Notice how a lot of the comments are ignoring the video and focusing on his appearance. That's very invalidating as he is sharing his experience yet people are focused on their perception to his outward self. Very inconsiderate. Thank you for sharing your experience and trying to help out those in a similar situation.
We all watched the video and I enjoyed it. Learned a lot from it. What’s the issue with complimenting him on his looks?? It’s not invalidating at all. If anything any and every interaction (comment like etc) is pushing his video out to more ppl!
It's all about our decisions and what we do. Discipline is about making decisions that are aligned with our intentions. Inspiration may get us started, but it's the habit that keeps us going. Habits stay with us even when we don’t have the inspiration. All of it I grabbed from the book Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
I'm 21 and I understand that sense of feeling lost after studying... you're not a child/ teenager anymore but you don't quite feel like an adult yet. It feels like there's an expectation to know exactly what you want to do with your life, but videos like these show me that it's not just me who feels like this. I found that drinking less, starting to meditate and make my body healthy, and pouring my time into photography helped me grow and understand myself. The excitement of being alive is so real, this feeling came once I prioritised myself and understood there's no point doing things which don't benefit you. I love this.
Imma be honest, none of us know what we should be doing. Some are better as worker bees and do what’s expected but there’s always those who think things through and usually over think. There’s no trick to life, just keep trying and see what results you get at the end of the day.
20:59 "when u take one step towards God, God takes two steps towards you" this is literally an islamic Hadith Qudsi, meaning a saying from God, it says: It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that : the Messenger of Allah (saas) said: "Allah says, 'I am as My slave thinks I am, and I am with him when he mentions Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws to Me a hand-span length, I draw near to him a forearm's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him in a hurry."
I’m 18 and I’ve recently started uni but I feel so empty and lost. I used to be so ambitious and motivated, but now, I feel like I don’t know what I want anymore. I’ve never been this depressed. I hate the polarization of pursuing a career that provides stability but ultimately leaves me feeling inherently empty. This video means so much!
Im 20 and im so tired...i dont like what im doing anymore. I dont resonate with most people in my circle. I lost my drive to be social. I hate that im not comfy to be in my own skin. Its so draining to be guarded over useless self depreciating thoughts
I've experienced something like this when i was in yr11 as I just lost all my friends that year that it made me so mentally drained that I just so drained I didn't really revise much that year that I wished I had and the pressure from school to just have your life all figured out and what you want to do for the rest of your life was just so mentally draining. However, I learnt lessons from that and I realised what my true purpose was and that maybe one day I will meet my true friends. I had a really hard time figuring out what I wanted to do, but once it clicked it clicked what I actually wanted to do. I think it is important for people to do something different maybe even things you might not want to do and maybe that would transform your life completely.
I can't imagine that many people are on the same page as me when I read the comment, I felt compassion and empathy for myself and you guys. I'm 19, lost in depression for years, and now while I am watching this, I feel so connected. Thanks for sharing your story.
I failled my IGCSE before a year or 2 years ago i felt the same English is not my first language i had to learn it to study highschool and then i failled as the international syllabus was not my level cuz my intire life i was studying in normal schools now i moved to austria so i have to learn Germen and i have to start everything from the beginning and redo highschool . Oh by the way am also 19
I recognize myself in this video! I’ve been so paralyzed with fear since I graduated uni, been taking time off since then, 1 year and half has passed and I haven’t figured out what I wanna do professionally but my main goal is always my health. God doesn’t give us more then we can chew so I try to be patient with myself while detoxing and exploring who I am! I’m thankful for your courage and vulnerability to speak out on this topic , most aren’t able to recognize they are going through it, let alone post it! :)))
I live in Lebanon, and my country is at war. I'm still young, i want to do a lot. I was looking forward to starting a new journey, a journey as a cce major looking to work on world projects and eventually become a reliable individual in society. Slowly find love and become someone who can balance who they are and who they want to be. Drink coffee at ease, go outside for long periods of time with no lingering anxiety. Overall, i want a lot for myself but the environment is very restricting. I can't breathe, i don't know how to be what i want to be like this and i'm slowly losing my mind in this confined space. I can't leave, i can only face this and it feels like my limbs are attached to rocks while i try to move forward. Now that i read this for review, it dawns me how real and sad it is to be stuck like this. Im not trying to fish for pity, but sometimes i wish i could be unplugged from this reality.
reading this and i'm literally in the same situation as you.. also living in leb. the situation escalated so quickly, i hope you and your family are safe. your words really resonated with me, we were already really struggling and trying to find ways to live before all of this happened, ... sending you love and strength
@@h1jadelaluna Thank you. Really, not that anyone should be in this position..but knowing i'm not alone, that enough rings it for me to stay strong. Everything around is crumbling and at the end of the day it's just us and ourselves so i hope you're taking care of yourself, and I hope you and your family are away from all danger as well. Take care..stay safe and hopefully our future holds better days.
Seems like we're all reuniting strangely. I also live here in Lebanon and it's crazy how the situation escalated so quickly. I hate to be optimistic because truly, what is there to say? I hope you're safe right now and I'll be praying about everything in hopes things get better. Stay safe❤
I'm 19 years old and this is my first year in college and I'm literally feeling like shit Everything is changing and I'm loosing myself I'm moved away from home where I know nobody so I have to make extra efforts to make connections I'm studying what I love but I'm feeling stupid seeing others doing better than me and my love life is shitty for a while so seeing your video makes me want to cry yet to know that life is still going on Thank you Alex 🙌
this year has been really awakening for me too. i’m 20 yrs old and transferred universities last year. the ppl were uninspiring and wasteful and unconscious (and so was i, it was simply the wrong environment at the wrong time). i was recently writing in my diary ab how there’s two pathways before me (normal life or one filled with rich and deep emotions). i’m not brave enough to choose fully yet, though i crave more and more to be closer to “humanity”-to be more human, spiritually aware, centered, full of joy, and at peace. this year so far i filled my time with lots of involvement and following my intuition. i’m traveling more (a privilege i was not granted in my youth) and i’m doing all the cliche college/linkedin bs so i don’t regret my time. but ik it’s temporary and only a season and i’m on my way to transitioning forward. i want to be whole and of help and useful and create a positive change. haven’t finished the video yet, but i wanted to mention what you are saying resonates with me.
You’re amazing how you speak about the past, present, and future. You’re very well spoken, and I love your ability to remain calm and express your thoughts and feelings. This was very expiring content, and look forward to more of your videos. ❤❤❤
i’m truly appreciative of this video. i always love listening to people who are unafraid to speak their truth and mind, because it resonates. i’m currently 21 & in that space of dreading waking up some days and feeling super lost, it always adds hope and motivation listening to others’ accounts of the same thing and actively working to get out / stay out of it. you should be really proud. hard work pays off
The part about breathing through your fears, knowing that this feeling will pass... literally just teared up. The way you phrased it just radiated so much hope.
Appreciate you man, I’m 21 and we are walking similar paths. I’m pursuing consciousness and resonate with the things you talk about, but am a little lost in my direction. The fear of being perceived a certain way, or feeling like you’re leaving something behind while still being sort of scared of what’s ahead. Just keep pursuing what is within you, it will lead you where you need to be🙏🏼
25 yo italian girl and i agree, things dont change with age, your attitude and output in the world is the only thing that can change things. I guess somehow we just expect that at some age a certain enlightment will reach us and things will fall into place while it's way more about us and how proactive we are and how accepting of change and evolving with it we are❤ best of lucks boy
no, l'unica cosa che serve in questa vita è nascere femmina. hai la strada spianata, puoi fare quello che vuoi, con qualsiasi aspetto fisico. questo non è vero per l'uomo, però. se l'uomo è brutto, è finita.
I'm 19 and have recently been finding myself after a long time of being disconnected. My lifestyle, mind, health, goals, and Jesus are becoming more and more addicting every day. Though I still struggle with isolation and knowing my path, I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's in Psychological Science (which I question if it is my goal or my mother's), which hopefully will eventually lead to a PhD, so there is a very long road ahead 😅However, my heart yearns for a creative experience and pursuits, so I'm slowly trying to find a balance and put myself first 💜
I cannot put into words how deeply I resonate with you!! I feel like this can be a very lonely experience because many people just stay in the „system“ and don’t have the courage to do what they actually want to do instead of what society expects of them. This is why I‘m truly really thankful for your video because honestly I have no one to really talk about this, who comes from a similar standpoint. Thank you.
After secondary school I was weirded out that everyone went straight to uni. So instead I applied for a serious corporate job…and I got in. Worked in a skyscraper on the 12th floor with my own desk at 19. And I hated it… Adult life, serious jobs, it’s so boring all. And no one talks about it? My 20 year old friends casually talk about not being able to wait for retirement… It’s like people willingly want to live average lives just for it to be over in the blink of an eye. It’s scary. Be different. If you will do things halfheartedly, everything will feel half as good.
Some people feel fulfilled living mundane lives. Someone in these comments lives in a country at war and would enjoy the privilege it is to choose an average life with average problems. “Different” becomes average when more people start doing it. Once upon a time an office job was unconventional. Being a youtuber was unconventional some years back. A great quote from little women “just because one’s dreams are different than yours it doesn’t mean they are unimportant.”
@@tshegom03this. My old friend dumped me just because he thought I had no real dreams. My dream is to live a normal life with little to no problems and just be happy overall. I study hard and set goals for a normal life like that. I think his brain needed some rewiring.
your point about inviting fear in really stuck with me. recently, I've been feeling incredibly anxious. I suppose I have always, but it has gotten worse as im at a point in uni where everyone is scrambling to apply for internships, im weeks behind on uni work and I struggle to leave the house if im not going to work that day. very overwhelmed and fearful in general. posting videos online is a huge source of stress for me too as I sometimes get comments that won't leave my mind all day. I really need to heal all aspects of my life, from my issues with food to relationships, and I think instead of trying to ignore the fear I feel I need to validate it, feel It and get my thoughts onto paper. I watch quite a lot of self development content but I think your video was the push I needed. im In a similar boat that you were in terms of not knowing what I want to in life. its sort of moving slowly whilst everyone else speeds past me, but maybe I need to get onto a completely new boat. thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this
Just turned 21 last month and this video found me. I’ve been feeling so lost but knowing that I need to make a change. So much of my teenage years was consumed by first over studying, being a model student and never having my own time into getting my first failing grades and doing so bad in the last years of high school just cause I had exhausted myself and my life will so much. I know shit needs to change and recently I’ve realised that I am truly my worst obstacle. Once I stop beating myself up for the past will truly be the time I can stop regretting the now. I’ll never get back my teenage years but what I can do now is make the me in my 20’s a person I’m proud of. Thank you for this video it really inspired me a lot to keep trying ❤
So good, I’m 20 and I just started to getting rid of people, who makes me worse every day, I completely understand you, yet I even look like you. God is keep sending me right answers and people. We keep pushing towards Blessed Families and healthy Relationships with people 🤝🤝🤝
Thank you for sharing brotha! Early 20s is very hard or if not, weird. I'm 23 too, about to turn 24 in another month. (Not excited for it.) However, I will say -- I am determined and driven for what my purpose is. I have decided to get my dopamine in another way. I'm in this journey where I ditch my phone by a certain time at night and can't allow myself to go on it, till' I make my bed, get breakfast etc. Just because most people our age are living one way and it feels fun, ask yourself, "are they going to get the result, I"m working for?" I'm trying to change my routines that will work for me.
My dad said it the best, the most important and valuable asset, isn't the high amounts of money in stocks or the properties you own, but the health that you invested. Goes back to the classic, "health is wealth," saying but it is kind of true. Without a healthy mind or heart, you cannot be driven or determined to get what you want.
Awww it actually made me really happy to hear that you stopped drinking and smoking:3 I always feel left out in my friend group for avoiding stuff like that but hearing that there ARE some young people like me who actually WANT to avoid them is really heartwarming^^ (why do I sound like a grandma km)
The way I too have had that feeling of fear, the way I worked through it was through writing and your point on being present afterward was very salient for me indeed. Art & (Classical) music was always in my life since adolescence, (but, an abstract painting module I took in uni last year) was one of the ways I also helped “let go” of some odd fear I had, a tightness toward control that I’d possessed from various classical performance training, and perhaps was innate? If I saw myself last year this time, I would say I was in a completely different place than I am now. There were so many different things that changed in the past half a year and so much for the better; it is beautiful. I’m turning 22 end of this month, but I’m still 21 now and it feels like lifetimes away from the girl who left at 20 to study abroad in the uk, compared to who I am now as I’ve come back to finish my undergrad final year haha. Thank you for this message of your journey, all the best, I dare say we’re all going to make it. X
bros immaculate.. but on a serious note, this is very true. Investing in yourself, looking at things in a bigger perspective.. better to do fulfilling things than slave away until midlife crisis
Thank you so much for putting this video out there. You nailed everything I've been thinking about recently, and it just feels so comforting to know that other people are mindful of their life and being authentic. I am absolutely in love with music, and the urge to step into my own way of self-expression is amplified tenfold. I really wanna be me. There is a lot of stress and pressure right now in my life because alongside that i moved countries and am getting used to living without parents, all while being 17. I feel less lonely now after you shared your journey and showed how not linear all that can be. It helped so much
im 20, had to drop out of HS during covid (when i was 16) because of a panic disorder. still haven’t finished my high school degree now and feel so pressured by the timeline made from society. you have to finish school by 18, go to college after and finish that at 21/22. then you have to work. i obviously won’t be able to follow this timeline and that stresses me out. i feel like i’ll be so out of place when i go university at 23/24, because when i ask my friends, who are studying right now, how old the people in their classes are, they say everyone is 18/19/20. i know i won’t be old when i am 23 but i really feel like it. all i ever wanted was to have a normal teenage life like everyone else. but i won’t be able to have that. i still life with my mom while some of my friends moved out after school or a year later and lived the typical student life, partying, going out with friends, etc. i want to have a second chance at teenage life. turning 20 this year made me so depressed
I wish everyone well, i am 21 recovered (recovering) from mental illness/mental effects and lack of skills learning by itself but also from addicition psychosis episodes and depression and anxiety, and my life i try to live it to reach goals ❤ you are all so amazing and thank you for this wonderful video ❤
I'm a bit scared myself. I left uni twice... thought or returning again for my passions but it was just way too expensive. Now I'm just looking for work to work, money is the first step. It's grueling, you cannot get anything high paying without qualifications. It's tragic... But, it's also grueling because you see all these people online who make a career from their art online and you think "Wow... I can do that." It's a tricky time we're in. Not to mention the world itself is also in difficult times. But, you know... Once you go through this 'try this... try that'. And you hear the voices of all the adults who "told you so" It hurts. But you know, it's videos/topics like this that I appreciate. Because so many of us are here. I think we'll be alright.
I am 20 years old in a foreign country trying to study in another language. I’ve been super anxious and stressed lately but after watching this video it’s almost as if some heavy weight was lifted of my shoulders. Thank you so much. May God bless you💓
I really love our generation I feel like going through all of this so young and being able to get out of it so quickly just show how strong you are but also how strong our new generation is… I feel like what you said in ur video could never have been said by ppl our age in the 60s Thank you for your video and I hope you ll continue to do more of them it seems you have a lot of wisdom to share with this world 🫶
i m gonna be 18 and in a few months i need to figure out my future career, i ve always felt like an artist but only through my ideas and so i dont know how it s gonna be for me. most of my friends don t really understand me right now, as if there needs to be a logic behind everything that i do. i like writing, but i don t read that much, i like composing but not learning music, i like drawing but i don t know if it s in that deep way. i might be coping but i feel like right now i just need to keep going and slowly the answers will reveal themselves (just gotta be careful to remain on the right path), so thank you for this video!
It’s perfect timing I stumbled across this video when I needed it most. You are candid and authentic. The agenda of pushing education on those who are unsure of what they want to pursue never fails to leave a pit in my stomach; this is particularly forced onto our generation and in England. I was 24 in March and been turning to God for guidance over the past few months. I realised, I don't have to be at the pivotal turning point in my 20’s like the agenda that is being pushed in the present. It can feel like so much immense pressure that's bubbling up, when in actuality, we just need to all chill and try out new things and experiment!
Thank you so much for sharing a part of yourself , i saw the video and noted down 4 - 5 points that came into my mind about myself it's my first time doing it like noting what or how raw i actually feel in some situations or how i genuinly feel sometimes whole day and now i decided to put that the raw and pure form of myself be it insecurities or anything else whatever it is but my true self on the journal , even as a person who hated Journaling cause i am a people pleaser and i dont even know who are really they because i always think what they will think if they somehow found it or read it but i decided to put my true self , to write about myself be it a single line or a whole page cause it is just going to be me whom i need to get my attention back on ... Thanks Bro 💜
I just came across your video, and I can really relate to everything you said because I’m in that phase of figuring myself out in terms of life paths. After some reflection, I already have a rough idea of what I want to be in the future, even though it's not aligned with what I’m studying right now. But my intuition pushes me to just keep going, and so I did, by started doing things I believe are beneficial for my growth. Trying not to live through other people is pretty challenging, as my mind keeps dragging me down, making me think, “They’re not at that level yet, so it’s fine, just relax.” But I always try hard to break through that mindset and stay in my own lane to reach my destination. I feel like coming across your video is a sign for me to keep going, to kerp moving at my own pace, on my own path. So, thank you Alex, for sharing such a meaningful video💛
this has motivated me to want to post more and to just be me. thank you for the inspiration and for being so genuine, it’s contagious ALSO your voice is mad soothing this is definitely one of your callings lmaao
Tomorrow I'll be 22 years and all i wanna say is thank u so much for surviving and pushing us to survive more ... I believed that those years are actually the worst and the most exhausting years of the entire human life but that's not the thing...
I never watch videos as such but I sat and listened to the whole thing, it was so calming, human and heartwarming to hear your story. Even as a 19 year old, I can't relate to this journey much but I hope and know you will inspire many others. Fulfillment and self-love are so important and I love the concept of being addicted to a positive momentum. I don't know you but I'm proud of you.
Trust Me Truly Loving and Finding yourself is the biggest form of change , Breathing through it all helps , Staying present in that moment being vulnerable letting the tears run down your face .Please dont go to hard on yourself you need you more than anyone else .
Im taken back, i didn't know men thought like this, not to generalize, but i understand what you are saying on a soul level. I am doing my own inner work as well. I have such a profound connection with God and the higher intelligence after learning about emotional intelligence and spirituality. YES to inner child in the caption, I'm just seeing this. People have told me that i have a "childish" spirit, but really its not immaturity, its that i feel so secure in my mind to be free, bubbly, extroverted, and ask lots of questions. Inner work and the spiritual realm continues to fascinate me, hence why I saw this video on my feed. Keep making these videos, i can say firsthand that there are people in the world who also prioritize their health to this extent, and who also have the desire to expand their minds in this type of way. Right now im learning about neuroplasticity, and how as humans we have the ability to literally expand our ways of thinking, and even change our personalities completely. When i learned that our personalities aren't set in stone, i was stunned! LOL, the old people pleaser me would be so proud to see the way i have boundaries now, high standards that i will not be willing to bend, and a desire for secure friendships and relationships in my life. I made the decision and i continue to tell myself today, "I am only available to receive high vibrational energy from the universe, i am no longer available for low vibrations that don't give me abundance and security". I see the type of creativity you are talking about here, its like an outlet, that childlike creativity that just GLOWS when you let it be. Something else i noticed in this video specifically Alex is the way you are okay with silence, okay to let yourself breathe and to stay very grounded, i recognize that and that is a true skill. Like you were saying about the breathing technique, i read a book recently called the Ultra Mind Solution, and what i took away from that book is that the act of breathing slowly, 5 seconds in, 5 seconds out, and repeating that three times slows your heart rate, and as a result, calms your mind. These kinds of topics are my passion, omg, i wrote my journal on youtube for the day haha. Alex, thank you for this video, I'm subscribing ❤
I completely get this. It is an up-and-down process. It could even repeat until you listen to your soul's needs. It will continue until you feel joy inside. Makes me happy that more and more of our generation is seeing this truth, the value that must be given to one's own self and soul and wellbeing. You cannot find yourself without needing to find yourself and you can't feel the need if you don't lose yourself. You need to lose, to find. So, actually, finders may be keepers but losers end up being finders. 😅
The quote that you put in your bio reminded of the importance of accepting the darkness in us. Understanding where these feelings or actions that we deem as bad come from and embrace it. There's balance in everything, that's why there's good and bad, day and night (don't really know where I was going with that 😂). Anyway my point is thank you sharing your journey ! Thank you for sharing your voice with the world, even when it's scary or hard.
I'm 20 and I was studying medicine for 2 years, but I've felt that something was wrong, like med was not for me, it didn't make me feel inspired or motivated and my passion faded away. At first I was too scared to switch majors and my parents were scared too and didn't want me to switch and I totally understand how they feel. I'm now in my first semester in engineering and I hope it works out well even though I'm still uncertain what I want to do, but for now I know I want to be an architect.
I'm turning 21 on the next month and sometimes I feel myself insecure and behind in life 🥲 people that younger than me are earning enormous quantity of money, it seems like they are supporting their families from that very young age and also they look more fit and have deeper voice than me and all of this making me feel like I'm so miserable...
I see lots of people "fake relating" to him and want to be validated because of his good looks. He's talking about serious things and there are lots of regular people going through the same things he's going through, probably even me and don't want to admit it because it's a weakness of mine that I need to overcome. Overall, you gotta escape to something as you can't escape from something, I finally found out that one thing that I can just give 100% on but the environment I live in is overwhelming. There's the saying that if you hang around 5 idiots then you'll be the 6th and if you hang around 5 wealthy people then you'll likely gain the knowledge and skills and eventually become the 6th. I'm surrounded by people who I know won't understand what I say or tell them because our mindsets and way thinking in general is completely different so I just isolate myself and say completely nothing and prefer to be couped up where I live at absorbing and stockpiling on knowledge, content and dopamine online that I can't figure out what to do with. Sadly, I don't have the willpower to move forward or move away from the environment I'm at. As men, we are taught to keep calm under pressure and know what to do when everything goes to shit and just have everything sorted out and under control, it is just how society perceives it. You know what's worse than having no parents? Other than providing basic necessities like food and shelter, It's having parents that are there just to be there, there's no real connection and there's a language barrier, it becomes very difficult to navigate things such as the things I want and they provide zero survival skills nor life guidance, it's just school study and university, no financial skills like how to do taxes or how to invest or how to make strategic decisions, I had to learn all that from the internet. Anyways, keep doing what you do Alex, you're helping more people than you think and gained an extra subscriber.
i picked 3 a levels 1 of them i willingly wanted to do and 2 which ive been told to do. got my a level results this year.. did absolutely horrible (but the one i picked myself i did slightly better in) and while all my friends start uni now, im not. i wish i didnt pick what others all up in my ear were saying. i feel so lost and i want this to be rock bottom so i can just keep building up from this point but im so lazy and demotivated. this video felt like advice from an older brother, thank you i really appreciate it.
I've been through the exact same thing...until highschool I was doing pretty well, got into a lot of habits, made a lot of wrong choices and didn't think much before getting into uni...made worse friends and all the habits worsened. Had to finally drop out, things were going off the rails constantly, self sabotaging... almost feels like I was meant to see this video, insane synchronisity...I had to hear the fact that I've been living off others. Keep up the good work manh...thanks for the authenticity. All the best to you 🤍
I'm glad I found this video... like I have sometimes the same feelings...I feel lost..I wanna publish my novels but I can't...as the same time I need to focus on my studies...ohhhh... listening to you while looking at the sunset made me feel like I'm listening to a friend... Keep going ❤❤
It’s rare that I relate so much to a video as I have to urs. Thank you for this🌟 I just started law school and I feel so out of place there. I feel called to continue my journey elsewhere… I relate to your feelings a lot! And also the ADHD part! It’s just soo refreshing to see videos like these🙏
when I was freshly out of school, I too was lost. There was too much going on but on a personal level, I felt I was going no where. I gave every entrance exam to every possible field expecting whatever I get into might be my calling but time proved me wrong. Cleared the first round of fashion school, but failed the second round because I lacked creativity. Cleared the medical exam but didn't score high enough to get listed into a good college. Infact, also got accepted into multiple schools to pursue graduation in psychology but due to personal reasons at that time, had to reject all offers. So I very much related to that feeling of absolute nothingness. I didn't feel dejected, I felt nothing at all but all too much to explain in words. Its like I was failing for the first time in life and every single time I thought it couldn't get worse, it did. But it was an experience I grew from. Too a year off, listened to my innermost self, worked on improving myself while also exploring where my interest led. Finally, got into medical school this year :)) The quote "failure teaches you what success couldn't" seems true Afterall. Goodluck Alex
i feel like over time ive found out bits and pieces of this myself and whilst i feel better than i ever did a few years ago, i also feel more disconnected than ever. sometimes thats a good thing but sometimes its a bad thing. i think we all experience mental growth in our own ways. maybe im getting dissassociation confused with saying yes to myself more - but its hard to make that distinction when both options seem so similar. good video though it was clearly quite thought provoking
I am 21 yrs old (from the Philippines)...1st year college dropout...well I hope I could wait for my ideal job in the future...I am waiting patiently...have a great day everyone... We are in the modern generation (artificial intelligence era) well i hope there's more job opportunities left out there...legit ones Life is very short...we must do something than doing nothing in this world... Old moments are reminiscing and pure nostalgia vibes...
@@Aiguy1905 nothing... I am always staying indoors in my home and living with my family...lying on my bed while using my smartphone. I go outdoors sometimes because I run errands...
God will restore your life with everything your heart desires and more, the blood of Jesus has already been shed for you and everyone around all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart and life and he will restore you with eternal life
I randomly found this video, and as soon as you started speaking I felt your authenticity through the screen. You havs amazing energy and I wish you the best in life!🧡🧡🧡Great video
I wish i was friends with you,i'm freshly 18, in high school and totally drowned in some sort of problems that i can't even describe. I know what i want to do in life but just can't be consistent,neither focused, and i have a helpful environment, like supportive parents and all,but i just don't like the way i'm working right now and i want to cure the problems and i have everything i ever need still can't solve anything,i'm hating this phase so damn much
23 here too did really mid in college tryna figure out a way for income and find my path. Im on a health break and unlike you i am a bit obsessed with my health condition and im moving in circles my growth goes up and falls and i wanna get free from this and go linear but yea.. it is what it is
When you realize the biggest fear that we set up is in our mind ex. Goal (unless you’re fighting for you’re life of couse) and just changing the perspective changes everything, i feel like we put way to much importance in this feeling then it is because it’s stressing and can cause anxiety, in consequence of that you end up avoid the things that you’re suppose to do. It’s like building a wall and never seeing the end of it, this situation is overwhelming and a lot of the time cause a inaction in the process. To change this behavior we can transform the big thing into a small brick and it become suddenly attainable, this type of fear is irrational like nobody is going to die if they don’t archive it but the regret might come after making this decision is just the worst thing ever. But it’s going to be okay, it always does and just saying nice things to yourself is going to make you’re life way easier and more peaceful.
Thankyou for posting this. I think i needed to hear it. I dont know if subscriber count acts as an external motivator for you but i hope your internal motivation to put yourself out there, just to live and exist as you are and not vicariously becomes eternally stronger :)
I'm 21 and you genuinely summed up how I'm feeling right now so well. Especially with the feeling of not being able to say no to people.. I was wondering how you manage the "fear of missing out" or even loneliness when deciding to put your own mental, spiritual and physical wellbeing above relationships in your life? This was such an amazing, honest and raw video I'm so glad I clicked♥
Thank you 🤍 I felt it the first time I said no to something but now I just find it exciting saying yes to myself. Your replacing saying yes to somehting you don’t want to do for something you do - so FOMO isn’t really a thing. If you feel like you are, in my experience it’s because I was spending my time at home distracting/avoiding myself so not going out feels like a punishment. Instead intentionally replacing it with things which are more fulfilling and exciting for you is the way!
Notice how a lot of the comments are ignoring the video and focusing on his appearance. That's very invalidating as he is sharing his experience yet people are focused on their perception to his outward self. Very inconsiderate. Thank you for sharing your experience and trying to help out those in a similar situation.
Thank you!
wow you are so not shallow and like the other girls, there's a reason you clicked on the video... People only care to listen when you're hot 🤡
Fun fact... I even clicked on this video simply bcz if how he looks.. It's crazy how we humans value looks over what's really important 😶🌫️
We all watched the video and I enjoyed it. Learned a lot from it. What’s the issue with complimenting him on his looks?? It’s not invalidating at all. If anything any and every interaction (comment like etc) is pushing his video out to more ppl!
Its not a very bad thing tho, i would like to hear to if i was content maker
"I began to learn how to breathe through my fears." This. Wow.
This is like telling a dumb blonde "you're so smart" lol
It's all about our decisions and what we do. Discipline is about making decisions that are aligned with our intentions. Inspiration may get us started, but it's the habit that keeps us going. Habits stay with us even when we don’t have the inspiration. All of it I grabbed from the book Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
By whom?
I'm 21 and I understand that sense of feeling lost after studying... you're not a child/ teenager anymore but you don't quite feel like an adult yet. It feels like there's an expectation to know exactly what you want to do with your life, but videos like these show me that it's not just me who feels like this. I found that drinking less, starting to meditate and make my body healthy, and pouring my time into photography helped me grow and understand myself. The excitement of being alive is so real, this feeling came once I prioritised myself and understood there's no point doing things which don't benefit you. I love this.
Aww man.
This is EXACTLY the feeling i have the last months. Happy to see that other people at my age, feeling the same like me!
I’m 23 too AND I still feel like 17 I don’t want to believe it😔💔
Nah sameeee i feel like i was 16 yesterday
Imma be honest, none of us know what we should be doing. Some are better as worker bees and do what’s expected but there’s always those who think things through and usually over think. There’s no trick to life, just keep trying and see what results you get at the end of the day.
20:59 "when u take one step towards God, God takes two steps towards you"
this is literally an islamic Hadith Qudsi, meaning a saying from God, it says:
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that :
the Messenger of Allah (saas) said: "Allah says, 'I am as My slave thinks I am, and I am with him when he mentions Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws to Me a hand-span length, I draw near to him a forearm's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him in a hurry."
I’m 18 and I’ve recently started uni but I feel so empty and lost. I used to be so ambitious and motivated, but now, I feel like I don’t know what I want anymore. I’ve never been this depressed. I hate the polarization of pursuing a career that provides stability but ultimately leaves me feeling inherently empty. This video means so much!
Im 20 and im so tired...i dont like what im doing anymore. I dont resonate with most people in my circle. I lost my drive to be social. I hate that im not comfy to be in my own skin. Its so draining to be guarded over useless self depreciating thoughts
Its okay ! Take your own time to process things try out different things (if available ofcourse) .
I've experienced something like this when i was in yr11 as I just lost all my friends that year that it made me so mentally drained that I just so drained I didn't really revise much that year that I wished I had and the pressure from school to just have your life all figured out and what you want to do for the rest of your life was just so mentally draining. However, I learnt lessons from that and I realised what my true purpose was and that maybe one day I will meet my true friends. I had a really hard time figuring out what I wanted to do, but once it clicked it clicked what I actually wanted to do. I think it is important for people to do something different maybe even things you might not want to do and maybe that would transform your life completely.
I can't imagine that many people are on the same page as me when I read the comment, I felt compassion and empathy for myself and you guys. I'm 19, lost in depression for years, and now while I am watching this, I feel so connected. Thanks for sharing your story.
At least we are not alone and that makes me feel a little better 😢
I failled my IGCSE before a year or 2 years ago i felt the same
English is not my first language i had to learn it to study highschool and then i failled as the international syllabus was not my level cuz my intire life i was studying in normal schools now i moved to austria so i have to learn Germen and i have to start everything from the beginning and redo highschool .
Oh by the way am also 19
bro is majestic ahhh
I recognize myself in this video! I’ve been so paralyzed with fear since I graduated uni, been taking time off since then, 1 year and half has passed and I haven’t figured out what I wanna do professionally but my main goal is always my health. God doesn’t give us more then we can chew so I try to be patient with myself while detoxing and exploring who I am!
I’m thankful for your courage and vulnerability to speak out on this topic , most aren’t able to recognize they are going through it, let alone post it! :)))
I live in Lebanon, and my country is at war.
I'm still young, i want to do a lot.
I was looking forward to starting a new journey, a journey as a cce major looking to work on world projects and eventually become a reliable individual in society. Slowly find love and become someone who can balance who they are and who they want to be. Drink coffee at ease, go outside for long periods of time with no lingering anxiety.
Overall, i want a lot for myself but the environment is very restricting.
I can't breathe, i don't know how to be what i want to be like this and i'm slowly losing my mind in this confined space. I can't leave, i can only face this and it feels like my limbs are attached to rocks while i try to move forward.
Now that i read this for review, it dawns me how real and sad it is to be stuck like this. Im not trying to fish for pity, but sometimes i wish i could be unplugged from this reality.
reading this and i'm literally in the same situation as you.. also living in leb. the situation escalated so quickly, i hope you and your family are safe. your words really resonated with me, we were already really struggling and trying to find ways to live before all of this happened, ... sending you love and strength
@@h1jadelaluna Thank you. Really, not that anyone should be in this position..but knowing i'm not alone, that enough rings it for me to stay strong. Everything around is crumbling and at the end of the day it's just us and ourselves so i hope you're taking care of yourself, and I hope you and your family are away from all danger as well. Take care..stay safe and hopefully our future holds better days.
Seems like we're all reuniting strangely. I also live here in Lebanon and it's crazy how the situation escalated so quickly. I hate to be optimistic because truly, what is there to say? I hope you're safe right now and I'll be praying about everything in hopes things get better. Stay safe❤
@@adalovelace_0 Sending prayers, support and love to you and your family ❤️
F*** israel
I'm 19 years old and this is my first year in college and I'm literally feeling like shit
Everything is changing and I'm loosing myself I'm moved away from home where I know nobody so I have to make extra efforts to make connections I'm studying what I love but I'm feeling stupid seeing others doing better than me and my love life is shitty for a while so seeing your video makes me want to cry yet to know that life is still going on
Thank you Alex 🙌
i feel you so much as I'm going through this as well 😭
I feel you i’m 19 too
SAMEEEEE BUT I'M 17. ABSOLUTELY THE SAME SITUATION
me too. i heard being 19 is always one of the hardest years in ur life
this year has been really awakening for me too. i’m 20 yrs old and transferred universities last year. the ppl were uninspiring and wasteful and unconscious (and so was i, it was simply the wrong environment at the wrong time).
i was recently writing in my diary ab how there’s two pathways before me (normal life or one filled with rich and deep emotions). i’m not brave enough to choose fully yet, though i crave more and more to be closer to “humanity”-to be more human, spiritually aware, centered, full of joy, and at peace.
this year so far i filled my time with lots of involvement and following my intuition. i’m traveling more (a privilege i was not granted in my youth) and i’m doing all the cliche college/linkedin bs so i don’t regret my time. but ik it’s temporary and only a season and i’m on my way to transitioning forward.
i want to be whole and of help and useful and create a positive change. haven’t finished the video yet, but i wanted to mention what you are saying resonates with me.
You’re amazing how you speak about the past, present, and future. You’re very well spoken, and I love your ability to remain calm and express your thoughts and feelings. This was very expiring content, and look forward to more of your videos. ❤❤❤
i’m truly appreciative of this video. i always love listening to people who are unafraid to speak their truth and mind, because it resonates. i’m currently 21 & in that space of dreading waking up some days and feeling super lost, it always adds hope and motivation listening to others’ accounts of the same thing and actively working to get out / stay out of it. you should be really proud. hard work pays off
The part about breathing through your fears, knowing that this feeling will pass... literally just teared up. The way you phrased it just radiated so much hope.
Appreciate you man, I’m 21 and we are walking similar paths. I’m pursuing consciousness and resonate with the things you talk about, but am a little lost in my direction. The fear of being perceived a certain way, or feeling like you’re leaving something behind while still being sort of scared of what’s ahead. Just keep pursuing what is within you, it will lead you where you need to be🙏🏼
25 yo italian girl and i agree, things dont change with age, your attitude and output in the world is the only thing that can change things. I guess somehow we just expect that at some age a certain enlightment will reach us and things will fall into place while it's way more about us and how proactive we are and how accepting of change and evolving with it we are❤ best of lucks boy
no, l'unica cosa che serve in questa vita è nascere femmina. hai la strada spianata, puoi fare quello che vuoi, con qualsiasi aspetto fisico. questo non è vero per l'uomo, però. se l'uomo è brutto, è finita.
I'm 19 and have recently been finding myself after a long time of being disconnected. My lifestyle, mind, health, goals, and Jesus are becoming more and more addicting every day. Though I still struggle with isolation and knowing my path, I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's in Psychological Science (which I question if it is my goal or my mother's), which hopefully will eventually lead to a PhD, so there is a very long road ahead 😅However, my heart yearns for a creative experience and pursuits, so I'm slowly trying to find a balance and put myself first 💜
I cannot put into words how deeply I resonate with you!! I feel like this can be a very lonely experience because many people just stay in the „system“ and don’t have the courage to do what they actually want to do instead of what society expects of them. This is why I‘m truly really thankful for your video because honestly I have no one to really talk about this, who comes from a similar standpoint. Thank you.
After secondary school I was weirded out that everyone went straight to uni. So instead I applied for a serious corporate job…and I got in. Worked in a skyscraper on the 12th floor with my own desk at 19. And I hated it…
Adult life, serious jobs, it’s so boring all. And no one talks about it?
My 20 year old friends casually talk about not being able to wait for retirement…
It’s like people willingly want to live average lives just for it to be over in the blink of an eye. It’s scary. Be different. If you will do things halfheartedly, everything will feel half as good.
Some people feel fulfilled living mundane lives. Someone in these comments lives in a country at war and would enjoy the privilege it is to choose an average life with average problems. “Different” becomes average when more people start doing it. Once upon a time an office job was unconventional. Being a youtuber was unconventional some years back. A great quote from little women “just because one’s dreams are different than yours it doesn’t mean they are unimportant.”
@@tshegom03this. My old friend dumped me just because he thought I had no real dreams. My dream is to live a normal life with little to no problems and just be happy overall. I study hard and set goals for a normal life like that. I think his brain needed some rewiring.
your point about inviting fear in really stuck with me.
recently, I've been feeling incredibly anxious. I suppose I have always, but it has gotten worse as im at a point in uni where everyone is scrambling to apply for internships, im weeks behind on uni work and I struggle to leave the house if im not going to work that day. very overwhelmed and fearful in general. posting videos online is a huge source of stress for me too as I sometimes get comments that won't leave my mind all day.
I really need to heal all aspects of my life, from my issues with food to relationships, and I think instead of trying to ignore the fear I feel I need to validate it, feel It and get my thoughts onto paper.
I watch quite a lot of self development content but I think your video was the push I needed. im In a similar boat that you were in terms of not knowing what I want to in life. its sort of moving slowly whilst everyone else speeds past me, but maybe I need to get onto a completely new boat.
thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this
Just turned 21 last month and this video found me. I’ve been feeling so lost but knowing that I need to make a change. So much of my teenage years was consumed by first over studying, being a model student and never having my own time into getting my first failing grades and doing so bad in the last years of high school just cause I had exhausted myself and my life will so much. I know shit needs to change and recently I’ve realised that I am truly my worst obstacle. Once I stop beating myself up for the past will truly be the time I can stop regretting the now. I’ll never get back my teenage years but what I can do now is make the me in my 20’s a person I’m proud of. Thank you for this video it really inspired me a lot to keep trying ❤
love you bro i'm probably not going to watch the full video but I wish you the best in life. God Bless
LMAO
@@antagonist561 im crying bro like what was that comment
So good, I’m 20 and I just started to getting rid of people, who makes me worse every day, I completely understand you, yet I even look like you. God is keep sending me right answers and people. We keep pushing towards Blessed Families and healthy Relationships with people 🤝🤝🤝
Thank you for sharing brotha! Early 20s is very hard or if not, weird. I'm 23 too, about to turn 24 in another month. (Not excited for it.) However, I will say -- I am determined and driven for what my purpose is. I have decided to get my dopamine in another way. I'm in this journey where I ditch my phone by a certain time at night and can't allow myself to go on it, till' I make my bed, get breakfast etc.
Just because most people our age are living one way and it feels fun, ask yourself, "are they going to get the result, I"m working for?" I'm trying to change my routines that will work for me.
My dad said it the best, the most important and valuable asset, isn't the high amounts of money in stocks or the properties you own, but the health that you invested. Goes back to the classic, "health is wealth," saying but it is kind of true. Without a healthy mind or heart, you cannot be driven or determined to get what you want.
Awww it actually made me really happy to hear that you stopped drinking and smoking:3 I always feel left out in my friend group for avoiding stuff like that but hearing that there ARE some young people like me who actually WANT to avoid them is really heartwarming^^ (why do I sound like a grandma km)
The way I too have had that feeling of fear, the way I worked through it was through writing and your point on being present afterward was very salient for me indeed. Art & (Classical) music was always in my life since adolescence, (but, an abstract painting module I took in uni last year) was one of the ways I also helped “let go” of some odd fear I had, a tightness toward control that I’d possessed from various classical performance training, and perhaps was innate? If I saw myself last year this time, I would say I was in a completely different place than I am now. There were so many different things that changed in the past half a year and so much for the better; it is beautiful. I’m turning 22 end of this month, but I’m still 21 now and it feels like lifetimes away from the girl who left at 20 to study abroad in the uk, compared to who I am now as I’ve come back to finish my undergrad final year haha. Thank you for this message of your journey, all the best, I dare say we’re all going to make it. X
this video gonna blow up brother
bros immaculate.. but on a serious note, this is very true. Investing in yourself, looking at things in a bigger perspective.. better to do fulfilling things than slave away until midlife crisis
Thank you so much for putting this video out there. You nailed everything I've been thinking about recently, and it just feels so comforting to know that other people are mindful of their life and being authentic. I am absolutely in love with music, and the urge to step into my own way of self-expression is amplified tenfold. I really wanna be me. There is a lot of stress and pressure right now in my life because alongside that i moved countries and am getting used to living without parents, all while being 17. I feel less lonely now after you shared your journey and showed how not linear all that can be. It helped so much
im 20, had to drop out of HS during covid (when i was 16) because of a panic disorder. still haven’t finished my high school degree now and feel so pressured by the timeline made from society. you have to finish school by 18, go to college after and finish that at 21/22. then you have to work. i obviously won’t be able to follow this timeline and that stresses me out. i feel like i’ll be so out of place when i go university at 23/24, because when i ask my friends, who are studying right now, how old the people in their classes are, they say everyone is 18/19/20. i know i won’t be old when i am 23 but i really feel like it. all i ever wanted was to have a normal teenage life like everyone else. but i won’t be able to have that. i still life with my mom while some of my friends moved out after school or a year later and lived the typical student life, partying, going out with friends, etc. i want to have a second chance at teenage life. turning 20 this year made me so depressed
Honestly needed this a lot thanks for sharing this with us man
I wish everyone well, i am 21 recovered (recovering) from mental illness/mental effects and lack of skills learning by itself but also from addicition psychosis episodes and depression and anxiety, and my life i try to live it to reach goals ❤ you are all so amazing and thank you for this wonderful video ❤
Same bro. I got ghosted by my friends and I’m feeling behind. I need to make money and get a girl bro. I feel like shit.
Same now I cry
@@MrLabne I swear yes. A man and everything
I'm a bit scared myself. I left uni twice... thought or returning again for my passions but it was just way too expensive. Now I'm just looking for work to work, money is the first step. It's grueling, you cannot get anything high paying without qualifications. It's tragic... But, it's also grueling because you see all these people online who make a career from their art online and you think "Wow... I can do that." It's a tricky time we're in. Not to mention the world itself is also in difficult times. But, you know... Once you go through this 'try this... try that'. And you hear the voices of all the adults who "told you so" It hurts. But you know, it's videos/topics like this that I appreciate. Because so many of us are here. I think we'll be alright.
I am 20 years old in a foreign country trying to study in another language. I’ve been super anxious and stressed lately but after watching this video it’s almost as if some heavy weight was lifted of my shoulders. Thank you so much. May God bless you💓
hey where are you from and which country u went to study?
I really love our generation
I feel like going through all of this so young and being able to get out of it so quickly just show how strong you are but also how strong our new generation is… I feel like what you said in ur video could never have been said by ppl our age in the 60s
Thank you for your video and I hope you ll continue to do more of them it seems you have a lot of wisdom to share with this world 🫶
i m gonna be 18 and in a few months i need to figure out my future career, i ve always felt like an artist but only through my ideas and so i dont know how it s gonna be for me. most of my friends don t really understand me right now, as if there needs to be a logic behind everything that i do. i like writing, but i don t read that much, i like composing but not learning music, i like drawing but i don t know if it s in that deep way. i might be coping but i feel like right now i just need to keep going and slowly the answers will reveal themselves (just gotta be careful to remain on the right path), so thank you for this video!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, as a just turned 19 year old it was calming.
It’s perfect timing I stumbled across this video when I needed it most. You are candid and authentic. The agenda of pushing education on those who are unsure of what they want to pursue never fails to leave a pit in my stomach; this is particularly forced onto our generation and in England. I was 24 in March and been turning to God for guidance over the past few months. I realised, I don't have to be at the pivotal turning point in my 20’s like the agenda that is being pushed in the present. It can feel like so much immense pressure that's bubbling up, when in actuality, we just need to all chill and try out new things and experiment!
Thank you so much for sharing a part of yourself , i saw the video and noted down 4 - 5 points that came into my mind about myself it's my first time doing it like noting what or how raw i actually feel in some situations or how i genuinly feel sometimes whole day and now i decided to put that the raw and pure form of myself be it insecurities or anything else whatever it is but my true self on the journal , even as a person who hated Journaling cause i am a people pleaser and i dont even know who are really they because i always think what they will think if they somehow found it or read it but i decided to put my true self , to write about myself be it a single line or a whole page cause it is just going to be me whom i need to get my attention back on ... Thanks Bro 💜
I just came across your video, and I can really relate to everything you said because I’m in that phase of figuring myself out in terms of life paths. After some reflection, I already have a rough idea of what I want to be in the future, even though it's not aligned with what I’m studying right now. But my intuition pushes me to just keep going, and so I did, by started doing things I believe are beneficial for my growth. Trying not to live through other people is pretty challenging, as my mind keeps dragging me down, making me think, “They’re not at that level yet, so it’s fine, just relax.” But I always try hard to break through that mindset and stay in my own lane to reach my destination.
I feel like coming across your video is a sign for me to keep going, to kerp moving at my own pace, on my own path. So, thank you Alex, for sharing such a meaningful video💛
Your videos are so helpful they deserve way more attention tbh
this has motivated me to want to post more and to just be me. thank you for the inspiration and for being so genuine, it’s contagious ALSO your voice is mad soothing this is definitely one of your callings lmaao
Tomorrow I'll be 22 years and all i wanna say is thank u so much for surviving and pushing us to survive more ...
I believed that those years are actually the worst and the most exhausting years of the entire human life but that's not the thing...
I feel you brother, wish you the best!
I never watch videos as such but I sat and listened to the whole thing, it was so calming, human and heartwarming to hear your story. Even as a 19 year old, I can't relate to this journey much but I hope and know you will inspire many others. Fulfillment and self-love are so important and I love the concept of being addicted to a positive momentum. I don't know you but I'm proud of you.
bro looks majestic
Continue the path brotha ⭐️ day by day,
Evolve and become.
glad you started filming ❤
Trust Me Truly Loving and Finding yourself is the biggest form of change , Breathing through it all helps , Staying present in that moment being vulnerable letting the tears run down your face .Please dont go to hard on yourself you need you more than anyone else .
Im taken back, i didn't know men thought like this, not to generalize, but i understand what you are saying on a soul level. I am doing my own inner work as well. I have such a profound connection with God and the higher intelligence after learning about emotional intelligence and spirituality. YES to inner child in the caption, I'm just seeing this. People have told me that i have a "childish" spirit, but really its not immaturity, its that i feel so secure in my mind to be free, bubbly, extroverted, and ask lots of questions. Inner work and the spiritual realm continues to fascinate me, hence why I saw this video on my feed. Keep making these videos, i can say firsthand that there are people in the world who also prioritize their health to this extent, and who also have the desire to expand their minds in this type of way. Right now im learning about neuroplasticity, and how as humans we have the ability to literally expand our ways of thinking, and even change our personalities completely. When i learned that our personalities aren't set in stone, i was stunned! LOL, the old people pleaser me would be so proud to see the way i have boundaries now, high standards that i will not be willing to bend, and a desire for secure friendships and relationships in my life. I made the decision and i continue to tell myself today, "I am only available to receive high vibrational energy from the universe, i am no longer available for low vibrations that don't give me abundance and security". I see the type of creativity you are talking about here, its like an outlet, that childlike creativity that just GLOWS when you let it be. Something else i noticed in this video specifically Alex is the way you are okay with silence, okay to let yourself breathe and to stay very grounded, i recognize that and that is a true skill. Like you were saying about the breathing technique, i read a book recently called the Ultra Mind Solution, and what i took away from that book is that the act of breathing slowly, 5 seconds in, 5 seconds out, and repeating that three times slows your heart rate, and as a result, calms your mind. These kinds of topics are my passion, omg, i wrote my journal on youtube for the day haha. Alex, thank you for this video, I'm subscribing ❤
I feel like you use your channel as your journal,I love that and I'll try to have the same confidence as u man
I completely get this. It is an up-and-down process. It could even repeat until you listen to your soul's needs. It will continue until you feel joy inside. Makes me happy that more and more of our generation is seeing this truth, the value that must be given to one's own self and soul and wellbeing.
You cannot find yourself without needing to find yourself and you can't feel the need if you don't lose yourself. You need to lose, to find. So, actually, finders may be keepers but losers end up being finders. 😅
Thank you for sharing. i really resonated with this
Just keep going👍☺️ So proud of you for being loyal to yourself❤
thank you so much, i really needed to hear that.this video is awesome in so many ways, feels like home
The idea of living through people is mindful and genius!!
You are beautiful!
The quote that you put in your bio reminded of the importance of accepting the darkness in us. Understanding where these feelings or actions that we deem as bad come from and embrace it. There's balance in everything, that's why there's good and bad, day and night (don't really know where I was going with that 😂). Anyway my point is thank you sharing your journey ! Thank you for sharing your voice with the world, even when it's scary or hard.
Thank you for this video.
You were really inspiring to me.
I'm 20 and I was studying medicine for 2 years, but I've felt that something was wrong, like med was not for me, it didn't make me feel inspired or motivated and my passion faded away. At first I was too scared to switch majors and my parents were scared too and didn't want me to switch and I totally understand how they feel. I'm now in my first semester in engineering and I hope it works out well even though I'm still uncertain what I want to do, but for now I know I want to be an architect.
I'm turning 21 on the next month and sometimes I feel myself insecure and behind in life 🥲 people that younger than me are earning enormous quantity of money, it seems like they are supporting their families from that very young age and also they look more fit and have deeper voice than me and all of this making me feel like I'm so miserable...
literally mogged the camera for 21 minutes straight
If that's considered mogging (and I'm not saying he isn't good looking, he is) then I'm in luck.
Took the words out my mouth
what does mogged mean
😂😂
LMAO!
I see lots of people "fake relating" to him and want to be validated because of his good looks. He's talking about serious things and there are lots of regular people going through the same things he's going through, probably even me and don't want to admit it because it's a weakness of mine that I need to overcome. Overall, you gotta escape to something as you can't escape from something, I finally found out that one thing that I can just give 100% on but the environment I live in is overwhelming.
There's the saying that if you hang around 5 idiots then you'll be the 6th and if you hang around 5 wealthy people then you'll likely gain the knowledge and skills and eventually become the 6th. I'm surrounded by people who I know won't understand what I say or tell them because our mindsets and way thinking in general is completely different so I just isolate myself and say completely nothing and prefer to be couped up where I live at absorbing and stockpiling on knowledge, content and dopamine online that I can't figure out what to do with. Sadly, I don't have the willpower to move forward or move away from the environment I'm at.
As men, we are taught to keep calm under pressure and know what to do when everything goes to shit and just have everything sorted out and under control, it is just how society perceives it. You know what's worse than having no parents? Other than providing basic necessities like food and shelter, It's having parents that are there just to be there, there's no real connection and there's a language barrier, it becomes very difficult to navigate things such as the things I want and they provide zero survival skills nor life guidance, it's just school study and university, no financial skills like how to do taxes or how to invest or how to make strategic decisions, I had to learn all that from the internet.
Anyways, keep doing what you do Alex, you're helping more people than you think and gained an extra subscriber.
God bless you beautiful soul
This account seems like a personal diary that u shared. Interesting to look at props to expose yourself like that. Keep going.
It was a video I needed. The book, Artist Way, is a really good book
i picked 3 a levels 1 of them i willingly wanted to do and 2 which ive been told to do. got my a level results this year.. did absolutely horrible (but the one i picked myself i did slightly better in) and while all my friends start uni now, im not. i wish i didnt pick what others all up in my ear were saying. i feel so lost and i want this to be rock bottom so i can just keep building up from this point but im so lazy and demotivated. this video felt like advice from an older brother, thank you i really appreciate it.
Why is bro so ethereal
He’s a Chad
Bro is an angel
I've been through the exact same thing...until highschool I was doing pretty well, got into a lot of habits, made a lot of wrong choices and didn't think much before getting into uni...made worse friends and all the habits worsened. Had to finally drop out, things were going off the rails constantly, self sabotaging... almost feels like I was meant to see this video, insane synchronisity...I had to hear the fact that I've been living off others. Keep up the good work manh...thanks for the authenticity. All the best to you 🤍
I'm glad I found this video... like I have sometimes the same feelings...I feel lost..I wanna publish my novels but I can't...as the same time I need to focus on my studies...ohhhh... listening to you while looking at the sunset made me feel like I'm listening to a friend... Keep going ❤❤
It’s rare that I relate so much to a video as I have to urs. Thank you for this🌟 I just started law school and I feel so out of place there. I feel called to continue my journey elsewhere… I relate to your feelings a lot! And also the ADHD part! It’s just soo refreshing to see videos like these🙏
when I was freshly out of school, I too was lost. There was too much going on but on a personal level, I felt I was going no where. I gave every entrance exam to every possible field expecting whatever I get into might be my calling but time proved me wrong. Cleared the first round of fashion school, but failed the second round because I lacked creativity. Cleared the medical exam but didn't score high enough to get listed into a good college. Infact, also got accepted into multiple schools to pursue graduation in psychology but due to personal reasons at that time, had to reject all offers. So I very much related to that feeling of absolute nothingness. I didn't feel dejected, I felt nothing at all but all too much to explain in words. Its like I was failing for the first time in life and every single time I thought it couldn't get worse, it did. But it was an experience I grew from. Too a year off, listened to my innermost self, worked on improving myself while also exploring where my interest led. Finally, got into medical school this year :)) The quote "failure teaches you what success couldn't" seems true Afterall.
Goodluck Alex
i feel like over time ive found out bits and pieces of this myself and whilst i feel better than i ever did a few years ago, i also feel more disconnected than ever. sometimes thats a good thing but sometimes its a bad thing. i think we all experience mental growth in our own ways. maybe im getting dissassociation confused with saying yes to myself more - but its hard to make that distinction when both options seem so similar. good video though it was clearly quite thought provoking
Thank you for the video. As someone who turned 21 only a few days ago, this is amazing advice.
Bro I’m turning 21 in couple days. In November 14!
Happy birthday
@@MrLabne I'll remind myself and give you my regards on Thursday :D
this is amazing advice!! love it keep it up
so glad i found this channel
Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤
The background looks so pretty
I am 21 yrs old (from the Philippines)...1st year college dropout...well I hope I could wait for my ideal job in the future...I am waiting patiently...have a great day everyone...
We are in the modern generation (artificial intelligence era) well i hope there's more job opportunities left out there...legit ones
Life is very short...we must do something than doing nothing in this world... Old moments are reminiscing and pure nostalgia vibes...
❤ yes! And thank you , you too :)
So what are you doing right now ?
@@Aiguy1905 nothing... I am always staying indoors in my home and living with my family...lying on my bed while using my smartphone. I go outdoors sometimes because I run errands...
This is such a beautiful video thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing with the world, im 20 rn and I relate alot to what your saying.
God will restore your life with everything your heart desires and more, the blood of Jesus has already been shed for you and everyone around all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart and life and he will restore you with eternal life
off topic but you're really precious btw
Thanks for reminding me emotionally intelligent men exist. Not settling for less.
I randomly found this video, and as soon as you started speaking I felt your authenticity through the screen. You havs amazing energy and I wish you the best in life!🧡🧡🧡Great video
Thank you so much for posting this! You have such an amazing soul! :)
I wish i was friends with you,i'm freshly 18, in high school and totally drowned in some sort of problems that i can't even describe. I know what i want to do in life but just can't be consistent,neither focused, and i have a helpful environment, like supportive parents and all,but i just don't like the way i'm working right now and i want to cure the problems and i have everything i ever need still can't solve anything,i'm hating this phase so damn much
If you know what you want to do, Go for it guys! don’t look back!
23 here too did really mid in college tryna figure out a way for income and find my path. Im on a health break and unlike you i am a bit obsessed with my health condition and im moving in circles my growth goes up and falls and i wanna get free from this and go linear but yea.. it is what it is
SO PROUD
When you realize the biggest fear that we set up is in our mind ex. Goal (unless you’re fighting for you’re life of couse) and just changing the perspective changes everything, i feel like we put way to much importance in this feeling then it is because it’s stressing and can cause anxiety, in consequence of that you end up avoid the things that you’re suppose to do. It’s like building a wall and never seeing the end of it, this situation is overwhelming and a lot of the time cause a inaction in the process.
To change this behavior we can transform the big thing into a small brick and it become suddenly attainable, this type of fear is irrational like nobody is going to die if they don’t archive it but the regret might come after making this decision is just the worst thing ever. But it’s going to be okay, it always does and just saying nice things to yourself is going to make you’re life way easier and more peaceful.
Thankyou for posting this. I think i needed to hear it. I dont know if subscriber count acts as an external motivator for you but i hope your internal motivation to put yourself out there, just to live and exist as you are and not vicariously becomes eternally stronger :)
I'm 21 and you genuinely summed up how I'm feeling right now so well. Especially with the feeling of not being able to say no to people.. I was wondering how you manage the "fear of missing out" or even loneliness when deciding to put your own mental, spiritual and physical wellbeing above relationships in your life?
This was such an amazing, honest and raw video I'm so glad I clicked♥
Thank you 🤍 I felt it the first time I said no to something but now I just find it exciting saying yes to myself. Your replacing saying yes to somehting you don’t want to do for something you do - so FOMO isn’t really a thing. If you feel like you are, in my experience it’s because I was spending my time at home distracting/avoiding myself so not going out feels like a punishment. Instead intentionally replacing it with things which are more fulfilling and exciting for you is the way!
@@alexigoe-111 thank you so much!! such good advice
first world problems are fascinating
Hey Alex you should keep it up with the uploads if possible brother this was a great video!