How being TOO comfortable is hurting you…
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- Опубликовано: 7 июл 2024
- Are you too comfortable in life? I know we all strive to be comfortable in life. Whether that is seeking to be emotionally comfortable or financially stable or in a relationship without any problems, we often aspire for these things. But what happens when we stay in something because it feels comfortable but it may not be the best situation for us? When can being too comfortable become a trap for us where we're afraid of change, or afraid of what's new? Are you driven by fear and willing to stay in situations that may not be healthy for you? Perhaps you're afraid to be alone or afraid of not getting or being good at a job you really want? Or maybe you're afraid someone is going to be upset with you so you stay in an unhealthy friendship or relationship? The truth is we may be afraid to leave a relationship or be afraid of success or be afraid to leave a job or perhaps afraid to start a new job or start a new relationship. The truth is comfort can be good, but it can also trap us in situations or feeling stuck in life. Let's dive deeper into this in the video... what worked for you to get out of situations which made you feel comfortable but weren't necessarily good for you?
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Comfort is necessary when you have been living in discomfort and could use some rest
The tittle of the video is; being TOO comfortable..."
What you say is true however seems you don't wanna validate the video BUT in the sense of "TOO comfortable" being in the comfort zone too frequent, too long not just visiting the place to rest and keep working on our life BUT to sit in there for longer periods, is the message on the video.
I took a job that I hated because I needed the money, but the level of stress was so high that it affected my phisical health, I started developing an autoinmune illness, so I had to quit, otherwise I wouldn't be alive today. Take care of yourselves first.
I wish I could be more comfortable. It seems like I'm in survival mode more often than comfortable.
SAME…I’m in a toxic home environment…
Ugh I am so sorry. I have a video about being stuck in survival mode.. maybe that could be helpful. xoxo
@@Katimorton I saw that it was helpful even just the fact you're understanding and compassionate.
@@magslight3728 I feel like my online community and people in my php are more compassionate than people in my real life/home…It sucks. I just got mad at my dad yesterday and said he had the empathy ability of a wet mop…😬😡
@@Eshrimpski I'm so sad to hear that. Do you have Jesus Christ in your life? I used to feel this way too and Jesus really changes everything and the people around you in your life, he is after all, God. I let him work through my heart, I found Anthony William Medical Medium which is a true prophet and using his protocols has cleared a lot of health and mental anguish, I would highly recommend his advice who he gets from God, Spirit of Compassion/The Most High which is written about in the bible. Perhaps their compassion will also help you I can pray for you and the angels Anthony has been told to teach about and yes he also mentions Jesus Christ. God's food as well as God heals all and it's all meant for us to come back to him. I hope this helps you. Empathy by the way has strings attached, as well as sympathy. Compassion is the only thing that does not have strings attached, that's because it comes from God and God speaks in the Holy Spirit through us. Intelligence is with Compassion remember that, the more compassion you have the more intelligent you are.
Being in therapy for C-PTSD myself (still after two years in the crucial phase of establishing safety and stabilization) I differ between 'comfort' and 'safety'. Feeling safe is to some extent crucial for existing at all and not feeling safe is the core of my problem.
Some level of feeling safe needs to be there to begin with in order to expose oneself to discomfort, but staying in a percieved comfort zone at all times is not possible if you want to thrive and evolve. But few people would willingly put themselves in a situation where they lose all sense of safety.
That's my take on it and I'm not a native English speaker, btw.
You're right!! We have to have a safe place to go back to while we challenge ourselves. xoxo
Your experience is relatable and your English excellent. Thanks for sharing.
From what I understand, a little bit of nervous system activation is motivating and healthy "eustress (good stress)." It is outside of the comfort zone and in the optimal zone. But if the nervous system is overwhelmed (with too frequent or too extreme stressors) that is "distress" and leads to the danger zone. You can't really learn and grow in that state.
I’m working on my obsession fear of abandonment attachments and this is so hard waiting for other people to respond without asking them if they hate me 😅
I have the same
My fav quote by Dr Brené Brown is “resilience is born in the birth canal of adversity.”
I love it!! She always says things just perfectly :) xoxo
I think as with most things in life finding balance is important. We should all find ways to make ourselfs more comfortable in our day to day life. But not getting complacent with a bad or stagnate situation is different. For example making your living space comfortable and having a super cozy bed is great. Being comfortable with an abusive partner or work situation because it's what your use to isn't. And I agree that personal growth is accelerated during times of adversity but that's not the only time significant growth is achievable. Context and where it lyes on the spectrum is key in my opinion. I'd be interested in hearing others thoughts on this.
Your right, we have to deal with hard stuff to grow. thats life. i retired 2 yrs ago. i had a hard job . i had anxiety and depression most of my life. and i liked my job until about 4 yrs ago. i was burnt the fuck out. ( PTSD ) some days it just felt good to ly in my bed and do nothing. Im 63. . I more than anything want contentment, wether its hard or easy. I hear some famous people say how there healed. through, meditation, yoga, mindfulness, journaling , getting up early, finding purpose, love, laughter, etc. etc. I tried it all for 20 yrs. and i have worked since i was 11 yrs old. Im safe physically, but mentally and emotionally, still a mess, still tired, i force my self to exercise, make healthy friends, care for my family. especially my grown daughters. i love them so much. I go to therapy, still trying. But i would give anything to just be content and live out my life. i think i have enough $ with savings and pensions. I just dont get, why working this hard has made me miserable ? Happiness is always temporary. but being content deep down inside is what i need. HOW DO I DO THAT? and im single, for a lot of reasons. i dont even want to go there. It would not be fair to her or me.
Hi, i hope you don't mind me replying. From my perspective i think contentment is found in acceptance. And then giving your gratitude for what you have instead of what is missing. We can fall out of contentment too but we just have to be grateful for now. We are alive, the world continues to move forward with us or without us but we can simply observe and notice the beauty, the wonder and then be grateful for what we already have. This message is as much for me as it is for you. I wish you to find your inner peace. ❤️🌸
Thank you
Muscles don’t grow from lifting weights, they grow from recovering from lifting weights. It’s the same with emotions I think; you expose to stress, and take the time to recover and that’s how you get stronger.
Also anti-fragility is not exclusive to humans. Any gardener knows that exposing a plant to the elements will make it stronger, as it repairs the damage done by wind, temperature and water variability, etc. In fact, watering too frequently is bad for plants because letting the roots dry out a bit will force it to put more energy into its deep taproots to pull up water from below. This in turn makes it stronger and helps it develop drought tolerance
Great video! I grew up in a chaotic family! I didn't like it, but it was the norm for me. I grew out of that norm & seek for peace & prosperity now. Studying, reading & praying daily brought me to where I want to be!!!
Your perspective cannot be altered unless you’re open to change. Thank you for this.🌸
My family framed their toxicity as being for my own good and it felt so much more insidious and damaging. They minimized my struggles with depression, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, and being stuck in survival mode when that was the environment they created for me. I'm someone who values growth and likes to do well, so their fear of stagnation projected onto me has just caused me to feel burnt out for most of my life. Now I still struggle with my mental health, IBS, chronic muscle tension, and asserting boundaries. It's a good message and good intention that can be horribly twisted, even on accident. I love your videos though, including this one, I just wanted to share how triggering the narrative was for me growing up. Balance really is the key.
Comfort is a nice stopping off point to gather yourself and relax before the next hurdle, its a temporary pause that some often stretch out far too far and thats when it becomes a burden.
balance in all things friends and strangers, balance in all things :)
When i was younger, i was always scared, anxious and clinging to my comfort zone, i was a burden on everyone around me.. one day my dad threatened to end me and i moved in with my mom, losing all my stuff except a bag full of clothes and an xbox, 2 years later, my mom had a crisis where she made me and my sister homeless.. both not fun things, my dad was a paranoid schizophrenic alcoholic with an ego, my mom was never allowed to have a childhood and drifted through life, she met a guy who she loved and abandoned us to move closer to him, (she regrets it now) at first i was angry that my parents did horrible things to me and my 17 year old sister in make us homeless, and i would never want anyone to be on the streets from my small experience of homelessness.. but that problem rocketed me into being more adult and taking responsibility for myself..
it took for my comfort zone to be shattered into a million pieces with no safety net, for me to find value in comfort zone and get onto my feet, it was a slow process and we are talking the time between when i was 22 to when i was 27 to now where i am 33.. i had the natural drive to grow and get stronger, know more, but i could have done better had i had more help and support, it would have been a faster process to where i am now :)
i dont say this to brag or offload nonsense entirely, i say it to be a story others can share, to say that you can lose everything, have your bubble shattered, its not the end, you can climb up and survive :3
11:37 “Sometimes we just need a little bit of discomfort/adversity to do better things” to spark and motivate us- I love it.
The challenging discomfort of imperfection just sparked my motivation to journal!
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Conserving energy is a primary state for humans, because limited resources/ calories has historically been the big barrier, so we tend to inherently optimise to conserve energy.
I can relate to what you are saying ,I seem to end up in toxic and abusive relationships ,because this is how my child hood was like ,and this is all I have known
Ugh I am so sorry :( xoxo
You didn't attract anything, people just haven't healed and cleansed like Jesus Christ told them to and as a result that gaslighting is on them, not you. But you must also heal and cleanse too i'd recomment Anthony William Medical Medium protocols he's on you tube and it's all amazing he's also forwarded by Doctors. Have you turned back to Christ too? We need Jesus for everything and Anthony has the living God talking to him the Most High which is also written about in the bible.
@@magslight3728we do attract things. People are looking for things, we all are and easily end up spending time with certain types of groups of people. It can be good as in being relatable or bad as in getting abused or abusing others.
@@terhisomersalo8588 This is a lie the law of attraction, this has been proven with things like Anthony William Medical Medium who writes in his book that we did not attract illness and sickness. We are just simply attacked by business owners who steal our tax money by bullying and paying our government to sell us out and using technology and weapons to bully everyone into submission and spread products without proper handling, care and msds data that make people sick. That is unlawful but it's clear these psycho people have an agenda. Don't talk about things you have no experience about and you clearly have no idea about what's actually happening behind the scense. Ask Jesus Christ to reveal it to you and buy the new king james version bible. Law of attraction is a falsehood that's been used to manipulate the public into not realising the patented weapons used against us the military call "energy weapons" If you are not understanding the war and think you're neutral you're on the wrongs side.
You were like a warrior with a stick in university while those rich kids had an army.
I was in an uncomfortable place with someone for about a month straight where every day was living in anxiety. Even though i had tried to get through it, it kept happening each day where i would default to anxiety. i agree with the analogy, where like muscles, we need to be "exercised" to handle or grow from these exposures. However, a month straight of it caused poor sleeping, stress, shaking, "digestive issues," and frequent moments of anger/displeasure toward people and events. i had to get out of it to be comfortable, because that level of discomfort was destructive to my health.
Being uncomfortable is socially unacceptable - as you get more uncomfortable the people around you will do too, so you also have to deal with being very lonely
Growing up with a narcissistic mother made my childhood extremely uncomfortable and challenging. The constant manipulation and lack of genuine affection left me feeling insecure and unloved. Now, as an adult, I'm incredibly grateful for my husband who brings me the love, security, and comfort I always yearned for. Despite our corporate careers pushing us into uncomfortable situations, we face them together and see them as opportunities for growth. Our mutual support helps us navigate these challenges, making our bond even stronger.
(a little rambling, sorry)
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maybe this comment is more about the philosophy of mind ... but it came to mind while listening.
many people seem to like their comfort zones because it keeps them from facing nihilism and reality. people have their coping mechanisms, numbing agents , intentional ignorance. but i see too often that people close their empathy and sympathy processes to stay comfortable. they choose to, or simply can not , think of the scenarios outside of their comfort.
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i have been mulling over the idea that the place in our brain that holds the processing of a hypothetical is the same place that holds some people religious manifestations.
i think some people process these hypothetical in a healthy way that allows them to see and here others stories with empathy and incorporate the lessons.
of course there are people that need direct experience and gain sympathy afterwards. going through a thing updates their process of mulling over hypotheticals.
i think some other people have their religious hypotheticals (or other illusions) so engrained that they have no room for empathy and learning from the stories of others. these people seem to need direct experience to learn. but i do not always see them coming out with empathy or sympathy. they seem to default to the engrained hypothetical, the unchanging illusion.
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i would argue that being a skeptic is a good line to tow. acceptance of positions after a threshold of evidence has been met.
and being wiling to hear out people's positions. a skeptic needs a healthy process for hypotheticals. enough to genuinely step into the situation, but enough self determination to not lose themselves.
Yeh, but how does on challenge themselves without overwhelm/burnout...
I think Balance is most often key, as it is here, like you said. For me, i need to challenge myself to do things that are a bit uncomfortable to actually be able to create a comfortable place. Like, my comfort zone is actually not comfortable at all, i am pretty lonely and isolated there. I used to describe it like a dungeon where i locked myself in, it is cold and dark and nobody can come in (which feels safe to me, and therefore comfortable ). But all I have in there are soap-bubbles. Somewhat beautiful to look at but hollow and cold and gone in seconds....So i have to open the door and walk out of my dungeon my "comfort zone" into the scary and unpredictable land in hope of finding something more comfortable. Yet, to get back to the balance, i would not open the door at the dead of night with a storm roaring over my head and pack of hungry wolves waiting by the door...but rather during the day time maybe even when the sun is out and i can maybe at least see which dangers i may encounter.
Thanks for showing up on my screen today. I need these reminders. I know i will grow through this. My comfort was old coping mechanisms that are failing so i couldnt avoid this even though i tried. Plus my comfort zone wasnt serving me as i endeavour to become a better version of myself. So i give in to it and in this discomfort i learn and as each time i come to the surface to breath, my perspective gets better. Im accepting and so instead of resisting this i hope to feel more whole soon.🌸
All my therapists always accused me that I wanted not to leave my comfort zone and therefore don' t make progress. That was such a horrible thing to say, because the place where I am in my life always was outside any comfort zone, I just arranged some things to get along there at all. My violent parents and bullying students put me all out of any comfort zone when I was a kid. But yes, the "clever" therapists said "come a bit out of your comfort zone".
Should we chose comfort or discomfort? Is one good and the other bad? It is a binary question, no? Is this black and white thinking, the result of a judgmental internal critic?
Maybe we should endeavor to be more comfortable with grey.
I appreciate your remarks about raising our tolerance for discomfort and your example of managing boundaries. I think, if I were better able to sit in discomfort while struggling with issues of trust, I might have made better choices. Instead of making a rash decision and trusting blindly I might have more thoroughly evaluated the situation, invested trust in myself and had a better outcome.
Thanks
As someone who doesn't know what comfort truly is, I wish I could experience it.
Great video. ❤ I’m getting out of survival mode and couldn’t touch/click on this video fast enough. My “emotional guard/ mask” is finally down around most people at work, and I’m not used to opening up. I notice I’m growing as a person even though I’m uncomfortable being/getting out of survival mode.
Maybe through your eyes but not mine
I try to not see things as comfortable or good vs bad as to be neutral. This helps me to see if things are off the rails.
It's interesting that at times the comfort zone of the victims of abuse is the very chaos they grew up in, and they'd sadly need several painful wake up calls before they realized they need to break out of such patterns, and discover the new and healthier sense of 'comfort'
I think you need both. I recently went through the hardest few months of my life. It has shown me so much of what I need to change in my life with toxic and abusive people. If it weren't for the complete devastation, I likely would have continued to endure the abuse. If it weren't for my therapists and my friends, I don't think I would still be here. I needed the comfort and support to keep myself alive. I need my people still to just maintain my resilience. I don't only need them. We genuinely just enjoy being together which is amazing and healthy. I'm so much better now than I was when I was "comfortable" though I would very much accept a stagnation break for a while now! Ha!
I really relate to what you are saying 🎉 I am trying to stop smoking thc dabs (6am -11pm if I'm awake I'm smoking)
In the past when I've tried to stop or even just cut back, I think "why am I doing this to myself, I would be so much more COMFORTABLE if I just let myself smoke"
Thank you for today's video, perhaps I can apply some of it to cutting back on my need to be comfortable.
Coming from a life of chaos, it is difficult to find comfort because anything stressful is uncomfortable. I have been living in a group home for the last 6 years and I watch the people around me who are comfortable being taken care of but my goal from the beginning has been to be as independent as possible again and I've been trying to move out for over 2 years. The only time I ever feel somewhat comfortable is when I'm alone listening to music. My thoughts keep me from being comfortable. I agree adversity or some kind of challenge is the only way to grow. I am working on my masters in lmft and working with my therapist to prepare for going out there and working with people successful has really challenged me to grow. I want to help other people but without constantly triggering myself so even though it's a challenge I know it's the only way I'm ever going to be comfortable either with myself or with clients.
I think it a such a fine line. And if trauma is triggered or created, that just complicates things, most especially if one has no stable person to turn to or anchors for support. I work off a window of tolerance now. A past job kept me almost permanently out of my window of tolerance, not just on the edge but way way far out of my edge of tolerance, and I had to quit due to this as it destabilised me even more. My view is that there needs to be a ratio. Possibly to exist in our window of tolerance by 70-80% most of the time, so long as no extreme shocks occur. But also it depends on many other factors. And I disagree that staying in pain in healthy. I constantly look to reduce my pain. But it's a balance that needs constantly monitoring.
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Sometimes just showing up to work (which is a safe space) feels like "being challenged day in, day out". To hold my madness in and not let it spill out and become other people's problems is exhausting.
Navigating being made redundt, going no contact with my violent abusive mum and trying to to figure out what the fuck to do with my dad, not using drugs or alcohol, going to protests and campaigning for trans health care, chasing up medical issues, trying to do all my treatments and Excercises, meditation, grounding, breathing, feeling my feelings...even joyful things like playing football every Saturday or failing that going to an allotment gardening group instead without fail every weekend
It's just so much.
Katie , I think you've made some good points that too much comfort isn't a good thing. I think needing to grow is a good thing! It's just that I have been going through a lot with my mental health, for an extended period of time . There has been stress on top on that ,which has been overwhelming.There have been some good times as well , which I'm very grateful for. These things have been a long time in coming . Thanks for your podcasts they are very helpful!
Hi Cheryl, how's your day going with you?
Can you explain more what "sitting with it" actually means? I feel like I've sat with and analyzed to the point where I've developed GAD, MDD and trauma. Essentially living in survival mode and having these stressors take over my life as I try to find solutions to challenges consistently. I haven't found it healthy for me to be with these feelings all the time, quite the opposite. I understand how challenges make you grow but again what does "sitting with it" actually mean and how does that heal? I mean, is it ever okay to rest and heal from trauma or must we always be in a state of challenge? Can finding comfort or contentment with challenges ending be healing too?
Big key manageable adversity but those who have sustained 20+ yrs of abuse makes it’s hard. But all challenges I have navigated have given a lot of wisdom.
You're incredible 🧿
Looking back on my life my great regret is that I never was willing to leave my comfort zone. Especially when I was in high school and college when trying some thing and failing at it is almost expected. Those formative years have locked me into it now into midlife. There are so many opportunities to do things, people to meet, experiences to have, that I missed because my comfort zone was my armor against the outside world.
It's actually derived from a Vincent Van Gogh quote: "Normality is a paved road. It's comfortable to walk,but no flowers grow on it".
Was stuck in survival mode for so long it got me behind in school and everyone around me
It was too comfortable I started feeling worse the more years went by and it just hit how much time was wasted doing nothing not growing and not getting better I had severe depression and anxiety I was constantly disconnected from reality and everything
Had family issues which didn’t help either it was too overwhelming
I was starting to hate myself for it but it had to end and now im studying again to get into universities it’s still not easy
I still sometimes avoid things when it gets a little hard I disconnect for a a few days I don’t know how to stop it
But I know things like tiktoks and watching shows will never help so I stay away from it during times I need to focus
I cant stay in my comfort zone if I want to change and do better we all need to push ourselves when the challenges seem to be too overwhelming coming at us
Self care and self love is the second step after
this would be helpful for some, but like many in the comments, not for me. I came to your channel seeking self help from 25 years literally barely surviving financially and taking emotional abuse from my birth mother coming back into my life. I'm 41 and exhausted on all levels, including my nervous system being so overloaded for so long that my physical health is falling apart. I didn't move for so long into a "safer" place because it was the unknown, but i can't bring myself to call that a "comfort zone".
listening to myself and not feeling guilty for just seeking comfort at this point, and believing I deserve it, is more my struggle right now. but you know. good luck to kids starting college I guess.
I think for me, my comfort things are masking, pushing down emotions, such as crying, or even pushing down, having bad days or feeling dysregulated. Seeking out things such as judgment, criticism, guilt, and shame, instead of seeking out love and validation and kindness. And even self injury. I’m trying to find different ways of comfort. Music is my favorite comfort out of all of the things. Music, sensory items, my weighted, blanket, and stuff like that.
Thank you so much for sharing :) xoxo It can be hard to find things that are comforting and not hurtful for us... ugh Music is always a good one though!! xoxo
@@Katimorton I find listening to my favorite songs, playing musical instruments, or even singing to help me calm down. I also find some of my most favorite fidgets to be comforting as well. I think my favorites would have to be my sensory brushes, my Koosh balls, my favorite, rocks and crystals, my fidget, cube, and stuff like that. I also love my squeaky ball. Which is another favorite sensory item that I have in my collection.
I think it's important to have a reliable, healthy source of comfort in life, but trying to live free from discomfort is what leads to stagnation, escapism, and overreliance on unhealthy coping mechanisms
The weirdest thing is that discomfort in different areas, like, physical discomfort Ive learned to overcome by just not thinking about it, but social discomfort, even though I KNOW the same approach works, Im so scared of rejection, that as SOON as I think, "What am I gonna say" its over and normally that thought comes into my head, 2 seconds after I see the girl and Ill just be ashamed I didnt say anything
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I think there is a difference between comfort and complacency. I pushed myself too hard for too long, and am now damaged. I have a nice comfortable retirement. But I do challenging things, for the family or fun. But not too much anymore.
"People need hard times to develop psychic muscles."
That quote is from Dune and it's always stuck with me.
Maybe a bit cliché, but like many things in life, it is best to have everything in moderation. Too much comfort can limit and even harm you, just as too much challenge can also cause harm. It's about finding that intersection where we continue to grow as individuals while also enjoying our lives and where we are at as well.
One of my friends said "I can be comfortable when I am dead."
Depression and social anxiety are my mental health conditions 😢
Are you a ND?
Thank you for this bright video! It's amazing how perfect creatures we are, I say perfect because balance is needed for everything, especially for progress but not falling in sick. That might be the #1 challenge. I encourage everyone to add different goals each day, for a dopamine dose and to feel that purpose there. :)
There is a key condition for adversity to result in growth and appreciation, it has to be temporary. If, for example, you were to never have been able to return to your studies, I think you would have seen this experience in a very different light.
Kati is right, there is a quote I heard that applies as well: "Pleasure puts you asleep, pain wakes you up". She made 1 mistake, she mentioned traditional vaccines in her example on how they work. The new ones don't do that at all, radically different from the past but same name, so it's a branding issue. Like how we call movies "film" even if they are 100% digital and no film was used to make it (film is a layer of photochemical emulsion on a celluloid strip)
Could comfort be used as an intentional form of toxic parenting? I grew up I'm a repressive household with hot or cold rules. Dawson's Creek was banned for teaching the euphemism "walking the dog" to teens. No Doubt was banned because my dad didn't accept "Just a Girl" as sarcasm and instead labeled the band misogynist propaganda.
Even now, my mom does and says everything that she can to try discouraging me from taking uncomfortable steps toward autonomy. That coupled with creating a surveillance state full of ridicule and derision. I was just called a freeloadering, underperforming, and ungrateful when I said that a rent-paying tenant should be allowed privacy and a functioning lock to their rooms.
You can imagine what it was like coming out to her as trans. She initially gaslit me for thinking that she wouldn't take the news well. She responded to my Vogue subscription as if I subscribed to Penthouse. She repeated argued that I can still say I'm trans and look like the handsome son that she wants. When I came out more broadly in a family group chat, she shot me a DM asking why I'm being so public about personal matters.
Great timing! Just trying to live my lil life in comfort, and guess what, nothing is happening....
Pepperdine is such a lovely school Kati - that's great you went there. I'm from Ventura and every time I pass it on the 1 I admire the beauty of the landscaping there.
Trying times have caused me trauma and PTSD unfortunately…I’ve been in survival mode for several years. To the point that my psychiatrist tested my cortisol levels. Miraculously, it was within normal range…
I relate to feeling uncomfortable when I can’t use ED/SH as a way to cope. People always say how strong and resilient I am and I feel like if I break down I’m failing…I was going to mention something else, but forgot!
If a comfort zone is relied on too often, it becames a prison. Then where do you go for comfort ? It leads to a distressing time for a while until you grow into a new, stronger phase.
Yay new advice
You’re the best
Let's Go!
I need to start leaving my comfort zone...
My house.
Just curious about “comfort”. What if it was reversed? What if you started at Pepperdine, then we’re forced to leave? How would you approach comfort then? My life was amazing with Leesa. I had never had that before. I had everything with Leesa. An amazing life, job, I was soooo happy. I recognized this every morning how lucky I was. I lost Leesa two and a half years ago and my life is miserable now. Everything is gone. My home, part of my job, my life with Leesa. All gone. I’m a wreck. My therapist wants to get me out of my comfort zone. I said, dude, I’m anything but in my comfort zone. WTF?
Very interesting video. Certainly a few things to think about and a lot of it is very relatable. Having dealt with high levels of anxiety and that overwhelming doom that sometimes lays across me ,I have had to seek out the tools to help me cope. It helps build realistic perspectives and expectations too.for a more rounded view on life. Over 40 ,from UK. ☺
For me it seems there is comfort in emotional discomfort😅.
Thanks! I’ve been living abuse since I can remember. It all is foggy now . I have different parts and they used to want to tell people about the way people hurt them . Not so much anymore . No one listens or cares really . I’m just told to forget it . What do I do ?
Hi Kati! I was wondering if you’ve ever touched on the topic of avoidant personality disorder?
12:30 what exactly are these ulcers? Any pictures for examples?
"Don't get too comfortable. "
I would love your perspective on the pathologizing many experiences. Such as the increase in calling things "syndrome" or other medical/psychological words for phenomena that many can relate. I read the book Saving Normal and it is particularly interesting what went into the DSM-V from the DSM-IV and how some of the diagnoses were admitted or reviewed-without the same burden of studies, prevalence, or reliable diagnoses across professionals (criteria not being specific enough to allow for inter-rater reliability). I am just curious since you highlight so many of these topics that do you find it helpful to give voice to experiences for people or is it possibly harmful due to treating something that would be within normal limits of human experience as "abnormal" or "neurodivergent"?
does being comfortable in unhealthy situations also apply to being comfortable with depression? because I’ve been depressed for so long it’s very comfortable for me
@katimorton hello good yo see you and you looked beautiful this video was very interesting and important also helpful i can definitely understand and relate to the things you shared ❤🙏🏻😊
I'm in survival mode but one thing I learned I will make it through to rich my comfort zone but for now I'm in survival mode
Guys I need help I feel like I lost purpose and im deepresed it started 3 years ago and im starting to forget common thing/memories. I sturggles tto make friends and am socialy scared/afraide to talk, I use to be very social but it seems like i was just the kid that made people laugh. please help
Her house is cleaner than my Mother's. 😁
Kail Lawry from Teen Mom??
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Nice video, it resonates with me. “Pressure is a privilege - it only comes to those who earn it” - Billie Jean King
lol what does it mean if you have tons of adversity, but you don't seem to grow and you're just miserable.
Oh, this is definitely me😬 in relationships, and also in wallowing in my pain. It's a messed up pay off, but it has its benefits to my (not healthy) self narrative.
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No being too uncomfortable is hurting people, no one is comfortable on this planet, we are made to live with pedophiles wandering the streets, sex trafficking, people who rape and torment and torture and at any moment that could be you kidnapped or your kid. We're living in uncomfortable times, people are in ptsd shock anxiety post trauma stress, constantly adrenalised and on edge with fight and flight mode especially with the wef an unelected group of business people breathing down our governments neck increasing prices of everything while everyone is stressing about how they're going to pay their mortgage and food costs plus petrol.
The only thing to do is heal and the only way to do that is God's food, especially wild foods and that's Anthony William Medical Mediums protocols. God did not design our bodies this way to cope with this much stress and strain, our adrenals are burning out, people are getting sick and so now we need supplements and the only one I'd recommend is the one that Anthony mentions, i've used it myself and the B12 especially is absolutely necessary for getting through this crazy time which is clearly the end of times which Jesus Christ mentions in Matthew.