you really help me. We got engaged 2 months ago and I've been feeling so anxious and feeling like leaving. Hes amazing, and loves me unconditionally and im usually like that too! Im just so confused lol these doubts are taking over but I can't imagine life without him
OMG! I stumbled upon your video and I've been feeling this way since I told my friends and family I'm engaged. Here come all the questions and probing ! Then all of a sudden my 110% certainty in marrying my fiancee turned to anxiety, doubt, sadness, feelings of fear of the unknown in marriage and the unknown of the non single life...thank goodness you are speaking the truth how real brides feel. Glad to know I'm not alone. Thanks so much. I feel better knowing I'm not alone.
Thank you so much! I immediately started asking other women about these feelings after my engagement and I was amazed I wasn't alone. We need to spread this message!
I was literally bawling my eyes out and thinking of ending things. I couldn’t find any red flags or character flaws and I don’t have any qualms with him. He treats me so beautifully and addresses my every concern and need. So I just thought to myself that he’s not super built or macho, even though that’s a dumb reason. I don’t know why I feel like this. My wedding is in July.
I'm so glad you found your way here. You can learn more through my blog, where I have hundreds of posts on relationship anxiety. I recommend starting here: conscious-transitions.com/relationship-anxiety-collections/
Oh my God, I have been freaking out, so depressed, so scared, so lost, and just want to get this stupid wedding over with lol. I always wanted to be so happy and excited, but I am so scared. Even though my man is perfect for me and I love him so much. We have had such an amazing last 5 years together and I can't see my self without him. But the pressure of marriage is really freaking me out. It's not him at all, but I do have allot of trauma around love. Lots I haven't delt with is now coming to the surface. I hate it, sucks this is so scary but it is.
Wow that's funny; the thing I've been telling myself the most the past month is literally "I can't wait to get this stupid wedding over with." And I've felt so awful about it because I adore my fiancé and am beyond excited to finally marry him-- I just hate every single aspect of the wedding and the planning. I hope your wedding was wonderful though and that you're feeling better since the engagement :)
@@niharikaagarwal1509 This was 4 years ago which is crazy, I was terrified and it kind of broke me at the time. I did go through with the wedding, it’s been one of the best decision I have ever made. I was very careful in choosing him but it was still scary. But after we got married all that fear went away and it just made our relationship deepen and I realized I was scared for nothing lol. We waited 5 years to get married, lived together for 3 and had already bought a house together. I’m just glad I took my time and made sure I was very sure of him and waited. I love being married to him, and we now have a 8 month old baby girl who is our world and seeing him become a father has made me love him even more than I thought possible. We’re a full family now and I am so happy with my marriage and our life and we feel soo lucky! Going on year 9 and I love him more every year.
Wow, I got engaged Christmas eve and have been having doubts and feeling so depressed and feeling like I should call off the engagement and now I feel completely relieved to find out this is completely normal. This video helped so much and I don't feel anywhere near as down and confused now. What book would be most appropriate to me from your series of books?
Yes, much is relieved in knowing you're not alone! Be sure to also read my website as I have hundreds of articles on this topic, as well as my Conscious Weddings eCourse: From Anxiety to Serenity.
I'm so glad you found this video, Shelly. I would suggest you read through as many articles as you can on my Conscious Transitions site under the wedding category. As far as additional support, I recommend my Conscious Bride's Wedding Planner and the Conscious Weddings E-Course: From Anxiety to Serenity. You can also email me personally through the contact form on my site for additional recommendations.
I'm a guy who is in a great relationship with my fiance. Shes kind, caring and god for me in many ways. About 6 years ago, I was engaged to an alcoholic and the relationship was toxic. I called it off 9 days before the wedding. I had a breakdown and it was terrifying. I spent a couple of years working through my issues and thought I had fixed everything... but the anxiety is rampant at the moment and I'm scared of getting to the same place again. I'm scared of the 'pressure' of everything being perfect, Im scared that we will start fighting and I'll be 'stuck' in a bad relationship like I was, I'm scared at the knowledge that I'll never have sex with someone else and that I'll cheat to sabotage it. You name it, I'm scared of it. Watching this video has helped and I'm going to binge watch the rest of them :-)
@@tyleryosef9862 Congrats and thanks for the reply. We are happily married! I'm still an anxious guy and have done a lot of work on my 'baggage'. I am working through that aswell as other stuff but we now have an amazing daughter who makes me super happy.
I got engaged at age 27 by my ex who was 26 but then he broke it off 3 months later and moved his things out. We were together for 4 years and it hurt me. 2 months later, I started dating someone else. I’m about to be 28 and he’s 25. I think he someday wants to marry me but I’m not sure. I just want a man that wants to commit to me. Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and instead of a card, I’m going to give him a list of my 10 boundaries. I want a man who knows what he wants in life and makes me a part of it.
you really help me. We got engaged 2 months ago and I've been feeling so anxious and feeling like leaving. Hes amazing, and loves me unconditionally and im usually like that too! Im just so confused lol these doubts are taking over but I can't imagine life without him
took the words right out of my mouth :)
Me too broke two engagement
Curious how you are doing? Going through this now!
Thank you, Sheryl. You are spot-on for me. And yes, I keep asking, "Why does no one else talk about this?!"
OMG! I stumbled upon your video and I've been feeling this way since I told my friends and family I'm engaged. Here come all the questions and probing ! Then all of a sudden my 110% certainty in marrying my fiancee turned to anxiety, doubt, sadness, feelings of fear of the unknown in marriage and the unknown of the non single life...thank goodness you are speaking the truth how real brides feel. Glad to know I'm not alone. Thanks so much. I feel better knowing I'm not alone.
Kami Kami it’s so strange how that doubt settles in as soon as you tel people.
Thank you so much! I immediately started asking other women about these feelings after my engagement and I was amazed I wasn't alone. We need to spread this message!
I needed this. I cried watching it and knowing that I am not alone. I would like to get more in help is this regard
I was literally bawling my eyes out and thinking of ending things. I couldn’t find any red flags or character flaws and I don’t have any qualms with him. He treats me so beautifully and addresses my every concern and need. So I just thought to myself that he’s not super built or macho, even though that’s a dumb reason. I don’t know why I feel like this. My wedding is in July.
I'm so glad you found your way here. You can learn more through my blog, where I have hundreds of posts on relationship anxiety. I recommend starting here: conscious-transitions.com/relationship-anxiety-collections/
Oh my God, I have been freaking out, so depressed, so scared, so lost, and just want to get this stupid wedding over with lol. I always wanted to be so happy and excited, but I am so scared. Even though my man is perfect for me and I love him so much. We have had such an amazing last 5 years together and I can't see my self without him. But the pressure of marriage is really freaking me out. It's not him at all, but I do have allot of trauma around love. Lots I haven't delt with is now coming to the surface. I hate it, sucks this is so scary but it is.
How is it going now?
Wow that's funny; the thing I've been telling myself the most the past month is literally "I can't wait to get this stupid wedding over with." And I've felt so awful about it because I adore my fiancé and am beyond excited to finally marry him-- I just hate every single aspect of the wedding and the planning. I hope your wedding was wonderful though and that you're feeling better since the engagement :)
@@niharikaagarwal1509 This was 4 years ago which is crazy, I was terrified and it kind of broke me at the time. I did go through with the wedding, it’s been one of the best decision I have ever made. I was very careful in choosing him but it was still scary. But after we got married all that fear went away and it just made our relationship deepen and I realized I was scared for nothing lol. We waited 5 years to get married, lived together for 3 and had already bought a house together. I’m just glad I took my time and made sure I was very sure of him and waited. I love being married to him, and we now have a 8 month old baby girl who is our world and seeing him become a father has made me love him even more than I thought possible. We’re a full family now and I am so happy with my marriage and our life and we feel soo lucky! Going on year 9 and I love him more every year.
Wow, I got engaged Christmas eve and have been having doubts and feeling so depressed and feeling like I should call off the engagement and now I feel completely relieved to find out this is completely normal. This video helped so much and I don't feel anywhere near as down and confused now. What book would be most appropriate to me from your series of books?
Thank you! I needed to hear this
I'm glad it was helpful :). Much more along these lines on my website.
Yes, much is relieved in knowing you're not alone! Be sure to also read my website as I have hundreds of articles on this topic, as well as my Conscious Weddings eCourse: From Anxiety to Serenity.
I'm so glad you found this video, Shelly. I would suggest you read through as many articles as you can on my Conscious Transitions site under the wedding category. As far as additional support, I recommend my Conscious Bride's Wedding Planner and the Conscious Weddings E-Course: From Anxiety to Serenity. You can also email me personally through the contact form on my site for additional recommendations.
I needed this so badly
I'm a guy who is in a great relationship with my fiance. Shes kind, caring and god for me in many ways. About 6 years ago, I was engaged to an alcoholic and the relationship was toxic. I called it off 9 days before the wedding. I had a breakdown and it was terrifying. I spent a couple of years working through my issues and thought I had fixed everything... but the anxiety is rampant at the moment and I'm scared of getting to the same place again. I'm scared of the 'pressure' of everything being perfect, Im scared that we will start fighting and I'll be 'stuck' in a bad relationship like I was, I'm scared at the knowledge that I'll never have sex with someone else and that I'll cheat to sabotage it. You name it, I'm scared of it.
Watching this video has helped and I'm going to binge watch the rest of them :-)
Just got engaged. First time and I am 46 years old. I feel sick to my stomach add feel the same way as you described. How did things go for you?
@@tyleryosef9862 Congrats and thanks for the reply. We are happily married! I'm still an anxious guy and have done a lot of work on my 'baggage'. I am working through that aswell as other stuff but we now have an amazing daughter who makes me super happy.
Thank you for this video. I feel better
so thankful for this video!
Hi Nonyas - I'm so glad you found your way here! Sheryl
I got engaged at age 27 by my ex who was 26 but then he broke it off 3 months later and moved his things out. We were together for 4 years and it hurt me. 2 months later, I started dating someone else. I’m about to be 28 and he’s 25. I think he someday wants to marry me but I’m not sure. I just want a man that wants to commit to me. Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and instead of a card, I’m going to give him a list of my 10 boundaries. I want a man who knows what he wants in life and makes me a part of it.
Amen for this video lol
Do you do online therapy sessions for this LOL
Yes, all of my courses and information about sessions are on my website: conscious-transitions.com