2 Dads Open Up On What It's Like To Have Twins By Surrogate | TODAY
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- TODAY followed Rique Uresti and Antonio Matres, a gay couple living in New York City, as they traveled to Alabama for the birth of their twins, in this firsthand look at how surrogacy helped make their parenthood dreams a reality.
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What It's Like To Have A Baby By Surrogate: Two Dads Open Up | TODAY
"I'm extreme babysitting" thats a funny way to put it lol
Hahaha that’s a new one!!
Ikr, but kinda true... If you think about it.
That what I would say I just babysitting lol 😂
i extreme babysat my surrobaby i took him home
These women are awesome who give birth to children for other people.
And the ones that donate their eggs, too.
they're weird AF
@@amberthemua2015 ???
They get money foir it, isn't it?
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Absolutely beautiful. I wish you all the very best for the future .
Alan Rhodes where is Antonio’s parents and rique’s parents
Alan Rhodes where is their grandparents and aunts uncles
Can we do a where are they now follow up
@hhhk20 f off you're not relevant
hhhk20 lmao and you think there aren’t kids raised by straight parents who aren’t afflicted by mental issues 😂
My mom was a surrogate 3 times and I commend her for taking on that route. She blessed these families with their own little bundle of joy. It wasn't easy to see certain family disapprove of her choice to do so. But I always encouraged my mom when it came to this.
of course she did it from pure heart and for free.
Was it purely altruistic or commercial?
Bless the surregate mother. She gave couple the greatest gifts ever. She will always be a part of their life story❤. Congrats with two precious and sweet bundles of joy dudes 🎉❤💙
She's the carrier not the mother.
@hhhk20 So... I guess I have a serious mental disorder? Who wants children of her own?
Alright, boomer.
hhhk20 I mean maybe they won’t suffer a long life of misery. You never know what’s gonna happen.
hhhk20 I mean if people would just change their train of thought maybe people would stop being against homosexual relationships.
@Caitlyn A she's always the mother, that's biology. They'll likely want to know her when they grow up. Biological parents are sometimes not the ones who bring up children, but the kids thrive if the 2 "parents" love each other and love the child.
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Bravo, gentlemen. I'll be the (single) father of twins through surrogacy very soon. It's quite a journey indeed. I wish you and your beautiful babies all the best life can offer. :)
Mark East Congratulations That’s so exciting!! Good luck to you and your family 💞
@Andrew Walton I did a lot of soul-searching just to embark upon this journey and a lot more along the way. Believe me-- I've asked myself those questions a hundred times, and as you can see I made the leap, so the positives clearly outweighed the negatives. Will my kids (now four months old) have questions as they get older and notice that they don't have a mommy like other kids? Yep. Will I be honest with them every single time they ask those questions? Yep. Will they be surrounded by love in all of its forms for their whole lives? If I have anything to say about it-- yes indeed!
There are a lot of forms of "family", Andrew-- and frankly, your narrow definition doesn't really matter to me or my kids in the grand scheme of things. Thanks for taking a massive life-changing decision and reducing it to some unsolicited criticism in the form of a RUclips comment, though. You're really giving back to the world. 👍🏻
@Andrew Walton men and women don't actually bring anything different to parenting, only different parents do. I was raised without my father and I'm not struggling. What matters is a stable home and quite a lot of the time a single parent can be more stable than a couple because you dont have the threat if arguments and break ups
Congratulations on becoming a new daddy.
Milka - Americus Thanks! It’s been pretty amazing so far.
Here in Bulgaria it's forbidden by the low to have a child by surrogate mother ;( It is so unfair since I have a problem and can't have children. I wish my boyfriend to be able to become a father. It's his dream and he left it because of me ;( I pray one day to change the low and see him being a father ;( Actually I can get pregnant but I can't carry the child for more than 2 months. If the surrogate was allowed probably I also could have my own child ;( This low, isn't it a discrimination of people with reproductive problems?!
I think you would have to have it in an agency abroad.
@@fla8623 it's too costly
Adoption is also an option on the table, honey.
I want to do this but I want me and boyfriend to have kids at the same time by the same women. Same surrogate. It’s my dream but it’s probably very expensive
Just be straight.
@hhhk20 facts
Jeremiah Tray why be homophobic when you could just be quiet
I really hope you and your boyfriend can have kids some day 🙂🏳️🌈
@@zidan9255 How can they?
"I'm extreme babysitting" I love her attitude!
The daddies are really cute
Idk why but I’m so emotional 😭 watching this. I hope one day I can experience having a partner so supportive.
Egg from one woman, uterus from another woman, sperms from two different men ,two babies. When these babies will grow up, they will not get a mother in their lives. I can not imagine without my mother. When other kids will celebrate mothers day, they will wonder how their mother look like.
What a dumb response. Do you say the same thing when orphans are trying to get adopted? Having additional parental figures seems like a win- win to me!
agreed. They will finder out she shipped them off to never know the kindness of a mother. I wouldn't be who I am if I only had a mother or two of them. there is no balance here. they are half siblings who share something that will never be in there home
Whilst I have no doubt these 2 men will love these children I just feel its so wrong and selfish maybe to bring children into the world who will grow up without the nuture and love of their mother. Children are meant to have a mum and a dad thats how nature and God intended it. Man and Women make them and raise them.. its natural and its normal but deliberately leaving out mum is not.... Yes there are plenty of broken homes where one parent is missing or both even but its not normally planned that way . Male and female bring balance in a way 2 men cant because none of them can be mum and a child should not have to grow up without its mother .. it may be legal but is it fair and right for the children,, The only concession I see is that the children will be loved and yes that is huge but no mum does mean the children miss out on a hugely important mentor in their lives.
The fact that one of the babies is biologically linked to each father is honestly irrelevant, they will love both children equally no matter what.
This is incredibly beautiful! The babies are so adorable!
So happy for them! It’s so selfless to carry babies for someone else. When she spoke about how it was exciting to help them by carrying the babies but didn’t think about the actually child birth part, that’s where I would be like I don’t know if I can do it. I would to help someone give them the gift of life but after having my son I don’t ever want to go through labor again even for myself lol.
I love my LGBT+ community! Me and my gf are long distance right now. But I can see a future with her. I want my everything with her. I'm just glad the community has come so far that we have the freedom to do this and other opportunities! I'm so happy for these amazing daddies!
Every child should have a mother and a father. Depriving a child of that should not be done on purpose to satisfy what adults want.
Its possible to make progress towards something bad.
It will be much easier for y’all I’m sure. 2 moms churns out kids a lot easier then 2 dads. And maybe consider a 3rd or 4th? Just cause of the birthing crisis we need more kids and if you have love to give and finances a plenty 3rd or 4ths would be very beneficial to society ❤
@@bilboblaggins7659yes,it’s impossible to make progress in life with bad things
This is a total mess
I love how she can keep her feelings separate they will always be a part of her though still 🥺
I am hitting back the tears... but they pour on my keyboard! This is truly a most beautiful thing. May both dads be blessed in raising these perfect babies...
How much everything cost including fertilization, surrogacy and attorneys for having a twin?
Ich Heise Danye A LOT!
They likely had to- pay the egg donor, pay the surrogate, pay the medical bills for the surrogate Bc often times insurance won’t help since she’s technically not their immediate family, pay the cost to fertilize and insert the eggs, pay the legal fees to are sure that those babies are theirs, pay the hospital to deliver the babies including for a c-section, plus the cost of actually having children, and many other costs.
may the universe bless her for eternity. :)
Rique and Antonio are such great dads already. Ashley and all the other surrogate women are amazing human beings. Adorable babies and i hope they are all still doing well!!
They're such great dads, they've intentionally made their child motherless.
Congratulations!
I literally teared up when I heard the baby’s first cry and seeing the dad get emotional, such beautiful moment!! May your family be blessed.
WHAT AN ANGEL THAT WOMAN IS!!!!! GOD ALMIGHTY! AND WHAT ANGELS THESE DAD'S ARE FOR THEIR BABY ANGELS!
I’m pretty sure this is how I’m having kids one day
Very well done educational. Thanks to all involved. I will show this to others as it's is said and shown best here. Wow!😃 Congratulations dad's, children, surrogate = FAMILY
If I ever have healthy babies of my own I will definitely be looking into becoming a surrogate mother. I think giving the gift of life to someone else who can't have them is the most beautiful thing ever. God bless these two babies, the surrogate mother, and the dads
So amazing, so beautiful
Awweeeee I am crying .sooooo sweet bless you all😘
@hhhk20 the kids have normal parents they look kind and loving and that they'll fight the hardest for their kids like an parents
WOW! This is such a heart warming story. I'm so happy for the dad's. Congrats!
God bless the surrogate mum and all surrogates
The best part is the fact that these men 👬 🌈 got boy 👦 and girl 👧 twins, I love 💗 this video!
Why don’t they adopt? At this point it is all about them instead of the children.
Congrates! those babies are going to be so loved and have such a happy life.
@Odiesmom But what happens when they get older and start asking questions like where’s their mother? This has been a fear of mine about having children via a surrogate. Children are very smart especially as they grow older.
@@redsox1935 I don't think they'd ask for a mom when they already have two loving parents. You cant miss what you've never had.
@@Ghost0emany adopted children long to meet their biologic parents. Many who grow up without a father long to have a father. So it is not true that you can’t miss what you never had…
@@Moving_Forward247 as someone with TWO absent fathers, I dont miss him, my mom made up for it LOL
Nothing like seeing someone happy 🥰🥰🥰
I had 3 children and my first without an epidural and the other two with an epidural. My first labor I was young and had no clue about the pain and when I finally asked for something for pain my doctor said I'm too far now to receive an epidural so they just gave me some pain medication which is like a morphine and it definitely makes it harder for your infant to take that first breathe. It took some hard pats on back but you could definitely tell something was not right and you can hear the doctor stress and panic as he patting my son and saying come on buddy breathe. Thank God he did. But my biggest fear when I was pregnant the other 2 times was that what if I get an epidural and it doesn't work. I mean that happens like it did here. But yea to get an epidural and not work and labor is the worst pain I ever been through in my life.
I think it’s really good they had twins.... so at any given time both dads can hold a baby at the same time😘
Awww that's a sweet thought
Wonder how they are gonna feel when they get older and learn they have a mother somewhere who is remaining anonymous to them. Not great i imagine.
@@bilboblaggins7659 at least they know they’ve been born and raised with love Vs a lot of children who are put into the care system because they’re an accident
@@stevenparker3952 accident is one thing doing something on purpose quite another
this is beautiful. this is pure love. the smiles on their faces were so big. this woman is an angel on earth
God bless those babies- Saint Michael The Archangel protect them 🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️🇵🇱🇵🇱⛪️⛪️⛪️⛪️🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_(archangel)
Do they have any page or ig to follow.. The babies are adorable
How absolutely marvelous. What a beautiful happening.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. This is so very special and wonderful.
That little prince nursery though!!
congrats to these dads♥️ hope they're doin well
The babies are beautiful! 😍
May God bless all the surrogates
Yes. Surrogates are a blessing from God indeed. Unfortunately not a cheap option, but I'm sure it's worth it.
However you become a parent is fine with me BUT I hope all parents realize that parenting doesn't stop at 18, and every child deserves a good start into adulthood. It hurts my heart when I see kids having to pay for their own post-secondary education - parents pay it, you brought them into this world and you had 18 years to save. Also, giving them a good start to life means getting them a car, helping them with wedding expenses, and also helping with a down payment for their first place. It surprises how many parents just parent up to 18 and that's it. You know all of this when your child is born - there are expenses related to not only their childhood years (0-17) such as activities, sports, etc. I get that not everyone can afford it but why bring children into this world if you cannot provide them with opportunities to succeed???!!??! In those situations, it's very selfish but if you can provide those opportunities to succeed, then it's selfless.
fanofmany71 wow hit it right on the dot
Lol nope sorry. Those are things you work for as adults.
fanofmany71 Being s good parent means teaching your child to stand on their own feet. Mollycoddling your child is not teaching your child to be self sufficient as an adult or teach them if they want things in life they must work for it themselves. All these attitudes is teaching Your child to be selfish and your teaching your child that mum and dad is a bottomless walking bank. There is nothing wrong with kids making their own way in life. For example I wanted riding lessons as the eldest of four daughters my parents couldn’t afford it, the solution I went out and worked for my riding lessons at the age of fourteen. Never did me any harm, has taught me to be responsible, independent and self respect and self pride. Kids need to learn to be independent young adults who are responsible for themselves.
When I grew up I never had any toy. No luxuries but at least my mum sent me to best school she could afford and college paid 2 years tuition and board. After that I was on my own, 3rd year worked as paid Intern, earning enough to complete my degree. I never resented that. In fact m grateful. I think she gave me enough to start my life.
Never expected her to pay for my car, downpayment for my apartment. That sounds ridiculous to me.
I'm sorry but no parent pays for their kids university tuition when it is the child's choice on whether they go or not. And parents are not entitled to buying children a car if they di its because they can dn they want to. That attitude creates entitled generation that think that their parents will pay for eveyrhutng and they will not learn about how much of a slippery slope it is and how hard being at rock bottom is
They will make such great dads!!!
What a beautiful family.
got soooo emotional while watching whole video
I'm in a similar boat to them, I want to have children, but I may have to find a surrogate as I'm not in a relationship but I want children.....I'd rather if I can find a partner, but eventually if I have to go it alone I'll try looking into a way to become a dad.
Happeniss and happy all the time
Things I couldn't do. Sell a part of me to strangers to then raise and then raise not they way I'd hope for. Culture and traditions are GONE. Theres 500k kids in fostercare why are we getting paid to make kids but not taking on the kids for people who can never have one?
surregate mother.s are iconics.
Twins is always risky, so why did they place more than one embryo? Preeclampsia is high blood pressure due to pregnancy and can be serious, nothing "normal" about that. Oh and now she needs a c section which is major abdominal surgery. All so that two men who decided to be in a relationship without a woman could have two kids in one sitting with each man being the father to one of the kids. Obscene.
I think the surrogate mother should get paid way more!
12:30 You shouldn't kiss a baby on the mouth, you may not know that you've got cold sores/herpes and if you'd pass that on to a baby the baby may become severely disabled for life.
Lovely family! How do deal with issues regarding race? Are you teaching the twins that their family is unique having a white dad and a black dad?
Amazing incredible journey for the both of U
Amazing moments like this can't be less emotional than it has to be
I also want a baby of my own, how to get contact information,
It’s heartwarming to see this cute couple achieving the ideal family they’ve wanted❤
Amazing but can we talk number it’s very expensive
My wish is to surrogate have twin babies one baby boy, and baby girl. I wish that come true.
That is such a beautiful story
Wow. She is a Saint. Soo selfless.
Does anyone know: if you use a surrogate and have twins, is the cost twice as much? Just curious how that works..
This is giving me goosebumps, Me and my bf are doing this… and we go to the same hospital Baptist east in Montgomery
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What truly blessed babies to be so loved wanted and adored!
Nothing for Nothing, I assume she’s laughing her way to the bank 🤣, However, as long as those innocent babies are safe and get the love and guidance to mould them in in a decent abiding citizen that’s all that matters,
But what are the babies a boy and girl?
Science is amazing.
GREAT VIDEO
This video was beautiful!❤
What if the surrogate mom drinks during pregnancy..?
then she is selfish
the exact same as if a nonsurrogate mother drank during pregnancy. that's just selfish.
Soooo happy for you. I am sure those two wonderfull children are going to have so love in there lives.
Beautiful babies 👶👶💕👍🌺💐
So emotional
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful story. Thank you to the two handsome gentlemen for sharing their gestational carrier story with us. I cant wait to start my own journey next summer.
wow such a emotional story.. May you guys and your lil cuties stay healthy and happy forever..
Congrats to you and ur family
Shame on you! Trafficking organs is illegal and so should be commercial child surrogacy. A child has the right to have his father and his mother. This is not about adults rights but about children's rights
How many eggs do y’all recommend to start the cycle?
10
Beautiful loving family ♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Wow 🥹❤️ my dream
Congrats!
The beauty the love and acceptance in this video makes my eyes water a little.
Literally, my heart is melting down 💛💛💜💜❤️❤️💚💚💚
Just wounded how much would it cost 😭😭😭
I want to be happy for them but the babies need the mother. She was sharing her blood with them. They need her.
Two beautiful babies. Congrats.. The surrogate is so kind at heart ❤️ ❤️ to do this.
Heart warming beyond belief ❤️
Wonderful story!
What about the Biological Mother. This isn’t what God intended. Children aren’t meant to be bought and sold like commodities. God forgive them!!
yesss i love being a surrogate
how much does it cost?
Awwwwe congrats!! 😍😍
I’m here cause I have baby fever 👶🏾👶🏾👶🏾
Edit: who wants to donate to help me pay for a Surrogate mother 😩😩😩
Why dont you adopt if you dont have the money?
Hassan Diallo Adoption isn’t as expensive, but it still costs a good chunk of money throughout the process.
zz zz well if he s broke it s not really a good idea to have a kid dont you think?
Update: me and my partner are in the process
Messiah ThomaZ Congrats mate 🎉🎉.May this work for you.keep up with the updates i want to know everything💎