thanks for the video it really helped me.
Thanks Kyle! Glad it helped!!😊💜💫
I don't mind getting old there is no way to stop it, but I fear being abused by strangers, doctors and hospitals.
I hear you on that davefk!
Losing my independence would bother me the most.
Today is my birthday. I can remember when we were young my friend and I saying to each other I'm bored what do you want to do? I don't know what do you want to do?..... Around this time last year he suddenly passed away. Since then I've been more aware of my own mortality. Watching this video was a birthday gift to me. "you gotta laugh about it or else you're going to cry".
Well I hope you enjoy your day Joseph! Happy birthday! Do something nice for yourself!
I think we can have style at any age!
Absolutely! Thanks!😊💜💫
Tengo 60 y uso rímel y pintalabios, sin embargo no me tiño, me gusta el pelo blanco. No pretendo parecer más joven pero no quiero perder mi gusto por arreglarme.
I too am am an introvert and love living alone, what worries me though is who will look after any pets who might outlive me, and because I don't see friends for months at a time, would people even notice if I dropped dead in my home? I've decided that as I get older I will foster for an animal charity or do volunteer catsitting/dogwalking instead of having my own. This will have the advantage of letting others pay for pet food/bills, not tying me down and at the same time it will keep me in touch with like-minded people/charities who would notice if anything happened to me. This way I would still give time and love to animals but also have time and a little bit more money to do what I want, e.g. travelling, going out.
In some states they have senior call check where you get an automated call each day. If you don't answer after a certain number of calls they notify your designated contact person. I also love the idea of fostering.
Great ideas!
good ideas, I'm in your same boat. Currently I have a 10 year Chi mix who I adore. He had a companion my Springer Spaniel but she passed 8 months ago. I had seriously considered getting a 10 month old adorable chihuahua pup someone had to be his new companion. But I am 65 and that pup could live 20 and out live me,or have to be put boarding should I have to have surgery or stay in a rehab center for weeks if I broke a hip etc. I've considered an older dog but then there is a likelihood of expensive Vet bills. So maybe I will foster....
I am taking care of my elderly mother. She is 89. She is always depressed. It's really getting me down too.
Sorry to read that Debby. You are doing such a great service for your mom, even though it sounds difficult. Take care!
Been there, done that. Mom was 93 when she passed and the last few years had been pretty rough for me also. I struggled with some guilt after she passed as I was pretty accepting of it coming by then. I was an only child of a divorced mom and she really taught me independence and street smarts. For that I will always be grateful. When the time comes for you, embrace it and give back to you.
Scared of everything 😢😢
These cosmetic things are not here to "make you feel young", they are here to make you presentable and aestethic. If you still work in public (teaching etc.) you have to look good. NOT "young".
Whenever I'm having a day with aches and pains, I try to remind myself that it is a privilege to grow old --- not everyone gets that chance. Over the last few years there have been people in my community that passed suddenly and were only in their 30's and 40's.
You are so right, Karen! It is a privilege to grow old!
I always assumed I would kill myself before I got old. Nope! Still here at 67, retired 4 1/2 years ago, divorced 42 years ago. Never bored, never lonely, love my life now. When co-workers asked me what I was going to do in retirement I told them "not a damn thing" and I have held true to that. 2020 lost 75 pounds, walk 5 miles a day, and strength training last 10 months. I may be getting older but it feels pretty good.
Why did you think you would kill yourself? I think that too
In this last year I have lost 64 lbs. And walk several times a day at work and home. I have 3 artificial joints that enabled me to do that at 64. Will work another year or so I think. Congratulations on your transformation!
Great topic. I’ll be 77 in 2 months. Always thought I’d age gracefully … it’s about 50/50 right now.
That's such a pretty picture with all the lupins. It is not the fear is not of growing old and dying, but rather the fear of failing to live fully, that we need to think about daily!
Absolutely sjordan! Thanks for your comment!
I am 90 year old, James oleary the irishman
Welcome to the channel James!
You look healthy, real, not phoney and wonderful. Youre a person i would trust.
Thanks so much jalqassar!
Hi, Allison. I normally might have a comment or opinion on aging, but in your traditional fashion, you have covered the topic so eloquently and completely and humbly that I simply cannot add one jot or tittle to what you have said. It would only diminish your excellent advice. You are possibly the most down-to-earth personality on RUclips. Your admirers are many. Take care, Allison. Live long and prosper.
Thanks John! Your comment made my day!
@@eldergalYou are welcome, Allison. My pleasure entirely. Take care.
The being alone thing is my concern and I'm trying to create a life that I don't need besties just connection with others. I can make that happen.
Yes, you can make it happen, Mary! Thanks for your comment.
America is obsessed with age. BUT I AM NOT. It is a privilege to be alive!
Yes it is!
I walk every day, tango dance, hike, camp. I worry about who will care for me if I'm feeble, as I have no kids. I'm looking into finding a trusted guardian to handle my affairs if I cannot.
That's a plan, krisb!
Having kids does not ensure they will take care of you. Very few do.
I’m vain and so were my parents. I don’t really like that about myself but I kind of can’t help it. My dad had a facelift at 67. He still wears a toupee. He is 89. I wish I could let go of the look good thing. I do dysport for my wrinkles. I still get fillers and I’m depressed. I’m doomed. I still work So I try to look good. My arms are all wrinkly though. you can’t hide your arms in the summer.
You look beautiful Allison. So admire you. I’m getting tired now also I’m 63. Not good at relaxing. Love ur channel ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Luv the skunk look.😂
Thanks Suzette!!😊💜🌟
I have friends that look really great even in their 90s they put just a little makeup and ware clean clothes that they like and it must make them feel good, they also go to the senior center quite often
Only thing that worries me now is 1) how to navigate retirement. (hubs is already retired, not sure if I can stay working for another 7yrs, who should take soc sec first etc) and then 2) we are 100% alone, how to make plans for moving into lower maintenance housing when the time comes - dont want to get stuck not being able to downsize because we waited too long... I wouldnt mind downsizing soon (5yrs?) but we have 2 hunting dogs that would not appreciate apartment/condo living.. so we have to wait for them. Dont care too much about vanity, have plenty of hobbies so I wont be bored.
Do plenty of research about transitioning into retirement, so you get all benefit you can! Wish you well on that journey. Thanks for sharing ZillasCoop!
I only fear all the health issues that co e with my aging, and just being co letely alone.
Nice
Thanks so much!!😊💜💫
You've got such a good attitude Alison!😅 Thanks for that!!
Thanks much Cathy!
you're such a role model sister .
thank you for sharing .
Thanks for watching Jeri!
I really enjoyed listening to you Allison. I think you will do a great podcast because you’re a great teacher.
I think that if you do t reach contentment in life you will not reach happiness. Again thank you and keep enjoying life .🙏💕
Thanks for watching, imee!
I am a little worried about getting old because I see my parents, they can’t do many things they used to be able to do, but they have many children to pick up the slack, but I don’t have all that,I guess I will eventually make a list of services I am going to need some day, I know the county takes people to the doctors and shopping I am 67 so hopefully I still have time
Great advice. Get rid of the UPF food in your house and enjoy large quantities of the good stuff. You will feel amazing and motivated. The mind clarity is also amazing 🎉
excellent video 👍🏻👍🏻💕
Thanks Doreen!
I don't mind getting old. As my dad would say it beats the alternative. But I don't like what it means. We thought about getting a dog even an older dog now I don't think I could take care of it. I am having a hard time taking care of myself. Worried I could get really sick and not do what I do
71 here. Great suggestions. Thank you❤
Thank you Sue!
I'm 33 and feel every bit my age. From time to time, my 69 yo dad will hit me with the 'died at 25, buried at 75' dadage.
😂
Thanks Elder Gal you helped a lot and made a difference 😅
I'm glad! Thanks!
one thing that makes me feel better is the amazing progress being made each year in medicine so in 20 years time when I'm 86 treatments will be totally different for so many ailments
already knee replacements have improved massively - my cousin had an operation on both of her feet to completely remove arthritis and is now walking miles daily pain free
Stem cell research and the DNA genome research are making incredible discoveries on a molecular level
illness and being old go hand in hand for most people in their 80s today but in 20 years time I don't think it will be the case that **everyone** will be unavoidably ill throughout their last years
that's my belief and it may be wishful thinking! 🤞🤞But there IS a lot of science to back it up!
I hope you're right about this grai! A lot of scientific discoveries have already made some things better. Thanks for your comment!
Love Ya!
Great video ❤ Thanks for the wisdom
Thanks so much for watching Jeanette!
Beautiful, thank you!!
Thank you tehamill!😊💜💫
This is my FAVORITE episode ❤
Thanks for watching!
Thank you❤
Thanks for watching Carol!
Great video
Thanks so much for watching and the kind words, Terry!!😊💜🌟
I fear suffering. I don't worry about dying.....l will be in heaven with Jesus
You are beautiful compared young
Make up give you some love I’m using too but not too much
I’m 61
I have to use make up other wise I look tired
We love you the way you are
Thank you so much!
I don't ming growing old...it the dying I'm worried about. especially the costly medical interventions, the going into a nursing home having someone wipe my a**, all the suffering and indignity that goes with it (growing old) if you don't go fast...people looking at you as a burden to society...
I hear you mysticseer! No one wants that.
With regard to weight and food addiction (and it's always to processed foods full of sugar/fat/salt), what really helped me lose weight for good was to follow the sensible advice of the Physicians Committee (pcrm YT channel, they're a non-profit organisation). It is great for volume eaters because you can still eat very large amounts and still lose weight, you just eat more whole natural foods, like our grandmas used to eat (and people generally up to the 60s/70s). It means eating more fruit, veggies, wholegrains, legumes, mushrooms, squashes (e.g. Kabocha, butternut), tofu, small amounts of avocado, seeds and nuts. Be careful with oils, they are a processed food and very nutrient-poor, it's become fashionable to consume for example a lot of olive oil, you don't need it and you don't need any oils to cook/saute/roast/bake, just google how to do it, it's very easy and you wont miss the oil after a couple of days. Oils and other fats are the most fattening food on the planet, just skip those and you will lose weight and be able to maintain your healthy weight. You may not know that our taste buds renew every few 2-6 weeks, so you will quickly get used to new/healthier foods. Keep things simple and delicious, for example who doesn't like (sweet) potatoes, beans and veggies - just buy some frozen vegies, microwave the lot and you will have a healthy meal full of vitamins & minerals and very slimming (you can eat a big portion) and it's also cheaper than buying a processed ready meal.
Re: vanity, I agree you should probably not go over the top (I would never have any cosmetic procedures/surgery) but being well-groomed/dressed and generally looking after your appearance is very important for self-respect and self-confidence. People treat your better too if you look good, it shows you love and care for yourself. Good posture is important, being a healthy weight and dressing well are extremely important imo. You need to look in the mirror and be happy about your body or at least accept it (it took me ages to get to this point!) You may need a little make-up to avoid looking drained and grey. These things don't have to take more than a few minutes/half an hour a day, but feeling great about yourself is priceless and keeps you young, productive, and content imo. I never looked good for most of my life as I had terrible skin and weight problems (probably connected) and I only started becoming healthy in my mid-50s, four years ago. It's like getting a second chance at life and I've never looked or felt better. My mental health has greatly improved to, I now have a positive, grateful attitude and can cope better with stress. I consider losing weight and maintaining my slim weight a great achievement in my life, not to be underestimated. Channels I recommend for sensible, healthy weight loss: pcrm, Dr John McDougall's starch solution (google the free version), Chef AJ, Nutmeg Notebook, Healthy Emmie, Slim Vegan. Check out Dr Doug Lisle's The Pleasure Trap (about food addiction) and How to lose weight without losing your mind.