If You Are Over 60, Here's Who You Shouldn't Live With - BUDDHIST LESSONS FOR LIFE

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024
  • “Living is not just a skill, it’s an art. But growing old is a real mastery,” as an old friend of mine, a monk from a remote monastery in the mountains of Tibet, used to say. This wisdom has sunk deeper into my heart over time. When you’re over sixty, life is no longer about the rush that accompanied you in your youth. It’s not just how you live now, but with whom you live.
    Let me ask you a question. Have you ever wondered why, after a certain age, our relationships with people can become a heavy burden? Some people live with their family - husband, children, maybe even grandchildren. And some with friends or alone. It would seem that this should be simple, but in reality… it feels different.
    Life, like the house we build around ourselves, depends on who we let into our personal space. And so, if you’re over sixty, there are certain types of people with whom you definitely shouldn’t share a roof. They drain your energy, make you unhealthy and, worse, make you a hostage to their problems and fears.
    If You Are Over 60, Here's Who You Shouldn't Live With - BUDDHIST LESSONS FOR LIFE

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  • @angelaarjoon5377
    @angelaarjoon5377 Месяц назад +71

    I am 72 I have a very active life , my grown children still lives with me and they are a great blessing, always encouraging me to try new things. I think I am one of the lucky ones

    • @patriciajones5528
      @patriciajones5528 11 дней назад +4

      I too am blessed to have adult children who treats me well have their own homes. I'm living my best life with no regrets.

    • @mangohangover5936
      @mangohangover5936 11 дней назад +5

      Grateful children who live with their grandparents respect & treat them very well are God sent .Also adults who care for their parents in their golden years are the best second
      generations there is !!!😂❤ Jora

    • @mangohangover5936
      @mangohangover5936 11 дней назад +4

      My wife & I are past 75 years of age; but my 39 yr. old son, he is a nurse, still enjoy living w/ us. This is super existence
      as senior citizens here in America with an old fashion mentality offspring !!!❤😊
      Jora

    • @mangohangover5936
      @mangohangover5936 11 дней назад +3

      There are still old fashion Americans ,with old fashion culture & they take care of their old folks in their golden years! I give them my big salute & praise !!!❤😊
      Jora

    • @mangohangover5936
      @mangohangover5936 11 дней назад +3

      Some are not very lucky..
      😂

  • @carmelitaparaan3863
    @carmelitaparaan3863 26 дней назад +26

    Thank God. I'm so glad I am living my life for
    ME and very satisfied with it. I maybe alone but definitely not lonely.

  • @toniclark3512
    @toniclark3512 25 дней назад +24

    Well said!!! Raised my daughter, helped raise my Grandbabies and still helping,
    lost my hubby to sudden death , after being together 40 years, it will be 1 year in a few months since he has been gone , griveing has made me stronger , with a lot of self improvement, i am retired at 66, now !!! it is my time to live what life i have here on this earth do exactly what I want too, God is good as I continue walking and following his direction on this new Journey !!! Peace Everyone!

  • @gob8399
    @gob8399 13 дней назад +17

    My kids are not "somebody else" and if I can help them somehow I will always do it.

  • @ZenTeachingsDaily
    @ZenTeachingsDaily Месяц назад +29

    To the beautiful souls here, may your life be filled with purpose, happiness, and peace. Sending you blessings of success! 💫

    • @eleanorreyes512
      @eleanorreyes512 18 дней назад

      Amen. Thank you. I wish you the same. 🙏 🤲🏻 ❤

  • @Eleanor-ec8qp
    @Eleanor-ec8qp Месяц назад +35

    I’m 77years young and I’m having a good life I’m enjoying good health enjoy my freedom I’ve finally distant myself from my adult children I miss them and my grandchildren who live in another country from me life can be lonely here in the winter in Ireland but I always make walking a priority having a car gives me freedom to travel to places that I like to visit and I always find nice people to talk with I avoid senior citizen activities because I don’t find interacting with people who only talk about their health and grandchildren I love younger people and children and I chat to them about their interesting lives

    • @Katrn30
      @Katrn30 Месяц назад +1

      By the tone of your comment, it is best you avoid people…I’m sure you are insufferable to be around for any length of time. At your age it is probably too late, but I find a sense of humour serves a person well.

    • @araucana1976
      @araucana1976 14 дней назад +1

      I congratulate you! I feel the same way about illness and grandchildren conversations. Keep up the good work! And keep enjoying your life, your good health and your beautiful island! Love you!

    • @araucana1976
      @araucana1976 14 дней назад +2

      @@Katrn30insuferrable? You are Not serious right?

    • @Katrn30
      @Katrn30 13 дней назад

      @@araucana1976 totally serious…you sound like a jerk.

    • @ofrasharon1241
      @ofrasharon1241 8 дней назад

      @@Katrn30 What is wrong with you? Didn't your mother tell you that unless you have something nice to say, say nothing? I think Eleanor is amazing. She knows exactly who she is, and what she needs in her life. I have never joined any senior groups, either, and never will. I also do not depend on my grown kids, and they can not depend on me, or take me for granted. I am done raising them. I have a life, and I deserve to do what makes me happy. I think Eleanor feels the same.

  • @emilycapistrano7556
    @emilycapistrano7556 7 дней назад +2

    I am 83, living with my daughter and her family is a blessing,grateful for their caring and thoughtfulness, cant hear any complain, my son in law is a blessing to consider him my best friend, so thankful to God for all the blessings.
    God bless us all.❤❤❤

  • @BubuMary-gq7gf
    @BubuMary-gq7gf 16 дней назад +5

    Thankyou for that very encouraging and powerful teaching that I enjoyed listening to, I am 63 now and that helps me.

  • @ageeibc6029
    @ageeibc6029 26 дней назад +7

    Know one thing. Physically we all have slowed down, but church life remains the same, for He is ever NEW. Thank God for this life. Enjoy every minute of it. Amen.

  • @SeniorwisdomUk
    @SeniorwisdomUk 23 дня назад +5

    🙌 This video is spot on! I'm over 60 and I wish I had heard this advice years ago. It's so important to surround yourself with positive and supportive people as you get older. 🙏 Thanks for sharing this wisdom! 💖

  • @CultivatingTheMind
    @CultivatingTheMind 17 дней назад +5

    I wish everyone who reads the comments after watching this meaningful video always peace, happiness and success!❤❤

  • @phoenixd9679
    @phoenixd9679 24 дня назад +4

    I am 66 years old and I am same as Natalia !!! 🙏💕 thank God I found this video I need more encouragement to make the step I am trying to make for a long time…

  • @mimi10630
    @mimi10630 14 дней назад +16

    Thank you for your help, this is my story. I'm living with my daughter... It's not what I wanted, but circumstances had made me make that decision. I'm not happy with my live , sick and depending on my daughter was not my plan for my elderly years.
    She is a single mom with a 13 years old . She divorced her husband because a bipolar condition , it was a nightmare living together.. She works hard and have to travel a lot. I'm the one who stay at home and take care of my grandson and the dog. I'm on charge of running the house practically. I have some time for myself to watch my programs f I have time, but that's about it. She travels a lot!! My grandson is sweet to me but being a teenager , his live is after going to school, chatting with friends or playing online. My daughter is always complaining about everything and I'm sick just to hearing her yelling at her son or yelling at me. I don't have an alternative, because I have no money to rent an apartment. And I love my grandson, who is going to take care of him ???

    • @cherylmontcrief7600
      @cherylmontcrief7600 11 дней назад +1

      Pour love on your daughter n she will change. Continue to live with hwe. Place some indoor plants in your home.

    • @rosannaburgess714
      @rosannaburgess714 11 дней назад +4

      😮Prayer helps! Try it. Your daughter may be frustrated with work or the boss maybe expecting more of her, talk to your daughter and ask her why she is always yelling at her son and you when she is home, something is bothering her. Talk! Talk! Talk and then more talk!😇🙏🙏🙏❤

    • @mimi10630
      @mimi10630 10 дней назад

      @rosannaburgess714 Thank you! ❤️

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 8 дней назад

      Her yelling seems she's frustrated taking care of the son and you living there.

    • @marshamcdonald7618
      @marshamcdonald7618 8 дней назад

      She is yelling because she is tired - maybe working at her job requires her to work 12-14
      Hours with no breaks for lunch
      Etc. Then she has no energy to show you love or her son love. She maybe unaware she
      Even yelling. I am sure she appreciates and loves you and her son . Is her job demanding . Pray and ask God to help you with this issue.
      Than you for your wonderful love you have for her your daughter, your grandson.
      Such a wonderful family.
      God Bless you and bring you
      All peace.

  • @SeetaBasdeo
    @SeetaBasdeo 10 дней назад +3

    That's what happens to me thank you for reminding me 🙏

  • @florencebowden3980
    @florencebowden3980 19 дней назад +7

    ❤@Peace with myself & the World around ME!!!!

  • @robertb.seddon1687
    @robertb.seddon1687 9 дней назад +1

    Mediation, exercise, and being alone are blessings. Help by pointing these centering practices and the exit😊

  • @nomhlenodwele9047
    @nomhlenodwele9047 18 дней назад +5

    You made my day, thank you.

  • @parvinbonabi6374
    @parvinbonabi6374 6 часов назад

    You said things right to the points Tks

  • @rakeshkhurana-n3r
    @rakeshkhurana-n3r 17 дней назад +2

    Motivational and real experience of life after 60.. very well explained..few have courage to bring out the real facts of life.. nicely put into words.. keep motivating.👌👌

  • @NancyNiemeyer
    @NancyNiemeyer 10 дней назад +3

    Very good tips ❤

  • @da5449
    @da5449 28 дней назад +6

    Beautiful...thanks for your video ❤

  • @priscillaalvarado930
    @priscillaalvarado930 17 дней назад +3

    Thank you for a reminder.

  • @LucyYoung-n3j
    @LucyYoung-n3j 7 дней назад +1

    ❤😊 thanks for sharing your words of wisdom good to know

  • @massimo625
    @massimo625 12 дней назад +1

    Thank you, for your video.
    - fellow Buddhist 😊

  • @herminigildaampongol7831
    @herminigildaampongol7831 7 дней назад +1

    I am 78 retired public sch, Teacher. Its my RULE to my 3kids in der High sch years that if THEY GET married THEY will be OUT and LIVE a LIFE of Der OWN thats AN ORDER.!!! Now I am ALONE,BUSY in MY CHURCH Works. PRIVACY makes me HAPPY. SILENCE & SOLITUDE with GOD.Amen

  • @PhilosophysLight
    @PhilosophysLight 12 дней назад +2

    Thanks channel, the sharing is very useful, we would like to learn and spread

  • @roseplatt9397
    @roseplatt9397 12 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this great advise... A lesson to learn too 😊

  • @alalice7484
    @alalice7484 21 день назад +5

    Awesome video 👍🙏💖

  • @dinaldedefaria8806
    @dinaldedefaria8806 5 дней назад +1

    I'm 66 very healty and happy no drugs, no drogas im always looking for something new, no one Telles me what to do

  • @angelamanning3616
    @angelamanning3616 Месяц назад +15

    I am nearly 70 and have raised seven children. Everything you say has resonated with me. The problem is that after all these years, now I have the freedom to do what I want and go where where I want I just don’t know where to start 😢

    • @Harmony-f3i
      @Harmony-f3i Месяц назад +2

      Hi Angela, hope you are OK. Do you need a professor to support you in what you want to acheive? Please see your GP and request to see a Psychologist or a Social Worker who may be able to help you find out about clubs and network groups to meet new people but also they can help you plan other things.

    • @girijaganesh6335
      @girijaganesh6335 Месяц назад +2

      Better late than never,go ahead & start off...

    • @KittyQueenMeow
      @KittyQueenMeow 19 дней назад +3

      Baby steps…👣
      Sometimes being on your own with your own thoughts can be uncomfortable, but don’t fight the discomfort, sit with it for a while, let it be a more familiar feeling.
      Maybe go out for a meandering walk by yourself at a nearby park for the sole purpose of being alone with your thoughts? You can set a time limit.
      After a few times, your thoughts might solidify to a few ideas on what you might like to try out in this new phase of your life.
      Whatever you decide upon, give it time like 3-6 months because they are new to you and you are out of your comfort zone. And remember, you are allowed to change your mind 😊

    • @jeanthomson2720
      @jeanthomson2720 19 дней назад

      Very good advice. One love jean

    • @ofrasharon1241
      @ofrasharon1241 8 дней назад

      @@Harmony-f3i She doesn't need a professor or a psychologist, or a PG or a social worker! Every church, or senior center, have social clubs. They are all online! Good luck, Angela.

  • @RayTee-p3x
    @RayTee-p3x 11 дней назад

    Thank you very much for sharing ❤❤❤

  • @ginagalvez258
    @ginagalvez258 13 дней назад +2

    I am 65 and have my 95 and 94 year old parents living with my husband and I. I love thrm but I work so much even though they have their caretakers. They pull all my energy with their illnesses and demencial behavior. My husband and I are exhausted and we have an unhappy relation now. I suffer of cronic pain and three autoimune diseases.My sisters live in Canada and deal with her own problems...my parents are not their concern. I manage my parents money and everyday lives. My husband and I have started to travel to see our medical doctor in Boston more often. We have started to think to live with he and his wife, we are very lonely people socially partly because we have been taking carevmy parens for 8 years. I can not see myself living with my husband. He has developed an explosive character...I an at a point of burn out but I dont want to give my own problem to my only child!! 22:43 hild

    • @lindahasko7252
      @lindahasko7252 4 дня назад

      That’s tough gin. I hope you can find some peace. It’s important for you to take care of yourself and have some time for yourself too.

  • @bernadettekelly8165
    @bernadettekelly8165 28 дней назад +2

    Thank you ❤ Amen 🙏

  • @josephinepaner5565
    @josephinepaner5565 25 дней назад +2

    Thank you so much for all of this ❤️🙏 for reminding things that are totally resonating my life i do love what you've said 😊

  • @elmarealtor
    @elmarealtor 16 дней назад +2

    Good video thanks.

  • @TheLongLifeLab
    @TheLongLifeLab 16 дней назад +2

    very good

  • @odewolenoyinmot2639
    @odewolenoyinmot2639 День назад

    Thanks

  • @Eric-zk2hu
    @Eric-zk2hu 13 дней назад +7

    I am 66 and I must say 60+ is not elderly. 60 is the new 40😊😊.

    • @ofrasharon1241
      @ofrasharon1241 8 дней назад

      I agree! I am almost 77, and I don't feel old at all. At least not yet! I do everything I have done my whole adult life, maybe a bit slower. I am on my own, and enjoy my life more than ever. 60 is quite young, but you must take care of yourself, by not smoking, or drinking, or overeating, or sitting too much. Engaging in physical activities, having a rich social life, eating nutritious food, getting enough sleep, living a stress free life, getting rid of toxic people, and having a positive outlook at life is a key to a healthy aging.

  • @khandsurenavirmed1055
    @khandsurenavirmed1055 11 дней назад +1

    Thanks. 🤓😇💖

  • @phuocle4113
    @phuocle4113 Месяц назад +5

    Moving on is the biggest mistake when you become older !!!

    • @ofrasharon1241
      @ofrasharon1241 8 дней назад

      How so? Moving on is the best advice. Life is all about changes. Find something you like to do, and go for it. Have fun!

  • @CristinaMicheletti-j7k
    @CristinaMicheletti-j7k Месяц назад +5

    Annoing the slow movement of the picture

  • @TerriHines-i4i
    @TerriHines-i4i Месяц назад +6

    Amen

  • @patricag.jeffery8343
    @patricag.jeffery8343 10 дней назад +4

    I truly understand I'm 68 and really trying to get my husband to understand so much we can do at this age our children are grown and don't depend on us we can do so much after our sacrifice with our children they are grown ❤😅

  • @fawnforest2
    @fawnforest2 5 дней назад +2

    You are not elderly until 80

  • @VinyRossi-t4i
    @VinyRossi-t4i 12 дней назад +1

    Very advise

  • @florencebowden3980
    @florencebowden3980 19 дней назад

    ❤ZTY for this message, U pretty n red..Peace & Love...🫶😤🙏🙏🩵✌️💪

  • @Aiyo-u5k
    @Aiyo-u5k 11 дней назад +5

    Whether you are 60 or over, don’t live with a husband who throws tantrums! 😅

  • @fredbigornia1814
    @fredbigornia1814 7 дней назад

    I am 68 and living with elderly Sister and Brother In law and their Son, A toxic dysfunctional family, a complainer, clingy, cringy, complainer, posessive, religious but sinners. Psychic Vampires who suck my energy, we dont see eye to eye..😢😔.

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 6 дней назад +1

    Always have no in your vocabulary. When u get up in age, and may not have family, where u r retired, u can be put, in a vulnerable position. If a manipulative person comes along, and asks u for money, soda, chips, more than once, in a month, dont let them in your house. They want to use u

  • @rosehenninger1594
    @rosehenninger1594 11 дней назад +1

    I am happy with my cats.

  • @johnf153
    @johnf153 4 дня назад +1

    The woman at time 1:08 has six fingers on her right hand. Does anyone else see this?

  • @odewolenoyinmot2639
    @odewolenoyinmot2639 День назад

    Thanks for your advice please l too need club to go to ginger my body

  • @norbuyangzom8091
    @norbuyangzom8091 5 дней назад

    If u have a chronic pain its a struggle not feeling young anymore

  • @StarCrystal9
    @StarCrystal9 19 дней назад +3

    Is there really such a nun's outfit in tibet? I visited there couple of dozens times and never met any religious women as you are displaying here.

  • @JasmineHylton
    @JasmineHylton 29 дней назад +2

    It's good 🎉

  • @allardvanderstarre
    @allardvanderstarre 18 дней назад

    actualy i feel drained, tired, worn out; dealt with a controller, frankly the guy was an idiot with a lot of watches...needless to say it clashed

  • @raymondsmith8615
    @raymondsmith8615 19 дней назад +1

    That beautiful old Asian lady made me finish the video too bad she’s not real

    • @torpedohost
      @torpedohost 18 дней назад

      your wrong for this lmao

  • @kava2021
    @kava2021 16 дней назад +3

    I’m trying to take your video seriously but really? Elderly women with bodies of 20 year old?

    • @phucbinh4561
      @phucbinh4561 12 дней назад

      Agree. 2 assumptions
      ChatGPT4. Or good photoshop tools
      She has a good plastic procedures
      However, it does make people feel “want to be”.

  • @ileanacolon7165
    @ileanacolon7165 8 дней назад

    Exactly, I don't play house,:is called fornication,, as far as living with a lover, it would have to be a husband!!!!!!

  • @rosehenninger1594
    @rosehenninger1594 11 дней назад

    I can say, you're an adult now.

  • @TarlokNarula
    @TarlokNarula 17 дней назад

    Am all ear

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    @wiselessonsforlife  Месяц назад +2

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  • @MasterMetaphysician
    @MasterMetaphysician 12 дней назад

    Marriage of 59 years with complainer!!!

  • @eleanorreyes512
    @eleanorreyes512 18 дней назад +2

    LUV THIS❤❤❤SO TRUE ❤

  • @williamlouie569
    @williamlouie569 8 дней назад

    Sick people! The whiners!

  • @kimberlybegonia2869
    @kimberlybegonia2869 3 дня назад

    You lost me at the intimacy talk. No thx