It’s crazy cause oneday I heard my mother trying to explain to her parents how they hurt her and make her feel and she was getting mad cause they didn’t understand so then I went to her to tell her that’s how she is with me and she started acting just like her parents was when she was tying to talk. I just walked away from the conversation blown away cause even though moments before me talking she was saying the same exact thing to her parents but still couldn’t connect with me
We had a family gathering today. I havent seen a lot of them since 3 years now. It was so crazy to see how much brockenness there was. Since I am aware of my own brokenness it’s so hard to not see it. Your video came to the perfect timing. It was so good to listen to you both and so encouraging. Thank you very much mark and Melissa. It’s a true blessing!
This is speaking to me so deeply. I grew up in a very legalistic environment and I am just now discovering how much it has contributed to the anxiety and OCD in my adult life.
Please please please pray for my physical healing. In my brain, neurological system, stomach and intestines and to be made whole again. Please I am In utter agony
Interesting… my parents didn’t revert to childish behavior, but I always found my self competing with my mom… she was THE most competitive soul in the planet… interestingly, when I met Jesus, the Lord did a lot of healing, and explained yes, she couldn’t give me what she didn’t have. But yet, I still have to process through it… it’s been a long time (as you guys know 🧡) I’m closer to “sane” but not there yet… and since they’ve both passed, I can’t go back and process with… it’s taking such a long time to get to this point. I’m so proud of you both for the progress you’ve made, and thankful for your ministry. I give a listen, and it always speak something to me. Much love to you both.
I know someone who’s parents are no longer with us. I believe this person has a lot of deep pain because any and every time his parents are mentioned, he can’t help but water up and cry a little yet he denies having any trauma and that his parents were great. With that said, he is a very great man, great provider, hard working, kind, but, has a disconnect when it comes to raising his children. He is present but not actively present. Almost as if he takes a back seat, does not show too much emotion and believes that actions speak louder than words. Doesn’t have “talks or heart to hearts” with anyone. Could this just be his dna? Could it be him not wanting to dishonor his parents name? This was such a great topic! Thank you Marc and wifey ❤❤ God bless 🙏
maybe denial he doesn’t want to see his parents as who they truly were I have had to face this my mom was a narcissist my dad was abused by his dad so he was passive he did charity work a church going man but emotionally I was totally neglected he never told me I was valued smart never conforted me trust me it’s so damaging to a child emotionally neglected is the worst I ended up with cptsd I hope he gets help before it’s to late hugs your way❤️
Siblings. I had 8 older ones. I was the one that got blamed for stuff. Parents left most of parenting to siblings. Oh my goodness how it's played down. Teenagers not wanting to be responsible ( tbh not their fault). I think this is as bad as parenting blame.
Ohh where do I start. 5min in and your already talking about my life growing up. I don't even know how to re_parent myself in my thinking. I have such bad habitual compulsions. I don't even know the reason why I have them.
I'm kinda flip-flopping between thinking no one had emotionally healthy parents and thinking that i must be the only one beginning to mature emotionally as an adult. Overall, i reckon it's a spectrum with relatively few people on either end. Most of us probably had at least one parent with some amount of emotional immaturity, increasing our risk of developing an emotional "blindspot"/immature traits ourselves. Luckily, change is possible, even if the process can be incredibly hard and painful. By doing our best to mature emotionally on our own, we might be able to keep our children from having to do the same work as well. (Tbh, being a perfect parent seems impossible.)
The best abd the fastest way to get out of the trauma is to Praise and Worship, deliverances and the WORD of GOD Give your life and your broken heart to CHRIST
Forty years of trying every Chrisi soul fix and nothing is ever enough. I'm worn out depressed and angry. When all else failed I was told my. ' root of bitterness' or unforgiveness was blocking my recovery. It was always my fault
Leandra. I sense your fatigue and despair and frustration. It’s like you tried everything and you aren’t “freed” healed and restored. I can sympathize with the frustration of having certain areas of my life which are wounded which I have been asking God to heal for years and years, and I still am experiencing a lot of anguish, Anxiety and despair. I think God has helped me to persevere and I am grateful, but there is a long way to go for me to find joy and peace. I understand the frustration of being told that it’s something we are doing or not doing blocking the healing. That adds to the suffering. Could there be yes, and I hope God gets us through that. I am still hoping for better days though but I need God to be with me and I just want to know he is there and that someday the pain and the tears will cease. I ask for Him to console us tonight and show is his Love
It’s crazy cause oneday I heard my mother trying to explain to her parents how they hurt her and make her feel and she was getting mad cause they didn’t understand so then I went to her to tell her that’s how she is with me and she started acting just like her parents was when she was tying to talk. I just walked away from the conversation blown away cause even though moments before me talking she was saying the same exact thing to her parents but still couldn’t connect with me
Yep! I cannot help my family, but I thank God for His major healing in my own heart!
We had a family gathering today. I havent seen a lot of them since 3 years now. It was so crazy to see how much brockenness there was. Since I am aware of my own brokenness it’s so hard to not see it.
Your video came to the perfect timing. It was so good to listen to you both and so encouraging. Thank you very much mark and Melissa. It’s a true blessing!
Me too. When I see my family together I see so much brokenness that I didn't see before. It's sad but I continue to pray for their salvation
This is speaking to me so deeply. I grew up in a very legalistic environment and I am just now discovering how much it has contributed to the anxiety and OCD in my adult life.
Please please please pray for my physical healing. In my brain, neurological system, stomach and intestines and to be made whole again. Please I am In utter agony
I'm praying for you 🙏
@@gabrielle-d1b thank you so much
Interesting… my parents didn’t revert to childish behavior, but I always found my self competing with my mom… she was THE most competitive soul in the planet… interestingly, when I met Jesus, the Lord did a lot of healing, and explained yes, she couldn’t give me what she didn’t have. But yet, I still have to process through it… it’s been a long time (as you guys know 🧡) I’m closer to “sane” but not there yet… and since they’ve both passed, I can’t go back and process with… it’s taking such a long time to get to this point. I’m so proud of you both for the progress you’ve made, and thankful for your ministry. I give a listen, and it always speak something to me. Much love to you both.
I know someone who’s parents are no longer with us. I believe this person has a lot of deep pain because any and every time his parents are mentioned, he can’t help but water up and cry a little yet he denies having any trauma and that his parents were great. With that said, he is a very great man, great provider, hard working, kind, but, has a disconnect when it comes to raising his children. He is present but not actively present. Almost as if he takes a back seat, does not show too much emotion and believes that actions speak louder than words. Doesn’t have “talks or heart to hearts” with anyone. Could this just be his dna? Could it be him not wanting to dishonor his parents name? This was such a great topic! Thank you Marc and wifey ❤❤ God bless 🙏
maybe denial he doesn’t want to see his parents as who they truly were I have had to face this my mom was a narcissist my dad was abused by his dad so he was passive he did charity work a church going man but emotionally I was totally neglected he never told me I was valued smart never conforted me trust me it’s so damaging to a child emotionally neglected is the worst I ended up with cptsd I hope he gets help before it’s to late hugs your way❤️
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Thank you Mark & Melissa! Im glad that the Lord has shown me you guys to help me navigate through emotions..keep it going!
Siblings. I had 8 older ones. I was the one that got blamed for stuff. Parents left most of parenting to siblings. Oh my goodness how it's played down. Teenagers not wanting to be responsible ( tbh not their fault). I think this is as bad as parenting blame.
Ohh where do I start. 5min in and your already talking about my life growing up. I don't even know how to re_parent myself in my thinking. I have such bad habitual compulsions. I don't even know the reason why I have them.
Tried all my life to fix it. Now i know I can’t.
Not me wanting to assign these two as my new parents 😅
😂 The moment Mark said, “If you can’t find one safe person, pay someone,” I thought, “YOU! I’d pay you.” Just wish I had the dough. 😔
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Thank you so very much. Very timely to my life experience as of today!
Thanks yet again! Very good
Wow, Melissa is saying so many relatable things. Great conversation
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I’m starting to think there is no one who was raised by emotionally mature parents. Anyone? What was that like?
I’m starting to think there is no one who was raised by emotionally mature parents. Anyone?
I'm kinda flip-flopping between thinking no one had emotionally healthy parents and thinking that i must be the only one beginning to mature emotionally as an adult.
Overall, i reckon it's a spectrum with relatively few people on either end. Most of us probably had at least one parent with some amount of emotional immaturity, increasing our risk of developing an emotional "blindspot"/immature traits ourselves.
Luckily, change is possible, even if the process can be incredibly hard and painful. By doing our best to mature emotionally on our own, we might be able to keep our children from having to do the same work as well. (Tbh, being a perfect parent seems impossible.)
The best abd the fastest way to get out of the trauma is to Praise and Worship, deliverances and the WORD of GOD
Give your life and your broken heart to CHRIST
Forty years of trying every Chrisi soul fix and nothing is ever enough. I'm worn out depressed and angry. When all else failed I was told my. ' root of bitterness' or unforgiveness was blocking my recovery. It was always my fault
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Leandra. I sense your fatigue and despair and frustration. It’s like you tried everything and you aren’t “freed” healed and restored. I can sympathize with the frustration of having certain areas of my life which are wounded which I have been asking God to heal for years and years, and I still am experiencing a lot of anguish, Anxiety and despair. I think God has helped me to persevere and I am grateful, but there is a long way to go for me to find joy and peace. I understand the frustration of being told that it’s something we are doing or not doing blocking the healing. That adds to the suffering. Could there be yes, and I hope God gets us through that. I am still hoping for better days though but I need God to be with me and I just want to know he is there and that someday the pain and the tears will cease. I ask for Him to console us tonight and show is his Love
I’m starting to think there is no one who was raised by emotionally mature parents. Anyone? What was that like?