The impact fathers have on their daughters | VIEWPOINT
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- Опубликовано: 7 окт 2024
- W. Bradford Wilcox and Christina Hoff Sommers discuss the many benefits of having a present and engaged father in the lives of their daughters, from better chances of success in school and professional life, to greater safety from childhood abuse.
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My biological dad was the first boy to reject me. I'll always remeber that. He was the very first boy to break my heart. I don't wish that on any girl. But on the bright side I do have a dad I love with all my heart.
very interesting comment. I'd like to know: would you say that's instilled a sense of fear inside of you, of being rejected ?
yoe91 I’d speak from my life and experience. It’s just abandonment issues are prevalent if dad reject a girl. You’ll always wonder if the next man is going to abandon you and if he does, the wound just deepens.
yoe91 I thought I wasn’t desirable because of him, when I was younger he would be very abusive. Very violent with his words and anger and also rejecting me physically, it seemed like he wasn’t happy being my father.
I am really happy for you, and even if your biological dad isn't the way you expected you have a masculine presence who love you and that is great
I know exactly how your feeling they think you don’t love them and say hurtful words and u wouldn’t do the same to them.
I remember when I was younger, I grew up hating my dad because he use to have really bad temper issues. He hasn’t lashed out at me or judged me in years since my depressive breakdown, but that never changed anything. I’m trying my best to keep him in my life, but all I want is for my significant other to treat my future children in a much better state than my dad did.
I have a close relationship with both of my daughters. With my oldest (18) it's more of a fun and often intense intellectual camaraderie, but with my youngest daughter (13) it's purely emotional. A heartstring attachment that has been there from the beginning. After the divorce three years ago, with my ex getting primary custody and moving away, visiting them became increasingly difficult. I managed a weekend about once a month. My youngest daughter was heartbroken, and soon started exhibiting signs of frustration with the situation. Her academic work suffered, she became violent towards her mother, and tried to run away several times. She became a compulsive liar and theif, and things deteriorated until she was placed in temporary inpatient care at a pediatric mental facility. She is now in outpatient care, but still goes back to the hospital quite frequently. She use to cling to me, constant phone calls, need for reassurances, wishing that she could live with me. Her mother, who has a PhD in psychology, says that her bad behavior is attributable to an Electra Complex and OCD. But I know better. She just misses having a whole family, and me there every day. I can't help but feel guilty everytime she goes back to the hospital. It breaks my heart. I'm here to tell you, a father in a daughter's life, with support and love, is absolutely essential to their development as women. Dont ever neglect them. Stay in touch even when you think they dont need you. It makes all the difference.
This is so hard to read. I'm sorry for what happened to your daughter but I'm sure that she will grow up feeling loved by you. My father gave up on me when I was 2 years old, he has been ignoring my existence for 20 years. I'm 23 now and can't have a relationship with a man because experience with my father left me feeling undesirable and undeserving of love. If he had just talked to me through the phone, told me that he loved me and cared about me... that would be enough. So even if you can't physically be with your daughters all the time, please just be sure they know that you care. It's enough they will be thankfull later. You are an amazing dad!
P.S. sorry for my english, It's not my first language
Have a good day!
@@carolinefroyd Thanks Caroline. Your English is fine. Thanks for your words. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Sometimes men have trouble relating, this changes as they get older. Contact him occasionally, it might trigger a response that builds into a relationship. Try to stay positive.
@@charlessomerset9754 Thank you, I will try to at least talk to him! 😊
God bless you
How are y'all doing now?
@charlessomerset9754
All you need to know is that a girls father is the first male in her life who she loves more than anything. Losing him has a profound impact on the rest of her life.
A loving, engaged male role model for girls offers them a reference point for what a "good man" is like. Conversely, a lack of such leaves girls to "figure it out on their own" through trial and error dating. I was raised with a stepfather who was Satan incarnate. I had no idea what a "good man" was really like until I met my husband, 21 years ago. I went through heaps of troubled men before that. Knowledge is power and this is the kind of knowledge all young children deserve.
Krissanne Cattrell I was raised without at dad for 7 years I’m 13 tomorrow I might find my dad and talk to him my mom is letting me it’s my choice my mom has a boyfriend he is coming back next week he is on a boat in Alaska or somewhere
@@julialemos7 did you talk to your father?
I hope you are okay and well❤
Can't wait to meet my daughter in just 2 months! I love you little one 🚼
jamalydude is she here yet. Congrats❤
lovelive learnlaugh she arrived on July 31st, 7lbs 10oz of joy ❤️❤️ thank you so much for asking have a great day 😊
@@jamalydude aweee I bet she's gorgeous❤❤❤.
lovelive learnlaugh she is amazing, 7 weeks now. She is starting to get animated and makes a lot of fun sounds and smiles 😍⭐️
@@jamalydude enjoy motherhood❤❤❤. It gets hard but you can do this!
I love my son, but my daughter is a piece of my life. Our connection is as one.
I'm glad my dad is my life
Immany mbn
No matter what...my little girl will always the number 1 woman in my life...nothing before you ever...respect yourself, be self sufficient and remember that you ARE perfect...you can rely on me for anything, uncondtionally I love you...
@Jacob Lowe I'll try man, thank you for those words dude...ur not a bitch for being soft for your little girl...I appreciate it my dude...patience is a test for sure tho I'll admit haha
It’s not easy being the Father of teen daughters. You spend their whole life trying to instill values and protect them but they always find a way to go against what’s expected.. Fathers are under tremendous stress and are the only group of people that do not get a pass when they have an emotional moment of weakness. If anyone other than a Father gets emotional, they are comforted and embraced.. not Fathers..
Sounds like you don’t control your emotions well
@@diggs1989 Sounds like you're not a father to teenage daughters...
I have two little girls and...awww man...in my eyes they're perfect...mom has to do all the discipline cause I can never see them doing any wrong they're perfect and always right...I've been working on it a lot cause it's not good but I just worship them...but those little girls pull my heart strings
now our son, total opposite...everything I'd a challenge, we challenge each other and butt heads constantly, I accuse my wife of babying him and making him soft (again I've been working on it and trying to do better)...that said the FUN I have with my son is something I never have with my girls...wrestling, going to sporting events, the things I teach him about life and the way he looks to me like I have all the answers (I mean I don't know shit, but in his eyes I'm the one that knows it all)...it's a totally different feeling but both amazing
Keep in mind In turn u are babying the girls n don't see their wrongs but see the boys. Please try hard to find something in common n make the father son relationship with. At the end of the day they r all YOUR children. 🙏💖
Both of my parents are emotionally distant. I rarely talk to either of them my whole life.
That's sad, and I know it's sad because I'm in that situation, although, imma try be social with them because I'm appreciating life more
You know that feeling that you have a dad but you don't have a dad? same
I have a close relationship with my biological father. He's a great husband too. I'm 30, full time career, a loving husband and our first child on the way. I'd say my success is part of his influence.
A daughter who has ZERO respect for her father has good reason for it. I've been watching closely trying to weigh both sides. Now I see exactly what and why the disrespect displayed is warranted. A man who has been nothing but a lifelong drug abuser and has zero ambition of his own but tries to put on a show behind the scenes has earned no respect!
BOTTOM LINE. A MANS WORK HISTORY SAYS A LOT AND WHEN HE HAS LITTLE TO NO REASON TO ACT HAS IF HE HAS SOMETHING OVER ON YOU WHILE HE SAYS AND DOES DEVIOUS SHIT. THIS WILL AND CAN CAUSE YOUR DAUGHTER TO CONTINUE TO TELL HER FATHER TO GET HIS HEAD OUT OF HIS ASS AND ACT LIKE A DECENT MAN/HUMAN BEING
I have no respect on my father... because he cheats on my mother
Mr.WoRlDwIdeHaNdSoMe KimSeOkJiN hey, same here, I just found out a few hours ago. I'm honestly broken.
Ayoo 🤧😭😭 i honestly dont know how to face him now it has been 2 days after i found out and im still in my room crying i really don't know if i can get over it especially my mom
Your father and mother's bedroom business is none of your business.... His relationship with her has nothing to do with you.... Coming from a female..
Face Reality lol wtf
@@Face_Reality when you have a family it becomes everyone's buisness. you comment is so stupid and so is this boys father.
My father rejected me when i was a baby, all because i was born with health issues, and i was an ugly baby. When my 3 sisters were born, my fathr. Contiuned ignored me, so I've got used to being invisible. He is a stranger to me.
What he talked about the teen girls getting pregnant is I think that they just want to feel the love and touch of a man ,that will cherish them and will be present for them .but sometimes unfortunately they misunderstand or say mis feels that love with the touch of man if the man is good they win the lottery but if the misfortune plays it's cards it takes their lives on a very difficult path. So I request dads, future dads, brothers ,boy friends , watching the video please cherish her present in your life . It's a once in millennium a girl's simple brightens your life
You love them? Teach them to fight. I mean down and dirty. Teach them to fight for their lives. Teach them there is no right or wrong in fighting. There's only living or dieing.
If this is true that daughters need their fathers to provide these things early on, so that they don't get manipulated and taking advantage of for benefits... WHY do so many people blame and judge the women that make very poor relationship choices and get taking easy.... WHO have not had these same luxuries and protection, guidance and molding growing up?? They usually tell her " well you could have said no" or " it takes 2 to tango". If you and other men are admitting that a father is needed to prevent this from happening, it is very weird that people would blame the women that never had this and not consider this
Make dad's have right's again!
not just in the US in case someone is wondering lol this applies everywhere
WOW
My father molested me. Do you think that's a good father?
MS. FIRE that's not a good father.
Of course. I wish my father mole lessed me. I have so many moles and freckles it's annoying
Face Reality not even funny
This is all a lie. No daughter needs more from her dad than from her mom.
someone pls elaborate on the professional life impact?
They do better in terms of career. Higher positions, more money- ambition to be successful etc
@@tomislav2388 so basically if a woman didn't have her father around she'll be lazy and unmotivated/unsuccessful? Wouldn't you say that's an unfair and subjective statement? Why does/should the dad hold that much influence in those domains?
Cherry Cola its not true in every case of course. Gotta check the studies who claim that. Or just look around your female friends and their relationship to their dad and how well/bad the do in their professional life, maybe u will find similarities...
Christina is a Smart Beautiful Lady. But I can't figure out why she is a liberal.
I think it might be because she is a "classic liberal" than an insane progressive. Unfortunately, the latter have taken over the Democratic party.
She's need to run for president
if she's talking about masculine and feminine roles there's no reason a man and a woman would necessarily fulfill them, although it's generally likely, I also don't see an reason why two gay people could not fulfill those roles. And the fact is people are doing there best, we cant all come up in ideal circumstances
true. my boss is lesbian and her spouse just broke up with her. they have a young daughter and son. my sister is with a new guy and t hey just had a daughter and son by her first mate. smh. i pray the best for him but in a few years things will change i know it.!
Guys are reprobate ! Watch sodomite deception on you tube!!
Fathers shape the way their child/ren see love and how they will allow others to treat them in their relationships to come. Unfortunately, because of separation abuse, their rights are jeopardized.