You do realize that this is 10 times harder for someone in a wheelchair? They'd have to rearrange entire restaurant sections to get my chair through, but I find a way around it without disrupting others. We do our best to find accessible places. Not every place CAN be made accessible. However when I have to leave my chair outside a bathroom stall and crawl on a bathroom floor because someone able bodied is using the wheelchair stall...that's when I get mad. You can't exactly equate disability with obesity
You are right they are not the same however we would both go through similar situations as at that moment in time neither of us could change the fact that there is not space for us when basic human decency says that there should be.
Wow, the part about having to crawl on a dirty ass bathroom floor... Really gave me a new perspective. Won't be using that restroom anymore that thought makes me feel sick. Sorry you had to go through that and probably much more
@@daniellemcallister If society were built to accommodate as many bodies as possible, we would not require people to justify their use of an accessible bathroom stall or create an "us vs them" attitude due to scarcity. Since the problem is the scarcity of accessible spaces, all of us can win by working together to campaign for spaces that are universally accessible. Until then, those who don't need to use an accessible space should not use it, and those who do should not judge someone who does, just because their difficulty with movement or other issue is not immediately visible.
i never used the disability restrooms. my mother has type 1 diabetes and uses a walker. its really problematic for her when she needs to pee bad and the disabled restroom is taken.
This isn’t really by business but not all disabilities are visible in some uncommon situations someone may need the accessible stall even if they look ok. Eg they might need more space to fix a colostomy bag or might need to use the bar for balance
I thought this was going to be funny because I thought I could maybe relate to these things,I’m no where near being morbidly obese, I weigh 200 lbs and in the process of losing weight, but no, these were not funny. These were sad. This was a huge motivator to lose weight and keep at it...
I've got a Thyroid condition, work full time, go to school full time, have a wife and children. Losing weight for me is difficult because of the Thyroid issue but damn....I would never let it get this bad. Is it messed up that I watch this from time to time to keep me motivated to keep eating healthy and working out?
tara williams I weight 226 and damn I feel like I can hardly breath and it my country We’ve been in quarantine for since jan so I gained 26 pounds during this time and 54 pounds in total the past year only bc of environmental changes and I feel like I can’t freakin breath anymore last year I used to be a pro dancer and I went to school I’m only 17🙁this is getting out of hand and idk what to do
Parmida Safari Just taking a stab in the dark but it sounds like you’re not getting nearly as much exercise as you used to. Lots of people gain considerable weight when their lifestyle changes in a significant way like that. If your diet has changed too it will happen even quicker. The good news is, at your age it will be fairly easy to make the change. Incorporate movement into your day in as many ways as possible despite being stuck at home and stick to as many fresh whole foods as possible and avoid processed stuff. If you do that consistently the weight will come off.
My dad is obese and I can say this with honesty and experience.. Weight is a curse not only for the person carrying it but for family members who have to look after them when they get immobile. Sad very sad 😢
I'm with you. My grandma was very obese and had to live with my dad when she lost mobility. My dad did a bad job taking care of her, learned nothing, and is following the same horrible path. Walking from the car to the house makes him wheeze. It is really upsetting. No one wants to see their family or friend disable himself from refusing to move and stuffing trash in his face.
ripleyjenjen it's very sad to watch.. and hard to deal with. My dad can't see the pain he has put us through. One thing it has taught me is to exercise most days and limit the crap I eat. I hope ur dad opens his eyes soon and changes xx
That is very upsetting, my heart goes out to you. And the mean thing to say, is stop bringing him his food, make him at least get up to get his own food. But that is mean, and not realistic. Taking care of someone like this, is out of my realm of realities as in, I have never been there or done that. Love him as long as you have him, and Take care of you too, Take care of your heart, and know that people out there have compassion for you and your father, who has come to this stage in life. As someone with chronic illness, I can say for sure I have days and even weeks where walking is a chore for me, feet aching, muscle cramping, and the list goes on, but what I do have, is children that love me. That makes my days worth getting up for. I do not know why he has done this to himself, my gut says like the hoarders issue, it is tied to some emotional trauma's from his past, and has colored his relationship with food in general, I hope you find him some sort of treatment, and for yourself as well while dealing with this. I know my cousin had massive relationship issues with food, on account of dieting her whole life, she finally did it, lost the weight, it killed her, but she died skinny.
kim lightfoot “It killed her, but she died skinny.” Are you fucking serious!?! Gtfoh with that shit. Not all fat people are unhealthy and not all skinny people are healthy. I am technically obese according to the charts but most people my age would love to have blood sugar & pressure numbers like mine. Yes, there is a higher incidence of of type 2 diabetes and heart disease in overweight people but it only increases the likelihood by about a third. This means 2/3 fat people are just as healthy as anyone else. (Does it make you angry that you don’t get to look down on me for your imagined superiority?) I am truly sorry about the situation in the family of the OP but it is very harmful to draw broad generalizations from a personal anecdote, for you and those you interact with.
@@CitizenWorm you seem angry and bitter, lose the weight if it bothers you that much. Its ok if you want to stay obese I guess, your choice but that lie y'all tell about being healthy and obese need to stop. No one is buying it, just the act of having so much extra weigt strains the body.🙄
I know this is a bit of an older video but I just had to comment. I used to be overweight (260lbs) for the majority of my teenage years and now I'm a healthy 155lbs (I'm 6ft 1", BMI: 20.5kg/m2) and I totally feel every single thing you say. Even when I lost the weight I was still worrying about these things because it takes so much time for your brain to catch up and I have to admit even though it's been about 10 years, I still think of myself as 'the fat one'. I thought that as I lost weight I would suddenly be happy and have all these magnificent things in life, but it doesn't work like that. I also suffered with anorexia during my weight loss, I was 77lbs at one point and fighting for my life, and as someone who has literally been every weight under the sun I can tell you - people will find ways to bring you down no matter what. I was bullied when I was underweight and overweight. When I was underweight people used to physically throw food at me and tell me to 'eat it you skinny b*&"h', It made me realise people will just find something to bring you down because they're so insecure themselves. It also taught me that you gotta learn to love yourself NO MATTER WHAT. You gotta be happy in yourself and learn to appreciate and value all the good things about you. If anyone ever wants to lose weight then do it for the right reasons - because you're concerned about health or you want to be able to do a certain sport or gain a bit more fitness, but don't expect it to be the key to happiness. Thank you for this video. Funnily enough I now work as a dietitian and help people of all shapes and sizes to achieve their goals and help with their health!
iamviccckkk I also used to be 260lbs, I'm now at 240lbs (5'10") and still losing. Do you have lose skin to deal with? That's what I'm scared of getting.
Hey there. I don't have that much to be honest. I have some stretch marks on my stomach and upper arms where I've lost the weight. My stomach definitely has the most loose skin and it's noticeable when I bend over as it hangs differently, but it's worth it. I was 16-17 when I lost the weight (im now 26) so I think the younger you lose the weight the better as your skin looses elasticity with age. Loose skin is definitely a side effect I was worried about but at the end of the day, it's worth it. I gained my health, find it easier to participate in exercise, 'blend in' as a normal weight, have more clothing choice, and lost those worries that go with being overweight. A bit of loose skin is nothing compared to having all of those. Also I'm now working on gaining muscle which always helps loose skin to look a bit better. Also congratulations on your progress so far! That's an awesome achievement and you should be damn proud! xx
I had the same. People followed me in a mall talking about how disgusting I was when I was sick, I had CPS called on me because I was orthostatic, I had invasive, detrimental treatments... it was terrible. Now I’m “average” and I still see grotesque.
I'm considered a small person and I can barely fit inside US stalls! I can't even begin to imagine the struggle that whole situation is for people bigger than me. It sometimes seems like an impossibility 🙁
I'm swiss (europe), so our standard size is smaller than the american one. I work part-time as a cashier (i am a student) and the second boss (like one step below the actual boss? She is the boss when the boss isn't around) is very overweight by our standards. But everyone takes her serious as fuck. She has skills and she does her job. Even though she is obese, she walks around all day, lifts boxes around, etc. If she can land that job in a country with thinner people, then so can you. Just do your job and prove them all wrong
@White Pride you're not gonna lose all of that weight within days. My comment was to help overweight people get the confidence to go to that interview and get that job. People take you seriously when you shine confidence and do your job properly. If losing weight gives you confidence, great. But this will take time Also, why are you talking in "you" form? I was not talking about myself.
My aunt is super morbidly obese. She is 5 foot two and about 400 pounds. She is also run a homeless/women shelter since 1990. She is extremely respected in her field. Yes, she has the physical problems of an obese person and it sucks that she has to live her life feeling like she’s trapped in a suit she can’t remove, but it has not stopped her from having a career, a family, friends, laughter, good times and a boyfriend.
Don't feel bad about breaking your bed, i broke my bed and I'm around 130lbs, the boards that support my mattress literally snapped in half when I sat on my bed one night, so it's probably just a manufacturing issue
Danielle McAllister girl I’m 160 lbs (5’11 and male) and broke my bfs bed, broken seats. I hate bar seats too. They’re uncomfortable for everyone Also I look like an idiot trying to get onto a bar stool, I look like a child lmao
Ohmy, more like problem of morbidly obese people. People who are just "fat" - meaning overweight, don't have these struggles. Anway, that's hard and sad.
Worms ! That’s the difference. Being a little overweight doesn’t leave you with these problems and I can say as someone who has gained and lost hundreds of pounds, 300lbs is the usual cut off for most folx however, it also must be taken in to account that if a person has well developed muscle underneath a thick layer of fat they will weigh much more since muscle weighs more than fat. That is a factor that throws off any estimate like this.
i dont have these problems because im in the process of losing weight and have never been over 270, im now 235 and i keep working at it. if you dont want to have those problems then you really need to lose weight, you can do it if you really tried
wingedguardian Please, every overweight person I know, including myself, have tried every diet imaginable as well as some crazy unheard of things. I am sure this young lady has too.
I can't imagine 270 pound exempting you from these problems at that size I had all these problems, I have noticed this new trend where as under 300 not being classed as morbidly obese anymore when it really is I could barely function normally at that weight
I have the utter most respect for you, because you’re not blaming everything and everyone for your own weight. You’re simply addressing problems the typical “fat person” goes through. I love it:)
I am 209 pounds, and think I am fatter then anyone else around and have such bad self esteem issues. I clicked on this thinking I would relate but I cannot relate to any of these - i'm shocked and this has opened my eyes. I know I will be much easier on others as I don't know their struggle
Hey I know I’m commenting three years later, but I have a friend who is overweight. She is 5 foot nine and about 200 pounds so bigger but not morbidly super obese. Whenever a group of girls would get together and go shopping she would always not want to go. I found out later it’s because she felt like she was the biggest one out of all of us, And didn’t want to drag everybody to the plus size store when we were shopping. The thing is all of us never really thought about it and she was too embarrassed to say something. Honestly, we would’ve had no problem going into those stores with her but she was super self-conscious about it.
I JUST watched a video of you stating that you were "perfectly happy in your current life ". This video was nothing but you complaining about why the world doesn't accommodate YOU. Take some accountability for you life. Your actions gave caused your life to be uncomfortable. Do something before you can't get out of bed. Then you will be really uncomfortable.
I was normal weight my whole life and after a prolonged health crisis with 20+ surgeries, I ballooned up to 275 and was also addicted to opioids from having surgeries back to back for so long. A doctor's report of fatty liver disease scared me into a change of lifestyle. I'm now at 175 eight months later and opioid clean. I eat a single serving of unsweetened oatmeal with berries for breakfast, a low carb protein shake for lunch (really fills you up), for dinner I eat any piece of lean broiled meat (size of a deck of cards) and 2 cups of low carb vegetables. And one of the following dairy snack- 2 pieces of string cheese, low carb yogurt, or 1/2c low fat cottage cheese. Once a month I allow a cheat meal eaten in moderation. Every morning before I eat, I do 20 minutes of cardio. Zumba, aerobics, etc from videos here on YT. Even if I couldn't do the moves, I tried and just moved until I could. Basically low carb, low calorie, low fat combined. It can be done without surgery. Everyone has a boiling point. Listen to it. The top 10 things I hated about being obese was: 1) hating myself/depression 2) being constantly judged by others 3) PAIN! My body hurt being fat! 4) buying huge and ugly clothes 5) not fitting into seats 6) feeling handicapped, unable to walk around places like the zoo, etc 7) difficulty shaving my legs, showering 8) not being able to wear high heels and wedges 9) sweating, thigh rub, belly hanging moisture, breasts hanging moisture 10) inability to wipe backside without huge efforts!!
I appreciate what you’re talking about and I think it’s cool you made this video, but I do have to say (not trying to say it in a mean way) I don’t think it’s fair to talk about being in a crowd and how it bothers you that people don’t just move over more for you. I don’t think you should be annoyed that people aren’t catering to you just because you’re overweight and you think they should. In reality, being overweight is something you could change so I wouldn’t expect others around you to be understanding in situations like that.
All I am asking for is a little common decency. I am not asking someone to change their whole life for me, just move a few extra inches if they can. They can go right back to where they were once I pass by. Besides do you thing that person will appreciate my ass rubbing on their head as I squeeze by because they didn't move a little more, no probably not.
Danielle McAllister I understand that. And I understand where you’re coming from, as I’m overweight too. I just wanted to put my opinion out there. Like I said, not trying to say it in a mean way. And I do appreciate that you made this video 👍🏻
You could make a two hour documentary about point #6. Also, that's a fascinating observation about how people don't want to accidentally bump against a fat person because they might catch their fatness.
Why complain? These are facts. You can change things by losing a bit of weight. You don't have to go nuts. If you like being bigger just compromise. Accept reality.
She isn't complaining, she is sharing her experiences so that other people having that same struggle can relate. Why do you automatically go with "lose weight and it won't be an issue"? Can fellow fat people just share their experiences with each other without the CONSTANT NAGGING NEGATIVITY? If you don't like fat people then DON'T WATCH THE VIDEO and comment with some snide ass comments. We know we are fat and need to lose weight, but in the mean time these are things we deal with on a regular basis. THAT IS ALL SHE IS SAYING.
Amber Adair She was explaining her problems which is kinda complaining. Either way, making RUclips videos about fat people problems and her own won’t help fix them
@@pinkdolly7533 As I stated as well, if you don't like fat people maybe don't watch the video instead of being a negative jerk. RUclips is a place for everyone not just super perfect healthy people. So don't be rude.
Amber Adair I never mentioned anything about disliking fat people. *You* are the one being a “negative jerk”. You do not have a valid point in your comment AT ALL. I am saying that her complaining about fat people problems on RUclips to other fat people won’t make the problems any easier. And your defense is that you think I hate fat people when I’m just stating facts.
pink dolly The point of this video, as explained in the comment you replied to, is to share her experience with others who have the same issue. This isn’t a video about lobbying to make all chairs wider or to make all bar stools the perfect fit for anyone who is 5’9” and over 300lbs. so your comment is apropos of nothing.
Another struggle fat people have to deal with (or at least some fat people...I wish it were less of us) is constantly worrying about what people will think about what you are eating in public, or what food you buy at the store or at a restaurant. Especially when I was younger (but still struggle with to a certain degree), I would constantly worry about what people would think about me, specifically about what I would order. So say I went out to eat with some friends and acquaintances; I would look at the menu first for something I would like to eat, and then temper that with how badly people would think of me. Some times I would order something completely different based solely on how I thought people would judge me. In my head it would be like, "Oh my gosh, I can't believe that fat girl is ordering a burger/pizza/pasta. She should barely be eating salad, much less that junk food." I absolutely realize that this is totally in my own head, but based on past experience it seemed logical to avoid that kind of scrutiny if possible. Or feeling like people are judging you when you go clothes shopping. If I strayed too far from the exclusively REALLY fat people area, I would feel like people were looking at me thinking, "Girl you know you can't wear these clothes. Get your fat ass back to your corner." I used to LOVE going clothes shopping. And then when things stopped fitting no matter where I went, and getting the evil eye from people at stores because I would go in with a mountain to try on and only buy one or two things, if at all, I just started buying clothes online. I just bought a sewing machine to start learning how to make my own clothes, because dang it I want to look good and not have to deal with a mountain of judgement and shame to shop for my clothes. I turn 30 this year and I finally bought myself the leather biker jacket I've wanted for the past 10 or 12 years. No one is going to keep me down anymore. :) I love your channel already!
I never used to pay attention to anyone else while I was eating out. I lived in my own little bubble where I ate what I wanted and where I wanted. But then a “friend” started talking behind my back saying how she felt judged for eating with me and was disgusted by watching me eat and she was sure others were disgusted by it too. At that point I stopped being her friend but it put that idea in my head and kind of messed me up for a while and still gives me trouble sometimes now. Especially if I notice someone looking at me for an extended period of time. As for the clothes... we have like 3 places to shop for plus sizes in Canada. Pennington’s is the only one that carries my size in store and it’s not in a mall so there is no judge looks there. Only people who are all in the same boat and their very bored men who look like they could use a nap. I have been in stores that only sell regular sizes and been holding clothes for my friends while they shop and this being Canada the sales people are too nice to ignore me and they ask if I want to try something on. And I laugh. Like really hard and say no thanks. We all go through this stuff but if you can get past it and still live your life then you are winning in the end.
lol I have faced the same issue with being with a friend and holding clothes for her and the lady asking me if I want to try something on. lol I thought it was cute and nice of them to treat me just like all the others in the store haha! She must have known I could not fit into anything in that store though lol! I am also a photographer so i go to the smaller stores to look around for clothes for my models and definitely get some looks.
But those are your own insecurities. You're not satisfied with your appearance, so this causes your anxiety when eating in front of others. I'm sure most people don't give a shit because they're too busy eating their own food.
I don't really pay attention to what people are eating because I do not care and I am too self absorbed to even pay attention to what strangers are eating and how big their portions are and what size they are and if they are ordering more food for themselves but I admit at one time I may have been judgmental when I worked in a building and the reason why I noticed what this one lady ate was because part of my job was to empty out wastebaskets. In her wastebasket was always fast food bags and wrappers and TV dinners and candy wrappers so it was hard for me to not think "No wonder she is fat." This was what she ate most of the time in her office. Even as a skinny person, that stuff would not be found in my trash often. Both my ex boyfriends were fat and I did notice what they ate because I was with them and they always had huge portions, big enough that would be three servings. Like my ex would cook pasta and he would eat it out of a mixing bowl that would be enough to feed three or four tummies. To them, I barely ate anything because of how small my portions were. I actually made my husband eat less because I was concerned about cost of groceries and he lost weight. Both my parents are overweight and they don't eat much either. My in laws are fat and don't eat much either. I know because we live together and none of them eat much. My dad doesn't even look overweight with clothes on. But I never thought about what people would be thinking of my ex whenever we ate out. I just don't think people pay attention to even care what you are eating. Only people who would notice are your friends or partner and whoever you are eating with. People are too busy with their own activity to even pay attention to what strangers are eating.
robyn mcnear I would hope you would be understanding enough to know that some things aren’t as easy as that. Many things can make you gain wait. For me one was depression medication. Should I just stop taking something that helps me so much to loose weight? NAH SON!
Yes but not that drastically and also you can maintain a decent weight if you excersize and eat well while taking the meds. Also not shoving shit in ur mouth when the depression is really bad
TeresaMarie I‘m really sick too. My thyroid isn‘t working so I‘m gaining weight and have to take medicine. We have chronical stomach issues in our family and most died of cancer because of it. Our digestion isn‘t even really working and I‘m not fat. I have to count calories and do sports. And my appetite is always a real problem because my stomach thinks I didn‘t eat. Medicine isn‘t an excuse. Yes, you gain weight more easily, but you still have to eat more calories than you need to gain weight, even on medicine. Maybe you should inform yourself about that, because nobody could gain weight more easily than I do. And if I can stay thin, everyone can.
robyn mcnear It's not that simple. For some there are deep mental health issues that can attribute to the weight. Yes I agree that something can be done to help/fix. But it isn't going to happen overnight
Omg i laughed so hard. "Bar stools are so slippery", I just remembered when I wore new workout leggings, which are often from a very slick material and i literally slipped off the bar stool! :D
I remember years after highschool this younger guy was laughing and bragging about how he tormented one girl into becoming anorexic. Ifhis 20 or so friends weren't standing there laughing with him I would have liked to talk to him and see what was going on in his life that was a motivator for such a thing. Anyway...you can't do anything about assholes but you can do things about yourself.
That was interesting and quite relatable. I am smaller than you (a bit below 200 lbs, dress size UK18), but still in the plus size category and lot of these struggles are mine too. It's super annoying when people tell me to "not be fat." Like, even if I want to do it, losing weight for a larger person is a very long process, what are we supposed to do until we reduce: stay locked up in our bedrooms so that other people don't have to suffer the minor inconvenience of having to move over extra 3 inches? And if so, how are we supposed to lose weight then? Weight loss requires exercise, visiting doctors, buying specialised groceries etc. WE HAVE TO BE OUT AND ABOUT TO ACHIEVE IT. Sorry to hear you're being discriminated against for being plus size, I hope that building your own business does it for you.
You made a really good point at around 4:50. About being already fat and not being able to change it in that moment. So why keep complaining? The chair shouldn’t get bigger but you should work towards bettering yourself if it’s such an issue instead of trying to put the blame on everything around you. I myself am fat and don’t struggle with the same things you described but struggled internally so that’s why I am working towards loosing weight because I finally decided to take account for myself and my health. I suggest you doing the same if you want the struggles to go away.
Actually, if most of the USA is morbidly obese then yes, stores, restaurants, bars etc should consider MOST of their customers will likely be of a larger size and shouldn't buy seating that may actually break. I'm not saying cater to fat people (I'm fat btw) I'm saying having seating unusable to most of your customers is going to lessen your business by those fat people you're alienating by those flimsy chairs. I do think fat people should be able to enjoy being out in public without the worry of things thinner people take for granted. And let's just remember not ALL fat people get fat by eating too much or being too lazy. Many fat people end up that way from prescription medication that literally has a side effect of causing weight gain, thyroid disorders, lack of mobility due to injuries, and let's not forget a huge contributing factor - the lack of education giving the children about nutrients/healthy foods. In all honesty, I never looked at a food label till I was around 20 years old. I was never taught calories in and calories out or how a balanced diet looked. I was told to eat healthily and to exercise. I was around 170 pounds 11th and 12th grade of high school and jogged every night between using the weight room in school plus doing 1.5 miles and calisthenics twice a week for my study in Criminal Justice at a trade school and I never lost an ounce, in fact, I gained!!! I was out eating my exercise which is insane. I could never understand why I kept gaining with all the moving I was doing. I seriously think we need better education on healthy eating.
Mission Betterment we dont take anything for granted I have a thyroid disorder but still work my ass of to stay lean theres no excuses to be morbidly obese
Danny Shoshani there's levels of functioning when it comes to thyroid issues. I have hypothyroidism and it does cause weight gain and makes it difficult to lose weight. The thyroid makes a certain hormone which makes it possible for your body to make another hormone...which aids in weight loss. Look it up...it's 100% legit. Very low working thyroids cans and do result in obesity and the science behind it proves you wrong.
I saw a woman once in a restaurant sit down in a chair and it collapsed underneath her. She was also quite overweight, and I felt so bad for her. The humiliation was so obvious in her face. I never thought about shoes or purse straps. This is interesting.
Yes omfg. All of it is yes. I only get cross body bags. I’ve stood the entire time at places because I didn’t want to break the chair. When I was a teenager I broke 2 different bed frames and after that I refused to have my bed on one. My mattress has a dent in it and it’s so uncomfortable. I’ve heard my entire life and seen on shows and such that fat people have to be the funny one. That’s the only way people will like them. I’m not that funny, I tend to be more sarcastic. But I’m a good person and I shouldn’t have to try so hard for people to like me just because I’m fat. I have social anxiety and have my entire life. I’m scared to talk to people and it’s mainly because my size. I’m so scared that they won’t want to talk to me because of it. Nobody should feel that way. And I’m so tired of hearing to just lose weight. Yes I’m fat and I should lose weight TO BE HEALTHY. Not to be liked. I’ve gotten a lot better with my self confidence and not letting my size stop me from things but there will always be that part of you that makes your stomach drop when someone makes a comment on your weight.
The worst thing EVER is when you go to the doctor and they give you a paper gown that looks like a dinner napkin. I even asked this one doctor if they had a plus size gown or anything else and the answer was no. Well then don't get pissed when I keep my clothes on and just remove enough of the area the doctor needs to look at and cover it with the napkin. Ridiculous and humiliating like we are not people and don't require some dignity!!!
You have me laughing, in the best way possible. I just had a good night turn sour after having a group of kids make fun of me as though being fat means I am hard of hearing, so coming on here and finding your video where you articulate everything I deal with on a daily basis was refreshing. I don't have many plus size friends either, so it's just nice to hear someone else going through what I've gone through my entire life. You're just awesome and thanks for getting me out of my funk.
Well I am happy I could help. Kids are cruel and have no filter. What gets me is the adults who say things when they should know better. I don’t have a lot of plus size friends either and it is really nice to connect with other women like me. 🤩
i feel like if more overweight people would speak up in those situations then the kids or whoever it may be would think twice the next time they wanted to make fun of someone. i know its hard sometimes but for me after dealing with it for 36 years i have no problem telling someone to shut the fuck up and worry about themselves or to go see a dentist or get off the dope, or how about you go take a shower, scumbag. lol. just turn the situation around, dont let assholes affect your feelings forever. kids need to learn early not to bully others, maybe if you "accidentally" spilled a drink on them theyd learn not to talk shit. lol :)
crystal6381 hehe YES! I’ve dealt with this stuff for 30 years now since I was bigger from the time I was 7 months old, but I think I’m only just now feeling like I can speak up for myself in the moment. Your comment made my day though with all those cracks LOL.
It's all so embarrassing.. I am so embarrassed being fat.. Other than health reasons, all the problems you mentioned in this video (and more) are what pushed me to start being healthy and losing weight.. I am making positive changes..
I have been overweight for 6 years and 2 years of them were spent being obese. Last July I started losing weight and went from 250+ lbs to 180s. Still overweight... So here is my point; overweight people really have it very hard. My heart is with you, sister ♡ Just a friendly side note (please please don't get me wrong 😟) . If you don't have any medical issues that prevent you from losing weight, please try to drop below 200 lbs and you'll feel so much better. If you want help, I can help you and I am always here for you sister. You are lovely and amazing.
This isn’t coming from hate. I m fat myself and I used to complain about stuff like this. But I realized being fat isn’t healthy. It is hard to lose weight but you can do it. Your hard working and if you put your mind to it you can do it. It’s going to take awhile. Yeah people suck and the stereotypes suck. But instead of getting upset about it and try to make people change for the few that are over 300 pounds. Change yourself. That’s what I learned. Have a great day.
Shannon Flynn sounds good but u know it doeant work like that and its not easy...but u r right u cant change peoples opinions, and if u dont like it change it...
Priscilla Johnson I wasn’t trying to make it sound it easy. If it came across that way I m sorry. That point that I was trying to make. You can’t make someone change. It’s easier to change yourself and better yourself then others. Its not easy to change but if you want to you can.
Shannon Flynn no reason to be sorry...just wanted to say that because its not easy to change....but a person should change because they want to, not to change society perception by fitting in with the "in" crowd😊...
This is a great conversation. I don't really want to change others I would just like people to recognize that not everyone is the same size as them and circumstances for everyone can be different. I want to open people's mind to other view points. But it should be noted it is not my responsibility to change for others it is my responsibility to change for myself if I want to.
I don’t mean this to sound offensive but have you ever tried buying shoes from a drag company. They are mens shoes but theyd have heels and dress shoes and pretty designs. Theyd be custom and wide and have your size.
Hey I won't knock the suggestion. They have some fabulous shoes. I mean seriously they are called queens for a reason. Tend to have some straight sweet style!
I burst out laughing at the image in my head when you said you ended up with a purse at your armpit because the strap was too short. I always have that same problem, and it's a nightmare when going purse shopping! Girl, you are not alone in your purse struggles.
Look, I get that there are struggles of being fat. But that does not meen that companies have to accommodate to your needs. Companies don’t need to make their beds stronger so that it doesn’t break when a fat person sleeps in it. If all these struggles really make a huge difference in you quality of life, you need to try to lose weight
I know this is an old video, but I wanted to tell you that I struggle with these problems too. I was scrolling through the comments and saw how many hate/mean comments and I just wanted to let you know that I relate to this video so much and we’re not inherently bad for being fat (I know you probably already know this)... basically I just wanted to add some positivity to the majority of negative comments. ♥️
My 2 cents is i don't expect people to b polite because most people are so wrapped up in their own shit they don't notice much outside themselves but if I saw a bigger person want to sit next to me on a bus or train whatever I would move over if they looked like they were trying to sit next to me but with my own anxiety I would also think is that insulting to them do they think I'm moving over because I think they smell do they think I don't want them to touch me and then might freeze on the spot and not move because I wouldn't want to accidentally hurt their feelings and then at the same time feel like shit cuz I didn't move when they needed space so point is not everything is to b insulting cuz they just might not know what to do or even notice you needed more space so you elbowing strangers is mean because just like they don't know what your going threw you don't know what they are going threw and intentionally hurting or shoving with your body isn't ok its quite selfish this video was quite a while ago so I hope you have gained maturity in that time
I love how unapologetic you are about everything. I'm also fat and I always apologize for all of those things you listed. I don't know how you do it. Great video. Thank you for making it. And I know there's already so many rude people in the comments about everything,please don't mind them,you helped me today and thank you for it 💕
Danielle McAllister of course you shouldn't apologize for it. I do and I'm trying to quit doing that cause there's nothing wrong with me,but it's quite hard :'( thank you so much for replying,I totally didn't expect you to 😍
look, i used to be 220, which isn’t as much as you but i was morbidly obese and i’m only 5’3. i used to make similar statements, but it’s not just about the looks of being pretty. it’s getting out of breath easily, can’t walk as fast as my other friends, not having clothes fit me. i’m now 170 and weight loss is the best decision of my life. i feel so much happier and HEALTHIER. even when i was big i had a blood test done and said everything was “normal.” but now i actually FEEL it. i’m still not done, but getting compliments and seeing your body transform is amazing. i hope you change your mind in the future.
4:40 Are you trying to loose weight, tho? Like are you actively trying to loose weight? It's doable you know. I used to weigh around 170 pounds, and now i'm down to 110 pounds
WimpyBlook She’s clearly a lot more than 170. Exercising at 210+ pounds is harder than it is at 170. Of course it’s achievable but you shouldn’t assume something is easy for somebody else because it was easy for you.
Nicole Samuel it wasn't easy at all, I just said it was achievable. I worked hard for months and months, and for her it'll probably take years, but it's still achievable. Yes it's hard working out when you're fat, therefore she should probably start by eating healthy. It's hard, but doing it just depends on how much you want it
Sounds easier to just lose weight prob makes your life easier ...People should not have to cater to your choice of being obese that is ur choice to be 400lbs
no its not. being overwieght is not just bc you dont eat healthy and you dont work out. sometimes its bc of genetics, or your body just constantly gains weight, ect. so no, its probably not her ''choice''.
Hélène Rashidi it absolutely is your choice, although it is harder to lose weight than others. Their are medical reasons for gaining weight but you can choose to put effort into fixing it. Your “genetics” is simply a excuse for not wanting to get in shape.
Haylee Cossette you may want to seek medical help if you have that hard of a time losing weight. I had a very hard time with my weight, but I ended up having something wrong with my thyroid, that threw off my hormones making me unable to lose weight. I can’t eat gluten because of this.
It 100% is a choice. Being this fat is not natural, it is absolutely a choice. Their choices led them to this point. They may not have sought out to be obese, but their choices brought them to be obese. So yes, it is a choice.
random note, do you have an etsy store that you make things? i'm going to start an size/mobility inclusive store pretty soon. I just put it aside for the holidays and personal what not. if you were going to get a cross body purse, how long (in inches) would you like the strap to be and what size dimensions do you think would look good in proportion to your size? I can let you know when I have new purses made that are more size inclusive. I upcycle/repurpose scrap materials so it's environmentally friendly as well as inclusive. thanks =)
This is called self sabotage, if you cant fit into an airplane seat that's an issue, if you break a bed after a week... I feel like that's you're own problem...
The crowded elevator thing is so true. I lived in an apartment building for a few months and was terrified when it was during the busy hours. I would end up waiting till the rush was gone before going up to my floor just to avoid being crammed on an elevator and having people get super upset with me for my stomach accidentally touching them.
Regarding #6... I am not fat, but I am also stereotyped every single day and often not taken seriously because of how I look. It's not just a fat thing to be judged...
have you tried putting moving straps under your mattress so you can rotate it more often? spinning the mattress can help eliminate some of the lumps and bumps in the mattress. also, cinder blocks/concrete blocks can work great for supporting a bed frame or eliminate the need for a bed frame while lifting the mattress from the ground. also, I don't know if you or any f your viewers deals with heat rashes/fold rashes which I did. for me, I got a standing mirror or attached a full length mirror that could be angled toward my bathroom mirror so I could treat my rashes better as well as keep an eye on any sores I got without the embarrassment of asking my partner at the time to help me with it. I also know riding roller coasters or amusement rides aren't that feasible if you are above a size 18. also, be warned! if you are slimming down but in the curvy sizes, the harnesses might not fit you properly and you can run the risk of falling out!! this happened to me at the state fair on a ride that flipped upside down and stayed there. I stomach was between "click" sizes of the harness and I had to hold on for dear life to not fall 3 stories to my death. be careful if you decide to go on a ride and you are a size 16 or larger, the harness might not be tight enough especially if your tummy is bigger than your upper body.
I was hoping she was gonna talk about verrrryyy serious. Things. Like. How do fat people wipe ??? My biggest struggle !!! And how does a fat person get up when rhey fall ans there is NOTHING AROUND??? I fell in my yard and rhere was nothing around to grab to help me up !! My step sons dog knocked me down. Bathroom is always an issue for me. I simply cant reach my butt. Yes I bought a stick thingy. Lets not even go there. This to me is serious stuff for fat people not a damn purse strap or a slippery bar stool
This might sound dumb, but I feel like people not moving over a lot is because they are afraid they will offend? If a bigger person is trying to get through i try to move over as much as I possibly can, but I always feel bad and worry that I am offending them by giving them as much space as possible :(
why are 90% of the comments hateful! omg quit hiding behind your keyboards and be better people. just because she is complaing about things that are issues for her it doesnt mean she wants to stay that way or that she wants to be catered to (and if the opposite is true who cares..its her life).shes stating her feelings towards something that directly effects her just like you all do every single day. quit being so hateful. you are not perfect and pointing others flaws will not make you better
Brianna Crisel because her complaints are rediculus. She has decided to enjoy and embrace her size, beautiful. But realise there are consequences. Face reality.
Maybe she should’ve thought about the consequences of being fat before she had that extra slice of pizza. This whole video is ridiculous and unneeded, you don’t get to complain about something if you brought it upon yourself.
daddy donald dont you realise some people dont want to end up like this? There are a lot of reasos very fard to control that make you fat including comforting eatibg which if you are going to say "stop eating" or other stuff is not easy. People eat to cope with a lot of things very harsh on them and maybe they dont have other options. You are fit, good for you.But your beautifull body doesnt cover your ugly heart. Dont spread your hate over the internet.But of course you would not listen and more likely will try to offend me too but i dont care. Besides, she is not even that fat, saw way worse. She is very beautifull in her own way
I can relate to the whole chair situation. It sucks. Specially when your back starts to hurt since you can’t lean back and relax. Also when I can tell if a chair is weak I have to sit in an awkward angle and put more strain on my legs. Just to make sure i don’t break the chair lol.
It's such a hard moment as a seating hostess when you realize that someone isn't going to be able to psychically fit into a booth and they're going to need a chair or the kind of booth that's a bench separate from the table so that it can move. I always feel so bad that the person is probably embarrassed.
No. Maybe take care of your body. Don’t make things more difficult for other people because of YOUR bad choices. I’m overweight and in the process of losing weight. There’s nothing wrong with being fat, but you really have to consider your health and more.
Girl, I know what you're saying. I've broken so many beds, couches, and chairs it's not funny. It's scary to go places because I never know if I'm going to fit in the seating.
Kai T meh most of the CEOs and partners at my company are philandering alcoholics and hang out with their good old boys club at local strip joints while their wives are at home.. and I wouldn’t call that a “normal lifestyle“ either. But they’re also men and allowed to get away with it. I’ve worked with half a dozen firms and it’s the same everywhere too. Someone’s personal life doesn’t always have anything to do with how they run their business. Sometimes they overlap when they get sloppy.
As an over weight person who has started doing better... You can do it. Not every day is perfect but you should never stop trying to better yourself, make good choices and reward your self when earnt.
I would sympathize If it was a condition your born with like your forced to live with it ,but it isn't you can easily be healthy and not have to go through these things
The reason I hated my last job so much is because I worked the hardest out of anyone, I got the most shifts, came early, stayed late, was always super accommodating with the customers, never took a minute longer than my break allowed and generally just worked my ass off. I also got asked to train new employees 2 weeks after I started and they got recognized for doing the things I had figured out and taught them about. I never understood why I was looked past until you said it. Fat people aren't taken seriously, and now im seriously fucking pissed!
On EBay the Lane Bryant shoes are all wide widths. Great bargains too. Try online stores Amerimark and Carol Wright for wide and extra wide width shoes and boots. Great for wide width womens and mens shoes.
if youre having these struggles bcs of your weight it is your own fault for not taking care of your health and eating too much . So do us all a favor and stop playing the victim . Stop blaming society or people in general bcs you cant stop eating . 🙄
The secret to the bed thing is to skip the bed frame, do double box springs, and a mattress. I highly recommend the Tempurpedic. It costs a damn fortune, but it is sooo worth it.
"I don't want to rub my butt on someone's head." Same girl, same. Loved this one because you are hilarious and telling the truth about everything, from one "over 300 lb" person to another.
Honestly, I believe that there are a few things like seats that require a more inclusive design nowadays. Taller people cannot help being tall, however you can help being fat. I understand that there are a lot of reasons why someone might be overweight, and that for some people it is not a matter of choice. But, if being obese (let's call it by its name) were the reason to redesign absolutely everything, its promoting health issues. That's the real matter in this discussion: health. That said, nobody has the right to make fun of someone for their weight, or judge them or minimize their struggles just because they don't have the same ones. And more importantly, nobody has the right to tell someone else how to 'fix' their life.
mynameisalthea What if the person is working on losing weight... They still need to wear clothes, sit in chairs, etc. Even exercise equipment often has a laughable weight limit. It is so easy for normal people to judge and say just stop eating and workout 24 hours a day so you get skinny fast. But it just doesn't work that way. My nutritionist and nurse practitioner and everyone say you have to eat or your body will hold onto anything you DO give it. Which explains why I spent most of my life yo-yo starving myself and only ended up bigger each time. Yet, last year when I was more active, I actually lost more weight when I ate more... Even when I was sure I messed up. LOL Trying to get back to that, hoping once I adjust to having my fiance living with me I will be able to cut my appetite back again.. or at least walk more. LOL to be fair, I had been slipping before he moved in, but being around someone who is always hungry is hard to not end up snacking. I can see why people gain weight after they get married. LOL
Unfortunately, you're right... Some people don't have a choice in being fat. I gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant due to medical problems and a few years later ended up being diagnosed with lymphedema, which sucks the ever living life out of you. Being overweight and carrying 50ish lbs of extra fluid weight makes even walking a nightmare. Working out would be a luxury I wish I could be able to do, but because my doctor is afraid the fluid won't exit my body, instead just move from my legs to my abdomen and surround my heart and lungs, I can't work out and I barely eat. I'm so full of fluid, I don't have room to be hungry. I could explain myself all day, but I know I'll get trolled and told it's all my fault, an how horrible of a person I am, and that I should eat less cake (BTW, eww...)
Skinny girls break chairs too. I did it when I was only 120 lbs lol. So I know how embarassing that one is. FYI Danielle, I think you are beautiful, and do not allow haters to get at you, just fly by those mean remarks, and go for the ones that build you up! Everyone is every size under the sky, and we all deserve to be respected and cared about. I really do hate that being overweight is still acceptable to make fun of, to tease and make jokes about it. It is not correct, was never okay in my opinion, and should be against the law to joke about and tease someone about their weight.
Have we considered maybe you know...eating a salad? Like there have been multiple mentions of restaurants and bars, how about actually staying home as opposed to eating out, and literally just eating a healthy meal? Standard people fit on bar stools and LITERALLY don't think about breaking chairs. How do you let yourself get to a stage where you can't sit because you're afraid you'll break a chair?
I’m confused. Do skinny people seek out those types of videos to tell the youtuber: “loose weight” or...it’s mind blowing how many of those comments there are here
Yes I really think they have nothing better to do than write whatever hateful comments come to mind. I am just very thankful I have a strong enough mind to take it. If it was someone who wasn't they could cause some real damage.
Danielle McAllister I have to apologize for them. This is just insane anyone think it’s ok to talk to strangers in this way. And honestly all you said was true. Although I grew up in another country and bc of it am one of those fatties who take no shit and will let anyone know. Some people act as if being fat, you lose basic human rights and entitlement to human decency. I didn’t see what you said as complaining but like the title said just numbering things like they are.
Danielle McAllister I see how those comments can get annoying after a while, but dont you kind of agree your life would be maybe a bit easier if you didnt have to worry about those kinds of things if you would lose weight to get to a normal size?
I've always been underweight/barely in a healthy weight range, and I never really thought about any of this stuff until I started dating my current boyfriend, who is overweight. The good part is that since he's overweight and I'm underweight, we usually equal out to an an average weight of two people xD
I don’t get why fat people have a problem with spending more money for bigger clothing. I never seen someone get upset paying more for a larger French fry.
Let's put it like this: If you were my sister I would be so worried about you, and also I know that if you eat that much - in order to get to that uncomfortable weight - it's because you are sad and you're using food to feel better. That is the truth no one talks about, you use food to suppress or calm down your emotions. It's about having an ADDICTION. So you need therapy, it's not about a diet to make you lose weight, it's about getting your life back because all the things you are loosing don't seem to matter, as long as you have the foot that you are addicted to. Where is this life going to lead you? Are you trying to die? That's what matters, forget fast diets because other assholes feel troubled by your appearance, the point is you have an addiction and the way it's going who knows: Diabetes, heart diseases, social isolation, having no mobility and dying young and feeling like crap all the time. YOU ARE SICK. YOU NEED HELP. THERE'S NOTHING POSITIVE ABOUT YOU TREATING YOURSELF LIKE CRAP. WAKE UP, PLEASE, BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE. GET YOUR LIFE BACK.
hold on. you say you're the equivalent of 2 or 3 people in an elevator, but one person in a bed? add an extra plus sized person could equal 5 people in bed. I'm not surprised the warranty is invalid 😕 you worry about seats breaking but not beds? I'm plus sized, but i think you're picking and choosing your gripes
Ok ...I understand but what can be done so you don't have all these problems anymore ? I used to be 135kg and I know the struggle but realizing I needed to be more healthy is what helped me a lot it's not everybody else's fault hun ..
Watching this made me realise that my mother is indeed in deep denial, and I'm scared for her because I know I can't help her. She thinks it's all good because she doesn't have diabetes (yet). It's sad that she has to deal with this. Hopefully me losing weight can open her eyes. I wish you the best of luck in life, hopefully you can sort your problems out too.
Mattresses don’t last as long as they used to. This started a few years ago when mattress stores started popping up all over the place, when people started believing that foam was better than springs, and mattresses became one sided only. I call it profit-driven-downgrades.
I just posted a question about a video for Try On shoes. I woman told me years ago that she buys mens shoes. Mens' shoes were more round toes and women's were more pointed which hurt her feet. An issue for me, we have mostly one bowling alley (other is too expensive for regular customers) that bathroom stalls are too small. A regular size customer has trouble getting into, and closing the door. I can't image a plus size person getting in there.
I can only imagine that reaching your healthiest BMI can seem daunting and unattainable, but I promise that it's within reach. You owe it to yourself to be the healthiest version of yourself; and to experience, at least once, being at the best level of fitness your body can reach. If you want a toned body, it's within reach if you are willing to dedicate yourself to the cause and put in the work. The most valuable things in life should never be easy, the reward is all the better knowing that you worked hard to earn what you have. As you get closer to your ideal BMI you'll reap physical, psychological, and financial benefits. Everyone owes it to themselves to take good care of their bodies and minds. I believe if you channel your passion into this you will be successful. The problems you have now need not be suffered the rest of your life.
The best version of myself is well over my BMI. BMI charts are bull. If we used them for animals, rescues would be out of business without having any starved animals to use for their campaigns. I have been at and below BMI and in severe chronic pain because of it. I am now a good bit over.The extra pounds took a lot of the pain away.
You said you could be thin if you tried really hard. I don’t think that is true. I’ve lost weight a few times and I always go back to my bigger size. Some of us are meant to be fat. It has nothing to do with will power or life style. Our bodies want to be this size.
These comments just tear me up inside - so many judgemental and cruel people. If it's so easy to lose weight, don't you think we would have done it already? I have a sister who is overweight ever since she had her babies, and despite a healthy diet and vigorous exercise, she cannot lose it. She has been to many doctors who can't find anything wrong, but she simply cannot lose weight. I am overweight right now. I have a digestive disorder called Gastroparesis, which would normally make a person lose excessive amounts of weight and be unhealthily skinny, but for me it has done the opposite, I have gained and gained and gained. I went for months being unable to eat anything, basically living on Gatorade, and I still gained weight. Now coupled with the fact that my kidneys are failing and my body is retaining massive amounts of extra fluid, I am up to 240 pounds. I guess I don't deserve to have a happy or comfortable life because I am overweight. I don't deserve to have clothes or shoes that fit me, a comfortable bed to sleep in, or for people to just be courteous? I am so sad that the human race has come to this point, where people think they are better than someone else because of a difference in weight. You don't know a person's story, you don't know the struggles they have been through, and to attack and accuse is just wrong, and it's a form of bullying.
2 Blessed seriously! You just don’t know someone is fat “because they did this to themselves”! Like dude. I spent the day at seaworld today and it was hella crowded. The DIRTY looks you get and that feeling that your existence is “in the way”... crazy. Yet no one there knows that I have polycystic ovaries and Hashimoto’s thyroiditis with hypothyroidism, notorious conditions for extreme difficulty losing weight that these conditions put pounds on you. Nor do they see with their eyeballs that I have a spinal disease that prevents me from walking long distances at one time. So yes. I am fat. And I always laugh/cry when people tell me to “put the Big Mac down” (literally have never eaten a Big Mac in my life lol) or “just get off your ass and go for a walk” (I would LOVE nothing more than to walk the way you get to walk, asshole.) people are incredibly dense, and one day these same assholes will have a medical problem and then hopefully they will learn about empathy lol
And even if they aren't fat because of health problems, they still deserve a happy life. And it's still their own business and they're still allowed to make video's that are obviously relatable to a lot of people.
So.... worrying for someone’s health is wrong? And sure, it’s possible to be naturally overweight, but it’s not by much. So it’s almost always a health issue
I'm just concerned about those people claming beeing severly overweight is healthy for all people, not slightly chubby but obese. It's simply bad for your joints, heart and so on. Same with Anorexia destroying your body, a thing people gett shamed for aswell. Of course some people have health issues like you and struggle in their own right, but thats not more then maybe 10% of obese people. For most people it is lifestyle related, even if you have medical issues. My mom has like everything you can imagine, diabetes 1 , no thyroid (auto-immune), had cancer is on several medications and can barely move but she manages to loose weight with my help atm just by tracking how much she actually needs, consuming less calorically dense foods and some walks. It's hard for her but she might still live in the future to see her grandchildren so i think thats worth it. Not everyone can loose weight easily but its not impossible for the majority, if you really make ur mind up. Just my oppinion and i dont think fat people deserve rudeness whatsoever, they are just humans afterall ey. But in the case of them beeing my friends i encourage them to change some of their habits if they like, which i think is reasonable to do if you care about someone. Having nice clothes and a comfy bed is reasonable, but i dont believe you would encounter most of thoseif at a reasonable weight, with my mom beeing 300 lbs ( now 270 to be fair) and easily finding those in germany at least. I dont mean this as a hate and i bet some will get offended, but obese isnt healthy, even if you feel great now. If less people used excuses there would be less mockery , then the real issues ( lifestyle,psychological or medical) could be adressed. (excuse my poor english but i felt like saying sth.)
99 Bottles of Bleach could you learn to be nice and say something positive about this girl?? Her name is Danielle, she's a person too who lives and breathes and I'm sure she reads all these comments. Are you truly happy with yourself for hurting her?
Can y’all stop fucking being rude she likes the way she is their is people that is overweight, skinny and different like I can’t see out of my left eye but I’m fine with it don’t fucking tell people to lose weight or be someone who they arent like will y’all like it if someone made fun of you for something like cmon think of how people feel when you say stuff about them
When I had to ask for a seat belt extender I was in a tiny 6 person puddle jumper plane. We could all see the pilots and the cockpit and I had to call out loudly, can I have the extender please? It was passed back to me person to person. Uber embarrassing
I’m 5’8”, 210 ish pounds, 215 on a bad day. And I understand of course some of these things. But my body isn’t much like yours because I’m so tall. Honestly, I’m constantly losing weight and gaining, I used to weigh more though, and I never will again. These problems are not genuine problems, they’re things you Caused to your own self. Things we cause if we refuse to take charge of our own bodies. You’re beautiful, you’re intelligent, you’re worthwhile whether big or small, but you should never find comfort in heart disease, diabetes, insecurity, or broken beds and chairs. You should love yourself enough to take care of yourself. Lie does not mean neglecting your health to spare your feelings.
No one mentions thin girl problems either :( Trying to find pants that fit. It's hella hard and I have to wear a belt with most pants which sucks! There are like no size 2's!!!! So I'm always wearing larger pants. People always trying to pick you up. I hate this and no one should be touching others without permission. People thinking you're too skinny or anorexic. Roller coasters can be scary coz if you're small and thin the bar always feels lose.
I think you should make a video about it. I know of most of these things through working at fashion shows and talking to a lot of models but I am sure for people who have never really thought of the alternate perspective it could be quite enlightening. Also the roller coaster point it terrifying.
this video is so important. I'm actually very small, so I've never personally had to consider these things, but my mum has and so have many others who are close to me. I don't think people would be so cruel to someone with, say, Anorexia... they wouldn't say "but are you trying to gain weight, though?" and things similar to that (not comparing/contrasting you to an anorexic, but I think it's a decent example of double standards when it comes to bodies on opposing ends of the spectrum). People are they way they are for myriad reasons, and I think as human beings we need to consider this more often, and perhaps exercise some empathy or at least open our minds a little. Double standards suck.
When you cant fit in chairs or seat belts and you break your bed frame don't you ever think that maybe YOU might be the problem. Not people refusing to accommodate for our unhealthy behaviour. If you have to worry about crushing a chair with your ass or getting bruises because you sat too long then newsflash its time to make a change. Your bed didn't break because it was poorly made. It broke because you exceeded the weight limit. You're complaining about things purely because you are fat and you don't want to do anything about it. If you just lost the weight and put in the effort you wouldn't have ANY of these problems.
I have cerebral palsy (mobility issues) and I share soo many of these struggles. I hate resteraunts that have tight walking spaces because I manage to bang my leg or hip and end up getting covered in bruises. I completely understand tbh
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You do realize that this is 10 times harder for someone in a wheelchair? They'd have to rearrange entire restaurant sections to get my chair through, but I find a way around it without disrupting others. We do our best to find accessible places. Not every place CAN be made accessible. However when I have to leave my chair outside a bathroom stall and crawl on a bathroom floor because someone able bodied is using the wheelchair stall...that's when I get mad. You can't exactly equate disability with obesity
You are right they are not the same however we would both go through similar situations as at that moment in time neither of us could change the fact that there is not space for us when basic human decency says that there should be.
Wow, the part about having to crawl on a dirty ass bathroom floor... Really gave me a new perspective. Won't be using that restroom anymore that thought makes me feel sick. Sorry you had to go through that and probably much more
@@daniellemcallister If society were built to accommodate as many bodies as possible, we would not require people to justify their use of an accessible bathroom stall or create an "us vs them" attitude due to scarcity. Since the problem is the scarcity of accessible spaces, all of us can win by working together to campaign for spaces that are universally accessible. Until then, those who don't need to use an accessible space should not use it, and those who do should not judge someone who does, just because their difficulty with movement or other issue is not immediately visible.
i never used the disability restrooms. my mother has type 1 diabetes and uses a walker. its really problematic for her when she needs to pee bad and the disabled restroom is taken.
This isn’t really by business but not all disabilities are visible in some uncommon situations someone may need the accessible stall even if they look ok. Eg they might need more space to fix a colostomy bag or might need to use the bar for balance
I thought this was going to be funny because I thought I could maybe relate to these things,I’m no where near being morbidly obese, I weigh 200 lbs and in the process of losing weight, but no, these were not funny. These were sad. This was a huge motivator to lose weight and keep at it...
None of these things were issues at 200 pounds for me. The cutoff for me where I noticed these thinge was around 280 pounds.
I've got a Thyroid condition, work full time, go to school full time, have a wife and children. Losing weight for me is difficult because of the Thyroid issue but damn....I would never let it get this bad. Is it messed up that I watch this from time to time to keep me motivated to keep eating healthy and working out?
tara williams I weight 226 and damn I feel like I can hardly breath and it my country We’ve been in quarantine for since jan so I gained 26 pounds during this time and 54 pounds in total the past year only bc of environmental changes and I feel like I can’t freakin breath anymore last year I used to be a pro dancer and I went to school I’m only 17🙁this is getting out of hand and idk what to do
Parmida Safari Just taking a stab in the dark but it sounds like you’re not getting nearly as much exercise as you used to. Lots of people gain considerable weight when their lifestyle changes in a significant way like that. If your diet has changed too it will happen even quicker. The good news is, at your age it will be fairly easy to make the change. Incorporate movement into your day in as many ways as possible despite being stuck at home and stick to as many fresh whole foods as possible and avoid processed stuff. If you do that consistently the weight will come off.
'it broke, and it was definitely their fault' LMAOOOO bye
Well I mean, she did ask them
My dad is obese and I can say this with honesty and experience.. Weight is a curse not only for the person carrying it but for family members who have to look after them when they get immobile. Sad very sad 😢
I'm with you. My grandma was very obese and had to live with my dad when she lost mobility. My dad did a bad job taking care of her, learned nothing, and is following the same horrible path. Walking from the car to the house makes him wheeze. It is really upsetting. No one wants to see their family or friend disable himself from refusing to move and stuffing trash in his face.
ripleyjenjen it's very sad to watch.. and hard to deal with. My dad can't see the pain he has put us through. One thing it has taught me is to exercise most days and limit the crap I eat. I hope ur dad opens his eyes soon and changes xx
That is very upsetting, my heart goes out to you. And the mean thing to say, is stop bringing him his food, make him at least get up to get his own food. But that is mean, and not realistic. Taking care of someone like this, is out of my realm of realities as in, I have never been there or done that. Love him as long as you have him, and Take care of you too, Take care of your heart, and know that people out there have compassion for you and your father, who has come to this stage in life. As someone with chronic illness, I can say for sure I have days and even weeks where walking is a chore for me, feet aching, muscle cramping, and the list goes on, but what I do have, is children that love me. That makes my days worth getting up for. I do not know why he has done this to himself, my gut says like the hoarders issue, it is tied to some emotional trauma's from his past, and has colored his relationship with food in general, I hope you find him some sort of treatment, and for yourself as well while dealing with this. I know my cousin had massive relationship issues with food, on account of dieting her whole life, she finally did it, lost the weight, it killed her, but she died skinny.
kim lightfoot “It killed her, but she died skinny.” Are you fucking serious!?! Gtfoh with that shit. Not all fat people are unhealthy and not all skinny people are healthy. I am technically obese according to the charts but most people my age would love to have blood sugar & pressure numbers like mine. Yes, there is a higher incidence of of type 2 diabetes and heart disease in overweight people but it only increases the likelihood by about a third. This means 2/3 fat people are just as healthy as anyone else. (Does it make you angry that you don’t get to look down on me for your imagined superiority?) I am truly sorry about the situation in the family of the OP but it is very harmful to draw broad generalizations from a personal anecdote, for you and those you interact with.
@@CitizenWorm you seem angry and bitter, lose the weight if it bothers you that much. Its ok if you want to stay obese I guess, your choice but that lie y'all tell about being healthy and obese need to stop. No one is buying it, just the act of having so much extra weigt strains the body.🙄
I know this is a bit of an older video but I just had to comment. I used to be overweight (260lbs) for the majority of my teenage years and now I'm a healthy 155lbs (I'm 6ft 1", BMI: 20.5kg/m2) and I totally feel every single thing you say. Even when I lost the weight I was still worrying about these things because it takes so much time for your brain to catch up and I have to admit even though it's been about 10 years, I still think of myself as 'the fat one'. I thought that as I lost weight I would suddenly be happy and have all these magnificent things in life, but it doesn't work like that.
I also suffered with anorexia during my weight loss, I was 77lbs at one point and fighting for my life, and as someone who has literally been every weight under the sun I can tell you - people will find ways to bring you down no matter what. I was bullied when I was underweight and overweight. When I was underweight people used to physically throw food at me and tell me to 'eat it you skinny b*&"h', It made me realise people will just find something to bring you down because they're so insecure themselves. It also taught me that you gotta learn to love yourself NO MATTER WHAT. You gotta be happy in yourself and learn to appreciate and value all the good things about you. If anyone ever wants to lose weight then do it for the right reasons - because you're concerned about health or you want to be able to do a certain sport or gain a bit more fitness, but don't expect it to be the key to happiness.
Thank you for this video. Funnily enough I now work as a dietitian and help people of all shapes and sizes to achieve their goals and help with their health!
iamviccckkk I need you to be my friend!😭😭😭
iamviccckkk I also used to be 260lbs, I'm now at 240lbs (5'10") and still losing. Do you have lose skin to deal with? That's what I'm scared of getting.
Hey there. I don't have that much to be honest. I have some stretch marks on my stomach and upper arms where I've lost the weight. My stomach definitely has the most loose skin and it's noticeable when I bend over as it hangs differently, but it's worth it. I was 16-17 when I lost the weight (im now 26) so I think the younger you lose the weight the better as your skin looses elasticity with age. Loose skin is definitely a side effect I was worried about but at the end of the day, it's worth it. I gained my health, find it easier to participate in exercise, 'blend in' as a normal weight, have more clothing choice, and lost those worries that go with being overweight. A bit of loose skin is nothing compared to having all of those. Also I'm now working on gaining muscle which always helps loose skin to look a bit better.
Also congratulations on your progress so far! That's an awesome achievement and you should be damn proud! xx
Kimbra - I'll happily be your friend! I can always do with more in my life :D xx
I had the same. People followed me in a mall talking about how disgusting I was when I was sick, I had CPS called on me because I was orthostatic, I had invasive, detrimental treatments... it was terrible. Now I’m “average” and I still see grotesque.
Small toilet stalls start to be a problem from medium size up especially if you don't want to touch the stuff
+Elaine Worsfold so true.
true, getting the stall door closed can be an issue if you are at a hipster/trendy night life location.
Or have a coat, large purse, backpack or shopping bags.. US bathroom stalls are small and weird.
I'm considered a small person and I can barely fit inside US stalls! I can't even begin to imagine the struggle that whole situation is for people bigger than me. It sometimes seems like an impossibility 🙁
This🙌🏼 I’m a US 6, but I’m 5”7 so I’ve to struggle to get some bathroom stall doors shut without touching anything😬
I'm swiss (europe), so our standard size is smaller than the american one. I work part-time as a cashier (i am a student) and the second boss (like one step below the actual boss? She is the boss when the boss isn't around) is very overweight by our standards. But everyone takes her serious as fuck. She has skills and she does her job. Even though she is obese, she walks around all day, lifts boxes around, etc. If she can land that job in a country with thinner people, then so can you. Just do your job and prove them all wrong
@White Pride you're not gonna lose all of that weight within days. My comment was to help overweight people get the confidence to go to that interview and get that job. People take you seriously when you shine confidence and do your job properly. If losing weight gives you confidence, great. But this will take time
Also, why are you talking in "you" form? I was not talking about myself.
That's nice but if they dont give you the chance to show them what you can do
My aunt is super morbidly obese. She is 5 foot two and about 400 pounds. She is also run a homeless/women shelter since 1990. She is extremely respected in her field. Yes, she has the physical problems of an obese person and it sucks that she has to live her life feeling like she’s trapped in a suit she can’t remove, but it has not stopped her from having a career, a family, friends, laughter, good times and a boyfriend.
Don't feel bad about breaking your bed, i broke my bed and I'm around 130lbs, the boards that support my mattress literally snapped in half when I sat on my bed one night, so it's probably just a manufacturing issue
+dara mcateer it’s terrifying when it happens, right?
Cheap bed frame. My frame can hold 300lbs.
dara mcateer Same. I’m a small person and one day I just collapsed onto my bed and I heard one of the rungs on the frame crack.
I got one on amazon that holds up to 4400lbs and it barely took any work to put together.
Danielle McAllister girl I’m 160 lbs (5’11 and male) and broke my bfs bed, broken seats. I hate bar seats too. They’re uncomfortable for everyone
Also I look like an idiot trying to get onto a bar stool, I look like a child lmao
Ohmy, more like problem of morbidly obese people. People who are just "fat" - meaning overweight, don't have these struggles. Anway, that's hard and sad.
im in the obese category technically and i dont relate to any of these....
Yeah, I’m technically obese too and none of these things relate to me at all. Granted, I’m not over 300 lbs.
Worms ! That’s the difference. Being a little overweight doesn’t leave you with these problems and I can say as someone who has gained and lost hundreds of pounds, 300lbs is the usual cut off for most folx however, it also must be taken in to account that if a person has well developed muscle underneath a thick layer of fat they will weigh much more since muscle weighs more than fat. That is a factor that throws off any estimate like this.
I'm in the obese category and i don't relate to this at all that being said I'm not over 200lbs
i dont have these problems because im in the process of losing weight and have never been over 270, im now 235 and i keep working at it. if you dont want to have those problems then you really need to lose weight, you can do it if you really tried
I respect the journey you are on, however that is not the same journey I am on. You also don't know my life story to say that I have not tried.
wingedguardian Please, every overweight person I know, including myself, have tried every diet imaginable as well as some crazy unheard of things. I am sure this young lady has too.
forget dieting just eat healthy and exercise
I can't imagine 270 pound exempting you from these problems at that size I had all these problems, I have noticed this new trend where as under 300 not being classed as morbidly obese anymore when it really is I could barely function normally at that weight
yeah 270 is pretty bad with problems and im glad i dont weight that much anymore
I have the utter most respect for you, because you’re not blaming everything and everyone for your own weight. You’re simply addressing problems the typical “fat person” goes through. I love it:)
How condescending of you.
I am 209 pounds, and think I am fatter then anyone else around and have such bad self esteem issues. I clicked on this thinking I would relate but I cannot relate to any of these - i'm shocked and this has opened my eyes. I know I will be much easier on others as I don't know their struggle
Hey I know I’m commenting three years later, but I have a friend who is overweight. She is 5 foot nine and about 200 pounds so bigger but not morbidly super obese. Whenever a group of girls would get together and go shopping she would always not want to go. I found out later it’s because she felt like she was the biggest one out of all of us, And didn’t want to drag everybody to the plus size store when we were shopping. The thing is all of us never really thought about it and she was too embarrassed to say something. Honestly, we would’ve had no problem going into those stores with her but she was super self-conscious about it.
I JUST watched a video of you stating that you were "perfectly happy in your current life ". This video was nothing but you complaining about why the world doesn't accommodate YOU. Take some accountability for you life. Your actions gave caused your life to be uncomfortable. Do something before you can't get out of bed. Then you will be really uncomfortable.
I was normal weight my whole life and after a prolonged health crisis with 20+ surgeries, I ballooned up to 275 and was also addicted to opioids from having surgeries back to back for so long. A doctor's report of fatty liver disease scared me into a change of lifestyle. I'm now at 175 eight months later and opioid clean. I eat a single serving of unsweetened oatmeal with berries for breakfast, a low carb protein shake for lunch (really fills you up), for dinner I eat any piece of lean broiled meat (size of a deck of cards) and 2 cups of low carb vegetables. And one of the following dairy snack- 2 pieces of string cheese, low carb yogurt, or 1/2c low fat cottage cheese. Once a month I allow a cheat meal eaten in moderation. Every morning before I eat, I do 20 minutes of cardio. Zumba, aerobics, etc from videos here on YT. Even if I couldn't do the moves, I tried and just moved until I could. Basically low carb, low calorie, low fat combined.
It can be done without surgery. Everyone has a boiling point. Listen to it.
The top 10 things I hated about being obese was:
1) hating myself/depression
2) being constantly judged by others
3) PAIN! My body hurt being fat!
4) buying huge and ugly clothes
5) not fitting into seats
6) feeling handicapped, unable to walk around places like the zoo, etc
7) difficulty shaving my legs, showering
8) not being able to wear high heels and wedges
9) sweating, thigh rub, belly hanging moisture, breasts hanging moisture
10) inability to wipe backside without huge efforts!!
I appreciate what you’re talking about and I think it’s cool you made this video, but I do have to say (not trying to say it in a mean way) I don’t think it’s fair to talk about being in a crowd and how it bothers you that people don’t just move over more for you. I don’t think you should be annoyed that people aren’t catering to you just because you’re overweight and you think they should. In reality, being overweight is something you could change so I wouldn’t expect others around you to be understanding in situations like that.
All I am asking for is a little common decency. I am not asking someone to change their whole life for me, just move a few extra inches if they can. They can go right back to where they were once I pass by. Besides do you thing that person will appreciate my ass rubbing on their head as I squeeze by because they didn't move a little more, no probably not.
Danielle McAllister I understand that. And I understand where you’re coming from, as I’m overweight too. I just wanted to put my opinion out there. Like I said, not trying to say it in a mean way. And I do appreciate that you made this video 👍🏻
In a crowd no- one moves for each other, regardless of size
You could make a two hour documentary about point #6. Also, that's a fascinating observation about how people don't want to accidentally bump against a fat person because they might catch their fatness.
Why complain? These are facts. You can change things by losing a bit of weight. You don't have to go nuts. If you like being bigger just compromise. Accept reality.
She isn't complaining, she is sharing her experiences so that other people having that same struggle can relate. Why do you automatically go with "lose weight and it won't be an issue"? Can fellow fat people just share their experiences with each other without the CONSTANT NAGGING NEGATIVITY? If you don't like fat people then DON'T WATCH THE VIDEO and comment with some snide ass comments. We know we are fat and need to lose weight, but in the mean time these are things we deal with on a regular basis. THAT IS ALL SHE IS SAYING.
Amber Adair She was explaining her problems which is kinda complaining. Either way, making RUclips videos about fat people problems and her own won’t help fix them
@@pinkdolly7533 As I stated as well, if you don't like fat people maybe don't watch the video instead of being a negative jerk. RUclips is a place for everyone not just super perfect healthy people. So don't be rude.
Amber Adair I never mentioned anything about disliking fat people. *You* are the one being a “negative jerk”. You do not have a valid point in your comment AT ALL. I am saying that her complaining about fat people problems on RUclips to other fat people won’t make the problems any easier. And your defense is that you think I hate fat people when I’m just stating facts.
pink dolly The point of this video, as explained in the comment you replied to, is to share her experience with others who have the same issue. This isn’t a video about lobbying to make all chairs wider or to make all bar stools the perfect fit for anyone who is 5’9” and over 300lbs. so your comment is apropos of nothing.
Another struggle fat people have to deal with (or at least some fat people...I wish it were less of us) is constantly worrying about what people will think about what you are eating in public, or what food you buy at the store or at a restaurant. Especially when I was younger (but still struggle with to a certain degree), I would constantly worry about what people would think about me, specifically about what I would order. So say I went out to eat with some friends and acquaintances; I would look at the menu first for something I would like to eat, and then temper that with how badly people would think of me. Some times I would order something completely different based solely on how I thought people would judge me. In my head it would be like, "Oh my gosh, I can't believe that fat girl is ordering a burger/pizza/pasta. She should barely be eating salad, much less that junk food." I absolutely realize that this is totally in my own head, but based on past experience it seemed logical to avoid that kind of scrutiny if possible.
Or feeling like people are judging you when you go clothes shopping. If I strayed too far from the exclusively REALLY fat people area, I would feel like people were looking at me thinking, "Girl you know you can't wear these clothes. Get your fat ass back to your corner." I used to LOVE going clothes shopping. And then when things stopped fitting no matter where I went, and getting the evil eye from people at stores because I would go in with a mountain to try on and only buy one or two things, if at all, I just started buying clothes online. I just bought a sewing machine to start learning how to make my own clothes, because dang it I want to look good and not have to deal with a mountain of judgement and shame to shop for my clothes. I turn 30 this year and I finally bought myself the leather biker jacket I've wanted for the past 10 or 12 years. No one is going to keep me down anymore. :) I love your channel already!
I never used to pay attention to anyone else while I was eating out. I lived in my own little bubble where I ate what I wanted and where I wanted. But then a “friend” started talking behind my back saying how she felt judged for eating with me and was disgusted by watching me eat and she was sure others were disgusted by it too. At that point I stopped being her friend but it put that idea in my head and kind of messed me up for a while and still gives me trouble sometimes now. Especially if I notice someone looking at me for an extended period of time.
As for the clothes... we have like 3 places to shop for plus sizes in Canada. Pennington’s is the only one that carries my size in store and it’s not in a mall so there is no judge looks there. Only people who are all in the same boat and their very bored men who look like they could use a nap. I have been in stores that only sell regular sizes and been holding clothes for my friends while they shop and this being Canada the sales people are too nice to ignore me and they ask if I want to try something on. And I laugh. Like really hard and say no thanks.
We all go through this stuff but if you can get past it and still live your life then you are winning in the end.
lol I have faced the same issue with being with a friend and holding clothes for her and the lady asking me if I want to try something on. lol I thought it was cute and nice of them to treat me just like all the others in the store haha! She must have known I could not fit into anything in that store though lol!
I am also a photographer so i go to the smaller stores to look around for clothes for my models and definitely get some looks.
But those are your own insecurities. You're not satisfied with your appearance, so this causes your anxiety when eating in front of others. I'm sure most people don't give a shit because they're too busy eating their own food.
I don't really pay attention to what people are eating because I do not care and I am too self absorbed to even pay attention to what strangers are eating and how big their portions are and what size they are and if they are ordering more food for themselves but I admit at one time I may have been judgmental when I worked in a building and the reason why I noticed what this one lady ate was because part of my job was to empty out wastebaskets. In her wastebasket was always fast food bags and wrappers and TV dinners and candy wrappers so it was hard for me to not think "No wonder she is fat." This was what she ate most of the time in her office. Even as a skinny person, that stuff would not be found in my trash often. Both my ex boyfriends were fat and I did notice what they ate because I was with them and they always had huge portions, big enough that would be three servings. Like my ex would cook pasta and he would eat it out of a mixing bowl that would be enough to feed three or four tummies. To them, I barely ate anything because of how small my portions were. I actually made my husband eat less because I was concerned about cost of groceries and he lost weight. Both my parents are overweight and they don't eat much either. My in laws are fat and don't eat much either. I know because we live together and none of them eat much. My dad doesn't even look overweight with clothes on. But I never thought about what people would be thinking of my ex whenever we ate out. I just don't think people pay attention to even care what you are eating. Only people who would notice are your friends or partner and whoever you are eating with. People are too busy with their own activity to even pay attention to what strangers are eating.
Omg yes! When I buy something unhealthy at the grocery store I feel like everyone is staring at my stuff on the conveyer belt and judging me 🙄🙄
If u r to the point where seatbelts are an issue put the pound cake down. Seek help
robyn mcnear I would hope you would be understanding enough to know that some things aren’t as easy as that. Many things can make you gain wait. For me one was depression medication. Should I just stop taking something that helps me so much to loose weight? NAH SON!
Yes but not that drastically and also you can maintain a decent weight if you excersize and eat well while taking the meds. Also not shoving shit in ur mouth when the depression is really bad
TeresaMarie I‘m really sick too. My thyroid isn‘t working so I‘m gaining weight and have to take medicine. We have chronical stomach issues in our family and most died of cancer because of it. Our digestion isn‘t even really working and I‘m not fat. I have to count calories and do sports. And my appetite is always a real problem because my stomach thinks I didn‘t eat. Medicine isn‘t an excuse. Yes, you gain weight more easily, but you still have to eat more calories than you need to gain weight, even on medicine. Maybe you should inform yourself about that, because nobody could gain weight more easily than I do. And if I can stay thin, everyone can.
Drop the attitude, negative comments and sadness won’t help anyone lose weight, be understanding instead.
robyn mcnear It's not that simple. For some there are deep mental health issues that can attribute to the weight. Yes I agree that something can be done to help/fix. But it isn't going to happen overnight
Omg i laughed so hard. "Bar stools are so slippery", I just remembered when I wore new workout leggings, which are often from a very slick material and i literally slipped off the bar stool! :D
LOL.
I remember years after highschool this younger guy was laughing and bragging about how he tormented one girl into becoming anorexic. Ifhis 20 or so friends weren't standing there laughing with him I would have liked to talk to him and see what was going on in his life that was a motivator for such a thing. Anyway...you can't do anything about assholes but you can do things about yourself.
i hope he's having a horrible day!
That was interesting and quite relatable. I am smaller than you (a bit below 200 lbs, dress size UK18), but still in the plus size category and lot of these struggles are mine too. It's super annoying when people tell me to "not be fat." Like, even if I want to do it, losing weight for a larger person is a very long process, what are we supposed to do until we reduce: stay locked up in our bedrooms so that other people don't have to suffer the minor inconvenience of having to move over extra 3 inches? And if so, how are we supposed to lose weight then? Weight loss requires exercise, visiting doctors, buying specialised groceries etc. WE HAVE TO BE OUT AND ABOUT TO ACHIEVE IT. Sorry to hear you're being discriminated against for being plus size, I hope that building your own business does it for you.
You made a really good point at around 4:50. About being already fat and not being able to change it in that moment. So why keep complaining? The chair shouldn’t get bigger but you should work towards bettering yourself if it’s such an issue instead of trying to put the blame on everything around you. I myself am fat and don’t struggle with the same things you described but struggled internally so that’s why I am working towards loosing weight because I finally decided to take account for myself and my health. I suggest you doing the same if you want the struggles to go away.
Paige P but she should accommodate for herself she should stop complaining and actually change some thing
Actually, if most of the USA is morbidly obese then yes, stores, restaurants, bars etc should consider MOST of their customers will likely be of a larger size and shouldn't buy seating that may actually break. I'm not saying cater to fat people (I'm fat btw) I'm saying having seating unusable to most of your customers is going to lessen your business by those fat people you're alienating by those flimsy chairs. I do think fat people should be able to enjoy being out in public without the worry of things thinner people take for granted.
And let's just remember not ALL fat people get fat by eating too much or being too lazy. Many fat people end up that way from prescription medication that literally has a side effect of causing weight gain, thyroid disorders, lack of mobility due to injuries, and let's not forget a huge contributing factor - the lack of education giving the children about nutrients/healthy foods. In all honesty, I never looked at a food label till I was around 20 years old.
I was never taught calories in and calories out or how a balanced diet looked. I was told to eat healthily and to exercise. I was around 170 pounds 11th and 12th grade of high school and jogged every night between using the weight room in school plus doing 1.5 miles and calisthenics twice a week for my study in Criminal Justice at a trade school and I never lost an ounce, in fact, I gained!!! I was out eating my exercise which is insane. I could never understand why I kept gaining with all the moving I was doing. I seriously think we need better education on healthy eating.
Mission Betterment we dont take anything for granted I have a thyroid disorder but still work my ass of to stay lean theres no excuses to be morbidly obese
Mission Betterment I also do intermittent fasting to stay lean for basketball
Danny Shoshani there's levels of functioning when it comes to thyroid issues. I have hypothyroidism and it does cause weight gain and makes it difficult to lose weight. The thyroid makes a certain hormone which makes it possible for your body to make another hormone...which aids in weight loss. Look it up...it's 100% legit. Very low working thyroids cans and do result in obesity and the science behind it proves you wrong.
I saw a woman once in a restaurant sit down in a chair and it collapsed underneath her. She was also quite overweight, and I felt so bad for her. The humiliation was so obvious in her face. I never thought about shoes or purse straps. This is interesting.
Yes omfg. All of it is yes. I only get cross body bags. I’ve stood the entire time at places because I didn’t want to break the chair. When I was a teenager I broke 2 different bed frames and after that I refused to have my bed on one. My mattress has a dent in it and it’s so uncomfortable. I’ve heard my entire life and seen on shows and such that fat people have to be the funny one. That’s the only way people will like them. I’m not that funny, I tend to be more sarcastic. But I’m a good person and I shouldn’t have to try so hard for people to like me just because I’m fat. I have social anxiety and have my entire life. I’m scared to talk to people and it’s mainly because my size. I’m so scared that they won’t want to talk to me because of it. Nobody should feel that way. And I’m so tired of hearing to just lose weight. Yes I’m fat and I should lose weight TO BE HEALTHY. Not to be liked. I’ve gotten a lot better with my self confidence and not letting my size stop me from things but there will always be that part of you that makes your stomach drop when someone makes a comment on your weight.
Oh Danielle I love you so much
I don’t understand why people watch just to leave mean comments.
Most of these comments weren’t that mean, they’re just being honest in the nicest way possible.
@@Meowmeowmeowhehe the mean comments were very mean and unhelpful. Like "just lose weight".
The worst thing EVER is when you go to the doctor and they give you a paper gown that looks like a dinner napkin. I even asked this one doctor if they had a plus size gown or anything else and the answer was no. Well then don't get pissed when I keep my clothes on and just remove enough of the area the doctor needs to look at and cover it with the napkin. Ridiculous and humiliating like we are not people and don't require some dignity!!!
OMG yes. when I got my IUD this year the paper "blanket" was the size of a hand towel. it provided zero modesty.
You have me laughing, in the best way possible. I just had a good night turn sour after having a group of kids make fun of me as though being fat means I am hard of hearing, so coming on here and finding your video where you articulate everything I deal with on a daily basis was refreshing. I don't have many plus size friends either, so it's just nice to hear someone else going through what I've gone through my entire life. You're just awesome and thanks for getting me out of my funk.
Well I am happy I could help. Kids are cruel and have no filter. What gets me is the adults who say things when they should know better. I don’t have a lot of plus size friends either and it is really nice to connect with other women like me. 🤩
Awh I'm sorry people insult you; how rude are these Kids?!Ah don't listen to them, they're crazy dude, thanks for sharing your story though :)
Kids are just soo horrible these days!
i feel like if more overweight people would speak up in those situations then the kids or whoever it may be would think twice the next time they wanted to make fun of someone. i know its hard sometimes but for me after dealing with it for 36 years i have no problem telling someone to shut the fuck up and worry about themselves or to go see a dentist or get off the dope, or how about you go take a shower, scumbag. lol. just turn the situation around, dont let assholes affect your feelings forever. kids need to learn early not to bully others, maybe if you "accidentally" spilled a drink on them theyd learn not to talk shit. lol :)
crystal6381 hehe YES! I’ve dealt with this stuff for 30 years now since I was bigger from the time I was 7 months old, but I think I’m only just now feeling like I can speak up for myself in the moment. Your comment made my day though with all those cracks LOL.
It's all so embarrassing.. I am so embarrassed being fat.. Other than health reasons, all the problems you mentioned in this video (and more) are what pushed me to start being healthy and losing weight.. I am making positive changes..
Then lose weight??
I have been overweight for 6 years and 2 years of them were spent being obese. Last July I started losing weight and went from 250+ lbs to 180s. Still overweight...
So here is my point; overweight people really have it very hard. My heart is with you, sister ♡ Just a friendly side note (please please don't get me wrong 😟) . If you don't have any medical issues that prevent you from losing weight, please try to drop below 200 lbs and you'll feel so much better. If you want help, I can help you and I am always here for you sister. You are lovely and amazing.
This isn’t coming from hate. I m fat myself and I used to complain about stuff like this. But I realized being fat isn’t healthy. It is hard to lose weight but you can do it. Your hard working and if you put your mind to it you can do it. It’s going to take awhile. Yeah people suck and the stereotypes suck. But instead of getting upset about it and try to make people change for the few that are over 300 pounds. Change yourself. That’s what I learned. Have a great day.
Shannon Flynn sounds good but u know it doeant work like that and its not easy...but u r right u cant change peoples opinions, and if u dont like it change it...
Priscilla Johnson I wasn’t trying to make it sound it easy. If it came across that way I m sorry. That point that I was trying to make. You can’t make someone change. It’s easier to change yourself and better yourself then others. Its not easy to change but if you want to you can.
Shannon Flynn no reason to be sorry...just wanted to say that because its not easy to change....but a person should change because they want to, not to change society perception by fitting in with the "in" crowd😊...
Priscilla Johnson I agree with you 100%. Should of made that clear to. Thanks for having my back.
This is a great conversation. I don't really want to change others I would just like people to recognize that not everyone is the same size as them and circumstances for everyone can be different. I want to open people's mind to other view points. But it should be noted it is not my responsibility to change for others it is my responsibility to change for myself if I want to.
I don’t mean this to sound offensive but have you ever tried buying shoes from a drag company. They are mens shoes but theyd have heels and dress shoes and pretty designs. Theyd be custom and wide and have your size.
Lol
Hey I won't knock the suggestion. They have some fabulous shoes. I mean seriously they are called queens for a reason. Tend to have some straight sweet style!
I burst out laughing at the image in my head when you said you ended up with a purse at your armpit because the strap was too short. I always have that same problem, and it's a nightmare when going purse shopping! Girl, you are not alone in your purse struggles.
Look, I get that there are struggles of being fat. But that does not meen that companies have to accommodate to your needs. Companies don’t need to make their beds stronger so that it doesn’t break when a fat person sleeps in it. If all these struggles really make a huge difference in you quality of life, you need to try to lose weight
I know this is an old video, but I wanted to tell you that I struggle with these problems too. I was scrolling through the comments and saw how many hate/mean comments and I just wanted to let you know that I relate to this video so much and we’re not inherently bad for being fat (I know you probably already know this)... basically I just wanted to add some positivity to the majority of negative comments. ♥️
My 2 cents is i don't expect people to b polite because most people are so wrapped up in their own shit they don't notice much outside themselves but if I saw a bigger person want to sit next to me on a bus or train whatever I would move over if they looked like they were trying to sit next to me but with my own anxiety I would also think is that insulting to them do they think I'm moving over because I think they smell do they think I don't want them to touch me and then might freeze on the spot and not move because I wouldn't want to accidentally hurt their feelings and then at the same time feel like shit cuz I didn't move when they needed space so point is not everything is to b insulting cuz they just might not know what to do or even notice you needed more space so you elbowing strangers is mean because just like they don't know what your going threw you don't know what they are going threw and intentionally hurting or shoving with your body isn't ok its quite selfish this video was quite a while ago so I hope you have gained maturity in that time
I love how unapologetic you are about everything. I'm also fat and I always apologize for all of those things you listed. I don't know how you do it. Great video. Thank you for making it. And I know there's already so many rude people in the comments about everything,please don't mind them,you helped me today and thank you for it 💕
Why should I apologize for my body? I would never expect at thin person to apologize for theirs. I am happy that I could have helped you in anyway!
Danielle McAllister of course you shouldn't apologize for it. I do and I'm trying to quit doing that cause there's nothing wrong with me,but it's quite hard :'( thank you so much for replying,I totally didn't expect you to 😍
Being Canadian I apologize for everything except being fat. 😁
look, i used to be 220, which isn’t as much as you but i was morbidly obese and i’m only 5’3. i used to make similar statements, but it’s not just about the looks of being pretty. it’s getting out of breath easily, can’t walk as fast as my other friends, not having clothes fit me. i’m now 170 and weight loss is the best decision of my life. i feel so much happier and HEALTHIER. even when i was big i had a blood test done and said everything was “normal.” but now i actually FEEL it. i’m still not done, but getting compliments and seeing your body transform is amazing. i hope you change your mind in the future.
4:40 Are you trying to loose weight, tho? Like are you actively trying to loose weight? It's doable you know. I used to weigh around 170 pounds, and now i'm down to 110 pounds
+Tucna Fucna Nope she doesn't
170 isn't even fat tho
WimpyBlook She’s clearly a lot more than 170. Exercising at 210+ pounds is harder than it is at 170. Of course it’s achievable but you shouldn’t assume something is easy for somebody else because it was easy for you.
Nicole Samuel it wasn't easy at all, I just said it was achievable. I worked hard for months and months, and for her it'll probably take years, but it's still achievable. Yes it's hard working out when you're fat, therefore she should probably start by eating healthy. It's hard, but doing it just depends on how much you want it
she is in denial about her weight, i am her height and WAS over 300lbs, and i can assure you she is over 400lbs
Sounds easier to just lose weight prob makes your life easier ...People should not have to cater to your choice of being obese that is ur choice to be 400lbs
no its not. being overwieght is not just bc you dont eat healthy and you dont work out. sometimes its bc of genetics, or your body just constantly gains weight, ect. so no, its probably not her ''choice''.
Hélène Rashidi it absolutely is your choice, although it is harder to lose weight than others. Their are medical reasons for gaining weight but you can choose to put effort into fixing it. Your “genetics” is simply a excuse for not wanting to get in shape.
Haylee Cossette you may want to seek medical help if you have that hard of a time losing weight. I had a very hard time with my weight, but I ended up having something wrong with my thyroid, that threw off my hormones making me unable to lose weight. I can’t eat gluten because of this.
It 100% is a choice. Being this fat is not natural, it is absolutely a choice. Their choices led them to this point. They may not have sought out to be obese, but their choices brought them to be obese. So yes, it is a choice.
Dumbest remark I've read in a while. Do you choose to be stupid? No? So keep your comments to yourself girl.
Have you considered losing weight?
Dumb question is dumb
random note, do you have an etsy store that you make things? i'm going to start an size/mobility inclusive store pretty soon. I just put it aside for the holidays and personal what not. if you were going to get a cross body purse, how long (in inches) would you like the strap to be and what size dimensions do you think would look good in proportion to your size? I can let you know when I have new purses made that are more size inclusive. I upcycle/repurpose scrap materials so it's environmentally friendly as well as inclusive. thanks =)
5”9 is not average tall😂
The average height for American women is 5’3
5’8 is average men and 5’4 average women in America
Remember piles aren’t that trust worthy because they only test so many people
5’9 is between average and tall…
i’m 5’8 and i describe myself as in between average and tall
This is called self sabotage, if you cant fit into an airplane seat that's an issue, if you break a bed after a week... I feel like that's you're own problem...
"the bones were wider than the seat of the chair" You're so funny girl. Keep on shining
The crowded elevator thing is so true. I lived in an apartment building for a few months and was terrified when it was during the busy hours. I would end up waiting till the rush was gone before going up to my floor just to avoid being crammed on an elevator and having people get super upset with me for my stomach accidentally touching them.
Regarding #6... I am not fat, but I am also stereotyped every single day and often not taken seriously because of how I look.
It's not just a fat thing to be judged...
So very true.
This. This right here.
have you tried putting moving straps under your mattress so you can rotate it more often? spinning the mattress can help eliminate some of the lumps and bumps in the mattress. also, cinder blocks/concrete blocks can work great for supporting a bed frame or eliminate the need for a bed frame while lifting the mattress from the ground. also, I don't know if you or any f your viewers deals with heat rashes/fold rashes which I did. for me, I got a standing mirror or attached a full length mirror that could be angled toward my bathroom mirror so I could treat my rashes better as well as keep an eye on any sores I got without the embarrassment of asking my partner at the time to help me with it. I also know riding roller coasters or amusement rides aren't that feasible if you are above a size 18. also, be warned! if you are slimming down but in the curvy sizes, the harnesses might not fit you properly and you can run the risk of falling out!! this happened to me at the state fair on a ride that flipped upside down and stayed there. I stomach was between "click" sizes of the harness and I had to hold on for dear life to not fall 3 stories to my death. be careful if you decide to go on a ride and you are a size 16 or larger, the harness might not be tight enough especially if your tummy is bigger than your upper body.
I was hoping she was gonna talk about verrrryyy serious. Things. Like. How do fat people wipe ??? My biggest struggle !!! And how does a fat person get up when rhey fall ans there is NOTHING AROUND??? I fell in my yard and rhere was nothing around to grab to help me up !! My step sons dog knocked me down. Bathroom is always an issue for me. I simply cant reach my butt. Yes I bought a stick thingy. Lets not even go there. This to me is serious stuff for fat people not a damn purse strap or a slippery bar stool
“Gravity is not kind to you on a barstool” omg same XD
This might sound dumb, but I feel like people not moving over a lot is because they are afraid they will offend? If a bigger person is trying to get through i try to move over as much as I possibly can, but I always feel bad and worry that I am offending them by giving them as much space as possible :(
why are 90% of the comments hateful! omg quit hiding behind your keyboards and be better people. just because she is complaing about things that are issues for her it doesnt mean she wants to stay that way or that she wants to be catered to (and if the opposite is true who cares..its her life).shes stating her feelings towards something that directly effects her just like you all do every single day. quit being so hateful. you are not perfect and pointing others flaws will not make you better
Brianna Crisel because her complaints are rediculus. She has decided to enjoy and embrace her size, beautiful. But realise there are consequences. Face reality.
Maybe she should’ve thought about the consequences of being fat before she had that extra slice of pizza. This whole video is ridiculous and unneeded, you don’t get to complain about something if you brought it upon yourself.
daddy donald dont you realise some people dont want to end up like this?
There are a lot of reasos very fard to control that make you fat including comforting eatibg which if you are going to say "stop eating" or other stuff is not easy.
People eat to cope with a lot of things very harsh on them and maybe they dont have other options.
You are fit, good for you.But your beautifull body doesnt cover your ugly heart.
Dont spread your hate over the internet.But of course you would not listen and more likely will try to offend me too but i dont care.
Besides, she is not even that fat, saw way worse.
She is very beautifull in her own way
You tell em!👏👏👏👏
Carla Petcu if “some people” don’t want to end up like this, then think before you eat
Those last few issues are also experienced by radicalized people however the difference is we can't change our skin tone
Being fat doesn't make a person, worth less or not worthy of respect. My Mom, is very hard on me. She's fat, too!
I understand how you feel 💯
I can relate to the whole chair situation. It sucks. Specially when your back starts to hurt since you can’t lean back and relax. Also when I can tell if a chair is weak I have to sit in an awkward angle and put more strain on my legs. Just to make sure i don’t break the chair lol.
The wide calf struggle is real! Powerlifting made my thighs and calves soooo much bigger. 😢
It's such a hard moment as a seating hostess when you realize that someone isn't going to be able to psychically fit into a booth and they're going to need a chair or the kind of booth that's a bench separate from the table so that it can move. I always feel so bad that the person is probably embarrassed.
It is good that you recognize that it is a possibility and anticipate the need for a different table or accommodation.
Why are y'all writing unnecessary think pieces in here? She's fat ok what's the problem? Make spaces more accessible to everyone
No. Maybe take care of your body. Don’t make things more difficult for other people because of YOUR bad choices. I’m overweight and in the process of losing weight. There’s nothing wrong with being fat, but you really have to consider your health and more.
Girl, I know what you're saying. I've broken so many beds, couches, and chairs it's not funny. It's scary to go places because I never know if I'm going to fit in the seating.
If you cannot control your own weight and a normal lifestyle, I wouldn't give you an entire company.
Kai T meh most of the CEOs and partners at my company are philandering alcoholics and hang out with their good old boys club at local strip joints while their wives are at home.. and I wouldn’t call that a “normal lifestyle“ either. But they’re also men and allowed to get away with it. I’ve worked with half a dozen firms and it’s the same everywhere too. Someone’s personal life doesn’t always have anything to do with how they run their business. Sometimes they overlap when they get sloppy.
As an over weight person who has started doing better... You can do it. Not every day is perfect but you should never stop trying to better yourself, make good choices and reward your self when earnt.
I would sympathize If it was a condition your born with like your forced to live with it ,but it isn't you can easily be healthy and not have to go through these things
The reason I hated my last job so much is because I worked the hardest out of anyone, I got the most shifts, came early, stayed late, was always super accommodating with the customers, never took a minute longer than my break allowed and generally just worked my ass off. I also got asked to train new employees 2 weeks after I started and they got recognized for doing the things I had figured out and taught them about. I never understood why I was looked past until you said it. Fat people aren't taken seriously, and now im seriously fucking pissed!
Thank you thank you. This is how i feel too. I could se myself when you said "purse strap". That made me smile.
On EBay the Lane Bryant shoes are all wide widths. Great bargains too. Try online stores Amerimark and Carol Wright for wide and extra wide width shoes and boots. Great for wide width womens and mens shoes.
if youre having these struggles bcs of your weight it is your own fault for not taking care of your health and eating too much . So do us all a favor and stop playing the victim . Stop blaming society or people in general bcs you cant stop eating . 🙄
The secret to the bed thing is to skip the bed frame, do double box springs, and a mattress. I highly recommend the Tempurpedic. It costs a damn fortune, but it is sooo worth it.
LOSE WEIGHT PROBLEMS SOLVED
Losing weight does not solve all problems.
DaniellaMcallister Losing weight would actually solve most of what you're complaining about here duh
"I don't want to rub my butt on someone's head." Same girl, same. Loved this one because you are hilarious and telling the truth about everything, from one "over 300 lb" person to another.
Honestly, I believe that there are a few things like seats that require a more inclusive design nowadays. Taller people cannot help being tall, however you can help being fat. I understand that there are a lot of reasons why someone might be overweight, and that for some people it is not a matter of choice. But, if being obese (let's call it by its name) were the reason to redesign absolutely everything, its promoting health issues. That's the real matter in this discussion: health. That said, nobody has the right to make fun of someone for their weight, or judge them or minimize their struggles just because they don't have the same ones. And more importantly, nobody has the right to tell someone else how to 'fix' their life.
mynameisalthea What if the person is working on losing weight... They still need to wear clothes, sit in chairs, etc. Even exercise equipment often has a laughable weight limit. It is so easy for normal people to judge and say just stop eating and workout 24 hours a day so you get skinny fast. But it just doesn't work that way. My nutritionist and nurse practitioner and everyone say you have to eat or your body will hold onto anything you DO give it. Which explains why I spent most of my life yo-yo starving myself and only ended up bigger each time. Yet, last year when I was more active, I actually lost more weight when I ate more... Even when I was sure I messed up. LOL Trying to get back to that, hoping once I adjust to having my fiance living with me I will be able to cut my appetite back again.. or at least walk more. LOL to be fair, I had been slipping before he moved in, but being around someone who is always hungry is hard to not end up snacking. I can see why people gain weight after they get married. LOL
Unfortunately, you're right... Some people don't have a choice in being fat. I gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant due to medical problems and a few years later ended up being diagnosed with lymphedema, which sucks the ever living life out of you. Being overweight and carrying 50ish lbs of extra fluid weight makes even walking a nightmare. Working out would be a luxury I wish I could be able to do, but because my doctor is afraid the fluid won't exit my body, instead just move from my legs to my abdomen and surround my heart and lungs, I can't work out and I barely eat. I'm so full of fluid, I don't have room to be hungry. I could explain myself all day, but I know I'll get trolled and told it's all my fault, an how horrible of a person I am, and that I should eat less cake (BTW, eww...)
Skinny girls break chairs too. I did it when I was only 120 lbs lol. So I know how embarassing that one is. FYI Danielle, I think you are beautiful, and do not allow haters to get at you, just fly by those mean remarks, and go for the ones that build you up! Everyone is every size under the sky, and we all deserve to be respected and cared about. I really do hate that being overweight is still acceptable to make fun of, to tease and make jokes about it. It is not correct, was never okay in my opinion, and should be against the law to joke about and tease someone about their weight.
"Problems people don't think of". If only you thought about taking care of your body and health...
Have we considered maybe you know...eating a salad? Like there have been multiple mentions of restaurants and bars, how about actually staying home as opposed to eating out, and literally just eating a healthy meal? Standard people fit on bar stools and LITERALLY don't think about breaking chairs. How do you let yourself get to a stage where you can't sit because you're afraid you'll break a chair?
I’m confused. Do skinny people seek out those types of videos to tell the youtuber: “loose weight” or...it’s mind blowing how many of those comments there are here
Yes I really think they have nothing better to do than write whatever hateful comments come to mind. I am just very thankful I have a strong enough mind to take it. If it was someone who wasn't they could cause some real damage.
BRAVADO GOT IT IN ONE !!! They can then feel a little bit superior, sad sods !
Danielle McAllister I have to apologize for them. This is just insane anyone think it’s ok to talk to strangers in this way. And honestly all you said was true. Although I grew up in another country and bc of it am one of those fatties who take no shit and will let anyone know. Some people act as if being fat, you lose basic human rights and entitlement to human decency. I didn’t see what you said as complaining but like the title said just numbering things like they are.
Danielle McAllister I see how those comments can get annoying after a while, but dont you kind of agree your life would be maybe a bit easier if you didnt have to worry about those kinds of things if you would lose weight to get to a normal size?
BRAVADO it’s the internet. Get over it
I've always been underweight/barely in a healthy weight range, and I never really thought about any of this stuff until I started dating my current boyfriend, who is overweight. The good part is that since he's overweight and I'm underweight, we usually equal out to an an average weight of two people xD
I don’t get why fat people have a problem with spending more money for bigger clothing. I never seen someone get upset paying more for a larger French fry.
I wouldn't have an issue if it wasn't usually butt ugly and ill fitting
Let's put it like this: If you were my sister I would be so worried about you, and also I know that if you eat that much - in order to get to that uncomfortable weight - it's because you are sad and you're using food to feel better. That is the truth no one talks about, you use food to suppress or calm down your emotions. It's about having an ADDICTION. So you need therapy, it's not about a diet to make you lose weight, it's about getting your life back because all the things you are loosing don't seem to matter, as long as you have the foot that you are addicted to. Where is this life going to lead you? Are you trying to die? That's what matters, forget fast diets because other assholes feel troubled by your appearance, the point is you have an addiction and the way it's going who knows: Diabetes, heart diseases, social isolation, having no mobility and dying young and feeling like crap all the time. YOU ARE SICK. YOU NEED HELP. THERE'S NOTHING POSITIVE ABOUT YOU TREATING YOURSELF LIKE CRAP. WAKE UP, PLEASE, BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE. GET YOUR LIFE BACK.
hold on. you say you're the equivalent of 2 or 3 people in an elevator, but one person in a bed? add an extra plus sized person could equal 5 people in bed. I'm not surprised the warranty is invalid 😕 you worry about seats breaking but not beds? I'm plus sized, but i think you're picking and choosing your gripes
Just subscribed today, Thankyou for being honest, so refreshing and real x
have you tried not being fat?
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much like your eating habits you cant get your emoji spam straight
Have you tried not being a douche?
Ok ...I understand but what can be done so you don't have all these problems anymore ?
I used to be 135kg and I know the struggle but realizing I needed to be more healthy is what helped me a lot it's not everybody else's fault hun ..
Watching this made me realise that my mother is indeed in deep denial, and I'm scared for her because I know I can't help her. She thinks it's all good because she doesn't have diabetes (yet). It's sad that she has to deal with this. Hopefully me losing weight can open her eyes. I wish you the best of luck in life, hopefully you can sort your problems out too.
Mattresses don’t last as long as they used to. This started a few years ago when mattress stores started popping up all over the place, when people started believing that foam was better than springs, and mattresses became one sided only. I call it profit-driven-downgrades.
Being fat is not a race/gender.... people talk about it like they have no choice
I just posted a question about a video for Try On shoes. I woman told me years ago that she buys mens shoes. Mens' shoes were more round toes and women's were more pointed which hurt her feet. An issue for me, we have mostly one bowling alley (other is too expensive for regular customers) that bathroom stalls are too small. A regular size customer has trouble getting into, and closing the door. I can't image a plus size person getting in there.
I can only imagine that reaching your healthiest BMI can seem daunting and unattainable, but I promise that it's within reach. You owe it to yourself to be the healthiest version of yourself; and to experience, at least once, being at the best level of fitness your body can reach. If you want a toned body, it's within reach if you are willing to dedicate yourself to the cause and put in the work.
The most valuable things in life should never be easy, the reward is all the better knowing that you worked hard to earn what you have. As you get closer to your ideal BMI you'll reap physical, psychological, and financial benefits. Everyone owes it to themselves to take good care of their bodies and minds. I believe if you channel your passion into this you will be successful. The problems you have now need not be suffered the rest of your life.
The best version of myself is well over my BMI. BMI charts are bull. If we used them for animals, rescues would be out of business without having any starved animals to use for their campaigns. I have been at and below BMI and in severe chronic pain because of it. I am now a good bit over.The extra pounds took a lot of the pain away.
You said you could be thin if you tried really hard. I don’t think that is true. I’ve lost weight a few times and I always go back to my bigger size. Some of us are meant to be fat. It has nothing to do with will power or life style. Our bodies want to be this size.
These comments just tear me up inside - so many judgemental and cruel people. If it's so easy to lose weight, don't you think we would have done it already? I have a sister who is overweight ever since she had her babies, and despite a healthy diet and vigorous exercise, she cannot lose it. She has been to many doctors who can't find anything wrong, but she simply cannot lose weight. I am overweight right now. I have a digestive disorder called Gastroparesis, which would normally make a person lose excessive amounts of weight and be unhealthily skinny, but for me it has done the opposite, I have gained and gained and gained. I went for months being unable to eat anything, basically living on Gatorade, and I still gained weight. Now coupled with the fact that my kidneys are failing and my body is retaining massive amounts of extra fluid, I am up to 240 pounds. I guess I don't deserve to have a happy or comfortable life because I am overweight. I don't deserve to have clothes or shoes that fit me, a comfortable bed to sleep in, or for people to just be courteous? I am so sad that the human race has come to this point, where people think they are better than someone else because of a difference in weight. You don't know a person's story, you don't know the struggles they have been through, and to attack and accuse is just wrong, and it's a form of bullying.
2 Blessed seriously! You just don’t know someone is fat “because they did this to themselves”! Like dude. I spent the day at seaworld today and it was hella crowded. The DIRTY looks you get and that feeling that your existence is “in the way”... crazy. Yet no one there knows that I have polycystic ovaries and Hashimoto’s thyroiditis with hypothyroidism, notorious conditions for extreme difficulty losing weight that these conditions put pounds on you. Nor do they see with their eyeballs that I have a spinal disease that prevents me from walking long distances at one time. So yes. I am fat. And I always laugh/cry when people tell me to “put the Big Mac down” (literally have never eaten a Big Mac in my life lol) or “just get off your ass and go for a walk” (I would LOVE nothing more than to walk the way you get to walk, asshole.) people are incredibly dense, and one day these same assholes will have a medical problem and then hopefully they will learn about empathy lol
And even if they aren't fat because of health problems, they still deserve a happy life. And it's still their own business and they're still allowed to make video's that are obviously relatable to a lot of people.
So.... worrying for someone’s health is wrong?
And sure, it’s possible to be naturally overweight, but it’s not by much. So it’s almost always a health issue
I'm just concerned about those people claming beeing severly overweight is healthy for all people, not slightly chubby but obese. It's simply bad for your joints, heart and so on. Same with Anorexia destroying your body, a thing people gett shamed for aswell. Of course some people have health issues like you and struggle in their own right, but thats not more then maybe 10% of obese people. For most people it is lifestyle related, even if you have medical issues. My mom has like everything you can imagine, diabetes 1 , no thyroid (auto-immune), had cancer is on several medications and can barely move but she manages to loose weight with my help atm just by tracking how much she actually needs, consuming less calorically dense foods and some walks. It's hard for her but she might still live in the future to see her grandchildren so i think thats worth it. Not everyone can loose weight easily but its not impossible for the majority, if you really make ur mind up. Just my oppinion and i dont think fat people deserve rudeness whatsoever, they are just humans afterall ey. But in the case of them beeing my friends i encourage them to change some of their habits if they like, which i think is reasonable to do if you care about someone. Having nice clothes and a comfy bed is reasonable, but i dont believe you would encounter most of thoseif at a reasonable weight, with my mom beeing 300 lbs ( now 270 to be fair) and easily finding those in germany at least. I dont mean this as a hate and i bet some will get offended, but obese isnt healthy, even if you feel great now. If less people used excuses there would be less mockery , then the real issues ( lifestyle,psychological or medical) could be adressed. (excuse my poor english but i felt like saying sth.)
99 Bottles of Bleach could you learn to be nice and say something positive about this girl?? Her name is Danielle, she's a person too who lives and breathes and I'm sure she reads all these comments. Are you truly happy with yourself for hurting her?
how did you get your eyelashs so long??? so pretty
They just grow that way. Also the it cosmetics super hero mascara is amazeballs.
Can y’all stop fucking being rude she likes the way she is their is people that is overweight, skinny and different like I can’t see out of my left eye but I’m fine with it don’t fucking tell people to lose weight or be someone who they arent like will y’all like it if someone made fun of you for something like cmon think of how people feel when you say stuff about them
When I had to ask for a seat belt extender I was in a tiny 6 person puddle jumper plane. We could all see the pilots and the cockpit and I had to call out loudly, can I have the extender please? It was passed back to me person to person. Uber embarrassing
I've heard of people buying and bringing their own extender so that they don't have to ask. Might be an option if you travelling again.
I'm so sorry that happened 😔
Omg Your so pretty and one of the sweetest people ever. I never thought about these issues and I’m so happy your raising awareness ❣️
I’m 5’8”, 210 ish pounds, 215 on a bad day. And I understand of course some of these things. But my body isn’t much like yours because I’m so tall. Honestly, I’m constantly losing weight and gaining, I used to weigh more though, and I never will again. These problems are not genuine problems, they’re things you Caused to your own self. Things we cause if we refuse to take charge of our own bodies. You’re beautiful, you’re intelligent, you’re worthwhile whether big or small, but you should never find comfort in heart disease, diabetes, insecurity, or broken beds and chairs. You should love yourself enough to take care of yourself. Lie does not mean neglecting your health to spare your feelings.
I feel your pain. 5’11”. Size 11 shoe. You are spot on girl.
No one mentions thin girl problems either :(
Trying to find pants that fit.
It's hella hard and I have to wear a belt with most pants which sucks! There are like no size 2's!!!! So I'm always wearing larger pants.
People always trying to pick you up. I hate this and no one should be touching others without permission. People thinking you're too skinny or anorexic. Roller coasters can be scary coz if you're small and thin the bar always feels lose.
I think you should make a video about it. I know of most of these things through working at fashion shows and talking to a lot of models but I am sure for people who have never really thought of the alternate perspective it could be quite enlightening. Also the roller coaster point it terrifying.
It’s so sad that so many people are relating to this, literally what is going on in the world ffs
this video is so important. I'm actually very small, so I've never personally had to consider these things, but my mum has and so have many others who are close to me. I don't think people would be so cruel to someone with, say, Anorexia... they wouldn't say "but are you trying to gain weight, though?" and things similar to that (not comparing/contrasting you to an anorexic, but I think it's a decent example of double standards when it comes to bodies on opposing ends of the spectrum). People are they way they are for myriad reasons, and I think as human beings we need to consider this more often, and perhaps exercise some empathy or at least open our minds a little. Double standards suck.
When you cant fit in chairs or seat belts and you break your bed frame don't you ever think that maybe YOU might be the problem. Not people refusing to accommodate for our unhealthy behaviour. If you have to worry about crushing a chair with your ass or getting bruises because you sat too long then newsflash its time to make a change. Your bed didn't break because it was poorly made. It broke because you exceeded the weight limit. You're complaining about things purely because you are fat and you don't want to do anything about it. If you just lost the weight and put in the effort you wouldn't have ANY of these problems.
I have cerebral palsy (mobility issues) and I share soo many of these struggles. I hate resteraunts that have tight walking spaces because I manage to bang my leg or hip and end up getting covered in bruises. I completely understand tbh