Biggest Red Flag A Woman Have On The FIRST Date
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I had a date who had a huge Soviet flag on the wall.
That was a big red flag.
In multiple senses of the term…
I hate commies so much oh my God
"What's your favorite T- tank type?"
@@davhot4107 t-tank?
@@davhot4107 one that’s been blown up by an ammo storage breach
Clearly the biggest red flag is talking about Star signs 😭😂
Naw it’s when they a rude ah b
connor what are YOU doing here?
hes giving his input, what else
"Sorry I can't be your girlfriend because your a scr- *shows video on how a m1991 standard issue gun fires*
A commentary youtuber watches reddit videos and actually enjoys it
"You should be okay with a woman not telling you she has a kid and bringing said kid on your first date without asking in advance" is certainly a take.
If she had asked in advance and he knew she had a kid, he would be the bad guy, which is what I hope the commenter thought (and missed the last part)
I think this narrator's deranged tbh.
@@apinkchameleon Even if she had asked in advance, thats still not something you do. You dont bring a kid to your first date, thats common sense
Believe it or not, I have been there. And she even had the audacity to suggest that I should pay for her drink and the kid's. I'm not usually that unpolite, but people like that deserve what I did, ghosted and blocked for good
You should never bring your kid in a date. Hell you should inform the guy that you have a kid.
Had my first prolonged conversation with a female coworker who just started. Within minutes I knew her entire former history with sexual abuse and how it was her brother and later her boyfriend responsible. Glad she felt as comfortable enough to share but damn, can’t just spring that on someone.
That's called trauma dumping, it's a dick move.
Being sexually abused *IS NOT* a substitute for a personality
I don't agree with the whole "being comfortable to share" thing. I've had people in my life avoid therapy to have their trauma as a personality trait, it gets old once they start bringing up details of their past traumatic events at every available opportunity. Best way to deal with them, tell them to go to therapy instead of trauma dumping on everyone.
@Cool Cat I agree, but the sad part is these people will actively refuse/avoid therapy because they have nothing else going for them besides their trauma and trauma dumping.
@@nibbacheese3787 Funnily enough, this is hardly the first time I’ve talked to a girl like this. I’ve talked about it with some friends/family and they’ve all basically told me what you said.
When your friend continues to hit on you and tell you they love you even after you've made it clear you are uncomfortable with this and their girlfriend has said the same.
I'm sorry Alex, but that's not "being poly", that's just cheating.
is she aware that being in a polyamorous relationship needs to include all parties wanting to be in a poly relationship? LOL
Poly relationships really really rub me the wrong way
@@hihungryimdad women don't understand that little bit of important information 😆
*Saying it as a survivor of 12 years of marriage to a Poly woman who really was a jizz gargling carousel rider*
@@richardcostello360 as a women, i do understand that information. I'm also sorry for the marriage you were in, I hope you can find better person for you. :)
@@hihungryimdad I did find a lovely lady who has a more ethical view of Polyamory 😁
We don't live together because I don't think I would ever be anything but monogamous but I'm happy for her to have her other partners because it's her place she does it in rather than my house.....my bathroom..... and my marital bed 😆
One of the girls I dated very briefly in high school kept telling me these stories of her abusive ex boyfriend who lived in another state. She would go on and on about how he was stalking her, threatening her, she would tell me to "get her out" of places we went because she saw him sneaking around the corner, etc etc. Turned out that the abusive ex boyfriend never existed, she made the whole thing up, and after me and her broke up, she started telling everyone the exact same abuse stories, only this time, instead of saying it was her ex, she would say that it was me. About ten years later, I was watching the local news, and saw her face on the TV screen. The police had arrested her for beating a two year old baby to death who she was babysitting.
Be careful out there, guys.
Holy shit I dated someone that did the exact same thing (not the killing a baby part) but everything else was exactly the same. These people are copies and pastes of eachother. Idk maybe if I wait 10 yrs I might see her on the news for the same thing, who knows
Damn !!!!!
Stories like this makes me glad that i'm still single.
@@nickbrothwood1238 FWIW, I don't think most women are like that. Not that they're *perfect* mind you. But they don't all have BPD or whatever that was.
@@jonadabtheunsightly not all but most have issues which can give you only headaches , when i was young being alone was bad, but now it is a blessing , i keep my money and sanity
One of the first things this girl said to me was "I'm so glad you're not like other black guys."
Whataporra
Probably one of the biggest red flags ever
Sounds about white
Ouch
Hol up
6:00 "she is ALWAYS carrying another man's child" is an incredible misread and yet still appropriate to the situation.
19:35 No.. His date should’ve told him about kids, and, you know, fixed a babysitter? It’s like a list
1. Bring up you have kids
2. Try to get a babysitter
3. Fail
4. Delay the date a day or two to fix one. Tell OP in advance
5. Fix one
6. Date
I agree. While the OP may have not handled this particularly well, that's not something you leave aside. I get the "If I say I have a kid most men run away" but discovering it later on can be a bigger disservice, making a guy who would have been okay with kids run away because you apparently already can't be trusted with big things like that.
Exactly
@@BrutalJambon how did he not handle it well, he was polite and even gave her money for her and her kid should he have bought the whole restaurant for her?
@@privateuser3726 Because if he told it to her like his story says, he was kind of a dick about it and not polite at all
@@BrutalJambon well she was a dick for springing the surprise on him and not ringing in advance. Also she's probably a horrible mum as she prioritised a man instead of her kid.
I've always said the easiest judge of someone's character is how they treat customer service people and animals.
The thing with kids is that it's fine if they have kids, some people don't want to deal with that, if you lie about that though even to the people who would be fine with that would get uncomfortable because of the lying part
I agree: having kids while trying to date isn't a bad thing. Lying about _not_ having kids however is somewhat bad, but you might have reasons. Lying, then bring them to the date to get them a meal isn't even you trying to date, you're just here to feed your kids (nothing wrong with feeding your kids) by making someone else who had no idea of their very existence pay for it, and then potentially, as it wasn't said but might ended up happening, guilt-tripping the person into doing so by saying "how dare you", "look at them, they were expecting that meal and now they'll be sad" or "now they're gonna starve", is very, _very_ bad.
@@juliengosselin4277 I mean, what would be the reason to lie about not having kids? To try to get people who wouldn't date you knowing you have kids. I don't know about everyone, but for me even if I were alright with something (I don't want to deal with kids, so substitute pretty much anything here) and you lie about it I'd just leave, because from there on I can never trust you to not lie about anything.
I feel like not mentioning it before the *first* date, is maybe just a case of "the whole point of dating is to learn about each other and no, I hadn't told you every single thing yet, so sue me." But yes, if they hide something like that on an ongoing basis, that's a problem.
Attempting to hide the fact that they have *parents* on the other hand, is normal behavior for teenagers.
THIS! This happened to me! I love kids and want some of my own, and he even knew that but still hid it from me until after I moved in with him. Never doing that again. 🤦🏻♀️
@@jonadabtheunsightly you don't have to deal with parents/siblings of someone you are dating, not comparable situation
When she has an entire conversation about how she's still uncertain whether she's in love with her best friend.
Like wow, yeah... I'm feeling real good about how you'll probably leave me on a whim because of that guy.
Or all she talks about is her ex.
Is his name Tyrone ThunderDong?
@@richardcostello360 No, it was some guy named Pete who'd already dumped her twice. First time was because he wanted to be with someone else, second time he just straight up told her he didn't love her.
If she says *all* of her exes were abusive, odds are good that SHE'S the abusive one.
Learned that one the hard way.
It's kinda the relationship version of "If someone thinks everyone else is an @sshole, they might be the @sshole".
I learned late! I was abusive at first by fighting back, but when I stopped hitting her back I noticed she would be more violent. A few other women after would also get extra violent when they realized I wouldn't fight them. Run fast as possible!
Or maybe they are abusive but she has a bad habit of choosing these men and having sex with them instead of taking accountability in the type of men she attracts and sleeps with.
I had an online acquaintance (according to her, best friend) like that once. Very manipulative, and I knew that from the start but put up with some of it because it wasn't that big a deal and I'm pretty laid back mostly and can carry on a conversation with nearly anyone as long as they have some meaningful interests (which she did, kinda); but I do have limits and I do also know how to say no, so whenever she tried to go too far, I just *didn't* go along. For example, when she tried to tell me how to configure my software, or what to change my nick to, yeah, no, that wasn't happening. (I have irssi set up exactly the way I want it, thanks.) She always got mad and gave me the silent treatment for a few hours when I didn't comply with her whims, which did not bother me at all (I was only interacting with her at all, to be nice; I told her this repeatedly, with subtle hints at first, then not-so-subtle hints, then directly, and eventually with brutal radical honesty; she did not believe me, because of *course* everyone would necessarily be obsessed with her; whatever, lady). Eventually she was hateful to enough other, less laid-back people that she got banned or otherwise driven out from all the channels I frequented (that she knew about); she tried to get me to follow her into other channels that I wasn't interested in. I didn't.
Could never figure out how old she was. She knew enough older pop culture references to have been Gen-X, but never acted a day over 14 one single time in all the months we interacted. Not that I asked; it didn't matter.
@@kinorris1709 "If you smell sh!t once, check your shoe. If you smell sh!t *all the time,* check your pants."
Met a stranger who replied to one of my ice breaker messages on plenty of fish. Met for coffee and over the course of a 20 minute conversation I learned she was unemployed, living in an addiction center, mentally ill, spends money on fortune tellers so she can communicate with her sister who committed suicide, believed she was phantom pregnant as some sort of religious experience, was almost proud of the fact that she was hospitalized for overdosing recently and more...
Sounds just like my auntie but instead of fortune telling and phantom pregnancy its bear and a lot of kids im mean as in 8 and more on the way
She does it for child support the 2nd oldest take care of the youngest tje oldest just dumps tje work on the rest the 3rd and 4th youngest 3rd gets annoyed and just wants to play game 4th is insane 6th is a spoiled little brat that throws a tantrum over little things 7th is 100× worse then 6th doesn't do anything and her main diet is candy and little bit of food my cusin says her teeth are rotten if she sees candy she will try to get it she is the worse little child i ever heard of if you have a thing she wants it witch makes me want to give her vegimite see how the anus likes it and the 2 youngest who are twins just lay there immobilized from over weight and tight clothes because the mother doesn't do anything and thats called child neglect police wont do anything nore will child care the mother cant live without not working she never worked in her life nor does she want to when the kids get taken away she says shes "suicidal" she cheated on my uncle many times most the kids aren't his no matter how many times she sends him to prison for "assault" he goes back assault is in "" because she was on top of him beating the living hell out of him and he was unconscious unresponsive on the ground with several bruises grab marks and more he is insane and she is mentally unstable how much worse can a couple get oh she also breaks up with him many many many times and none of em want to take care of the kids
MeNtAl hEaLtH
@@KingdomKillaz117 is something i lack
DAMN
That's 'Plenty of Fish' for you.
Learned the hard way that if all her exes are abusive, she might just be the abusive one. Glad to have gotten out of there
When the conversations she starts sound suspiciously like the things HR asks you at a job interview.
"I want someone who'll treat me like a queen"
Men have feelings, too, you know
we just don't always show common ones
@Esh Nope, because not everyone agrees on what "treating each other right" means. Some people only remember "treating each other right" when it's convenient for them. And some people are so messed up that they think they, or others, don't deserve to be "treated right" at all.
It is the code for: Be my slave.
@@evanhuizenga8626 in fact is simple, respect and caring, but most of times respect is the first to disappear.
Like Ru Paul?
Like how Henry VIII treated his wives?
If a woman tells you she wants unprotected sex and it's okay because she can't get pregnant for some reason or other... run away. It's amazing how stupid and gullible some guys can be when they get thirsty enough.
EDIT: It's not a problem I've had personally, but I've seen it happen to other guys. I never gave one of them an "I told you so," as that's just salt on the wound, but a bad outcome was always predictable.
I've personally had friends who purposely tried to get pregnant to trap a man. It didn't work (obviously) and to this day weirds me out. We aren't really friends
aids
Odd, as a woman with a Birth Control Implant, I wouldn't risk unprotected sex with someone I just met. Condoms don't just prevent pregnancy, they can protect from STDs too.
What's with that take on the guy who was upset a woman both brought her child on the first date and didn't even tell him about it being the problem? He was not the bullet in that situation nor the bad guy.
First off, taking kids to a date is ALWAYS a red flag, no matter if she couldnt find a babysitter. Those kids dont need to get attached to every man their mom dates and its just wierd.
Secondly, you judging op and saying he couldnt possible been on that many dates is weirdly judgement al of someone you havent ever met.
And lastly, you said that someone should give their dates a break because he said that the not like other girls type of people are weird. You clearly have never met someone like that.
I'm so confused why he said that about the second one. He just vented alot why is he critqued?
On a first date anyway. Lots one thing if there is a relationship and the kid knows the guy their mom is dating, but even then you have to check with the guy if it’s ok.
Yeah I agree. I've listened to this narrator for a bit now but I guess I didn't notice just how much of his own (garbage) commentary he puts in these. I don't think I'll be listening to much of his content going forward. It's a shame since he does a decent job of reading the stories even if there is no audio cue to separate stories.
The fact is they will be attached later anyway, it is the burden of dating single mothers, and the man will be the last thing in priority.
If somebody says "I'm not like OTHER girls," they're usually worse. *MUCH* worse
My favorite first date red flag story was when I went on a date with a chick to the local karaoke bar and she disappeared on me to the back of the bar with a group of dudes smoking a blunt; So I disappeared on her and fucked off back to my apartment
and played Castlevania for the next 4 hours. (I'm pretty sure she tried to call and text me at some point later on but I didn't even bother reading the texts. I value my time, and so does Richter Belmont.)
It wasn't the worst date I've been on. The WORST date I've been on had another awful brat woman but 0% Castlevania.
Ahhh, memories…. I went on a first date with a woman who told me how she wants to be independent and especially on a first date will insist on separate checks at the restaurant. We went to a restaurant and the waiter asked how we want to pay. I told her to split the bill. The next day I was insulted via email that I did not pay the entire bill. Ok, lesson learned and that was my last date.
I mean if they want to be independent why ar they even on a date in the first place
That's awful....IAM so very sorry....but I do believe people should always split the bill.....i don't agree that a man should pay!
@@lydiapetra1211 You can tell if a man or woman asking you to pay is just freeloading when they either order a big feast or order something much more expensive that you ordered and that would not be so bad if they actually ate the food 90% of the time more than half the food is left on the plate.
they order more than one thing as well then dare to tell you to hurry up and eat when they not even half done since they not paying they don't care about money wasted i always order the cheapest things i can see when someone else is order or at the most the same as what they ordered if they insist i try it.
Biggest red flag: when they expect you to “take care of them” despite being more well off than you. It’s like, “Ma’am, I am 18, broke, unemployed, in college, and I have enough issues and traumas on my own that I’m still working through. I’m not going to babysit a 23 y/o with a rich daddy just because you won’t use a microwave.”
Bonus points if they shame you for being “weak” since you’ve been single up until that point when really you’re just in the most vulnerable place in your life.
If I’m on a date and I find out she’s married it’s over that second
Hold on, what was he supposed to do at the Dennys? Rip her money out of her hand so he can pay for her? If she keeps saying she’ll pay for herself then she is saying: “I’ll pay for myself” there should be no secret message.
Yeah and a lot of people get genuinely uncomfortable about letting other people pay for them. Personally I wouldn’t let anyone pay for me on a first date. That’s a thing people who are close to you can do and it’s nice, but a stranger? That’s different.
She was expecting him to be s mind reader which is a huge red flag
@@MrCompassionate01 she was testing and lying to him at same time lying about paying for herself when she did not intend to do so and wanted him to do it anyways
As we sat down at the restaurant on our first date she started talking about how many kids we should have. She was 100% serious. This was a blind date set up by a mutual friend. I have never seen neither of them since.
On a 1st date with a woman while I was in my mid 20's, I find out the following:
1. No car.
2. No drivers license.
3. She's divorced.
4. She had 3 kids.
5. "Had" is because her ex-husband has sole custody of the kids.
6. She doesn't even have visitation.
7. She's unemployed.
8. Her place is pretty crummy.
9. It isn't "her place". She's subletting a room.
10. She looked at least 10 years older than she says she is.
There were more. But it's been a couple decades and I've forgotten. Needless to say, I chose to not go on a second date with her. Even young, stupid, and horney, I knew that I wanted no part of that mess.
Did you check her arms? if you find pinches it's probably a meth user.
I would have the 3 kids and divorced at the top of the list not the car if its a city area no car is fine even if your working due to good public transport.
Nah man, not disclosing you have kids is a dealbreaker. Not everyone wants kids.
Really weird when she tells you that she loves you after speaking to her over the course of only 3 days. Turned out she already planned to get into a relationship with somebody else the next day. Same girl a few months later ended up in the back of a police car after the town's police were tipped off of a vehicle with 2 men and 1 female. Not sure if she committed a crime or was trying to run away from home after she was convinced that the love of her life would ride off into the sunset with her.
I got one, trauma venting from the start. I had a guy I was dating who from the first couple dates used to either compare me to his exes or talking about the bad experiences in his past relationships. Like yeah talking about prior relationship is good but not if that's all you can talk about and especially not during the first dates.
Yooo...this is so wild. Men really do have it rough. I apologize on behalf of these women haha 😄
Eh there's crazy people on both sides. I don't doubt these stories, but I have plenty of stories of shitty things men have done to me
It's no joke a lot of men pretend to be gay because they don't want to marry because to many entitled crazy b1tches out the same b1tches that talk sh1t about the actually nice girls/women spreading lies about the women that actually are not entitled and can do things themselves without needing a man to pay for everything and treat them like a baby.
@Empty Glass Dumbest comment.
You don't need to apologize. You didn't do anything.
My cousin told me a story that he found a date in Bumble. They hit it off he told me everything checks out for him until she asked what is he Majoring in college, he replied Astronomy, 1 more year and he'll graduate. He told me he called it off when she said "OMG Im a Libra what do I have for my fortune"
I was dating this one girl who said that she hates gay people. I thought to myself cringing hard "I could make this work" ... I could not
The correct response to I want to be treated like a queen is to merry her to the neighbor to seal a political alience and a trade deal.
Lmaooo
@Anjali a Queen is just a Princess after the arranged marriage went through
Not sure if these qualify as red flags but :
- looking somewhat different from her photo on the app
- looking away from you from minute 1, not initiating talk, and answering with 1-liners.
- deleting the match from the app 2 minutes before you were supposed to meet
- arriving 5 minutes late and announcing that she "forgot to bring her wallet". And bringing up that she has a 10 year-old kid that was mentioned nowhere before.
- actually suggesting to go to my place 5 minutes after meeting. Sure was a win in a certain way, but I don't like being blamed later for a woman having an argument with a boyfriend I hadn't been told existed.
so not only wanted a free meal for herself but wanted you to feed her kids as well that why she alone no one wants a freeloader.
@@basillah7650 Nah... she just wanted a fuck-buddy... which I was glad to be, for a couple of times... but she later blamed me for her cheating on her boyfriend with me, after her boyfriend discovered she had cheated.
I was paying like, 73% more attention to the sea of thieves gameplay than the words
So I wasn't the only one
With the Army story, “You don’t need to wear protection because I’m on birth control”? Oh boy, how many a young soldier has fallen for that one and winds up marrying the girl just so she gets the extra family benefits in his paycheck.
Then he’ll go on deployment while she sleeps around with half the base. Once he gets back, she’s cleaned out his house, his bank account, and only left him divorce papers. Then she goes back out into the wild to start the process all over again.
You’d be surprised how often this happens in base towns. This guy dodged a bullet.
Or several lol
I’m not a girl but I prolly raise lots of red flags on dates
Edit: guys stop fighting in the comments
And one is that pfp
@@Bibi_Dude aw hell naw what does it say about me?
@@philleotardo7016 the person pulling about a dictionary that rivals the Bible explaing why a joke doesn't make sense
*Hey, I like the pfp*
@@Jahito_EBT yeah and you're nobody
Okay here is my wall of text with my own little experience.
I haven't had _that_ many dates with total strangers, all of my real relationships and regular s*xfriends have been with people I knew as friends before. All of these "first time meeting" dates I had were via dating apps. I can't say that _any_ of them went particularly good, and basically the only ones that "went somewhere" were the handful of "dates" where I wasn't trying to get a new partner but rather when both parties new from the get go it was only a _scheduled adult fun time_ .
Maybe it's me, I'm totally up to accept it was coming from me if that was actually the case, but I clearly remember 3 of those (real) dates being SUPER awkward and boring because the other person wasn't talking at all. I was always the one trying to get a new subject going, and was only getting one word answers and such. I feel like these people were basically here for their weekly free meal with a rando from a dating app, like we see a lot in these "bad date testimonies" threads.
I remember one of them more vividly than the others because it was an actual red flag for me. A bit of background for this story: I'm a guy, she was a girl, both mid twenties at the time. It was a first date from a dating app, but I was really hopeful for this one because we talked _a lot_ on the app for 2 weeks before it and we were really hitting it up, having a lot in common, liking a lot of the same things, having the same humor and references... All around I felt like we had a good chemistry, and talking to her _everyday at length_ for this couple of weeks felt really easy, natural and enjoyable. I felt like this was going to finally be my lucky break after a lonely phase that was starting to drag for too long.
First we went to get a drink - and even tho it was this girl's idea in the first place, she didn't get _anything_ to drink at all, saying only "no thanks I don't want anything" to my inquiries, and I drank in almost complete silence, getting no back and forth *whatsoever* with the convo. I'm someone who's really really socially anxious to begin with, so this was pure torture for me. I was really making an effort to not be the awkward and silent one because I really believed in this date but it was backfiring pretty hard on me.
After that, we had decided in advance to go the cinema - which was also in complete silence, might as well have come alone and sat beside a stranger, but at least I was able to watch a good movie and be distracted for 2 hours (we saw Whiplash, it was really good) . After that, the night was still quite young (10 p.m) because we caught an early evening seance, and so I don't really know why -considering what happened until that point- but I was decided to still try and get this date somewhere, because I really did liked her from our text convos.
So, while going back to our respective cars in the parking lot (we came separately), I tried to throw some ideas for anything else - getting a bite, going to the mall, going to another bar... But just like in the bar from the beginning, I only got "No thanks I don't feel like doing anything else" as answer. So when we arrived at our car, I didn't see what I could do beside politely tell her good night and go back home in my car. It was finally the end of this social torture for me, and though I was disappointed, I didn't really think much more of it - some people aren't meant for each others at all, and first dates very often fizzle into nothing.
I honestly don't know if this was all because she was even more socially anxious than me, but I don't really think so, this never came up on her side when I did warned her I could be awkward and anxious with someone I never met before, and from what I gathered at the time, she really seemed like she was an extrovert, going out a lot with friends, having a number of exes, was popular in high school, etc.
But later this same evening when I was just getting home, she messaged me again on the dating app, and instantly started ranting on and on about how I lead her on, how I was "like every other men", how I should have told her before that I wasn't interested in her, etc etc. This was said without any prompt on my part nor even any answer in between each of these "accusation". I was utterly confused. How did I lead her on when we never talked about anything else than going on a first date with a drink and a movie? How was I supposed to tell her I wasn't really interested before even the first date? I never really got any straight answers for all of this, even though I tried to explain what happened from my point of view, tried to ask what was she actually waiting for, etc. After that evening I just stopped talking to her completely, and she did the same.
To this day I don't know what prompted her to act this way after _she_ was the one who didn't seem like she wanted to be here at all during the date and wasn't interested in me at all when in person, why she completely flipped and changed after this and wasn't anything like the sweet, easy-to-talk-to girl I knew and actually liked a lot during the previous weeks. But I feel like I dodged a crazy bullet by not trying to excuse her crazy and angry rant, nor pursue this any further.
I have a guess about what happened. My guess is that she’s socially anxious and has a strong belief that people don’t like her- regardless of anything. My suspicion is that when she was talking with you by text, she wasn’t feeling fear, because there is that remove, and so she was open. But when she was with you in person, I am guessing that she was petrified, and locked in fear. She was (I suspect) rehearsing stories in her mind about “people only PRETEND to like me,” and decoding everything to match that story. By evening time, she had convinced herself that you hate her, and must be just trying to use her for sex and had no genuine feelings for her. And then she went away and unloaded on you.
That’s just a guess I have. I can’t know obviously.
When my daughter was about ten years old, she developed this deep seated conviction that a group of male friends of hers didn’t like her. I happened to know them very and knew that they absolutely ADORED her. No question about it. But I think she was traumatized by “girl games” - the very strange ways that girls can fuck with each others head at a young age, and, I am sorry to say, I didn’t know how to protect her. I still see how this profound distrust carried through to her present day, much later on. The behavior you described looked like what I saw in my daughter: sudden inversion, sudden terror, no direct discernible cause.
I think if you are going to date or befriend someone like this, you have to know a little about what you are seeing, and be prepared to take nothing personally, and coach your friend a little bit on “please don’t believe everything you think.” Challenging today, in an environment where the “gas-lighting” narrative is so strong, and the message is essentially: “Believe everything that you think or feel.” At which point I think all you can say is pretty much: “Well, I care about you, and my door is open to you any time you’d like to talk, should that arise.” Some times there is no solving it, and people just have to figure it out and walk away from the trauma.
@@LionKimbro I'll never know for sure and that's a possibility, but I honestly don't think that was it. Like I said, I'm anxious socially too, I know what it "looks like". She wasn't having trouble talking or anything like that, she was looking downright bored and disinterested just like other girls I had on a first date before that were here for a free meal. (again it's possible, I guess, that _this_ was her way of showing social anxiety but I really doubt it)
Then, when she went on a rampage via the app's DMs after the date, all she said made no sense and was very mean for no reason at all considering that, yes we didn't talk much, but I was very polite and caring all the way. I haven't detailed the messages she sent me afterwards, I guess I should have, but it was insults and rants on things that never happened and when I tried to talk about how the date went from my point of view, she just started twisting my every actions and words, kinda like a mean girlfriend who's just trying to invent non-existing issues and make them her boyfriend's fault for drama and to get him to apologize for things he didn't do.
I would have had NO issues working with someone who was just dealing with anxiety issues, like I said I've had them all my life too and I know how it feel. But she basically flipped from one personality to another, and with everything she said to me without any real reason, there was absolutely no reason for me to try and pursue this. She's the one who first decided there and then that I was a monster and that she would never talk to me again, anyway.
She may have had a ghost writer-a well meaning bestie who who wanted her friend to be happy with a good guy.Besties sometimes happen to be blindsided and do loads of wishful thinking.Another idea- a borderline personality disorder.Maybe you have watched Fatal Attraction with Glen Close-a textbook BL personality disorder in full swing.
That hells angels story reminds me of a story my dad told me. He was in high school and asked a girl out. So he goes to pick this girl up from her house. She comes outside with her father. She gets in his car and the father, in a nice business suite hands her a bag of cash saying "have a great time you two." My father now very nervous to have all this cash in the car inquiries what her father does for a living. She responds with "oh that? He works for the mob from time to time."
Needless to say there wasn't a second date.
The girl is probably rigth tho. Organized mobs and bands have lawyers working exclusive for them.
Your seriously going at OP because he wasn’t comfortable with the women bringing her kid to the date?? So when men set boundaries it’s wrong? Get a grip
I’m listening to this while I play a game and the “3 wacky numbers on the back of you card” made me laugh 😂
**EA joins the call**
you can generally tell how bad of a person they are by how they treat customer service workers children and pets (basically anyone considered beneath them)
Never pay for someone you don't even know. You pay for someone when you already know that they want to be in a relationship with you and are serious about it.
I follow my instinct, it is never wrong and it's why I'm still single
Once went out with a girl that went on a long rant about gay marriage. I just told her, “I fully support everyone’s right to do what they want to do. I don’t think we are going to work out.”
I don't go on many dates, but a red flag would be her being interested in me. I just don't think it's a good idea to reveal so quickly that she has bad judgment.
Something something "haha self-deprecating jokes are all the hype"
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I will admit that those kinds of jokes are quite common. I'd say mine is about 50/50. Might not necessarily be a red flag, but I just have a hard time believing anyone would be interested.
Yo this narrator is proper out of touch. What bizarre negative opinions on how relationships work
Love your pfp
Simping for evil women
Had a girl send me her credit card information thinking should could buy me to date her.
Had another say she’ll kill me if I don’t get back with her n threatening me to stay with her or she’ll kill herself
Please tell me you called the police, EMS.
@@mztweety1374 unfortunately no. I just blocked her n she disappeared
had to deal with the second one 5 days ago but instead of suicide it was self harm, got out of that shit as quickly as i could and it was a shame since i was with her for 9 months but not everything works out
@@Sk-Esskay Always call the authorities or their families if they make those threats. It could keep them safe and you out of jail if they do something. Plus that American ambulance bill will be a serious wake up call. Had to go to ER from work because of kidney stones yay. 800.00 ambulance bill. The place was about two miles away👎
@@mztweety1374 i live in uk so ambulance/hospital bills aren't a problem and i just blocked her and am currently in the process of forgetting about her, turns out the day before i broke up with her she started spreading rumours about me to half of my college and her parents to the point her dad called me threatening to call the police.
> 22:35
My guy you know EXACTLY one low-detail anecdote about this persons life how do you get off being so smugly sure?!
I dont like people who base their personalities on zodiac signs,
Just because your a virgo doesnt excuse you from running over that child.
R/cursedcomments
I beg your pardon?
It depends primarily on two factors.
1. How strong is she?
2. What's the wind like?
Since we are talking about the biggest flag that could be raised, we should assume that the flagpole is made from the lightest possible materials and that the flag occupies the entire vertical span of the flagpole above where it is held. Lets assume the flagpole weighs 3 kg for every meter of length, and the flag weighs 0.5 kg for every square meter.
Assuming no wind, this is a problem of weight and balance, and the main contributor to the weight is the flagpole. I've seen untrained women come into crossfit gyms and lift on their first day, I'd say a typical healthy untrained woman could barbell shoulder press 12kg, and that seems like a good upper bound, since i think its easier to shoulder press a barbell than to raise an unwieldy flag, even though raising a flag doesn't require locking out the arms. I think its reasonable to expect this "average" woman to be able to raise a flag that's 2m tall and 2.5m wide with no wind. Thats a red flag with a total area of 5 square meters.
Elite female lifters could raise much larger flags and I'll try to get into that later, but I'm already late to work.
#33 First dates are also first impressions. When your first impression is somebody being incredibly fake or trying to sell you on some idea of who/how they are, then it's a huge red flag. When people try to sell you on the idea they are something and not something else, it's a lie. "Oh I'm not like other guys" or "I'm not like other girls" is exactly what people who are just like them say. Hell even teenage me used to say I wasn't like other guys and worst part was I believed my own BS. I genuinely was different in some areas of interest and hobbies but at my core I was a horny teen wanting play like everyone else. So no, judge away... Go with your gut. Your gut tells you it's a bad idea? Go with it.
Yeah, abaolutely agree. No idea what got into the commenter on this one, nearly exclusively bad and passive aggressive takes. Seems like he _tries_ to find something to criticize.
not exclusive to first date, but being glued to her phone during a time you both planned to hang out
There are red flags and then there are pirate flags holy sh-
Ahoy, mate! Thar are no Pirates here, so please calm down 'n don't blow our cover!
I’ve been divorced about five years. The woman of a couple that my ex-wife and I knew through mutual friends ended up getting a divorce as well. This woman’s father is in a similar profession to myself and I’ve referred people to their office. She happens to be the office manager of her dads office. She is attractive and in her mid-forties. I am about 15 years her senior. We had had some brief phone contact due to the people I had sent to them for care. She had mentioned that we should try to meet for lunch one day. She lives about 90 minutes south of me, so it wasn’t like it was going to happen anytime soon. It happened that was going to be in the general area visiting my sister and I decided to reach out and see if this woman wanted to meet for lunch. She said yes.
The day arrived and we met at a nice restaurant for lunch. It was a beautiful day and we spent the first 15 or 20 minutes catching up with each other and what is going on in our lives since we last saw each other several years before. She told me that she had had bad luck, dating people, and couldn’t seem to find a gentleman that wanted to be serious with her and settle down. Initially, that was surprising to me because she is an attractive woman and is gainfully employed.
She wanted to know if I had children … I think she already knew I did not. She springboards into this conversation about having ten frozen embryos that she wants to use for in-vitro fertilization to get pregnant. She had them harvested before she was no longer ovulating.
I’m thinking to myself, this is a rather intimate conversation which I’m not sure we should be having but, hey, I let her talk. It’s amusing if nothing else. Every time I try to divert the conversation away from this subject she brings it back up. She talks a lot about wanting to be a mother… (She shared with me pictures of her niece and how much she loves her and spends time with her)… She highlights what a jerk her ex-husband was, not only because he didn’t want to have children with her.
Anyway, I finally realize that I’m there being interviewed for the position of sperm donor… possible future mate. I’m flattered and amused, but seriously laughing inside. I let this go on for quite some time because I am finding this all rather entertaining. I happen be a financially secure professional and realize I have a bit of a target on my back when it comes to some women’s motivation and modus operandi.
She finally asked me why I never had children. Well… the bubble was about to burst. I told her, because I never wanted children. In fact, I had had a vasectomy many years ago to prevent that from ever happening. The look on her face was priceless. Worth the 90 minute drive and cost of lunch! Talk about the Needle scratch across the record!
She somewhat hastily concluded lunch and we said our strained but cordial goodbye. Funny, we have not spoken since. Shocking, I know.
Brings up her bills on the first date
Wound up on a blind date as a favor to a colleague (can't call her a "friend" after this) who asked me to take her friend out and show her around (the friend had just moved to the area and didn't know anyone or what was around to do). Went to meet the mystery woman at her place, and when she answered the door she looked me up and down with the expression someone has when they realize they've stepped in something nasty.
Before I can even introduce myself, she speaks to me in an angry, growly tone. "Let's get a few things straight up front. First, I'm doing YOU a favor by going on this date, so YOU'RE paying for everything. No complaints, no bulls**t. Second, I don't need some guy making choices for me. I will be the one who decides where we go and what we do. If you've got a problem with that, get over it. Third, I don't care how much you spend, don't even THINK you're getting sex or anything else out of me. You so much as TOUCH me, I'll mace you and have you arrested for assaulting me. You got all that?"
I waited a moment, then said "first, I'm doing this as a favor for . You weren't doing me any favors even before you opened your mouth. Second, I expected to be paying tonight just to be nice. Third, I don't mind you having your own opinion, but you don't run me. Fourth, I was willing to let your attitude go up until you decided I was some pervert who couldn't keep my hands to myself. Have a good night."
I then turned around and walked away, pulling out my phone and calling my colleague and letting her know what happened. An hour later, she called me back to tell me her friend had called her and gave her a story about how I treated her like dirt and demanded sex from her before we even went anywhere. My colleague knew me better and called her on her BS before she could go on any further.
Needless to say, I never did another favor for my colleague.
I dated a woman in a LDR and she wouldn't want to swap phone numbers, pics or anything. I should've picked up on that, but I wanted to have someone to love. Long story short, she ended it by having her brother tell me ONLINE that SHE liked another guy. Fucking hell
.... no. Bringing a kid to the first date without any prior warning or ANYTHING is a HUGE red flag. sorry i hafta disagree with ya narrator. dude dodged the bullet, and he was nice enough to accommodate the situation by payin for her and the unexpected child before recusing himself. that's a good dude.
i never dated anyone before (or ever been in a relationship that goes further than just friends, bc im 12) but talking abt zodiac signs would definitely be the biggest red flag
As long as they don't seem to take it too seriously I'm fine. I've never actually truly believed in them but I did have a small "phase" where I bought a bunch of Pisces jewelry and liked to talk about it.
The only man who was into zodiac signs happened to be my supervisor. He promised me a position in his new civil engineering company in 6 months. Ok great, hopefully that means I'll get a raise soon. Well a few weeks later he starts talking about how every sagittarius he has ever met was batshit crazy. I then said I'm actually a sagittarius. He was just like oh. I said it to indicate that the zodiac stuff isn't a rule to judge people by. I thought he had got the message since he is a smart guy (i.e. licensed civil engineer).
Well he never followed up with that job he talked about. What would've been the first raise in a year ended up being 3 years without a raise. After that I was just like well it's been fun but I definitely feel my time would be better spent elsewhere.
Was my only taste of discrimination, a type I never even knew existed. Glad whatever the hell that was is over.
You are a little legend 😁👏
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Wise beyond your years
Bringing kids to a 1st date is dangerous! You're getting a feel and learning a person. Do that 1st, then maybe they can meet your kids 🤔. Listen to some of these other first dates and imagine having your child with you!
Kids is even worse when they expect you to pay not only getting a free meal themselves but for their kids as well sh1t and if you stay with them that is extra birthday/christmas presents you have to pay for so you a sugar daddy.
Wish I saw the red flags.
Now I’m gonna be a parent. Which wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t older than me and if I wasn’t 16…but here we are….
I don’t want to talk about it.
16? I think the police need to get involved with that case.
@@VainerCactus0 if they did, my parents would find out, and I really don’t think I’d like to be around when that happens.
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@@liamisresponsible they're gonna find out anyway when the kid is born and she's asking for child support.
Raise the child as best you can
So my red flags are: When a woman only has one issue. The pet. Your whole life revolves around the pet. She puts sweaters on her dog, carries him around, treats the animal like her child. Mega Creepy.
When a woman doesn't want you to use contraception. No joke, I know women who go around looking for a naive man, let him get them pregnant and live on child support and the sympathy of others that she has it so hard as a single mother. One I know already has 5 children and the youth welfare office has already taken 3 of them away from her because she has no desire to take care of the children.
Women who actually speak my language, but I still don't understand because they talk in such a strange internet slang. There are people who speak like they write comments on instagram.
Women who only talk about their exes and how great they were. I HATE THAT!
Women who think men are only there to ensure the woman's livelihood. not only that, but giving her a life of luxury. There is no woman more attractive than one who makes her own living.
Women who know more Tiktokers than authors.
Women who try to hide the fact that they have children for as long as possible.
Women who keep complaining about the same problems and if you offer them a solution they just look stupid. some women don't want solutions, they just want to cry for a little sympathy and attention. And that's particularly difficult for me: I'm solution-oriented, not problem-oriented. I'm looking for the ladder instead of complaining that the wall is in the way.
Women who end their relationships and start them like there's no tomorrow. Three new guys every week.
women who only want my body.
19:19 You are wrong he is not a bad person for not wanting to date a person with a kid and being blunt is a good thing
On our first date, I will carve our names into a tree. It is the most romantic way to show you that I HAVE A KNIFE 😁
Yay- let's compare knives lol
Wasn't even a date, we were at a middle school football game as friends and she was already acting like second or third date (clinging, laying on my lap, etc). Still went out with her for a couple months but she ended it and now I'm dating a much better person
Being really touchy feely early on doesn't seem like much of a red flag if youd be friends for abit prior to going to this game
@@charliebaker1427 no we'd been friends for like a week when she asked me, very last-minute, to go to this game with her
Y'all are in middle school, she doesn't know how to act and frankly neither do you as you are both so young and inexperienced. Not particularly a red flag, just something that made you uncomfortable.
Clinginess is definitely a red flag if the forced cuddles, hand holding, and hugging are CONSTANT. I had a high school boyfriend who did this, and when I broke it off with him at the end of that year he stalked me. It got really scary really quickly.
The way this guy says "Wonderful Day" brings happiness in my life
Not even a first date but we were classmates in Uni. I take her to her home and makes me meet his sister. We chitchat some and then they tell me they'd killed a man before. Never talked to her again in class and I drop out like two weeks later because of my job. Thank god I even move out of my city some years later and never had see them again.
18:43 now I just want to hear more about Craig. He seems like the most interesting character in this thread XD
#21 As a former Army wife, my husband retired, I've met soooo many women like this and I can, with ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY tell you that most soldiers are young enough to fall for her shit. She most likely found a soldier not long after this guy walked away, probably got intentionally pregnant on that one-night-stand and they were married for the benefits. Probably divorced now, too. Again, I have seen it so many times, it's practically paint by numbers.
If I got that text message, I'd screen shot it and put it online. "Testing" is so disrespectful.
Posting text messages online is cringe amd immature
@@planetphatness And "testing" isn't? That's basically messing with someone's own emotions because of your own insecurity. Someone who cares about you no doubt.
"r/suddenlyincest"
I laughed at that one.
subject is red flags, plays sea of thieves, now this is genius.
If a guy tells her he dumped his girlfriend for her and she's still all for it. That just screams "trashy".
Yes, that happened to me. He begged me for a second chance and then less than a week later told me he "felt a spark" after talking with a coworker *for the first time*. Red flags all around. They're still together and describe their relationship as "complicated".
1st date wasnt the norm, we went to her friends party got drunk (im not a big drinker i just do for occasions, that for me barely occured) somehow one thing led to another fueled by beer and safe to say thankfully im not a father yet.. i was 18 at the time she was 16 (in my country 16 is legal age for those who must know)
When they say that All of her exs are crazy and abusive. Your the common denominator!
I'm just happy to be single and uninterested in dating/relationships.
#26…he dodged a bullet. No one with a kid should be bringing that kid around someone on a first date…like how do you know that person isn’t a kiddie diddler? You gotta vet who you’re seeing before bringing your child around and meeting them…she is probably a terrible mom…I can tell how that kind of single mom parents.
I too, now want to try eating cheesecake and steak at the same time.
I'm certain that the waiter will give me a weird look, but after I explain myself, I'm certain that they'll understand that weird things must happen, in the pursuit of science.
It taste bittersweet. Already taste it. If you cant then go for a cheaper version: Buy a pringles chip can and a chocolate milkshake. Then dip a chip in the chosolate milk and eat it.
19:45 sounds like she wants to eventually hack into your email and social media later, those are all questions they ask you when youve forgotten your PWs
Man that must be irritating to be dating someone who never shuts up constantly bitching about their ex,s. Like my gf and I had the conversation on our ex,s like two times and it was just so we could learn about our past. Never brought them up since cause we’ve moved on from the past.
If there's any kind of "mixed signals" going on, I just say no, give me straight fucking answers, do not expect me to do anything regarding so-called "hints".
Never been on a date but I can see the red flag in girls-
6:06 that blooper is golden
It's a good video but you NEED to make pauses between the stories or say that you are moving to the next story. Without looking at the video it's impossible to tell when one story ends and the other begins.
That guy who said the poster was the problem for not liking a girl that shows up to the date with her child that he didn't even know she had might be one of the dumbest people on this planet. The kid should've been disclosed already, its an added level of responsibility that a lot of people don't want, and rightfully and understably so. Many people wouldntve had a problem with it but now those people don't like you because you're willing to lie about serious topics. And on top of that, never bring the kid to the date, that isn't a date anymore, it's babysitting over dinner.
just answer: Lets pay each other's meals lol
@Esh i wouldnt rob anything with someone i dont know.
She tells you to meet her at a bar, which you realize once there its a gay bar. Shes 45 minutes late cuz she left to get party favors. Brings her guyfriend with her who standoffishly scoffs at you and doesnt say a single word all night, AAAND they speak in a MADE UP sign language together. Then find out shes a dominatrix, her guy friend is likely in some kinda dom/sub aggreement and she has to leave early to go untie a client at his apartment that she left there for SEVERAL HOURS!
(Honestly wish i was creative enough of a person to make up a story like this, luckily my love life assures me ill never need to.)
I am a self-identified radical lesbian feminist who takes no shit from men and so on and so forth and I'm here to say: never have anything to do with a girl who is rude when you open the door for her. Ain't nobody got time for that.
A pet peeve of mine. I hold the door open for whoever happens to be behind me regardless of gender. It's called being a decent human being.
19:41 so lying about something as big as having a kid is perfectly fine? You think she'll never lie about anything ever again despite lying about something massive?
Love the narrator putting their two cents in, it's refreshing
He raised some male feminist flags man he needs to keep his trap shut with his shitty 2cents or the channel can get a real narrator.
I wanted to add a story to this just for kicks. So first off it wasn't really a date more of a "it's late and nowhere is open but we still wanna meet up" because the chemistry over the phone was great and she only lived a couple minutes up the road luckily. Well I decide sure I'll swing over there a little past midnight and get to know her cuz why not, and when I get there the first three red flags were 1) her mattress was on the floor of the living room 2)ashtray on the mattress because yeah she smoked inside 3) when I heard creaking and sounds and jokingly said "this house really likes to settle in huh" and she without missing a beat replied "oh no, that's just the rats". IMMEDIATELY I'm trying to formulate a plan to get out of there without hurting her feelings, ended up kinda being stuck watching movies til she fell asleep, at this point the lights in the house were all off and the rats were out IN THE OPEN FLOOR OF THE KITCHEN 10 FEET AWAY, literally one of them knocked a box of cheez-its off the counter at which point I just got up and left asap. Genuinely one of the most jarring situations I've caught myself dealing with
Biggest red-flag? Having a loyalty card to an abortion clinic: _"15th procedure is on us!"_
"Oh yeah, I come with this." Lmao
Trying to be aggressive towards her friends when she’s around you
If she does she is not a true gal of that friend group
REMOVE❗️
Not in all cases tho because me and my friends are always aggressive with each other but it’s not to “impress” our crushes or to seem tough that’s just the way we show our love but yea even if someone does do that to impress that’s doesn’t automatically mean their fake they just want attention which isn’t bad in some cases but I see where your going.
@@Kaylan-hx3uu I am the same way with my friends (Even tho they don’t like me at all) but some girls at my school do this to their friends but aren’t joking (As a girl I know when they are playing and when they aren’t)
I went out for coffee with a guy I met online and within the first 20 minutes of us meeting he just offhandedly mentioned he had 2 duis and his license was suspended. Huge red flag.
5 - Short answers (run)
4 - Pay more atention to cellphone than you (run)
3 - Tattoos over all body and piercings (run)
2 - Does not know who's the father os her kid(s) (really?)
1 - Feminist (you shouldn't even talk to her, dude)
Had a gal on a club outing with potluck picnic, get angry with me and refused to speak to me. Had no clue what offended her. She told me to figure it out. Found out later I didn't pick up somebody else's paper plate and throw it away because it attracted a couple of yellow jackets. Found out later her parents fought light that. Not something I wanted in my life, so that was the end of that. A gal practicing torturing a guy is a deal breaker. Her mom and dad managed to stay together. I managed to find someone with better manners. Last I heard she never married.
because she wanted a slave.
Once I went to a bar with this girl in a more quiet part of town she recommended, the drink hit very fast and i don't remember anything, until i woke up in this bathtub full of ice with a scar in the side of my belly, she wasn't anywhere near me, no one was actually
Not surprisingly i never called her on a second date
Do you know what happened to you? Like did she steal an organ or something?
@@fabuloso4518 Is probably a joke little one, Do not fear