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As someone who has never been taught this kind of stuff, thank you very much. You may not know what this means to some people, but you are changing lives for the better and encouraging people to be the best that they can.
I can think of someone who never says they are sorry, never apologizes and speaks negativity of others. And quite frankly, this person is probably the most successful person in the world.
Handshake: I absolutely HATE those fist-crusher-handshakes. It's so insecure when they think they have to impress/intimidate/submit you by trying their best to break your hand. Like, seriously, how old are you? Solid handshake, yeah, absolutely, but trying to crush my hand everytime we shake, that's just pathetic.
Amazing. I’ve been subscribed to your channel for years; longer than I can remember honestly, and I had NO idea that you served in the Marines. Have zero clue how I never caught that. Thank you *very* much for your service, Antonio 🇺🇸 ! We will need men like you in the coming years. Thank you again and God bless 🙏🏻
I received a dead fish last week in Port Huron, MI. It was an inspector on our cell site. I nearly felt bad for squeezing so hard, but it was normal pressure. He didn’t wince, but I felt all the bones in his gentle hand!
I meet a lot of executives wearing suits. Often when they sit down and their pants ride up, they have short socks that results in exposed skin. This is something that can be easily remedied but not many men pay attention to.
Of course. New Yorker here. "Sorry for your loss." Or "You're in a lot of pain. Sorry." But there are people who apologize for the silliest things. I was getting off an elevator a few weeks ago and a woman was there to get on. We both began to step in the same direction - oops - and she says "sorry". For me that's an obvious sign of an underlying psychological difficulty. The proper word is "pardon me". Not "excuse me" - you say that when you burp. She says "sorry" and I said in a most neutral way, "Don't apologize for everything."
In Canada, saying sorry considered good manners, not a sign of low confidence. You'll actually be considered to be rude or possibly American if you don't do it lol. In Canada, real men do the sorry thing. When in Rome.
@@robertgirardin1307 Sure and that's fine. Word usage is allowed to evolve, and a culture is allowed to evolve it's language usage, but it still says "Canadians" all over it to me. Sounds funny. There's no doubt in my mind that this usage of the word "sorry" comes from an overly liberal application of politeness - which Canadians are obviously known for. Nothing against the country or its people. Italians are known for certain things, Brits for things, New Yorkers for things, etc.
As a union carpenter who consistently works on large projects and interacts frequently with different people in the construction industry I would like to add to the handshake conversation. I am accustomed to a firm grip, I have one myself. A slight but important nuance to the handshake when you have a strong hand is to not crush the other man’s hand. Be firm, but do not come off as if you are attempting to dominate the man whose hand you are shaking. I am almost as turned off by a dead fish as I am a man who feels the need to exert excessive force in a greeting. I need it to be firm, but dislike a man who feels the need to shake my hand like he is trying to break it
As far as first impressions, a limp or awkward handshake is the worst. Implies they are insecure, self centered, unfocused, or dismissive. Might not be any of those but that’s how I feel when a guy can’t bother to give a good firm handshake. The opposite of that is when a guy will keep squeezing way past what is appropriate and now suddenly you’re in a grip contest with a stranger. Just as lame.
One of the most important things about ironing is to NEVER put the iron directly on the clothing. In the Army they taught us to use a damp, not soaking wet, white cotton cloth about the size of a pillow case (or a pillow case in a pinch) as a buffer between the iron and the cloth. Prevents burns and also gives a great crease because of the moisture. Put your laptop on either a laptop stand or a decent strength mesh baker's rack (which helps with airflow!) to combat nerd neck and bad posture. Haha! The Sorry in Canada is the equivalent of Excuse Me in America! We aren't really sorry about whatever it is we are more than likely just being polite, acknowledging any stress caused and moving on. I have a trick for eye contact. It is to look just above the person's eyes. It works great because it appears you are looking straight at them, but you are not. My phone is just out of reach while sleeping yet close enough that I can hear the emergency call siren. If I forget a name I use a tactic of generalization. I start the conversation with Hey there! How are you doing? How is your family/job/dog doing? I am much better at associating a significant event with someone if I forget a name, which still makes it look like you are interested in them. (I've done whole conversations with someone and never once said their name.)
No that's solid advise. But it also depends on the shirt some are worn untucked in spring/summer/autumn when it is nice weather. dress shirts should indeed be long so you can really tuck them in and they stay in place.
What about biting your nails. I’m 37 and still bite my nails. It’s anxiety and habit. I know it’s disgusting. I hate getting caught biting them. Wish there was an easy way to stop. Anyway. Thought it could make the list haha
The appropriate firmness of a handshake also varies across cultures. Before you judge another man for their handshake, make sure you’re accounting for that.
I did an event with Bill Gates once he wore one of those shirt and tie combos that you get at Sears for $40. And his suit might have been in the $300 range.
I want to bring back bows. A proper handshake should be firm with the wrist firm as well. I do have a question. I’ve been disabled since 2009 but is it still proper etiquette to wait for a woman to proffer her hand before putting out yours? Oh and for the record gentlemen, when you try to crush a woman’s hand she automatically presumes you have SDE. Every. Time. Look her in the eyes (if you have trouble with that look at the space behind their head or their forehead and it’ll come off the same), then grasp, gently squeeze and immediately release. Trust me, women will be impressed.
The thing I never know is how firmly to shake a woman’s hand. I’ve known some who don’t want a firm handshake from a man, and others who will shame you if it’s not firm enough.
Speaking of crutch words. People need to retire words and phrases such as amazing, literary, basically, bro, super, it is what it is, I know right, wait, what?, spit on, on point, etc.
Crutch words and crutch phrases are a particular pet peeve of mine. Three examples of over used phrases are "out there", "at the end of the day", and "bada bing, bada boom". I consider the use of such phrases as an indication that the speaker has nothing of worth to say! Antonio, you regularly throw in "gents" and "guys". Your audience knows who they are, I see little value in constantly reminding them!
when it comes to over apologizing, I have switch from saying "sorry" to "excuse me". Not always the very best answer to every situation. But if you are in some's way or they are in your way, saying "excuse me" over "sorry" is a big difference.
I hate to say I've counted them, but in so many of your videos I hear the words "that being said..." used often. Unlike your Lieutenants I hardly think of you as an idiot since you give great fashion advice. It seems you've licked this situation since I haven't heard those words it in any newer videos of yours I've watched so far tonight, but please keep an eye out for them.
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Nothings more awkward than reaching in for handshake and end up shaking the other person’s fingers.
I felt the awkward from here.
😂😂😂😂 yes!!
As someone who has never been taught this kind of stuff, thank you very much. You may not know what this means to some people, but you are changing lives for the better and encouraging people to be the best that they can.
@@Riley._.Pierce1 such a brilliant guy and channel
As a Canadian I know I over apologize, and I'm sorry aboot that.
I can think of someone who never says they are sorry, never apologizes and speaks negativity of others. And quite frankly, this person is probably the most successful person in the world.
Depends how you define success. Is this person successful at being universally loved?
Handshake: I absolutely HATE those fist-crusher-handshakes. It's so insecure when they think they have to impress/intimidate/submit you by trying their best to break your hand. Like, seriously, how old are you?
Solid handshake, yeah, absolutely, but trying to crush my hand everytime we shake, that's just pathetic.
Agreed. Hand crushing is just as bad as limp. Maybe worse. Every guy whose done this has been the faux Alpha type.
Those sticky strips on the socks are a good idea. I have some Haggar pants that have that around the waist to keep shirts tucked in easier.
I really need to thrust that thenar space.
Hear, hear
Amazing. I’ve been subscribed to your channel for years; longer than I can remember honestly, and I had NO idea that you served in the Marines. Have zero clue how I never caught that. Thank you *very* much for your service, Antonio 🇺🇸 ! We will need men like you in the coming years. Thank you again and God bless 🙏🏻
I received a dead fish last week in Port Huron, MI. It was an inspector on our cell site. I nearly felt bad for squeezing so hard, but it was normal pressure. He didn’t wince, but I felt all the bones in his gentle hand!
Saggy socks drive. Me. Crazy!!!! I'll be sure to check out the Straight Up Socks folks.
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Thanks!
I appreciate how throughout you are in your videos. Always great content, entertaining and informative 🙌🏽
thanks!
Thank you for this vid. StraightUp socks are amazing. I've bought several pairs.
Love your jacket in this video! What brand?
I meet a lot of executives wearing suits. Often when they sit down and their pants ride up, they have short socks that results in exposed skin. This is something that can be easily remedied but not many men pay attention to.
Yeah see that a lot. Just buy a nice pair of over calf socks and you're fine. I have bought some of Nobile socks and they are very good and beautiful.
In Canada, "Sorry" can be an admission of empathy, not just an admission of guilt
Of course. New Yorker here. "Sorry for your loss." Or "You're in a lot of pain. Sorry."
But there are people who apologize for the silliest things. I was getting off an elevator a few weeks ago and a woman was there to get on. We both began to step in the same direction - oops - and she says "sorry". For me that's an obvious sign of an underlying psychological difficulty. The proper word is "pardon me". Not "excuse me" - you say that when you burp. She says "sorry" and I said in a most neutral way, "Don't apologize for everything."
That's a different sorry
In Canada, saying sorry considered good manners, not a sign of low confidence. You'll actually be considered to be rude or possibly American if you don't do it lol. In Canada, real men do the sorry thing. When in Rome.
@@robertgirardin1307 Sure and that's fine. Word usage is allowed to evolve, and a culture is allowed to evolve it's language usage, but it still says "Canadians" all over it to me. Sounds funny. There's no doubt in my mind that this usage of the word "sorry" comes from an overly liberal application of politeness - which Canadians are obviously known for. Nothing against the country or its people. Italians are known for certain things, Brits for things, New Yorkers for things, etc.
As a Canadian. I apologize for crushing my first impression…. I’m truly sorry
You know… I agree with you about the posture thing, but I have spinal stenosis so I find myself leaning a little forward to ease pain. Don’t get old 😂
Awesome video! There were some real gems in here 👍🏻
I like these types of videos. Simple short tips that improve everyday life. Good job!
😂😄
As a union carpenter who consistently works on large projects and interacts frequently with different people in the construction industry I would like to add to the handshake conversation. I am accustomed to a firm grip, I have one myself. A slight but important nuance to the handshake when you have a strong hand is to not crush the other man’s hand. Be firm, but do not come off as if you are attempting to dominate the man whose hand you are shaking. I am almost as turned off by a dead fish as I am a man who feels the need to exert excessive force in a greeting. I need it to be firm, but dislike a man who feels the need to shake my hand like he is trying to break it
Great advice!🙏
Love the straight up socks.
Love it too!
The men who really need to see videos like this will never make the effort to watch them.
Great point re over apologizing. I’m in Canada and it really grinds my gears. Really takes the meaning away from the word sorry….
Fistbumps are about as prestigious as flip-flops.
I like the look of the StraightUp socks! Might have to go order some here...
As far as first impressions, a limp or awkward handshake is the worst. Implies they are insecure, self centered, unfocused, or dismissive. Might not be any of those but that’s how I feel when a guy can’t bother to give a good firm handshake. The opposite of that is when a guy will keep squeezing way past what is appropriate and now suddenly you’re in a grip contest with a stranger. Just as lame.
Omg..I spat my water out when the two frogs appeared! HahahH People in my break room thought I was nuts!
I was sold at “left and right foot” socks! 😅
Since the fist bump the past few years I’ve been committing the false start for the handshake.
Yeah, sorry about the over-apologizing thing... 🤣
Haha🤣
Whats the best way to prevent mushrooming even after military tucking a shirt?
shirt stays i find work best.
Never tried shirt stays (yet), but a nice, tight belt and a slightly longer shirt should help.
Shirt stays. It's in the name.
One of the most important things about ironing is to NEVER put the iron directly on the clothing. In the Army they taught us to use a damp, not soaking wet, white cotton cloth about the size of a pillow case (or a pillow case in a pinch) as a buffer between the iron and the cloth. Prevents burns and also gives a great crease because of the moisture.
Put your laptop on either a laptop stand or a decent strength mesh baker's rack (which helps with airflow!) to combat nerd neck and bad posture.
Haha! The Sorry in Canada is the equivalent of Excuse Me in America! We aren't really sorry about whatever it is we are more than likely just being polite, acknowledging any stress caused and moving on.
I have a trick for eye contact. It is to look just above the person's eyes. It works great because it appears you are looking straight at them, but you are not.
My phone is just out of reach while sleeping yet close enough that I can hear the emergency call siren.
If I forget a name I use a tactic of generalization. I start the conversation with Hey there! How are you doing? How is your family/job/dog doing? I am much better at associating a significant event with someone if I forget a name, which still makes it look like you are interested in them. (I've done whole conversations with someone and never once said their name.)
Untucked shirt? Sagging socks? Wear a shirt stay: Solves both problems at the same time. Am I too old fashioned?
No that's solid advise. But it also depends on the shirt some are worn untucked in spring/summer/autumn when it is nice weather. dress shirts should indeed be long so you can really tuck them in and they stay in place.
What about biting your nails. I’m 37 and still bite my nails. It’s anxiety and habit. I know it’s disgusting. I hate getting caught biting them. Wish there was an easy way to stop. Anyway. Thought it could make the list haha
Very informative & straight to the point. 👌💯 I assume Antonio is very well known in the veteran community of the US.
I may be wrong but i think the video editing makes you sound like the surgeon, It makes It look like you use the word gents a lot
The appropriate firmness of a handshake also varies across cultures. Before you judge another man for their handshake, make sure you’re accounting for that.
I did an event with Bill Gates once he wore one of those shirt and tie combos that you get at Sears for $40. And his suit might have been in the $300 range.
I’m sure his hygiene was beyond reproach 😅
Oh my word! I can’t stand a fish hand. I feel like I’m going to crush the person’s hand
I want to bring back bows. A proper handshake should be firm with the wrist firm as well. I do have a question. I’ve been disabled since 2009 but is it still proper etiquette to wait for a woman to proffer her hand before putting out yours? Oh and for the record gentlemen, when you try to crush a woman’s hand she automatically presumes you have SDE. Every. Time. Look her in the eyes (if you have trouble with that look at the space behind their head or their forehead and it’ll come off the same), then grasp, gently squeeze and immediately release. Trust me, women will be impressed.
What is SDE? Google didn't return anything that seemed to apply.
I actually wish we brought back the ancient Roman type handshakes you see in the movies. I guess you could call it a “forearm shake”
@@ianguarneschelli2082 That's a "bro shake"
The thing I never know is how firmly to shake a woman’s hand. I’ve known some who don’t want a firm handshake from a man, and others who will shame you if it’s not firm enough.
Hello, Antonio. What is your height?
He's said it before in past videos, but I think it's between 5ft7 and 5ft9 (i could be way off). I think he says it in another of his recent videos.
Like how do you I'm ex-military, until now😂
0:28 😂😂
Editor please make the volume consistent. I keep turning it up and down
Have you tried clicking on the video settings and turning the "stable volume" on?
It is on
I can't stand those who use LIKE after ever other word.
FYI just saying...Thenar has a long e so its Theeeenar.
Never use the word dude
I cringe when people punctuate with “like” or they start all their sentence with “so”.
I never shake peoples hands.
Speaking of crutch words. People need to retire words and phrases such as amazing, literary, basically, bro, super, it is what it is, I know right, wait, what?, spit on, on point, etc.
Fist bump = weak
Thenar Space
Dead fishers are not men
Crutch words and crutch phrases are a particular pet peeve of mine. Three examples of over used phrases are "out there", "at the end of the day", and "bada bing, bada boom". I consider the use of such phrases as an indication that the speaker has nothing of worth to say! Antonio, you regularly throw in "gents" and "guys". Your audience knows who they are, I see little value in constantly reminding them!
It is a tool for softening the tone because giving advice can be overbearing. Like what you did.
when it comes to over apologizing, I have switch from saying "sorry" to "excuse me". Not always the very best answer to every situation. But if you are in some's way or they are in your way, saying "excuse me" over "sorry" is a big difference.
I hate to say I've counted them, but in so many of your videos I hear the words "that being said..." used often. Unlike your Lieutenants I hardly think of you as an idiot since you give great fashion advice. It seems you've licked this situation since I haven't heard those words it in any newer videos of yours I've watched so far tonight, but please keep an eye out for them.
Who the hell are you to decide what's correct ,keep your personal fashion sense to yourself.
You dead fish a handshake?
He definitely does lmao @@Riley._.Pierce1