Dumper Anxiety (Podcast 288)

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  • Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024
  • Does a dumper feel anxiety after they have ended a relationship? Will this prevent them contacting the dumpee?
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Комментарии • 49

  • @vincentbos
    @vincentbos  3 года назад +2

    'GET YOUR EX BACK' Advice & Support
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    • @jtw7821
      @jtw7821 3 года назад

      meltdown not moodswing sorry

  • @genedhallinc
    @genedhallinc 2 года назад +26

    They will come back when you truly move on for your own sake. When they do, trust me, don't take them back. As soon as they get you back they'll immediately feel like they have power over you again. Even if they come to you crying and begging. Within a couple months they'll feel like if you went back to them after they dumped you, it's because they have more value than you, and you are less than. The only way to maintain your value, is tell them NO.

    • @remyd1984
      @remyd1984 Год назад +4

      I disagree because if you get them back and feel them pulling away then so should you. When you get them back you should mirror their behaviour

    • @norswil8763
      @norswil8763 6 месяцев назад +3

      You’re projecting, that might be true to you. Nothing like my situation.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 6 месяцев назад

      This can be prevented by having a probationary period where they have to earn you all over again and make it up to you in a major way so that they face consequences and will think twice to mess up again.

  • @Mari-lv1rd
    @Mari-lv1rd Год назад +2

    My Dumper did reach out several times but never opened up, would just stare at me, I got so tired I changed my number and bought a house on my own. I have never felt the same about anyone and that is my life lesson. Every love is different, not better or worse, but different. There is no substitute for honest communication.

  • @kitgin4504
    @kitgin4504 3 года назад +39

    Check your brain for anyone who would want a wounder (dumper) back. It they did it once, in time, they will do it again. Trust those of us who have been through it again and again and again. Once it’s broken, the circle is debotched. Move on quick. Recognize this is an abuser

    • @Amctothemoon
      @Amctothemoon 3 года назад +3

      Correct
      Learn from your mistakes , once it’s broken don’t try and fix it
      There are hundreds of women out there who will love you more than the one who dumped you
      Know your self worth and value ,

  • @avermaria8326
    @avermaria8326 2 года назад +4

    I will buy you coffee soon. You deserve it. Thanks

  • @j9u2
    @j9u2 4 года назад +6

    I had a session with Vincent just few minutes ago . He has different plans to fit different situations and budgets for everyone . He is amazing ! After I searched and listen to all these coaches I finally found him . He understands and he can see all different aspects in every personal situation. He is a natural problem resolver and he will create a game plan for you to achieve the happiness you are looking for , the love . Of course you have to implement his advice in your life . I feel confident, I am glad I did not do any move about my ex before contacting Vincent and before our session. I would had made a mistake if I did so .

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад

      Thank you so much Amanda, this is very kind of you to say these words. I always try my best to help people find happiness and reach their full potential.

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 4 года назад +1

      Hi thanks for letting us know, I have been listening to The Boss for a while now and I feel great faith in him.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +1

      @@inserter400 thank you very much

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 4 года назад

      I take it you want your ex back ?

    • @remyd1984
      @remyd1984 Год назад +1

      What’s your situation now mate?

  • @spiritualrituals9603
    @spiritualrituals9603 4 года назад +4

    Thanks for your lovely and inspirational words as usual Vincent.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад

      Thank you very much Seyed

  • @davidcapon1343
    @davidcapon1343 2 года назад +1

    So good. 🙏🏻
    Coffee bought. Wanted to buy you several but it only gave 1 option?
    Thank you so much

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  2 года назад

      Thank you so much for your kindness David. How are you?
      My more recent videos have a different way to 'buy me a coffee' which provides different options, but I truly appreciate what you have given, thank you

  • @goldenlifelove7251
    @goldenlifelove7251 Год назад

    I'm in group #1. I highly doubt he cares or thinks about me at all. He wanted the breakup & I'm giving him what he wants. I was so good to him & for him, but he didn't want me anymore. He discarded me like I was nothing. With that mindset, Idk how or why a dumpee would miss or think about someone they no longer want romantically.

  • @MiMi_X1
    @MiMi_X1 4 года назад +8

    I always assume they want nothing to do with me and never want to talk to me again since they leave..

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +1

      Hi Black Rose, thank you for your comment. At the time of the breakup, they no longer want to be in a romantic relationship with you. However, that is there feelings at that time. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, but doing the right things can increase the interest an ex has for you.

    • @rickcope3226
      @rickcope3226 3 года назад +1

      @@vincentbos 13 years. Seconds seems like a eternity

  • @narayanankothamangalam7031
    @narayanankothamangalam7031 4 года назад +1

    Excellent podcast Vincent! What if the dumper finds some one else during this journey of anxiety? Will dumper forget the anxiety and enter a new world of happiness and stop obsessing about the dumpee?

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +1

      Hi GKN, thank you for your question. This will all depend on the level of romantic, emotional attraction that the dumper feels for the dumpee at the moment they meet someone else. If the level is low, they will proceed to explore this new connection.

  • @PRC420
    @PRC420 3 года назад +1

    Will they be anxious when they have "monkey branched" out of the relationship?

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 года назад

      Anxiety comes from awareness. If your ex is feeling content in a new relationship, they will be less likely to feel anxious about their former partner.

  • @zetathekiller5336
    @zetathekiller5336 2 года назад

    Would you like to talk about "blueprint vs reality" reason of breakup?

  • @inserter400
    @inserter400 4 года назад +2

    Boss how can you rise the attraction if your in limited contact no contact ??

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +3

      I have just recorded that podcast for you :)
      Will be uploaded on Tuesday ;)

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 4 года назад +1

      @@vincentbos that is so kind of you boss I really appreciate all you do for us dumpees. You are a wonderful man with great advice.
      I hope that we can talk together in the near future.
      You truly are the BOSS 😄

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +1

      You are very kind Inserter, thank you. I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the video when it's uploaded.

    • @inserter400
      @inserter400 4 года назад

      Boss just seen a photo of my wife on her whatsapp and she looks absolutely stunning 😍😍😍 do you think its okay to tell her she looks stunning ? It has given me anxiety a bit. So in love with her 😒

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  4 года назад +3

      At this time Inserter, I wouldn't suggest saying this to her, no.

  • @maddena977
    @maddena977 3 года назад +5

    He still hasn't reached out yet, and its been 2 months

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 года назад +7

      Two months feels like a long, long time. But in reality, it’s still very early days. You never know what the future holds.

    • @Loveskelly-hr
      @Loveskelly-hr 2 года назад +2

      Vincent is right on this, I had an ex contact me 4 months after the breakup when I had completely lost hope of him coming back and actually moved on, he kept contacting me multiple times a year even but it was too late and didnt want him back. So hold on and maybe your ex is also just figuring out his feelings

    • @jorgeriera3337
      @jorgeriera3337 2 года назад +3

      So move on 2 months that's it put him in your past and move on.
      Remember
      You will never be right for the wrong person.

    • @maddena977
      @maddena977 2 года назад

      @@Loveskelly-hr he got into a rebound a month after the breakup

    • @maddena977
      @maddena977 2 года назад +1

      @@jorgeriera3337 and I have. I don't want him back

  • @davidvalentino1860
    @davidvalentino1860 3 года назад +3

    None of these sites make sense. They say no contact. So how does the dumper know the dumpee knows that the dumper has increased value.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 года назад

      Hi David, thank you for your comment. I have done lots of podcasts answering this very question. There are many elements as to why my version of the 'no contact rule' will increase the chance of getting your ex back. These include social proofing, social media advice, fading affect bias and more. However, I suggest you start off by learning about my version of NC and why implementing this will increase the chance of one day getting your ex back. Here is a link to a video I suggest you watch - ruclips.net/video/eDYK6qEqg4g/видео.html

    • @afrodite9801
      @afrodite9801 3 года назад +2

      exactly. You're supposed to go on and live your best life but you may never run into the dumper again so he could see or feel your vibe, and he/she may have you blocked on social media so out of sight out of mind.