Story 1: People who hold blood and accidents of birth too highly need to get with the program and accept that family is... who you are close to. Related or not. And OP's biodad was much less family than many birth parents in stories I've heard. Or the one I've lived. At least my dad tried, even if he didn't know parenting from a pomegranate. OP's biodad didn't put effort into anything in his entire life from the sounds of it. His stepdad on the other hand? Legend.
Pretty sure Tony knows it was you. He's not guilty, you're a cyber security expert and your sister broke it off right after his arrest. If he was that much of an asset to your company, he's smart enough to connect the dots.
Abuse does that to abuse victims. You normalize the abuse, and its absence becomes unsettling, until you can start properly untangling things. So, you are very much victim shaming.
There is rarely physical abuse without a psychological component. The physical abuse itself can destroy a person's self confidence and self worth. The fear that you can't make it on your own, with a kid especially, is very real. The thought that if you can't "even stop from doing things that upset [the abuser], how can I possibly take care of myself and my kid on my own" is a real thought that takes root. That is why it is often only when the kids start getting hurt that some can break free, as it creates a situation that "even if I can't provide everything, at least I know *I* won't physically harm my kid...and that is better than this current situation". The psychological toll of abuse cannot be overstated.
Stockholm syndrome is common in abuse scenarios. Especially because the abusers usually make sure to isolate tge victim so they are completely dependent on them and easier to keep supportive people at a distance.
Story 1: PROPS to stepdad.
Story 1: People who hold blood and accidents of birth too highly need to get with the program and accept that family is... who you are close to. Related or not. And OP's biodad was much less family than many birth parents in stories I've heard. Or the one I've lived. At least my dad tried, even if he didn't know parenting from a pomegranate. OP's biodad didn't put effort into anything in his entire life from the sounds of it.
His stepdad on the other hand? Legend.
Pretty sure Tony knows it was you. He's not guilty, you're a cyber security expert and your sister broke it off right after his arrest. If he was that much of an asset to your company, he's smart enough to connect the dots.
Its more than likely fake
Story two You are a psychopath or sociopath and you have an unnatural attachment to your sister. This is so dark and fucked up.
Have a good Sunday Steven
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I like your words magic man
Look... i dont want to victim shame anyone.... but OP mother in story 1has a soft head.
Abuse does that to abuse victims. You normalize the abuse, and its absence becomes unsettling, until you can start properly untangling things.
So, you are very much victim shaming.
There is rarely physical abuse without a psychological component. The physical abuse itself can destroy a person's self confidence and self worth. The fear that you can't make it on your own, with a kid especially, is very real. The thought that if you can't "even stop from doing things that upset [the abuser], how can I possibly take care of myself and my kid on my own" is a real thought that takes root. That is why it is often only when the kids start getting hurt that some can break free, as it creates a situation that "even if I can't provide everything, at least I know *I* won't physically harm my kid...and that is better than this current situation".
The psychological toll of abuse cannot be overstated.
Stockholm syndrome is common in abuse scenarios. Especially because the abusers usually make sure to isolate tge victim so they are completely dependent on them and easier to keep supportive people at a distance.