Hey Cole, my wife and I practice with your videos daily, I have been "sober" since 2004 and society is so misinformed about addiction and that causes so much pain and keeps so many in the downward spiral. Stay strong, love your videos and your Yoga training!
One of the techs at the rehab I went to always said, secrets keep you sick. That is something that has stuck with me and not just in regard to addiction. Living honestly is the most freeing thing you can do. I am so happy I found your channel. I see your heart and I love it.
“Don’t abandon yourself when you need you the most... Keep your experience shared & flowing.... feeling our feelings, sharing our feelings.” 💖 so beautiful thank you
I actually cried when you brought the idea of not abandoning ourselfs. Really it a button of understanding so much stuff at the same time. I gess I needed to ear this. Thank you for the insit.
Hey Cole, Don't abandon yourself when you need you the most. Loved that, I have written it down and put it on mirror. Slipping and sliding has been my story this past 16 months. Thankfully, they have only lasted a day or two till I was back. Also forgive yourself and not be so hard on yourself. We will conqure this. Love and Light, Namaste......
Dear Sweet Cole.always there to share truth - universal human conditions- we tend to face individually. Lapse/Shame is unique to human species. As we grow the awareness is what gives the spirit us progress as
@@pamsunshine9233 thanks for your reply Pam. I'm fortunate to be introverted and highly sensitive by nature so Ive had a lifetime of preferring my own company .However,now at this stage I want to step out of my parotective habits and meet new people maybe a partner,its a big hill to climb.In the past pot has been my way of numbing my over active brain and served as a 'friend 'almost' in my aloneness. When I look at Coles success,how shes quit drinking,travelled the world and now has a great career and a loving partner,its a painful reminder of how Im struggling and how far I have to go.I think I was upset because I dont let myself feel how much this addiction has robbed me of my ability to move forward. Im pretty self aware so I realize all change start somewhere,I know I have to create things to fill the void and keep me distracted. Not sure if you have a similar struggle ?
@@Lisa-ly9cd Hello dear. I am also struggling with loneliness and eating disorder. I am also on my healing journey and yoga has been a great anchor. Wishing you all the best on your journey
Our addictions become so engrained. It is absolutely hard to let go and remember that there is and should be a grieving process as well. Be kind to you
Fantastic wisdom in this little 15 minute video! I think even professional counselors sometimes treat relapse as something that should be punished...I feel that is TOTALLY the wrong outlook, that will only encourage a deeper dive into the relapse and possibly and spiral out of control. Great advice Cole!
I relapsed and have used a few times since. I NEEDED THIS TALK. I will NOT ABANDON MYSELF! thank you for being you and sharing your beautiful messages! 💗💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
This is so helpful, honest and informative. The power of the addictive voice is an excellent metaphor that everyone can check with, with any sort of negative patterns. Thank you Cole.
Oh my goodness, Cole! This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I’ve been sober for 11 years and I relapsed recently. I started drinking and smoking pot regularly the last couple months. Today I realized what I’ve been doing and talked to my wife about it. I said all those things and felt all the shame. I needed to hear this, it’s not all lost, I just need to get back on the path!!! Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much Cole for being a part of recovery support as well. I enjoyed your videos before, but now I follow you because you offer wisdom and inspiration as well. Thank you for being so open and honest about your journey.
Thank you, you are giving me a lot of encouragement by giving me hope that I will be able to wean myself off the anti-anxiety drugs. What crap ... oops! ❤️🙏
I have this ugly habit that when I relapse I'll cut my eyebrow badly or do something to make myself ugly. It's bizarre I hate it. Hadn't done it in months and did it today after I smoked during work and felt the guilt/distracted mind. I thought I finally beat this behavior.
Our behaviors run deep. Often it takes quite a bit to shift them for a long term. Try care. Trying tending to yourself as well….you’ve it sounds like the shame route isn’t working 😢 (I tried that for a long time too!) it’s hard AND it’s possible
My cravings are gone but I'm scared that someday I'll fail or that they'll come back. I've been meditating and working on my goals but I'm afraid that one day I'll be at rock bottom again.
I don't know if its better to shift my awareness from the thoughts when they come up or if that's only pushing things down instead of dealing with them.
I think it's about finding a good balance (which is hard) of knowing that yes, release is possible so to stay close to practices and support that is helpful AND being able to fully live in your new life without all the stress! Be aware it's possible but don't let the fear run you, just keep you aware! Hope that helps
Hey Cole, my wife and I practice with your videos daily, I have been "sober" since 2004 and society is so misinformed about addiction and that causes so much pain and keeps so many in the downward spiral. Stay strong, love your videos and your Yoga training!
One of the techs at the rehab I went to always said, secrets keep you sick. That is something that has stuck with me and not just in regard to addiction. Living honestly is the most freeing thing you can do. I am so happy I found your channel. I see your heart and I love it.
It is it IS so grateful to live filterless these days
“Don’t abandon yourself when you need you the most... Keep your experience shared & flowing.... feeling our feelings, sharing our feelings.” 💖 so beautiful thank you
Thank you so much for your appreciation!
Thank you for the posts on relapse. I respect your non judge mental approach. It’s a bumpy road to sobriety for me.
I feel you. It was a tumultuous rollercoaster for me but I'm stubborn! Keep coming back and showing up for you ❤️💫
I actually cried when you brought the idea of not abandoning ourselfs. Really it a button of understanding so much stuff at the same time. I gess I needed to ear this. Thank you for the insit.
So glad it resonated and moved some emotion around. It's so important we know we've got our own back!
Hey Cole, Don't abandon yourself when you need you the most. Loved that, I have written it down and put it on mirror. Slipping and sliding has been my story this past 16 months. Thankfully, they have only lasted a day or two till I was back. Also forgive yourself and not be so hard on yourself. We will conqure this. Love and Light, Namaste......
Slipping and sliding is often part of our stories but it doesn't always have to be! Keep showing up for you ❤️💫
Dear Sweet Cole.always there to share truth - universal human conditions- we tend to face individually. Lapse/Shame is unique to human species. As we grow the awareness is what gives the spirit us progress as
so vital to remember that we are in this together!
I wish all shrinks could be as honest as you are, and that they wouldn't demonize relapse. Thank you so much for your words, they are SO helpful👃
I"m so grateful for your appreciation Karine and love that you resonated with this!
Cole! I am one year sober!!! I know what triggers me....I need to be aware, watch, notice, recognize...BOUNDARIES!!! Thank you Soul Sister 🌸🙏🧘♀️
Yes indeed! you got this love! and congratulations on your sobriety anniversary!!
Out of nowhere,I just broke down watching this.So many years using pot to fill my aloneness.I never knew it would be this hard to let it go.
How are you coping now? How do deal with loneliness?
@@pamsunshine9233 thanks for your reply Pam.
I'm fortunate to be introverted and highly sensitive by nature so Ive had a lifetime of preferring my own company .However,now at this stage I want to step out of my parotective habits and meet new people maybe a partner,its a big hill to climb.In the past pot has been my way of numbing my over active brain and served as a 'friend 'almost' in my aloneness.
When I look at Coles success,how shes quit drinking,travelled the world and now has a great career and a loving partner,its a painful reminder of how Im struggling and how far I have to go.I think I was upset because I dont let myself feel how much this addiction has robbed me of my ability to move forward.
Im pretty self aware so I realize all change start somewhere,I know I have to create things to fill the void and keep me distracted.
Not sure if you have a similar struggle ?
@@Lisa-ly9cd Hello dear. I am also struggling with loneliness and eating disorder. I am also on my healing journey and yoga has been a great anchor. Wishing you all the best on your journey
@@pamsunshine9233 wishing you strength and insight in your struggle.I am rooting for you.All the best.
Our addictions become so engrained. It is absolutely hard to let go and remember that there is and should be a grieving process as well. Be kind to you
Fantastic wisdom in this little 15 minute video! I think even professional counselors sometimes treat relapse as something that should be punished...I feel that is TOTALLY the wrong outlook, that will only encourage a deeper dive into the relapse and possibly and spiral out of control. Great advice Cole!
thanks! Glad it resonated! I believe there is wisdom to be sourced from it all....esp in the darker nooks + crannies
I relapsed and have used a few times since. I NEEDED THIS TALK. I will NOT ABANDON MYSELF! thank you for being you and sharing your beautiful messages! 💗💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your journey love, I see you and send you love and support Candace!
This is so helpful, honest and informative. The power of the addictive voice is an excellent metaphor that everyone can check with, with any sort of negative patterns. Thank you Cole.
Indeed! Thank you so much for joining me and im grateful to see this was supportive for you!
Day by day. Sending you positive energy. Enjoy your videos very much. Peace to you and yours
Day by day indeed! Thank you love peace and love to you too!
Oh my goodness, Cole! This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I’ve been sober for 11 years and I relapsed recently. I started drinking and smoking pot regularly the last couple months. Today I realized what I’ve been doing and talked to my wife about it. I said all those things and felt all the shame. I needed to hear this, it’s not all lost, I just need to get back on the path!!! Thank you 🙏
I'm so glad this resonated and found you when you needed to hear it! We ALWAYS have an opportunity to begin again @ any moment - keep going!
I relapse with depression and anxiety and feel a burden to my Son. I often think about relapsing with my sobriety but I am strong 💪🙏
Really great job with this video connecting the neuuroscience, emotion, yoga and some great functiona pragmatic tips. Thank you!
Thank you! Glad it was threaded nicely!
Thank you so much Cole for being a part of recovery support as well. I enjoyed your videos before, but now I follow you because you offer wisdom and inspiration as well. Thank you for being so open and honest about your journey.
I appreciate that! Thank you so much for making me a part of your journey love!
@ 5:05 - got me feeling like this channel will help me help myself more. Thank you! Interested 2 dive in deeper
Thank you so much Cole, this is really helpfull💕✨🙏
Glad it was helpful!
Well said
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Very very informative and helpful video. This will actually help me. Thanks
Glad it was helpful! Hope to see you back here again ;)
Thank you, you are giving me a lot of encouragement by giving me hope that I will be able to wean myself off the anti-anxiety drugs. What crap ... oops! ❤️🙏
I know how hard that is but you can do it! How's it going?
Aloha Cole 🤙🏻 I really love your videos...I am also in recovery
Welcome to the journey of recovery and i'm so grateful to be a part of your journey!
I have this ugly habit that when I relapse I'll cut my eyebrow badly or do something to make myself ugly. It's bizarre I hate it. Hadn't done it in months and did it today after I smoked during work and felt the guilt/distracted mind. I thought I finally beat this behavior.
Our behaviors run deep. Often it takes quite a bit to shift them for a long term. Try care. Trying tending to yourself as well….you’ve it sounds like the shame route isn’t working 😢 (I tried that for a long time too!) it’s hard AND it’s possible
Would love to engage in your next course emerge! Unfortunately missed it this time around but will be ready for the next
Thank you love! Keep updated on my socials! ready to join you on the next Emerge!
My cravings are gone but I'm scared that someday I'll fail or that they'll come back. I've been meditating and working on my goals but I'm afraid that one day I'll be at rock bottom again.
I don't know if its better to shift my awareness from the thoughts when they come up or if that's only pushing things down instead of dealing with them.
I think it's about finding a good balance (which is hard) of knowing that yes, release is possible so to stay close to practices and support that is helpful AND being able to fully live in your new life without all the stress! Be aware it's possible but don't let the fear run you, just keep you aware!
Hope that helps
I see you have a Buddhist atmosphere in your setting. Have you tried to get to know Buddhism a little?? It may help…just a thought
Yes I’ve been studying it for years;) I’ve found it’s very helpful!