How To Heal From The Silent Treatment
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- How can we heal when someone gives us the silent treatment in our relationships? In this video I provide perspective on both sides, the person receiving the silent treatment and the person giving it. I go into what the mechanism is behind both approaches so that this behavior can change and be healed. The silent treatment is very damaging. If you grew up learning how to be codependent, you learned to afraid to speak your mind and to stay in toxic relationships, to accept other people's bad treatment in exchange for a little bit of love and a lot of pain. If this is your experience, I highlight ways to develop self love, self respect and to know your value, and to not tolerate such damaging behavior as the silent treatment.
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Sounds as you describes how typical narcissists acts... I have experienced that treatment twice and it’s absolutely devastating for an unsecure soul like mine. Thanks for your video!🙏
Thank you , this video has let me understand what it is im experiencing with my narcissistic baby’s mum she’s done nothing but given me the silent treatment from when the child turned 4 months and my daughter is now 4 years of age and it has changed me as person effected me & my child’s relationship and it dehumanised me to my surround for no being able to cope & I’m now on a journey to heal and understand what it was I was dealing with and to move forward and get back to the old me 👊🏽
The silent treatment extends beyond relationships between couples - I've seen it used by children toward parents, siblings toward each other, relatives toward other members of extended family. I agree it's important to be honest enough with yourself to avoid falling back on the silent treatment when you feel some old wound has been scratched - but that requires 1. you recognize the wound, 2.you can determine the scratch is real rather than a misunderstanding, 3. you admit the wound isn't healed but you truly want it to be, and 4. you have the presence of mind to take a step back rather than fall on conditioned response. In Tai Chi, we talk about "yielding to make space for the most efficient response" - this works on both sides of the silent treatment - we feel an attack, we step back (physically, emotionally, mentally as appropriate) and contemplate the nature of the attack, we respond in a manner we feel most conducive to restoring harmony. It takes significant training in centering and relaxing and deep listening to accomplish this, but if you don't you fall back on the "if all you have is a hammer, every problem is a nail" mentality.
Thank you so much
I grew up with a lot of silent treatment from my father and now see more clearly how I've been perpetuating that, AND what to do about it. Thank you for the insightful message and just all around awesomeness that you are!
This video helped me so much. Thank you!
Oh the silent treatment. That's the best. You can't worry about that. Just get out your planner and start writing where you would go right now if money was no object. Now plan your trip where you are going solo and then go.
I grew up with silence as punishment.
My adult daughter does this all the time Once not talking to me for 8 yrs because she learned this from her Narcissistic father who lied to her about me. Thank you for this video I need healing I'm hurting bad.
When your borderline.... it makes u extra crazy lol
I tried what you are saying in this message many times with my daughter she just continues unending so I finally left her a voicemail saying I had enough no more.
What if the person stonewalling you was your mom growing up?
I experienced that from parents growing up. You say "was" so in the past? I can transform myself now in the present. Being present with what emotions are still stuck, cultivating awareness, and finding support for letting go.