That part. I’m glad he had a learning experience but sympathizing at the very least with people differently experiencing life than you is a very important part of the human condition. Hell, you don’t even have to fully understand what they are going through. Understanding they are going through it should be enough.
He’s not lying about the sleep. You feel like sleeping all the time and still never really feel rested, and you’re also upset that all you want to do is sleep because you know it’s not productive
Exactly bro!!! All you want to do, and Sonia sleep. You never feel like you’re just fully rejuvenated. Most times you just wanna go back to sleep….. and not wake up.
You sleep, but you never truly rest. All you wanna do is sleep because your body just feels heavy. Dealing with it is tough. Glad more people are talking about it.
sucks that it took the homie actually experiencing it to believe it, and I don't wish it on anyone, but I just hope people develop more sympathy and understanding towards just how crippling it can be
@@FormaAlert That’s so important is at the very least feeling sympathy. You don’t have to experience it or even understand it, because just hearing about it doesn’t make sense, but it’s very real.
The worst part of depression is the compounding of everything you didn’t do while you are depressed and it makes everything worse and harder to climb out. Who else is still trying to get outta this fucking hole?
@@Skellybr0i can only speak from my own experience and ill save you a long story and just say DMT cured my depression, yes the same DMT that rogan talks about. Incredible stuff. Hardest part is realizing i was never going to succeed on my own but life is too finite too be spending it depressed, get well brothers
This is a real lesson everyone needs to learn. When someone tells you how they feel, or what they're going through, it does *nothing* for you to act like they're making shit up. They might be. But why be that guy? Have empathy, my dudes. Respect experiences before you experience them yourself.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ why does this ring so true for me 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ Like your nurse sister telling you she didn’t need Prozac and got over it so you should too 😿🙀😿 they’ll call me a bigger weirdo for going no contact 🙅🏻♀️ I need healing so distanced from abusive fam is a must.
Exactly!!! And I'd way rather give a shitty person kindness they didn't deserve (honestly they probably need it too, and kind is what I'd like to be regardless) than give a struggling person a hard time when they needed and deserved support.
@@mlilof84 You're 1,000% right! You have to distance yourself from people who trigger you. It's usually family because they know what buttons to push I have a few that I don't deal with. It's not just your sister though there's still a huge stigma surrounding mental health in the healthcare community unfortunately. I work with it on a daily basis and it's honestly so disappointing but keep pushing forward and hopefully you and your sister can mend things. ❤
Kinda disagree. Depression is probably worse when you don't have an injury or any reason holding you back but you don't want to do anything, because you don't enjoy doing anything, even the things that you used to LOVE to do.
My mother had severe depression when I was growing up. It was horrible to witness. She's been so depressed a couple times she wouldn't even leave bed for water. She had to be taken to the ER for fluids more than once or she would've died, she didn't even have the will to keep herself sustained. Depression is real, and it's awful to experience and to see someone else go through. I hope all of you out there never have to deal with it. Have a blessed day everyone.
Someone very close to me was clinically depressed. All I wanted to do was take away his pain. It’s hard for the person going through it… and the loved ones feel just as helpless. My heart goes out to anyone going through it. Many blessings to you too.
@@aahmieezlane1740I'm a mother a well and my daughter struggles she depression and suicidal ideation and it's the hardest thing I've ever done to try and keep her alive and happy. Depression is real.
I witnessed similar the only difference is I internalized as normal and had to learn to grow out of it because I was content with being depressed as a normalized feeling … I still struggle at times and I’m in my 30s
The messed up part of depression is you sleep in thinking you will feel better in the morning but when the morning comes you still feel depressed of whatever it is!😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I suffer from depression and anxiety and it is no joke. All I want to do is sleep and at times I don't even want to do day to day essentials. But with prayer it is becoming a little better for me and I'm not going to let this break me. 🙏🏾🙌🏾👐🏾
@IsaiahKeene praying for you my brother. Sending my thoughts and prayers. Don't overthink anything, one step at a time. Don't look too far ahead, take things an hour at a time. God bless
Yeah I think loneliness is the biggest cause of depression. After highschool if you don’t go to college you kinda gotta start over with makin friends and it’s tough
Bro!!!!!! Same!!! Till i was 22 and everything no one tells you about adulthood actually hits you. Next your 26 and wake up out of autopilot and find out you dont even know who you are or where to begin to change.. real reality hit
I feel like I’ve just read a summary of my life in the past 4 years. I fell into a deep pit that I’m still trying to climb out of and on top of that, I’m trying to figure out who tf I actually am and what I want for my life.
@@MissVanHelsingKeep fighting, I bet you in six months from now you’ll be in a much better place. Please remember, it won’t rain forever. You’re still here and making progress each day, keep it going. You’ll be back to slaying monsters in no time … sorry, the nerd in me had to say it lol.
So nice to see people commenting to uplift and encourage each other - more of this please 💕 Wishing all the best along their journey to healing & discovering their purpose! Blessings 😊💕🙏🏽
It’s sad to me that some people not only don’t try to understand other’s plights, but actively believe they’re making it up. And they only understand when they’ve directly experienced it themselves. But I’m happy that he’s talking about it now and helping to teach and reduce stigma
You can't fault people for having a viewpoint on something that they've never experienced before. Life and experiences teaches us things. It's not his fault that he can't fathom something that he has never been through before until he actually went through it. You making that comment is no different than what you're accusing him of, honestly.
@@Nique1221 Not at all actually, since he said he didn’t believe those people’s experiences and was saying he thought they weren’t telling the truth. I believe that’s what he experienced, how he felt at the time. I just think it’s sad when people can’t put themselves in other’s shoes without first being in the same situation. It’s one thing to not understand, but it is very unfair to say they are lying.
It’s not the same thing. Nobody forced anyone to become addicted to drugs. Depression hits like nothing else when you went through severe trauma as a child. It’s not like you can just say “alright imma stop being depressed and get my life together”. That ain’t how this shit works.
@@JayRM714Literally the exact same thing can be said for addiction. No one wakes up one day and decides to become an addict. I suggest you actually research a topic before spewing nonsense.
@@dkoda840 Except they take stuff that has been shown to be addictive, it's their own fault, they willingly chose something that was actively gonna contribute to addiction, compare that to depression which can happen out of nowhere, whether you had to deal with trauma or not.
@@dkoda840 Not really, if you take something like heroin, it's hard for me to feel bad for you because heroin has literally been shown to be one of the most addictive substances.
Glad to see us men finally speaking up about battling depression. I have been for 15 years now. It hasn’t gotten any better, I’ve just gotten stronger 🙏
I've been dealing with it for over 30 years, I finally started getting better about 10 years ago. I'd suggest mindful meditation, a good cognitive behavioral therapist and maybe meds. Surprisingly enough you can retrain your brain to recognize negative thoughts before they start to affect you, there is a ton of research on it. If nothing else, you can do what I do now and not be miserable just to spite the people that don't like you lololol
@@phx2pdx582 it’s not a healthy way of dealing. Trust me. I’m 6’3” 225lbs of muscle and tatted to the core. I’m a tough dude. But it took me 15 years of keeping it inside to realize you have to let it out at some point 🙏 friends and family are there to help you. I don’t have many friends or family but the ones I do have make the fight worth fighting
I think it’s sad that such a large portion of people can’t understand or believe the experiences of others until it happens to them. The world would be a much better place if people could think outside themselves.
Ive been depressed aswell, and the feeling of depression cant be explained, if u havent lost a very close person and so forth. When i went theu it, i just lied in bed for a month and was sleeping 1-3 hours a time
It’s very real! Now imagine that same chronic, constant feeling of hopelessness but without a physical injury to point to, it’s just something in your brain causing it. Harder to pinpoint, harder to fix
It's the environment, lack of meaning, love, feeling lost, have to do a bullshit job on your own, not understood, in a competitive world ... I also had neuralgia and still.
@@HeavyProfessorits not one upping. They're just trying to make people understand clinical depression. Major Depressive Order and some other mental illnesses will give you depression with no tangible reason
And if its treatment resistant ur double fucked. Such as myself xD. Tried multiple antidepressants- doesnt work. Tried therapy many times- doesnt work. Been dealing with this shit for 5 years now. Everyday feels like a bad dream. I am really not sure how I'm still here. So tired.
Depression is real. Some days we are just an empty shell trying to get through the day, in pain. Some days all I remember is driving to work and driving back home. If not for my silent prayers I wouldn’t make it through the day.
Thank you for speaking on it. We, African-American Male community, do not speak on mental health enough. It is good to see our celebrities speaking on the topic. Once again, thank you.
@noneyabizz3403 Man, stop trying to gaslight people and shit on your "white" baby boomer and older grandparents for making society separate. People with the most "hate" groups have the nerve to try to press a bs integrative narrative
There is a negative stigma in our community on therapy. If you are part of our community and wish to deny there is standoffish stance to seeking mental help, then I wish the best for you. If you are not of our community, then yes, in this instance, our male African-American culture shys away from therapy. Unfortunately, we engage in other addictive means to cope with trauma; alcoholism, drug abuse, unhealthy sexual encounters, and the list is long. So yes, I thank him for speaking out and hope that other brothers and all men consider seeking help if necessary.
@vanwade5870 😂 It's funny that the "community" only seems to shine a light on the poor people's behavioral issues. A black kid who grew up in an upper middle-class black neighborhood doesn't have the same experiences or mechanics as one who grew up in an upper middle-class white neighborhood. Who doesn't have the same as a poor kid who grew up win a single compare to one growing up in a poor duel family home 😂 yall really need to stop, especially putting older generations follies on people born on or between 1980 to 2003
after struggleling for almost 15 years, I started to look things more on a spiritual level and truly searched for God, I can say now as I am finding him, I am free. I am still a work in progress and yet I got to experience joy again, become a better person and my hope has been renewed.
I love this conversation because people who have never been depressed think that people who are depressed are faking it or they want sympathy no one wants to be down with depression...
Was killing it at work, bought a house, making mortgage payments every month on time. Everyone is proud, meanwhile I’m day dreaming about swallowing a bottle of pills. I feel you.
This is facts. I thought it was fake too. Until I lost my only brother last year. I’ve been depressed ever since and to be honest I don’t know if my depression will ever go away.
So sorry for your loss, I hope someday you can be without depression, but it's allright if you can't. My mother is clinically depressed, she takes meds every day and has good days and bad days, but she has a good successful life and we love her. Depression isn't the end of your life, just a new layer to it.
Dude, I was just listening a youtuber Mr. Metokur (Internet Aristocrat). He has Leukemia & Autoimmune disorder. He is basically falling apart & doctors dont know what to do. He is losing his hearing & eyesight. And he has been like that for 2-3 years. And all those medical tests & treatments are exhausting. ..... And do you know what he said at the end? He said that he realized that people can get used to anything. So be happy that you dont have to suffer. At least you are not slowly dying in pain.
@@TomikaKelly I disagree. I still dont believe in Depression. And what do you expect a psychiatrist to tell you!? Any idiot would tell you the same & for free. Actually, Psychologists/Psychiatrists make money to keep you depressed. Fyi, I was officially in chronic pain as a child (for the rest of my life). My dad wouldnt give me the painkillers, b/c he was afraid that I would become a drug addict & die. Obviously I had a related depression. When I told my dad that I am depressed, my dad told me to wash the toilet until I feel better, & to think about people who have to clean the toilets for the survival of their familly. Actually my grand-ma told me to stay in bed until I feel better. No food or entertainment. I couldnt eat unless I get up & do some work, & only then I could eat. Dude, lie in bed for a couple of day without food staring at the wall/ceiling * then we will talk about depression.
Same! I definitely thought depression was a weak excuse for lazy people until I experienced it first hand. Even while going through it, I still didn’t want to call it depression. It wasn’t until I got over that hump I was able to acknowledge it for what it was. Horrible time. I now have empathy, compassion and grace for anyone who is struggling with depression. Don’t give up. Keep pushing.
Its sooooooo important for people to realize there are experiences outside of the ones they can personally relate to, and believe others when they speak from their own experiences! People with depression don't wish it on anyone, but the callous and unsympathetic reactions I've gotten sometimes from people in my life to what I was going through almost made me wish they could feel what I felt and understand.
Those people who say depression is fake, haven't yet experienced REAL depression, depression isn't just being in a tough spot or feeling down, its mentally , physically, and spiritually tough on someone, once you feel like you've hit the thickets tallest wall, when you've exhausted all your options and are trying to find a way out but you just cant
Lots of people haven't experienced depression directly but aren't so violently delusional that they "don't believe it exists". That's just an over-the-top moronic type of cognitive deficiency. Surprised these people can even dress themselves in the morning.
Going through depression right now, alot of what I'm going through is a cross between mental issues, family issues, people issues, life issues. I was doing fine at some points but i would always lose it, i thought I had finally found my calling in life, how i wanted to spend the rest of my days, even if nothing spectacular came out of it. Now I'm not wishing to die but im not running from death, if it comes it'll probably be the only freedom i get in life at this point. Just recently almost died,got jumped and held at gunpoint, the only thing that was in my head at times, was this is it, I'll be seeing God or something beautiful in my passing. No more of this shitty life here with shitty people
@@ywaern Kind of strange that your "life can be psychedelic (enough)" and at the same time don't know anyone who does that. Care to explain how that works? Like genuinely. Also I would concede (meaning partially agree here) that it's not really psychedelia in particular that's needed, but really; hope and a "lifting up" that you need and that's why I said mushrooms specifically. The silver-lining drug. Also environmental enrichment is a lot easier when you have that extra push because depression causes a physical 'slowness' in thinking and behavior too which by its own consequences basically prolongs the cycle of depression by limiting environmental enrichment and socially mixing it up and getting out more or changing of scenery. In fact that was how antidepressants in general were originally designed and put to market for, was short-term combating against this 'slowness' of depression that prolongs the cycle, not for "maintenance" which is how they tended to be marketed and prescribed now. And doctors are almost never informed on this nuance which is why it keeps happening.
Everyone is these comments is talking about how depression exist yet everyone fails to realize he only became depressed when he wasn’t doing what he wanted in life and couldn’t. Many people that have depression have it because of that exact reason and I’m a prime example of that. Depression is real however it can be suppressed when instilling a good work ethic and when making progress in your life. Truth be told it is just another excuse for failure and if that’s fine by you by all means stay depressed but if your looking for something more you truly don’t have time for it.
@@boysfromtheshack4458for some people yes but for people like myself and countless others its not as clear cut as you try to make it. For some it has nothing to do with success, failure or work ethic for some its hereditary, others its chemical imbalance. There have been many successful people with amazing work ethics who are doing what they want/love who are severely depressed (clinically) & leave this earth because its not something you can shake by just work ethic and doing what you want/love. Don’t downplay it and say its an excuse when not all cases of depression are similar or the same as yours was.
@@boysfromtheshack4458Thank you. A while ago I noticed that my most unhappy days were Sundays. I examined why Sundays were so much worse than the tower days and I realized that it's because its my easiest day. If everyday is somewhat difficult then you will almost never feel sad
@@boysfromtheshack4458 Depression extends far past work ethic and life purpose. Thats your experience and his but not everyone else's. Reminds me of my favorite local artist, made an album about both of his parents passing. He tried to suppress those feelings with work, and his depression only continued to spiral. Even with all the money and fame he's constantly achieving he couldn't out work those problems. It will come for you. Purpose can be one part of depression its certainly not the end all. Thats an over statement, I had it for the exact reason dealing with deaths and family health. It can be a cause of failure at some point, but its far from the main excuse for why people can fail! There's far more nuance to what you're saying. Depression is not linear, its certainly a spectrum of things.
@@boysfromtheshack4458there's different forms and severity and also different causes of depression. If you don't know what you are talking about it's usually better to just listen.
Thank God! So many regular people have been being traumatized because people see depression, anxiety and other mental health issues as excuses. Glad he's using his platform and especially as a black man to express this deeply rooted issue.🙏🏾❤️💯🙋🏾
Love how depression is dismissed by everybody until they go through it themselves, two thirds of the population experience it and we still out here thinking it’s not real until you actually get got 😊
The sleep is so bittersweet. You’re always feeling fatigued but you use sleep as an escape mechanism at the same time. Then you wake up feeling guilty because you slept your day away and did nothing, ushering in a little more depression, then you just repeat the cycle. It takes a lot of time and will power to turn it around.
I have been there. To many men ignore this because they think it makes them look weak. But if you don’t address it, It will slowly kill you. Proud of you for addressing this. We need more talking about it. Thanks
Men don’t think it makes you look weak it is just that you have to do something about it as men. You can cry as a man but you have to do something or work towards a solution. People need to stop with the fake men don’t do this because woman’s response. Men are about problem solving and getting the issue dealt with not just saying I don’t want to look weak.
It means so much to see that I'm not alone in this fight with depression its also really inspiring seeing my fellow men in the comments being open about their struggles with mental health we got this fellas keep fighting ✊
we are all here, it's hard for everyone, my grandpa didn't make it, but nonetheless my dad and I came out on top take strength from everyone, those that lose, those that win and those that are still fighting
i’m not a man, but as someone with chronic depression, i’m rooting for all of y’all. as heavy as the topic is, it’s heartwarming to see so much support for one another’s mental health in these comments, i hope that more people see these things and are able to find that openness with themselves.
Knee surgery was definitely depressing! Feeling stuck laying in bed cant move or do nothing under your own will power will make you feel empty & useless
Or it can be a chance to reevaluate your life and make peace with yourself, choose a direction that’s best for you, depression to me is like Ghost, doesn’t affect you if you don’t believe in it, laying on your back gives you perspective in life, and a reminder that nothing is permanent. You either plan ahead or end up on your back. Basically it’s about how you choose to deal with the situation.
@@emperorgreene2440Shut up. If I removed your happy chemicals in your brain, something intrinsic to your biology ,you’re done. And you will try and try in futility until you happens to wash over you like a metaphorical wave. Everyone talks about solutions like you can logic your way out of depression.
@@desmondmcphail4434 taking them first steps without crutches i was like a excited toddler again “look! Look! I can walk on my own” was pressed to show the therapist next day😅
Everything can't be going "great". You have to be sad about something. Even if its something as simple as being able to enjoy your money, health, family etc. Something keeps you in depression.
@@manoftomorrow5987 no my man thats not correct at all. speaking from my own personal experiences and other close to me you coudlnt be more wrong. but hey i guess you just know my life better than me huh?
@@kallen5064 so you're just walking around depressed for NO REASON at all in life?! Mannnn...I find that so hard to believe man. Reasons such as: no true friends, family drama, want something, no feeling adequate enough etc. Nothing at all?!
@@manoftomorrow5987 just because you don’t understand something doesnt mean its not real bubba. you’re talking about sadness it’s different. clearly you arent gonna understand so this is a waste of time have a good day pal:)
It doesn’t matter how much money you have. When your mental health is impaired, you just have to work at healing everyday. I experience ptsd, anxiety and depression and part of it was my unwillingness to accept that depression is real.
People who fail to understand it are who irritate me the most when it comes to personally dealing with that kind of mental struggle. They tell you to get over it, snap out of it, ask you why you’re depressed all of the time. They don’t realize it just doesn’t work that way. It’s always the worst when you have moments where you feel fine, then out of nowhere it just takes over you again, and you just can’t shake it as it lasts for days. I’ve been pushed to a lot of breaking points. Especially, this year as I suffered a heart attack months ago. Never felt more helpless in my life upon initial recovery. Now, my life isn’t going to be the same because of it as I now have to survive off of pills for the rest of this life I got left. Talk about pain. Depression can eat you alive. People still think it’s not real? Everything about this very much so is
Society is filled with narcissists. The real threats are the dark empaths they are the ones that keeps draining positivity on every person specially the people who choose to endure negativity.
I believe there’s a natural remedy for most things . I have a few things … one being adhd and I refuse to be on pills forever. So I’ve found solutions . You NEED to i is the same is true for you baby! And most importantly I hope you have a real faith or belief in something outside of yourself! There are so many things we don’t know about that we think is fact that’s actually real.. God, manifesting , meditation….. so much . Start small and watch how life surprises you. It’s fun. Buuuut like guy above most people don’t believe me when I tell them. I accidentally found out when I was depressed as a pre teen. Now I see all over social media what I inadvertently found out as a child . Please , please, please , please , please start with your mind!! It lies to you to protect you. Fu$k that sh&t and try some other things you think aren’t real! It’s one hell of a ride - I PROMISE you. You’re gonna feel sad again, you’re gonna be depressed again… you just have to KNOW you can get out of it and it’s not forever. Feel it and research , divulge in whatever is the core problem and then kick its mf’n ass every chance you get ! You just gotta know that it’s okay to not be okay and it’s okay to fail everyday . Just don’t internalize it as your worth and how life is supposed to be/feel like . ❤ you!!! 😊
@@ashleymccready978 😘😘😘😘😘 Of course ! And thank you as well. I like to believe we go through things to make it easier for those who may later endure the same .
Glad to hear his lived experience ❤❤ Depression can look so different sometimes 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Lack of interest in things Sleeping too much Sleeping too little Anger/Irritability Sadness/Crying Hopelessness Memory loss Time Loss (Zoning out) Hard to concentrate Lack of appetitie Eating too much No longer showering/brushing your teeth/grooming yourself 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Its very real!!
People think mental health issues are overblown till they deal with it themselves. My stepmom used to think panic attacks were just worrying too much. Then when she had one for real, she thought she was having a heart attack and was going to die.
Facts I realized growing up in Chicago was trauma. The thing is I did not even realize it until I found myself emotionally unstable. I then realized that how most of us from the city grew up was traumatic. Then I lost the love of my life in March and it left me alone, alone to deal with my grief and most of all, to deal with my unhealed wounds.
Shit really crazy. Especially when you gotta duck from bullets and don’t even know if they tryna hit you or not. The ones you trust the most be the ones gone. I’m praying you heal up good!
The fact that it takes him a sec to remember when says enough. A lot of my childhood is blacked out, when I think back I see nothing. I know there’s things there but I can only remember being in such a dark place. Take care of yourself 💗
I so feel this. So exhausted, but you wake up at 3 am thinking about everything you ever did wrong/was done wrong to you, and you cant shut your brain down. Then rinse and repeat for months or years, until you can barely function.
“No one gets it until it happens to them” I thought depression was an excuse too until I got depressed! For people going through depression godbless. Just pray, and put god first you’ll get through it let go and let god.
I have been depressed most of my life 😢 But through a closer relationship with God, I've recently learned how to control my thoughts, and not let my current situation get the best of me. What has helped me? Uplifting 🙃 music Meditation Talking to God/myself Listened to Wayne Dyer Listen to gospel songs Stayed in a calm peaceful environment Reassure myself that I'm worth it Admired who I was on the inside Affirmations daily Changed the people I was around Soo much more, but it helped!! Life still kicks your azz at times, but all that work, you won't stay in that low vibrational state 😢
Went through it for 4 years.. almost died in 2019, literally falling apart,. Lost control of my biles_ pissing in bag, sh***ing on sheets, found out I had developed a irregular heart beat.. To over that Beast was my GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENTS!!!!.. Shed so Many Tears
A weird effect when that happens is like he said, walking down the stairs. When it's happened to me and I've been out of action for days or a week or so, I'd finally get up and walk down the stairs and my legs were weak, I'd almost fall, and I'd be out of breathe just going up and down stairs, even if you're still managing to eat, your body wastes away along with your mind.
I love how he’s actually talking about this because a lot of us really be hurting out here and just close up cause us to burn internally.it’s really a topic that’s not really touched Intimately
I feel you man i cut my hair off with scissors all my life ive watched the woman who created me pick a man over me who consistently treated her like nothing i felt as if was an option that had to be dealt with i got kicked out for speaking my truth but hey man it is what it is
Went through the same thing with mine and we don’t currently speak rn but I think that’s for the better cause sometimes your own family can be the ones to bring you down
I'm sadden to hear that, I know that doesn't feel good. Unfortunately, some of us don't see our value, so we let others decide. And that can have a negative impact on the offspring or other love ones in our life. I'll say an extra prayer for you and your mom so that she can realize her worth and yours and that when that time comes that you'll be ready to receive it. 🙏🏿💓 & @prodbysmokalot2250
High achievers suffer the most because we can’t believe what’s happening to us. Coming out of a cycle right now and it was like losing my identity every day
Be grateful for what you’ve been given in this life, and show that through actions. Put care where YOU want and take care of your body and it will take care of you.
The simple fact that men are talking about mental wellness is so uplifting. Having worked in the mental health field, so many cultures view mental health issues as "fake", "excuses", etc. Or a lack of having faith. You can be depressed, ha e anxiety and be in prayer everyday. The ability to recognize there's an issue and get the help is everything. Yet, not beat yourself up for going through it.
People wonder why Andrew Luck retired after becoming reinjured. The most difficult part about rehab after an injury is the mental toll it takes. Depression is a very powerful force
I started working at a mental health facility and EMS right out of high school and saw how the other staff treated the residents believing they were faking it for attention. After reading files, spending 12 hour shifts for 3 months with all age groups, I went home and spoke to my father about the war induced PTSD that he struggled with and I'd just learned of. I told him of those we'd found who'd taken their own lives and he hugged me and said "that's all I saw at your age". RIP, Navy Officer of Vietnam War.
Same with anxiety… I used to think people who said they had that were just making excuses or seeking attention until I experienced it at a high level . I learned the meaning of anxiety without any context ,explanation, or definition Ill never forget the moment it clicked and I said “ wow, this feeling I’m feeling is what anxiety is, I get it now”
I swear this happened to me! My medical doctor is the one who clued me in! Asked me if I had anxiety? And I was automatically about to say no and she stopped me. She asked me some more questions , I answered them and she was like that's anxiety! I was like 👀.
Unfortunately, especially with men, we don’t acknowledge issues in our emotions and environment until we’re out in a situation where we can’t escape it and it just compounds the issues further. Thank you for speaking on it.
Love bug, it’s real! Really real. Excruciatingly real. Now what are you going to do to reconcile spiritually, relationally, and emotionally? No judgement. Just a rhetorical question to ponder. Prayers lifted up for you, to you and with you Black King 👑 ❤
Former athlete who still works out everyday I am currently going through this started having weird pains and spasms in my back and I haven’t been able to lift I feel incomplete
Im really sorry man. I had back problems really early on in my working out phase and for a few years I was depressed. I know how much it sucks. Physiotherapy is your best option to get to the road of recovery.
💯 Some ppl that are super confident have had trouble understanding depression from my experience. I for one fully understand as I was a victim up it for a long while. To my ppl facing it you can't truly get through it until you become confrontational with what really held you up. Stay up 🫡
I’ve always been super confident but to think depression is fake I could never do that because I know how this universe works and when you think something like that is fake and you look down on people who are really going through that shit, you best believe it’s gonna come full circle and happen to your ass too. And I always understood that
I believe wholeheartedly now those who cruise through life facing no resistance, are actually the most unlucky ones. The truly lucky ones are those who have experienced, and been able to comprehend the adversity that has come their way
Depression for me is a monster that is constantly lurking within me waiting for a chance to take over. Its the constant voice in my head telling me I am not good enough and never will be and that I should just off myself. It never really goes away fully, just like alcoholism its just waiting for you to fuck up. Don't be afraid to ask for help, no one will think less of you and if they do f em.
I was like that as well…I couldn’t understand depression and anxiety. Thinking it was just something ppl say. I am 45 and depression is REAL. It just didn’t hit me until my late thirties-Early 40s.
You don’t understand depression until you go through it, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, it’s the worst feeling ever, I remember I was so depressed one time that I’d wake up only once a day just to drink water and I would go back to sleep, I lost my job, I didn’t shower, I had to give my dog to my sister and they sent people over to my place to check up on me every 2 days and they tried to help me but I just couldn’t do anything for a good 3 months, I’m still struggling, everyday is a struggle but I’m still here fighting for my old life back.
to anyone still saying its fake I'm glad you haven't hsd to experience it, I've seen grown people with lots of friends and achievements get dragged down into the deep of it and never be the same
Only a clinical psychologist can determine if the depression is real or fake. It’s dangerous for an untrained “expert” to tell someone that they aren’t really depressed.
My mom didn’t think depression and anxiety were real until she saw how it destroyed me. I was formally diagnosed eventually. I’m somewhat better now but some days are still really hard for me to get up and find motivation.
Sucks it takes experiencing something to believe it. This is why empathy needs to be taught as a positive trait, not a weakness.
Yup YUP
Facts
So true! Great comment! ~ Blessings 😊💕🙏🏽
Right!
That part. I’m glad he had a learning experience but sympathizing at the very least with people differently experiencing life than you is a very important part of the human condition. Hell, you don’t even have to fully understand what they are going through. Understanding they are going through it should be enough.
He’s not lying about the sleep. You feel like sleeping all the time and still never really feel rested, and you’re also upset that all you want to do is sleep because you know it’s not productive
Couldn't have said it any better
Exactly bro!!! All you want to do, and Sonia sleep. You never feel like you’re just fully rejuvenated. Most times you just wanna go back to sleep….. and not wake up.
This has been me for years 🙃
@@shane10008then exercise
Just sounds like laziness
You sleep, but you never truly rest. All you wanna do is sleep because your body just feels heavy. Dealing with it is tough. Glad more people are talking about it.
sucks that it took the homie actually experiencing it to believe it, and I don't wish it on anyone, but I just hope people develop more sympathy and understanding towards just how crippling it can be
@@FormaAlert That’s so important is at the very least feeling sympathy. You don’t have to experience it or even understand it, because just hearing about it doesn’t make sense, but it’s very real.
The worst part of depression is the compounding of everything you didn’t do while you are depressed and it makes everything worse and harder to climb out. Who else is still trying to get outta this fucking hole?
How to truly rest then when you are in this state?
@@Skellybr0i can only speak from my own experience and ill save you a long story and just say DMT cured my depression, yes the same DMT that rogan talks about. Incredible stuff.
Hardest part is realizing i was never going to succeed on my own but life is too finite too be spending it depressed, get well brothers
This is a real lesson everyone needs to learn. When someone tells you how they feel, or what they're going through, it does *nothing* for you to act like they're making shit up. They might be. But why be that guy? Have empathy, my dudes. Respect experiences before you experience them yourself.
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ why does this ring so true for me 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ Like your nurse sister telling you she didn’t need Prozac and got over it so you should too 😿🙀😿 they’ll call me a bigger weirdo for going no contact 🙅🏻♀️ I need healing so distanced from abusive fam is a must.
Exactly!!! And I'd way rather give a shitty person kindness they didn't deserve (honestly they probably need it too, and kind is what I'd like to be regardless) than give a struggling person a hard time when they needed and deserved support.
@@mlilof84 You're 1,000% right! You have to distance yourself from people who trigger you. It's usually family because they know what buttons to push I have a few that I don't deal with. It's not just your sister though there's still a huge stigma surrounding mental health in the healthcare community unfortunately. I work with it on a daily basis and it's honestly so disappointing but keep pushing forward and hopefully you and your sister can mend things. ❤
Love how you said have empathy, we are lacking that big time. It’s necessary 💕🥰
Yes 👏 kindness is free and can literally change someone's life.
This is one of the realest explanations of depression I've ever heard. It's not "I don't want to do anything" it's "I can't do nothing"
Yes!
If that's the case then I might be going through it. But I'm trying my best to push through it tho.
Everything was ten times harder even simple things like eating were kinda exhausting i sometimes would eat until I was starving
Kinda disagree. Depression is probably worse when you don't have an injury or any reason holding you back but you don't want to do anything, because you don't enjoy doing anything, even the things that you used to LOVE to do.
How are there so many successful blackses people when America is systemically racist and ran by white supremacists who target black people?
My mother had severe depression when I was growing up. It was horrible to witness. She's been so depressed a couple times she wouldn't even leave bed for water. She had to be taken to the ER for fluids more than once or she would've died, she didn't even have the will to keep herself sustained. Depression is real, and it's awful to experience and to see someone else go through. I hope all of you out there never have to deal with it. Have a blessed day everyone.
Someone very close to me was clinically depressed. All I wanted to do was take away his pain. It’s hard for the person going through it… and the loved ones feel just as helpless. My heart goes out to anyone going through it. Many blessings to you too.
yeah the staying in bed forever thing is so real. it's the little comfort you get when the world feels to overwhelming.
Im a mother. It hurts having my babies go through it.
@@aahmieezlane1740I'm a mother a well and my daughter struggles she depression and suicidal ideation and it's the hardest thing I've ever done to try and keep her alive and happy. Depression is real.
I witnessed similar the only difference is I internalized as normal and had to learn to grow out of it because I was content with being depressed as a normalized feeling … I still struggle at times and I’m in my 30s
The messed up part of depression is you sleep in thinking you will feel better in the morning but when the morning comes you still feel depressed of whatever it is!😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Shit sleep too negative dreams
When u sleep too much and wake up late realizing you lost a day
When you wake up and feel the weight of the world just drop on your soul...so damn heavy you don't want to even move.
Or at least for my experience
I suffer from depression and anxiety and it is no joke. All I want to do is sleep and at times I don't even want to do day to day essentials. But with prayer it is becoming a little better for me and I'm not going to let this break me. 🙏🏾🙌🏾👐🏾
Seek God in Prayer, reflection when you can and consistency.
You got it❤ 💪🏾
God bless you 🙏
And DON'T give up 💯
Depression is REAL. It'll have you staying up till 5am & then sleeping all day. 😢
Thank you mr chi city you really the best youtuber of all time cause you chose to live your own life, thats a man.
A MF legend in the building
Facts
ChiCity, when your next upload. We need it!!!
Ooof. Yes.
Think the worst part is knowing you're going through it. Trying your hardest to get out of it but still slipping and falling back into it.
To everybody else it seems like empty excuses but getting up and brushing your teeth is harder than a fist fight.
Lost my job and Broke my hand bein dumb smh god help me…
@IsaiahKeene praying for you my brother. Sending my thoughts and prayers. Don't overthink anything, one step at a time. Don't look too far ahead, take things an hour at a time. God bless
Damn bruh this comment hit me so hard, good reminder to be happy of where I am now. Thanks
Yeah I think loneliness is the biggest cause of depression. After highschool if you don’t go to college you kinda gotta start over with makin friends and it’s tough
Bro!!!!!! Same!!! Till i was 22 and everything no one tells you about adulthood actually hits you. Next your 26 and wake up out of autopilot and find out you dont even know who you are or where to begin to change.. real reality hit
Sadly that both sounds like regular adult life and depression.
I feel like I’ve just read a summary of my life in the past 4 years. I fell into a deep pit that I’m still trying to climb out of and on top of that, I’m trying to figure out who tf I actually am and what I want for my life.
@@misshebabe16x was there. Now I'm starting the year in rehab. Lol.
@@MissVanHelsingKeep fighting, I bet you in six months from now you’ll be in a much better place. Please remember, it won’t rain forever. You’re still here and making progress each day, keep it going.
You’ll be back to slaying monsters in no time … sorry, the nerd in me had to say it lol.
So nice to see people commenting to uplift and encourage each other - more of this please 💕 Wishing all the best along their journey to healing & discovering their purpose! Blessings 😊💕🙏🏽
It’s sad to me that some people not only don’t try to understand other’s plights, but actively believe they’re making it up. And they only understand when they’ve directly experienced it themselves. But I’m happy that he’s talking about it now and helping to teach and reduce stigma
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You can't fault people for having a viewpoint on something that they've never experienced before. Life and experiences teaches us things. It's not his fault that he can't fathom something that he has never been through before until he actually went through it. You making that comment is no different than what you're accusing him of, honestly.
@@Nique1221 Not at all actually, since he said he didn’t believe those people’s experiences and was saying he thought they weren’t telling the truth. I believe that’s what he experienced, how he felt at the time. I just think it’s sad when people can’t put themselves in other’s shoes without first being in the same situation. It’s one thing to not understand, but it is very unfair to say they are lying.
Same thing addicts go through. Many people simply can't imagine or empathize with that struggle unless it is experienced.
It’s not the same thing. Nobody forced anyone to become addicted to drugs. Depression hits like nothing else when you went through severe trauma as a child. It’s not like you can just say “alright imma stop being depressed and get my life together”. That ain’t how this shit works.
@@JayRM714Literally the exact same thing can be said for addiction. No one wakes up one day and decides to become an addict. I suggest you actually research a topic before spewing nonsense.
@@dkoda840 Except they take stuff that has been shown to be addictive, it's their own fault, they willingly chose something that was actively gonna contribute to addiction, compare that to depression which can happen out of nowhere, whether you had to deal with trauma or not.
@@overthemoon34 I don’t dispute that however just saying you’re oversimplifying how addiction starts.
@@dkoda840 Not really, if you take something like heroin, it's hard for me to feel bad for you because heroin has literally been shown to be one of the most addictive substances.
Glad to see us men finally speaking up about battling depression. I have been for 15 years now. It hasn’t gotten any better, I’ve just gotten stronger 🙏
🙏❤
I've been dealing with it for over 30 years, I finally started getting better about 10 years ago. I'd suggest mindful meditation, a good cognitive behavioral therapist and maybe meds. Surprisingly enough you can retrain your brain to recognize negative thoughts before they start to affect you, there is a ton of research on it. If nothing else, you can do what I do now and not be miserable just to spite the people that don't like you lololol
@@phx2pdx582 it’s not a healthy way of dealing. Trust me. I’m 6’3” 225lbs of muscle and tatted to the core. I’m a tough dude. But it took me 15 years of keeping it inside to realize you have to let it out at some point 🙏 friends and family are there to help you. I don’t have many friends or family but the ones I do have make the fight worth fighting
Not just men
Everyone need to talk ab it
You insecure wannabe manly man types the only ones who act like you cant be sad sometimes so
@@Tw0Dots Shut up bro, why are you guys always trying to find the negative in everything?
I think it’s sad that such a large portion of people can’t understand or believe the experiences of others until it happens to them. The world would be a much better place if people could think outside themselves.
Ive been depressed aswell, and the feeling of depression cant be explained, if u havent lost a very close person and so forth. When i went theu it, i just lied in bed for a month and was sleeping 1-3 hours a time
I learned the hard way depression isn't "not wanting to do anything" its when you physically can't anymore
It’s very real! Now imagine that same chronic, constant feeling of hopelessness but without a physical injury to point to, it’s just something in your brain causing it. Harder to pinpoint, harder to fix
It's the environment, lack of meaning, love, feeling lost, have to do a bullshit job on your own, not understood, in a competitive world ... I also had neuralgia and still.
One up
@@montoya-400FACTS! social environment too, work environment, financial pressures, baggage from past relationship and friendships, etc.
@@HeavyProfessorits not one upping. They're just trying to make people understand clinical depression. Major Depressive Order and some other mental illnesses will give you depression with no tangible reason
And if its treatment resistant ur double fucked. Such as myself xD. Tried multiple antidepressants- doesnt work. Tried therapy many times- doesnt work. Been dealing with this shit for 5 years now. Everyday feels like a bad dream. I am really not sure how I'm still here.
So tired.
I thought this way about anxiety and depression until it happened to me. Don’t look down on others life will humble you quick
@inda Real quick!!💯
Listen.!
Tell ‘em’
It's the truth I don't wish it on anyone
Depression is real. Some days we are just an empty shell trying to get through the day, in pain.
Some days all I remember is driving to work and driving back home. If not for my silent prayers I wouldn’t make it through the day.
Depression is such a struggle.
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Life will teach you, what you refuse to learn.
Damn…
The truest one liner I've ever read
Real shit
Thank you for speaking on it. We, African-American Male community, do not speak on mental health enough. It is good to see our celebrities speaking on the topic. Once again, thank you.
Ahhh yesss gotta always bring up race lol
Cause we aren't a "community," we are a population, and it's addressed all the time
@noneyabizz3403 Man, stop trying to gaslight people and shit on your "white" baby boomer and older grandparents for making society separate. People with the most "hate" groups have the nerve to try to press a bs integrative narrative
There is a negative stigma in our community on therapy. If you are part of our community and wish to deny there is standoffish stance to seeking mental help, then I wish the best for you. If you are not of our community, then yes, in this instance, our male African-American culture shys away from therapy. Unfortunately, we engage in other addictive means to cope with trauma; alcoholism, drug abuse, unhealthy sexual encounters, and the list is long. So yes, I thank him for speaking out and hope that other brothers and all men consider seeking help if necessary.
@vanwade5870 😂 It's funny that the "community" only seems to shine a light on the poor people's behavioral issues. A black kid who grew up in an upper middle-class black neighborhood doesn't have the same experiences or mechanics as one who grew up in an upper middle-class white neighborhood. Who doesn't have the same as a poor kid who grew up win a single compare to one growing up in a poor duel family home 😂 yall really need to stop, especially putting older generations follies on people born on or between 1980 to 2003
after struggleling for almost 15 years, I started to look things more on a spiritual level and truly searched for God, I can say now as I am finding him, I am free. I am still a work in progress and yet I got to experience joy again, become a better person and my hope has been renewed.
The religion Islam is beautiful. You should look into it. God is calling you ❤
I love this conversation because people who have never been depressed think that people who are depressed are faking it or they want sympathy no one wants to be down with depression...
It’s worse when you have high functioning depression. People will think you’re weird and talk about you then. Friends and family start to turn on you.
Yep
Was killing it at work, bought a house, making mortgage payments every month on time. Everyone is proud, meanwhile I’m day dreaming about swallowing a bottle of pills. I feel you.
@@LilBoots1791 keep going bruh I right there wit you don't even know ow why I'm still going. Everything is dark even when it's sunny out.
@@LilBoots1791i know the feeling. Sending love and energy into the universe dawg, hope you make it to the other side
@LilBoots1791 I suggest exercise, nothing crazy just do something. That's what helps me. I love you, fellow human being
True. Depression is only real when it happens to you
Exactly
REAL TALK 💯
Bruh, why do people think like this though?💀 Selfish ass mindset
Step in those shoes. 🧐😅
It’s always real. “Only real when it happens to you” is for someone selfish with no empathy who cares only about their own needs.
It’s sad how often people are unwilling to acknowledge the struggles of others until they experience it themselves
Man depression is real ❤ praying for anyone who feels like you're in a dark place. You will get out.
This is facts. I thought it was fake too. Until I lost my only brother last year. I’ve been depressed ever since and to be honest I don’t know if my depression will ever go away.
So sorry for your loss, I hope someday you can be without depression, but it's allright if you can't. My mother is clinically depressed, she takes meds every day and has good days and bad days, but she has a good successful life and we love her. Depression isn't the end of your life, just a new layer to it.
I'm sorry you lost your brother. That's really hard. Would make anyone depressed. But life truly does go on. It has to.
Dude, I was just listening a youtuber Mr. Metokur (Internet Aristocrat).
He has Leukemia & Autoimmune disorder. He is basically falling apart & doctors dont know what to do.
He is losing his hearing & eyesight.
And he has been like that for 2-3 years.
And all those medical tests & treatments are exhausting.
.....
And do you know what he said at the end?
He said that he realized that people can get used to anything.
So be happy that you dont have to suffer.
At least you are not slowly dying in pain.
See a psychiatrist. You may need antidepressants and mood stabilizers.
@@TomikaKelly
I disagree. I still dont believe in Depression.
And what do you expect a psychiatrist to tell you!?
Any idiot would tell you the same & for free.
Actually, Psychologists/Psychiatrists make money to keep you depressed.
Fyi,
I was officially in chronic pain as a child (for the rest of my life).
My dad wouldnt give me the painkillers, b/c he was afraid that I would become a drug addict & die.
Obviously I had a related depression.
When I told my dad that I am depressed, my dad told me to wash the toilet until I feel better, & to think about people who have to clean the toilets for the survival of their familly.
Actually my grand-ma told me to stay in bed until I feel better.
No food or entertainment.
I couldnt eat unless I get up & do some work, & only then I could eat.
Dude, lie in bed for a couple of day without food staring at the wall/ceiling
* then we will talk about depression.
WORD FOR WORD 💯💯💯💯💯💯
He really spittin. Like bro we all sad, get yo shit together
ISTG BRO HE SAID MY THOUGHTS OUTLOUD FOR ME
ISTG BRO!
Same! I definitely thought depression was a weak excuse for lazy people until I experienced it first hand. Even while going through it, I still didn’t want to call it depression. It wasn’t until I got over that hump I was able to acknowledge it for what it was. Horrible time. I now have empathy, compassion and grace for anyone who is struggling with depression. Don’t give up. Keep pushing.
Its sooooooo important for people to realize there are experiences outside of the ones they can personally relate to, and believe others when they speak from their own experiences! People with depression don't wish it on anyone, but the callous and unsympathetic reactions I've gotten sometimes from people in my life to what I was going through almost made me wish they could feel what I felt and understand.
Those people who say depression is fake, haven't yet experienced REAL depression, depression isn't just being in a tough spot or feeling down, its mentally , physically, and spiritually tough on someone, once you feel like you've hit the thickets tallest wall, when you've exhausted all your options and are trying to find a way out but you just cant
Lots of people haven't experienced depression directly but aren't so violently delusional that they "don't believe it exists". That's just an over-the-top moronic type of cognitive deficiency. Surprised these people can even dress themselves in the morning.
Going through depression right now, alot of what I'm going through is a cross between mental issues, family issues, people issues, life issues. I was doing fine at some points but i would always lose it, i thought I had finally found my calling in life, how i wanted to spend the rest of my days, even if nothing spectacular came out of it. Now I'm not wishing to die but im not running from death, if it comes it'll probably be the only freedom i get in life at this point. Just recently almost died,got jumped and held at gunpoint, the only thing that was in my head at times, was this is it, I'll be seeing God or something beautiful in my passing. No more of this shitty life here with shitty people
@@ywaern Take mushrooms
@@Ryan88881 i don't know anyone that even does mushrooms, besides bruh my life psychedelic enough, i need a better environment honestly
@@ywaern Kind of strange that your "life can be psychedelic (enough)" and at the same time don't know anyone who does that. Care to explain how that works? Like genuinely. Also I would concede (meaning partially agree here) that it's not really psychedelia in particular that's needed, but really; hope and a "lifting up" that you need and that's why I said mushrooms specifically. The silver-lining drug. Also environmental enrichment is a lot easier when you have that extra push because depression causes a physical 'slowness' in thinking and behavior too which by its own consequences basically prolongs the cycle of depression by limiting environmental enrichment and socially mixing it up and getting out more or changing of scenery. In fact that was how antidepressants in general were originally designed and put to market for, was short-term combating against this 'slowness' of depression that prolongs the cycle, not for "maintenance" which is how they tended to be marketed and prescribed now. And doctors are almost never informed on this nuance which is why it keeps happening.
Virtually every man has thought that or been conditioned to think that. It's very real, salute
Everyone is these comments is talking about how depression exist yet everyone fails to realize he only became depressed when he wasn’t doing what he wanted in life and couldn’t. Many people that have depression have it because of that exact reason and I’m a prime example of that. Depression is real however it can be suppressed when instilling a good work ethic and when making progress in your life. Truth be told it is just another excuse for failure and if that’s fine by you by all means stay depressed but if your looking for something more you truly don’t have time for it.
@@boysfromtheshack4458for some people yes but for people like myself and countless others its not as clear cut as you try to make it. For some it has nothing to do with success, failure or work ethic for some its hereditary, others its chemical imbalance. There have been many successful people with amazing work ethics who are doing what they want/love who are severely depressed (clinically) & leave this earth because its not something you can shake by just work ethic and doing what you want/love. Don’t downplay it and say its an excuse when not all cases of depression are similar or the same as yours was.
@@boysfromtheshack4458Thank you. A while ago I noticed that my most unhappy days were Sundays. I examined why Sundays were so much worse than the tower days and I realized that it's because its my easiest day. If everyday is somewhat difficult then you will almost never feel sad
@@boysfromtheshack4458 Depression extends far past work ethic and life purpose. Thats your experience and his but not everyone else's. Reminds me of my favorite local artist, made an album about both of his parents passing. He tried to suppress those feelings with work, and his depression only continued to spiral. Even with all the money and fame he's constantly achieving he couldn't out work those problems. It will come for you. Purpose can be one part of depression its certainly not the end all. Thats an over statement, I had it for the exact reason dealing with deaths and family health. It can be a cause of failure at some point, but its far from the main excuse for why people can fail! There's far more nuance to what you're saying. Depression is not linear, its certainly a spectrum of things.
@@boysfromtheshack4458there's different forms and severity and also different causes of depression. If you don't know what you are talking about it's usually better to just listen.
Thank God! So many regular people have been being traumatized because people see depression, anxiety and other mental health issues as excuses. Glad he's using his platform and especially as a black man to express this deeply rooted issue.🙏🏾❤️💯🙋🏾
Been in bed since 9pm. It's 4am now. Acknowledging that this content is reality. 😢
This needs to be shared frfr depression is serious man
everything is a lesson blessing or. protection. can't see a rainbow or flowers without rain first. never trip about something out of your control💚💯
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Not to be that guy but you can totally see a rainbow without rain 🤣
Love how depression is dismissed by everybody until they go through it themselves, two thirds of the population experience it and we still out here thinking it’s not real until you actually get got 😊
The sleep is so bittersweet. You’re always feeling fatigued but you use sleep as an escape mechanism at the same time. Then you wake up feeling guilty because you slept your day away and did nothing, ushering in a little more depression, then you just repeat the cycle. It takes a lot of time and will power to turn it around.
I have been there. To many men ignore this because they think it makes them look weak. But if you don’t address it, It will slowly kill you.
Proud of you for addressing this. We need more talking about it. Thanks
Men don’t think it makes you look weak it is just that you have to do something about it as men. You can cry as a man but you have to do something or work towards a solution. People need to stop with the fake men don’t do this because woman’s response. Men are about problem solving and getting the issue dealt with not just saying I don’t want to look weak.
His honesty in speaking is very admirable.
I’m glad we live in a world where we can talk about mental health. It’s an invisible enemy.
It means so much to see that I'm not alone in this fight with depression its also really inspiring seeing my fellow men in the comments being open about their struggles with mental health we got this fellas keep fighting ✊
we are all here, it's hard for everyone, my grandpa didn't make it, but nonetheless my dad and I came out on top
take strength from everyone, those that lose, those that win and those that are still fighting
i’m not a man, but as someone with chronic depression, i’m rooting for all of y’all. as heavy as the topic is, it’s heartwarming to see so much support for one another’s mental health in these comments, i hope that more people see these things and are able to find that openness with themselves.
Knee surgery was definitely depressing! Feeling stuck laying in bed cant move or do nothing under your own will power will make you feel empty & useless
Or it can be a chance to reevaluate your life and make peace with yourself, choose a direction that’s best for you, depression to me is like Ghost, doesn’t affect you if you don’t believe in it, laying on your back gives you perspective in life, and a reminder that nothing is permanent. You either plan ahead or end up on your back. Basically it’s about how you choose to deal with the situation.
Yeah I tore my acl couldn't play ball and I was more pissed than anything. I was just mad all the time
@@emperorgreene2440Shut up. If I removed your happy chemicals in your brain, something intrinsic to your biology ,you’re done. And you will try and try in futility until you happens to wash over you like a metaphorical wave. Everyone talks about solutions like you can logic your way out of depression.
That's a fact I felt like that after surgery for sure was pullin my hair out
@@desmondmcphail4434 taking them first steps without crutches i was like a excited toddler again “look! Look! I can walk on my own” was pressed to show the therapist next day😅
sadness is a normal feeling everyone gets when something in life goes wrong. depression is sadness even when everything is going great.
Everything can't be going "great". You have to be sad about something. Even if its something as simple as being able to enjoy your money, health, family etc. Something keeps you in depression.
@@manoftomorrow5987yeah, it's mental illness that's keeping u there
@@manoftomorrow5987 no my man thats not correct at all. speaking from my own personal experiences and other close to me you coudlnt be more wrong. but hey i guess you just know my life better than me huh?
@@kallen5064 so you're just walking around depressed for NO REASON at all in life?! Mannnn...I find that so hard to believe man. Reasons such as: no true friends, family drama, want something, no feeling adequate enough etc. Nothing at all?!
@@manoftomorrow5987 just because you don’t understand something doesnt mean its not real bubba. you’re talking about sadness it’s different. clearly you arent gonna understand so this is a waste of time have a good day pal:)
It doesn’t matter how much money you have. When your mental health is impaired, you just have to work at healing everyday. I experience ptsd, anxiety and depression and part of it was my unwillingness to accept that depression is real.
This is the realist video about depression that I have heard in my life 🙏
May God bless you and your family my brother 👊
People who fail to understand it are who irritate me the most when it comes to personally dealing with that kind of mental struggle. They tell you to get over it, snap out of it, ask you why you’re depressed all of the time. They don’t realize it just doesn’t work that way. It’s always the worst when you have moments where you feel fine, then out of nowhere it just takes over you again, and you just can’t shake it as it lasts for days. I’ve been pushed to a lot of breaking points. Especially, this year as I suffered a heart attack months ago. Never felt more helpless in my life upon initial recovery. Now, my life isn’t going to be the same because of it as I now have to survive off of pills for the rest of this life I got left. Talk about pain. Depression can eat you alive. People still think it’s not real? Everything about this very much so is
Society is filled with narcissists. The real threats are the dark empaths they are the ones that keeps draining positivity on every person specially the people who choose to endure negativity.
I believe there’s a natural remedy for most things . I have a few things … one being adhd and I refuse to be on pills forever. So I’ve found solutions . You NEED to i is the same is true for you baby! And most importantly I hope you have a real faith or belief in something outside of yourself! There are so many things we don’t know about that we think is fact that’s actually real.. God, manifesting , meditation….. so much . Start small and watch how life surprises you. It’s fun. Buuuut like guy above most people don’t believe me when I tell them. I accidentally found out when I was depressed as a pre teen. Now I see all over social media what I inadvertently found out as a child . Please , please, please , please , please start with your mind!! It lies to you to protect you. Fu$k that sh&t and try some other things you think aren’t real! It’s one hell of a ride - I PROMISE you. You’re gonna feel sad again, you’re gonna be depressed again… you just have to KNOW you can get out of it and it’s not forever. Feel it and research , divulge in whatever is the core problem and then kick its mf’n ass every chance you get ! You just gotta know that it’s okay to not be okay and it’s okay to fail everyday . Just don’t internalize it as your worth and how life is supposed to be/feel like . ❤ you!!! 😊
And poverty makes it worse
@AmberG777 it's okay to fail every day. Damn thanks for that, I needed to hear it
@@ashleymccready978 😘😘😘😘😘 Of course ! And thank you as well. I like to believe we go through things to make it easier for those who may later endure the same .
Depression makes every day tasks feel like the hardest thing in the world.
I felt this 💯 % still got my Christmas decorations up 😭
exactly
Glad to hear his lived experience ❤❤
Depression can look so different sometimes 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Lack of interest in things
Sleeping too much
Sleeping too little
Anger/Irritability
Sadness/Crying
Hopelessness
Memory loss
Time Loss (Zoning out)
Hard to concentrate
Lack of appetitie
Eating too much
No longer showering/brushing your teeth/grooming yourself
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Its very real!!
People think mental health issues are overblown till they deal with it themselves. My stepmom used to think panic attacks were just worrying too much. Then when she had one for real, she thought she was having a heart attack and was going to die.
Facts I realized growing up in Chicago was trauma. The thing is I did not even realize it until I found myself emotionally unstable. I then realized that how most of us from the city grew up was traumatic. Then I lost the love of my life in March and it left me alone, alone to deal with my grief and most of all, to deal with my unhealed wounds.
🙏🙏🙏
Shit really crazy. Especially when you gotta duck from bullets and don’t even know if they tryna hit you or not. The ones you trust the most be the ones gone. I’m praying you heal up good!
@@ennisbolden7977 Facts it becomes normal and it's sad. Thank you I'm keeping my head up 🙏
Your points are valid but it's not a city or Chicago thing. It's a systematic thing.
I said what I said and it's my truth period. Everyone has their own individual story.
Sometimes we have to go thru something to find out 💯
The fact that it takes him a sec to remember when says enough. A lot of my childhood is blacked out, when I think back I see nothing. I know there’s things there but I can only remember being in such a dark place. Take care of yourself 💗
I so feel this. So exhausted, but you wake up at 3 am thinking about everything you ever did wrong/was done wrong to you, and you cant shut your brain down. Then rinse and repeat for months or years, until you can barely function.
“No one gets it until it happens to them” I thought depression was an excuse too until I got depressed! For people going through depression godbless. Just pray, and put god first you’ll get through it let go and let god.
fuck outa here with that shit
🙌🏽God bless🙌🏽
@@isaaccarter8487 godbless!
It’s not real.
🙏🏾 amen
DEPRESSION IS REAL AS FUXX🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿 BLESSINGS TO WHOEVER STRUGGLING
Idk why it’s so hard to successful people to not believe in depression lol
Depression is the single worst thing a person can have - because no matter what happens you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel
I thought it was fake too. Now I know better. ✊🏿🙏🏿
Respect to those who humble themselves
Thank you for being vocal about this 💚💚💚
I have been depressed most of my life 😢
But through a closer relationship with God, I've recently learned how to control my thoughts, and not let my current situation get the best of me.
What has helped me?
Uplifting 🙃 music
Meditation
Talking to God/myself
Listened to Wayne Dyer
Listen to gospel songs
Stayed in a calm peaceful environment
Reassure myself that I'm worth it
Admired who I was on the inside
Affirmations daily
Changed the people I was around
Soo much more, but it helped!!
Life still kicks your azz at times, but all that work, you won't stay in that low vibrational state 😢
Depression ain’t a thing to fw
Nah fr
everything is a lesson blessing or. protection. can't see a rainbow or flowers without rain first. never trip about something out of your control💚💯
Real shit💯
Went through it for 4 years.. almost died in 2019, literally falling apart,. Lost control of my biles_ pissing in bag, sh***ing on sheets, found out I had developed a irregular heart beat.. To over that Beast was my GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENTS!!!!.. Shed so Many Tears
@@ninjazay7245i know you only commented that exact statement already.
We came up with the mentality that being vulnerable is weakness. I beoke that cycle with my sons and myself.
Those who feel it, know it🙏🏿😢
A weird effect when that happens is like he said, walking down the stairs. When it's happened to me and I've been out of action for days or a week or so, I'd finally get up and walk down the stairs and my legs were weak, I'd almost fall, and I'd be out of breathe just going up and down stairs, even if you're still managing to eat, your body wastes away along with your mind.
Very inspirational witness. POWERFUL
I love how he’s actually talking about this because a lot of us really be hurting out here and just close up cause us to burn internally.it’s really a topic that’s not really touched Intimately
This is how I felt about anxiety now it's borderline crippling at times
I feel you man i cut my hair off with scissors all my life ive watched the woman who created me pick a man over me who consistently treated her like nothing i felt as if was an option that had to be dealt with i got kicked out for speaking my truth but hey man it is what it is
everything is a lesson blessing or. protection. can't see a rainbow or flowers without rain first. never trip about something out of your control💚💯
Went through the same thing with mine and we don’t currently speak rn but I think that’s for the better cause sometimes your own family can be the ones to bring you down
I'm sadden to hear that, I know that doesn't feel good. Unfortunately, some of us don't see our value, so we let others decide. And that can have a negative impact on the offspring or other love ones in our life. I'll say an extra prayer for you and your mom so that she can realize her worth and yours and that when that time comes that you'll be ready to receive it. 🙏🏿💓 & @prodbysmokalot2250
@@ninjazay7245you really copied and pasted that from your initial comment man😂
How's it going now
High achievers suffer the most because we can’t believe what’s happening to us. Coming out of a cycle right now and it was like losing my identity every day
what?
High achievers suffer the most ?
Seems you don't think about others often.. sounds like narcissism & or ego talking there.
Agreed, don’t mind the under achievers getting butthurt.
@@xp1446 😂😂
the replies to your comment are another example of how high achievers suffer the most - we have butthurt under-achievers to fend off as well
Be grateful for what you’ve been given in this life, and show that through actions. Put care where YOU want and take care of your body and it will take care of you.
The simple fact that men are talking about mental wellness is so uplifting. Having worked in the mental health field, so many cultures view mental health issues as "fake", "excuses", etc. Or a lack of having faith. You can be depressed, ha e anxiety and be in prayer everyday. The ability to recognize there's an issue and get the help is everything. Yet, not beat yourself up for going through it.
People wonder why Andrew Luck retired after becoming reinjured. The most difficult part about rehab after an injury is the mental toll it takes. Depression is a very powerful force
Depression will hit you in its own special way.
thank you for recognising it for what it is. I hope you are healing.
Sadly you never know till you go through it and I would never wish it on anyone.
I started working at a mental health facility and EMS right out of high school and saw how the other staff treated the residents believing they were faking it for attention. After reading files, spending 12 hour shifts for 3 months with all age groups, I went home and spoke to my father about the war induced PTSD that he struggled with and I'd just learned of. I told him of those we'd found who'd taken their own lives and he hugged me and said "that's all I saw at your age".
RIP, Navy Officer of Vietnam War.
Same with anxiety… I used to think people who said they had that were just making excuses or seeking attention until I experienced it at a high level .
I learned the meaning of anxiety without any context ,explanation, or definition
Ill never forget the moment it clicked and I said “ wow, this feeling I’m feeling is what anxiety is, I get it now”
I swear this happened to me! My medical doctor is the one who clued me in! Asked me if I had anxiety? And I was automatically about to say no and she stopped me. She asked me some more questions , I answered them and she was like that's anxiety! I was like 👀.
This is a man 😤💜💪🏾👍🏾
I know from the second I open my eyes if I’m slipping back in to depression, it’s a feeling only people who have suffered it will understand
It’s more amazing to me that he went all those years without it 🙌🏽
right lol
Unfortunately, especially with men, we don’t acknowledge issues in our emotions and environment until we’re out in a situation where we can’t escape it and it just compounds the issues further. Thank you for speaking on it.
Humility is a great thing to have
Depression is so real. It hurts my heart when someone is depressed especially a child. 😢
Love bug, it’s real! Really real. Excruciatingly real. Now what are you going to do to reconcile spiritually, relationally, and emotionally? No judgement. Just a rhetorical question to ponder. Prayers lifted up for you, to you and with you Black King 👑 ❤
Former athlete who still works out everyday I am currently going through this started having weird pains and spasms in my back and I haven’t been able to lift I feel incomplete
You will continue to grow and transform my brother.
Im really sorry man. I had back problems really early on in my working out phase and for a few years I was depressed. I know how much it sucks. Physiotherapy is your best option to get to the road of recovery.
💯 Some ppl that are super confident have had trouble understanding depression from my experience. I for one fully understand as I was a victim up it for a long while. To my ppl facing it you can't truly get through it until you become confrontational with what really held you up. Stay up 🫡
I’ve always been super confident but to think depression is fake I could never do that because I know how this universe works and when you think something like that is fake and you look down on people who are really going through that shit, you best believe it’s gonna come full circle and happen to your ass too. And I always understood that
He comes across sincere, I give him that!
I believe wholeheartedly now those who cruise through life facing no resistance, are actually the most unlucky ones. The truly lucky ones are those who have experienced, and been able to comprehend the adversity that has come their way
Depression for me is a monster that is constantly lurking within me waiting for a chance to take over. Its the constant voice in my head telling me I am not good enough and never will be and that I should just off myself. It never really goes away fully, just like alcoholism its just waiting for you to fuck up. Don't be afraid to ask for help, no one will think less of you and if they do f em.
I was like that as well…I couldn’t understand depression and anxiety. Thinking it was just something ppl say. I am 45 and depression is REAL. It just didn’t hit me until my late thirties-Early 40s.
You don’t understand depression until you go through it, I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, it’s the worst feeling ever, I remember I was so depressed one time that I’d wake up only once a day just to drink water and I would go back to sleep, I lost my job, I didn’t shower, I had to give my dog to my sister and they sent people over to my place to check up on me every 2 days and they tried to help me but I just couldn’t do anything for a good 3 months, I’m still struggling, everyday is a struggle but I’m still here fighting for my old life back.
This is an example of God humbling you
to anyone still saying its fake I'm glad you haven't hsd to experience it, I've seen grown people with lots of friends and achievements get dragged down into the deep of it and never be the same
Depression isn't fake, people fake depression.
*Ben Simmons enters the chat*
Exactly, it’s real but a lot of people that love playing victim use it as an excuse
100% but those people have no idea what depression is like
Exactly. Well said
Only a clinical psychologist can determine if the depression is real or fake. It’s dangerous for an untrained “expert” to tell someone that they aren’t really depressed.
What a blessing it must be to feel depression isn’t real!
My mom didn’t think depression and anxiety were real until she saw how it destroyed me. I was formally diagnosed eventually. I’m somewhat better now but some days are still really hard for me to get up and find motivation.
Taking a man’s livelihood away from him is akin to killing him
*purpose
No I meant livelihood bro
Wives do that.