The OP's decision to not take back her husband was totally called for because he made his choice and he has to live with that reality whether he likes it or not.
@@smokinggnu6584Not to mention, he allowed his family to talk crap about his wife on a divorce he 100% started then enlisted them into harassing her when she said no to taking her back.
It wasn't him who was envy of his friends. His friends were envious of him having someone as long as he had and tried to single him out by making it sound like its all sunshine and rainbows when single but the moment they married one by one, again he was singled out and wasn't even invited to couples' dinner because he left you to stroke their bruised ego. They very much enjoyed that Jake was left out and probably in their minds they blamed him for his dumb mistake to leave you. He should cut ties with them because they weren't really friend material. Friends would be happy for each other if one of them dates while the others aren't. They weren't even happy for him because their actions to support his impulsive decision to divorce you just for that dumb reason spoke louder than words ever could. Your ex in-laws should mind their own business and stop pressuring you to reconcile with Jake when it was their own dumb logic to assume you did something wrong when Jake could have told them it was his dumb choice to be single like his so called friends But on the plus side I am glad you guys went to therapy and co-parent in a peaceful way, not many parents would place their children's needs above their own. And I'm also glad you guys found new partners who would gladly adapt to the step parent role and be cordial for the kids sake. Again not many step parents would do that. So overall I'm glad you guys have a happy ending even if its not with each other as Jake hoped for😊
The guy was friends with a bunch of mid thirties Frat Boys that were still living their college life. They did nothing to influence him. He was making his own choice after they decided to act like they were still Frat Bros.
If he's going to bail when he's merely envious of his friends' lives, you know he'll run for the hill the when shit really hits the fan. He became completely unreliable, best to be familiar with going it alone before the next challenge came along.
That's only if you lack emotional stability, maturity and impulse control bc I have single friends but there isn't a single moment that I will even consider being single again bc I'm content with my relationship and I want it to work
its what actually happened to my circle of friends. The singles ones started going out by different group because it gets awkward eventually. Plus - when kids started getting in the picture, when kids start having tantrum, the single ones really have to help out. But no way was advising one to divorce their spouse ever get in the picture - especially when the couple have kids. Our firm belief is "its not just about you, there's children you should be thinking about too". Those men OP-Husband call friend are nasty.
@@jayking2228 it is not about immaturity or otherwise. The demands of each lifestyle is different. Married people have their activities and they can become entitled about it. They suck you up into their routine, expect you help with the children and even become upset if you don't. A marrie d person will expect their single friends to show affection to their offspring, and even appreciate their spouses. The single person is probably not even given half the attention and they expect the single to understand. Less interaction mode activated
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash
Relationships are hard, but I've learned that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my husband and I were facing divorce because of problems in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we survived.
Forgiving is different than taking someone back into your life ! Ops ex husband blamed her then wanted her to take him back after he’s done playing no I don’t think so
If she took him back, what's to stop him doing stuff like this in the future because if he's forgiven, that makes him think he can get away with things. You dont reward a child for bad behaviour, and the same applies to adults because if you do, they will repeat bad behaviour.
is she never had a 'career' they would have less likely gotten divorced. her talking about 'empowerment' is devastating to her children's mental health. This is typical story how our society as a whole is going down tubes and will have to be reset .
@@juliaalexander5788 People really be out here saying he didn't cheat, like yeah a man living a bachelor life without sleeping with others... SURE. If OP was a man and Jake was a woman, people would be screaming "She abandoned you/she's for the streets". He divorced his wife cause he didn't appreciate her or their family, that's just as bad.
Am I the only seeing a flag? Her questioning if not reconciling was correct after getting together with alex, as alex id be insulted since she says it like the missing trust is the only reason and she'd drop Alex like a hot potato if that was different. Then feeling "something" when she learns abou Olivia ... and at the end still having to afirm that not reconcilimg was correct.
I could've fucking swore I listened to another very similar story to this but instead it's the wife who leaves to be single and the guy is left with the kids. It even has the exact same line that said "i was even forced to pick up the pieces." Seriously these fake ass stories need to be more original.
I sincerely hope this is but an AI story. He could not possibly be that naive and stupid. Right? Deymn.. he's a weak man if he is easily influenced by his "friends". No real friend will tell their married friend that "being single is better" and that abandong his wife and kids is the road to success. His friends are envious of him and his happy family and he choked on the trap they threw on him - hook, line and sinker. Proof is that they married themselves.
I understand that for giving the person does not mean taking back the person in this case OP doesn't have to show forgiveness by taking back the husband; but, I was hinting on the side of her forgiving & going back to him. In a few of my comments I said reconcile so reconcile means forgiving and fixing the marriage. Therefore for the person who commented that forgiving does not mean going back my forgiving if all of my comments were read I was definitely alluding and hinting to OP going back to the husband because it was something(situation)that could easily have been fixed that's why I said reconcile and forgive.
Why would op just get back with the person who divorced her, because of his friends' single Life??? You cannot even understand a bit how much she should have gone through due to his decision??
How can you take back someone who threw you away just so he can party? He did not care how his actions affected his kids at all. He is finding out why you don't burn bridges. He learned his lesson, so now he can take that new knowledge and better his next relationship.
I feel sad for you, you sound like a doormat who's husband leaves you then comes back when he runs outa options. Like atp do you wipe his balls when he cheats on you too?
I think if he wants to reconcile that should have been given the utmost effort. I know there're going to be lots of persons who disagree with me; I think you could have tried to forgive him and go back to him. You're going to try to start a new thing with someone else; but, you weren't seeing anyone when he realized and begged. You could have tried to forgive him both of you are going to go try to get married to other people I think you should forgive him and try at that.
lol you couldn’t be more wrong. He only wanted family life back because his friends were now in relationships. So if his friends get divorced would he then divorce her again? She shouldn’t tie her life to a man who just does whatever his friends do
Well... in reality I don't blame your ex for being upset that you introduced your bf to the kids before he even learned that you were dating again... you didn't even respect the father of your child enough to introduce him first before the kids, it isn't like he was abusive and a complete ah, he was just an idiot and messed up what he had!!! He has stood by you on Every decision with thise kids from day 1, he hasn't faltered in being a dad to his kids... and you go and slap him in the face by introducing the bf to the kids without even telling him!!! And then you have the audacity to be upset when he does the exact same thing to you??? You did A Lot of things right yes, but on this you really messed up!!!
Yes she could have handled it differently but that's not the real issue he's not mad that Op started dating again but that he has been replace. Also about standing by her, that's the least he could've have done after disrupting lives. She's not slapping him in the face by not telling about her boyfriend she's being cautious.
@@lizzylemon5551 no... she is outright being disrespectful to him... he should know who is around his kids!!! I have a similar situation in my life, we have always introduced our friends to each other even if there was ANY chance of that someone being around our kid, before and after we broke up... we do this out of respect for each other as parents because we absolutely have every right to knownwho is around our kids and when!!! To say or think otherwise shows you have no respect for parent rights and or men as fathers... either way you're absolutely being ignorant to think she is just being cautious when there is no reason for that caution
@@fuchsiasecret120 Disrespected? So breaking up a marriage and family to go enjoy the single life is what? Totally respectful. He's just mad she didn't take him back. She's a grown woman who can date, he doesn't get to dictate her life just like she didn't dictate his single life. If he cared why didn't he put it in the divorce? Oh, right, bc he thought she'd just take him back when his single life party was over. Hahahahaha
@@fuchsiasecret120 Bro here’s the thing, if anyone got disrespected it’s the wife. Like who tf just ups and goes after YEARS of dating and then marriage saying that they need to be free? If anything, the wife did EXACTLY what he asked for. He wanted to be “free” right? Well being free from your past life also involves being less attached to your kids. So oh well, grow the hell up. He divorced her not the other way around.
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The OP's decision to not take back her husband was totally called for because he made his choice and he has to live with that reality whether he likes it or not.
Plus, how can anyone really trust that he won't make the exact same mistake in the future?
@@smokinggnu6584Not to mention, he allowed his family to talk crap about his wife on a divorce he 100% started then enlisted them into harassing her when she said no to taking her back.
It wasn't him who was envy of his friends. His friends were envious of him having someone as long as he had and tried to single him out by making it sound like its all sunshine and rainbows when single but the moment they married one by one, again he was singled out and wasn't even invited to couples' dinner because he left you to stroke their bruised ego. They very much enjoyed that Jake was left out and probably in their minds they blamed him for his dumb mistake to leave you. He should cut ties with them because they weren't really friend material. Friends would be happy for each other if one of them dates while the others aren't. They weren't even happy for him because their actions to support his impulsive decision to divorce you just for that dumb reason spoke louder than words ever could. Your ex in-laws should mind their own business and stop pressuring you to reconcile with Jake when it was their own dumb logic to assume you did something wrong when Jake could have told them it was his dumb choice to be single like his so called friends
But on the plus side I am glad you guys went to therapy and co-parent in a peaceful way, not many parents would place their children's needs above their own. And I'm also glad you guys found new partners who would gladly adapt to the step parent role and be cordial for the kids sake. Again not many step parents would do that. So overall I'm glad you guys have a happy ending even if its not with each other as Jake hoped for😊
The guy was friends with a bunch of mid thirties Frat Boys that were still living their college life. They did nothing to influence him. He was making his own choice after they decided to act like they were still Frat Bros.
If he's going to bail when he's merely envious of his friends' lives, you know he'll run for the hill the when shit really hits the fan. He became completely unreliable, best to be familiar with going it alone before the next challenge came along.
When you are still single, it is best to interact less with married friends and when married interact less with single friends
That's only if you lack emotional stability, maturity and impulse control bc I have single friends but there isn't a single moment that I will even consider being single again bc I'm content with my relationship and I want it to work
its what actually happened to my circle of friends. The singles ones started going out by different group because it gets awkward eventually. Plus - when kids started getting in the picture, when kids start having tantrum, the single ones really have to help out. But no way was advising one to divorce their spouse ever get in the picture - especially when the couple have kids. Our firm belief is "its not just about you, there's children you should be thinking about too". Those men OP-Husband call friend are nasty.
@@jayking2228 it is not about immaturity or otherwise. The demands of each lifestyle is different. Married people have their activities and they can become entitled about it. They suck you up into their routine, expect you help with the children and even become upset if you don't. A marrie d person will expect their single friends to show affection to their offspring, and even appreciate their spouses. The single person is probably not even given half the attention and they expect the single to understand. Less interaction mode activated
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash
Relationships are hard, but I've learned that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my husband and I were facing divorce because of problems in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we survived.
Amazing, I am kind of in a similar situation, how did you handle it?
well not the orthodox way but I was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
please how can I get in touch with the spiritual adviser?
Her name is Quelani Eileen Freja, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster
The ai sound is better
Yeah some of them sound terrible. This is very nice.
Still a.little crunchy but tolerable
They blame her for him wanting a divorce? Wow
Forgiving is different than taking someone back into your life ! Ops ex husband blamed her then wanted her to take him back after he’s done playing no I don’t think so
If she took him back, what's to stop him doing stuff like this in the future because if he's forgiven, that makes him think he can get away with things. You dont reward a child for bad behaviour, and the same applies to adults because if you do, they will repeat bad behaviour.
is she never had a 'career' they would have less likely gotten divorced. her talking about 'empowerment' is devastating to her children's mental health. This is typical story how our society as a whole is going down tubes and will have to be reset .
We want to be forgiven; but we're not willing to forgive others in their wrong (especially seeing it was not infidelity or cheating).
Forgiveness does not mean take back in, unless she's Jesus 2nd coming
She did forgive him, she just ain’t sleeping with him anymore.
Exactly!
@@juliaalexander5788 People really be out here saying he didn't cheat, like yeah a man living a bachelor life without sleeping with others... SURE. If OP was a man and Jake was a woman, people would be screaming "She abandoned you/she's for the streets". He divorced his wife cause he didn't appreciate her or their family, that's just as bad.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. Op forgave him but that doesn’t mean that she has to take him back.
Am I the only seeing a flag? Her questioning if not reconciling was correct after getting together with alex, as alex id be insulted since she says it like the missing trust is the only reason and she'd drop Alex like a hot potato if that was different. Then feeling "something" when she learns abou Olivia ... and at the end still having to afirm that not reconcilimg was correct.
I could've fucking swore I listened to another very similar story to this but instead it's the wife who leaves to be single and the guy is left with the kids. It even has the exact same line that said "i was even forced to pick up the pieces." Seriously these fake ass stories need to be more original.
To play devil's advocate, stuff like this happens all too often.
Great stories, Thanks
Good stuff, keep it up. We would like to feature you on our blog
I sincerely hope this is but an AI story. He could not possibly be that naive and stupid. Right? Deymn.. he's a weak man if he is easily influenced by his "friends". No real friend will tell their married friend that "being single is better" and that abandong his wife and kids is the road to success. His friends are envious of him and his happy family and he choked on the trap they threw on him - hook, line and sinker. Proof is that they married themselves.
Fake story. Easily spot by names used and she’s an executive.
How do names and her job position mean it's fake 😂😂😂 yall really be reachin just to feel like you're doin somethin
We need to make forgiveness great again.
Ohhh you're a MAGA? Ofc you are 😂😂😂
I understand that for giving the person does not mean taking back the person in this case OP doesn't have to show forgiveness by taking back the husband; but, I was hinting on the side of her forgiving & going back to him. In a few of my comments I said reconcile so reconcile means forgiving and fixing the marriage. Therefore for the person who commented that forgiving does not mean going back my forgiving if all of my comments were read I was definitely alluding and hinting to OP going back to the husband because it was something(situation)that could easily have been fixed that's why I said reconcile and forgive.
Why would op just get back with the person who divorced her, because of his friends' single Life???
You cannot even understand a bit how much she should have gone through due to his decision??
How can you take back someone who threw you away just so he can party? He did not care how his actions affected his kids at all.
He is finding out why you don't burn bridges.
He learned his lesson, so now he can take that new knowledge and better his next relationship.
I feel sad for you, you sound like a doormat who's husband leaves you then comes back when he runs outa options. Like atp do you wipe his balls when he cheats on you too?
Lmao, he threw away his family and wife cause he wanted a bachelor lifestyle. Gender reverse this and I doubt you'd be this understanding.
Guys i think it's his husband or parents or others he trying to manipulate leave her alone brother you bought this on yourself Karma a *****
I think if he wants to reconcile that should have been given the utmost effort. I know there're going to be lots of persons who disagree with me; I think you could have tried to forgive him and go back to him. You're going to try to start a new thing with someone else; but, you weren't seeing anyone when he realized and begged. You could have tried to forgive him both of you are going to go try to get married to other people I think you should forgive him and try at that.
lol you couldn’t be more wrong. He only wanted family life back because his friends were now in relationships. So if his friends get divorced would he then divorce her again? She shouldn’t tie her life to a man who just does whatever his friends do
Well... in reality I don't blame your ex for being upset that you introduced your bf to the kids before he even learned that you were dating again... you didn't even respect the father of your child enough to introduce him first before the kids, it isn't like he was abusive and a complete ah, he was just an idiot and messed up what he had!!! He has stood by you on Every decision with thise kids from day 1, he hasn't faltered in being a dad to his kids... and you go and slap him in the face by introducing the bf to the kids without even telling him!!!
And then you have the audacity to be upset when he does the exact same thing to you??? You did A Lot of things right yes, but on this you really messed up!!!
Yes she could have handled it differently but that's not the real issue he's not mad that Op started dating again but that he has been replace. Also about standing by her, that's the least he could've have done after disrupting lives. She's not slapping him in the face by not telling about her boyfriend she's being cautious.
@@lizzylemon5551 no... she is outright being disrespectful to him... he should know who is around his kids!!! I have a similar situation in my life, we have always introduced our friends to each other even if there was ANY chance of that someone being around our kid, before and after we broke up... we do this out of respect for each other as parents because we absolutely have every right to knownwho is around our kids and when!!! To say or think otherwise shows you have no respect for parent rights and or men as fathers... either way you're absolutely being ignorant to think she is just being cautious when there is no reason for that caution
@@fuchsiasecret120 Disrespected? So breaking up a marriage and family to go enjoy the single life is what?
Totally respectful.
He's just mad she didn't take him back.
She's a grown woman who can date, he doesn't get to dictate her life just like she didn't dictate his single life.
If he cared why didn't he put it in the divorce?
Oh, right, bc he thought she'd just take him back when his single life party was over.
Hahahahaha
@@vixxxenfoxxx3660I totally agree with you.
@@fuchsiasecret120 Bro here’s the thing, if anyone got disrespected it’s the wife. Like who tf just ups and goes after YEARS of dating and then marriage saying that they need to be free? If anything, the wife did EXACTLY what he asked for. He wanted to be “free” right? Well being free from your past life also involves being less attached to your kids. So oh well, grow the hell up. He divorced her not the other way around.