I stumbled across this video on RUclips and decided to watch it. I'm a doctor and a mother and I 100% thank you for speaking out about the real struggles new mothers face. The episiotomy, lack of sleep, breastfeeding problems, food cravings, irritability and the weight gain that is difficult to lose. A lot of new mums come to my 8-week postnatal clinic in tears because they have been struggling but feel ashamed to tell anyone. We are expected to be superhuman. My encouragement to all new mothers is that it will get better. The babies will grow and become less dependent on you. They will do things to make you laugh and smile. My kids are teenagers now, quite independent and very helpful and supportive. Hang in there, mums. It will get better ❤❤❤❤
This brought tears to my eyes my husband disrespected me two weeks after the birth of our child. Telling me the house and me smells,that I'm not the first woman to give birth thst i should get up and do something,was cool without saying anything. But the disrespect was becoming too much that was when I started talking back I'm now the terrible wife reporting me to everyone who cares to listen to him.
She said needle and thread😂😂😅… I’m a doctor and I can affirm all she said concerning delivery, the stitching and all!!! But the experience differ for a lot of women, some even go through worse!! What’s important though is the safety of the mother and the baby!!!Shout out to all mothers out there, y’all are the real mvps!!!
And you are right about passing out during delivery,I felt my eyes closing out and my mother panicked and the nurse slapped me so hard and they both started praying that apparently that is how most women die in labour room from unconsciousness 😢…Every mother needs to be celebrated multiple times ,nobody should complain if there are 10 Mother’s Day celebrations in a year we deserve it and more ❤
@@ikwuegbueugenia638 you are not alone ,especially cos no food in your system and you are pushing with all your strength,we certainly take it for granted. I blame Eve 🥹
@@MarajisWorld does breastfeeding stop sexual urge because this is really causing issue in my marriage, am currently nursing twins (boys), hubby too will be seeking for attention 😭in term of sex and I don't use to feel the urge 🙄
@@BashsDiary it does for me but I think it's because you're more tired and stressed out caring for a baby/babies and so sex is usually the last thing on a new mother's mind.
This postpartum depression is real. Heard about it. Watched it. Never ķnew it could happen to me. Mine started from the delivery room. My twins came out the nurses brought them to me and I didn't even want to look at them let alone touch them. Got home. And I tried hiding it from everyone. I wasnt eating, and I couldn't sleep. I was just not myself. Until one day I stood up and I saw black. I almost fainted out of lack of eating. We have to be careful mums to be, talking and sharing things with other mums helps. Great job 👍 @maraji for sharing your experience (Hope I spelt your handle right)
My baby is now 8 months and every single point you highlighted has been my experience personally. Motherhood is never easy but our babies are definitely worth all the discomfort we go through. Thanks for this REAL talk.
not me crying at the end of this video realizing that I've actually been through a lot from pregnancy to labour to postpartum and I'm just supposed to still be my best self for my baby and my husband? I don't even know who I am anymore. I can't wait to feel like myself again. Thanks for sharing this.
This silence she talks about, that everyone maintains after the stress of having a new baby, it was such a mystery to me I did a 20 minute youtube video about it as well when my second baby was some months old (she's almost 4 now). The stress is maddening. I had babies who woke once every damn hour every night till they were over a year old. I was a walking zombie and was barely clinging on. Mad at my husband and missing my old self so bad. Wondering if my life was truly over. The sacrifices are a lot. Everything Maraji said, the way she said it, is absolutely true. Take it from her. New baby life is NOT a holiday. But it's a blessing to have babies and a blessing to be prepared. So thanks for videos like this. Bless you, Maraji. It gets better.
This is the most difficult thing I’ve had to do. My baby is 1 month and I’m going through it. One minute, I love him more than anything, the next minute I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I cry but it’s just surprising how I’m able to pull through the day. I know that strength comes from above because it’s not easy 😢
Thank you Maraji for talking about this. People don’t talk about it and that alone is scary. I’m 30 now, I’ve heard lots of stories about pregnancy and raising babies but the most painful and unfair one is that I don’t know how my mom could tell me it’s the most easiest thing to do as a woman when it’s the most difficult life hurdle to ever take.😂
They say that so as not to scare you because they know it can be scary and painful af. I confronted my mom about it and that was the answer she gave me.
I cried watching this video because i have always felt like i was over stretching this postpartum and motherhood thing but watching this video made me feel better... Am not alone... Am going to go and freely share my experience
I’m glad someone is finally saying these things. I always laugh when young ladies say women “allow” themselves gain weight and look unkempt once they have kids. It’s better experienced. I have 3 kids all under 10. Some days I’m sane, most days I’m not. Prayer, perfumes and work are coping well for me. Thanks for sharing 💖
guys im pregnant now and the only things I can eat are indomie and yam because I have hyperemesis and extreme food aversions. Please tell me how I wont add weight when all im eating is carbs. Then my appetite when I was breastfeeding my last baby... Women don't allow themselves to gain weight. Honestly sometimes it can't be helped.
Firstly, can we all take few minutes of our time to appreciate Maraji’s beauty? This lady is so pretty and has a South-African-like face. Then her caramel skin, OMG 🤎🤎🤎 I really enjoyed the vlog and the part she mentioned contraception & selz, lmao dramatic much!
4 months postpartum here and i can definitely relate to most things, when i look back to the first 2 months postpartum i wonder how i survived cause i was in so much pain, felt like trailer jam me. Grateful for a supportive husband and my mum else I definitely don’t know how I would have done it. I am just glad that we talk about it more now so new moms dont feel crazy.
This and more!! 6 months postpartum with baby no. 2 and I feel lost. I live in the states and I had/have absolutely no support. My MIL is the devil and I don’t want her around me or my kids. My mom isn’t able to leave the Islands to come visit me (visit and money issues). My husband works long hours and so I feel bad about asking him for help at night. Honestly, some days I feel like I’m losing my mind. I have no notion of self… like I don’t know who I am anymore. Postpartum depression hit me so hard with my first. I was and still feel very lonely. MIL is the worst human being ever she treated me so badly. To think that she’s a woman is just unimaginable. BUT at the end of the day, my babies are worth everything and more!! Thank you for sharing your story, Maraji!
It's the way she adds humour when discussing the experience. 😂🤣 People don't really talk so much about these things. Honestly, I don't think it should scare anyone tho, but prepare you mentally and otherwise for what's to come.
I was laughing cos I could totally relate to everything you said! But still the postpartum shege still remains plenty! I had itchy and sweaty armpits while breastfeeding the first few weeks, nausea while breastfeeding, latching pain (God bless nipple cream) the extreme night sweats, swelling up of face, legs etc after birth (water leaving the body), faecal incontinence (thank you kegels!!), pelvic pains, carpal tunnel pains continued 😭😭. What of the drinking hot tea, hot pap, hot peppersoup in hot weather? Or them bathing you with hot water 😭😭. Abeg pregnancy has nothing on postpartum....its a wild time mehn! The 4th trimester is the real deal!
So true. Nothing prepares you for postpartum. I had Caesarian section and it wasn't easy especially being a first time mum. The stitches ached, lifting the baby ached, that spinal site continuously caused back pain, then on top of that, low breastmilk production, sleepless and anxiety and just crying all the time. But it has gotten better. Just seeing my baby laugh and smile made the journey worth it.
You're the first woman to really talk about all these...Why is everyone else so quiet about it? That's the main problem. Every woman keeps quiet about all the pains of childbirth. They all just say "your baby makes you happy" bruhhhhh
I didn't know I could watch this video to the end without skipping. It shows how interesting it is. Girl! You hit the nail on the head. For me, I dealt with anxiety and high blood pressure after birth. I thought I was going to die😃
If your mum is still alive, love and appreciate her daily. Most women don’t understand the worth of a mother until they become mothers too. Motherhood is a whole lot. Now think of women who combine all these with their career? That’s why as women we should support one another ! God bless you Maraji for spilling these out; these are things our mothers never told us and we somehow weren’t prepared when we experienced them. Lastly, if you’re a single lady, shine your eyes and pray well before getting married o. Going through all this and be married to a ‘yeye’ man na double pain o.
As a nursing student, I've seen these firsthand, and the reality of pregnancy and postpartum makes me very intentional. Do I want babies? Who's the right person to do this with? The fantasy behind pregnancy and postpartum has made people who do not want it feel awkward, but it really is a lot of work!! Not everyone should want to have babies, but that is a topic for another day❤
I just had a conversation with my friend this evening about how women never talk about the struggles only the glam part which is so frustrating I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant and experiencing a whole lot I just hate it when people act like this things don’t happen Thank you for sharing ❤️
Currently dealing with the part were you feel like you dont have an identity anymore...my whole existence currently revolves around my son, its beautiful but that feeling of emptiness isnt a really nice one....i feel like a support group should be created for women with such challenge. But in all motherhood is beautiful...just be sure and ready before starting the journey
❤😢😂😊 PCOS- everything you said I went through it all! My son is 3 and I'm spiritually, mentally and emotionally at a good point. BUT physically not yet there... I thank God my baby is strong and alive. I just wish more of us talked about this cause it ain't eaaasssyyy! Ps. The labour pain was so serve that I started vomiting intensely and needed Emergency C-section To all the mama's ❤❤❤ Thank you. You are doing great and you are all wonderful- you carried another Full functioning Human being inside your own body 🎉😊❤👏👏
As a licensed midwife that has been practicing for close to 6 years now........80 % of your experience is true for all mothers. I think what you had was breast engorgement not mastitis except an infection set in. Then the blood part ,I don't know if it's an exaggeration on your part but it's not normal to loose such a copious amount of blood after delivery. Anything above 200mls is becoming abnormal...... It could be you had a primary post partum hemorrhage. All in all mothers should prepare for the unexpected during labor and postpartum.... like you said it is better experienced. Love you maraji
A midwife also but all they taught us in school is nothing compared to the experience. Normal lochia finished with all the different colour changes then fresh dark red blood now resumed for 2 months non stop. Hospital say nothing dey do me that it will stop soon. It eventually did.
TOP TIP - to help the first poop that comes out, drink a large carton (500ml) of Prune Juice. It's not tasty, but there will be no pain or pressure when wanting to pass the first poop. Allowed me to leave hospital sooner too because thats an important milestone post labour. UK Hospital.
I love every part of this video because you have highlighted pure facts about postpartum. I can completely relate with all the points that you raised but it’s sad that a lot of women are left to experience this on their own without adequate preparation prior to motherhood. Thank you for being a strong voice on this motherhood journey 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It is so truth to the teeth.I’m far from home and gave birth alone and went through postpartum alone.It’s been a year and half and I’m still trying to find myself but no one understands 😢😢
Maraji your descriptions are hilarious.😅😂 Currently on week 2 of postpartum (baby #2) , this is so relatable & funny. Also to add, an episiotomy really shouldn’t be given without your consent oh and you can specify ahead of birth what interventions you don’t want except absolutely necessary. Episiotomy shouldn’t really be routine because it takes a while to heal (longer healing time than even a natural tear + most times it isn’t even necessary). You can exercise your choices mummies ❤
Episiotomy is not usually not a routine until needed especially for first time mothers....... If you have witnessed a third degree tear . You will be greatful for episiotomy
Episiotomy isn’t routine. If you require episiotomy, it’s better to get it cos the a controlled perineal tear(episiotomy) is better than an uncontrolled one. People can even have stool incontinence from extensive tears
@@DrAdaYANG exactly….My doctor didn’t want to tear me during my 2nd child delivery but the kind of tear this baby gave me ern,an episiotomy could have been better
Postpartum blues and depression is so real and it is unsaid. I had a very big cut while having my first baby and the stitches broke down after some days. I saw hell . Only the thought of carrying that bing wound down there scared the hell out of me but I’m thankful that everything came bk to normal after few weeks and I’m able to share the story and always give hope to people with same issue Motherhood is not child’s play
Haaa. OMG. Finally, someone has helped the women's ministry. God!!! You are such a darling. I'll call this presentation a therapy session for me. My baby is 3 months old, after I hung my 🥾 9 years. My mom left after 2 months. Now i feel like i have fallen apart. Everything is so annoying, i haven't had any meaningful sleep in the last 3 months. My understanding husband wakes up to cook every 5am, still everything he does annoys me, even when i say thank you to him, I still wish I shouldn't go through this journey. It's so stressful. Just 2 days ago my first son asked me " mummy are you regretting"? That was when I realised how deeply i had sank into the world of depression. Frankly, I want to thank you again for this piece.❤
You described it well, every new milestone your baby hit is a new phase that comes with stress! When I weaned my son off breast milk, I wanted to die, the engorgement, the pain, the fever, and I still had to take care of my son. Motherhood is a lot.
Thank you for being realllll😢this was me 5months ago, I literally experienced every point mentioned, had a 3rd degree perineal tear, and was almost losing it at some point because I find it difficult to even share or ask for help from friends and still blame myself again and there goes the cycle. Thankful for my husband who stood by me through it all
I've had friends that gave birth, and I would always try to engage them into having such a conversation and non of them would ever open up like you just did. Thank you for this ❤
Thank you for speaking on this. You're right. Nothing can prepare you for pregnancy or postpartum. It's the ghetto, something you have to experience yourself.
Very interesting and insightful perspective from a mother...I'm a doctor ..and I must say..really options for pain control as well as their adequacy is not emphasised in most parts of Africa...pregnancy..Labour ..delivery..postpartum pain and changes are not extensively addressed and dealt with..many women get depressed during and after childbirth...and it's mostly downplayed and ignored...how many other mothers overcome all these mostly without intervention at all is miraculous...there's really a lot of advocacy and work to be done...well done Maraji for highlighting this..
This is what I call real talk. Thank you! Thank you! I have never heard anyone talk about all this in detail and I feel it is because postpartum experiences weren't a common topic of discussion but since our generation is more vocal about a lot of things accompanied by social media, we now get to hear about these things. Thank you once again.
I totally agree with you, my gender won’t tell u the truth, especially the ones giving birth every year, it’s very hard!!! My pregnancy was easy (by God’s grace) but I will take my sweet time for each child😂 I can totally relate Especially the contraceptive talk🤣 I was you, you was me😃😃😬😬😬 Then the tear🤦🏼♀️🙆🏼♀️ Then second child bearing is not even easier 😢 don’t let anyone BOBO you, many are going true a lot but don’t like to share or tell the truth.. You are so transparent maraji ❤
Thanks for sharing this! I feel like our mothers withheld a lot of details about motherhood from us. We need more people sharing their stories; let people know exactly what they are getting into
Thanks for talking about this, you legit said it all. I kept asking my mum after having my first baby, why mothers are so silent about this. Truly motherhood is hard. 👏👏
Maraji... your postpartum story is similar to mine I swear... from my contractions not moving due to a 5kg baby and being overdue(11mnths) to postpartum recovery.. I still can't describe my experience like seriously... I felt alone and I wasn't alone ooo, didn't even want to see my partner at all, everything he said, did just passed me off, the alone time I have was in the shower, I literally lock the door to have an alone Time.... I'm just smiling watching this video.. thank you Maraji
Postpartum is tough!!! Remembering my breastfeeding journey for my second child gives me ptsd! Everything you’ve said is so spot on, postpartum was definitely tougher for me mentally than pregnancy
I experienced so many emotions in one while watching this,😂 fear, joy, excitement, anger (with regards to - why oh why must I go through this, just to see my beautiful children, all because auntie Eve decided to chew one apple😅). Thank you for being so thorough, this was SO informative. I have started my prayers, I just pray God will have mercy on me, because it all sounds ALOT.
I just had my baby 5 months ago. And i can relate to everything you just talked about. Itz insane how much women don’t talk about this process. I kept on asking people that had kids why they never explained what to expect properly.
3 months postpartum here! I really love this video you said everything that I thought of during my journey. I remember telling my mom like why does everyone keep these things a secret. Like tell new mothers everything to expect the more they know the better. In the beginning of breastfeeding I actually had feeling of disgust. Man I felt so guilty about it and those contractions while bf are no joke. I also started with droplets of milk for days 🤣🥲 this is honestly the craziest thing I ever done.
I appreciate you maraji. This just boosted my mood that I’m not alone. And I just started blocking everyone that told me I’m now fat…the insensitive comments from some Nigerians can be something else
2 months postpartum today and I can relate with all the things you mentioned 😩 I really hope it gets easier because bruhhh! Nothing I experienced during pregnancy compares to this
Thank you for sharing with us and being Soo real. People don't really talk about these things because they sound scary but to be pre informed is the best. Thank you Maraji. Thank you so much. We will be mentally prepared for this rollercoaster. I wonder why society makes it look like you are less of a woman when you don't have kids? People are just very insensitive... Because ei... All mothers well done.
Honestly 😂! It cracks me up watching this vlog because right now I am experiencing the same thing. Gave birth 4days ago and i can say this is 💯 real. The first poop🙄🙄 mu goodness! I can’t explain. Practically assisted myself to poop out🤣🤣🤣 Motherhood is a blessing but with special grace❤ Weldone Ma’am
O.M.G wish I had seen this video earlier... Now I feel a little or lemme say a lot better knowing my problem is actually general. My baby boy is four months and a week now but honestly, I haven't gotten over this postpartum stuff. It's just so so overwhelming. Nevertheless, all I get is 'overload joy' seeing my bundle of joy; I just make him my comfort therapy each time😅 Aswear motherhood no easy. Thanks Maraji for the true talk... You rock✌
This is so apt!! I love the humor with which you are sharing 😂...I'm sharing this with my cousin that just put to bed, she definitely almost cursed her husband at some point while going through this, which wasn't funny then sha 😅
Thank you for talking about all these. These days after delivery before the sewing, Nurses put their hands inside there and pack blood which is very painful too
Since you like watching k dramas, I recommend you watch this 8 episode drama, ‘the birthcare center.’ A lot of what you said is featured on that drama. I truly enjoyed it although I’m not a mom ❤❤
Hilarious and educational 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i love you so much 😂😂😂 i was just talking about this with a guy , they think it's so easy 😂😂 see as my mind dey do gbim gbim 😂😂😂
😂😂 Maraji, I’m trying to avoid my stitches pains , but I can’t stop laughing, my baby is just 2weeks old , and thank you for this content , it’s specifically for me ❤
i honestly cannot believe how accurate you are. It feels like you just put into word all i have been going through for eleven months now since my baby was born. i am so relieved that finally someone relates...and i had a good laugh too, lol. Thank you.
This was so engaging and I was kept looking at your face, because the honesty was real - someone needed to say this. Pregnancy and childbirth are always touted as being beautiful and all women strive toward that end. They are wonderful experiences and worth the sacrifices, but it would have been nice to know some of these things BEFORE going through it just so that you don't feel like the only one going through the challenges. Being sleep-deprived is a big one. Moving through life while being sleep-deprived for long periods of time is scary. 😱 Thanks for sharing. ❤
This video had been sent to me by multiple people because you have basically just read out my biography. I am almost 2 weeks postpartum with my first child and I can relate to it all. Did I mention my son is called Jaiden? Very crazy coincidence. It was as if you were reading our story. 🤯
I stumbled across this video on RUclips and decided to watch it. I'm a doctor and a mother and I 100% thank you for speaking out about the real struggles new mothers face. The episiotomy, lack of sleep, breastfeeding problems, food cravings, irritability and the weight gain that is difficult to lose. A lot of new mums come to my 8-week postnatal clinic in tears because they have been struggling but feel ashamed to tell anyone. We are expected to be superhuman. My encouragement to all new mothers is that it will get better. The babies will grow and become less dependent on you. They will do things to make you laugh and smile. My kids are teenagers now, quite independent and very helpful and supportive. Hang in there, mums. It will get better ❤❤❤❤
You're so kind. Thank you ❤
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😱😱😱😱😱😱 I never born ooo goosebumps don full my body as I dey watch this video it looks like pregnancy go far from me
This brought tears to my eyes my husband disrespected me two weeks after the birth of our child.
Telling me the house and me smells,that I'm not the first woman to give birth thst i should get up and do something,was cool without saying anything. But the disrespect was becoming too much that was when I started talking back I'm now the terrible wife reporting me to everyone who cares to listen to him.
She said needle and thread😂😂😅… I’m a doctor and I can affirm all she said concerning delivery, the stitching and all!!!
But the experience differ for a lot of women, some even go through worse!!
What’s important though is the safety of the mother and the baby!!!Shout out to all mothers out there, y’all are the real mvps!!!
Worst ke...fada Lord
Does this happen to every first time mom?
@@ekenedike3183 Rarely will you see any first time mum without this crazy beautiful story.
I didn't experience most of these but it really wasn't easy
@@Imeldathetechmom share your experience with us please, we would like to hear.
..."he is so happy and excited to be alive." That one got me 😂🤣🤣 ..
Honestly 😂😂
@@ebereblessing4352 well, let's allow him to be a baby too, 'cos adult too na scam 😂
Me too😂
Ei off me too oo😂
@@hildabes9210 😂
And you are right about passing out during delivery,I felt my eyes closing out and my mother panicked and the nurse slapped me so hard and they both started praying that apparently that is how most women die in labour room from unconsciousness 😢…Every mother needs to be celebrated multiple times ,nobody should complain if there are 10 Mother’s Day celebrations in a year we deserve it and more ❤
Exactly ooh , I was struggling to keep my eyes open , my matron kept slapping me , hmmm , I am happy everything turned out well.
❤thank you
I thought it was just me oo i legit felt life leaving my body 😂
@@ikwuegbueugenia638 you are not alone ,especially cos no food in your system and you are pushing with all your strength,we certainly take it for granted. I blame Eve 🥹
Nobody should complain o! We deserveeeeee
This is why I love you Maraj!....it's like watching a discovery Channel with comedy in it😂❤
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@@MarajisWorld does breastfeeding stop sexual urge because this is really causing issue in my marriage, am currently nursing twins (boys), hubby too will be seeking for attention 😭in term of sex and I don't use to feel the urge 🙄
@@BashsDiary it does for me but I think it's because you're more tired and stressed out caring for a baby/babies and so sex is usually the last thing on a new mother's mind.
Sis, the way I laughed so hard throughout this video, you won’t believe it 😂😂
😂😂😂 no cap
This postpartum depression is real. Heard about it. Watched it. Never ķnew it could happen to me. Mine started from the delivery room. My twins came out the nurses brought them to me and I didn't even want to look at them let alone touch them.
Got home. And I tried hiding it from everyone. I wasnt eating, and I couldn't sleep. I was just not myself. Until one day I stood up and I saw black. I almost fainted out of lack of eating.
We have to be careful mums to be, talking and sharing things with other mums helps.
Great job 👍 @maraji for sharing your experience
(Hope I spelt your handle right)
Right it’s not talked about enough
Who else is a single lady cringing as you watch this but still smiling. Praying we all experience childbirth to be a healthy mom with healthy babies .
Healthy mom with healthy babies
That should be our prayer 😂
Meee
I'm really learning thanks for being honest❤. Mothers are super heros ❤😂
Me, I’m already having second thoughts as is it😂😂
😂 I felt it 😂 was so scared 😟 but it’s beautiful
My baby is now 8 months and every single point you highlighted has been my experience personally. Motherhood is never easy but our babies are definitely worth all the discomfort we go through. Thanks for this REAL talk.
not me crying at the end of this video realizing that I've actually been through a lot from pregnancy to labour to postpartum and I'm just supposed to still be my best self for my baby and my husband? I don't even know who I am anymore. I can't wait to feel like myself again. Thanks for sharing this.
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Lots of e-hug to you, it's a whole lot to take in, but trust me, it will get better. It does help if you have a supporting and caring husband 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Funny 😂I can’t believe I went through all of this 4 times and I m pregnant again God bless woman’s ❤😊
This silence she talks about, that everyone maintains after the stress of having a new baby, it was such a mystery to me I did a 20 minute youtube video about it as well when my second baby was some months old (she's almost 4 now).
The stress is maddening. I had babies who woke once every damn hour every night till they were over a year old. I was a walking zombie and was barely clinging on. Mad at my husband and missing my old self so bad. Wondering if my life was truly over. The sacrifices are a lot. Everything Maraji said, the way she said it, is absolutely true. Take it from her. New baby life is NOT a holiday. But it's a blessing to have babies and a blessing to be prepared. So thanks for videos like this. Bless you, Maraji. It gets better.
This is the most difficult thing I’ve had to do. My baby is 1 month and I’m going through it. One minute, I love him more than anything, the next minute I’m overwhelmed. Sometimes I cry but it’s just surprising how I’m able to pull through the day. I know that strength comes from above because it’s not easy 😢
Your colour choices and coordination is so WOW! From clothes to ur entire house, even ur skin♥️
Very true
I feel like she loves brown color
Yea, she loves nude. The whole setting is awesome 😊
I was thinking about this roo
Thank you Maraji for talking about this. People don’t talk about it and that alone is scary. I’m 30 now, I’ve heard lots of stories about pregnancy and raising babies but the most painful and unfair one is that I don’t know how my mom could tell me it’s the most easiest thing to do as a woman when it’s the most difficult life hurdle to ever take.😂
They say that so as not to scare you because they know it can be scary and painful af. I confronted my mom about it and that was the answer she gave me.
I cried watching this video because i have always felt like i was over stretching this postpartum and motherhood thing but watching this video made me feel better... Am not alone... Am going to go and freely share my experience
Sis no be easy ooo
I’m glad someone is finally saying these things. I always laugh when young ladies say women “allow” themselves gain weight and look unkempt once they have kids. It’s better experienced. I have 3 kids all under 10. Some days I’m sane, most days I’m not. Prayer, perfumes and work are coping well for me. Thanks for sharing 💖
Perfumes 🤣🤣, my sister , that’s my coping mechanism too ooh
guys im pregnant now and the only things I can eat are indomie and yam because I have hyperemesis and extreme food aversions. Please tell me how I wont add weight when all im eating is carbs. Then my appetite when I was breastfeeding my last baby... Women don't allow themselves to gain weight. Honestly sometimes it can't be helped.
Firstly, can we all take few minutes of our time to appreciate Maraji’s beauty? This lady is so pretty and has a South-African-like face. Then her caramel skin, OMG 🤎🤎🤎
I really enjoyed the vlog and the part she mentioned contraception & selz, lmao dramatic much!
I respect how maraji is able to be so educational but still funny at the same time
4 months postpartum here and i can definitely relate to most things, when i look back to the first 2 months postpartum i wonder how i survived cause i was in so much pain, felt like trailer jam me. Grateful for a supportive husband and my mum else I definitely don’t know how I would have done it. I am just glad that we talk about it more now so new moms dont feel crazy.
Well done, mama! Even trailer dey learn work for the matter
It would be nice to see a video featuring your husband on this pregnancy/postpartum series. Make we still hear the shege wey e pass
It will be nice
To also hear what he went through as a husband to a pregnant woman
Yes. That would be very nice
I second that
All those in favor say I 😂😂
@@graceabby1040 ☝️😂
This and more!!
6 months postpartum with baby no. 2 and I feel lost. I live in the states and I had/have absolutely no support. My MIL is the devil and I don’t want her around me or my kids. My mom isn’t able to leave the Islands to come visit me (visit and money issues). My husband works long hours and so I feel bad about asking him for help at night.
Honestly, some days I feel like I’m losing my mind. I have no notion of self… like I don’t know who I am anymore. Postpartum depression hit me so hard with my first. I was and still feel very lonely. MIL is the worst human being ever she treated me so badly. To think that she’s a woman is just unimaginable.
BUT at the end of the day, my babies are worth everything and more!! Thank you for sharing your story, Maraji!
Also join groups so you can meet other mums. Good luck xxx
I laughed so much 😂 currently going through it with that lack of sleep
Yes! The husband hate is real😂😂😂😂😂
Sending you hugsss🤗. You'll get through this
I’m sorry my sister, I’m 7 months Postpartum and I have some bad days still.
It's the way she adds humour when discussing the experience. 😂🤣 People don't really talk so much about these things. Honestly, I don't think it should scare anyone tho, but prepare you mentally and otherwise for what's to come.
You are absolutely right
I was laughing cos I could totally relate to everything you said! But still the postpartum shege still remains plenty! I had itchy and sweaty armpits while breastfeeding the first few weeks, nausea while breastfeeding, latching pain (God bless nipple cream) the extreme night sweats, swelling up of face, legs etc after birth (water leaving the body), faecal incontinence (thank you kegels!!), pelvic pains, carpal tunnel pains continued 😭😭. What of the drinking hot tea, hot pap, hot peppersoup in hot weather? Or them bathing you with hot water 😭😭. Abeg pregnancy has nothing on postpartum....its a wild time mehn! The 4th trimester is the real deal!
So true. Nothing prepares you for postpartum. I had Caesarian section and it wasn't easy especially being a first time mum. The stitches ached, lifting the baby ached, that spinal site continuously caused back pain, then on top of that, low breastmilk production, sleepless and anxiety and just crying all the time. But it has gotten better. Just seeing my baby laugh and smile made the journey worth it.
You're the first woman to really talk about all these...Why is everyone else so quiet about it? That's the main problem. Every woman keeps quiet about all the pains of childbirth. They all just say "your baby makes you happy" bruhhhhh
I didn't know I could watch this video to the end without skipping. It shows how interesting it is. Girl! You hit the nail on the head. For me, I dealt with anxiety and high blood pressure after birth. I thought I was going to die😃
I experienced high blood pressure too with banging headache. It was now as if my head was not mine again.
This is exactly my problem ooo
I don’t know how to deal with it ooo
I had crazy anxiety too
.. I had to go through therapy by the time my baby was 2 and a half months old
Why am I laughing and crying at the same time?😂
It’s so good to know you’re not alone in this journey
May God protect them for us ❤
She's so funny 😂
If your mum is still alive, love and appreciate her daily. Most women don’t understand the worth of a mother until they become mothers too. Motherhood is a whole lot. Now think of women who combine all these with their career? That’s why as women we should support one another ! God bless you Maraji for spilling these out; these are things our mothers never told us and we somehow weren’t prepared when we experienced them. Lastly, if you’re a single lady, shine your eyes and pray well before getting married o. Going through all this and be married to a ‘yeye’ man na double pain o.
I just kept nodding through out this video, I feel seen and understood. Thank you for this video. Motherhood is a roller-coaster 😂
I love how realistic this video is mixed with good humor. Best postpartum video on this internet to be honest!
I loveee this video. Thank you for being real and raw about pregnancy labor and motherhood, you look beautiful and you’re doing a great job 🤎🤎🤎
Awwwwww thank you Eloho 😘😘
As a nursing student, I've seen these firsthand, and the reality of pregnancy and postpartum makes me very intentional. Do I want babies? Who's the right person to do this with? The fantasy behind pregnancy and postpartum has made people who do not want it feel awkward, but it really is a lot of work!! Not everyone should want to have babies, but that is a topic for another day❤
The “contraception talk” part got me😂😂😂😂
It's actually the way Maraji demonstrates these things that makes me forget it's a real life something, not comedy😂😂😂
You know 😂😂😂
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Currently on 14weeks postpartum. Seriously, I can relate.God bless all mothers Amen
I love how you're effortlessly funny, Gloria!🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for these facts.
Sincerely, we need to hear it.
I just had a conversation with my friend this evening about how women never talk about the struggles only the glam part which is so frustrating
I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant and experiencing a whole lot
I just hate it when people act like this things don’t happen
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Currently dealing with the part were you feel like you dont have an identity anymore...my whole existence currently revolves around my son, its beautiful but that feeling of emptiness isnt a really nice one....i feel like a support group should be created for women with such challenge. But in all motherhood is beautiful...just be sure and ready before starting the journey
Exactly. You explained it perfectly ✨
❤😢😂😊
PCOS- everything you said I went through it all! My son is 3 and I'm spiritually, mentally and emotionally at a good point. BUT physically not yet there... I thank God my baby is strong and alive.
I just wish more of us talked about this cause it ain't eaaasssyyy!
Ps. The labour pain was so serve that I started vomiting intensely and needed Emergency C-section
To all the mama's ❤❤❤
Thank you. You are doing great and you are all wonderful- you carried another Full functioning Human being inside your own body 🎉😊❤👏👏
As a licensed midwife that has been practicing for close to 6 years now........80 % of your experience is true for all mothers. I think what you had was breast engorgement not mastitis except an infection set in. Then the blood part ,I don't know if it's an exaggeration on your part but it's not normal to loose such a copious amount of blood after delivery. Anything above 200mls is becoming abnormal...... It could be you had a primary post partum hemorrhage. All in all mothers should prepare for the unexpected during labor and postpartum.... like you said it is better experienced. Love you maraji
A midwife also but all they taught us in school is nothing compared to the experience. Normal lochia finished with all the different colour changes then fresh dark red blood now resumed for 2 months non stop. Hospital say nothing dey do me that it will stop soon. It eventually did.
I am a new mom and all these I can relate with. Shout out to all mothers and wives, we are truly co-creators with God. Thanks for sharing Maraji.
I get but not like co-creators na
TOP TIP - to help the first poop that comes out, drink a large carton (500ml) of Prune Juice. It's not tasty, but there will be no pain or pressure when wanting to pass the first poop. Allowed me to leave hospital sooner too because thats an important milestone post labour. UK Hospital.
Is the quietness about motherhood for me no one really tells you anything… you experience it all by yourself…love watching your videos ❤
Because there is no appropriate word to describe it to someone ,they won't be able to understand it till they experience it
It’s how she’s explaining the real scary dangers about this and I’m just laughing because of how she’s demonstrating and explaining 😭😂😂😂
I love every part of this video because you have highlighted pure facts about postpartum. I can completely relate with all the points that you raised but it’s sad that a lot of women are left to experience this on their own without adequate preparation prior to motherhood.
Thank you for being a strong voice on this motherhood journey 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It is so truth to the teeth.I’m far from home and gave birth alone and went through postpartum alone.It’s been a year and half and I’m still trying to find myself but no one understands 😢😢
Maraji your descriptions are hilarious.😅😂 Currently on week 2 of postpartum (baby #2) , this is so relatable & funny. Also to add, an episiotomy really shouldn’t be given without your consent oh and you can specify ahead of birth what interventions you don’t want except absolutely necessary. Episiotomy shouldn’t really be routine because it takes a while to heal (longer healing time than even a natural tear + most times it isn’t even necessary). You can exercise your choices mummies ❤
Episiotomy is not usually not a routine until needed especially for first time mothers....... If you have witnessed a third degree tear . You will be greatful for episiotomy
Episiotomy isn’t routine. If you require episiotomy, it’s better to get it cos the a controlled perineal tear(episiotomy) is better than an uncontrolled one. People can even have stool incontinence from extensive tears
@@DrAdaYANGexactly
@@DrAdaYANG exactly….My doctor didn’t want to tear me during my 2nd child delivery but the kind of tear this baby gave me ern,an episiotomy could have been better
@@damilolagrace3566 chai my story right now… first time mom with 3rd degree tear😢
Postpartum blues and depression is so real and it is unsaid.
I had a very big cut while having my first baby and the stitches broke down after some days. I saw hell . Only the thought of carrying that bing wound down there scared the hell out of me but I’m thankful that everything came bk to normal after few weeks and I’m able to share the story and always give hope to people with same issue
Motherhood is not child’s play
“Persevere in your love” 😂 I died!! Thanks for the laughter!
Haaa. OMG. Finally, someone has helped the women's ministry. God!!! You are such a darling. I'll call this presentation a therapy session for me. My baby is 3 months old, after I hung my 🥾 9 years. My mom left after 2 months. Now i feel like i have fallen apart. Everything is so annoying, i haven't had any meaningful sleep in the last 3 months. My understanding husband wakes up to cook every 5am, still everything he does annoys me, even when i say thank you to him, I still wish I shouldn't go through this journey. It's so stressful. Just 2 days ago my first son asked me " mummy are you regretting"? That was when I realised how deeply i had sank into the world of depression. Frankly, I want to thank you again for this piece.❤
You described it well, every new milestone your baby hit is a new phase that comes with stress! When I weaned my son off breast milk, I wanted to die, the engorgement, the pain, the fever, and I still had to take care of my son. Motherhood is a lot.
Thank you for being realllll😢this was me 5months ago, I literally experienced every point mentioned, had a 3rd degree perineal tear, and was almost losing it at some point because I find it difficult to even share or ask for help from friends and still blame myself again and there goes the cycle. Thankful for my husband who stood by me through it all
I’m lying with my 10m old and reliving it all through your video Maraji, thanks for documenting our journey. 😂❤ I’m still trying to find myself ❤
I've had friends that gave birth, and I would always try to engage them into having such a conversation and non of them would ever open up like you just did. Thank you for this ❤
Thanks for being this vulnerable. Trust me this will help more than one.❤❤❤❤
Honestly, that sounds terrible. Absolutely awful. Thank you for not being quiet though and telling your truth.
Thank you for speaking on this. You're right. Nothing can prepare you for pregnancy or postpartum. It's the ghetto, something you have to experience yourself.
Two weeks postpartum, I was looking for a private place to cry last night. My Mom is stressed. My husband has been supportive tho, I appreciate it.
Very interesting and insightful perspective from a mother...I'm a doctor ..and I must say..really options for pain control as well as their adequacy is not emphasised in most parts of Africa...pregnancy..Labour ..delivery..postpartum pain and changes are not extensively addressed and dealt with..many women get depressed during and after childbirth...and it's mostly downplayed and ignored...how many other mothers overcome all these mostly without intervention at all is miraculous...there's really a lot of advocacy and work to be done...well done Maraji for highlighting this..
This is the most real postpartum video on the Internet,,💯💯💯
FACTS FACTS FACTS💯
This is what I call real talk. Thank you! Thank you! I have never heard anyone talk about all this in detail and I feel it is because postpartum experiences weren't a common topic of discussion but since our generation is more vocal about a lot of things accompanied by social media, we now get to hear about these things. Thank you once again.
No.4 is my favorite. I have a newborn and its hard and terrible. I could cry and cry cos my son wont stop crying. Motherhood go show u shege.
I totally agree with you, my gender won’t tell u the truth, especially the ones giving birth every year, it’s very hard!!!
My pregnancy was easy (by God’s grace) but I will take my sweet time for each child😂
I can totally relate
Especially the contraceptive talk🤣 I was you, you was me😃😃😬😬😬
Then the tear🤦🏼♀️🙆🏼♀️
Then second child bearing is not even easier 😢 don’t let anyone BOBO you, many are going true a lot but don’t like to share or tell the truth..
You are so transparent maraji ❤
Thank you ooh ….. my gender will be forming strength 😂😂😂😂
I thought I was alone in the husband hating saga😂😂😂😂😂
This video is so real and spot.
I really love how you didn't sugar coat anything.
Mother's really go through a lot
Thanks for sharing this! I feel like our mothers withheld a lot of details about motherhood from us.
We need more people sharing their stories; let people know exactly what they are getting into
I am telling you, they don’t say anything, my dad was the one who told me all my mum went through when she had me (she saw shege😩)
My mom too I was very mad with her I told her why you didn’t tell me all these things???
The honesty and ability to be vulnerable to the world is absolutely amazing. This will surely help a lot of people.
Thanks for talking about this, you legit said it all. I kept asking my mum after having my first baby, why mothers are so silent about this. Truly motherhood is hard. 👏👏
Maraji... your postpartum story is similar to mine I swear... from my contractions not moving due to a 5kg baby and being overdue(11mnths) to postpartum recovery.. I still can't describe my experience like seriously... I felt alone and I wasn't alone ooo, didn't even want to see my partner at all, everything he said, did just passed me off, the alone time I have was in the shower, I literally lock the door to have an alone Time.... I'm just smiling watching this video.. thank you Maraji
I really love these pregnancy videos because gurlllll I wish people spoke about these things for awareness before I had my first son. Thank you hun😍
Likeeeeee!
No body talk about this
Postpartum is tough!!! Remembering my breastfeeding journey for my second child gives me ptsd! Everything you’ve said is so spot on, postpartum was definitely tougher for me mentally than pregnancy
I experienced so many emotions in one while watching this,😂 fear, joy, excitement, anger (with regards to - why oh why must I go through this, just to see my beautiful children, all because auntie Eve decided to chew one apple😅). Thank you for being so thorough, this was SO informative. I have started my prayers, I just pray God will have mercy on me, because it all sounds ALOT.
I just had my baby 5 months ago. And i can relate to everything you just talked about. Itz insane how much women don’t talk about this process. I kept on asking people that had kids why they never explained what to expect properly.
I haven't seen this level of honestly anywhere online. Every young mum needs to see this! I experienced this, every bit of it.
Thank you Maraji!
3 months postpartum here! I really love this video you said everything that I thought of during my journey. I remember telling my mom like why does everyone keep these things a secret. Like tell new mothers everything to expect the more they know the better. In the beginning of breastfeeding I actually had feeling of disgust. Man I felt so guilty about it and those contractions while bf are no joke. I also started with droplets of milk for days 🤣🥲 this is honestly the craziest thing I ever done.
I appreciate you maraji. This just boosted my mood that I’m not alone. And I just started blocking everyone that told me I’m now fat…the insensitive comments from some Nigerians can be something else
2 months postpartum today and I can relate with all the things you mentioned 😩
I really hope it gets easier because bruhhh! Nothing I experienced during pregnancy compares to this
Thanks for sharing this. One can literally go crazy postpartum. I dread the period from labour to 6weeks postpartum 😊
Thank you for sharing with us and being Soo real. People don't really talk about these things because they sound scary but to be pre informed is the best. Thank you Maraji. Thank you so much. We will be mentally prepared for this rollercoaster.
I wonder why society makes it look like you are less of a woman when you don't have kids? People are just very insensitive... Because ei... All mothers well done.
Honestly 😂! It cracks me up watching this vlog because right now I am experiencing the same thing. Gave birth 4days ago and i can say this is 💯 real. The first poop🙄🙄 mu goodness! I can’t explain. Practically assisted myself to poop out🤣🤣🤣
Motherhood is a blessing but with special grace❤
Weldone Ma’am
The way you explained these stuff on a lighter note is amazing. You're an amazing mum Maraji ❤️
O.M.G wish I had seen this video earlier... Now I feel a little or lemme say a lot better knowing my problem is actually general. My baby boy is four months and a week now but honestly, I haven't gotten over this postpartum stuff. It's just so so overwhelming. Nevertheless, all I get is 'overload joy' seeing my bundle of joy; I just make him my comfort therapy each time😅 Aswear motherhood no easy. Thanks Maraji for the true talk... You rock✌
This is so apt!!
I love the humor with which you are sharing 😂...I'm sharing this with my cousin that just put to bed, she definitely almost cursed her husband at some point while going through this, which wasn't funny then sha 😅
I have lost myself after delivery. Still feel depressed sometimes. Thanks for this video 😢
I love your content, this is so true being a mother of three I've gone through all this
Thank you for talking about all these. These days after delivery before the sewing, Nurses put their hands inside there and pack blood which is very painful too
You look so beautiful! Thank you for being so real♥️
Since you like watching k dramas, I recommend you watch this 8 episode drama, ‘the birthcare center.’ A lot of what you said is featured on that drama. I truly enjoyed it although I’m not a mom ❤❤
Wishing strength to women going through this and women that intend to go through this. More power to you people.
Hilarious and educational 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i love you so much 😂😂😂 i was just talking about this with a guy , they think it's so easy 😂😂 see as my mind dey do gbim gbim 😂😂😂
😂😂 Maraji, I’m trying to avoid my stitches pains , but I can’t stop laughing, my baby is just 2weeks old , and thank you for this content , it’s specifically for me ❤
All u said is very true and I’m happy u’ve talked about it 👍🏾
Absolutely love that you're sharing. ❤❤❤ More people should do this.. im definitely having a conversation with my mum!
i honestly cannot believe how accurate you are. It feels like you just put into word all i have been going through for eleven months now since my baby was born. i am so relieved that finally someone relates...and i had a good laugh too, lol. Thank you.
This was so engaging and I was kept looking at your face, because the honesty was real - someone needed to say this. Pregnancy and childbirth are always touted as being beautiful and all women strive toward that end. They are wonderful experiences and worth the sacrifices, but it would have been nice to know some of these things BEFORE going through it just so that you don't feel like the only one going through the challenges. Being sleep-deprived is a big one. Moving through life while being sleep-deprived for long periods of time is scary. 😱
Thanks for sharing. ❤
Seriously Maraji, thank you for this video! It’s so helpful.
This video had been sent to me by multiple people because you have basically just read out my biography. I am almost 2 weeks postpartum with my first child and I can relate to it all. Did I mention my son is called Jaiden? Very crazy coincidence. It was as if you were reading our story. 🤯
Most people I know named their first sons Jaden... I too did d same💕
See God, I gave birth through c-section on the 20th April and my son name is Jaiden
Same here. One of my twins is Jayden and his brother Hayden. Had no idea people named their first sons Jayden
Wow! My first son is also named Jaiden😂
Lolllll. This was good to know. Thank you for putting more fear of God in me.
Instead of watching the video, all I’m admiring is your dress . You killed it in the dress❤
Awww thank you 🙈🙈🙈
I loved this. Thank you.