64 Common Autistic Traits You Never Realised Were Signs of Autism!
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If it helps anyone, I typed up some summaries of the 64 things:
1 trouble with making eye contact
2 trouble reading facial expressions
3 sensory sensitivities
4 social anxiety
5 literal thinking (not understanding figurative expressions)
6 difficulty with abstract thinking (understanding time, money etc)
7 difficulty with transitions - moving from one thing to the next
8 difficulty with change and especially unexpected change
9 need for following a routine
10 difficulty with social ques (not understanding when someone is communicating in a non verbal way)
11 difficulty with small talk
12 difficulty with sarcasm (particularly when ppl are being sarcastic with you)
13 difficulty with humor (challenge understanding jokes, puns)
14 trouble understanding or relating or identifying to other ppls emotions
15 difficulty with emotional regulation
16 difficulty with impulse control
17 strong interest / obsession with certain topics
18 difficulty with executive functioning (unable to plan out time or projects for example)
19 difficulty prioritizing projects
20 challenges making decisions
21 difficulty with problem solving (without others supporting)
22 difficulty in multitasking
23 difficulty taking turns
24 difficulty in sharing
25 difficulty with join attention (focusing on the same thing as someone else)
26 struggle with imaginary play or role playing
27 challenges with social activities (social play for kids). Do you struggle to know how to engage in these activities. You are more observing
28 difficulty with cooperative play (kids) or work (adults)
29 preferring to work, rest or play alone (alone time)
30 difficulty with self regulation (hard to control your emotions, behaviors)
31 difficulty with self awareness
32 difficulty with self monitoring / reflection
33 no or bad self esteem. lack of confidence
34 difficulty with self advocacy
35 difficulty initiating/starting conversations
36 difficulty maintaining conversations
37 difficulty ending conversations
38 difficulty with body language (struggling to both read body language of others and use it yourself)
39 difficulty with tone of voice (using correct tone for situation)
40 difficulty with inflection and varying in the tone of your voice
41 difficulty with volume control (speaking too loudly or too softly)
42 difficulty with pitch
43 difficulty with intonation (pitch or speed)
44 difficulty with prosody (using appropriate rhythm intomation or melody)
45 difficulty with articulation (make clear and distinct speech sounds)
46 difficulty with vocabulary (some it may be limited some may be a difficulty in retrieving the words)
47 difficulty with grammar
48 difficulty with syntax (order and arrangement of words in a sentence)
49 difficulty with semantics (meaning and interpretation of words and phrases)
50 echolalia - repeating words, phrases you have heard from other ppl
51 difficulty recognizing faces
52 difficulty with central coherence (struggle to see the big picture or larger context)
53 intense interests
54 sensory seeking behaviors (seek out sensory)
55 hypersensitivity (less sensitive to certain inputs)
56 lack of coordination
57 difficulty with fine motor skills (from tying your shoelaces to handwriting)
58 difficulty with gross motor skills (jumping, running)
59 difficulty with balance
60 difficulty with proprioception (spatial awareness)
61 difficulty to understand or navigate physical spaces
62 difficulty with visual processing (making sense of visual info)
63 difficulty with auditory processing (info that we are listening to)
64 difficulty with tactile processing (hard to process tactile information)
Bump. Thank you
THANKS Travis! Very helpful ☺☺☺
What a helpful comment! Thank you so much!
Helpful along with listening!
This was awesome! Thanks!
I have recently made an appointment with a clinic that specialises in autism diagnosis. I was worried that I was just wasting everyone's time. But after watching this and relating to 58/64 traits, I feel slightly less worried about that.
Funnily enough, imposter syndrome is another usual autistic trait ;-)
@Gage Mate, I feel like reminding you the DSM V manual actually has a DSM V autism spectrum test, and there're 50 "questions" (they aren't question properly, they are statements you agree with, or don't). Positive in autism means 33 and over. There're no such 64 traits because they could be in the hundreds, but tests actually look for those traits, 50 in particular, not meaning of course there couldn't be more which actually there are. So, I don't really know what you're talking about.
@Gage spoken like someone who doesn't understand what he's talking about, not even the basic fact that autism is a spectrum and that yes, everyone has some autistic traits, the question is how many
I feel you, been there, IN MY CASE I ultimately figured that THEY were wasting MY money, because when I asked them if they could tell me what I did have if it wasn't autism, they said no. And my cPTSD is a complicating factor for an autism diagnosis so I abandoned seeking a formal diagnosis for now until I can find a place that could tell me what I do have not a place that might give me a false diagnosis. Best of luck!
@Gage To start with, are YOU in the spectrum? No? Then I'm sorry mate but you haven't the faintest of what it is or what it isn't. Neurotypical point of view usually just "interprets" what they think they're seeing, not what they are actually seeing, they behave like they know what's going on inside our brains, but they just don't. That's why not any psychologist can treat us but a really specialized one knowing real autistic things, yet they don't know it all of course, but they treat you respectfully because they know and are quite aware of the things we go throw and they just can't see inside our brains (like DSM V, and other psychologists pretend, ahem). So, ARE YOU IN THE SPECTRUM? If you aren't (and you don't look like), you don't know a thing mate. Hence, what do you pretend to get commenting on an autistic video about things only autistic people understand and trying to tell us what we are or we aren't??? Don't play smartass, I know what it takes to get a diagnosis, I went throw it. HAVE YOU??? If not just shut up and get out of here mate.
I have never once in my life been able to pay attention to verbal instructions for longer than 2 minutes
Ah yes! Losing words! When I am planning to visit a family member, and spent the entire week thinking about how I need to say this or that to them (so that they can better understand my perspective (usually about a misunderstanding from our previous visit)). And then, me getting sucked into THEIR words instead, completely forgetting what it was that I needed to say. This typically happens when they ask questions about our previous misunderstanding, but completely twisting it in a different direction, where I get so sidetracked that I forgot where I was going. I feel strongly compelled to answer their questions though, and then end up going home and getting frustrated with myself for not saying what it was that I wanted to say.
I have ADHD, not autistic to my knowledge, and this happens to me too.
@Amaya Sasaki Yeah, I am very unsure as to whether or not I would have ADHD, because I have always completed work tasks, when given the time to do them.
@@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy ADHD and Autism have some overlap, and some things that are nearly opposite. This could be an overlap. I took an online evaluation for Autism out of curiosity and got a 90/200, which translated as strong indicator, but some non-autistics score as high.
@Amaya Sasaki Yes, that is very true! I took the autism online AQ test and scored incredibly high. I should try to find a test for ADHD. I generally tend to have a good sense of time, but if somebody suddenly comes along and adds on an unexpected task, it is enough to throw off everything else for the next few hours that follow. And when I start doing a task, it's very difficult to pry me off of it, because I feel strongly compelled to complete whatever I am working on. I always think that my life would become more challenging if I had to keep switching tasks (or multitasking, as they call it in the workplace). First the boss would tell me, "You have LOTS of time; it's the beginning of your shift!" And I am just like, "Yeah but, all of the other regular daily tasks will take my entire shift to complete. And I don't want to be scrambling at the end of my shift, trying to complete multiple unfinished tasks." But this is why I am working for myself right now. I just hope that I will maintain financial stability in the future.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
I've always hated wearing shirts or sweaters that have long sleeves; I can wear a coat or sweatshirt, but if I have to wear a sweater? Nope!
I tend to bump into things.
I usually have a difficult time knowing when to end a conversation, this frustrates people at work a lot.
I have actually caught myself imitating what other people have said, in response to them!
I HATE having a set routine, but actually THRIVE having one! That's a bit confusing!
It's easier for me to write what I want to say to people, rather than verbally say it.
I've always struggled with the whole eye contact thing. It usually makes me feel weird.
I used to have a lot of difficulty with impulse control, as I've gotten older, it's become easier.
As a teenager, I would randomly feel overwhelmed and never really understood why.
A lot of times, I'll be talking to my husband, and he'll randomly ask why I am being so loud. Didn't know that I was!
Change has always been difficult, but as I've gotten older, it seems less difficult.
Sometimes, I'll have difficulty speaking; this is really frustrating at work! I usually make jokes about it, saying things like "Words are hard!"
Relating to others can be tricky.
Sometimes my terrible sense of humor kicks in, and I'll be the only one laughing. It's like that joke that no one gets, except you. Awkward!
As a kid, I would randomly walk on my tiptoes. As an adult, I occasionally do this.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
This sounds like me but I haven't been able to stick at a job unless I'm on my own
On sharing: my things are important because others do not care for my stuff properly!
I struggle with picking up hints. Unless it is blazingly obvious, I usually miss hints.
15:56 here in germany we call this auf‘m schlauch stehen. Which translates to „standing kn the hose“
I'm autistic and there is nothing more annoying then telling someone you don't like change and then being compared to. Having them say they don't like change either, but with you change could trigger a panic attack.
62/64 traits and i just got tested about a week ago. i get my results soon and i already have a really good idea of what they might be
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on RUclips and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
This is great! I consider myself to be higher functioning, but thats mostly because of midlife.
It's important to consider two things with this list:
1) It is possible to train yourself to do things that at one time were not natural. For example, I have studied body language and communication so that i can communicate effectively without constantly offending or alienating friends/ family/ coworkers. I still hate small talk and good-byes, but its easier when I have a script.
2) This list varies slightly with girls who are autistic. Men and women naturally express different traits in normal society, which means that in neurodivergent communities, the same general concept would apply. However, I have noticed that a lot of autistic women/girls have greater troubles with integrating with other "normal" women and tend to mainly have male friends and a lot more of what are considered male interests according to societal norms.
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was like 36... Some days I wonder if I could have an ASD diagnosis as well (My oldest child has both ADHD and ASD) When you said ending conversations, and talking about phone conversations... My Goodness... I have never in my almost 42 years of life had a phone conversation end that didn't make me cringe. Loving your content, so glad I found your channel.
Ending conversations! (Most of these are very applicable to me, but lately this is the one that I'm noticing so so much) 🙃
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
Please, to anyone who is just seeing these traits, please remember that they have to affect you to a certain extreme. Neurotypical people experience some of the symptoms of autism but not to the same extent that someone with autism does.
Well said. Anyone watching this might think they are undiagnosed.
Another brilliant video! It'd probably be easier for me to write down the things I'm *not* affected by!
One issue for me is that I'm hearing impaired, so quite often people (usually my Mum if I'm honest as I don't go out much!) will tell me I'm shouting, or I'm too quiet. It's really difficult for me to know when to speak up or quieten down. Now I know it's connected to autism that really makes me wonder if all the surgery I've had over the past 30 years might have been avoided, and that maybe I was misdiagnosed as a kid. I'll never know.
I can paint a Games Workshop figure, but I keep walking into walls!
BTW, who's putting z's where s's should be in your subtitles? Australia uses proper English doesn't it? I suppose we call it the King's English now. It's incredibly distracting, I keep mentally correcting those words!
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on RUclips and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
When i was in college, I joined a group in the U.S. called Toastmasters, i dunno if they're international, but they exist exclusively for the purpose of helping people learn to speak and give speeches in front of groups.
Very accurate thank you, you're also very entertaining to watch which helps with the auditory processing disorder! 😊
Eye contact tends to be rather painful when attempting, in many or most circumstances I think.
I don't think I'm autistic but I have most of these traits. I guess most of them are very common for anxious people?
7:37 i am very good at multitasking
For example i can cube, watch videos and do so ething else at the same time
Boot camp helped me learn ways to decide things much more quickly.
Was watching this to see how many of the 64 i had pre diagnosis and your book i ordered turned up 😂😂
I'm undiagnosed and (this shows how clueless i am sometimes) my daughter was the first person who gently suggested that I could be autistic. That explains sooo much 😅
And when I said something to Mum, she said that she'd been thinking for a long time that there's something wrong with me
Has anyone else ever had trouble with greetings?
When company arrives I usually find myself somehow skirting the social practice of both "hellos" and "goodbyes" by floating in and out of their presence until they have left without managing to say either of these.
Ugh, I hate it so much too!!!! I wish I could avoid it altogether!
hmmm interesting.....I didn't think I had an issue with it ...but I used to stay in bed when my Boyfriend would leave....I wouldn't walk him to the door and hug him good bye...I just thought it was because it hurts me so much to say good bye to him....???
Yeah. I struggled with it since i was young. I had little friends as a kid to begin with, and all of their parents disliked me and thought i was a bad influence because i was "rude" or "impolite" due to not doing it, even though it was not my intention
I have most of these traits.
I can’t ever tell if I am high functioning autistic or not. What I do know for certain is that there are so many similarities! But maybe that’s all, that they are just similarities. 🤷🏼♂️
I don’t care either way, to be autistic or not.
I don’t care to be part of any group or not.
I just want to find solutions to things and understand better.
My inner voice has been saying the word neurodivergent for a couple months. I am blown away at this. Guess that's my que to get a check up.
I have ADHD and I struggle with nearly all of these. :( Especially being misunderstood. For instance, I texted something to my mom and I realized it wasn't all that clear what I was trying to say, so I clarified. I said "to be clear, what I mean is" and she thought I was implying that she was stupid. I wasn't, I was literally just saying "to be clear" because what I said wasn't very clear. 🤦♀️
35/64
Thank you Orion. Very interesting.
Looks like I am going to be busy soon sorting myself out 🥴
My count is 60 of 64, but I have trouble with self-perception, and now I feel anxious and uncomfortable
Something interesting about the traits and why ASD is not an illness: we develop adaptive mechanisms! (came to the same conclusion by different matters) by example, one of my “obsessions” is Rupaul Drag Race, my English language skills are advanced because of that, otherwise, in usual English courses, it would be difficult (thank you mamaRu)
People says I have a pretty bizarre accent, I discovered it’s because of one of my adaptive mechanism (I tend to repeat catch phrases from media, trying to imitate the person speaking, I imitate somehow the accent of the person I’m speaking to because I feel anxious about my own tone and voice)
Could the difficult with sharing extend to romantic relationships? The idea of an open relationship or casual dating sounds absolutely horrific to me. Being cheated on is downright traumatic. I feel like I experience these feelings much more dramatically than to a "normal" person.
now i know why i need people to see what im doing,and not notice me at the same time
This video is really great. I made my own list and a video on some of my traits. I prefer this video/list to another one that was way more detailed. Tweeting it.
There was only one I didn't think of as an autistic trait of mine, indecisiveness. But like with some traits, I'm not sure if it's to do with autism and not just caused by my anxiety disorder...
How would multitasking not be real? If you walk while whistling and recording yourself with a camera, you're not switching tasks but doing them at the exact same time.
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on RUclips and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
Whelp, here are my answers:
1: Sometimes, though, this is usually only when I feel upset or overstimulated. When I was younger, I struggled with this a lot more, but due to therapy, I don't anymore.
2: At times, yes. If the person isn't showing any other sign of the emotion that their face is meant to convey, I most likely won't catch it unless it is a very strong emotion.
3: Yes, I have some of these. For my sense of touch, I don't like tags on clothing. For hearing, I don't like high pitched noises or to many loud noises at once. To much strong stimuli overall happening at once has also been an issue.
4: No, I don't experience social anxiety.
5: Sometimes. If I haven't heard the specific instance of figurative language, or something similar to it, I will probably catch that it's figurative language, but have no idea what it means until I'm directly told, or look it up myself.
6: I'm not sure if this counts as an abstract thing, but I've always struggled with the concept of size, length, distance, and other stuff like that. For example, if you told me that a stick was six feet long, I'd have an idea of how long it is, but I wouldn't be able to appropriately imagine or comprehend what exactly that means.
7: Eh, it depends on how big the change is, but not in the way that you'd think. If it's a major change, like moving from one state to another, I'll be fine. On the contrary, with small changes, such as having to take two tests one week when I usually only take one, I will be thrown off and struggle. Now, this only applies to things that have stayed the same without changing for a long period of time. For example, if the time I need to go to sleep changes, sense it's changed before, that won't effect me.
8: I explained this in 7.
8.5: Yes. If I have a plan to do something that day, and that plan gets canceled or changed to much, it will make me just a bit upset for the rest of that day.
9: No, I don't need a specific routine.
10: It depends on how well I know the person. If I know that person well, I will interpret their social cues pretty accurately. If I don't know, or don't spend much time with a certain person, their social cues might go over my head.
11: No, but I'm also not good at it. I just kinda let it happen that way it happens when it happens.
12: Sometimes. If they say something sarcastic in the same tone of voice that they were previously talking in, I won't catch that it's sarcasm no matter how "obvious" it is. I also probably won't catch sarcasm if it's said over text, unless you make it blatantly obvious that it's sarcasm.
13: Same thing I said in 12, except with jokes and humor.
14: I definitely have this symptom. There have been multiple times where I have thought "I don't understand that". I usually try to understand, but that gets pretty hard pretty easy.
15: No, I don't really struggle with this.
16: I only really get impulsive due to high pitched noises, which give me the urge to stop the noise. This can include slapping a phone out of someone's hand, yelling at the person who caused the noise, etc.
(To be continued)
Some people may find it helpful to know that the extreme opposite of many of these can also potentially be a sign. For me and my son, our clarity of speaking and overly mature speech and semantics was a sign.
Just found you on the inter webs .. u are great! Thank you 🙏
My son loves carpentry and how things are made.
What is interesting, all these signs defer as ‘difficulties’ because neurotypical people think that it's not normal, but for me all neurotypical people are weird and they have ‘difficulties’. Talk a lot, jokes are not fun, trying to tough me, etc. The point of view is the key 😅
I'm don't have autism but I am diagnosed with something that is part of the spectrum Autistic
What do you know about adhd and autism combination 😅 as it seems like I got the double joy of getting both 😂
wow i tick like alot of those things you said nearly all them
Making comprehensive lists is number 1. 😆
66. Rejection sensitivy issue also known as RSD
Oh that part more direct is easier to understand
How about a video of late diagnosis like if you over 30 years old?
Yikes... I feel a bit too targeted. Especially concerning clumsiness, proprioception & #63... I just started a new job in catering & the boss showed me + gave me verbal instructions to cut chickens in a manner that was convenient to him + the way he wanted them placed in the containers + 6 chickens in total per container + salt + papers (number, how to, which ones), showed me once (on 1 chicken) then left. I was struggling remembering everything + he gave me a weird verbal advice & demand and I was so lost I was almost crying in despair because he left & I didn't want to call him because I knew he would repeat verbally the instructions OVER THE PHONE (those 2 things are terrible together) so I did it but it took me double the time... I talked to somebody else about my struggle that night. The day after, we were on the road going to the gig for which I prepared everything the 2 days before & he told me he heard about my struggle with the chickens and was wondering why I didn't call him. I told him honestly: "I have a real hard time with verbal instructions/explanations of something visual. If you did a whole box in front of me & stayed there while I did my first, I wouldn't have panicked the way I did. I'm not telling you this to make you feel guilty, I'm sharing a difficulty of mine. I'm with my partner for 8 years & we still have misunderstandings like these. Oftentimes, he talks to me about let's say an actor. The name rings a bell or not, but I can't put a face on it. So he tries to make me recall by saying a movie title the actor played in. I don't compute, so he tries a couple more. I still don't compute, so he's trying to describe to me a scene or something, still no freaking clue. So he's like: 'WTH we just watched that movie last week!' and I'm like: 'OK... Is it that important? I guess movies aren't classified as in my mind.' and then we're both upset. But in the end, I was always like this. Even at school. When it came to abstract & not straight forward & no real visual pathway (like electricity or the human's nervous system) of a concept, I got confused easily. If they try to make me learn in theory what should be done in practice, I become very, very slow. But I'm a very fast learner if we speak as we go. It's like a practice turn in a game. You can tell me the rules & everything I should know before hands, but I will look, feel & act retarded as long as I didn't do it & maybe made mistakes."
I don't have spacial awareness struggles, the doorframes do. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
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I HATE DOOR JAMS>...if I could ever build my OWN house I would just have NO DOORS
In my defense, I have very wide shoulders.
This thread is the best! 😂😂
Same with those pesky bed legs that jump out to stub your toe, lol!!!
I would add: difficulty with interoception: struggling to process and understand sensations from inside the body. for example, my entire life I've struggled to identify when I'm feeling hungry or full, until either I feel dizzy and spaced out (from hunger) or, I feel sick (from eating too much). Or I will put off going to the loo for way too long because I don't recognise a sensation until it's urgent. I think that's also related to identifying and processing emotions.
With a lot of the speech and verbal ones, I think being highly skilled in those areas can actually be a sign. Because (for me) speech, grammar, vocabulary etc were a chance for me to learn all the rules, and the right way to say or write things, and then use them in a way that means that I kinda have a formula for success and can "win" at the thing.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
THIS. This comment!
Yes this is so accurate!!!
I feel like this is also something I experience as an autistic person.
Totally I didn’t get diagnosed till I was in my late teens and still struggle With this but can totally relate even ended up in hospital
Holy crap, this hits hard. I only discovered I'm autistic a little less than a year ago, in my late twenties. I've been struggling with a plethora of these issues my entire life. It hurts.
Keep at it. It's worth it. You are talking about it. You are studying the situation. You are learning. Enjoy. (even the pain can be fun). We have a Unique Perspective.....Tim from Tea Tree Gully, South Australia.
You are so very lucky! Why? I am 55 and only figured it out last year. That could have been you. Now you know and your outlook will improve.
@Gage Granted, every autistic person's experience is unique, but I resonate with the majority of these traits. Could you explain your comment a bit further?
@Gage These videos help to articulate these issues for a lot of people. It's merely an exchange of information, meant to label and communicate some examples of these common problems. Just imagine, you could be struggling with many things pertaining to autism without the ability to effectively communicate that to others, or even worse, to yourself. They're a great help to me.
@Gage Aha, I think I understand now. You are absolutely correct, however, I don't think that this video is meant to be a diagnostic tool at all. It can help people in their journey toward a possible assessment and diagnosis in that it educates and informs. Both approaches have merit and are valid.
I'm so with you on the "ending conversations" thing. Like how many times do you go "alright, I have to go now" before the neurotypicals get that I ACTUALLY HAVE TO GO
my struggle with vocabulary is that I've got too much of it! I was hyperlexic as a kid, and built a large vocabulary, and I have to use the best word for the situation or it bugs me. so I guess I also struggle with semantics (in that I am a pedant).
@@DashValkyrie I had to redo second grade of elementary and speech therapy because the teachers said my vocabulary was lacking (apparently this was one of the signs i have autism). Now during my studies my vocabulary and grammar had been one of the best of the class 😂
It's not just word choice, but related actions and tone: in my experience, looking at your phone or watch and going "Oh! Sorry! I've gotta go, talk to you later!" As you gather your things and work on leaving is enough to inform the typicals that you mean it
YES! Or sometimes I don't HAVE to go but I WANT to & struggle to phrase it in a polite way, so I just end up giving shorter & shorter responses as I slowly inch towards the door until they grant me the exit I needed haha
That’s strange I’m usually the one saying to my friend on the spectrum, “are we going to have a conversation or is this just going to be your monologue?” Or, “does this long drawn out story have a point?”
So many of these apply to me. It’s somewhat scary. I’m undiagnosed but am now convinced that I have autism and ADHD, which explains what I have experienced for 50+ years.
I am 51. I am also undiagnosed, but am very sure I'm on the autism spectrum, and have no doubt that I have OCD. I have been resisting therapy, but probably should go to a therapist.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
I’m 50, also undiagnosed, but 1000% certain that I’m on the spectrum.
@@kellbing I dont know, I mean a lot of people have a lot of these traits.. I think after watching this video every single person would find at least a few of these apply to them
55 and female no doubt i have adhd&time management skills😢sounds bad we are undiagnosed struggled through life how is getting a diagnosis now going to help ?? Im not trying to sound mean other than our peice of mind how will that help us.
I can make eye contact, but it's weird for me. Sometimes, I'll stare directly into someone's eyes, barely blinking. Sometimes I can't meet someone's eyes. Sometimes, they both happen, to the same person... In the same conversation... 😅
For me I’m either staring into space while someone is talking or I have to mentally remind myself to make eye contact, then it’s like I’m staring into your soul.
For me its like my eyes are burning or drying out when i make prolonged eye contact. It depends on how comfortable i am with the person too. Like my husband is diagnosed autistic and im not, but we both have eye contact issues. Sometimes we can look at each other but mostly we just dont lol, especially when we bring up the lack of eye contact.
The same! I’m either Homelander laser eyes or looking all over the place. My ex girlfriend used to accuse me of looking at other women when I just can’t focus because there’s so much happening in the environment. I wouldn’t even understand what she was talking about as that person didn’t even register. Everything just blends together. It was so distressing.
It's definitely important to note that for every hypo trait there's a hyper equivalent. For every autistic who has difficulty roleplaying, there's an autistic who *thrives* on roleplay (it's a common escapist trait for masked autistics, diving into a book or media or fantasy to escape the NT world), for every autistic who has extreme taste sensitivity there's one who doesn't care about flavor at all, for every autistic who has problems with tactile processing there's one who is incredibly dexterous and loves the feeling etc.
This one was important to me because the assumed trait of "can't roleplay/pretend" along with a general lack of understanding about masking are big things that leads to missed diagnoses. If anything, immersion/roleplay is one of my biggest autistic traits and fuels my special interests (immersing in music/books/shows/games etc. and just disappearing from my body and being in a sensory universe), full body/mind diving into whatever I'm doing until we feel one and the same, I can't even help it (I instantly AM the person I'm watching on tv or talking to for instance, I cry at 10 second commercials because I just imagine myself as the person without even meaning to) I'm very passionate about being able to fantasize at any given moment, my only tattoo even says Nucleus Basalis (the imagination center of the brain).
I often forget people don't do that, and get confused when they watch a movie or play a game detached and aren't like, feeling the same thing as the actor and forgetting they exist irl. Or seeing themselves holding a controller moving a character on the screen and not like, *being* the character on the screen and forgetting you're even holding a controller.
Man that hits hard. I feel like you’re describing my experience *exactly.* damn. I love RP. I’ve been roleplaying with my friends for years, it’s awesome!
@@theaveragecomment1014 I love RP too!!!
I relate to this alot, heck I learned an entire language (brazilian portuguese) because I really liked a fictional character (José Carioca, the one on my pfp) and watched the films he's in repeatedly. My special interest would be animation since i view everything through the lense of it. For example I had to do a project about the USSR, and I picked the topic of media and couldnt deny the oppurtunity to talk about at least one soviet animated film. I remember a really long time ago, for my cousin's birthday I couldnt buy her a gift so i made a bunch of diy stylus for her and her friends to "do animations on their phones like me" Yah looking back at it now it may not have been a good move but, she seemed grateful, so maybe it's all good? I'm not sure if I am on the spectrum but I'm trying to figure it out.
Edit: I realized I only talked about what would be my "special interest", without mentioning any other reasons why i think i may be on the spectrum lol. It's not just that, being obsessed with something obviously isnt all what autism is about. I also have trouble socializing, I dont understand people, idk what is the "norm" for doing anything. I have kinda awkward movements, and I trip easily lol. I rub my hands a lot, and rock left and right, which ig is stimming?? Im probably overdiagnosing myself though. If we're applying the scientific method here, there's no control group for me to understand whether or not I may be on the spectrum, if that makes sense. Idk how others live their lives basically. Idk anything, I'm always confused by what's going on and ask others. As for sensory issues, sounds can be too much for me. If there's too much going on i get overwhelmed, i either run away or silently sit there in pain. If im with friends i cant talk or listen to them unless it's quiet. Anyway this is getting long, I thought I'd share because i wonder about this everyday.
I have autistic friends who keep on insisting that I too am autistic, which sends me into an existential crisis.
Because I'm afab, already diagnosed with anxiety and depression, and can spend a lot of time in my own head dissociating and imagining or reflecting.
I don't relate to a lot of the things on this guy's list: I've never struggled to understand how other people are feeling and what the social rules are.
But I identify with nearly every sign of a Highly Sensitive Person, which has been described as a type of autism. I feel too much and am noticing how much I struggle with sensory sensitivities (bad clothing texture can make me feel sick or angry, I shut down in noisy environments, and can't eat certain foods because of their texture).
Unfortunately, there is so much overlap and misunderstanding between autism in females and other diagnoses, that it doesn't seem worth pursuing a formal diagnosis. So I just make sure I give myself plenty of patience and kindness, alone time and downtime.
@@ceekay3143 It’s completely valid to not seek a diagnosis! Thank you for sharing!
It was not until I was in my 20s that "nervous" feeling walking into a convenience store that only had one person in it, the cashier, is social anxiety.
Everyone always thinks it means a crowded party.
But is any time ur anxious about a social interaction.
Even with family you know well.
I am diagnosed but still I always find myself watching videos like this, cause „hey, what if they were wrong and you’re faking it.“
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The sharing thing got me. I really suck at social media because it's all about sharing with other people. I never take pictures when I'm on vacations or experiencing things because I don't care to share them. Not in a mean malicious way I just think in my mind, why would any one care to see this stuff? It feels like I'm just bragging or something. Also when people share with strangers stories about their kids or spouses. I have to force myself to share in those instances or I'll have a story or two logged in my brain for just in case I'm in that situation. I just always feel like why would a random stranger give a crap about these things? So it's hard for me to naturally do it.
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Oh my god! You too? It's like "Who gives a shit that your kid took a giant mustard-coloured shit last Tuesday? Nobody. Nobody. Seriously, Linda, nobody. I promise, Nobody but you gives a shit. Literally." lol.
Watching videos like this on autism is great. It feels like every one I watch explains another thing I have struggled with my whole life and it feels so good to finally understand why
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
Normies have trouble with subtle sarcasm, which is fun they have no idea. But when I'm genuine they take it as sarcasm which is not fun.
don't use sarcasm it is MEAN.....and no one will ever believe you cause you don't just say the truth clearly .....
@@artsylady3187 it can be used as bullying especially in front of a groups which can be devastating, it can be used subtle even in defence e.g. someone mocks you and you flatly say haha halirous. With a friend it can be funny for both. It's the power balance between the giver and receiver is the key. I don't know you or your experience so I'm not saying your wrong. 🙂
Me too! I have a sarcactic boss and i dont understand what is he saying. Then i had an sarcastic partner. Then i came to understand slightly of my boss sarcasm. Haha. Since i was train to see sarcasm by my partner
One that you missed for us girls and some males is mimicking. It is not echolalia of repeating words, it is picking out someone that fits in better than us, and mimicking their tone of voice, their pitch of voice, how they stand, how they gesture, their word choices. I do this a lot with my stepsister. Also when learning Danish, I was told I did not need the speech course at night because I was mimicking the lady on the tape too well. I speak with a bad American accent otherwise due to my hearing problem.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
I do that a lot mimicking other people to fit in , what would they person do
Mirroring, or mimickry? Mirroring behavior ends after the interaction. Mimickry is often more associated with adopted behaviors that continue without further interaction
Im afab and i used to be a mimic. Recently been wondering if im autistic or if this was just a natural survival tactic. Id pretty much just pretend to be whoever i was with. Now as an adult i periodically have to list facts about myself to myself to get a grip on who i am, like my favorite color or food etc. Sometimes i wonder if something is really my opinion or if im just trying to blend in and appear acceptable. Its annoying to have to sit and think so hard about it, it makes me feel like im not perceiving the world around me correctly.
Diet. I can stick to the same food, same times eating it for months without changing it. I stick to the same routes exactly to the same places week after week. I drive my neighbors mad with constantly complaining about their noise. Closing a door too loudly enrages me. Dogs barking feels like total chaos/something is out of control. Yet dead silence makes me anxious for I don't know what's popping up next in it. I live and sleep 24/7 with earbud headphones in listening to something. ...and all of what you mention of course 😊
I’m only at number 35 and just paused to write that I feel personally attacked 😂 holy crap! I found out I was possibly autistic through one of your other videos late last year. Did some self-assessments, a lot of research and now going to pursue a formal diagnosis to settle the matter once and for all. I second guess myself about it quite a lot…obviously not when watching videos like this one, I’ve got no doubt 😬 thank you for what you do, Orion!
I can feel that you are autistic based off your handwriting alone, very similar to mine. Insane.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
Me in a job interview: "Yes I'm a team player"
Me in my head: "Yeah right..." 🤭😂
i love it....i was on a debate team in my speech class today and it was TORTURE ...LOLOLOL
@@artsylady3187 Even the mere thought of that makes me shake and shudder!! 🤣🤣
I recently told my bosses about my autism and how it was not a realistic expectation for me to be "a team player with a can do attitude", then I found out that from their perspective I always have been. Depends on your job, but most teams need a goalie/quarterback... (Not a sport guy, so I hope that makes sense)
Hahaha
I laughed at the "not wanting to share things" part. I once was told "I could see you having a room in your house where nobody is allowed to enter or touch anything." This was before discovering I'm on the spectrum and I kept thinking "wow, that really does sound nice" 😂
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
I have one of those, except it's a number of connected rooms with a single entrance. I.e. my house.
I never invite anyone to my house except someone I'm in a relationship with. The thought of people poking at my decor makes me feel really uncomfortable.
I have that room in my house 😅
Thank goodness I am neurotypical. I think it would be very difficult to fit in to a neurotypical world.
If you have none of these traits then you must be a perfect human being... 😅😅
i have all but 3 of these things..whoa
I was thinking that, too. It seems we all have some of these but aren't autistic.
Eye contact seems so invasive to me. My daughter got in trouble at school for not watching the teacher as he spoke, though she got top grades. She explained that she would zone out trying to “look like” she was paying attention, rather than just listening.
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This was me back in school. Only because I kept getting conflicted with people telling me "not to stare at people bc it's rude" and also "to keep eye contact at all times"
kid me couldn't figure out the contradicting instructions, so I just kept calm and tried to get through the day.
My son had many autistic traits so I took him to a psychologist and she evaluated him, the result was she finds autistic traits in him but she told us he "didn't fit the profile" of an autistic person because he doesn't have all of them. Being that autism is such a huge spectrum how can she say he needs to have all of them to fit the profile? It makes me very anxious because I want to help my son the best I can and accommodate his needs. Sometimes I feel people with autism or in the spectrum are not validated or heard.
Maybe he didn’t fit the required amount of symptoms to be diagnosed as autistic.
I would 100% get a second opinion
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
Psychologist is not the best person to evaluate him you need a psychiatrist. In my country only a psychiatrist can diagnose with autism. We had to have ouer son looked by neuropediatrition, psyhologist, some specialist for sensory disorders, work therapy specialist, rehabilitator and psychiatrist. Only after ADOS test and opinions of many specialist he was diagnosed by psychiatrist as PDD NOS, level 1, they call it hight functioning. He didn't have most of the typical signs but had some so he got level 1. Some people on spectrum don't look autistic but for shure have autistic trades.
@@lydie1416 In my country it's a neuro-psychologist
Does anyone else find that in order to have a conversation with someone they either have to be really comfortable/familiar/relatable, or they have to be doing something at the same time like walking or something with your hands, or fulfilling a “role”? Also, do you find if in conversation you think of something to say, but then don’t say it, then your brain goes offline for the rest of being with that person? I find I end up interrupting people because if I don’t then I will be completely lost & also will forget the thing I was going to say.
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😮get outta my head!😂 sadly, yes! It’s only after decades of working on that very thing have I improved-didn’t know I was “on the spectrum” until my son found out he was & began querying me 😬
@@christinelangin7209 Thanks for your reply! I’m glad you’re figuring it out!
Some of my earliest memories (under 2 years old) were of learning to mask my overstimulation because I would otherwise be punished. My most recent mind blowing moment was when I realized that I was stimming almost constantly as a kid, and as a result I was regularly brought out into the hallway of my elementary school and paddled for being a bad kid.
Fast forward and I’m a therapist treating adults with childhood trauma, and I’d estimate that about 95% of my clients are living with undiagnosed neurodivergence, or it’s been misdiagnosed as a personality disorder. I can’t tell you how many people I’ve sent to be assessed.
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Hi is there a way of contacting you or know of anyone in Melbourne Australia that can assess?
This is interesting. I am really confused because autism to me sounds like NPD or Schizoid PD or even BPD with the emotional dis-regulation aspect. This needs to be clarified
You have memories being 2 years old? wtf
I've been told by my therapist that cptsd and autism have many overlapping traits.
Finally finding answers to why life has been a struggle. Thank you for getting information out here.
Most here must have watched the Big Bang Theory.
87.5%. On of the other things for vocabulary I would say is having an unusual vocabulary such as speaking like a professor or using old fashioned words for example.
yup I am american and like to speak in BRITISH accents and use British terms / slang etc
Or even making up my own by adding a suffix like “ish” to a word in a way that is very nonstandard but effectively adds the emphasis intended.
I am glad you mentioned struggles with self-advocacy. I want to stand up for myself but people do not correctly interpret me correctly. I usually get laughed at.
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
I just want to let you know, your presentation delivery on these videos is top tier. Keep up the good work. I know doing these kind of videos is NOT easy to do!
Thank you doc for your good work
It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs.
His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy
God bless you Dr Oyalo
49 or 50 out of 64. But that sarcasm one. I FEEL that.
I HATE the 'oh no, we ran out of [whatever it is I'm trying to order]' because I just assume they're serious. I'll just order something else or go somewhere that has what I want, but then they have to explain they were only joking. They feel bad. I feel bad. It's just a bad time.
I have almost all of these except the first few, I have no problem with eye contact & I don't experience social anxiety, at all. Maybe when I was younger. What's really exhausting is to have to explain my challenges while simultaneously having to explain to neuro-typicals that having challenges does not mean I am an idiot or 5 yrs old, I can still reason & process information like an adult. Thank you so much for your very helpful videos.
100%! I hate telling people my struggles because they immediately treat me like I'm some kind of idiot.
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My husband and I did a tally together for fun.
Sean (my husband): 19
Me: 39
I win! 😂
I live in Brisbane and ive found getting a official diagnosis as quite classist. My daughter and son as well as myself are so severe that we have all failed to be able to live in normal society. My son has already and my daughter is now failing school as they can't bare to go often for many of the reasons listed here and myself i 50yrs have never successfully held down a job. Also my sons verbal skills are affected severely and he can't even speak without a severe stammer, he's 21 and can't even shop without someone with him. As a result we are reliant on government support and yet can't get proper help without a proper diagnosis. Every time i try to get a diagnosis im told its not covered by Medicare and will cost $2,000 minimum per person to get a diagnosis ,thats $6,000 for all of us. How is a person with no income supposed to afford that,we can't and as a result we are just left to rot with absolutely no help available to us. If anyone k.ows a free clinic in Brisbane that can give a diagnosis it would be much appreciated ❤ as the only ones that ive been told about are unaffordable. It seems only those who are already rich can get a diagnosis and recieve help they could already afford. I bet there are so many suffering like us knowing that somethings wron with no money to prove it .any suggestions would help please.
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It's the same situation down here in Victoria
Great list! Don't forget ticing, introspection and palilalia and stomach issues which is universal for us as we have different stomach bacteria than allistics.
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I’m nearly 70, just figuring this out. I suffered throughout my whole child and pretty much all of life, trying to fit in.
Omg! Is this what I’ve been struggling with my entire life??!! I’m sitting here in tears after watching this video. So many things are starting to make sense. My parents sent me for all kinds of testing when I was a kid. For learning disabilities, food allergies. I know for sure I have audio processing challenges. I’ve always been socially awkward. In order for me to interact with people I watched people greeting each other and interacting for years til I could imitate them. I’ve been fired from job after job. I struggle to maintain friendships. Because eventually everyone gets mad at me for something I’ve done that I don’t understand.
Thank you for making these videos. I’m calling my doctor on Monday.
i’m 13 and i think i have autism , i’ve been doing research for about a year-
I counted 40 and I recently failed an Autism test. Which is why I am pushing to get a proper brain Imagery QEEG test because there is definitely something going on with my brian.
I got the herbs from Dr Oyalo and use the remedy on my son as he instructed. As I speak my child is speaking well and his social skill has improved. It a good thing to tell this and his herbs is the best for autism kids than any therapy. Thanks
My echolalia? Speaking with an Australian accent for hours after watching your videos 😁
"I prioritize the task I'm doing".... Best description of why I can't get all the things done.... And why I'm late... And why I'm tired...
im 49 and all my life i have had a hate for cotton wool even just typing the word here affects me so much even the thought makes me sick , 😜
it’s really upsetting, I wish so bad i could just talk to people
This comment is very long and only barely edited (I may have finally encountered the character cap for the text field), merely my processing of some of the 64 traits Orion recounts in this video. I post it only that others may compare and contrast their own experiences. Orion, you're my freakin' hero, having SUCH a similar upbringing and quite a few experiences, now here educating us on everything you've discovered.
For the record, I am self-diagnosed and it was only a few years ago, around age 48 or 50, under the growing evidence as I performed research, that I capitulated to self-diagnose. Up to now (54yo) I have presumed formal diagnosis far too expensive to pursue (in the USA), but Orion's videos and my recent changeup of medications has me thinking I should broach the subject with my psychiatrist. After all, there's a great deal of overlap in generative and symptomatic characteristics of all my diagnoses of ADHD, Bipolar II, multiple CPTSD, autism, sensitivities and allergies, plus the addition of HIV. We may be over- or under-medicating and there are foods that also can interfere with metabolism of these medications (Tivicay deliberately slows the liver's production of the enzyme that clears a number of other medications, including SSRIs and Descovy; meanwhile SSRIs perform a similar function elsewhere). Hormones are complicated and plenty.
Now a few of the 64 traits.
ABSTRACT thinking I don't struggle with per se and I've often said that I think more conceptually and then have trouble putting it into language. Now, I've studied a lot of social theory and languages/linguistics, so it might be that I've serendipitously honed the conceptual thinking but not the ability to translate into speech. That's where the LITERALISM comes in. How hard it is to accurately describe what I'm thinking in precise diction; I get stuck needing the best word. Writing is somewhat easier because I can break the block by looking up synonyms until I find what I'm not extracting from my own internal lexicon. Speech puts me in the position of confusion and embarrassment created really only because of this need to be precise, not unusually resulting in pressured speech or stuttering. I don't even like leaving phone messages without writing them down first because they end up long with a lot of confused pauses. In addition, I've misunderstood comments that were NOT to be taken literally to some pretty serious consequences, including losing a few jobs. O.O I'd like to say it's all water under the bridge, but so far it's more baggage than water.
This facility and preference for recognizable patterns likely explains why I have a freakish obsession with maps and charts, e.g. language paradigms. I get lost in them. I can lose multiple distracted hours in Google Maps when really I was just looking up the forecast or double checking the location of an appointment. I have drawn thousands of fictional maps, usually urban, in which I become so immersed that it can be meditative and I've inadvertently taught myself loads of urban planning principles. It's said that every autistic person has a forte, even though most of us don't typically resemble Rainman. Mine is maps.
ROUTINE: er yeah. I have to develop routines down to the smallest detail. Otherwise I will forget to do things like brush my teeth. I get super confused when I perform my breakfast and coffee prep out of order. I'm not incapable. I just need these routines or things get left out-and out of sight out of mine. Speaking of which, when my housemates move my food or fresh produce gets pushed to the back of the fridge, or I put it in the garage fridge, odds are it's going to rot.
ROUTINE for me also makes it harder to appropriately PRIORITIZE. I want to be efficient and I'll let it get ridiculous. I agree with your MULTITASKING take. In some contexts, however, I can interleave conversations and routines. Kids and pets have a way of forcing that upon parents/sitters/supervisors. :) As a camp counselor one must be able to keep track of a group while carrying on multiple conversations and possibly performing a task. I left thinking I was much more capable of multitasking than I am simply because the happiness and utility quotients were fulfilled and the different trains of thought were distinct within a common context.
SHARING: I couldn't have been more private when I was younger and to some degree still am. When I came out as queer I lept out and learned how to open up. Becoming an activist encouraged me to be even more open. Given I don't read CUES and BODY LANGUAGE well, I inadvertently lost what boundaries I had yet still seldom understand others' well at all. Therefore I have often revealed way too much too fast, removing the comfort of mercurialism, and dramatically misguiding new acquaintances as to my character and experiences. First impressions are extremely important. Historically I have justified putting myself in this position as caveat to an activist personality-which is true, but not to the degree I try to assuage my own psyche.
ROLEPLAY would be helpful in psychotherapy if it weren't so hard. I play World of Warcraft but never actually roleplay, though I do like to sometimes develop characters along a theme for consistency. Giving them a hint of personality, though, isn't really roleplay. I have played Dungeons and Dragons many times because my housemates all love it. I, on the other hand, find it exhausting and need a nap after playing-which can also partly be the social exhaustion, though they're my best friends so not terribly so. It's just so freakin' much work to become someone else when I already find it tiring just to be myself in the real, low-accommodating, neuronormative world. My compulsion to be precise, direct, and honest renders the effort maintain consistency in a character's actions and words, which in the real world would probably seem very foreign to me, quite strenuous. This fact is completely lost on my housemates-or at least the alpha housemate (best friend) who lives and dies roleplay and fiction writing. She finds it regenerating, to which I can relate none. Roleplay is a concept I like a lot that I find nigh impossible to actually enjoy.
COOPERATION: from my earliest memories I was bossy or a cog, and generally preferred to rather work or play alone where I didn't feel the need to dominate or resent being dominated. Dominated is probably too strong a word in most cases. I also get perturbed big time when I see a huge flaw or way to vastly improve performance efficiency yet can't get heard. I can be extremely patient with persons who exert effort and want to learn, and in supervisorial roles I've even encouraged subordinates to develop their own routines-as long as it produces the appropriate results and within a reasonable time frame. However I lose my shit when I suspect complacency or disrespect for the task or rules. I don't lead online gaming raids require following the lead(s) and scoffing at that only triggers me, and I don't want to be the dick raid leader nobody likes.
SELF AWARENESS and SELF MONITORING
These are skills that did not come naturally to me and require a lot of work. As a middle-aged adult I'm now compulsively self aware at times to a fault. Medical and other professionals also don't take me seriously, presuming that I'm just another self-deluded patient who says one thing but actually does all the things he's not supposed to do to his body. Of course I also have that literal honesty thing going on where I'll say a lot of stuff, frequently coming off as resistant to a suggestion, when really I'm merely braindumping a lot of facts and data in hopes of elucidating my unique situation. As a kid, nobody understood me; yet I came to embrace that distance as a comfort, a moat around me, a buffer zone. My mother was psychologically abusive and would deliberately incite others to gang up on me "humorously;" so it also made it easier for me to compartmentalize all aspects of life.
PITCH, RHYTHM, ETC
I still have trouble with in ordinary speech, but much less MOST of the time (I think) as I've gotten older. Funnily enough, I can read books aloud, appropriate intonations and making voices distinct. I believe reading stories to my campers as a summer camp counselor trained me young. There's also the removal of all the peer anxiety and roleplay stress when reading that way. Quite the opposite, it wasn't until I deliberately practiced reading foreign language books aloud to myself that I finally began to understand passages I read aloud in formal situations, such as when a middle school teacher had students rotate through reading 2 or 3 inches of textbooks out loud. After all these years I now understand that it was anxiety, not neural pathways alone, interfering with absorbing the meaning of the words I spoke from text.
FACES are a matter of pattern recognition, so that's always been a huge strength for me. Then again, ask me somebody's description and I'm at a loss beyond hair and skin color. Eye color? Hah! Oddly, I have figured out where I've seen persons before that there is no way I should have remembered. One was a guy at a party more than a decade earlier. Some turned out to have been customers at the book store or wine bar/bistro where I worked. One became my boss, and only after chatting for a few months did it dawn on me that I had voted for him to be Rubberman (a condom education spokesperson) eight years earlier in a very different context. Now names, good luck remembering. Names are an enormous weakness.
INTERESTS I have galore, yet my passions drive me. ADHD symptoms and problems in prioritizing lead me to get in my own way completing projects, though. On the one hand I have my moments where I obsess and have stayed awake for two or three days. I have a Bipolar II diagnosis that is warranted for other reasons; yet when a hypomanic episode synchs with a project, I can get enormous amounts of work done (on the project and nothing else) in a short amount of time, then crash. This fact was GREAT for when I got my HIV diagnosis to prod me into quickly getting all my healthcare ducks in a row-and there are lots of them-before the crash led me to accomplish nothing for weeks. On the other hand having so MANY passions makes it very difficult to select one or two at a time for deliberate focus, PLUS I tend to hold myself to the standard of my performance during the rare project-hypomania synch successes, which is absurd, but I do it. Yearning is a powerful emotion.
I'll lump all the SENSORY stuff together. I used to call myself the princess and the pea for numerous reasons though especially because the tiniest specs of crud or lint under me in bed will keep me fidgeting, unable to sleep, and even while asleep I will pick at skin discomforts, like acne. Then I discovered that there is a trait call Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), which once upon a time was subsumed into the first DSM's version of autism characteristics. I have an extremely low threshold for sensory annoyance, prone to sinus headaches, canary-in-the-coalmine levels of sensitivity to toxins in manufactured products, an overactive immune system that borders on autoimmune, senses of scent and taste that almost gave me a career in wine brokerage or could have made me a scent/perfume tester (were it not for the allergies and all the toxic chemicals employed as agents). While autistic, I frequently find the volume of other autistic persons overwhelming. I mean, my ears cringe and I lose the ability to pay attention.
Yet for all my low thresholds of tolerance, I have a very high tolerance for pain. I didn't even realize it until I had cancer and spent weeks at a time in intensive chemotherapy. I came to realize that annoyance to stimuli and tolerance of pain are not the same thing. Mindblower, at the time.
MOTOR SKILLS and PROPRIOCEPTION
I still don't understand why I can drive really well and be so careful at most activities yet have horrible handwriting, drop things all the time, and like Orion, bump into everything, including those same bloody doorways that were there the previous 200 times I walked into them (that's my favorite illustration to make, as well). WT#? As I've arrived in my 50s it's really starting to hurt! Am I going to die to a corner-of-the-bedframe injury when I'm 67?
VISUAL vs AUDITORY PROCESSING
I experience such a huge difference in how well I process these two modes of perception that I bought into the fallacy that humans learn visually or aurally. It doesn't hold up under scientific scrutiny. So hopefully scientists will start working with autistic populations separately to figure out what's going on with our wiring; and that should illuminate neurotypical processing as well. Oh, and for me, I prefer visual. I love those maps and charts and paradigms and graphs and so on. Auditory input I can miss for a variety of reasons. Auditory and visual together (like turning on captions to videos I can understand just fine) can help me better absorb and retain information, though. I used to think I had a photographic memory before I learned what that really meant. I'm not THAT good at visual memory-if only! But I did employ similar tactics to best challenges like our vocabulary tests in honors English back in high school; I remembered where on the pages of my pre-exam homework that was basically the same thing and regurgitated the definition and exemplary sentence I had written.
@Gage I will look it up, not familiar with it.
@Gage That was very interesting, although next to none of it applied to me. It does sound like a neurological disorder, though. The obvious criterion that appears to apply is my dumping into comments like I do, and of course not knowing who's reading does leave me unsure of the register to use. Not saying people don't think me weird, just that it's not been for these reasons.. :) I've never had temendous difficulty sorting registers in person. I do tend to tic most or all checkboxes on autism of the more Asperger's type, depending on the diagnostic tool. My experience parallels all but a few of Orion's 64 traits. I can't even convince most people of my autism, only that I'm a little eccentric. Masking is exhausting, though.
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on RUclips and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I’m 12 years old and watched this video, thinking that I might be autistic and wow. I broke down crying during this video because I have so many of these traits. I have been professionally diagnosed with ADHD so I always believed these were just apart of having ADHD. I’m still not convinced I have autism, what if I just what attention? Or what if it’s just ADHD? Im really scared to asked an adult for help because I have never been one to tell anybody about my problems, each time I’ve tried, (with a school counselor or something like that) I’ve been ignored. Im also scared I might just be wrong and my family will have another reason to laugh at me. I’m so confused and don’t know what to do.
Hey, I see you posted this comment like a month ago and no one else has replied... How are you doing now? Anything different? I just turned 32 and I realized 2 months ago that I have ADHD plus autism, just through doing online tests and watching RUclips videos by ppl who seem a lot like me. 2 of my favs are Mom On The Spectrum and How to ADHD... When I was 10-14 years old, I had a really rough time and was REALLY depressed, and so I care a ton about how you're doing.
@@estherfriesen2175 first I want to say thanks so much for checking with me lol. Anyways, I’ve been researching autism, mainly trying to be sure if I really have it before I ask an adult about it. I did try to have a talk about it with my mom before, but I chickened out. I’m pretty sure I have it, but I’m always scared to ask people things because of anxiety so I’m trying to find a loophole or some way to get diagnosed without having to talk to my parents about it- of course it’s not working out but oh well
I'm 20, and I've been clinically diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 6. I always felt like there's more to that. Sure enough there is. I have depressive attacks, poor time coordination, poor social skills, very impulsive, I sometimes sound like a robot and people often get a completely different meaning when I say something vs. what I actually meant. I definitely think I might be autistic and I'm happy to finally know who I am. Hope you're safe.
@@RealEpikCartfrenYT I’m still trying to get tested, I just want closure. I wanna know more than “my Brain works differently” I wanna know how, and I want others to know. So they’ll stop yelling at me because I act strange. I still haven’t been able to get diagnosed, I have asked but they won’t listen. I guess since I’m a kid they won’t. I hope they listen and get me tested.
I don’t know if it’s my tone of voice? 🤷🏻♀️ but I made a few phone calls before this and they always sound so weird on the other end no matter a doctors office or wherever like as if I’m ending it in the most awkward way possible 😂 I should just be like my aunt. Now I know why she doesn’t even say bye and just hangs up 😂😂
I want to thank you, I enjoyed listening to you. For 15 years of my life, I worked with adults with learning difficulties. And hearing you go through the 64 items of autism brings back so many feelings and memories of the men and women I used to work with. But I also see some in myself. Thank you for sharing it in such a loving, joyful way.
I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on RUclips and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before
I am a teenager and decided to watch this video. There are many things here, the signs of which I notice in my behaviour. Thanks, it helps to understand myself.
this video has helped a lot!!!!!!!!! in the last two hours i made a google doc and paused every time you said something that i felt i related to in some way and wrote it down! just realized a lot about myself...........
I'm 64, 62 of them undiagnosed but most definitely full of traits. I was in hospital for 4 weeks in the 80s and I remember thinking that I was inordinately comfortable with institutional settings. I think if I was ever put to jail, although I don't have a criminal bone in my body, I would be happy with the routine and lack of having to make decisions for myself. Its weird but I do like settings like that. I can talk over and interrupt like a champ! Alone time is my biggest concern as I am not good at even keeping in touch with family but, as autism runs in my family they know and even share the feeling of being left alone, the one thing that doesn't fall into my need to be alone is that animals are never a problem in this way and their needs override my alone needs. The volume control goes hand in hand with the talking over and butting in, oh lord! Don't get me wrong, I am female and masked it well for most of my life, but these things, nearly every one and we're into the 40s here, are something I know to a greater or lesser extent, looking at it now, post diagnoses, I wonder why anyone thought otherwise but I'm a kid of the late 50s and we all know its a boy thing...omg I have cousins, uncles aand my late fad who were diagnosed early or were high functioning to use an old expression, but were obviously autistic. I have my doubts about my younger son too but it isn't as obvious in him as in me but theres little signs as you probably know, that lead me, knowing what I know now, to think hes probably got a touch of an ASD. Being an autistic girl, I was either off alone with my animals or had my head buried in a book, my first several birthdays I wanted encyclopedias so you can imagine, no vocabulary problems here but this may be the first one in this video! The structure of language was very much part of my second favourite thing after animals which is books and English which I have read so much, I would have to be good at so this is number two. Echolalia may be a thing, I don't do it pyt loud much but repeat things to myself when I hear them being used, I don't know but I think I used to do this out loud and got pulled up on it when I was a kid. I have all encompassing interests which I will live totally, animals, horses were the big one, then theres something about miniatures that has me filling the house with models and driving my other half crazy! Unfortunately I have had lifelong problems with sensory seeking behaviours, enough said. I think the reason I got into miniatures was to overcome my natural clumsiness, I have always had great balance, been riding horses since age 4, but I had an idea that off a horse I was pretty much a bull in a china shop so I think the fascination with tiny models was my way of getting around that feeling, which, isn't flattering in a woman lol! The bumping into doors and stuff is exactly where I get the clumsy feeling from.
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This is a tad misleading. Exhibiting some of these behaviours does not mean you ARE autistic. It means that you MAY BE autistic. I mean, I exhibit many of these behaviours, and am undiagnosed ASD - still waiting on a professional diagnosis.
But I think it is a tad irresponsible to state that these behaviours make one automatically autistic. For example, some people are just socially inept, or clumsy, and it has nothing to do with autism.
Regardless, thanks for sharing. It’s better to talk about something, than not, to raise awareness in the broader community.
Cheers,
Having ASD and ADHD combined, a lot of these traits overlap between the two.
Most things are relatable but the imaginative play or roleplaying are things I definitely don't have a problem with. Not when I need to roleplay as soon as I leave my house.
But I also have very little problems when it's a fictional world - playing video games or a tabletop game - to immerse myself in that role and actually become that character.
Well, I'm okay with figurative speech, but abstract concepts like Time and Money don't make sense to me.
people will tell me the most random things and then fall silent, so I’ll guess the reason behind the statement, and I’m always wrong and miss their point
This is me. I am having trouble getting a degree, I did well when it was just focusing on piano lessons and devoting myself to practice for exams every year while having private piano lessons and hardly attending school as a child. I am thinking of going back to that as I feel too dispersed trying to get a degree, I prefer to do just one thing. Is this my autism?